#insecure attachment style

[sophiemariepl]

I feel like TBoSaS fans can be put into these categories

Fans who idealize Coriolanus Snow:

- oh, Coryo is so handsome and smart, of course, he couldn’t be wrong!

- either think that Coryo was right about Sejanus deserving to die or say they know it was basically murder and that Coryo was a killer but don't care because Coryo is handsome and/or they like him #HaloEffect

- believes Coryo is more intelligent than everyone around him, he deserves the best #SnowLandsOnTop

- livin��� on TikTok edits

Fans disillusioned about Coriolanus Snow:

- believe that Coriolanus is a monster ever from the start of the book until the very end

- often don’t care about the background that Coryo grew up and developed in

- often read/portray Coryo as an incel, a dude completely entrapped in toxic masculinity, or a straight-up psychopath or a sociopath

- “OMG Lucy Gray run away from him!!1!”

Fans with an insecure attachment style and childhood trauma:

- understand the trauma and background that Coriolanus grew up in and that largely contributed to him becoming a monster in his early adulthood (Capitol is a morally rotten place)

- simultaneously don’t excuse his crimes - the fact that Coryo was largely shaped by an awful environment doesn’t excuse murder but it explains how he ended up in this place

- relate to Coryo’s mental health issues in many ways

- understand that Coryo was more of a human doing than human being, that his whole self-perception and self-esteem was based on the pressure to reclaim the honor for Snow's name as the last man in his family and on the lack of secure relationships for most of his time (his grandmother influenced him more than Tigris + outside of his household he was constantly pressured to pretend to be someone else)

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Of course, don’t treat this too seriously, just sharin’ my thoughts and perceptions

[abbey-abdominal]

*My Love Mine All Mine by Mitski plays softly in the background*

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companion piece to this

[sarcasticgaypotato]

Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Vocaloid Rating: Mature Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Hatsune Miku/Megurine Luka Characters: Hatsune Miku, Megurine Luka, Meiko (mentioned) Additional Tags: coworkers with benefits, JackRabbit (Rabbit Hole!Miku/Blackjack!Luka), Smoking, Cocktail Waitress Miku, Blackjack Dealer Luka, they both work at the same casino, Mild Sexual Content, Negitoro, Both characters are in their 20s, plenty of references to both songs, Casino Girls AU Summary:

Falling in love is too much trouble. One-night stands mean never having to see the other person again, and less chance of getting attached. Unfortunately, some things are habit-forming.

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Hey look, I wrote a fic! Please read it, I need proof that I’ve still got it.

[litchiteany]

What Love is Not

💔

You asked me once, “What did I want?”

I thought you knew—our bond, a front—

To build, to grow, to share our minds,

Not simply echoes, hollow, blind.

You rushed ahead, yet kept your guard,

Distrust entrenched, emotions barred.

I laid my cards, exposed and raw,

While you stood back, observed each flaw.

Your focus fixed on flags unfurled,

Insecurities mapped your shallow world.

I played my part; I bared my soul,

Yet yours remained a guarded whole.

I reached for more while you withdrew,

A quiet war I never knew.

Through every door you closed with care,

You left me grasping empty air.

Your planned escape, a silent flight,

While I believed we’d hold the fight.

I’ve seen this act, rehearsed and thin—

A farce that kept the shadows in.

Walls went up—too high to breach—

Your silence spoke what words won’t teach.

Deflection was your chosen shield,

To doubts you never dared to yield.

So here I stand, my heart laid bare,

The weight of hope now worn to air.

If love to you is silent doubt,

Then I have learned what you’re about.

But know, when walls of stone decay,

My heart will turn and walk away.

JI

9-11-24

[coolerdracula]

they have got to make a cure for shame that works like instantly

[dykesynthezoid]

Remembered that my ex once got really depressed and jealous bc I was talking about how much I liked Audrey Hepburn. and I’m like. Oh so you kept dating that person for several months huh. That was a decision we made.

[misscaiacreates]

Anxious Attachment: Drowning & Yearning

Why does it feel like I’m drowning in the depths of my own mind? The blues and purples swirl around me, a tempest of emotions I can’t control. Your eyes, those isolated eyes, they haunt me. Do you see me? Do you truly see me, or am I just another shadow in your world?

I reach out, but my fingers grasp nothing but the cold, fragmented shapes of my thoughts. Why do I feel this constant push and pull, this relentless tug-of-war within my heart? Are you as conflicted as I am, or is it just me, lost in this turbulent sea of anxious attachment?

Every layer, every textured brush stroke, is a reminder of the complexity between us. I long for your touch, yet fear it might slip away. Why do I cling so desperately to the fragments of your affection, piecing together a mosaic of longing and vigilance? Can you feel my heartbeat, erratic and uncertain, as it pulses through this storm of emotion?

Is it love that binds us, or merely my fear of being alone? The turbulent waves crash against the walls of my heart, each beat a question, a doubt. Do you feel the same pull, the same yearning for connection, or am I adrift in this ocean alone?

Why can’t I silence the voices that whisper of inadequacy, that tell me I’m not enough for you? Each glance, each touch, is a fleeting moment of solace amidst the chaos. Will you stay, or will you too be swept away by the currents of my anxiety?

I long to find stillness, to gaze into your eyes without the shadow of doubt. But until then, I’m left to navigate this storm, hoping that somewhere within the depths, you’ll find me and anchor me with your love. Will you?

[coyotejaw]

dont like being the one to text first call that avoidant.

dont like being the one to end call first call that attachment.

[ubike-official]

I SHOULD BE AT THE CLUBBBBB

[wyn-n-tonic]

i hate how much i like this guy and always have liked this guy and i hate how admitting my feelings to both myself and him have basically given over the power to crush me. it was easier when i was the one making decisions for everybody else and was the reason i hurt. i don't like the notion that somebody else could make me hurt.

[sombering]

i told him i loved him and he broke up with me… it’s been a month why is it kind of funny now

[the-casbah-way]

i think. i might be the best boyfriend ever. i fear

[simpletricksandnonsense]

📺 NEW VIDEO: I Finally Know Why Oz Betrayed Vic! | Attachment Theory Explained 🎭

💡 Why did Oswald Cobblepot betray Vic? Was it just survival instinct, or was something deeper at play? In my latest breakdown, I analyze The Penguin’s attachment style and how disorganized attachment shaped his relationships and choices.

🔎 What’s in the video?

How Oswald’s traumatic childhood led to his erratic, fear-driven relationships.

The push-pull dynamic of disorganized attachment (anxious & avoidant tendencies).

Why Vic’s loyalty wasn’t enough -- and why Oz eliminated him to avoid vulnerability.

🧠 Do you think Oz’s attachment issues fully explain his betrayal of Vic? Or is there something more? Let’s discuss! ⬇️

[corpus-incorporated]

i don’t think i remember how to want anymore in that childish way from back when you knew your wanting wouldn’t jeopardize being loved

[litchiteany]

The Silent Distance

In the shadows where love’s light fades,

You hide, where fear’s cold cascade,

Attachment’s tendrils, you brush aside,

Closeness, a peril you can’t abide.

Love’s gentle whisper, a chilling call,

In your heart, it builds a wall,

All that’s precious, all that’s near,

Turns to ghosts you swiftly steer.

I chanced upon your heart, so cold,

In tepid waters, stories untold,

What was I? A fleeting need,

A means to sate, your fear to feed.

You claim a void, emotions stilled,

In a world where love’s pulse is chilled,

Yet within, a spark, a silent plea,

A hope to set your spirit free.

Believe in you, take courage’s hand,

Face the fear, let your heart expand,

To open up, to feel, to share,

A heart unbound, a soul laid bare.

JI

7-22-24

[carletes]

Also, disrespectfully, if you at any point have entertained these dumbass carlando divorce allegations, i would hate to be in a relationship with you irl