#it would be a healing experience i think

[fairsweetlonging]

time travel au where liu qingge and shen qingqiu (yuan) end up accidentally traveling a decade back in time before luo binghe was amitted to qing jing peak and before shen qingqiu had his qi deviation, but after their generation has risen to peak lords.

which means, shen yuan realizes quickly, as they're accosted by said peak lords, that he will have to face shen jiu.

as they're being cleared for demonic energy and the likes, mu qingfang of course instantly detects the poison without a cure eating away at shen yuan's meridians. liu qingge pulls a copy of the treatment plan out of his sleeve (shen yuan blushes a bit, did liu qingge always keep that on hand?), and just like in the current timeline, they agree to keep it under wraps.

shen jiu tries various times to get a moment alone with shen yuan, but he never quite manages because liu qingge is there, who is also... nice?? to him?? for some reason?? shen jiu gets a bit flustered at the solemn politeness and skitters off.

it comes out pretty quickly that shen yuan has "memory loss", and thus can't remember anything that's currently taking place in this time. shen yuan expects scorn, hatred and disdain from shen jiu, expects to be grabbed and interrogated, to arouse suspicion.

but shen jiu looks....... sad???

being transported here threw shen yuan's qi off-balance (even liu qingge had to sit down, which means it's bad), and his cultivation is already so unstable, so when the peak lords are all squabbling and arguing and threatening and raising their voice, he can feel his body shut down. he sees yue qingyuan start to move towards him, which, knowing the future yue qingyuan, he really isn't up for right now—but before the sect leader can get to him someone else is at his back, transferring him qi, holding him up gently by his shoulders, then coaxing him up, leading him outside

shen yuan's been fed qi by every peak lord at least once. he doesn't recognize this one. that means it can only be one person.

he looks up. it's shen jiu.

and it's bizarre, getting fussed over by the scum villain, having gentle hands run along his back, his hair, that clear, soothing voice calming him down. and somehow shen jiu knows exactly what to do?? somehow it works perfectly on him?? it's almost as if shen jiu has known him his whole—

oh.

bodies, like homes, hold memories, even if the original occupants are no longer there. it's the milestone marks on the doorpost that chart a child's growth, blurry photographs faded by time, scuffed floors from well-walked paths, and tiny holes in the walls where pictures once hung.

shen jiu takes him to the bamboo house, pours him tea, and asks, calmly, what he remembers from their childhood.

it's not his childhood, so shen yuan doesn't actually remember anything, but the body he's in does. the memories it holds are emotional rather than visual; he remembers being alone, scared, and hungry. he remembers anger, pain. a dark room. loud voices. he remembers his heart skipping a beat when heavy boots stomp his way. the sound of a whip.

he doesn't have to lie. the memories aren't his own, and they're from long ago, which means shen jiu has them too. and, he supposes, this is his only chance to find out what really happened.

but shen jiu doesn't say anything about it. he just nods and stares, intensely. then he asks shen yuan if he remembers yue qingyuan. shen yuan says no, he doesn't. the conversation takes a very strange turn after that. shen yuan can't help but feel a little queasy when shen jiu asks him if yue qingyuan has taken advantage of his memory loss.

"has he come into your home? has he brought you gifts, sweets? does he invite you for tea? did you accept?"

he has. shen yuan doesn't know why that would be a problem, the sect leader has been nothing but kind and helpful and patient. and generous, too.

when he says yes shen jiu looks furious.

liu qingge (his one) comes to pick him up, and his time with shen jiu is cut short. somewhere he's glad, cuddling into liu qingge's back as he holds him while they fly. he feels a little bad for yue qingyuan, knowing he's probably caused a big fight, but it doesn't sit right with him. he wishes he knew what happened.

.

liu qingge, meanwhile, is having the time of his life fighting himself. it's good practice!

[bylrndgm]

JULIE AND THE PHANTOMS (2020) // JULIE E OS FANTASMAS (2011) 1.01 - Wake Up // 1.01 - Enfrentando Fantasmas -> Julie meets the Band.

[missescalientee]

They have a lot to talk about @zivazivc

[natjennie]

i am so fucking glad cap can just be gay now. like it isnt a question, there isnt a moment of hesitation, it isn't covered up. he just is. and the he that he is is gay. like in previous seasons, that "lets not be too hasty" might have still happened, but the ghosts would make a face. and cap would clear his throat and deflect and bloviate like "by which I mean, of course, that I'm very interested. ahem. in the upcoming weather, and- well, eaughghg" but now he just gets to. find a man attractive. and say it. and no one bats an eye. I'm just so proud of him. and so glad he has that.

like, I can imagine the look on his face when button house holds a pride meetup and everyone is sitting around talking about their experiences and just. casually being queer and existing together. and he can just sit in one of the plastic chairs and listen and close his eyes and pretend for a moment that he is part of that community. yknow what i mean.

[evelynpr]

Might be a hot take as a bkdk and tgck truther here, but I find izuocha endlessly fascinating, beautiful, but also tearfully tragic.

I see their love for each other as something representative of their innocence and naivety when they only knew so little about who they were, and what was to come.

I think the main barrier of their relationship is that its rooted in how they see each other very idealistically, specifically that they're attached to the image of their Best Heroic Selves, and not the deeply selfish, destructive, freaky, and egotistical parts of them. To each other, they need to keep fulfilling that image or else that same person they looked up to would almost die in front of them, and that would be too cruel. Although that hero is still there, that same person they looked up to is not the same now because of...well...everything.

Izuku had barely even talked to girls when he first met her. She was Izuku's first ever real friend (Sorry Kats, everyone and him knows he was terrible), so he saved her in that entrance exam even if it was so dangerous. She gave a new meaning to his derogatory nickname just by being a friend that believed in him. After that, she saved him several more times (Blackwhip and Megaphone are the biggest samples iirc). It makes perfect sense that she is Deku's hero.

Ochako hardly knew what it meant to be a hero when she first got into UA. Just by reaching out to some kid tripping, she made a new friend who would then save her in that exam, then save him again in return. This boy then became someone who was always working so hard to save everyone in trouble, and she realized she wanted to be just like him too. "I want to save people"

But...Deku changes. The weight of One for All is on his shoulders and he needs someone to carry this burden with him. He continues to want to save other people at the expense of himself, still not letting his true selfishness and ego ever show- and it only grows more and more unbearable.

Then...Ochako fell in love with Himiko. Truly, relentlessly, selfishly and devotedly in love with a girl who then dies giving her blood to her- the greatest expression of love Himiko could ever give.

Not that they can't love each other because of this happening (and...so many other things oh god), I'm honestly not sure how to explain it- But them ending up together after losing that innocence and naivety? After Ochako will forever grieve the girl who showed her love in its most beautiful and ugly form? After Izuku changed so fundamentally as a person that the butterflies of a nice girl talking to you doesn't exist anymore? After that simple image of being a hero and being in love has completely changed for them both?

Even so, I believe they still love each other. There is no label I know of that can properly describe them though. They are each other's image of being a hero when it comes to saving people. Aside from Shoto, no one else can grasp the grief of the person you tried to save dying in your hands. They would no doubt try to cope with these losses together, and just try to get better together...but so much has changed. They've changed. The world changed. What are they now? Who are they now?

"What happened...to us?"

[melooooo17]

@openphrase123 your fanfic(s but i mainly made art of the mira and siffrin one because i cant remember words for the life of me for i do not speak french) IS???? ? SO GOOD. SO GOOD IM FOAMING AT THE MOUTH finally something to look forward to in the week fr

Mild spoilers for it ig!! But nothing too explicitly groundbreaking i dont think it'll kill your mom to look at these without having read the ff first

Don't mind the shit quality i??? I drew all these so fast theyre kinda shit and i have yet to fully acclamate isat to my artstyle so it's mid

Teehee me when i make shitty rushed fanart to show my appreciation that i cannot put into words for my faovorite games and also authors

peep the rant in the tags

[attackwulf]

Me watching my girlfriend drink all the blood in the Abbottoir section of Pathologic 2 and trying not to say anything so she has an authentic gameplay experience

[seventeendeer]

just watched the barbie movie everyone was discoursing about last year and I can't help but feel like a lot of the problems in its execution could have been avoided if the kid character's arc had been about learning to embrace girly stuff as an act of rebellion against the adultification of teen girls while barbie went full butch transmasc

[screamingwiththewolves]

I generally don't make posts like this, cause I don't wanna start an argument or disagreement, but I do find the "Is Hyde really a person?" discourse, a bit odd...I know it's a comic, and maybe I'll be proved horribly incorrect but...

Does he have emotions, with personality traits and preferences? Yes.

Does he insist he's a person? Yes.

Then he is, in fact, a person.

[jimmyandthegiraffes]

Where’s that post I made about Mike being the companion that broke under the horrors bc I’m still right. When I think abt the THINGS some companions have had to endure and have still seemingly been fine, and then I think of mike losing himself and his values to a festering psychological wound that left him open to radicalisation, it’s like he is the evidence that actually everything isn’t fine.

Which is why it’s so important that he should be next seen in meditation, in the seeking of peace, in quietness and healing because not only is he a character that needs it he’s also a character that knows he needs it and seeks it out for himself, because he doesn’t recognise who he is anymore and he wants, not to redeem himself in the eyes of others (he won’t even go near UNIT, not even when he needs their help, he goes through Sarah Jane instead!), but to become a better person, to stop being a threat, and to heal for his own soul’s sake.

And so he goes from someone who was willing to see the entirety of human history erased, to someone who will risk his life for one person and the fact that that ultimately saves his life always imo comes across as a bit easy if you watch planet of the spiders without this context in mind. But when you do think about where Mike has been, psychologically, from the green death through to planet of the spiders, it doesn’t seem easy at all but actually a significant if understated character moment.

[mushroominaforest]

I mean yes, definitely, but I also just really like projecting lmfao

[yamishika]

There’s a conversation that needs to be had—one that’s uncomfortable but necessary, and one I've been struggling with how to open up about until now.

Over the years, I’ve noticed an alarming trend: mental illness and trauma being used as justifications for toxic behaviour.

I wonder if you have noticed the same?

Instead of mental health discussions centering around awareness, healing, and support, they are often hijacked by individuals who weaponize their struggles to excuse manipulation, cruelty, and attention-seeking.

Mental illness is real. Trauma is real. And the way people process them isn’t always healthy, which is completely understandable. But neither gives anyone a free pass to mistreat others, refuse accountability, or act superior.

~

From Awareness to Entitlement: The Dark Side of Online Mental Health Culture

From what I’ve witnessed, certain patterns have become disturbingly common in online spaces.

Such as:

Stacking multiple severe disorders—even when their symptoms contradict each other.

Constantly shifting between victimhood and superiority—one minute they’re “the most broken,” the next they’re “more intuitive and enlightened than others.”

Using trauma (even serious trauma like SA) to justify toxic behavior—as if being hurt gives someone the right to hurt others.

Turning mental illness into an aesthetic—romanticizing harmful symptoms instead of working toward healing.

Hijacking every discussion to make it about themselves—no matter how irrelevant their experiences are to the topic at hand.

Glorifying toxic mindsets—claiming that “revenge is healing” or that their suffering makes them special.

None of this fosters real awareness about mental health. Instead, it turns it into a competition of who has suffered the most rather than a conversation about growth and recovery.

~

How Does This Hurt Mental Health Advocacy & Online Spaces?

1. It Spreads Misinformation

When mental illness is widely misrepresented online, it creates a warped perception of real conditions, leading to harmful stereotypes.

For example:

Those with BPD = are automatically characterised as manipulative and abusive.

Those with DID = are characterised quirky and or entertaining.

Those who experience psychosis = are feared as dangerous or viewed as mystical.

And the list goes on.

These generalizations overshadow the reality of these conditions and make it harder for real sufferers to be taken seriously.

2. It Excuses Harmful Behavior

Trauma and mental illness can explain why someone struggles, but they do not and will never excuse cruelty, manipulation, or entitlement.

Saying, “I can’t help it, I have [insert disorder]” is an incredibly toxic and limiting mindset.

Of course, there are individuals who struggle with impulse control, dissociation, or cognitive difficulties that make self-awareness and regulation difficult.

This post is not about them.

This is about those who intentionally misuse mental health labels to justify manipulative or harmful behaviors without any desire to improve or acknowledge the impact on others.

Mental illness does not make someone incapable of change. Accountability is still necessary, and using a diagnosis as a shield from consequences is harmful to both the individual and those around them.

3. It Romanticizes Pain Instead of Encouraging Healing

When suffering becomes an identity rather than something to work through, people stop seeking ways to improve. Healing starts to feel like a loss rather than a goal.

And let’s be real—some people even intentionally worsen their condition. Whether that be:

Feeding into unhealthy behaviors,

Rejecting any form of treatment, or

Even exaggerating their symptoms—

At some point, their illness becomes who they are, rather than something they manage.

And that’s where things get really dangerous.

Instead of encouraging healing, mental health spaces become places where people are praised for how much they suffer rather than how much they grow.

4. It Turns Online Spaces Into Toxic, Draining Environments

Instead of being places for support, mental health spaces often devolve into:

Excessive and inappropriate trauma dumping—where personal struggles are unloaded onto others with no regard for boundaries, leaving them feeling obligated to listen out of fear of seeming insensitive or uncaring.

Gatekeeping suffering—where people compete over who has it “the worst.”

Never-ending drama—where people spiral over who is more valid instead of how to get better.

Instead of fostering real progress, these spaces become echo chambers of dysfunction—and no one actually gets better.

~

The Biggest Issue: When Serious Trauma Is Used to Justify Anything

One of the most concerning things I’ve noticed is how people use their trauma to manipulate others. I’ve seen individuals use their past experiences to:

Guilt-trip others into supporting them, even when they’re toxic.

Shut down accountability by saying that questioning them = attacking a survivor (whether said outright or implied).

Weaponize their trauma against other victims—as if their pain gives them the right to dictate who gets to speak.

But the more trauma is used as a shield against criticism or a tool for attention, the less meaning it holds.

People start becoming desensitized—losing patience with those who turn trauma into a performance. Over time, it just becomes a buzzword or a red flag in conversations, something people avoid to steer clear of drama.

As a result, those who genuinely want to speak up barely get the chance. No one wants to listen anymore—not because their stories don’t matter, but because others have already exploited the platform.

And because of this, the seriousness of trauma gets lost in all the noise, making it harder for real conversations to happen.

Before I go further, I just want to clarify something important:

No one is denying that trauma is real and deeply impacts people. But being hurt does not give someone the right to hurt others.

This is a conversation we need to have, not to shame, but to encourage real healing.

~

The Damage Being Caused to Real Mental Health Awareness

Now onto my final points on why excusing toxic behaviors under the guise of mental health is so damaging:

• It Makes People Skeptical of Actual Sufferers. When too many people fake or exaggerate conditions, real sufferers face more scrutiny and disbelief. Those with the likes of say BPD, PTSD, or psychosis etc already deal with stigma—this just makes it worse.

• It Makes Real Sufferers Doubt Their Own Struggles. So many people with mental illness already struggle with imposter syndrome. They wonder, “Is my pain valid? Am I even sick enough to count?”

When exaggerated, performative portrayals become the loudest voices, and those with quieter struggles start to feel invisible.

• It Discourages People from Seeking Help. If trauma is treated like an identity rather than something treatable, people start to think that healing = losing who they are.

• It Turns Suffering Into a Status Symbol. Instead of encouraging healing, online spaces become a race to the bottom over who has suffered the most.

~

Final Thoughts

Mental illness and trauma deserve to be taken seriously—and that’s exactly why they should never be used to justify toxic behavior.

Conversations about mental health should be about genuine education, support, and healing—not a free pass to be cruel, manipulative, or entitled.

If we want mental health spaces to truly help people, we need to be willing to call out harmful behaviors that weaken the integrity of these conversations. Enabling toxicity in the name of mental health doesn’t protect sufferers—it hurts them.

This isn’t about blaming people who struggle. Everyone has difficulties, and healing isn’t easy. But true support means fostering growth, accountability, and honesty.

Growth—encouraging people to work toward healing, not remain stuck. Accountability—recognizing that struggles explain behavior, but don’t excuse harm. Honesty—having real conversations about mental health without distortion or performative suffering.

Mental health advocacy should always be about helping people move forward, not keeping them trapped in cycles of toxicity.

This post isn’t about invalidating trauma—it’s about holding people accountable for how they treat others, regardless of their struggles. Thank you for reading. I hope this post has given you something to think about and take away.

[jubilost]

we know jubilost has piercings but i like to think he has more that we don't see. yes in a horny way but i'm also imagining him sticking his tongue out in disgust and everyone stares for a second because he has a tongue stud. ask him about it and he mostly complains about the healing process, particularly how it restricted his diet(but it prompted him to write about the best and worst foods to eat while healing from a mouth injury, which helped justify the whole thing. or so he claims).

[uncanny-tranny]

I've been thinking about compiling a list of flags that I have experienced in therapy and the broader mental health field, and my list of that would be...

Red Flags:

Prioritizes the cessation of behaviours over the mental wellbeing of the person

Doesn't listen to patient feedback or relies solely on their expertise and how a patient "should" respond

Talks about other patients in a derogatory manner - even if the patient is not named nor identifying information about them is revealed

(Specific to minors) Will listen to the legal guardians over the minor, even about subject manner said minor can speak about. The professional placates to the wishes of the parent, even if placation is detrimental to the minor.

Leaves patient uneducated about treatment plan or diagnoses, or waves away explanation to the patient.

Abandons treatment without ensuring patient will be adequately taken care of

These are red flags I have observed or experienced as a patient. Broadly speaking, many indications that an expert is a bad fit is lack of communication and/or lack of listening or compassion toward the patient.

Green flags:

Fully listens to patient, validates concerns, emotions, or fears

Educates patient about any diagnoses when applicable, answers questions honestly and compassionately

Relates to patient in a professional way, doesn't force patient to divulge if they are not able or willing to at the time

Prioritizes harm reduction in tandem with addressing the underlying cause of problematic behaviour

Makes a personalized plan for the patient and regards highly what the patient assesses their needs and/or goals are

Again, I must stress that this advice is not coming from a professional. However, I have had over a decades' worth of experience with a variety of mental health professionals, each with their own red and green flags. Some of these red flags have been detrimental to my mental health and have set me back in terms of healing, which is why I stress the importance of patient advocacy and for patients to trust their institution about new mental health providers.

[quietwingsinthesky]

you think sam ever wonders if dean would have tricked him into saying yes to lucifer again if it meant saving his life.

[bmpmp3]

post ankle-twisting clarity