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i’m sorry, not to be a hater and ruin people’s fun or whatever, but i kind of feel like leaning into the infantilizing language of “certain spoon good / bad” is actually not good for neurodiverse communities. that really makes us sound like toddlers who can’t decide which utensil we want to use instead of like, actual grown adults with real hindrances to our lives caused by the ways that our brains work. i really don’t care about a literal eating utensil.

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ppl try to psychoanalyze men and so often the answer is they just want to. like. they feel entitled to do whatever they want so they just do that. they didn't think about it all that hard.

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missing someone is crazy because you’ll have dreams that r like “we went on a nice walk together :)” and you’ll wake up feeling like you’re gonna throw up

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and if we never know of each other, i'll miss you

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mentally taking a drag of my mental cigarette because I don’t smoke but life has been very smokable lately

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every couple of months i put my life together and take it apart and put it back together because. well. what else

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We will not be girlrotting in April. We will be girlblooming girlburgeoning girlflourishing

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the best revenge is letting them know it will affect you deeply for the rest of your life

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sometimes I do something I know 18 year old me would be terrified of and it's so strange but it warms my heart. life may not be the paradise I once thought it would be but I still grow and get better, even if little by little

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I just heard the phrase, “If you wouldn’t trust their advice, don’t trust their criticism” for the first time and I don’t think I’ve ever needed to hear anything more

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it’s so important for your health to regularly interact with people at least a decade older than you who aren’t family, especially as a young person.

When my 45 year old teammate gives me advice on mental health and I know she understands because she’s had a tough adult life.

When my 32 year old friend tells me his life started improving for the first time the year she turned 30.

When the 60 year old man at the soup kitchen gives me permission to grieve by telling me I’m ‘just a baby’ with only gentleness in his voice.

It’s so much easier to abandon and break out from the cultural idealisation of youth when you surround yourself with wonderful people in all stages of their lives.

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“If you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustle” my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.

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idgaf if my parents are disappointed in me I'm not impressed by them either

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Hey. Your brain needs to de-frag. Literally it needs you to sit there and space out.

If you want your memory or executive function to improve, stare out a window at the skyline or sidewalk or trees or birds on the electrical wires for like 20+ minutes per day. (With no other stimulation like a podcast or TV if you can manage but hey baby steps innit). If you're fortunate enough to have safe outside with any bits of nature, go stare closely at a 1 meter square of grass and trip out on the bugs and shapes of grasses and stuff.

Literally this will make you smarter. Our brains HAVE TO HAVE this zone out time to do important stuff behind the scenes. This does not happen during sleep, it's something else.

That weird pressurized feeling you get sometimes might be your brain on no defrag.

Give your brain a Daily Dose Of De-Frag.

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If you are feeling good about yourself or situation and then your mood suddenly shifts leaving you feeling insecure, unsure, etc. try to remind yourself that nothing has truly changed but your perception. Your cute outfit did not suddenly become horrid. Your delicious meal did not tranform into a terrible one. Your peers perception of you has not radically transformed over a social misstep. Everything we experience is put through it through our mental filter, and that can convince us that everyone else sees us with the judgement we have for ourselves. Be kind to yourself.