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ultimately i'm sure there's trans girls out there who do have a genuinely unhealthy and paranoid absolutist view of the world, i can grant that. but if you're going to call yourself a transfeminist i think you have to respond to those girls with compassion for whatever has traumatised them into those maladaptive worldviews instead of epically dunking on them for Content

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uh hey that person you just reblogged from used to be in our discord server but we had to kick them out because they admitted to watching t*m and j*rry... that show features violence and as such glorifies it.... when we confronted them all they said was "wtf its a show about a cat and a mouse"... if you dont believe me theres a whole callout post that features their name age and street address so you can go to their house and check... anyways you should unfollow them before people start thinking you like problematic media too :/ just trying to help

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sleepy crow girl vibes

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i hate when everyone talking about a risky thing is just flatly saying "dont do it" instead of giving any information on how to do it more safely. im still gonna fucking do it, asshole

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i cant fucking believe liberal desperation is making me feel bad for yankee tran geners

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i read this as a quest, like

❗️Top 10 Tumblr Mutuals who you crave a situationship with [0/10]

top 10 tumblr mutuals to crave a situationship with

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timeline:

- Trump signs unpopular order banning TikTok for being Chinese

- Democrats support the ban because people are supporting a ceasefire on TikTok

- Netanyahu sides with Trump despite Biden’s ass kissing and collaborates with him to delay ceasefire talks

- Dems lose in a landslide because of their deeply unpopular positions

- Trump takes credit for the ceasefire and for TikTok getting unbanned

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the great thing about preserving kink as part of pride is that it’s the one thing that rainbow capitalism can never touch. I sincerely doubt that you’ll ever see Arby’s tweeting about forcefem anytime soon.

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i wish it was less complicated to talk about the ways in which people preferentially support transfems who present or talk about themselves in similar ways as before transition but there’s so many layers it’s just a pain and everyone else tunes it out. julia serano wrote that it’s often the case for tomboyish, masculine, or butchy trans women to be preferred and sought after over feminine trans women (notice how neutral isn’t an option for us? Ha-ha.) in lesbian and queer spaces, but i don’t think this is a whole truth; trans women who are very feminine are often othered and pushed away, but at the same time, the “support” for the masculine or boy-identified transfems is also highly circumstantial and fairweather. many perceived markers of masculinity, or absences of femininity, still bring transmisogynistic punishment and othering on these women.

in reality, i think what is really happening here is an unspoken, perhaps sometimes even unconscious bias against transfeminine transition. people who aren’t transfem, and often especially other trans people, are uncomfortable and afraid of the hybridity implied by people they thought were men blooming and changing and taking on aspects they didnt think possible. they don’t know what to do with the anomaly that calls the legitimacy of the binaries and gender systems into question through her active living, and so they want them to stop or to couch it within a context of preserved masculinity, manifesting as this “preference”. it’s a subliminated desire against transition rather than an enjoyment of masculine women, a shoring up of gendered walls to defend what manhood they hope remains, and sometimes it’s directly for detransition.

this is why you see people clamor about how attractive trans women with cropped short hair and undercuts are when a girl muses about how long her hair is getting. why you see people say that trans women who get laser hair removal are supporting gender norms, but at the same time misgender and hate on trans women with thick unshaven body hair. it’s why they love to see you joke about how bad of a man you make, but are put off and disturbed when you try to be taken seriously as anything else. even if they don’t word it or see it as such, a lot of people just genuinely only want transfems in their life to stay as hollow, subservient husks of boyhood for their enjoyment or political tokenization

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If you wanna see the hot emo tgirl selfies you need to accept that there’s a solid 18+ months before that point where she’s kinda mid and you gotta cheer her on regardless

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I think a big reason why "children are an oppressed group" gets (wrongly!) read as a "pedophile talking point" is that everyone treats children so terribly that actual child molesters can speedrun winning a kid's trust by like, actually respecting their needs and perspective, at least at first. Which means that the only way out of this mess is for all of us adults to treat children with respect, so that abusers can't use the rareness of that respect as a weapon.

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Kind of can't believe I have to say this but "they let trans men into The Michigan Womyn's Music Festival" is not actually proof that MichFest / its attendants "aren't transphobic". In the exact same way that like a survey that says a bunch of cis lesbians would fuck trans men isn't actually proof that those cis lesbians "aren't transphobic"

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Oh brotherrrrrrrrrrrr