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time travel au where liu qingge and shen qingqiu (yuan) end up accidentally traveling a decade back in time before luo binghe was amitted to qing jing peak and before shen qingqiu had his qi deviation, but after their generation has risen to peak lords.
which means, shen yuan realizes quickly, as they're accosted by said peak lords, that he will have to face shen jiu.
as they're being cleared for demonic energy and the likes, mu qingfang of course instantly detects the poison without a cure eating away at shen yuan's meridians. liu qingge pulls a copy of the treatment plan out of his sleeve (shen yuan blushes a bit, did liu qingge always keep that on hand?), and just like in the current timeline, they agree to keep it under wraps.
shen jiu tries various times to get a moment alone with shen yuan, but he never quite manages because liu qingge is there, who is also... nice?? to him?? for some reason?? shen jiu gets a bit flustered at the solemn politeness and skitters off.
it comes out pretty quickly that shen yuan has "memory loss", and thus can't remember anything that's currently taking place in this time. shen yuan expects scorn, hatred and disdain from shen jiu, expects to be grabbed and interrogated, to arouse suspicion.
but shen jiu looks....... sad???
being transported here threw shen yuan's qi off-balance (even liu qingge had to sit down, which means it's bad), and his cultivation is already so unstable, so when the peak lords are all squabbling and arguing and threatening and raising their voice, he can feel his body shut down. he sees yue qingyuan start to move towards him, which, knowing the future yue qingyuan, he really isn't up for right now—but before the sect leader can get to him someone else is at his back, transferring him qi, holding him up gently by his shoulders, then coaxing him up, leading him outside
shen yuan's been fed qi by every peak lord at least once. he doesn't recognize this one. that means it can only be one person.
he looks up. it's shen jiu.
and it's bizarre, getting fussed over by the scum villain, having gentle hands run along his back, his hair, that clear, soothing voice calming him down. and somehow shen jiu knows exactly what to do?? somehow it works perfectly on him?? it's almost as if shen jiu has known him his whole—
oh.
bodies, like homes, hold memories, even if the original occupants are no longer there. it's the milestone marks on the doorpost that chart a child's growth, blurry photographs faded by time, scuffed floors from well-walked paths, and tiny holes in the walls where pictures once hung.
shen jiu takes him to the bamboo house, pours him tea, and asks, calmly, what he remembers from their childhood.
it's not his childhood, so shen yuan doesn't actually remember anything, but the body he's in does. the memories it holds are emotional rather than visual; he remembers being alone, scared, and hungry. he remembers anger, pain. a dark room. loud voices. he remembers his heart skipping a beat when heavy boots stomp his way. the sound of a whip.
he doesn't have to lie. the memories aren't his own, and they're from long ago, which means shen jiu has them too. and, he supposes, this is his only chance to find out what really happened.
but shen jiu doesn't say anything about it. he just nods and stares, intensely. then he asks shen yuan if he remembers yue qingyuan. shen yuan says no, he doesn't. the conversation takes a very strange turn after that. shen yuan can't help but feel a little queasy when shen jiu asks him if yue qingyuan has taken advantage of his memory loss.
"has he come into your home? has he brought you gifts, sweets? does he invite you for tea? did you accept?"
he has. shen yuan doesn't know why that would be a problem, the sect leader has been nothing but kind and helpful and patient. and generous, too.
when he says yes shen jiu looks furious.
liu qingge (his one) comes to pick him up, and his time with shen jiu is cut short. somewhere he's glad, cuddling into liu qingge's back as he holds him while they fly. he feels a little bad for yue qingyuan, knowing he's probably caused a big fight, but it doesn't sit right with him. he wishes he knew what happened.
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liu qingge, meanwhile, is having the time of his life fighting himself. it's good practice!
#shen bros but its future and past but actually its shen jiu and shen yuan#shen jiu is angry that yue qingyuan keeps trying to get in knowing that sqq can't remember why they fell out btw#i love a protective shen jiu<3#hes still a hissy bitch to everyone else dont worry. i just think he should experience some self love#it would be a healing experience i think#to have him take care of a vulnerable version of himself#something something healing his inner kid#yue qingyuan tries to spoil the new xiao jiu too (he cant help it)#but shen jiu goes mama bear on him (growling biting mauling)#also shen yuan's closeness with liu qingge obvs starts a rumor that they're dating#so theres that too#svsss au#time travel au#svsss time travel au#shen yuan#shen jiu#shen qingqiu#liu qingge#yue qingyuan#shen bros#scum villain#scum villian’s self saving system
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JULIE AND THE PHANTOMS (2020) // JULIE E OS FANTASMAS (2011) 1.01 - Wake Up // 1.01 - Enfrentando Fantasmas -> Julie meets the Band.
#julie and the phantoms#julie e os fantasmas#jatp#mine#mine:gif#storytime: when i was in middle school i found myself to be obsessed with julie e os fantasmas (jeof)#and by watching it i have learned some words in portoguese which - later in my life - i have always wanted to learn better#besides that - in middle school i used to wear julie's iconic side ponytail !! i was THE biggest jeof fan like EVER#i used to watch it with my little sister and i would pretend i had some ghosts friends as well - popping out of my stereo (lol)#so... flash forward to 2020. i can't recall HOW i found out about jatp... it's just that i have heard of it and i was like hold on...#does this have to do anything with jeof? so i was super intrigued and watched the pilot and YES!! a brand new up-to-date remake#of my favorite tv show as a kid LIKE WOW. and idk i thought it was somehow underground as the og one ... saw NO ONE talking about it online#until up recently when i got back on tumblr (actually 2 years ago) and i saw there was this LIVELY community of people appreaciating this#show AS MUCH as i was appreciating the og as a youngster.#goes without saying that it was so surprising to me and it healed parts of me that i didn't think needed to be healed. wow. just wow.#i have never posted content for these two bad boys#mostly bcs i was salty that jatp was canceled (ugh) until now!! i hope you enjoyyyyy#ALSO i remember as a kid i was watching jeof on tv right? but i had missed some episodes so i remember LMAO going online and there was this#website (like a random person's own website) that was hosting all of the episodes. my very first experience with streaming series online
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They have a lot to talk about @zivazivc
#dreamworks trolls#trolls#trolls oc#trolls au#ex bandmates#trolls world tour#trolls 2#trolls oc les#trolls oc Niccolo#Niccolo would appreciate the talk A LOT#just having someone who can validate his feelings and his experiences#especially someone older than him since he probably hasnt met too many in his lifetime#it would also be one of the first times niccolo is able to fully let his guard down and drop the mask#of a pompous pop star and be himself#which is still a guy witth a lot of attitude#but a lot more soft and sad#hes not trying to perform anymore and he gets to actually let things out#i think them talking would be healing and eye opening for them both#once again les was a treat to draw#this is actually the 2nd version of him for thus piece#the first ver was a bit rough and very stiff#and i wanted to make him less so#i wanted him both relaxed and a bit nervous?? in a way#hes giving advice to this 20 something yr old kid and that can be scary cuz Niccolo is gonna take what he says to heart#but hes still willing to talk and open up to be the person to Niccolo that les needed as a kid#or at least thats what i tried to portray#hope yall enjoy
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i am so fucking glad cap can just be gay now. like it isnt a question, there isnt a moment of hesitation, it isn't covered up. he just is. and the he that he is is gay. like in previous seasons, that "lets not be too hasty" might have still happened, but the ghosts would make a face. and cap would clear his throat and deflect and bloviate like "by which I mean, of course, that I'm very interested. ahem. in the upcoming weather, and- well, eaughghg" but now he just gets to. find a man attractive. and say it. and no one bats an eye. I'm just so proud of him. and so glad he has that.
like, I can imagine the look on his face when button house holds a pride meetup and everyone is sitting around talking about their experiences and just. casually being queer and existing together. and he can just sit in one of the plastic chairs and listen and close his eyes and pretend for a moment that he is part of that community. yknow what i mean.
#i just want him to be able to sit and listen to queer experiences and see queer people#being openly and casually intimate and it being normal#like that would heal him so right#i know it#bbc ghosts#anyway im so glad they gave him that moment.#i know its a dick joke i know but i think its emotional.#ghost5#ghosts s5#ghosts spoilers#the captain
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Might be a hot take as a bkdk and tgck truther here, but I find izuocha endlessly fascinating, beautiful, but also tearfully tragic.

I see their love for each other as something representative of their innocence and naivety when they only knew so little about who they were, and what was to come.
I think the main barrier of their relationship is that its rooted in how they see each other very idealistically, specifically that they're attached to the image of their Best Heroic Selves, and not the deeply selfish, destructive, freaky, and egotistical parts of them. To each other, they need to keep fulfilling that image or else that same person they looked up to would almost die in front of them, and that would be too cruel. Although that hero is still there, that same person they looked up to is not the same now because of...well...everything.
Izuku had barely even talked to girls when he first met her. She was Izuku's first ever real friend (Sorry Kats, everyone and him knows he was terrible), so he saved her in that entrance exam even if it was so dangerous. She gave a new meaning to his derogatory nickname just by being a friend that believed in him. After that, she saved him several more times (Blackwhip and Megaphone are the biggest samples iirc). It makes perfect sense that she is Deku's hero.
Ochako hardly knew what it meant to be a hero when she first got into UA. Just by reaching out to some kid tripping, she made a new friend who would then save her in that exam, then save him again in return. This boy then became someone who was always working so hard to save everyone in trouble, and she realized she wanted to be just like him too. "I want to save people"
But...Deku changes. The weight of One for All is on his shoulders and he needs someone to carry this burden with him. He continues to want to save other people at the expense of himself, still not letting his true selfishness and ego ever show- and it only grows more and more unbearable.
Then...Ochako fell in love with Himiko. Truly, relentlessly, selfishly and devotedly in love with a girl who then dies giving her blood to her- the greatest expression of love Himiko could ever give.
Not that they can't love each other because of this happening (and...so many other things oh god), I'm honestly not sure how to explain it- But them ending up together after losing that innocence and naivety? After Ochako will forever grieve the girl who showed her love in its most beautiful and ugly form? After Izuku changed so fundamentally as a person that the butterflies of a nice girl talking to you doesn't exist anymore? After that simple image of being a hero and being in love has completely changed for them both?
Even so, I believe they still love each other. There is no label I know of that can properly describe them though. They are each other's image of being a hero when it comes to saving people. Aside from Shoto, no one else can grasp the grief of the person you tried to save dying in your hands. They would no doubt try to cope with these losses together, and just try to get better together...but so much has changed. They've changed. The world changed. What are they now? Who are they now?
"What happened...to us?"
#I just think the tragedy of falling out of love for the person who represents who they Used to be is so...so painful#Kacchan isn't even here yet and it's already so complicated.#also. Izch healing together after all this would also be really nice#if u like them ending up together thats also perfectly fine too. im just a bkdk and tgck truther myself. thats kinda my whole thing#but izch forming a deep bond from their experiences and saving eachother#and maybe later on trying to date too...oh boy#and them being able to just...be more casual again. talk abt their lives and dreams together too just so they know they have each other#oh itd be so healing and beautiful#im so glad izuku talked to ochako on that cliff man oh man...#izuocha the underrated tragic love that they could've been if ppl werent so close minded abt them#only the real izch fans understand just how much these two actually mean to each other. god bless yall I swear even if I dont ship ship it#thank u to that person who wrote abt them being characters than run in parallel#that narrative structure for them is permanently in my brain. I love these two so much its no joke#my Extra hot take is that izch wouldve been treated better by the fandom if it was gay.#but we'd still agree on bkdk as the endgame after all that happened. maybe. idk this is a hypothetical.#if you switch ock and kats genders...this wouldve been a very different story and fandom. insane food for thought with this one.#ok thats my yap for the night oh god i have so many feelings about them...#evelynpr bnha#bnha#mha#my hero academia#izuocha#actually confidently putting this tag now. sorry for the angst you guys...and maybe being seen as a traitor#im a strong girl I could take on potential haters hahaha...#izuku midoriya#ochako uraraka
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@openphrase123 your fanfic(s but i mainly made art of the mira and siffrin one because i cant remember words for the life of me for i do not speak french) IS???? ? SO GOOD. SO GOOD IM FOAMING AT THE MOUTH finally something to look forward to in the week fr
Mild spoilers for it ig!! But nothing too explicitly groundbreaking i dont think it'll kill your mom to look at these without having read the ff first
Don't mind the shit quality i??? I drew all these so fast theyre kinda shit and i have yet to fully acclamate isat to my artstyle so it's mid


Teehee me when i make shitty rushed fanart to show my appreciation that i cannot put into words for my faovorite games and also authors
peep the rant in the tags
#isat#isat fanart#isat siffrin#isat mirabelle#god ive been obsessing over isat lately#its terrible how ive been feeding into it#ffs of it be having me giggling running around because siffrin is healing#not in this particular one though#at least not at the part thats written rn#i do love seeing them suffer in equal parts#siffrin my scrimblo i will microwave you#a mosquito is in my room as im typing this girl gtfo#slight spoilers for this fanfic i suppose#okay so THE FANFIC BROO that part where sif lets mira pick his name?! makes me think that sponsors always pick the names#hence why sif never got a new name and spica feels outdated#also i love LOVE seeing mirabelle get better and better at yk... remembering#needing sif to reintroduce themselves every time is such a creative way to do like a pseudo timeloop#everything was so neat#upset that i cant do them justice in drawinng though i have very little experience drawing black hairstyles#or like being around black people with such hairstyles which is a shame!! i would wanna get a better look at the texture and the variation#BACK TO THE FF i literally read this to my older brother out loud (thank god i managed to pester him to play Isat)#and my throat got so raw from speaking that i had to stop but then itd get to another cool detail and i HAD to tell him#so my throat pain? your fault not mine nuh uh not the lack of self control#case in point thanks a bunch for writing!! i wanna get as good at that as you at some point
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Me watching my girlfriend drink all the blood in the Abbottoir section of Pathologic 2 and trying not to say anything so she has an authentic gameplay experience



#pathologic 2 spoilers#spoilers#watching her confidently drain the worms blood#and then drink the special blood#HARROWING#she would kill a worm and then be like “oh sick the healing blood! sip sip sip”#my love. my darling. the physical agony i felt#after she died the first time i said “um. hey. uh. do u think maybe u should use the bottles on the special blood fountains”#i couldnt just leave her out to dry yk#but omg. harrowing experience.#version of haruspex that just drinks all of the earth blood and never makes panacea 😭😭😭😭😭#love u tho bb <3#pathologic
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just watched the barbie movie everyone was discoursing about last year and I can't help but feel like a lot of the problems in its execution could have been avoided if the kid character's arc had been about learning to embrace girly stuff as an act of rebellion against the adultification of teen girls while barbie went full butch transmasc
#deerchatter#i know why they didn't do that obvs the writers haven't a fucking clue what a feminism is and the bosses prefer it that way#but it's fun to think about what a good version of the premise could have looked like. there were interesting pieces on the board#the kid character could have been interesting if her arc had been about rejecting barbie bc of increasing awareness of the association#between femininity and weakness. but in wanting to gain respect she started acting and dressing like a young woman because she's at that age#where girls begin to be rewarded for being a more subdued and quote-unquote natural kind of feminine.#she could have become friends with barbie as a symbolic way to heal her inner child#meanwhile barbie takes the you-can-be-anything message to its logical extreme and decides what she wants to be is the one thing mattel will#never let her be: gender non-conforming#these 2 character arcs and where they intersect could have told the same story much better i think#emphasis on personal choice/growing up/social rebellion/embracing what will really make you happy#while also covering multiple ways to handle gendered expectations. pick out the parts you like or throw the whole gender out. both r good!#anyway i have to admit this movie was disappointing. i knew it wasn't gonna be woke but i thought it would still be a bit more fun ....#was hoping for a guilty pleasure kind of experience but even setting aside that hard thematic fumble it's underwhelming :(
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I generally don't make posts like this, cause I don't wanna start an argument or disagreement, but I do find the "Is Hyde really a person?" discourse, a bit odd...I know it's a comic, and maybe I'll be proved horribly incorrect but...
Does he have emotions, with personality traits and preferences? Yes.
Does he insist he's a person? Yes.
Then he is, in fact, a person.
#and if you disagree...lets not discuss it because I'm not good with fandom discussions XD#idk...i feel like if something say's they're a person than they're a person XD but that's just my code i guess#and i'm not trusting Franky because she's made this mistake already with her corpse son. and still can't read people well enough to know th#major violation of privacy she's currently doing to both Jekyll and Hyde#maybe i'll be proven wrong but i don't think so#cause i recall an OLD hyde drawling from Sage about how much she loved a certain scene from the musical because it was like Hyde was-#fighting for his own person hood. and thus i feel like that's where the theme is going#if the plot was just “well actually he was never really a person.” i would have the same outta body experience i did after watching-#multiverse of madness#like that just feels incompatible with the rest of the comic#BUT i'll respect whatever writing choice she makes :)#(but i will make a fix-it-fanfic to heal my heart if that's the case XD)#the glass scientists#glass scientists
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Where’s that post I made about Mike being the companion that broke under the horrors bc I’m still right. When I think abt the THINGS some companions have had to endure and have still seemingly been fine, and then I think of mike losing himself and his values to a festering psychological wound that left him open to radicalisation, it’s like he is the evidence that actually everything isn’t fine.
Which is why it’s so important that he should be next seen in meditation, in the seeking of peace, in quietness and healing because not only is he a character that needs it he’s also a character that knows he needs it and seeks it out for himself, because he doesn’t recognise who he is anymore and he wants, not to redeem himself in the eyes of others (he won’t even go near UNIT, not even when he needs their help, he goes through Sarah Jane instead!), but to become a better person, to stop being a threat, and to heal for his own soul’s sake.
And so he goes from someone who was willing to see the entirety of human history erased, to someone who will risk his life for one person and the fact that that ultimately saves his life always imo comes across as a bit easy if you watch planet of the spiders without this context in mind. But when you do think about where Mike has been, psychologically, from the green death through to planet of the spiders, it doesn’t seem easy at all but actually a significant if understated character moment.
#mike yates#waxing lyrical about my blorbos in the middle of the night#but for real mikes healing arc is SO much to me#I think one of the crucial things about the green death is firstly that the doctor asks him to go back#like I genuinely think Mike would not have been as traumatised by his experiences as he was if he hadn’t IMMEDIATELY been forced back into#the traumatic situation#and the second thing is that Jo leaves at the end#mike is straight up NOT having a good time#like he goes through an extremely traumatic event and then has to immediately reexpose himself to it without any chance to process what happ#ened to him#and then he loses one of his best friends almost immediately afterwards#ESPECIALLY since jo would be the person MOST likely to understand what he is going through#and they both know that#the first day they met Jo was manipulated into attacking her friends by a power beyond her own will#which is exactly what has just happened to Mike#and Mike witnessed All of that so he knows. he KNOWS that jo would understand#but he can’t talk to her about it because she’s getting married and leaving
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I mean yes, definitely, but I also just really like projecting lmfao
#Those characters I like?#Yeah they’re me now sorry#I based their characterization on parts of my own personality#And how I reacted to being in similar situations or how I think I would react if I was in the same situation as them#Is it a character study of my personal representation of these characters#Or am I actually secretly character studying myself#Is this therapy?#This counts as therapy right#I’m not allowed to got to therapy lol#So I will instead project on my sillies and secretly vent about my own experiences through the voices I give the sillies#That’s healthy right I’m like 99% sure that’s a healthy coping mechanism#Who needs therapy (me) when you can hyperfixate on a character who has gone through far worse but similar things to you#And then let them heal and be cared for#Except you’re actively projecting on them so it’s basically you who’s healing#See. See what I did there#I’m so smart#Im gonna therapy myself one way or another#Wether I’m allowed to go to therapy or not PARENTS#Yeah. Take that. Teenage rebellion moment#I’m therapy-ing myself#🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
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There’s a conversation that needs to be had—one that’s uncomfortable but necessary, and one I've been struggling with how to open up about until now.
Over the years, I’ve noticed an alarming trend: mental illness and trauma being used as justifications for toxic behaviour.
I wonder if you have noticed the same?
Instead of mental health discussions centering around awareness, healing, and support, they are often hijacked by individuals who weaponize their struggles to excuse manipulation, cruelty, and attention-seeking.
Mental illness is real. Trauma is real. And the way people process them isn’t always healthy, which is completely understandable. But neither gives anyone a free pass to mistreat others, refuse accountability, or act superior.
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From Awareness to Entitlement: The Dark Side of Online Mental Health Culture
From what I’ve witnessed, certain patterns have become disturbingly common in online spaces.
Such as:
Stacking multiple severe disorders—even when their symptoms contradict each other.
Constantly shifting between victimhood and superiority—one minute they’re “the most broken,” the next they’re “more intuitive and enlightened than others.”
Using trauma (even serious trauma like SA) to justify toxic behavior—as if being hurt gives someone the right to hurt others.
Turning mental illness into an aesthetic—romanticizing harmful symptoms instead of working toward healing.
Hijacking every discussion to make it about themselves—no matter how irrelevant their experiences are to the topic at hand.
Glorifying toxic mindsets—claiming that “revenge is healing” or that their suffering makes them special.
None of this fosters real awareness about mental health. Instead, it turns it into a competition of who has suffered the most rather than a conversation about growth and recovery.
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How Does This Hurt Mental Health Advocacy & Online Spaces?
1. It Spreads Misinformation
When mental illness is widely misrepresented online, it creates a warped perception of real conditions, leading to harmful stereotypes.
For example:
Those with BPD = are automatically characterised as manipulative and abusive.
Those with DID = are characterised quirky and or entertaining.
Those who experience psychosis = are feared as dangerous or viewed as mystical.
And the list goes on.
These generalizations overshadow the reality of these conditions and make it harder for real sufferers to be taken seriously.
2. It Excuses Harmful Behavior
Trauma and mental illness can explain why someone struggles, but they do not and will never excuse cruelty, manipulation, or entitlement.
Saying, “I can’t help it, I have [insert disorder]” is an incredibly toxic and limiting mindset.
Of course, there are individuals who struggle with impulse control, dissociation, or cognitive difficulties that make self-awareness and regulation difficult.
This post is not about them.
This is about those who intentionally misuse mental health labels to justify manipulative or harmful behaviors without any desire to improve or acknowledge the impact on others.
Mental illness does not make someone incapable of change. Accountability is still necessary, and using a diagnosis as a shield from consequences is harmful to both the individual and those around them.
3. It Romanticizes Pain Instead of Encouraging Healing
When suffering becomes an identity rather than something to work through, people stop seeking ways to improve. Healing starts to feel like a loss rather than a goal.
And let’s be real—some people even intentionally worsen their condition. Whether that be:
Feeding into unhealthy behaviors,
Rejecting any form of treatment, or
Even exaggerating their symptoms—
At some point, their illness becomes who they are, rather than something they manage.
And that’s where things get really dangerous.
Instead of encouraging healing, mental health spaces become places where people are praised for how much they suffer rather than how much they grow.
4. It Turns Online Spaces Into Toxic, Draining Environments
Instead of being places for support, mental health spaces often devolve into:
Excessive and inappropriate trauma dumping—where personal struggles are unloaded onto others with no regard for boundaries, leaving them feeling obligated to listen out of fear of seeming insensitive or uncaring.
Gatekeeping suffering—where people compete over who has it “the worst.”
Never-ending drama—where people spiral over who is more valid instead of how to get better.
Instead of fostering real progress, these spaces become echo chambers of dysfunction—and no one actually gets better.
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The Biggest Issue: When Serious Trauma Is Used to Justify Anything
One of the most concerning things I’ve noticed is how people use their trauma to manipulate others. I’ve seen individuals use their past experiences to:
Guilt-trip others into supporting them, even when they’re toxic.
Shut down accountability by saying that questioning them = attacking a survivor (whether said outright or implied).
Weaponize their trauma against other victims—as if their pain gives them the right to dictate who gets to speak.
But the more trauma is used as a shield against criticism or a tool for attention, the less meaning it holds.
People start becoming desensitized—losing patience with those who turn trauma into a performance. Over time, it just becomes a buzzword or a red flag in conversations, something people avoid to steer clear of drama.
As a result, those who genuinely want to speak up barely get the chance. No one wants to listen anymore—not because their stories don’t matter, but because others have already exploited the platform.
And because of this, the seriousness of trauma gets lost in all the noise, making it harder for real conversations to happen.
Before I go further, I just want to clarify something important:
No one is denying that trauma is real and deeply impacts people. But being hurt does not give someone the right to hurt others.
This is a conversation we need to have, not to shame, but to encourage real healing.
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The Damage Being Caused to Real Mental Health Awareness
Now onto my final points on why excusing toxic behaviors under the guise of mental health is so damaging:
• It Makes People Skeptical of Actual Sufferers. When too many people fake or exaggerate conditions, real sufferers face more scrutiny and disbelief. Those with the likes of say BPD, PTSD, or psychosis etc already deal with stigma—this just makes it worse.
• It Makes Real Sufferers Doubt Their Own Struggles. So many people with mental illness already struggle with imposter syndrome. They wonder, “Is my pain valid? Am I even sick enough to count?”
When exaggerated, performative portrayals become the loudest voices, and those with quieter struggles start to feel invisible.
• It Discourages People from Seeking Help. If trauma is treated like an identity rather than something treatable, people start to think that healing = losing who they are.
• It Turns Suffering Into a Status Symbol. Instead of encouraging healing, online spaces become a race to the bottom over who has suffered the most.
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Final Thoughts
Mental illness and trauma deserve to be taken seriously—and that’s exactly why they should never be used to justify toxic behavior.
Conversations about mental health should be about genuine education, support, and healing—not a free pass to be cruel, manipulative, or entitled.
If we want mental health spaces to truly help people, we need to be willing to call out harmful behaviors that weaken the integrity of these conversations. Enabling toxicity in the name of mental health doesn’t protect sufferers—it hurts them.
This isn’t about blaming people who struggle. Everyone has difficulties, and healing isn’t easy. But true support means fostering growth, accountability, and honesty.
Growth—encouraging people to work toward healing, not remain stuck. Accountability—recognizing that struggles explain behavior, but don’t excuse harm. Honesty—having real conversations about mental health without distortion or performative suffering.
Mental health advocacy should always be about helping people move forward, not keeping them trapped in cycles of toxicity.
This post isn’t about invalidating trauma—it’s about holding people accountable for how they treat others, regardless of their struggles. Thank you for reading. I hope this post has given you something to think about and take away.
#mental health#mental health awareness#mental illness#healing#trauma#mental health discourse#mental health education#mental health advocate#mental health advocacy#trauma recovery#self awareness#accountability#mental health accountability#toxic behaviour#toxic online culture#emotional manipulation#serious post#essay#critical thinking#long post#mental health thoughts#personal perspective#lived experience#first time doing a post which I tried to format concisely#instead of my usual rambles as I feared my message would be lost in my excessive words#yami rambles#yami thoughts
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we know jubilost has piercings but i like to think he has more that we don't see. yes in a horny way but i'm also imagining him sticking his tongue out in disgust and everyone stares for a second because he has a tongue stud. ask him about it and he mostly complains about the healing process, particularly how it restricted his diet(but it prompted him to write about the best and worst foods to eat while healing from a mouth injury, which helped justify the whole thing. or so he claims).
#pathfinder kingmaker#jubilost narthropple#don't tell me he probably just downed a healing potion. it's funnier if he's moderately inconvenienced for a month.#if you want to play in the space with me we'll say potions mess up the healing process of piercings and tattoos.#i'm so fascinated by his hoop earrings. an inspired choice for a 30 or 40 year old man.#and this is a fantasy setting. you don't see a sale at claire's and go 'fuck it'. he had to seek out a piercer.#i also like to think he has tattoos beneath that gaudy undershirt of his. probably not a ton. probably not full sleeves.#but it's an experience you know? he'd see a lot of different methods and styles during his travels.#eventually curiosity would get the best of him and he'd be letting someone take a needle to his skin.
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I've been thinking about compiling a list of flags that I have experienced in therapy and the broader mental health field, and my list of that would be...
Red Flags:
Prioritizes the cessation of behaviours over the mental wellbeing of the person
Doesn't listen to patient feedback or relies solely on their expertise and how a patient "should" respond
Talks about other patients in a derogatory manner - even if the patient is not named nor identifying information about them is revealed
(Specific to minors) Will listen to the legal guardians over the minor, even about subject manner said minor can speak about. The professional placates to the wishes of the parent, even if placation is detrimental to the minor.
Leaves patient uneducated about treatment plan or diagnoses, or waves away explanation to the patient.
Abandons treatment without ensuring patient will be adequately taken care of
These are red flags I have observed or experienced as a patient. Broadly speaking, many indications that an expert is a bad fit is lack of communication and/or lack of listening or compassion toward the patient.
Green flags:
Fully listens to patient, validates concerns, emotions, or fears
Educates patient about any diagnoses when applicable, answers questions honestly and compassionately
Relates to patient in a professional way, doesn't force patient to divulge if they are not able or willing to at the time
Prioritizes harm reduction in tandem with addressing the underlying cause of problematic behaviour
Makes a personalized plan for the patient and regards highly what the patient assesses their needs and/or goals are
Again, I must stress that this advice is not coming from a professional. However, I have had over a decades' worth of experience with a variety of mental health professionals, each with their own red and green flags. Some of these red flags have been detrimental to my mental health and have set me back in terms of healing, which is why I stress the importance of patient advocacy and for patients to trust their institution about new mental health providers.
#mental health#mental health support#mental health advocacy#sorry for the weird tone in my posts i've just been reflecting on this#like i had a therapist quit on me. like... completely quit. it didn't help that they sided with an abuser of mine *every time*#i hadn't felt that low in my healing in... maybe ever. if i hadn't have had a small support network that would have pushed me over the edge#i think that experience has inspired me to want to be a medical professional#again i am nothing if not spiteful and vindictive about wanting to make some difference
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you think sam ever wonders if dean would have tricked him into saying yes to lucifer again if it meant saving his life.
#like. disclaimer: Dean would Not do that. not even if he was desperate#up to you if you think it’s because that’s where he draws the line about disrespecting Sam’s autonomy#or because he’s just so fucking furiously jealous that Lucifer has already gotten so much of Sam to himself that dean won’t give him more#either way he Wouldn’t. but. sam doesn’t know that does he.#the facts sam has are 1) dean okayed an angel entering his body and 2) dean lied to him about an angel being in his body#and 3) dean probably would have kept lying about it after ‘Ezekiel’ left. never told Sam what was in him.#so what’s the difference between one angel and another really? especially since Lucifer could have made that offer with much more experience#of course he can patch Sam up. he’s done it before. he’s torn him up and put him back together so many times. child’s play really.#I think the only comfort Sam would have about this is that Lucifer would not be able to help himself from giving away the game#he wants Sam’s attention sooo badly. he’d want Sam to know that he’s healing him from the inside#well then. what’s worse. his brother lying to his face about the devil possessing him. or Lucifer being the one to tell him everything.#can Sam kick Lucifer out? yes I think so. does Sam think so? very different question. after all. he couldn’t push Lucifer out last time#that he let him (hallucifer) in <3#spn#sam winchester#lucifer spn#Dean winchester
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post ankle-twisting clarity
#i slipped in the mudddddd the other day LOL i twisted my one ankle and scraped up my other knee#so the past few days ive just been kind of needing to waddle around.....#LUCKILY its healing well and fast <3 but yknow i was like#so stressed out over shit that doesnt matter in school. and like this is an awful unintentional habit i have but i will get like#overly stressed over shit and then i'll start getting SUPER careless with everything. and then i'll injure myself foolishly and Calm Down#happened last year with my foolish midnight woodcarving incident LOL its always november....#BUT yeah luckily this years foolish injury is a quick one at least!!#but yeah like genuinely i was so stressed out about all my fine arts major shit. teachers have been really getting on my case recently#my main professor said that it was a good thing people get so riled up with my work because it means its impactful#tbh i didnt believe her at all i thought she was just trying to placate me but then i listened closely to the things faculty say when#they look at my fucking. cartoon wolf drawing or something and i think. she might be right actually. people keep getting frustrated with me#because i think they see a lot of potential in me but i basically only have to drive to draw cartoon wolves etc HFKJSDHJVKRFEds#which is great for my ego. maybe too good for my ego. that my mark making and colour use etc is so evocative to these industry and#instutition people. but on the other hand i was told like thrice now that my work has no place in a gallery. which is fine although im not#totally sure how true that is. but also afterwards one time i was suggested to go into animation instead which is. um.#so its not out of nowhere i mean i did want to be an animator when i was like 10 but if you know anything about the current state of the#animation industry its like genuinely wild to tell someone who you've only seen 2 dimensional watercolour and acrylic painted#sketchy lined drawings from and who has said they cant do digital art anymore that they should get an animation degree?#brother they would kill me. i would be killed. i had an inkling but it really made me notice so clearly how limited the experiences my#faculty kind of have with certain industries. which is fine. or maybe not. for a professor LOL but yknow. but i was like huh. i guess i can#just kind of chill lol if i just keep doing things maybe something will come of it. i may not get as much help in my artistic development#rn as i would like. but its chill i think i'll figure it out if i just keep doing stuff <3#doesnt really matter that my teachers dont know what to do with me. my kneeeee has a booboo so i am CHILLING out :)
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