#is it a social norm? yes
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Kind of a rant
In Japan, being a public disturbance is reallyyyy frowned upon and if someone is, it's pretty common that a stranger will scold them. Usagi and Mamoru's dynamic in the first season gets misunderstood, because that sort of thing doesn't really exist in the US. Usagi's primary setting is "public disturbance" and Mamoru coincidentally keeps being the person who scolds her. Americans just see it as bullying because the idea of a stranger scolding you (for something *you* did wrong) is foreign to them. The US is individualist but Japan is collectivist, so there's more accountability for bad public etiquette.
people are just constantly like "why is he bullying her😢😢" during scenes where usagi is breaking like 5 massive social rules at once. for context, some japanese social rules that will get you scolded if broken would be: yelling, talking loudly, sitting on the ground, crawling, throwing things (duh), running, bumping into people, and eating while walking (you could run into someone).
when mamoru makes fun of her for "stuffing her face" or something, he's not criticizing her for eating, he's criticizing her for eating while walking.
basically, the concept is "what if the person who is rude in public and the person who scolds them ended up being in love haha". it's really not that deep, like it's just silly. usagi ignores basic social rules, and then acts dense when she's being scolded, so the five year olds at home can be like "haha that's so silly. also i shouldn't eat my candy while walking so i don't run into people like she does".
these interactions are a comedic way to teach young children everyday etiquette, basically. and mamoru's scolding being completely ineffective and making the issue worse adds to the comedy
(i do think gently explaining to her that she's bothering others is what would get through to her, but that's not very funny and would be really anticlimactic so.. also her character arc is literally about being less self centered and taking others into account more, like these fights are thematically important too.)
#I FEEL LIKE THIS IS AN OBVIOUS THING TO EXPLAIN BUT PEOPLE REALLY DON'T GET IT..😭😭😭#if he's “bullying” her that means she's completely innocent like..#is throwing your shoes around in a crowded area safe behavior??#SHE LITERS TOO WHICH IS SUCH A NO NO AND EVERYONE IGNORES IT..#she pesters public service workers#she is such a mess and people are like “lalala i don't see it”#it's actually miraculous she doesn't get scolded more#mamoru doesn't scold her because he wants her to suffer or something#it's because he feels responsible when she does something wrong and wants her to do better#do you have to agree with it? no#is it a social norm? yes#is it bullying? no#does usagi pretend it's bullying to wriggle out of being accountable? yes#does scolding work? not on usagi#is it essential to the story? YES#sailor moon#tsukino usagi#usagi tsukino#mamoru chiba#chiba mamoru#rant
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Rereading Oathbringer, and it's once again so painfully clear to me that Lirin pushing Kaladin to become a surgeon was his desperate attempt to keep Kaladin from going to war. As a surgeon's assistant, Kaladin was exempt from being conscripted into the Alethi military, and sending him to Kharbranth would get him even further away from the war. I know Lirin gets a lot of flak for trying to push his views and desires onto Kaladin, but all I really see is a father trying his hardest to protect his son from the horrors of war while living in a society that venerates it.
#anecdotes by peachdoxie#Stormlight Archive#peachdoxie rereads Stormlight#i think the lirin criticism often strays into applying our social norms onto a fictional society#like yes it would be great if lirin had supported Kaladin's desire to be a solider#but like lirin didn't have a lot of options to keep Kaladin safe#like idk i just see lirin much more sympathetically than 'strict father forcing his views onto kaladin because he's Always Right '#i think there's a lot more nuance to lirin than that#and it's sometimes baffling how many people don't see the same things i do in his character#anyway lirin is my favorite minor character dont @ me
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friendly reminder that L canonically falls on the overly fussy about cleanliness side of personal hygiene rather than the grubby side. He is probably a bit odd and/or lazy about some of the methods he uses to get clean (like the jokes in that one-shot where he has Watari change his shirt for him and bathes in a human washing machine thingy and owns a conveyer belt with a bunch of identical clothes), but not about BEING clean (he probably has certain habits like delicately holding things by his fingertips partially because he dislikes getting messy so much, and he often hires other people to do the truly dirty work for him as well)
#HOWEVER did he canonically also eat an ice cream cone on the toilet in a one-shot as well#yes but i bet you anything he was still neat while he did it#my headcanon for him is he's cleanly but likes to deal with personal hygiene as efficiently as possible#and with little concern for/awareness of social norms#l lawliet#p
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life hack!! shift your sleep schedule up two hours by being so bored and depressed that at 10pm five nights in a row you find yourself thinking "the only way to salvage this day is through the sweet oblivion of unconsciousness" and then immediately going to bed so you don't have to figure out another way to pass the hours ✅
#yes usually i go to bed at 12:30-1ish. i realize 10pm is not a weird bedtime but it is quite different than my norm#usually this doesn't work because i get in bed and then just lie there unable to fall asleep. but lately i've been out almost immediately#it's working so well. i'm sleeping more than 9 hours a night and that's 9 whole hours i don't have to be thinking about anything!#sleep#the ol' clinny d#in other news i have started rewatching joy of life. save me joy of life joy of life save me#joy of life bring some joy into my life. or something joy-flavored i'm not picky#artificial joy flavoring is fine#anyway i had a social thing scheduled for this evening that was going to eat up like 4 whole hours but it was just cancelled#uh-oh! back to the drawing board#i could do 10 weeks of friday and saturday nyt crosswords. that should take about 4.5 hours#but what i should probably do is my laundry
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Hot take I think Dawn could be a very interesting villain. She wouldn't be openly malicious like Scott or enjoy the suffering of others like Mal, but more of a true neutral. You know she could absolutely use her abilities to show people their true, ugly side and force them to confront their demons head on. An outcast, a deep seated sense of resentment. She wouldn't start the fire but she would watch everything burn
#td dawn#total drama#👀#yes that comic activated something in me#Dawn should call people out more. she should of been more angry#She 100% knows that people see her as a freak and creepy and does not follow social norms at all and oughhhh.
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Question— if gender is a social construct, then how does body/sex dysphoria exist, especially stuff like phantom limb that many trans people get?/gen. Although I guess I’ll never know, I think that if I spent my whole life on a deserted island and never had any human contact I’d still feel something off about my body and stuff. Like, having more or less pieces of paper doesn’t actually affect you, it’s the value that you put on those pieces that make money important, but I don’t think that’s how gd operates?
People (correctly) call gender a social construct because, like money, it's a concept that humans made up and have developed over thousands of years.
Societal standards about gender (AKA gender roles) dictate how people think about gender, and those standards are very cisnormative. The normal value and qualities given to gender by societal standards don't leave room for trans, nonbinary, intersex, and gender non-conforming people. For example in Western society the traditional thinking goes: long hair=boobs=feminine=woman and beard=no boobs=masculine=man etc even if that's not true.
So body dysphoria can exist because the social construct of gender says that certain body parts or features 'belong' to certain genders, and so anyone that doesn't fit that can experience dysphoria.
For example, a transfem who's spent her whole life growing up in a society that thinks p*nis=man is probably going to have bottom dysphoria (especially if she was assigned male at birth because of her genitalia).
And for your example of the island, trans and intersex people who live in more accepting places (with cultures that recognize gender diversity or that that don't equate gender with body parts) might be less dysphoric. Trans people who live alone may also be less dysphoric because they aren't being judged based on their bodies. That being said when the average person is cis and your body doesn't function/look the same way as theirs it can still make you feel dysphoric or weird about your body!
So if you lived on an deserted island there's no way to know if you'd still have body dysphoria if you'd never had any human contact but chances are that even if you felt off/weird, you wouldn't even have a sense of gender. The sense of weirdness is still valid but your no-human-contact self probably wouldn't be able to understand it.
The way people experience their dysphoria, just like the way people think about gender roles or value money or perform social customs etc, is very much influenced by their culture.
And so people with no/low dysphoria often just don't care as much about the traditional construct of gender. They know their body parts don't control their gender no matter what people say and it doesn't bother them that much. For people who do experience body dysphoria though, even if you know that body parts don't equal gender they can still bother you a lot (especially if people have invalidated you [or you've invalidated yourself] based on them).
Hopefully mod understood your question and this helps anon! Dysphoria is different for everyone and it's a tricky question.
#so yes a lot of this boils down to the fact that gender is a social construct but also cisnormative#and if you don't fit the norm and you know that then it can cause weird/bad feelings#dysphoria tw#gender dysphoria#dysphoria#not dysphoric culture#ask#mod answers#gender#gender studies#body dysphoria#sex dysphoria#cisnormativity#transphobia tw#internalized transphobia tw#tw genitalia mention#trans#lgbt+#queer#nonbinary#intersex#long post
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every day on this cursed webbed site i come across some of the stupidest fucking opinions i've ever seen and i'm honestly so so strong for not engaging
#listen to me okay this is really important: men are not your enemies#our patriarchal system values then more than women in general yes#but the system takes far far more from them than it pretends to give#the slow work of dismantling it has left behind the bones of systemic expectations for how men & women are supposed to be#and the expectations for men isolate them & demands they be strong & emotionless#but isolation & suppressing your emotions do horrible things to humans; we're social creatures! we NEED connections with others!!#if you can't scrape up an ounce of sympathy for men who are struggling (under a system we're trying to dismantle)#how on earth do you expect them to sympathize with you? when you dismiss or mock their very real pain#men are not a different eviler species!! that is just a pink washed version of what the people who built the patriarchal system believed!!!#the similarities between modern terf bioessentialist takes & medieval patriarchal ones are uncanny because they're based on the same bullshi#both treat men & women as separate competing species!!! but we're not!! we're in this together!!#and real men & women have NEVER naturally fit into neat artificial categories#framing the fight against the harmful patriarchal structures & norms as a fight against men is both stupidly innacurate & self-defeating!#men today did not build the patriarchy!! theyre suffering under it alongside us!!!!#imagine how powerful the movement if we actually tried connecting with men instead of treating them as proxies for structural problems#imagine how much we could accomplish if we worked together to dismantle the systems & norms that harm us?
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olivia is so tfw no gf because shes. awkward as fuck Like That and Crazy. every woman she meets within ten minutes shes talking about something like the politics of fuckin bleaching your asshole or psychologically analyzing them as a person or how the entire whole of existence literally everything IS. a circle.
#olivia: will there be women at the function#aaron: yes#olivia: im not going.#aaron: OLIVIA HW ARE YOU GONNA GET WIFED IF YOU DONT TALK TO WOMEN#olivia: I WILL EMBARRASS MYSELF AARON ITS HIGHSCHOOL ALL OVER AGAIN ALWAYS WITH EVERYONE#pov aaron hates his best friend dumps her starbucks all over her#SHES SO AWKWARD SHES THE AWKWARD QUEEN#she definitely is so autism. she has no care or concern for social norms shes just gonna jump into talking about. fucking something#always something with her#worlds most computer-oriented brain#olivia octavius#useless words
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the problem with self-diagnosis that most concerns me is the risk of people, teenagers especially, pathologizing normative behavior
#p.s.#yes there are social and financial and sometimes familial barriers that limit people's access to official diagnosis#and I don't think self-diagnosis is an inherently bad reaction to any of those#but the thing is you can reasonably look through the diagnostic criteria for just abt any mental illness or disorder and diagnose yourself#with it if you spend enough time analyzing everything you do#diagnoses don't indicate just a pattern of behavior but the severity of the pattern and the context in which it was formed#like all those 15 year old who think they have BPD#you don't have BPD hon you're just 15#doesn’t mean you don't need support or mental health services#but the reason we don't diagnose teens with BPD is bc there's no real way to tell since most teenagers just kind of act like they have BPD#if you're acting like you're 15 and you're 15 that's called being a hormonal teenager#if you're acting 15 and you're 30 that's BPD (this is a gross oversimplification but you get the idea)#also we don't tend to diagnose personality disorders in teens very often bc teens are still developing their personalities#like you can do all the research in the world in your early teens and correctly come to the conclusion that your behavior mimicks BPD and#the incorrectly self diagnose as BPD bc you understand all the symptoms of BPD but don't actually understand what a personality disorder is#or how it develops#I've met tons of people who are self diagnosed as this or that who couldn't correctly define a depressive episode let alone their own#diagnosis#also the tendency for people to perpetuate completely normative behaviors as signs of one disorder or another indicates to me that a lot of#people don't understand these diagnoses as much as they may think#or when they blame unrelated behaviors on their self diagnosis - as if that's an excuse even if they were related#again I don't think self-diagnosis is bad but seeing large amounts of teenagers and kids pathologize their age appropriate behaviors as the#most severe kinds of disorders and then having full grown adults go to bat for their right to view their normative behaviors as a mental#disease that they will have to manage for their whole life is... concerning to say the least
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“Male bonding is institutionalized learned behavior whereby men recognize and reinforce one another’s bonafide membership in the male gender class and whereby men remind one another that they were not born women…Male bonding is how men learn from each other that they are entitled under patriarchy to power in the culture. Male bonding is how men get that power, and male bonding is how it is kept.” - bell hooks (ain’t I a woman: black women and feminism)
#bell hooks#ain’t i a woman: black women and feminism#male bonding#male solidarity#male socialization#patriarchal norms#womanhood#feminism#dibs#yes all men
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deep deep hater of any "im an atheist i do not conform to any social dogma about religion" especially when its from some "skeptic" of a particular religious establishment. i dont suck the dick of any church but like... if your whole identity as an atheist is based on that you hate whatever religion you grew up (usually a branch of christianity) the social norms and establishment of this religion have affected you, congrats.
#as an autistic person i hate this sort of black and white thinking that you are UNAFFECTED by these social norms#like sure you might disagree with your upbringing and that's fine#except if you ask a white atheist if a brown person can be an atheist you get a lot of Interesting answers#as an atheist i do believe atheists are part of the ingroup of religion we are brought up in#regardless of how rationally distant you are from practice#yes i see anyone of any religious or ethnic background as capable of atheism except#i do not have any particularly strong opinion on confirmation in protestant and catholic christianity#i dont have any strong opinion on b miztvah in judaism#i have no idea if hindus have birth rituals#and i frankly dont think being too educated in ANY and all world religions is necessary to consider yourself atheism even if its welcomed#but the idea that you are sociologically separated from religion just because you're atheist is laughable and rooted in white supremacy#because only Enlightened White Peole who Hate the Catholic Church TM can be atheists#is ridiculous in my opinion
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This poll only talks about cases where there’s no medical emergency involved, so you — the person who picks up the cellphone for someone else — have no idea who the caller is or what the call is about. You just pick up the cellphone for someone else because they’re not around. They can be your friend or even your spouse, but that’s not the point.
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I forgot to post here, but I redid Gallant's original design awhile back and I am looking for ways to use them in this form again.
Travel the planes of time, cause rifts, accidentally just crack their power form and just wants to be home for someone? The possibilities are endless!
#my art#and yes: it's they /them for Gal#genderfluidity in robots is hot who needs to follow the social norms from when you were made
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A short view back to the past on F1 drivers' questionable relationship with food and exercise:
- Valtteri Bottas suffered from ED around 2013
- David Coulthard suffered from bulimia in his teenage years
- George Russell said "I can't afford to have dessert cuz I weigh 72kg in the morning" in Miami 2022 [PSA: as long as your overall diet and nutrient-dense and balanced, you can have desserts in moderation]
- Charles Leclerc said in 2018 that he "tries to workout enough that he can afford to eat whatever he wants" [PSA: you should never "earn food" through over-exercising]
- Also Charles in his 2023 winter training videos, mentioning how he "was quite good over Christmas" and "worked hard enough today so he can finally 'enjoy' his dinner" (ngl that video was a bit triggering to me cuz I see my ED self in it) (not implying he does have any problems in this regard) [PSA: every food is good food and again you don't need to overexercise to "earn" food]
And here they are, a fia-accredited media, doubling down on their job that already have weight requirements and their very questionable relationship with food, posting body shaming comments about drivers, under their east Asia fatphobic social norms. (I am allowed to shit on it cuz I AM from east Asia)
As someone who suffered from ED and is still recovering from recent relapse, I find it incredibly triggering, disgusting, and potentially dangerous. This body shaming promotes nothing but fatphobia and weight stigma, and can be very triggering for those who already have issues with food.
I bet whoever wrote that caption has no awareness that eating disorders have the highest mortality rate among all kinds of mental health issues. I bet whoever wrote that has no idea that eating disorders affect people of all genders, races and body sizes. I bet whoever wrote that caption has no recollection that eating disorders are under diagnosed in many demographic groups such as men, especially male athletes.
I am personally grossed out by that. And I hope I will never see that.
And please. If you have issues with food, seek help. Go to see your GP and talk to them about it. Go to see an ED specialist and get help from them. Talk to ED helplines and see your options.
#tw: eating problems#tw: ed behaviors#I am just so fucking sick of that#and yes does that shit caption affect me today? yes.#would i be affected and start restrictions if i were charles? def.#and fuck you shigasportsjapan and fuck ur east asia fatphobic social norms
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I'm fed up with all the "Halsin was traumatized by his three years life being drow mistresses' plaything so seriously, that he couldn't blablablabla" thing. If we talk about trauma, mind that he had spent a hundred years desperately trying to find and free Thaniel and lift the shadow curse and failed and feel powerless and guilty for it, I'll say it's tramanize him more than anything.
Halsin was born with a soul bonding to nature that he could see Thaniel from his childhood and didn't even realize Thaneil wasn't a "normal" soul, such a golden spirit he is. Yet someone said it's because he was not accepted by his society so he stick with Thaneil. Excuse me? WHO NEEDS HUMAN (or elves, whatever) FRIENDS WHEN HE COULD PLAY WITH THE VERY SPIRIT OF NATURE ITSELF??? To make it like the nature was only the second choice for him, that he turned to nature only because he was disregarded and mistreated by societies, that he was forced to chose nature instead of HE WAS INITIALLY BOUND WITH NATURE FROM THE VERY START, that he used nature as a disguise rather than HIS FIRST AND FORMOST CHOICE IS ALWAYS NATURE ITSELF, sounds so arrogant and civilization-insolence to me that makes me feel it's an insult to the very core of Halsin's personality.
Just accept that he's not into Tav that much! He is not interested in making a commitment with Tav bcs he is not interested in committing himself to any individual damn it! His heart laid with nature and I AM FUCKING LOVING IT.
I know ppl talk about his trauma with different reasons and some genuinely love him and sympathize his experiences with their own, I totally understand it. But some ensusiatic focus on his "trauma" and the insisting of Larian didn't dig enough into his "trauma" sounds bordering kink talkings to me. If anyone really into sexual trauma kink that much, just turn left to Astarion, he has tons of traumas to appease ppl's fetish.
#start to block all the posts that consider the answer to all Halsin's actions that not appease to social norms is his time with drows#Yes he is VERY fond of Tav but that still doesn't mean#Halsin is the first druid that make me feel the druid's devotion/faith actually means something both to themselves and to the nature#rather than “it's just another class in dnd that couldn't even fight effectively”
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