#its pronouns

[vee-lociraptor]

thinking about trying a thing but idk

[thegirlmirage]

My beloved Queers I have come again to implore you of another frontier of Queer Rights. Remember first that our unity, compassion and solidarity are invaluable.

I want to speak about those among us who identify with it pronouns, or otherwise experience a need to identify in non-human, non-species, or even non-object ways.

To me this is a very interesting facet of humanity that I know so little about, but what has surprised me in many of the conversations I'm often seeing is fellow Queers treating these people with the same ostracization I've seen used on us for other things, such as being gay or trans in the way I am.

We do not gain rights by suppressing others. Rather we should feel that seeing these unique an atypical identifiers being used, as a blessing that our tolerance has made a space for.

And we must keep making that space.

I managed to turn a friend around on this instantly and the crux of what I was saying amounted to: "Why is it right for us to ask for rights and acceptance and not for them? If they are not hurting anyone (and they are not) how can it be wrong? We will often as people have to face our own discomfort about new ideas and put it aside to do the right thing, to be tolerant and accepting people. It is not just our duty as Queers, it is our duty as people, it is our duty as thinkers and feelers.

If you are struggling to comprehend this, simply cast yourself in the same place. Think about how you want to be regarded and identified and how important that is.

I think that so much discomfort about this comes from the fear of bigots casting us together. But we are not defined by bigotry. We are together. We are together because we choose to do the right thing. To be accepting. To be tolerant. To be patient and understanding.

This is a duty I expect and trust you to all take close to your hearts as I will.

[thearksys]

see me and my it’s/it’s crew walking down the streets call us thing 1 and thing 2

[sad-klown-syndrome]

*grabs your hands and speaks to you in a tone that is so gentle* they/them pronouns stop being universal once you learn a person's pronouns. Sometimes that person's pronouns will include they/them and in that specific case you are allowed to keep using those pronouns for that person. In any case where you learn a persons pronouns and that person doesn't use they/them, you should no longer use those pronouns for that person. If you continue to use they/them pronouns knowing that person doesn't use them, you are now misgendering that person. Kindly stop doing that please. Thank you, I love you.

[xxur-local-faggyxx]

Once again

Let to rot

Blood stained fur

Fur raised as you bark

Why won't they just listen?

[dividingcosmos]

The way Nightshade is confirmed to use they/them and Optimus apologized and moved on properly is so nice

[genderqueerdykes]

when i tell people i only use it/its pronouns and that they feel euphoric and like i'm being referred to correctly, most people's immediate gut reaction is "i don't like that, i would be so uncomfortable being referred to as it/its."

i have great news for you! you won't be addressed by it/its pronouns! i will be! lucky for you, these are my pronouns, not yours, and at no point will you ever be referred to by it unless you explicitly ask me to!

whenever i explain that i feel great discomfort and dysphoria being referred to by they, he, or she, these same people suddenly fall silent and have nothing to say. imagine if every time someone told me they use they, he, or she pronouns, my immediate response was "i would be so uncomfortable being called they/he/she, i don't like that."

this reaction is one sided and is only used to target it/its users. no one else. when someone tells you their pronouns are it/its, keep your discomfort to yourself. that is your burden to bear. we have to accept that all pronoun sets, no matter how "normalized" they are, are going to make certain people feel like shit.

when a trans man asks you to use he/him pronouns because she/her pronouns makes him uncomfortable, your gut response isn't to say "he/him pronouns make me uncomfortable, i won't refer to you that way." when a trans woman asks you to use she/her pronouns because he/him pronouns makes her uncomfortable, your first reaction isn't to say "she/her pronouns make me uncomfortable, i'm not going to use them for you."

people can have bad experiences and even trauma with any set of pronouns, this is not exclusive to it/its. there are trans men across the world who feel like absolute shit when people use she/her pronouns for them, there are trans women across the globe who feel like absolute shit when people use he/him pronouns for them. nobody seems to consider this. any pronouns can cause discomfort.

don't single in on it/its users. don't make the first comment out of your mouth be about yourself. don't make someone else's pronouns about you. keep your personal discomfort with those pronouns to yourself. that is not the it/its cross to bear: that is yours. you don't get to decide what pronouns a stranger can and can't use, that's not your choice, you don't get to make it for them.

important addition from the tags:

[hrokkall]

"Sad Cat Poem" by Spencer Madsen

[schadenfreudich]

It/its pronouns are great. If you use it/its pronouns, you're cool

[girlboyburger]

[pansyboybloom]

much love to it/its and neo pronoun users who know they can never use their pronouns in person, who never have them used irl, whose gender expression and identity are only respected online. i see y'all and i love y'all

[melonsharks]

like a thing, make a character lineup to figure out how i would draw them. thats the way my brain works! you can find close-ups under the cut!

these were fun :] theres a lot of characters in this show that would be fun to draw, is there anyone you guys wanna see next? 🤔

[gengarpng]

I do really appreciate bg3 having neutral pronouns/the ability to use whatever pronouns regardless of appearance but it's really amusing to me when enemies or npcs I never met gender my tav correctly it feels like this

[mail-me-a-snail]

da pyrex

(the bottom left doodle is referenced from one of the comics)

[genderqueerdykes]

"why would you WANT to be called it/its" why does anyone want to do anything. stop thinking so hard just live

[boobstrider]

she tries her best to be supportive