#it's there so u can make a decision about whether or not my blog is a good place for u

[mallowstep]

@hounddogmoment replied to your post “ok so like obviously ppl r allowed to not want to...”:

its just my personal boundary, its nothing against you.

yeah like i said people are allowed to not want things. that's why in the first paragraph of my intro i have a note about it. this wasn't personal you just reminded me of this thing because it's happened a few times and it's always amusing to me.

like when you said your age (and i don't repeat it exactly because i am begging people to stop saying how old they are on the fucking internet, safety ppl safety!), for me it was like. okay and? i say this to two year olds

[keyotosprompts]

love's possessing me ⋆⭒˚｡⋆

ur fav tropes (with variations) + microtropes

⇴ person a + person b are both looking for each other, and they wander all around the place until they finally meet in the middle, where they both crash into each other

⇴ enemies to lovers (kind of) because they're in opposite factions that feud. until one day they run into each other on accident, immediately want to kill the other, and get trapped together. slowly, they discover that their own factions are awful, and they must work together to stop injustice (mk storyline!!!)

⇴ super serious and put together b turns into pure mush at the sight of a. i'm talking the brain stopped functioning call 911 bc we think they suffered brain damage. no they're just in love with person a.

⇴ having their own secret code. whether it be hand signs behind their backs, secret looks, or secret touches—as long as it's a secret then i will eat it up.

⇴ getting so tired that person b falls and person a has to catch them. person b ends up laying their head on person a's shoulder, and person a is now stuck with person b

⇴ "i'm not falling in love" and they fall the hardest (idc how used it is i will eat it up until i die)

⇴ person b admiring how person a brightens up any room when they get excited. "the look of love" as some would call it

⇴ two people that help each other heal. they've both had rough pasts, and when they meet each other—initially they hate it but—things start to mend (hometown cha cha cha anyone???)

⇴ banter and teasing at first meeting, but the more they get to know each other, the more they begin to connect.

⇴ person a + person b fighting over who has to sleep on the couch (they're staying at the other person's house), until they both agree on sleeping in the same bed together

⇴ friends to lovers but the other party did not consider them friends. (yikesssss)

⇴ "you lied to me! you kept lying straight to my face! and you expect me to forgive you?" "what are you talking about?! did you never get my letter?" "what letter?" (oh ur cooked)

⇴ "you deserve better than me." "that's not your decision to make, that's mine."

⇴ person a literally thinking they're the worst person in the world, and then there's person b, who can fight through the darkness and find the light

⇴ "you wouldn't understand!" "then tell me. i just want to listen."

⇴ person a's overworking themselves, so person b has to manually close their computer and put away their work and force them to sleep

⇴ person a stays up for person b to get home, but falls asleep. person b takes a ton of photos of them and then carries them to bed (and joins them later snuggling them ofc)

hey guys! keyotos here. this is a little out of my lane but i created this post for my writing event on my writing blog. but anyone else, feel free to use these and lmk if u guys like content similar to this!

[itsrlymine]

heyyy girl <33

first of all I absolutely adore your blog ur posts are what rlly let it set in with me how ridiculously simple being all powerful is (even that sentence alone sounds ridiculous to me now lmfao)

second of all how do u stop being indecisive about manifesting? I’m stuck on whether I wanna manifest one thing or another and I don’t want both bec it will mess up the plot😔 (also can I be 🎧 pls)

🎧 hello! I am so happy my page has helped you out babe!! It is ridiculously easy omgg

When I have a hard time deciding between two things, I immediately shift my mindset and think from the perspective of the person who already knows what they want. I don't try to force myself to make a decision, I just acknowledge that the decision has been made already. It saves you so much headache. I used to confuse myself for the plot like girl be so fr!

[gallifreyianrosearkytiorsusan]

Feel My Face

Author's notes: Alpharius in Living Water AU

Past =-= Next

Warnings: none that I can think of. Let me know if I need to add anything

Summary: Zariel and hisbrothers are slowly rebuilding lost trust

Tagged: @barn-anon, @bleedingichorhearts, @c-u-c-koo-4-40k, @egrets-not-regrets, @kit-williams,

Tagged continued: @sleepyfan-blog, @whorety-k, @ms--lobotomy @bispecsual @thevoidscreams

Tagged continued: @i-am-a-dragon34, @gra93fruit-blog

“I think,” Mara says after listening to both sides speaking and watching them all. “That Lana should get the choice on whether she stays ‘bonded’ to you five. Unless something happens and for the good of the Colony, it’s better to have your lot leave… permanently.”

The whole squad of alpha legion space marines stare at Lana, expressions of painful hope and worry plain as day on their faces and she thinks about the choices before her and closes her eyes for a moment or two.

“I think,” She says, licking her lips a little as she chooses her words with care, “That I’d like to get to know each of you all over again. Start off on the right claw, so to speak, before making permanent decisions.”

The squad of Alpha legion troopers agree to this, even if it makes them nervous, while the squad of Primaris Marines scowl, not liking the choices made, but aren’t going to say anything for or against it.

“We could help to chaperone, if you’d like?” Jophiel says, almost singing to Lana. “to make sure that they don’t try anything.”

Mara clacks her claw into the ground, drawing everyone’s attention, “Since that is Lana’s decision, we will give you another chance, but our requirement still stands. Approach with honesty and as your true selves, unless a disguise is requested or is required in an emergency. We do not appreciate being lied to... If you and your brothers can't manage even that, then you must leave.” Her words are solemn and heavy. 

“We agree to your terms,’ Zariel says with a solemn nod. He hears over vox coms the sighs of relief from his brothers. This is going to be difficult, but worth it. It’s rare that their kind of Astartes gets this kind of second chance. He’s not going to waste it and will do his best to ensure that his brothers comply as best he can.

The Scout-lings continue to make faces at them. Goodness, they are young which makes Zarius wonder where the fuck their babysitters, he means Scout Sargents are. He notices when the Blood Angel sends a message through text vox with a complicated emotional expression on his face that he can only partly decipher. Then he gently pokes the pair of Scout-ling Black Templars and says, “I think you should send a message to Arnault and Roland that the Alpha legionary issue has been resolved for now.”

Ramiel and Cedric make faces at him but do begrudgingly comply with his understandable request. For now, they will back off and wait for a call for aid, should the Gannet Harpies request or require it. Still, it's something that they will keep in mind, Ramiel gently tugging at one of Claude's arms as they say their goodbyes to the Harpies, heading back to home.

Zariel notices over the next few months that the Scout-lings always come in pairs now. They are respectful, and slowly, their personalities are revealed to him and his brothers over time. Some of the Scout-lings will talk with them, but a couple of them are aloof or hesitant to approach or speak to them. Per military politeness, if they are directly spoken to, they will speak back.

For some reason, the Scout-lings Raven Guard is very, very quiet around them. He speaks as little as possible to them. He's avoiding them like they are Plague Marines, which is rude, if somewhat funny at the same time. Occasionally, Orlys or one of the younger Alpha Legionaries in the squad will playfully chase Claude around. 

Until his battle buddy realizes what they are doing, and then they usually get rammed into at full speed by one of the Black Templars. Or pounced on by the bitey bastard of a Blood Angel. The little Ultramarines was with his very long ribbon tail and tried to lecture and scold them.

Zariel, the Apothecary-trained of the Alpha legionary squad, was eying the young Raven Guard assessing the younger space marine as the Scout-ling was helping to chase down prey fish with the age-mates in the Harpy Colony. He's purring softly as he nuzzles into Lana. It6's nice to relax and laze around for a bit. He closes his eyes briefly when Lana gently strokes the skin along his side, gently scratching him with her claws. As she helps him get some loose skin that are coming off to release.

“Are you plotting something?” Lana asks him, feeling the way Zariel's powerful frame shifts a little as he cuddles her.

“Always, love,” Zariel he responds with easy truth and a cheeky grin.

She hums a little and lightly scratches more of his tentacles, “anything in particular?”

“Oh, Just going to assess the spatial awareness of youngsters,” he says with faux-innocence. 

Zariel's teal eyes spark with mischief, and she chuckles a little before asking, “Why do you chase poor Claude around so much? You and your pod do it to him the most.”

“He's fun to chase,” Zariel says with a cheeky grin.”The other Scout-lings allow some physical contact in regards to sparring and play fighting. Claude doesn’t, not with us. His fellow Scout-lings yes.”

“You could respect his boundary,” Lana pointed out.

Zariel hums as he tilts his head a little as he thinks about that statement. He responds with, “it's much more fun to play-chase him instead.”

“I think his patience with your pushing will break one day,” she warns, “and you might not like the response he gives you.”

“I have survived snapping Responses from astartes far older and more dangerous than him,” Zariel says, not quite dismissing her words.

“If I'm right,” informs him primly as she arches an eyebrow at him, “I will say ‘I told you so’.”

“Deal, Lana,” Zariel says as he nuzzles into her as he buries his nose into her neck, pressing a light kiss to her pulse point.

Which has her squawking at him, her face flushed red, and she pinches and pulls one of his cheeks in retribution for being a bit of a horny brat in public.

[celestie0]

🪷 girl fuck these people I'm really sorry you're getting so many messages bitching about no smut in ch10. Like who even cares? Does a story or chapter have no value if the characters aren't going at it like rabbits and fucking and sucking on each other?

At this point if you're so disappointed about no hanky panky just go read one of those pornhwas where the characters start screwing at the drop of a hat.

I would've loved that chapter with smut or without smut idgaf it doesn't even matter to me (and the same is for most of your readers too, I'm sure of it). We've all stuck around with your work for so long, and we have faith in your direction as well as your decisions regarding the pace of the plot. It's never that serious, especially not to the stage that bozos feel the need to weep in a writer's asks and swamp them with negative messages. Go jack off or play dj with your hello kitty and go to sleep like the rest of us.

Again, no matter what you do with your work it's entirely your choice. Ofc we as readers can have our own takes and how or why we interact with the work can vary, but it shouldn't reach this stage. I've seen this same story of bullying and pestering authors on tumblr too many times with other authors whose work I enjoy, and many have left their blogs because the harassment made them lose interest in writing and sharing their pieces. It's fucking heartbreaking. Pornhub dot com is right there for y'all to be doing entirely too much in the asks of these writers who are already overwhelmed and write and share all this FOR FREE. If you have so many qualms about it pick up that bic and get to writing bitch!

I'm sorry babe take care! We love you🫂

AHHH LILYPAD ANON I APPRECIATE U SM THIS MEANS THE WORLD TO ME 😭😭 you’re always so kind to me i sobs

yeahh sigh :( i was just a bit upset that ppl were already finding fault w a chapter i haven’t even released yet just bc it doesn’t have smut in it 😭😭 like i obviously know by now that i can’t make everyone happy, but it’s not right to subtly pressure me into a certain direction for my story (ik this is a normal thing authors/writers have to deal with, i am just a weakling unfortunately 💀💀 my therapist wld agree)

i know it’s not most of my readers though :”) everyone is so sweet n kind n patient, i just don’t understand the some few that think that just bc they tell me they’re disappointed there’s no smut, that i’m somehow gonna go back to my 80pg dissertation of a chapter n make it 100pgs just to add some for them 😅…like no. what it DOES make me feel is icky n sad

frankly it’s really uncomfortable to make an author feel bad that there’s no explicit sexual content in a story 😅 your horny brainrot is showing. like, i AM def planning to write smut in kickoff, there will be multiple smut scenes to come. but even if i suddenly chose not to include them anymore, that’s my right to do so.

and yes, if they want smut, they can write it themselves. why do i need to be the one to write it for you? i don’t owe anyone anything.

i totally agree w you. honestly, i feel bad sometimes setting these boundaries, but you’re SO RIGHT in that SO many authors leave their platforms bc of hateful asks/pressuring comments etc, i’ve seen it time n time again. bc it’s true that it DOES get to people, especially when creating art is already a very stressful thing. i don’t have to passively tolerate rude strangers on the internet just because i’m trying to protect n pursue my passion

thanks sm for trusting my direction :”) and YES absolutely!! i love it when my readers disagree w character actions or emotions, bc characters have flaws n i’m intentional about those flaws, so it’s exciting to see opinions my readers have, even if they’re in disagreement, because it’s interactive w my work. not that i expect anyone to interact ever. i understand that i post on my own accord, so readers can choose whether to interact on their accord as well.

but something about pressuring me into writing explicit sexual content into a story that i’d like to think is a lot more than just smut, is really disheartening.

- ellie 🐸

[horrorhot-line]

Last anon is a bhole and a coward. I don’t totally get the changes or like them rly but I can still respect that it’s YOUR blog and YOUR decision to make. Religion is important to some ppl and that’s fine lol.

Ik you already know this bc u said as much in ur reply, but just wanted to reiterate it to you so you know other ppl agree lol.

Also I’ll still stick around if u write non psychic saiki stuff! I’m here for ur writing skill and if anything ur writing is just gonna be more canon-like bc no one knows he has superpowers that’s the point. You’re just writing in universe lol. Lots of other ppl will agree w me, some won’t even notice the difference. Important bit is if this makes you happy you should keep doing it, whether people stick around or not. Plus your writing is good enough that you’ll get new ppl interested in it if you post it, and they’ll not even know about the stuff you wrote before.

I hope this made sense. I had a lot to say and idk if it came out right but Godspeed.

(Also my original ask had much harsher words for the anon but idk if that’s chill for ur posting w ur religion considering the stuff you said that wasn’t. Only mentioning bc I would like the anon to know that.)

what a distinguished gentleman, look at the way- sorry i'll stop with the references, but very demure response i approve

yes everything made sense and i appreciate your message soooo much thank you <33333

also, that's a great way to look at the changes in my story I didn't even think of that, but the first update was more of a means of seeing the opinions of my readers first- i'll have to heavily edit but my freinds to lovers series will be back, with saiki having powers ofc (but i'll have to specify that he isn't all powerful which is canonically true cause his powers have limits so technically not blasphemy) and it'll be a lot of slow burn and silent pining that ends with saiki and reader getting married, (this will also gimme a chance to make the series as gender neutral as possible) so I hope you'll still enjoy the series after I change it but a lot of it will probably stay the same <3333

also I myself don't curse, you're your own person so whatever you do is fine I won't ask you to change your behaviours for me, but I will say that it's very sweet that you stopped yourself from cursing out of respect for me and my beliefs <33333

also this is random but can we be moots? ;-; <333

[saintmeghanmarkle]

DM EXCLUSIVE: Judge demands Biden's DHS must hand over Prince Harry's immigration papers so he can decide whether to release them publicly by u/Von_und_zu_

DM EXCLUSIVE: Judge demands Biden's DHS must hand over Prince Harry's immigration papers so he can decide whether to release them publicly This is a significant development in my opinion. The Judge is taking this seriously.Judge Carl Nichols has told the Department of Homeland Security he wants to look at Harry's immigration file He will review it privately before deciding whether to release it publicly The Heritage Foundation believes Harry's admitted drug use could mean he should be banned from living in the US if he lied about it on his application Judge Carl Nichols told DHS that its arguments so far were ‘insufficiently detailed’ for him to make a decision. [This sounds serious.]He asked the agency, which oversees immigration, to give him declarations explaining the ‘particular harm’ that would arise from the disclosure of the Duke of Sussex’s visa application.***In an order filed to the court in Washington, Judge Nichols stated that the Freedom of Information law authorized him to review ‘declarations and/or contested records in camera’.Doing so would help him to determine whether any exemptions preventing the documents from being made public apply.Such a review is appropriate when ‘agency affidavits are insufficiently detailed to permit meaningful review of exemption claims….when the number of withheld documents is relatively small, and when the dispute turns on the contents of the withheld documents, and not the parties’ interpretations of those documents’, the order said.Judge Nichols said: ‘Having reviewed the parties’ written submissions and heard oral argument on the motions, the court concludes that in camera review is necessary to determine whether the records in dispute come within the scope of the claimed exemptions’.Judge Nichols gave DHS until March 21 to submit declarations that detail ‘the records it is withholding and the particular harm that would arise from public disclosure of them’, his order said.The review will be conducted in camera, meaning it would be done by the judge in private.https://ift.tt/y47o8Ba to add the Order: In reading this, the Court has asked for Declarations that describe the documents withheld, but has not asked for the documents themselves. Heritage Foundation is allowed to submit more too.​https://preview.redd.it/8m6ynfic3zmc1.png?width=2304&format=png&auto=webp&s=756c557ffa58d3a896311b16cad1d1480394dfd0​ post link: https://ift.tt/k0fm6qS author: Von_und_zu_ submitted: March 07, 2024 at 09:24PM via SaintMeghanMarkle on Reddit Disclaimer: All views + opinions expressed by the author of this post, as well as any comments or reblogs, are solely the author's own; they do not necessarily reflect the views of the administrator of this Tumblr blog. For entertainment only.

[vro0m]

"Clearly you're very annoyed that I don't think Max is completely right, but I'm not interested in debating you on that, so I'm just not gonna do it. (...) I again am not talking about whether he gets punished by the stewards because of course he gets penalties I'm talking about whether his entourage including his team act like "well it is what it is the stewards made a decision" or "he was right and they were wrong and our driver can't do no mistakes and nothing bad" which, historically, they have done."

? Thats not has been said, nor the type of narrative you and other accounts have been feeding regarding Max and his driving. I dont think Max was completely right, for the record. (Not that it matters) He only hurt himself by the choices he made in the fight with Lewis. He was clumsy and frustrated although not in a vacuum. Of course, as a fan, I'm going to be sympathetic of the context that led to his error. I'm not asking u to do the same, ur obviously not a fan. In Austria its a different story, he raced how he was being raced and was fully within his rights to do so. If his team, his "entourage", along with multiple other drivers on the grid, Alain Prost, Eddie Jordan, etc btw, also agree with how he raced, I'm not sure why you thinking it would be "beneficial" for him to change is any way relevant to the discussion. (You, and other accounts like yours, that claim objectivity above all else, asked for a drive through penalty for Austria, on top of the penalties he received. Hungary was considered a racing incident, with Hamilton being noted as the who should have made a better effort to avoid collision. No penalty.. Is this, to u, an example of stewarding favoring Max and rewarding his style of driving?) You've made implicit and explicit references to Max being treated more leniently than others by FIA, and not learning from what you consider to be subpar driving, which ends up hurting him. This is your opinion. This is not based on any data, its just an eye test for Verstappen and what you think is good or bad for f1. This whole time I've been asking you for recent specific instances where max was penalized according to a more lenient rule book that only benefits him and is detrimental to others. I'm also asking you why veteran champions like Max and Lewis have different reactions from you and the public when it comes to what they demand from their teams and what they can or cannot say when those demands aren't met. I also get how this can be boring and uninteresting to you. I dont have any issue or beef with u specifically lol I just saw your posts and wanted to challenge some notions. Thats it. Feel free not to interact anymore.

Yeah see you're talking of "other blogs like me" who supposedly share my opinions but I think you're mistaken about what my opinions are. You seem to have wrongly associated me with other takes you've seen elsewhere that do not come from me and that's why we're both confused in this convo.

Because what you've just said is not what has been said is actually exactly what I've been saying lol

I did not ask for a drive through in Austria? I did not say he should have received a penalty yesterday? Like I've told you before I'm not saying the stewards are favouring him. I also did not say his driving his subpar. I think he's an excellent driver and have repeatedly said so.

Like legit you're misattributing things you've read elsewhere to me. You're generalising based on a stereotype you have in your mind of "blogs like mine" but I am not who you think I am and you are being kinda weird about it to be completely honest.

My point was, I think Max sometimes is rash (like you said he got frustrated and it led him to be clumsy yesterday) and I think that the fact that he's historically not been held accountable for his rash behavior by his team and entourage (NOT talking about the stewards) is not good for him because he would get even better if they didn't see him making contacts with others as just fine. He would have to learn to control his emotions better and not get clumsy like that when he's frustrated (which is a normal thing to happen, but getting clumsy because of it is a pity), and that would make him not less bold but smarter about it, and I would like to see that happen because I like good racing and he's a good racer.

[unpluggedfinancial]

How I Force-Fed the Orange Pill and Sent a Friend $50 in Bitcoin

Sometimes, the best way to help a friend is by giving them a push in the right direction—especially when it comes to understanding Bitcoin. Yesterday, I did just that. I crammed the orange pill down a friend's throat (figuratively, of course), made him download Coinbase, and sent him $50 in Bitcoin. Here's how it all went down and why I believe this is the start of something bigger for them.

The Backstory

My friend has always been skeptical of Bitcoin and cryptocurrencies in general. Like many, they've heard about Bitcoin, but the concept seemed too complex, risky, or downright unnecessary. Every time I tried to bring it up, I was met with the same response: "I just don't get it" or "Isn't that just a fad?" But I knew that with a little nudge, they could see the bigger picture.

The Orange Pill Moment

So, I decided to take matters into my own hands. Instead of trying to explain Bitcoin for the hundredth time, I made the decision to give them a taste of the real thing. I told them, "Download Coinbase, and I'll send you $50 in Bitcoin right now." It took a bit of convincing, but eventually, they relented. The key was making it easy for them to take the first step.

Sending the $50 in Bitcoin

Once they had Coinbase set up, I sent over $50 worth of Bitcoin. It wasn’t just about the money—it was about showing them the power of digital assets. That $50 was a tangible representation of the digital revolution happening before our eyes. It was a way to cut through the noise and give them something they could hold (digitally) and watch grow.

Why I Did It

Bitcoin isn't just another investment; it's a fundamental shift in how we think about money, value, and freedom. By giving my friend that $50 in Bitcoin, I wasn’t just sharing an asset—I was sharing a belief in a decentralized future where people have more control over their finances. I wanted them to experience the feeling of owning Bitcoin, even if just a small amount, and to see how it could change their perspective on money.

What Happens Next?

Will this friend dive deep into the Bitcoin rabbit hole? Only time will tell. But now, they have a stake in the game. They'll watch that $50 fluctuate, and with any luck, they'll start asking more questions, doing their own research, and eventually, they'll come to see what I and millions of others see in Bitcoin.

Conclusion

Sometimes, the best way to help someone understand Bitcoin is by showing them rather than telling them. By force-feeding my friend the orange pill and giving them a small amount of Bitcoin, I’ve planted a seed. Whether it grows into a full-fledged understanding of the Bitcoin revolution is up to them—but at least now, they’re on the path.

If you’ve got friends who are on the fence about Bitcoin, consider giving them a little push. After all, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step—or in this case, a single transaction.

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[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

sorry if this is a weird question, but um, a girl i know asked me out. Shes aplatonic but alloromantic and allosexual. I do like her back, but im a bit worried.. ive dated a guy before who didnt have friends and what ended up happening is that i had to support him 100% of the time when something bad happened and i had to be with him after school every day because i was the only person he talked to and he would get lonely otherwise. He even threatened to do bad things to himself if i went to a friend's sleepover because it made him feel bad. Im really worried that something like this would repeat... it lowkey traumatized me i think. Is this a valid concern or are aplatonic people different and they dont really need much emotional support compared to non-aplatonic people? Or was my ex just uniquely an asshole? Thank u so so much if u respond

I am prefacing this with a disclaimer that this blog was never for giving people advice, especially when they view aplatonics with such suspicion and are not actually asking any advice related to plato repulsion which is what this blog is about. I can also only go off of your statements here to draw conclusions, and I am assuming you are stating the truth here (especially as this is online, I know there is a possibility people can lie, but may also be telling the truth.). Also, we are not responsible for anything that happens to you emotionally or otherwise if you make decisions based off of this advice, because thats not within our control.

From what you said, your ex sounds like he was being rather toxic and manipulative towards you. That kind of behaviour is harmful (threatening self harm as a form of control, trying to control who someone spends time with, and not respecting peoples boundaries regarding interaction or emotional support, are all harmful actions.) and nobody should be acting that way towards others, we're sorry that happened to you. You also don't need to be concerned that someone will act this way towards you just bc theyre aplatonic. Your concern is valid, but it is in no way something that will inherently apply to aplatonics.

If you are concerned about whether this person has unmet social needs then you should just ask her about her social needs and emotional needs and what she expects in a relationship, and communicate about your needs and emotions regarding these things too. If its possible to, maybe mention that you have past issues or trauma in relationships which is why you want to be careful about dating, while not making it seem like aplatonicism is inherently a reason you think someone might hurt you(because it's not).

Set boundaries about what amount of time you want to spend with someone you're dating, and state your limits regarding how much you are okay with emotionally supporting someone / what topics you are ok with talking about / etc. . Don't assume that someone will be toxic or abusive towards you just because they're aplatonic. Its not really like your ex was inherently aplatonic just because he didn't have friends, and it may even be more likely he was alloplatonic.

Some aplatonics have and/or want friends but some dont, and moreover, if someone doesnt have friends by choice, that's very different from someone who is lonely because they don't have friends and mistreats a partner because of it. I will also add here that I don't intend to malign mental health issues just because it sounds like your ex may have had them (as you mentioned loneliness - which is different from just being alone or even liking solitude) ; mental health issues do not innately make someone abusive or toxic, and one can have mental health issues and still be respectful to people.

Someone without any mental health issues can also still very much be abusive or toxic towards others. And honestly, if you associate the concept of aplatonicism itself with this trauma then maybe its not in the best interest of you or the other person to date? And if it applies maybe it could be possible that you are simply not ready to date someone again after what happened, which is also okay, but I don't intend to assume that or be harsh in stating it as a possibility. I will also add that not having friends is not a 'red flag'. If someone has a preference to date/ be involved with people who have friends, that's okay, but not having friends is not inherently a 'red flag'.

Some aplatonics may not get lonely if they don't talk to people (but this can also be true of alloplatonics), and just because someone is aplatonic doesnt mean they will expect their partner to support them all the time to an unhealthy level or to an extent that crosses their boundaries. I will also add that there is no surefire way to tell whether someone will be abusive or toxic, although if they cross your boundaries or are disrespectful to you from the start, its worth staying away from them. Even ppl who are very kind to you initially may at some point abuse you or mistreat you, and theres no way to tell for sure whether or not this will happen because thats kind of how social relationships of any kind are.

But don't profile aplatonics as inherently more likely to be abusive or toxic (I don't know if this is intentional on your part, but hearing the word 'aplatonic' and making all these assumptions about how one may be in a relationship wounds like either this and/or like a trauma trigger extending to the concept of aplatonicism). Not all aplatonics even approach social relationships the same way, and even those who don't have friends are still capable of respecting boundaries in relationships they engage in. I wouldn't say that aplatonic people don't have emotional needs, but people in general have varying social needs and emotional needs. Some people who don't want friends may specifically not have a social drive towards having friends, but this may also apply to people who want friends.

If someone is happy without having friends then they probably don't seek emotional or social fulfillment from friendship. They may have other relationship types even if they are aplatonic (such as familial , romantic, sexual, alterous, etc.) (I don't know if you and this girl are monogamous are not but if you are intending to be monogamous that obviously is excluding sexual and/or romantic then) , and I will add that people don't always need social relationships/ bonds for emotional support. Some people may process emotions through journalling, or may go to a therapist, or such.

Some people may have people they talk to sometimes but don't call them their friends. Having friends does not ever guarantee anyone emotional support, and neither does any other relationship. It just so happens that a lot of people end up mutually (i.e. more or less both ppl give the other emotional support, it doesnt have to be equal so much as it is respecting the boundaries of both people. It is also possible that people may be incompatible in this regard) giving emotional support due to just being around people they are close to and also due to having some kind of emotional connection.

Anyways, long answer short, aplatonicism doesn't say anything about someone's social needs or emotional needs, and neither does alloplatonicism, and its often better to communicate with people you are close to or are looking to be close to, about important aspects regarding relationships.

(Also stating here that this is not an advice blog, we will be deleting any asks seeking advice from now on. If you want you can send in asks as reply to this response, as long as you aren't asking for more advice)

Anyways I hope it works out for you, whatever you decide to do.

(Additional disclaimer - to anyone who sees this post - do NOT suggest that 'narc abuse' 'borderline abuse' or whatever is real, do not imply mental health issues cause ppl to inherently be abusive, and do not treat having no friends as a 'red flag', regardless of platonic orientation or favorability)

[rinhaler]

No way omg I read some of your works and I was like this author is sooo good the writing looks a biiit familiar tho

Just found out you’re fuwushiguro lmao!! You used to be (and still are) one of my fav fanfic writers.

Why’d you move blogs btw?

AAAAAA that's so funny what gave it away?? 😩 welcome back though I'm happy to have u :3

also okay I never used to talk about my follow count or anything on my old blog but it was just a bit much mentally for me. I used to beat myself up over not performing well despite my follow count. I actually had over 10k followers on fuwushiguro but like I said, I used to keep that to myself. I just didn't want to be perceived in a certain way because of the amount of followers I have, but it doesn't matter now since I don't live there anymore.

Coming here was just a fresh start for me. I couldn't wrap my head around why so many people were following but I felt so... alone? Like I didn't feel supported at all over there. I worked so hard on my writing and I just hated how poorly everything I posted performed. And I know you're not meant to care about notes or whatever but I did, massively, and my mental health suffered terribly for it because I just blamed myself and my writing for not performing well. It might sound silly, but I can't really put into words how sad it feels to have so many people following you and then ultimately feeling so alone and uncared for.

I know a lot of people deal with this though and it wasn't just me. Everyone here works hard and it is just super upsetting when you work hard and then feel like no one actually cares. I really fell out of love with writing so I just thought, fuck it, I'm going to make a new blog and just keep to myself.

I've recently gone through a friendship breakup which massively knocked my confidence in writing too because the ex-friend, albeit unintentionally, made a choice that just left me hating myself and my writing even more. I've been suffering mentally through that and feeling alone because she was everything to me and my entire days revolved around her pretty much so losing that constant in my life was actually agonising, and unfortunately I do still miss her a lot!

But I've been filling my time with writing again and to be honest it's been lovely. I hate how she handled things and I don't think I will ever get over that. It's been nice to know I don't need to suffer forever though and do have that escape with writing when I need it!

Becoming a smaller blog again has absolutely taken the pressure off everything I write and post, too. It's just really freeing to not have any expectations placed on me (whether that's by myself or other people).

I've made some lovely new friends and am making new memories with people over here and I have a nice little community and safe space here for myself and my followers and I just know it was the best decision I could have made even if it didn't start off in the best way.

SORRY FOR RAMBLING THIS GOT SO DEEP ADSGFHDGJF

Thank you for finding me again though it's really nice to have a mix of old and new followers so I can carry on making this nice little space here :3 thank you for supporting me and my writing, pls take care of yourself my love!

[quartzguts]

Trope rating game

i'm putting this as its own post instead of reblogging to avoid having a super duper long post on my blog. thank u @rinn-e for tagging me!

rules: How much do these tropes affect your decision to click on a fic? -10 -> very dissuaded 

0 - don’t care either way 

+10 -> very enticed 

nope -> if it’s a hard no and you’d never click on a fic with that tag or or you even have the tag blocked or you’d insta click out of the fic if it wasn’t tagged.  Bonus points for explaining the rating and whether it’s conditional.

Age gap: +10

YEAH YEAH YEAH. pretty much all my recent major ships have had age gap (ardynoct, askefinn, sladin, etc). i've figured out recently that i find it kind of boring when the two characters are on the same level, and age gap is an easy way to effect that power imbalance.

Codependency: +10

yep yes and always. love when two people are each other's world. love when they would do anything for each other and that's a bad thing. love when they destroy themselves for each other.

Obsession/Possessiveness, jealousy: +7

see above lol. this one gets a lower score because jealousy can get a little annoying. i actually like it when characters AREN'T jealous... like, A trying to make B jealous and B doesn't care, because they know A will come crawling back to them sooner or later.... nice... if the jealousy is warranted (like an above situation w flirting/cheating/etc) then that crosses the line into love triangle which i'm not big on, and if it isn't warranted it gets annoying. i like obsession and possessiveness a lot but jealousy doesn't necessarily have to be part of that.

Opposites (grumpy/sunshine etc): 0

eh, it's okay. i prefer it when two characters in a ship are shockingly similar, even if they have completely different values/motives/goals, whatever. opposites can be cute but it's not really my thing.

Enemies to lovers, Enemies with benefits: +9

i started writing a paragraph about how i prefer enemies to remain fucked up and awful even if they get into a relationship, but then i remembered all the crying i've done imagining soft sweet Wales endgame askefinn and i was like yeah, let's not lie today LOL. both are good.

Friends with benefits: -5

where's the ROMANCE? where's the DRAMA? where's the OBSESSION? it's not like i hate it but i typically want a more substantial emotional attraction y'know. also, a lot of the fic i've read recently does... not really involve the characters in question being friendly lmaooo.

Sex to feelings: 0

this is a difficult one to rate because it can be very very different depending on the existing dynamic. are we talking about two strangers who keep hooking up and develop feelings? two enemies who feel nothing but hate for each other, but their relationship starts to change once they have sex? i guess this trope is more the former, which isn't something i would actively look for but isn't something i dislike either, so it gets an even 0.

Fake dating/relationship: +6

god i used to read this trope so so often. i'm not huge on established relationship because i want to see the relationship grow (rereading this i realize it makes me look like a tool because i've written a bunch of established relationship recently but like... I KNOW how they got there ok. my city now), but i also love cutesy romantic shit, so fake dating is right up my alley (along with arranged marriage and soulmates for the same reason). bonus if the faking is very uncomfortable for one or both characters. put those blorbos in a psychologically stressful situation where they have to pretend to be happy 👌

Friends to lovers: +3

yeah it's fine. see above, i like my ships terrible and fucky. this trope doesn't usually facilitate that. if it's awful friends to awful lovers i'm all over it.

Found Family: -9

not gonna lie, i wasn't big on found family in the first place and kingdom hearts fandom utterly destroyed whatever little interest i had in it. while i like platonic relationships in original fiction, for fic i rarely if ever read gen fic. it's shipping or bust for me. if they aren't doing the nasty (physically or emotionally) i'm not interested.

Hurt/Comfort: +8

ohhhhh yeaaaahhhhh babyyyyyyyy i'm all about that whump. love it when a blorbo is harmed and another blorbo has to help them. i can go for hurt/no comfort too sometimes but only if i'm in the mood for it.

Love Triangle: -6

yeaaaah no. this is another area where i like them in original fiction but am not at all into it in fic. i like my ships with two characters (who preferably have no interest in anyone else).

Poly, open relationships: -5

i do have some multi character ships (pyra/mythra/rex/nia is the one that immediately comes to mind, though i don't typically read xenoblade fic) but i'm not usually a fan, for the same reason i mentioned for love triangles. a lot of times i'm only here for one or two characters in the relationship so anyone extra feels unnecessary and distracting.

Mistaken/hidden identity: +5

i probably would've given this a lower score if i wasn't in my sladin revival era. superhero secret identities are perfect for conflict.

Monsterfucking: +8

gave this an 8 because when it leans too far into furry/bestiality territory that's when i'm out. generally love monsters of all kinds though, and all the hentai-esque tropes that come with it.

Pregnancy: -8

hate kid fics. god do i hate kid fics. this only gets a -8 and not -10 because unwanted pregnancy fics that do not end with a kid being born can be pretty angsty, which is nice.

Second Chance: +6

second chance for... what? as in a redemption arc? sure i'm down for that. also down for a character getting a second chance even though they have not earned it, because another character refuses to give up on them/let go. second chance time travel where a character gets to go back and redo something is also top tier.

Slowburn: +1

this one was very hard to rate. i've read some slowburns that i absolutely loved. i'm currently writing a slowburn where it's 20k in and the mfers haven't even held hands. but i also get bored easily and if it's TOO slow it begins to feel like the fic is dragging its feet. to keep me interested i usually like if there's another element going on, like fake dating, enemies to lovers, heavy whump, etc.

Soulmates: +9

YES. YES YES YES. LOVE THAT. again, it's a way to have both relationship development AND immediate sex/romance. especially good when the soulmates are enemies or otherwise not suited to each other in any way whatsoever and this is surely the work of a god with a very shitty sense of humor. i have written and read many soulmates fics and i intend on writing and reading many more.

Tagging all of my lovely mutuals!! qwq some of u have already been tagged so i will save u the trouble of tagging u twice!

[animeyanderetalker]

Hi would it be ok if I ask you some questions ?

if you can join any guild in fairy tail ; what guild what you join?

What clan would you join ; if you were in Naruto ?

What dragon would you have in httyd ?

vampire or werewolf in a dating sense ?

vampire or werewolf; what monster would u be ?

Any new faves in one piece ?

what arc are you on in one piece ? What’s your thoughts on it so far ?

Would you be a Pirate or marine ?

what canon devil fruit would you have ?

if you had to make your own devil fruit what would it be ?

Sure, that's what this blog is for.

1.I know that the Fairy Tail guild is the main guild we get to know in this Anime and I obviously have a huge fondness for them but I wouldn't choose them. I am quite introverted and my energy and patience would just plummet after a few days since they are a very loud and rowdy bunch. I would actually choose Mermaid Heel if I had the chance because from all the guilds I feel like I would be the most comfortable in there.

2.I honestly am quite fine with a lot of clans unless it's the Hyuga, Uchiha or some other clan that got eradicated or had other problems. If I had to choose I would probably have to draw to decide between the Nara, the Inuzuka or the Akimichi. As of right now I would probably choose the Inuzuka though because they work together with dogs and wolves and I have a soft spot for those animals, especially since I have one myself.

3.If I could choose any dragon I would want to ride and not only limiting it to those that were shown being ridden, there are quite a few choices to make. One would probably go to the Crimson Goregutter because not only is it a big and tough dragon but also has a very docile and relaxed demeanor. A Hobblegrunt would also work for me because they are also rather calm and sensitive and since they change colours according to their feelings, I would always know whether or not they are comfortable with a situation or not. A Raincutter would work nicely too because I despise hot weather and love rain as much as this dragon does.

Dragons such as Deathgrippers also caught my interest but they were shown to be rather aggressive so I don't know how good I could bond with them. Whilst not to quite the same extent, I would also doubt myself with a Scauldron since they are also not that easy to train and a Seashocker may also be in the same category where I am not sure how well I could train them. If you're asking me for the most reckless decision I could make, I would love myself a Screaming Death, although I highly doubt that I could train one.

4.I would probably be more tempted towards dating a werewolf as well as being one because a vampire is immortal and I am not so sure if I would want to live forever because it would be awfully boring and make everything in life quite meaningless.

5.My favorite is still Nico Robin. After having finished Impel Down though, I must admit that I have found myself quite fond of Buggy and Mister 3 as well as all of their moments together. Their combination was for me one of the best things to come out of this arc.

6.I just started with the Marineford Arc and since this is an Arc highly praised within the fandom, I have high hopes for it because there are a lot of characters present at the moment.

7.I would be a pirate because working for the Marine is not as rosy as it may seem. I would probably not cross the Grand Line though unless I have a strong crew and would just chill in the East Blue and stay low for safety sake.

8.I'm pretty sure that I haven't even seen half of the devil fruits in this series. If I have to choose one I have already seen in action, I would either choose Robin's Hana Hana no Mi or Marco's Tori Tori no Mi, Model: Phoenix. If I can choose one that I haven't been introduced to yet but know about anyways, I would choose this devil fruit which can cut off sounds around you because that would kind of fit in nicely with my rather introverted personality.

9.Good question. As I said, I haven't gotten to know all devil fruits in One Piece yet so chances are that I may make up something that already exists within the series or bears resemblance to it. I would either like a devil fruit that can actually control plants and flowers which would make it a Logia type or I would like a devil fruit that would also fall into the category of a Mythical Zoan type. My choices for beings would then either be a Hydra, a Cerberus, a Hellhound or something inspired by the tale surrounding Arachne and her unfortunate end at the hands of Athena.

[choicesbookclub]

Anon again here. Hello every one ^^

I think the mod of this blog has also right to choose what to read next cuz the mod works so hard and makes good posts and polls.

Please respect the decision of the mod too

Polls to decide which book to read is a good idea. Everyone can vote.

Plus, don't forget to support sequel game projects too like @thedistantshoresproject , @nightboundfanfiction and @bloodboundsiege in case u re-read the old books before wantin to play their sequel game after it's active and the game is ready/fully released.

Next thing: Whoever the mod of choices book Club is. Thx for keeping the lovely Blog alive

XOXO

Hello again, Nonny! 👋

You're sweet to want me to be able to pick the next book. I've always been the person, who goes along with the activities others pick to keep the peace or to avoid conflict. I truly enjoy hosting the book club, even if it takes a lot of work. I would love to just choose the book but I feel guilty doing that. I have always wanted to just bring the fandom together and support the wishes of as many as I can.

But yes there will be a poll. There were a couple recently, one was whether we read TE2 next or another book, and then I imagine you saw the poll about TDG which had significantly more votes with a large number of people voting to read that next. However those were just "preliminary" polls to gauge interest.

I will do a more "definitive" poll next week. It will include TE2 and TDG since both books have had people show interest. It will also have a few other books that came in close second/thirds (but lost to TE) in the poll from December

And yes, thank you for shouting out the fan projects, they are always amazing and inspiring. @itlivesproject is another great one. We definitely might play a fan project in the future, but I'd definitely think it'd be fun to start with canon first.

Thank you for your kind words about the blog! My name is Dani (@lovealexhunt /@storyofmychoices) and I've been the mod of the book club since last spring. 💖

[cryptidfuckery]

what song, or video, or movie, or Any piece of media is making u lose ur mind (either in a good way or bad way) rn. like just infodump all abt it if u want omg

dear fucking lord. here we go.

So the fic i'm currently writing is Miraculous Ladybug. I've been on/off watching it since like... around when it came out I think? But this like end of summer/fall I got reattatched. I've restrained myself from overloading this blog w my miraculous shit but if you're interested my miraculous side blog is @miraculouscryptid okay amyway ANYWAY

what im here to talk about is the miraculous fandom. now as we've found out recently I've been on here since 2011. I've been around. I used to cosplay. We all know I was big into homestuck. I've been around. I've seen the rise and fall of many, many fandoms whether tangentally or personally.

The way I describe my relationship with the miraculous fandom is if the fandom were a yard and everyone was playing in it, I'd be in a chair on the porch watching and smoking a blunt. (Honestly I have a whole fandom yard theory that i've thought about making a post about but that is Besides The Point)

In short, I love the miraculous fandom. They are, like every fandom, multifaceted and talented. I enjoy that we're all in it for the tropeyness of the entire thing, at least basically. It's fun to play in the space, and I think miraculous brings a fun space to play in. I think that's a lot of what's attractive about it, to the right people of course. When I talk about it to people who then say they might be interested, I usually warn them that they have to have a pretty high tolerance for kid's shows bullshit. I think I'm pretty fair in saying that.

But god what I'm getting at is. The drama is incredible in this fandom. People are literally fighting over four different ships that are the same two people, who are completely and utterly narratively aligned to end up together. It's bonkers. This year people were upset about the placement of one of the ships on the tumblr top 100 ships. A significant ship in the fandom is ladybugXone of the bat sons i forget which one. Recently a poly ship between the two main characters and one of the main chracters ex's became more signifigant because main character and ex both would rather die than live in a world without other main character.

I have no idea whats going on most of the time. Honestly, I don't want to engage with much of the fandom. I'm happy to watch from the sidelines with a few people I can shoot a funny, miraculous related thought to. I don't always agree with decisions the show makes. I don't think it's the best show in the world on any account.

But fuck I'm having fun playing in the space!!!!

[initiumseries]

Hey! so idk if this has been said before but julie plec or whoever came up with all these pregnancy plot lines on tvd really gave strong pro-life vibes. like there's caroline who is impregnated without her will, she essentially does not have the choice to not keep it bc the emotional fallout would be crazy and they're the last of the coven and it's all super tragic. then there's hayley who is pregnant with the child of literally the most abusive man on the planet and Elijah decides that this baby will be their saving grace, and there's no question of whether hayley can have an abortion (iirc) then she moves in with what is supposed to be the most nefarious family which just further puts her in a situation where she can't safely make the decision to not have the child if she so decided.. like they really seem to be pushing an agenda here imo, the option is just never on the table for this or that reason

In general i hate when tv shows give an accidental pregnancy to a woman and the word abortion isn't even mentioned.

do u have any thoughts on this?

love ur blog btw <3

Thanks anon!

Yeah, so, having been around the tv block, I can say, the pro-life vibe from TVD based on their pregnancy plotline choices aren't unique to TVD. Almost every single American show I've watched that introduces a surprise baby plot, abortion isn't on the table. In more modern times, let's say the last 10-15 years, abortion has become peppered into dialogue as an option, but never as a solution. It's usually a miscarriage, or in the case of, Gossip Girl for example, the fear of pregnancy, but then not being pregnant. And tbh, I think that's just the general social conservatism, though. I find that abortion, just with regular people is a touchy topic, so writers tend to play it safe, or they overplay it (TVD) and do some really weird shit that crosses some boundaries when they aren't good writers. I can only think of one show where the woman actually went through with an abortion, and it was an Australian show called Please Like Me, and I liked that, she quietly had her abortion, and wasn't like, bouncing back and happy the next episode, it sat with her for a couple episodes, and she wasn't really interested in talking about it. It was just something she had to do. I thought that was a decent, balanced approach. I would like to get to a time where abortions in tv are looked at the same way any other medical procedure would be, but with the state of things, I'm not sure that's possible lol.

As for TVD specifically, I think part of the problem is, Julie & co are absolutely horrific writers, and their understanding of consent is OBVIOUSLY murky. They have a history of messing with the consent of the women on the show (Elena & sirebond, Caroline and compulsion etc). So when Haley got pregnant I rolled my eyes SO hard, because it was also meant to be like, Klaus finally has a family, and it's fraught and there's anxiety of keeping this baby, blah blah. But honestly, any sane woman would've just gotten an abortion and disappeared lol. Caroline being nonconsensually impregnated with the twins was like...the stupidest plotline to me because I kept feeling like, there HAD to be a better way to execute it, but it goes to show how bad they are at writing. There were a million ways to execute that stupid plotline that didn't force Caroline to give birth against her will. Julie ripped so much from btvs but somehow missed the Dawn plotline where Dawn was just THERE, and as viewers we were all like...???? But to everyone else, they'd always been there? Or the children being introduced and left in her care? Like a BUNCH of other ways that would've also been more narratively interesting than THAT. And because of the lack of consent, and all those things, it comes across as ESPECIALLY pro life because abortion isn't even an option, it's an unwanted and unplanned for pregnancy, and yet still the woman goes through with it. I don't know that that was their intent, because I don't know much about their politics, but the optics are awful. It's tempting to say that they're too stupid to see what they've done, but I think, even if they are, it doesn't make it less problematic.