#it makes me feel so unwelcome

[xwonderlandresidentx]

Being a black geek, or just a geek of color in general, is so hard. Sometimes I'll be scrolling through art and fics for the various fandoms I'm interested in and see a bunch of great stuff made about all the white characters and I'll think "Man, all this stuff is so great, why don't I interact with these fandoms more often?" And then I'll check the artists' and writers' blogs and see so many of them whitewash poc characters, and describe black characters as "tan", and strip away indications of their culture, and completely change their personalities, and then I'll remember "oh yeah, that's why."

[mercymaker]

i spent quite a bit of time thinking, considering my options and wondering if i should even respond to the 'apology' to begin with, but i feel like i've been here before, in this exact same position (i didn't respond to his original 'apology' because it felt off how he omitted the fact that he pretended to be the victim for a whole week, but even then i decided to not say anything and just let the dust settle and give him a chance to learn and do better) and doing nothing eventually just caused more harm. even if i can't reach the other side and find common understanding, i wanted to at least express what's been on my mind for such a long time.

i always try to approach people and situations with understanding and try to assume ignorance instead of malice when someone says or does something i consider questionable or wrong. but i also know we all have our limits. we are all human. and you can't take the heart out of the equation.

one thing in this 'apology' that really stood out to me was this:

how is it not malice to completely disregard another creator, hell, another person and their wishes and feelings when they have made it very clear that your actions are causing them harm?

how is it not malice to outright lie and misrepresent other people and situations in order to portray yourself in a better light?

how is it not malice to disrespect the people you've stolen from and then, after they (by your own words!) rightfully address it and try to bring your actions to light, you then turn around and vilify them to your friends and followers? portray them as bullies and gatekeepers?

all while repeating again and again how the whole experience made you stop creating? as if your actions didn't force people out of this space, this fandom? have you ever sat down to think how the person that made you a 40 minute video tutorial on gif making, the person that taught you so much, no longer makes anything at all because you turned your back on her and copied her sets? kept doing it after she blocked you? after she made text posts expressing how upsetting your behaviour was? you didn't care and kept doing it anyway. even saying things like 'i always credit where credit is due' in response to copying numerous sets from @minthara, down to the caption without ever crediting her.

and if that wasn't enough harm, you then took it a notch further and straight up lied to the people around you, trying to vilify petra and i by saying how the whole thing should've been dealt with in private. how is it not malice to omit the fact that I DID, in fact, reach out to you privately. that i did it in a civil manner. that i tried to explain to you how your actions were wrong and were rightfully upsetting other creators. how you ignored everything i've said and when i expressed that your response (or lack of it) made me uncomfortable and that because of it i couldn't give you permission to 'recreate' (copy) my work, you then insulted me and told me that it didn't matter what i wanted? that you would do as you please and there was nothing i could do about it? how you then immediately blocked me so i couldn't even respond? how is that not malice?

and then this was from your apology back in march:

and you insist that after this 'apology' you've learnt and were never doing anything wrong again and yet you are saying the same thing again in your new 'apology'. how after the march events you went to @galedekarios anyway, asking for permission, didn't wait for her response and posted your copy of her set anyway. which just makes me think that you've never learnt. it just makes it seem that asking people for permission never stemmed from a place of respect and understanding, but from the need to cover your ass in case someone brings the fact that you're still copying up. which someone did, apparently.

at the end of the day, this is my opinion and i might be wrong, but following all of your words and actions, it just seems like you chose notes and attention instead of people. that you kept lying and misrepresenting things and throwing us under the bus for your own gain. and that you only stopped because enough people eventually found out, not because you suddenly felt remorse. and this 'apology' was just another 'ask for permission from a creator', all just for optics. you couldn't even bother to unblock us before posting the 'apology' which just shows how little you were actually thinking about any of us.

[redysetdare]

every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.

[eerna]

the Nahli Experience TM (feat. @yatorihell)

[chaos-potat]

Getting something off my chest.....

I'm gonna say it now because I'm tired of pretending like this is okay, being straight is the natural one guys, how many animals out there are gay??

Oh, Penguins? Wait, Giraffes too? Oh, Dolphin, whales and- WHATEVER, WE'RE NOT DUMB ANIMALS WE KNOW BETTER, boys kissing boys is literally so gross and wrong and ugh

People should know better than that, the world is so stupid and stinky now 🙄🙄🙄 Go back to the days of straight people where the men were off to war having manly fun together doing who knows what without their wives and the woman were having fun together doing who knows what without the men like true christians!!!1!!! Lots of woman in a house alone together being heterosexuals same with men being alone together

It is not normal to be gay like this!!! Why is it being normalized, I feel like I'm the only true nice Christain rottmnt artist on Tumblr!!! I am a good Christian man only like woman guys!!! Men are so gross and I would never kiss any Splinter because I'm straight!!!! No Draxum, no Hob, no Baxters, no Bishop!!!! Gross, I would never kiss a man!!! Like, I can say they're hot and I want to hold hold hands and go on a cute date and kiss them but that's not gay!!! I like woman because it's normal1!!!111!!!

Also rise Leo is straight

[pastafossa]

i’m so sleepy because GOOD DAY but also LONG DAY during which I got sunburned from 20 minutes of direct sunlight, RIP.

But the biggest one, I went to a TAROT CLASS at a shop 5 mins from my house and I went to the little table and there was one chair left, they said I could sit there, so I pull it out and BOOM THERE IS A CAT, A CAT WAS IN THE CHAIR, IT WAS WONDERFUL, SHE WAS BLACK AND SOFT AND LIKES TO LAY ON YOUR LAP WHEN YOU SIT DOWN, NEW FAVORITE PLACE.

Other fun things from the class:

Delved into court cards which is great cause swords and pentacles are my nemesis, but now I can handle them better, and can use them for creating characters!

Told everyone about the small town I moved from and how they were Not Friendly (TM) to this sort of thing, they asked where, I said the town name, and all three of them let out a huge NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. One lady went, ‘I’ve heard about -Old Town-. They’re SO mean.’ And, you know... they’re right.

Did I mention the cat

Group mockery of people in Old Town who said it was too cold for me to live in this place and I’d be miserable.

Group commiseration over There Is No Planning The Weather, The Lake Decides 20 Minutes Before The Weather.

One of them did a tarot reading for me when we were done (AWESOME, and very encouraging about TRT) and then let me do a tarot reading for them which I’d never done for a stranger before (NERVE-WRACKING). But I think I did ok. I’m a storyteller, I roll with it.

They said i could visit whenever and drink tea and read books in their comfy corner and also visit the cat

Pepperoni is welcome, my pet snake can literally visit, he hates leaving the house so he won’t  but I appreciate it anyway

They were HAPPY I was there. Like I legitimately felt welcomed and not like a dumbass or an outsider and it was GREAT.

I mentioned I lived five minutes away, on *street name*. And I said, ‘if you’re ever on that street, I’m the one with the dragons’ and the shop lady just gasped and went ‘YOU’RE THE DRAGON HOUSE???’ So I’m glad to know this is my reputation in the neighborhood. 

The cat liked me and brought a ball to me, I have been blessed

[fruitcage]

Trent is looking extra hot this season. Yes, it's because of the hair and the whole vibe.

[the-glitter-painter]

✨ what I was GONNA say before the unicorn intruded. I would just like to say age regressors are always and will always be welcome on my blog and if you think agere is weird or sexual in any way then please educate yourself 🫶 it is valid and normal and cool and I DESPISE how badly it’s been misinterpreted and twisted into something it’s not by certain nasty groups. ✨

✨while I’m at it I wanna say the same for people with “weird” interests that are nonsexual but people often completely misinterpret it as k/nk. you’re also valid, you’re welcome here and I will not judge you✨

✨ that’s all thank you <3 everyone please remember to be kind and understanding and don’t assume things about people at a glance!!✨

[thedissociatives]

also if you guys think i take issue with a lot of aspects of hockey culture you aren't prepared for how much i hate a lot of football culture

[swordsofsaturn]

i'm going to be honest i still feel very left out of the general queer scene in australia. something about it feels very.... insular. unable to be broken into unless you're already in it. maybe i'm just bitter and lonely and can never feel a part of any community ever but like every now and then i just see on instagram or something some random queer event or parade and i'm like ??? what on earth is this? why haven't i heard about this? like it's always something i'll never know about until it's too late. how do people get the secret knowledge in advance in order to attend these things. why is there a pride parade in melbourne right now i don't get it

[clown-demon]

((I spent like over an hour in chat just chatting with two other members of the server.. I've never felt like I belonged anywhere. I always felt like the black sheep where ever I go. But in the server and twitter I just kinda feel like a place of belonging and it's actually been helping me socialize better.. I struggle so bad to connect to others but on the server I find it easy to chat?? Even to people I am not following on twt.

[kerorowhump]

keroro the type of person to get very upset if he's not invited to something

[politemagic]

working in an office i’ve never really been in before is like “am i allowed to use this coffee maker? or will i be stoned to death?”

[blujayonthewing]

reflecting on how all of my other DMs have gone above and beyond to lovingly weave my and my friends' backstory elements into the larger worldbuilding of the campaign by contrast to all of the ways Elyss' DM has gone out of his way to suppress or excise any influences her family may have ever had on anything and I'm genuinely near tears over it

[the-deku-nut]

how to i drill it into my dashboards skull that i don't want to see posts from transmisogynistic trans guys about how "erm actually we are all gonna die so stop infighting, oppresion olympics 🤓" when its any trans woman talking about how transmisogny affects them in any form.

guys will be guys ig, always talking over and dismissing women

[mellarked-katnisseverdeen]

/Vent. Ignore please.