#it's all just a personal choice and it's about being confident in asserting your own needs and boundaries

[hoshifighting]

so I had this idea about switch!joshua

idk why but I kinda have this fantasy in my head about Joshua and his partner having a power play during sex. they keep tryna a dom each other but they also enjoy being each others sub yk

could you write sth like this? I would love to read it :]

— Synopsis: You and Joshua both have strong personalities, resulting in power play whenever you're having sex. It's like witnessing a battle to see who can assert their dominance over the other. — WC: 2k — WARNINGS: Smut, power play, switch!reader&joshua, bickering, overstimulation, sex toys - (vibrator, handcuffs, blindfold), bondage, sensory deprivation, penetrative sex, degradation, clit stimulation, choking, face slapping, the fight for power.

the first time you met joshua, it was like striking a match in a room filled with gasoline. his confident, almost arrogant smile was mirrored by your own stubborn determination. you could tell right away that this was a man who was used to being in control, someone who thrived on dominance. and, ironically, that was the exact reason you were drawn to him.

you never asked about joshua’s past relationships. honestly, you didn’t want to know. you liked the mystery, the untold stories that lingered in his eyes. but one thing was clear: you were the first to challenge him, to refuse to let him take the lead without a fight.

the first time you had sex, it was a battle. every touch was a negotiation, every kiss a test of wills.

joshua, so accustomed to being the dominant force, found himself facing someone who was just as strong, just as determined. it took him a while to process it, to wrap his mind around the idea that he wasn’t the only one in control.

afterward, you lay next to each other, breathless and sweaty. the silence was heavy with unspoken words. finally, joshua turned to you, his eyes searching yours.

“so,” he began, a smirk tugging at the corner of his mouth, “this is new.”

you laughed, a light, airy sound that filled the room. “you didn’t think i’d just roll over and let you take charge, did you?”

“i was hoping,” he admitted, his smile widening. “but i guess i should’ve known better.”

today was one of those days where neither of you was willing to give up control. joshua’s hands were cuffed above his head, muscles straining against the restraints as you teased his swollen cock with a feather. his abdomen tightened with every agonizing brush, and his frustrated moans echoed through the room.

“you’re enjoying this way too much,” he groaned, his voice tinged with a compound of irritation and arousal. outside these four walls, joshua was a sweetheart, but here, he was your plaything.

you got up to retrieve a vibrator from your drawer, enjoying the sight of him writhing, desperate for more. the moment you turned your back, you heard the click of the handcuffs. spinning around, you saw joshua ripping the blindfold from his face, with a dark grimace.

“oh, fuck,” you muttered, knowing you were in trouble as he strode toward you with large, purposeful steps.

he wrapped his arms around you from behind, pressing you against the dresser and pinning your arms to your chest. “you don’t think you’ve teased me enough?” he growled through gritted teeth, his breath hot against your ear.

“you can’t handle a little feather?” you taunted, your voice dripping with sarcasm. “poor baby.”

joshua’s response was a low, dangerous growl. he yanked your head back by your hair, forcing your neck to arch painfully. “you like pushing me, don’t you?” he snarled. “you’re nothing but a slut who loves to be put in her place.”

you grunted at the sharp pain, feeling his cock slide inside you all at once. your legs threatened to give out, but joshua held you steady. “steady yourself, slut,” he commanded, his voice harsh and unyielding.

you had no choice but to comply. one hand escaped to brace yourself on the dresser, your moans strangled by the way he pulled your hair. despite your frustration at his breaking the rules, you couldn’t deny how much you loved being railed by him, being his pathetic slut. just as much as he loved being your toy when you needed it.

he pressed himself deeper, your balance faltering as your chest hit the dresser. the vibrator in your hand buzzed to life, and you cursed yourself for letting it slip. joshua paused, the sound catching his attention.

“well, well,” he teased, taking the vibrator from you. “look at you, thinking you could use this on me. what a desperate little whore you are.”

he turned the vibrator to its highest setting, the buzz loud and threatening. “no,” you pleaded, shaking your head. “please, joshua—”

“you don’t get to beg,” he interrupted, his voice dripping with disdain. “you’re just a slut who takes what she’s given.”

his cock stretched you, the burn from your unpreparedness mixing with the relentless throb of your heartbeat. when joshua turned the vibrator to its maximum setting, you gulped, knowing exactly where he intended to place it. your eyes widened in panic.

he lowered the buzzing device until it reached your clit, and you screamed, grabbing his forearm, your nails sinking painfully into his skin. the intense pleasure made him groan, your tightness around his cock almost causing him to lose his balance.

your clit felt like it was on fire, tears springing to your eyes. joshua started to move, thrusting into you with a new fervor, amplifying the overwhelming sensations. another scream tore from your throat as you whimpered, "josh, josh..."

as joshua's grip on your arm loosened, you felt your body slowly disassembling against the dresser. each movement seemed to send new shocks of sensation through you, your heightened sensitivity turning every touch into an electric charge. joshua didn’t seem to notice your extra-sensitive state, his focus entirely on his own pleasure.

you were torn, debating whether to let the knot inside you unravel and risk overstimulation or try to hold back and risk edging yourself too much. but as you wrestled with your thoughts, the decision was made for you. you felt the wave cresting, and with a sob, you realized you were cumming.

your sobs echoed off the furniture, a raw sound that combined with the rhythmic slap of joshua’s thrusts. his cock split you open, and you felt yourself dripping onto the wooden floor, the vibrator splashing the proof of your orgasm everywhere.

he resumed his thrusts, slower now, more calculated, each stir developed to push you further into overstimulation. the vibrator’s relentless buzz against your clit was torture, and you cried out, your body fluttering with the power of it all.

“please,” you begged, your voice breaking. “i can’t… i can’t take it.”

joshua leaned down, his breath hot against your ear. “oh, but you will,” he whispered. “you’ll take it, and you’ll love it, won’t you?”

you sobbed, your body betraying you as another wave of pleasure crashed over you, your legs buckling. “joshua, please…”

his grip on your hips tightened, and he pushed deeper, hitting that spot that made you see stars. “you’re such a good girl,” he taunted. “look at you, falling apart just for me.”

your nails scraped against the wood of the dresser, leaving marks as you clung to it for support. “i’m… i’m cumming again,” you gasped, tears streaming down your face.

“good,” he growled, thrusting harder. “cum for me, show me how much you love it.”

your body obeyed, another orgasm ripping through you, leaving you a trembling, sobbing mess. 

everything started to feel like too much—the relentless vibrator, joshua’s tight embrace, his cock buried deep inside you, his overwhelming presence. it was suffocating, and in a moment of clarity through the haze of overstimulation, you felt a surge of strength. you needed to take charge.

your spasms gave you the energy to pry his forearm away, sending the vibrator flying across the room. it stopped buzzing the moment it hit the ground, and you didn’t care if it was broken. you turned joshua around, pushing him onto the bed and straddling him, your hand finding his throat. you pressed your fingers into either side of his neck, watching his breath hitch and his eyes widen in surprise and pleasure.

a nasty smile spread across his face, taunting you. you slapped him hard, his head snapping to the side. when he turned back to face you, his grin was even wider.

you knew. he loved it when you lost control, when you took what you wanted. this was how the two of you thrived—fire and fire, clashing and igniting.

“you think this is funny?” you hissed, your voice low and dangerous. “i’m going to wipe that grin off your face.”

joshua’s eyes gleamed with excitement. “is that so?” he taunted, his voice rough with anticipation.

you tightened your grip on his throat, leaning in close. “you’re going to beg for mercy,” you whispered fiercely. “i’m going to ruin you.”

his breath hitched again, his smile faltering slightly. “do your worst,” he challenged, his voice barely above a whisper.

you didn’t need another invitation.

you moved with intent, your hand slipping from his throat to his jaw, forcing him to look up at you. your other hand trailed down his chest, nails scraping lightly, leaving red lines in their wake. joshua’s breathing grew ragged, his eyes never leaving yours.

“you like this, don’t you?” you murmured, your fingers tracing patterns on his skin. “being at my mercy?”

“yes,” he gasped, his voice strained. “i love it.”

you leaned down, your lips brushing against his ear. “good,” you whispered. “because i’m just getting started.”

you shifted your hips, taking him inside you again, but this time you were in control. you rode him with an enthusiasm that surprised even you. 

you set the pace, slow and willful, driving him wild with every move. joshua’s hands gripped the sheets, his knuckles white with the effort to keep still.

his hands gripped your hips, trying to match your rhythm, but you swatted them away.

“no touching,” you commanded. “you don’t get to touch until i say so.”

he groaned in frustration, his head pressing back into the mattress. “please,” he begged, his voice strained. “let me touch you.”

you leaned down, your lips hovering over his. “not yet,” you murmured. “not until i see that smile disappear.”

you increased your pace, your movements becoming more inconsistent, more desperate. his face contorted with pleasure, his cock twitching inside you. you knew he was close, and you wanted to push him over the border.

“beg for it,” you commanded, your voice firm.

“please,” he moaned, his hips bucking up involuntarily. “please, y/n.”

you slapped him again, the sound echoing in the room. “louder,” you demanded.

“please!” he cried out, his voice desperate. “please, i need it.”

a triumphant smile spread across your face. “that’s better,” you purred, increasing your pace, your movements more forceful. “you’re mine, joshua. all mine.”

“yes,” he panted, his eyes wild with submission. “all yours.”

you felt the power surge through you, the thrill of being in control. joshua’s moans filled the room, his body trembling beneath you. you rode him harder, pushing him to the edge, watching as his composure crumbled.

“cum for me,” you ordered, “now.”

with a final, desperate cry, joshua followed, his body convulsing as he came. you watched him, your eyes never leaving his, taking in every moment of his surrender.

joshua doesn't know exactly how much time he spends trying to catch his breath with his eyes closed. how do you do this? he had you overstimulated, railing you on the dresser, yet somehow you still ended up defeating him on the bed. 

every. single. time, he was amazed. amazed by how much of a freak you were, and how much he loved being your sub

he's pulled out of his thoughts when you emerge from the bathroom, a towel wrapped around you. your skin is still damp, and you leave a faint trail of steam in your wake. you glance at him, still sprawled out on the bed in the same position you left him.

"i've won this time too?" you tease, a playful glint in your eye.

joshua opens his eyes and watches you walk, noticing the funny, slightly limping gait you have now. he scoffs, a smirk playing on his lips. "do you think so?"

you pause, one hand on your hip, and arch an eyebrow. "well, i did end up on top, didn’t i?"

he laughs softly, the sound rumbling from deep in his chest. "only because i let you."

"sure, keep telling yourself that," you retort, walking over to the bed. 

he props himself up on his elbows, his eyes never leaving you. “and you’re barely able to walk straight. who’s the real winner here?”

“still me,” you say, leaning down to kiss him lightly on the lips. “because i always end up on top.”

"you know," he murmurs, "one of these days, i'm going to turn the tables on you."

you scoff, nestling against him, your fingers tracing idle patterns on his chest. "i'd like to see you try."

[gremlinmodetweeker]

König's Kids Headcanons

I think König, when he's there, would be a great dad. He's a bit of a gremlin, but this just makes him a better dad. He's also a bit of a menace at parent teacher meetings.

Anyways, have some silly headcanons

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König is a surprisingly good father (when he’s there). He’s strict, but also knows how to relax and let things slide. He will play-wrestle with his kids and make sure they have plenty of time to run around in nature and read books. He’s passionate about his kids’ hobbies and encourages them to learn and explore what they love.

He’s the type of dad to teach them how to fight but also play pretend games with them

He does not like having tea parties, but he will endure for his children. He will endure great hardship and pain for them, and if this includes sipping water from a plastic teacup while sitting on a tiny stool, so be it. He can endure. However, he draws the line at makeup. He can’t endure (nor can he sit still long enough)

When König is home from work, he drops his military titles at the door and focuses entirely on being an important part of their lives. The sad part is that you can see he’s actively trying to make up for time he’s lost. This is part of what leads to him retiring early to a local security job.

Without a steady father figure in their lives, his kids do grow up to struggle with certain things. However, all things considered, they turn out pretty well adjusted and healthy. Honestly, pretty solid people. They turn out to be the kind of people you feel like you can respect and appreciate.

But when they’re young his kids are little shits. They’re the type to break stuff for fun. They also will run and hide from you. At a certain point, you’ll have to resort to using child leashes because they will run away from you in public. So when they’re young, they’re terrors in your house. When they get older, they have their father’s streak of intelligence and are snarky assholes. They have brutal teenage years.

This is exacerbated by the fact that for the first ten years of his youngest kid’s life, he’s still in a PMC and going on military contracts, so the kids have large periods of time where they’re missing their father.

König realizes too late that he missed a lot of his kids’ development and chooses to retire to a more local security job to spend more time at home. It’s a big change in the household, but not an unwelcome one. His older kids struggle the most, but they do grow to form strong bonds with him because of his choice to stay home

König makes a good deal of money early on so he can go on to take a lower paying job later in life. His kids never have to worry about if they have money. They have to worry about whether or not their parents will say yes.

König is a pretty strict father. He’s a military man, a former colonel. He’s not going to be a horrible abusive father, but he will be a bit much sometimes. You might find yourself stepping in to defuse the tension sometimes.

Thankfully, König doesn’t yell at his kids (unless it’s something stupid and it’s pretty obviously a joke) or hit them. He’s actually pretty bad about disciplining his kids. You might have to take over in that department. Having been in the military for so long, König’s terrified of going overkill on his kids and doesn’t want to risk hurting them. He can dish it out, yes, but he’s extremely cautious when doing so.

He’s also quite fair. He does his best to treat his children equally. He’s surprisingly good. He focuses on encouraging their individual hobbies and finding their own personalities. They do grow up to be quite self-confident with their father’s teachings in their heads. They’re not arrogant, but they’re confident and assertive

They’re not popular in school, but not hated. They do pretty decently. Academics are a bit too easy for them, so König has to step in to teach them study habits and keep their passion for learning. Thankfully, his father was a professor, so he’s pretty good at this.

That said, König will sometimes be pretty silly when disciplining. Sometimes, you can hear his full colonel voice booming from outside about someone pulling some silly prank on him as he’s mowing the lawn. He’s not the type to pull pranks on his kids (but he’ll happily torment you) but he will play silly games with them. I think his kids learn that when he’s yelling, he’s not actually that angry, he’s just playing around. It still scares the shit out of your kids’ friends when he does it when they’re over

König has a tendency to scare children in public. He tries really hard to not make them nervous, but with the hood and the height and the tired look in his eyes? Nah he’s terrifying.

König’s kids grow up not being afraid of anyone because nobody’s as scary as their dad. This also means all the kids know that those kids have the scariest dad.

When your kids’ friends come over, they’re terrified of König. Unfortunately, he finds this slightly funny and takes advantage of this. You might have to step in and diffuse the tension to help those poor children realize that when König is yelling about things, he’s not actually mad. Maybe make cookies with him or something, it’ll help break the ice.

Your kids and their friends are all taken under König’s wings for protection. He’ll go up to bat for any of those kids. He genuinely cares so much about them. Having very select few friendships as a child himself, he’ll go out of his way to ensure his children have healthy social lives.

Sometimes the parents are unsettled by him. This is König’s unsettling form of social anxiety at play, so you’ll have to mediate between other parents and König to make sure they realize that no, he’s not an abusive monster, he just makes horrible jokes about his children. He has very dark humor but plays it straight, which is a horrible combination.

He has had a teacher call CPS on him before, but it was quickly resolved. However, most people are frightened by König when he steps into a room and it’s no different at parent-teacher interviews

He always blows teachers out of the water for how much he cares about his kids getting a quality education. He’s also quite receptive to their advice (if it’s good) and is willing to step in when needed. Teachers also typically find that he’s quite a fun parent volunteer to have on field trips (he is extremely popular)

Some of the more timid kids grow to like König because he tries to ensure all children are included when he’s around. He’s good at making sure everyone feels noticed.

Of course, as said, in the beginning everyone is terrified of the giant foreign soldier man. His kids have to teach their friends to not be afraid of their dad when he’s home.

Later on, this means in late high school his kids' friends consider him a DILF. He’s horrified. Flattered, but horrified. He has a serious talk with you about how to not be a DILF. He genuinely is so upset by the concept. His kids laugh at him all the time because he’s miserable about it.

Konig Dump

Konig Headcanons

[solitarystarrywitch]

💫2025 Pick A Card💫

✨What you need to bring into 2025✨

Using the Crystal Angels oracle deck.

Just something short and simple for my first PAC post <3 This is for the collective so take what resonates, and leave what doesn't.

Pick an angel number that you've been seeing lately or that you feel this strong connection to at the moment.

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💫222💫 Amertrine – Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

Allow your feminine side to creatively inspire you, and your masculine side to give you confidence

If you picked 222, it's time to find balance within your life, your time, and any projects you may have. It will not only be efficient, but very empowering and harmonious.

Spirit says this message is especially for those who are currently experiencing tensions in a friend group, and for those experiencing tensions among work friends/colleagues. Some of you may have two or more friends that are currently having drama together or butting heads, and it is disrupting not just the dynamics and harmony between the conflicting parties, but everyone else. Or tensions among colleagues are significantly affecting the work environment.

Spirit is also telling me that some of you may be the type of person to drop everything to help a friend out. While that's very generous and admirable of you, you need to first ask yourself "is this something I can really take on right now without it disrupting my own life?"

This may also connect with tensions among friends or colleagues. Ask yourself "does whatever they're butting heads about have anything to do with me at all?". If you weren't involved in the first place, don't make yourself involved.

This is your sign to focus on your needs and what you want to achieve in 2025. Finding and creating balance in your life will allow a better flow of energy.

The best analogy I can come up with is it's liked gunked up pipes where the water pressure is really shitty until you clean it out and the flow is much much better. Clear out what you don't need and focus on your goals.

Your recommended crystals to use are ametrine and caribbean calcite. <3

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💫444💫 Aqua Aura – Healthy Communication in Relationships

Heart-to-heart discussions and clear, assertive communication help you understand and be understood

If you picked 444, it's time to work on asking for what you want. It's time to remember that people aren't mind readers, and that it's time to make your desires vocal.

This message is especially for the shy girlies or guys that are pretty passive when making plans and never really make a decision. It's always "oh I'm fine with whatever you want" when in reality, you have a decision in your head but you subconsciously have this rule for yourself that "it can't be you that asks for something, you just have to hope that the person picks the choice that you want too." You can break that rule and it won't be the end of the world. You are allowed to be vocal about what you want. You can also be rejected, and it also won't be the end of the world.

The point is, you never know what may bless you until you ask for it. Don't protect this Schrödinger's cat mindset of "if I dont say what I want I can't be rejected, and the possibility of being told 'yes' is always gonna be there". Find out.

Your recommended crystals are aqua aura and amazonite. <3

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💫111💫 Rhodochrosite – Be Gentle with Yourself

You've been through a lot and need time to heal and recover.

If you picked 111, this is a sign to take the time to recover from events that happened 2024. If nothing necessarily personal and/or big happened to you specifically, this may also be a sign to just destress and take a step back. The holiday seasons are always the most stressful, it is okay to allow yourself time to decompress from the hectic holidays.

I'm also getting from Spirit that this new year may also bring in some moments where afterwards you may need to take your time to process and take a step back from them. Protect your energy and peace, these are not things to compromise or sacrifice.

This is the year to prioritize yourself and your happiness. You can't fill someone else's cup when yours is empty. Provide an overflowing amount of care to yourself to the point where that care and love naturally flows to your inner circle and loved ones as well.

Your recommended crystals are rhodochrosite and rose quartz. <3

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Wishing you all a wonderful 2025 and sending good blessings 💫

[nomhano]

Hinata is so underwritten/develop rant

Hinata is often described as kind, gentle, and compassionate. She dislikes competition and conflict, and although she becomes more "shinobi-like" in Shippuden, her care for her friends and comrades remains constant (Third Naruto Databook). According to the First Naruto Databook, "Although she is the heir to the renowned Hyuga Main House, she is full of compassion and dislikes competition and fighting: such is Hinata’s personality." She is also referred to as "The kind and gentle dancing fighter with feelings for Naruto" (First Naruto Databook). While these traits are admirable, they are not typical of a shinobi. In the Land of Waves arc, we learn that becoming a shinobi requires following strict rules in the field, where emotions must be suppressed to prevent them from interfering with the mission. The shinobi's primary duty is to be a tool for their village and country, even if that means sacrificing personal relationships or friends. Naruto, however, rejects this traditional idea of a shinobi and vows to follow his own nindo, or ninja way. Hinata, deeply inspired by Naruto, adopts his nindo of "never giving up" and "never going back on your word," hoping to grow stronger and more assertive. However, her adoption of this nindo seems more rooted in her own internal struggles than in a desire to become a shinobi.

During the Chunin Exams, it’s revealed that Hinata feels trapped by the immense expectations placed on her as a member of the prestigious Hyuga clan. She battles low self-confidence and feels inferior to her younger sister, Hanabi, who is more skilled in the Gentle Fist technique. Hinata resents her inability to be assertive, a quality she wishes she could change. Her father, Hiashi, essentially gave up on her, favoring Hanabi and showing little concern if Hinata were to die on a mission. As the First Naruto Databook states, "It can be said that Hiashi possesses an even callous strictness concerning the protection of the Hyuga’s dignity, and so he completely abandoned Hinata, who was of lesser ability, and gave thorough training to her younger sister, Hanabi." Additionally, "Currently, her father has given up on her, and she is assigned to difficult missions as a Genin. Even being in that dire situation hasn’t broken her; she hasn’t lost that kindness of hers, and that’s because Naruto was there, inside her heart. And now, Hinata is strengthening herself, soundly and steadily" (First Naruto Databook). Hiashi’s harsh motto, as described in the First Databook, is: "No place for the weak."

This motto only adds to Hinata’s struggles: "Shackled by the strict laws of the Hyuga clan, and further weakened by her inferiority complex towards her younger sister, Hinata is always seeking strength and power. Hinata is never assertive about anything, something she tends to hate about herself" (First Naruto Databook). She admires Naruto so much because he’s the exact opposite of her. Naruto is overflowing with strength, courage, and self-confidence, qualities Hinata aspires to have. She wants to become like him, which is why she applies for the Chunin Exams—to prove that she too can become strong, just like Naruto. Though she dislikes conflict, she fights fiercely against Neji, driven by her desire to change herself.

From my perspective, Hinata’s desire for strength seems more introspective than driven by the need to defeat enemies or gain glory. For her, strength is a path toward self-confidence, self-worth, and faith in herself, rather than a tool for combat. This raises the question: did Hinata truly want to become a shinobi? While I love seeing her in action, being a shinobi doesn’t seem to fully align with her character.

Being a shinobi isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. In this line of work, one may have to take another's life. It’s not entirely improbable that Hinata, despite her gentle nature, would face a situation where she had no choice but to kill in order to protect herself or her comrades. As a member of the Hyuga main branch, Hinata possesses the Byakugan, a highly sought-after dojutsu, which could easily place her in dangerous situations. Given the harsh realities of being a kunoichi, it’s difficult to believe she never took a life throughout her career.

For someone like Hinata, who values kindness and compassion so deeply, how must she have felt in those moments? The emotional toll of taking a life, especially for someone with her personality, would likely be profound and deeply conflicted. I can only wonder how she reconciled that with the path she chose.

It would have been fascinating if Hinata's story had explored the darker aspects of the shinobi system, where children are forced to become soldiers for their village. Given the weight of her clan’s expectations, Hinata had little choice but to follow the path of a shinobi. Perhaps she secretly yearned for a normal life—one free from the constant weight of clan politics, her obligations as the firstborn of the head of the clan, and the pressure to earn her father’s approval. She might have longed for the simple joys of friendship, acceptance, and genuine love from her family. I personally like this idea because it connects back to Kishimoto's original concept for Hinata as a regular city girl, which I just find cute haha. In this idea, Hinata doesn’t walk the path of the shinobi. I don’t think it’s impossible for her to walk the path of a shinobi, but her motivations for doing it will have to change.

I believe Hinata is the type of person who fights primarily to protect her loved ones. However, being a shinobi often means fighting not just for those closest to you, but for your entire village and country. While protecting your village may include safeguarding your loved ones, the broader duty of defending your nation extends beyond them. Hinata's kindness and compassion seem to be what drive her as a shinobi—her desire to protect her comrades, family, and others around her. Growing up feeling unwanted likely fuels this need to protect. As someone who was overlooked and abandoned by her own father, being able to feel needed by others may have given her a sense of purpose as a shinobi. But I still wonder how Hinata will feel if killing someone is a means to protect the one she loves. How would she process the emotions of taking someone's life?

I guess what I want to know is what you think about all this? What path would be more interesting to explore with Hinata’s character?Anyways, thank you for reading this long rant about a side character I have a bit of an unhealthy hyper fixation for lol. 💜

[illegiblewords]

Serious talk about meta under the cut.

I don't know who might need to hear it, but fwiw mental flexibility is a huge part of analysis (and interacting with other humans lol). You need to be able to account for multiple possibilities when examining a work, or understanding a social exchange. You need to be able to separate what is objective fact from your own subjective interpretation and judgment. The most negative interpretation is not automatically the most worthwhile or true. Someone throwing accusations around in-line with their own worst interpretations does not guarantee those accusations are warranted. You are not a bad or stupid person for disagreeing. Shit needs to withstand scrutiny. I don't always strike the right balance myself. I do the best I can but I'm definitely not perfect. Tbh I'm not beyond pettiness either--although I try to keep that out of actual analysis lol. There have been times I've griped to friends privately or blogged about how I felt (sans tags, with spoiler blocks so people can opt out). I've griped recently. I'm bound to gripe again in the future. Some level of griping is inevitable imo and I figure no one is 100% immune.

All that said, even if someone’s take isn't canon AND even if it's something I really dislike--I'd personally rather people follow their passions anyway. Hands down. I could be in the middle of a rant and my answer would still be that the subject of my frustration gets to exist. I'm not the boss and odds are we're going with different versions in our own heads. Discouraging another fan from creating due to my preferences or narrative approach would horrify me. I've seen fandoms where gatekeeping like that killed the creative community and it was fucking awful.

Not everyone is confident in their own judgment. Not everyone faced with a pissed off person trying to use lore and accusations like clubs will feel okay continuing with their own vision. Elitism and manipulation (especially through rhetoric) can be present within analysis. People are not being taught how to recognize those things properly. Analysts aren't always aware or invested enough to even be careful. It’s legit easy to get caught up in ideas or feelings to the point of forgetting about other people’s, and adjusting to account for alternate approaches takes some work. For me at least, I think having a 'no insults' policy and being super careful when it comes to absolute claims (assertions not qualified by 'I think' or 'it could be argued') helps.

Anyway. Just because a person calls something ‘meaningless’ doesn't make it meaningless. Someone pooh-poohing an observation you made doesn't make your observation less true or important. Employing a literary term doesn't mean that individual actually understands the term, how it works, or how to apply it. Which is to say nothing of romantic chemistry or whatever. I encourage readers to extrapolate on this. ‘Shallow’ could apply as much as ‘meaningless’. Denying parallels exist by itself doesn’t actually negate those parallels. Your version of a character may not be the same as the fan next to you’s and that difference doesn't have to detract. There's more I could say on the subject (I've edited out a lot) but basically--just because another fan isn't into what you're doing doesn't automatically make what you're doing wrong, immoral, shoddy, or otherwise less.

Seriously, vet shit. Question the entire premise an analyst tries to establish then decide for yourself if it holds water. Turn over word choices and assertions in your head before deciding if they're appropriate. Do it to me too. I don't care if someone is the holy goddamn emperor of analysts. Just because a person says something is good or bad, true or false, whatever the hell doesn't make it so. Just because a person uses a technical term doesn't mean they're discussing it effectively. Quality of argument matters beyond the packaging it’s wrapped in. It's important to protect yourself from people whose priority is enforcing their own preferences, including dismissing things they aren't partial to.

I just don't want anyone shamed silent man. Not even people whose takes drive me up the fucking wall. Neither I nor any other analyst is an authority here. And there are people who are absolutely ready to take advantage of other people’s insecurities to assert themselves. Might not even be malicious, just indifferent.

For me, analysis feels kind of like uncovering a dinosaur skeleton. I want to share the cool and exciting things I find with other people. Sometimes I might be sorting out what my own thoughts and feelings are. It's also possible to examine why you're uncomfortable with something, or why you love something another person hates, while making very clear what is YOUR READING and not THE READING. Offering a variety of possibilities is very different from presenting yourself as the only correct one. One note at the end when everything else was insulting and intolerant is like a band-aid over a wound.

EDIT: As a last point, that I'm throwing in just-in-case. If anyone reading this thinks they may have overreached and done stuff I've mentioned + feels shitty about it… that's still not the end of the world. It’s okay. This is hard stuff to learn and I really don't think anyone's perfect at it. Worth the effort though. Just gotta take a deep breath, acknowledge you're a fallible human same as everyone else, and do the best you can going forward. Life goes on.

[animeyanderelover]

Anon: Chrollo with a passive s/o?

Tw: Yandere themes, unhealthy mindset, unhealthy relationship, possessive behavior, obsession, manipulation, threats, blackmailing, abduction, isolation

Passive s/o

📖 Having a more passive personality doesn't have to imply automatically something negative but with Chrollo it will definitely escalate as he is quick to recognize that he can use certain traits of yours to his own advantage. That may include your fear of conflict and confrontation and your struggles to make decisions all by yourself as you're more comfortable going with the flow. No matter how subtle those traits of yours might be, Chrollo will amplify them to the very extreme until you're basically relying on him to make the decisions for you. He doesn't mind, in fact appreciates the co-dependency you start to develop with time on him. With manipulation and the occasional help of the other spiders he basically makes himself into your comfort zone, one you hesitate to leave without as you're not overly fond of being confronted with new things. You feel more comfortable having him reassuring you and deciding as you trust his own judgement more than your own.

📖 Chrollo is a huge control freak so the moment he notices that your eyes always fly to him when someone presents you with a choice as if asking him for help to pick, he's rather delighted. Honestly, I feel like Chrollo's character in general would be bad for someone passive who tends to not speak up for themselves or voice their opinion. Chrollo is confident, he's assertive and very knowledgable and smart too so even if he wouldn't have any bad intentions, you'd probably end up letting him take charge anyways. His charisma and leadership barely leave any room for you to make a decision, his sheer confidence and intelligence even reassures you since you can always delude yourself into thinking that he knows better and for that can make the better choices. An idea that Chrollo subtly feeds you to only fuel your reliance on him. Where you hesitate to speak up, he will and if you fail to set boundaries with people who aren't him, he will very quickly clarify them to you and the other person.

📖 The romantic relationship is half-consensual and half-forced. You have feelings by Chrollo at this rate, that's just the wonder of his charming personality but you also have never considered having a romantic relationship before. Chrollo coerces you into agreeing though, even if only so that he can tell himself that you also love him and to use this moment later on against you for the purpose of manipulation. He has broken you already down and your fear to disappoint him and push your source of comfort away from you by denying him just lead you into saying yes, yet another failure to speak up your own mind. It's at the very latest after your abduction where he reveals his true identity that you show signs of rebellion, even if your fear and hesitant personality sober possibly fierce insults and words down into a soft and cautious tone. By now there is too much damage that has been done by him and instead you find yourself continuing to go along with his flow as you quickly realize that by doing so, your life will just be a tiny bit quieter and peaceful. You want to avoid troubles and discussions if possible.

📖 All of his mindgames aside, it is important to say that Chrollo actually is interested in your real thoughts and feelings. You just swallow every idea, thought and feeling down instead of showing it, especially after your abduction. So perhaps it's surprising for you when Chrollo sometimes converses with you and suddenly asks you about your own opinion about something, be it a philosophical question or your view of the world or even himself. Such spontanous questions always overwhelm you a bit, especially if you have never thought about it before. You're always trying to gauge his reaction in favor of not saying anything he might disagree with but it's hard to emotionally read him as he purposely makes it difficult for you. He wants to know what you think after all and doesn't want you to repeat words he has spoken before. Speak to him with your own words. He's surprisingly encouraging during such moments, hearing you speak your own mind a precious, little treat as he watches and listens to his darling spider intently.

[theladyofshalott1989]

Sebastian Sallow Myers-Briggs Type // Like Moths to a Flame Series (Seb x Male MC)

Since my series is told from Sebastian's POV, I thought I would take the Myers-Briggs test from his perspective too. My vision of Sebastian is apparently an ENTJ. The write-up is so scary accurate that it's freaking me out. LMAO. @honeybadgerdontcare394 - Thanks for saying you were interested in reading this (and taking one for your vision of Sebastian too!). @scilla-aster (if you want to try this too!!) I am so curious to see what other writers' versions of Sebastian's personality are. When I read other Hogwarts: Legacy stories, I like to imagine hundreds of different alternative universes where our Bash/Seb/(*insert nickname of choice here*) ends up happy and fulfilled with all our various OCs. (I have a very hard time reading stories that don't end happily for Bash.)

Notes re: his romantic compatibility with Damien (an ENFP), since they are essentially half-opposites (wow!): ENTJs primarily look for intellectual stimulation. As one of the most cerebral personality types, they enjoy debates, and they look for partners who open their minds to new ideas. ENTJs have a treasure chest of knowledge that they love to share with the right person.

^ Sebastian lucked out that Damien is a Ravenclaw and has an extremely curious mind.

ENTJs appreciate partners who can help them get in touch with their feelings because this isn’t something that comes naturally to people of this personality type.

I love this ^ because in my series Sebastian really struggles to understand and express his feelings. Damien is very in tune with his emotions and is not afraid to act on them. ENFPs see ENTJs for who they really are. ENTJs aren’t typically seen as warm people, but they tend to be extremely helpful, generous, and supportive. As one of the personality types who are most interested in people, ENFPs look deeper and notice traits about ENTJs that other people don’t see.

^ Don't mind me; just tearing up here. LMAO. I hope this came across in my series because it's one of the main reasons I wrote it. Sebastian needs someone to see him for who he truly is, and I'd like to think Damien does.

Their communication style chart (Seb - ENTJ, Damien - ENFP):

ENTJs are assertive, competitive, and like a good challenge. At their best, they are bold and confident leaders who are willing to take unpopular action. ENTJs may be overly proud, boisterous, and willing to manipulate others to achieve their goals. At their worst, they can be narcissistic, overly focused on their own needs, and lack empathy for others.

ENFPs often support, openly sympathize, and actively offer help to others At their best, they are gentle sympathizers, who are easily trusted and accepted. ENFPs may be overly revealing and have difficulty being alone. At their worst, they can require too much attention and admiration from others and be excessively involved in the affairs of others.

YUPPPPPPPPPPPPPP. Okay, I'm done now. Here's a silly pic of Sebastian for reading this far :)

[blessedarethebinarybreakers]

Don't you think there's better ways of showing support for Palestinians/Israeli Christians than by perpetuating the "Jesus was Palestinian" myth that people constantly try and use to deny Jewish indigeneity. Allegory or not, it's not a great look for someone who purports to be against that kind of erasure and supercessionism. Also, having 1 line about how his death was the Empire's fault so don't blame the Jews is meaningless when in this allegory, the Empire (Israeli government) *is* Jewish

(anyone curious about what anon's referring to, I believe it's my poem here)

Hey there anon, thank you for your feedback. In this situation where various marginalized peoples are being pitted against each other (and/or conflated with political groups), I've been struggling to make sure my words don't add to the misinformation and harm. So whenever someone takes the time to remind me of that danger, I'll take the time to re-examine my words — even if I end up standing by them, as I mostly do in this case.

I can't promise to say and do all the perfect things, because there isn't time to waste getting my words just right before saying something — people are dying right now (and yes, anon, that includes those Israelis who are still hostages of Hamas, who are also endangered by Israel's continued attacks.)

I have been spending much of my free time these past few months learning more about Israel and Palestine, and I still don't feel I'm even close to knowing enough! But I've listened to those who are actually in the midst of the violence who say that all of us across the world must join their cry now, not letting our ignorance be an excuse. That means there have been a few things I've said that I then had to re-consider after learning more.

...

Just a few days ago, I was actually trying to look into the origins of the statement that "Jesus was a Palestinian Jew." (Btw if anyone knows the origins of this statement, please hit me up!)

Arguments against it note that the term "Palestinian" didn't exist in Jesus' day. Looking into the accuracy of that statement is still on my to-do list; I did skim over this article calling it a myth but yeah, still digging. Regardless, sure, I don't think Jesus called himself a Palestinian in his lifetime.

That doesn't necessarily mean that the statement is useless, however. I do very much believe that if Jesus were born today, in the same place, he'd be born to a Jewish Palestinian family, not an Israeli one.

That does not erase his Jewishness; it confirms God's "preferential option for the poor," God's choice to side with and become one with the most oppressed and discarded. It also does not assert that Jewish persons don't "belong" in the region — only that the modern nation/colony Israel isn't necessary for them to live and thrive there.

All that said, if anyone has more info on the statement that "Jesus was a Palestinian" — its origins, how it's been used over the years — I would absolutely like to examine it further. For now, I stand by the phrase, with an openness to re-considering that with further education.

...

I feel more confident in talking about Empire — how I used it in my poem, versus how you've interpreted it. I'm genuinely grateful to you for bringing your reading of it to my attention, because it's shown me that my words weren't clear enough there!

In these verses from my poem:

"...And now, as then, some may blame Jesus’s death on his own Jewish people — but resist this lie! Now as then the crime is Empire’s and those of us who would cast stones should ponder first what our nations gain from genocide. ..."

You interpret Empire as being Israel.

My intention was that Empire with a capital E is a much larger network of all imperial forces on earth. Israel is entangled in that, and directly backed and funded by those forces. My own country, the United States, is one of the nations at the helm of Empire.

So when I talk of Empire being to blame, I'm not saying just Israel — honestly, I'm personally more concerned with the US's complicity, because I feel as a US citizen I can help demand they stop.

So I'm going to rework that bit to better express what I mean by Empire, so it doesn't sound like I'm focusing only on Israel. Empire is so much bigger than any one state, colony, or government.

...

Okay, I'm out of steam. I'm going to link a few pieces that have been helping me frame all that's going on right now to resist pitting marginalized groups against each other:

This art piece naming "contradicting truths"

This article by Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg also naming seemingly contradictory truths

Since I didn't really get deep into this part of your ask, I also appreciate this article discussing the question of indigeneity. It discards the "need" to figure out "who was there first" in favor of exploring intersecting histories.

Oh also, because you claim that the Israeli government "is Jewish," I think discussions on how Israel isn't actually a safe haven for all Jews, only those that fit into their goals, are vital.

[vro0ms-evil-twin]

@rosekoite asked me to say more about assertive communication due to this post. This is very simplified but here we go.

⚠️ LONG POST! ⚠️

INTRODUCTION

Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself truthfully and honestly while respecting yourself and others, in a way that's adequate contextually and based on your personal goals. The purpose of assertive communication is to be authentic and honest with ourselves and others. Period. Its point is NOT to obtain things from others and it's NOT a "better" or more efficient way of communicating in that sense.

In fact, very importantly, sometimes assertive communication IS NOT the best choice. For example, there are work situations during which you won't choose to be assertive and honest with your boss if you want to keep your job. There's a time and place for assertive communication and it's a choice you have to make depending on what's important to you at that time (eg keeping your job or being authentic?).

So why choose assertive communication when you can? When used adequately, it helps you clarify your needs, thoughts, and opinions. It makes you feel more in line with yourself. It teaches you to listen to yourself, and to express yourself and your needs. It helps with self confidence, self esteem, and trust in others. It can also help during conflicts. It makes you feel more in control of your life and better overall. I'd say it also helps with mentalizing, which is the ability to understand your and other people's mental states.

TYPES OF COMMUNICATION

Communication between two people works like this :

The responsibility is shared 50/50 between the two people. As the source, you're responsible for expressing all the relevant information clearly, honestly, and in a way that's coherent verbally and non verbally. As the receiver, you're responsible for being available and attentive. However, the message also goes through the context of your relationship, as well as a communication channel (aka it's not the same thing to talk face to face, on the phone, or by text), and this can lead to misunderstandings and distorsions.

According to this model there are different types of communications that we may all use at different times :

Inhibited behavior leads you to not express how you feel or what you think because you feel like you're less entitled to do so than others, you're scared you're going to be judged, or you put others needs and opinions before your own.

Aggressive behavior leads you to force how you feel and think upon others, and not leave any space for them to express themselves. You do not listen to what they have to say, and do not take what they feel and think into account.

Manipulative behavior can be lying, or just not being completely truthful about how you feel or what you think, but also irony, sarcasm, any type of communication that's indirect (making light of things that aren't, making someone else express your opinion for you, exaggerating, etc.)

Now the goal of assertive behavior is to minimize the distorsions and respect the 50/50 division of the responsibility in the communication by expressing truthfully and directly how you feel and what you think, without justifying yourself, in a way that's coherent on the verbal and non verbal level.

Again it doesn't mean it will "work" in the end in the sense of producing your desired outcome. However it will work in 1) respecting yourself by expressing yourself instead of silencing yourself 2) respecting the other party by not overpowering them 3) being honest, truthful, and authentic.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN IN PRACTICE?

Assertiveness requires 3 things :

Attitude : being sincere, honest with yourself and others, but also open to hearing their side of things and accepting that it might be different to yours

Involvement : talking about yourself, your emotions, and your thoughts as long as they're not disrespectful to the other party. Do NOT generalise. This is about YOU.

Precision : stay focused on a specific, clear aspect of things. If you're talking about something else, focus on behaviors and not character. Try to stay on the factual side of things rather than get into opinions.

EXAMPLES :

COMPLIMENT SOMEONE

(eg you like someone's content)

Don't : your blog is cool! (you're not involved, you're not precise!)

Do : I love the edits you post on your blog, I find them really beautiful.

RECEIVE A COMPLIMENT

(eg someone likes your edits)

Don't : aw thanks! or nah it's nothing! (you're maybe not honest, you're not involved, you're not precise!)

Do : I really appreciate your kind words it makes me very happy OR if you honestly disagree with the compliment which is ok as well thank you, I'm not too happy with this edit myself

EXPRESS A NEED, ASK FOR SOMETHING

(eg you're getting disrespectful anons)

Don't : not say anything or answer them kindly anyway or answer them unkindly (it's not precise, it's not honest, it's not involved)

Do : I would like it if you were more polite next time, I don't like being talked to that way

(remember : sometimes being assertive is not the best choice, you don’t need to engage every hateful anon, this is an example)

SAY NO, NEGOTIATE

(eg your anon is demanding you write the next chapter of your fic)

Don't : sorry I will get to it as soon as I can or fuck off anon or the problem is I'm having so much work and I broke my favorite mug and... (you're not honest! you're not precise! you're justifying yourself!)

Do : No. You can elaborate depending on how you feel IF YOU WANT but be careful not to start justifying yourself : I feel pressured when you keep asking or I'm worried you're going to be disappointed with me, but I can't/don't want to right now.

EXPRESS CRITICISM, DISAGREE

(eg anon is hateful again)

Don't : fuck you or you're an idiot (you're getting overwhelmed by your emotions, you're generalizing, you're not precise, you're not involved)

Do : I understand that you are frustrated but it hurts me when you do this / I don’t appreciate the way you’re talking to me (and I will not accept it)

RECEIVE CRITICISM

When receiving criticism, we will initially assume the person is justified and not wishing us harm.

Don't : you're just being a hater fuck you or omg they're right I suck as a person (you're getting overwhelmed by your emotions, you're not precise, you're not listening)

Do : clarify if necessary I don't understand what I did wrong can you explain it to me? then either agree and commit to doing better I admit that I was too aggressive in my answer and I will be more mindful from now or don't agree and ask for clarification I was not aggressive towards you so can you clarify what it is that made you angry?

BUT! Maybe the person is unjustified and does wish us harm! If so, there's several possibilities

You want to keep the relationship : clarify (if necessary or if they’re attacking your character instead of criticizing specific behaviors) + concede more or less vaguely + ask the person to do better in return = I'm sorry I don't understand what I did wrong can you explain it to me? [...] Okay I hear you, there's stuff I'm doing that you don't like. I want to say it's not clear to me what you're unhappy with and it makes me confused, I would like it if you were more precise so I can do better next time.

You want to keep the relationship but the person is taking it too far : refuse the confrontation = I refuse to talk to you when you're talking to me that way / I want to talk this through with you but I'm not feeling heard right now so I'll come back later + physically LEAVE

You don't care about the relationship : stay vague + stop the conversation + leave = It's your opinion, I'm not interested in talking about this further + LEAVE

These are all very simplified examples and it may seem a bit artificial at first but it gets easier with practice. Remember to 1) talk about yourself 2) be honest 3) be precise.

On the other hand, you also need to handle the other 50% of the communication aka receiving. Listen and be attentive. Accept that they might not agree with you, might think differently, might not be able to give you what you want. We're not trying to convince anyone here, we're just trying to be honest with ourselves and others.

Finally I want to remind everyone that as with all psychological tools, it is a TOOL and some people will use it in wrong ways. First of all, using these as a way to obtain things from people is NOT assertive communication, it's manipulation. Second of all, it doesn't mean that this tool is not useful when used properly!

[rf-times]

Hello. I saw your post on tradwives and I wanted to ask a question. I am an aspiring tradwife and an ex-feminist. And I'm genuinely curious about what you said. I respect your opinions and understand you want the best for women and yourself too.

Do you believe that what you said applies to most tradwives or just white tradwives in first world countries? Additionally, in my personal experience, I did not have a working mother but I was pushed into university even when I knew I couldn't handle it. Isn't it better for women who cannot handle the competitive job world to become a tradwife? Particularly if they're naturally submissive, like housework and submitting to someone who can make their decisions for them? I have talked to really good traditional men who are good people and their masculinity consists of being strong and protective men instead of the abusive ones feminists think they generally are.

That's not exactly one question so apologies for that. I mean this all in good spirit and I genuinely want to know. Have a good day!

On the contrary, women who feel overwhelmed and scared by the world, who just want a nice protective man to look after them, and who have people pleasing tendencies and feel incapable to handle independence, are the women who are most vulnerable and susceptible to abuse. If your motivation for becoming a tradwife is that are scared of independence then what leverage do you have if the men you rely on to look after you fail you in some way? If you cannot handle independence you will find it so much harder to be able to leave.

What exactly do you think abusive men look like? Do you think they announce themselves to everyone in any given circumstance? You say you've spoken to really good traditional men, how well do you know them really? How well do the women who get abused by their partners know their men? Abusiveness is virtually never obvious and manifests in many ways across a relationship, as does negligence which is how so many women who are supposedly being 'provided for' end up bearing the full brunt of managing a household and finding that if they are ever sick or need anything, their husbands leave them.

I don't believe in 'natural submissiveness', especially in women. I myself am soft-spoken, have trouble asserting myself and often fall into people-pleasing patterns including a lifelong struggle with subconsciously and consciously pleasing and coddling the men around me. Many women are the same, is this a natural fixture of our personalities that we should just fall into and let men decide things for us? Or is it a response to social conditioning and a brutal world designed to undermine women's confidence in ourselves and our ability to participate in society as equals so that we rely on men? I encourage you to look beyond your fears and insecurities to see what you're really capable of.

What I've said about tradwives applies to places where women have more choices and expectations to participate in the external economy/workforce and are told they could potentially succeed in capitalism in their own right. Because it is a different thought process for women who are given no opportunity or expectation to be defined beyond wifehood and motherhood. The very notion of 'tradwife' is western centric, as its all about returning to so called 'traditional' roots.

[little-miss-understood]

Dearest Chloe, Chapter Two

For the most part, the memories of her former class had faded. Sabrina did occasionally reflect back on the time spent with them, whether or not it was all a waste considering how she was, and then there were the dreams which would come where she'd find herself under Chloe's beck and call yet again. The good thing about the dreams, of course, was that she would wake up and realize there was nothing to worry about. Her life had moved forward, Chloe was far away, and so was she. It had been five years since she'd seen anyone from her old class; it had taken some convincing for her father to agree but at the end of lycee, Sabrina made the decision to move away for university.

“Well, I'm just not sure-”

“Roger, you must let your daughter make her own decisions on this. She has been in Paris most of her life and Nantes isn't far away.” Madame Archambault was assertive in her words but not to the point of being overbearing. Sabrina had been worried about how this particular meeting would go. For the most part her father, Roger, had stayed out of sessions between her and her therapist aside from a few times where he was needed in order for him to understand what had truly happened to his daughter over the years. It had repaired their relationship, but getting him to let go of her so she could do university in another city was asking a lot.

“Is this a part of...that “healing process” thing you've mentioned before?”

Nodding, Madame Archambault continued on. “This would be beneficial for that, but also for the continued growth of your daughter's confidence. It is a decision that she has come to on her own.”

Roger sighed, and then looked at Sabrina in the eyes. “I didn't get so much of what you've been through...that's not a mistake I want to make again. If you want to do this Sabrina, and you're sure about it, I can get behind your choice.”

-

Nantes had been a change of pace and what she needed. Certainly not as many people as Paris, and she knew no one, but that was the point. A completely new start as she began her studies. Lycee had been different in that way as well but getting out of Paris was the bigger break; she felt like she could breathe easier here than at any point in her old city. Dorm living was interesting; she didn't really see her roommate much and for the most part had the room to herself. Campus life was turning into freedom.

Her studies had taken her into Accounting and Math; not the most exciting of subjects but the prospects excited Sabrina and she had risen fast to the top of her classes. For electives, Sabrina chose painting and soccer, which amused some in the school to no end but she had become dependable to the school's team and it kept her in shape. There was stability in her life, but also some concern.

-

“Is it...okay if I don't really have many friends?”

The subject hadn't come up much as she was so busy, but now Sabrina had to ask that question as she noticed so many around her in groups or getting together, and she largely only had herself.

On the other side of the screen, Madame Archambault let out a small hum. “Do you believe it's an issue, or is it based on what you see from others? As long as you're content Sabrina. You have your priorities and your healthy boundaries, it's possible that you just haven't run across those who fit with you yet. Give it time and remember, there is nothing wrong with who you are as a person, and you are worthy of friends who respect that.

-

It had turned out Sabrina's fears were unfounded; it took a couple of years but she had developed a small group from her various classes to hang out with. All of the friendships felt more comfortable and natural than anything she had before. No one asking for them to do her homework, no weird taking and robbing of everything she was as a person. If anything, the people she had in her life now appreciated her and were forgiving of any flaws. These were all relationships built on mutual respect, they were healthy, and for that Sabrina was grateful.

At this point, nearing the end of her studies and with graduation approaching, Sabrina decided to finally confront another of her mind's demons, perhaps the biggest overall and what had led her into such a deeply unhealthy situation in the first place.

-

“I think I like women.”

Saying it out loud was freeing but Sabrina was nervous and ashamed. It had taken her some time to even consider that her sexuality wasn't on the same path of so many of her peers. She had crushes on boys over the years, but very few had ever stuck and it was the realization that what she had felt for Chloe, the endless devotion and fawning, practically worshipping the ground the other girl had walked on for months on end, was love.

Love for another girl, one who couldn't ever feel the same way in return.

“There is nothing wrong with loving the same sex, it is just as natural as loving a man, Sabrina. I'm very proud of your breakthrough and you should be as well.”

-

She wasn't sure if dating was in her immediate future or not; she'd only told one person after all. But the weight had been lifted off of her shoulders. Perhaps in knowing what not to look for she could find what would work in time; there was no rush. She didn't need a relationship to feel whole.

More and more Sabrina felt like she was getting to understand all parts of herself.

-

It was a plain envelope that came through the mail and passed onto her by her father; an invitation to a ten-year reunion of her class, from her former homeroom teacher Madame Bustier. It welcomed anyone from the year back to what would be an “informal picnic”, which wouldn't be limited to just her former class but across the school.

Sabrina thought for a moment, pondering whether or not to tear the whole thing up and throw it into the garbage. She didn't have to go back and see anyone again. She didn't need any of that sort of closure in her life.

But.

She was strong enough now to confront a figure from her past. She did wish to know the truth, about what the other girl had wanted from Sabrina to begin with. Even if the answers to that question were painful, she could handle it.

-

Which is how Sabrina found herself standing outside her old College in the rain. Determined, sure of herself, and composed.

[feralkwe]

D, L, and U for... U!

D - Director - How much do they feel the need to have control over their life? Do they spend a lot of time telling others what to do or and they more likely to be more obedient to others?

Kit has tried time and again to take control of her own life. It's why she chose being an outcast over what was expected of her among the other viera. It might have been a rash choice, but it was her choice to leave. Because so much about being a Scion and Hero is out of her hands, she is sure to assert herself when the moment arises. This might be in who she chooses to love or trust (which she can be stubborn about), or in how she protects those around her (again, stubborn).

L - Lover - How do they show love? Do they love themselves? Do they believe that all you need is love?

A youngish kit (ha!)by viera standards she may be, but she's not naive enough to believe that love is going to solve the problems of the day. She knows she has to put the work in, and it's something that drives her on when she feels like she just can't pick up one more burden. Love is what helps her find that one more step to take.

As far as loving herself, I think she's on the right track. She's grown a lot since leaving the jungle, gaining confidence in herself, and her own worth outside of being a Warrior of Light.

Kit is a doer. She is going to do things for you if she loves you, whether it be protecting you, offering physical affection, or doing little acts of kindness. She'll be there for you in your darkest time, and celebrate your joys in equal measure.

U - Ugly - What traits to they find unattractive in others? Do they have any of those traits themselves?

Ooh this is a fun one because she really dislikes deception. Kit will pick up her axe (or whatever weapon) for you and your cause, and all she asks is that you be honest about what you're aiming her at. As you can imagine this has been A Problem in her personal life.

Because of this she tries to be as honest as she can about everything. She loathes not being able to be truthful, and prefers not to have to hide things. This has made some of her adventures a little complicated, both in situations where the truth was tied up in necessity and when others have misled her.

Send me asks about Kit!

[fizzingwizard]

I am using being sick as my excuse for this rant

My pet peeve, as someone who's lived abroad for about ten years total, with my fellow expats...

Some people decide to live abroad, by their own personal choice, because they're interested in getting to know another place and way of living. They aren't forced - they aren't desperate for a job or running from war or gang violence. They (myself included) are privileged people who enjoy travel and adventure.

But for those same reasons, some of these people are so entitled! It drives me up the wall. You chose to come to another country, and now all you can do is complain about it. Why don't you go home?

Of course it's okay to talk about things that are difficult or confusing and warn other expats about "foreigner services" which are actually really unhelpful and whatnot. That's not what I'm talking about.

I'm talking about the English teacher who makes fun of their own students for being shy ("Kids in my country are way more assertive and confident!") or for having different boundaries. "In my country it's not like that! These kids are oversensitive!" You're not in your country, genius. You would think that pertinent reminder is all they'd need to realize they're being a jerk - nope! "But I have to understand it!" they say. You have to understand it... to what end? To validate it?? To validate a different culture's way of doing things??? Hon, if that's how you feel, you are not ready to leave your home country. You don't get to decide if something's legitimate based on whether or not you can easily and organically understand it. These are societal norms baked deep into the culture - did you really think you were gonna show up and blow everyone away with your exciting foreignness and they'd all change their ways to be the same as your clearly superior ones???

I know these people don't mean it like that and would balk at such a description, but... what can I say... the shoe fits.

It especially bugs me when it involves kids. Because we've all been kids, so we should all know how confusing it is to be one and how little responsible children are for the cultural norms they absorb. But it makes no more sense when it involves adults either because again... it's their country and their culture.

But there's always some expat who is so baffled that "anyone could think this food tastes good!" or that "anyone actually thinks masks are useful!" Like I get that the food doesn't match your tastes. I get that the information about masks in your home country is very different from here. You're entitled to feel that way... but you're not entitled to make a mockery of the country you CHOSE to go live in for being used to different things.

That is the bottom line. You chose to be here!! No one is twisting your arm. Why would anyone decide to go work and live abroad without any intention of being open to different perspectives? When you travel you experience new horizons, both literal and figurative. You don't have to write over your own background. You simply have to have the basic capacity to appreciate human diversity.

You don't have to understand. You just don't! When I first moved to Japan, I often said "I never felt more like an American." That was because, at that time, the cultural differences were more stark - things surprised me almost every day. Occasionally there were things that didn't sit right with me. But I knew two things. One, I knew that my at the time very short experience of a couple years in Japan was nowhere near enough time to understand an element of culture, especially to the point of being able to criticize it. And two, I knew that regardless of how I may feel, it's not my culture - I'm the guest - I'm the one who needs to make allowances. In return, the vast majority of people I met also made allowances for my own many cultural faux pas - because they're nice and not idiots and knew they can't expect a foreigner to know the ins and outs of their culture like a native.

Fast forward to now. It's been almost ten years. I no longer feel surprised every day. Things I thought I'd never get used to are part of the daily routine. Things I thought I'd always miss about the US... I don't really miss anymore! The gaps that were made when I moved have been filled with the things I found here. If I ever move back, or to somewhere else, the same thing will no doubt happen again. That's what time does - time, and openness to change.

And many of the things that "didn't sit right with me" in the beginning... I've come to see why they work here. Or why they're valued. Or, at the very least, that even if the Japanese way of doing things may leave something to be desired... the American way I was accustomed to isn't actually any better x'D

I'm not perfect, but I can say I didn't come here with pretensions. I never assumed that because I'm an American, I know the right way of doing things and the people I meet should "learn" from me. I came here fully expecting that I would be the one learning from what I found here.

So these certain chatty expats (only certain people! - many expats are wonderful) just baffle me. It's like, travel is expensive... there have got to be cheaper ways of deluding yourself that you've got everything figured out and everyone else has it backwards haha.

I'm sure I sound rather harsh. It's just feeling a bit fed up from being sick and reading too much nonsense xP But even though most of those people don't have any bad intentions, it's just so weird to me, some of the things they complain about. "Students in Japan aren't like students in the US and I think there's something wrong with them!" No, my dude, they're kids. There's nothing wrong with them. What's wrong with you, the guy who got on the plane to leave the US in the first place?

[therealmistressmidnight]

Myths About Submissives: Breaking down Common Misconception

The world of BDSM is vast and diverse, and yet, certain myths and stereotypes about submissives persist. these misconceptions not only misunderstand the roles of the role of a submissive but can also discourage people from exploring a dynamic they might find fulfilling. As someone who identifies as a submissive with bratty tendencies, I want to shed light on the truth behind these roles and debunk some of the most common myths.

Myth 1: submissives are week and passive

this is one of the most Common and frustrating misconceptions, submissives are often seen as lacking strength or being inherently passive, but nothing could be further than the truth

in reality submission takes complete trust, self-awareness, and emotional resilience. submissives actively choose to surrender control to their dominate partner, and that choice itself takes immense courage and strength. Submissiveness is in no way about weakness -it's about creating a space where vulnerability can be explored and empowering

Myth 2: submissives always want to be controlled

The idea that submissives are "on" 24/7 is another common misunderstanding. while some enjoy full-time dynamics, many others only engage in their role during negotiated scenes or specific situation .

Outside those moments, submissives are those with autonomy, agency, and the same need for balance as anyone else. being submissive doesn't mean forfeiting your independence or personality-it means choosing to explore a side of yourself in a consensual, structured way.

Myth 3: submissives have no limit or say (Gross)

this myth is not only wrong but absolutely disgusting but dangerous. A healthy D/S dynamic is built on mutual respect, communication, and consent. submissives have the absolute right and set to boundaries, express their desires, and use safe words or say no.

a true dominate partner will know and understand that submission is a gift, not something that can be taken or forced at least not in a healthy dynamic and should not be taken for granted. the idea that a submissive has no say in their experience is both gross and ignores the cornerstone of BDSM: consent and safety.

Myth 4: submissives are submissive in all areas of life

people tent to assume that people who are submissive in the bedroom are also submissive in their daily life. while this this may be true for some it's not for everyone, it's far from universal.

many submissives are assertive, confidant, and even dominate in their own carriers, relationships and personal lives. BDSM can be just one aspect in your life or identity without defining it.

Myth 5: Submissives "ARE NOT DAMAGED OR BROKEN"!

Do not ever think that this is the case, this is such a harmful stereotype that make it sound like people only engage in submission because of trauma or low-self-esteem. while admittedly someone's past or trauma may shape someone's preferences, submission is not linked to negative emotions

many submissives find their role fulfilling, empowering, and away to explore trust and intimacy. it's in no way about being broken it's about exploring a part of yourself that is authentic and even exciting.

The Reality of Submission

Submission is aa varied and unique as the people who explore it. whether someone is a brat, a service sub, or enjoys occasional role play, there's no one-size-fits all definition of what it means to be submissive

At its core submission is about trust, communication, and connection. it's not all about making someone give up their power but choosing to share it in a way that feels meaningful and satisfying.

Why Understanding these Myths are Important.

breaking down these common misconceptions is important not just for exploring BDSM but for anyone looking to understand it better. by challenging these myths, we can create space for curiosity, education, and acceptance.

If you ever found yourself curious about submission or found yourself hesitant because of any of these myths, know this: you define your role, your boundaries, and your experiences. no one else.

let's keep the conversation going-what are some myths or misunderstandings about submissives you've encountered? how did you navigate them? share your thoughts below

[poemshubs]

12 Famous Poems About Being Positive in Life

Poetry has the remarkable ability to capture and convey the most profound emotions, thoughts, and states of mind. Among the various themes that poets explore, positivity and the affirmation of life’s value resonate across cultures and centuries. These poems about being positive in life offer reflections on hope, perseverance, and the strength to overcome adversity. In this article, we will examine twelve famous poems that inspire a positive outlook on life. Each poem will be analyzed to uncover its message and the way it encourages readers to embrace a hopeful and resilient mindset.

1. “The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost

One of the most iconic poems about life’s choices and their consequences, The Road Not Taken emphasizes the value of making decisions and following one’s own path.

“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth.”

In this poem, Robert Frost reflects on the nature of choices in life. While the narrator faces a difficult decision, the tone is not one of regret but of acceptance and curiosity. The idea of taking the “road less traveled” speaks to optimism — the notion that even though we may not always know what lies ahead, embracing our unique choices can lead to fulfilling experiences. Frost encourages readers to remain positive and embrace the unknown, as every decision has the potential to shape one’s journey in ways that will later be appreciated.

2. “Still I Rise” by Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou’s Still I Rise is a powerful anthem of resilience, defiance, and confidence in the face of adversity. It speaks to overcoming oppression and personal struggle, ultimately celebrating one’s inner strength.

“You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise.”

Angelou’s poem embodies a spirit of perseverance. Despite the external forces that may seek to bring her down, the speaker rises again and again. The repetitive phrase “I’ll rise” serves as both a defiant declaration and a source of empowerment. It reminds readers that no matter how many times they fall or face obstacles, they have the power to rise above them. The message is clear: positivity is not just about facing life’s challenges but about confronting them with strength and pride.

3. “Invictus” by William Ernest Henley

Invictus, meaning “unconquered,” is a short but compelling poem about maintaining strength and dignity in the face of life’s challenges.

“I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.”

Henley’s lines encapsulate the essence of self-determination and resilience. The speaker in the poem refuses to succumb to external forces, asserting control over their own destiny. The notion of mastering one’s fate and being the captain of one’s soul conveys an unshakeable sense of personal agency. This poem encourages readers to maintain a positive attitude even in the darkest times, believing in their own ability to overcome adversity and shape their future.

4. “If—” by Rudyard Kipling

Rudyard Kipling’s If— offers a set of guidelines for living a virtuous and resilient life. The poem encourages readers to maintain composure and grace under pressure and to persevere through challenges with optimism.

“If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too…”

Kipling’s poem presents a stoic vision of resilience and positive living. The speaker in If— encourages the reader to rise above doubt, fear, and adversity. The key theme here is emotional balance—being able to handle both triumph and disaster with equanimity. The poem suggests that maintaining a steady and positive mindset, regardless of the external circumstances, is one of the highest virtues a person can achieve. The poem serves as a reminder that positivity is an internal choice, one rooted in self-discipline and emotional intelligence.

5. “The Peace of Wild Things” by Wendell Berry

Wendell Berry’s The Peace of Wild Things explores how nature offers solace and restoration, urging us to find calm and positivity in the world around us, even in moments of distress.

“When despair for the world grows in me And I wake in the night at the least sound In fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake Rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.”

Berry’s poem emphasizes the restorative power of nature. In moments of despair, the speaker finds peace in the simple presence of natural beauty. This act of seeking solace in the world around us reflects the importance of grounding oneself in the present moment and finding comfort in life’s simple pleasures. Berry advocates for a positive mindset through the acceptance of life’s uncertainties, encouraging us to focus on what is beautiful and life-affirming in the natural world, even when everything else seems uncertain.

6. “A Psalm of Life” by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s A Psalm of Life is a timeless call to live life to its fullest, to act with purpose, and to stay optimistic in the face of challenges.

“Tell me not, in mournful numbers, Life is but an empty dream! For the soul is dead that slumbers, And things are not what they seem.”

Longfellow’s poem emphasizes the active pursuit of life and purpose. He encourages readers to reject pessimism and the idea that life is meaningless. Instead, he advocates for living with passion and vigor. The line “And things are not what they seem” invites readers to adopt a more positive and hopeful outlook, urging them to believe in the potential for growth, change, and meaning in all of life’s experiences. The poem’s uplifting tone is a reminder that positivity comes from an engaged, purposeful life.

7. “The Laughing Heart” by Charles Bukowski

Bukowski’s The Laughing Heart is an optimistic and somewhat unconventional take on life. It urges readers to embrace life with joy and courage, defying the forces of despair.

“Your life is your life. Don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission. Be on the watch. There are ways out. There is a light somewhere.”

Bukowski’s poem is a raw call to action. Its message is clear: life, despite its hardships, is ultimately our own to shape. The speaker encourages readers to reject despair and take control of their own destinies. The theme of optimism is captured through the idea of finding “light somewhere” — a symbol of hope and possibility. Bukowski’s voice is a reminder that positivity isn’t always about avoiding struggles but about actively seeking out hope and meaning.

8. “To Hope” by Emily Dickinson

Emily Dickinson’s To Hope is a meditation on the elusive nature of hope and its essential role in sustaining positivity through challenging times.

“Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune without the words, And never stops at all.”

Dickinson personifies hope as a bird, emphasizing its ability to endure and bring joy even in the harshest of times. The metaphor of hope as a bird “perching in the soul” suggests that positivity is something intrinsic, a source of strength and perseverance that resides within us. This poem encourages readers to hold on to hope, even when it seems fleeting or intangible. Hope is a constant, unrelenting force, offering comfort and positivity in moments of uncertainty.

9. “The Cure at Troy” by Seamus Heaney

Seamus Heaney’s The Cure at Troy speaks to the themes of hope and redemption, advocating for the transformative power of forgiveness and positivity.

“Hope for a great sea-change On the far side of revenge. Believe that a further shore Is reachable from here.”

Heaney’s poem emphasizes the importance of hope, not just as an abstract ideal, but as a practical tool for overcoming adversity and healing. The reference to the “great sea-change” suggests the idea of transformation, where positive change can arise even from situations of conflict and despair. The poem is a call for resilience, offering a vision of hope that transcends vengeance and promotes a future that is both reachable and promising.

10. “The Will to Win” by Berton Braley

Berton Braley’s The Will to Win is an energizing, motivational poem that champions the idea of perseverance and staying positive even when faced with setbacks.

“If you want a thing bad enough To go out and fight for it, Work day and night for it, Give up your time and your peace and your sleep for it…”

Braley’s poem is a rousing celebration of determination and drive. The speaker encourages the reader to pursue their goals with relentless energy and optimism. The poem’s central theme is that positivity comes from a steadfast belief in oneself and a refusal to give up. Through hard work, dedication, and an unwavering belief in one’s potential, success and fulfillment are within reach.

11. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann

Max Ehrmann’s Desiderata is a meditative poem that offers advice on how to live a peaceful, positive life in a chaotic world.

“Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.”

Desiderata is a poem about finding inner peace and harmony with others. Ehrmann encourages readers to approach life with patience, tolerance, and serenity, even in the face of adversity. The poem’s gentle tone suggests that positivity can be found through calm reflection and acceptance of life’s uncertainties. It is a timeless reminder to live harmoniously, embracing both the joys and challenges of life with grace and composure.

12. “A Dream Within a Dream” by Edgar Allan Poe

Edgar Allan Poe’s A Dream Within a Dream grapples with the idea of fleeting moments and the passage of time, but ultimately it encourages readers to hold on to what is good and meaningful.

“Is all that we see or seem But a dream within a dream?”

Poe’s poem explores the transient nature of life, yet the speaker’s philosophical tone invites readers to reflect on the beauty and significance of the present. The poem’s message is one of appreciation for the fleeting moments of joy that life offers, encouraging a positive outlook even in the face of life’s impermanence. The poem’s meditation on dreams reminds us that life, though brief, can be full of meaning if we choose to live fully and with intention.

Conclusion

The twelve poems analyzed in this article share a central theme: the power of positivity, hope, resilience, and self-determination. Whether through the quiet introspection of Wendell Berry, the defiant strength of Maya Angelou, or the reflective wisdom of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, each poem speaks to the human ability to overcome adversity and embrace life with optimism. These works encourage readers to find beauty and strength within themselves and the world around them, making them invaluable sources of inspiration for anyone seeking to cultivate a positive mindset in life.

[starryseaprincess]

🌼 and 🍀 with blorbos of your choosing ^ v ^)

@strawbeaniie

@strawbeaniie

selfshipping ask game! if u dont like self ships u might want to skip this <3 also, if you are a non-sharing leona kingscholar (twst) shipper u should skip this too! answers under the cut

Soft Spot (Bonnie Hare x Leona Kingscholar)

🌼Is there an official confession scene between the two of them?

I feel like this man and her are so obviously together (at least, probably in his mind) that he never actually confesses to her. I think Bonnie is the one who has to confess to him? They’re both beastfolk, but Bonnie would be a lot more sheltered and probably wasn’t raised around a lot of beastfolk. She’s twisted partially from Rapunzel and would’ve been taken at a very young age, so even if she was raised by a beastman, she would never have known anyone else, and wouldn’t know any courting customs. I always like the idea of beastfolk biting each other as a sign of courting, so it’s the idea of Leona doing so to her and she doesn’t understand it at all.

So they have been dating, in his eyes and the eyes of the others at NRC for a while when Bonnie probably finds a cute idea to confess in a book and decides to act on it. She probably spends hours picking out a proper gift for him, not knowing what exactly he’d like and having very little money to actually spend on it, so she probably decides to make him something instead. Can see her getting fabric and cotton and making him a personalized plushie, maybe one that’s a rabbit like her.

And the next time he’s taking a nap with her (he loves when she sings him lullabies though he won’t admit it), it’s her putting her handmade plushie in his hands and telling him how much she likes him, that she never knew how much she could like another person, that he made her really happy and she wanted to date him, if he liked her too! And I think he’d be confused, because to him they’ve been dating for weeks. But he’s not going to correct her, so he’d just say it was his pleasure and then he’d pull her in like she was the plushie she’d given him and they’d take a nap together, but I think secretly he’d be really happy she’d confessed, because it proved that she chose him, someone chose him, her first choice, her only choice. He’ll never admit he felt inferior, but being with her makes him feel like he’s good enough.

🍀Do you have any other scenes in mind?

Okay yes I have the CUTEST idea of Bonnie going home with Leona over the holidays because she can’t go back to her home (she hasn’t been back since coming to NRC since she ran away after a fight about if she’d even be allowed to go) so the year they start dating he invites her to go with him back to his place? And I think that she would just absolutely adore little Cheka, she forces Leona to hang out with his little nephew way more than he’d like, but she just looks so happy playing with the kid, and it may or may not make Leona’s heart melt just the tiniest bit. In his eyes she has a smile that could light up a room, and she’s finally opening up a little to someone who wasn’t him- and it was his own family. She’s probably tiny compared to him and his family, and she isn’t exactly as assertive as other women in the Sunset Savanna, so I think the women would try to help her be more confident in herself, considering she’s tamed one of the most hard to tame people there. 

And oh, Leona has been tamed by her for sure. He would never willingly play with his nephew, but now he’s playing tea party with bows in his hair and pouring “tea” (water) for “mr snuffkins” (a stuffed elephant Bonnie bought for Cheka as a present for the holidays) into a plastic teacup. But he’s so deeply in love with this woman, and he can’t help himself. And of course, his brother takes notice. I’m sure Leona is so annoyed with the knowing smile on his brother’s face. I can see Falena jokingly asking Leona in private when their wedding was gonna be, and of  course Leona would be grumbly about it, but the thought has definitely crossed his mind. 

He never thought he’d fall for someone, especially not someone as soft as Bonnie. She’s practically his opposite, and he’s so smitten for her he’d be crazy not to marry her someday. But for then, I think he’d just enjoy watching her get along so well with his family, in preparation for the day when she will be part of it too.