#infantalism

[whereserpentswalk]

Having fae blood is weird. Being any time of human effected by extra planer beings is weird, but with the fae you have a very specifically odd place in society. You don't even have the privilege of having it been an accident strangers can feel sorry about, you reached out to the faeries, let them play with your body and make it something more than human, it feels better this way, like you were always meant to have become this. You've heard yourself referred to as a changling a lot, but you're not sure you like that term for people touched by the fae, mabye you don't want there to be a term at all.

You're not treated exactly like other people who've been effected by other types of entities, it's not like you've been touched by eldritch magic, or by demonic or divine forces, or made undead, where you're likely to be dehumanized as a monster. People think of you as being cute in a gross way, mabye tragic, like you were a misguided soul who should have been stopped from becoming this way, and now you have to be taken care of. It's hard for people to accept that you should even be allowed to live a normal life. Every time you look up how to deal with aspects of being fae blooded you always see articles for parents dealing with their fae touched children, like they forgot those children will grow up.

People underestimate you in weird ways. People are suprised to learn that you live on your own, that you have an actual job, that you date. People are so willing to help you or to do things for you even when you explicitly tell them not to. The way people talk to every freind your with like they're your handler. Anyone who has power over you will debate weather to let you do things, or do things on your own, it's gotten to the point where your boss and half your professors act like you're a child whose behavior has to be corrected, they don't treat anyone else that way. You've had to explain to people so many times that you're fine handling your weakness to cold iron on your own.

You know that your body and your behavior is a big part of it. You like how you look, but there are so many traits that make people think of you like something small and cute, the flowers that grow in your hair, your big golden eyes, your pointed ears and little goblinoid fangs, the simple fact that your short and slender and androgynous, it all makes people think of you as less of an adult. Not to mention all those little fae quirks that make your behavior so much less human, that make people want to correct you like a misbehaving child. Sometimes you wish you had become creepier, wish you looked like the type of fae creature people need to be afraid of... You would have hated the body you have if it wasn't so euphoric to inhabit it.

Dealing with other demihumans sucks. A lot of them are nice, but it's hard to get some to understand how you're uniquely effected as a fae touched. Like, you understand that there's just some things that you don't go through, like you know someone whose been effected by demons, whose form is something that most people find incredibly scary, the type of creature that some people want to kill. And how can you explain to him that what you go through is just as much of a problem. You were told by an undead once that you were taking away attention from "real" demihumans, just for existing, just for wanting rights.

You've half given up on dating at this point. Your last boyfriend was a fellow demihuman, but he was eldirch touched, twice your hight and with a massive complex mouth filled with sharp teeth, he kept being called a pervert or a predator for dating you, he had to stop just because of that type of judgment. He was a year older than you. A fully human girlfriend you had before him kept treating you like she was your mother. Most people you meet on dating apps think of you as a kink, like a cute submissive little creature they want to dominate, they're so surprised when you don't have the type of fetish that they think is inherent to your being, when you don't think being called slurs is hot. And than there's the fact that people think you shouldn't be allowed to date, if certain laws had passed in your state you wouldn't legally be allowed to consent to sex. You can barely understand how you'd exist with something like that.

You're entire existing is on shaky legal grounds. It's only because of the state that you live in that you can live on your own, in others you would not be granted such privilege. Even still, wizards, the ones that are supposed to help people like you, have so much power over you. If the mage your supposed to visit for potions, someone you're technically paying to see, decides you aren't fit to live alone you lose that right, if they think you need a spell cast on you or a potion given to to "help" with your fae traits there's little you can do to resist. And if they decide you're enough of a harm to yourself, or to someone else (but in your case it's always yourself) they could send you somewhere very dark, somewhere you would only leave if they took mercy on you.

You've been dressing in a stereotypically fae manner more, and using more accommodations. You don't know why but it makes you feel good. You went to a protest the other day, dressed in traditional faerie robes, you got to actually use your magic to fend off a group of counterprotesters, mesmerizing them with illusions, and sending the crows and hornets to your aid. They looked afraid of you and it made you euphoric, you've been seen as a victim for so long, it feels so euphoric to be a monster for once...

[nicxxx5]

i hate when people discuss sign/traits/symptoms of autism they often you the word "inappropriate" to describe the behaviors of the autistic person

maybe it's just me but the use of the word inappropriate just gives off a gross connotation to the autistic person's behavior?

like why is the behavior inappropriate? what makes it inappropriate? because it's not like what allistic people do?

so is it actually inappropriate then? or is it irregular? abstract? different? even "abnormal" sound better than inappropriate to me

to me calling the behavior of autistic people inappropriate is dehumanizing because to me it implies the idea that autistic people don't know how to behave at all. like as if they can't understand what it means to do xyz.

but autistic people do know how to behave. they behave in a way that makes sense and is comfortable to them. it may not be what society scripted as they way to do something but i think to call it inappropriate is just wrong

[disabledtranshellagay]

Intellectually disabled people are allowed to have relationships

My partner is intellectually disabled. She doesn't have the highest support needs, but they are still there. I am both her partner and a kind of parental figure. She is kinky and she wants to kind of mix the two together and that is her active choice, but for the most part I am platonically her parental figure. She is 27 i am 30. She has a history of csa. I am one of the only people she's had that has helped her to genuinely improve her mental health. She is a person. She is allowed to have relationships. I am not inherently predatory for dating her. And I am not a predator. She just has support needs that I can fill. Don't tell me she can only be helped by a therapist, and I shouldn't support her. She is going to therapy. When you see an intellectually disabled person dating someone, don't assume that they are being preyed upon. Actually see if they are and then act. To assume because someone is mentally disabled that that means they cannot have relationships is just abelism. To assume intellectually disabled people are puritan and cannot have kinks, INCLUDING THOSE THAT INVOLVE THEIR DISABILITY is abelism and infantilizing. Intellectually disabled people who have a younger mental age ARE NOT CHILDREN. Look out for them, protect them, care for them, stop them from being preyed upon, but do not overwrite their decisions unless you actually see someone prey upon them.

[eternalplutoniangoddess]

the curse of looking young is that people don't take you seriously and infantilizing your mental health.

"aww you're such a cutie, why do want to kill yourself?" I don't know Janet because I'm mentally ill and sick of people treating me like a toddler.

being autistic just makes the whole thing worse. the amount of times that I've had people talk to me like I'm 5 when I ask them for help or just talk in general is insane.

[baobhanlore-art]

Canon Pavitr: I canonically have the most complex fighting style in the movie, I'm very culturally aware and fight against remnants of colonialism in my country while protecting my fellow citizens! Look at my gorgeous muscles, and my gorgeous girlfriend! Aren't I perfect?

Fanon Pavitr: Hewwo! *bwushes* I'm just a sweet bebe, look at my unicorn onesie *uwu*. I can'd do anyfing on my own. Do wou have gamies on your phowne I can pway?

[mywrittenavenue]

Thoughts on this tweet I found on Pinterest:

Its horrible as someone with trauma/ CPTSD because I feel fomo on a daily basis. I always had to be the perfect child for my abusive family and they infantalized me whenever they could. Now as everyone I know has jobs and is independent, I feel lost and confused. I don't have a job, I still live with my abusive family, and I struggle hard with daily life. I never got to experience a normal childhood let alone my early 20s. It's jarring to know that in about 2 years I'll be 30...I still feel like a simultaneously lost 5, 14, and 21 year old.

[melodiclyre]

A common societal trend I’ve noticed is quite prevalent is the romanticization of certain mental disorders and the infantilization of others. This trend thoroughly befouls our perception of people with such disorders, and in certain circumstances this can be quite harmful.

Disorders such as depression, OCD, and, even to a certain extent, anxiety are all heavily romanticized in literature and media. Characters with these conditions are constantly sought after, and seen as beautifully broken. Their suffering is seen in itself as an art of its own.

Whereas characters, as well as people, who are on the autism spectrum or have ADHD, are very often infantilized, their behaviors being described as childlike. They may be seen as annoying, bothersome, or just a pain to deal with in general. Their pain is not seen as poetic, but essentially meaningless, because their plights seem so trivial. If they are doted on, it’s often demeaning.

I’m certainly not blameless in this cultural phenomenon, but I do believe that it’s truly messed up. I wish to understand why mass behaviors such as these exist. Why do we perceive certain conditions in different lights, and is it possible that society’s preconceived notion of these disorders can change?

[samballesbian]

me: pls stop being racist

weirdos on tiktok:

[ultra-raging-ghost]

kmnjbhvghh struggling with feelings of infantalization but i'm unable to confront the person about it because i cant tell whether or not im misinterpreting their statements

im an adult, i just have anxiety im capable of being in charge of things, i can handle confrontation im not 6 years old. Wish id stop getting treated as such esp in public, hurts more when no one stands up for me

[byrdalish]

I'm sick of people assuming I'm a kid. Like literally everyone that doesn't know me thinks I'm a kid and half the people that do know me treat me like a kid. I can't escape it. It's not my fault a mixture of trauma and neurodivergentsy has made me unable to properly communicate. It's not my fault I look younger then I am. It's not my fault I act childish at times. Like seriously, treat me like the adult I am and don't assume my girlfriend is my mother

[antontheant]

let’s stop infantilizing queer people and neurodivergent people. acknowledge they might have difficulty in doing things due to their past and/or their brain chem, but don’t give them free passes in shit behavior. they have the capacity to grow and change, but you infantilizing them won’t help.

[coquexari]

This life is amazing...

[pippindot]

take that thing back to the baby store!!!

[happyparadisemiracle]

Netti Pant and M4 diaper

[foolsocracy]

identity reveals are always fun

[nightlilly0110]

Zeus: The gods will tell him what you did when he grows up and he’ll kill you and everything you love.

Odysseus: Why?

Zeus: Why what?

Odysseus: If I raise him and he’s my second son, I’m his father, yes?

Zeus: I guess.

Odysseus: And this is a baby, so he won’t remember his real father? I mean, look at him. He doesn’t even know what’s going on right now and half the city is on fire and I just burst in here with a sword. Zero reaction.

Zeus: I guess-

Odysseus: So why would he be mad at me for killing a dude who did not raise him and he doesn’t remember? I’d be his dad. Maybe he’d be mad I stole him from his home but he’d have no emotional connection to these people.

Zeus: I don’t know how those work.

Odysseus: You mean children?!