#important advice

[blinketyblank]

Remember: YOUR skin is YOUR responsibility. It's up to YOU to put it on every day.

[evi4th]

NEVER DATE MEN WHO LISTEJ TO RAFODIOHEAD SEMI FREQUENTLY

[nezumiko]

[text image of a tweet by @ chenchenwrites reads: i do not want to be merely tolerated or accepted. what miserably low standards. i want to be celebrated. i wanted to be asked serious questions. i want to be asked about my dreams and desires, my sorrows and my favorite trees. i want to be wanted. actively. abundantly. today.]

[let-us-cultivate-our-garden]

Just a reminder that any new followers with a default icon and no posts or reblogs will be blocked and reported as spam. If you’re new, please reblog some stuff so I know you’re real. It’s fine to lurk but make it known that you're not a bot. 

[condensedmatters]

My favorite thing to do when people are staring at me at college is just looking them in the eyes. No words, no "what are you looking at?"—just deep, intense eye contact. The longer they stare, the longer I look them in the eye.

Of course, they don't know it's just as uncomfortable for me as it is for them. I don't like looking people in the eye, but it's well worth it considering the results.

[skullchicken]

If you have achieved something, please remember to observe a mandatory period of basking in the warm glow of your achievement like a lizard on a stone, lest you teach your brain that effort is futile, actually, because it didn't get to enjoy its happy chemicals, so, naturally, nothing good ever comes of trying. (And no, avoiding punishment is not a reward!)

I recommend, like, 5% of basking time in relation to whatever time you invested into achieving the thing minimum. And if you can't make your own bask, friend-brought is fine (= tell your friends!).

[clairethecutepup]

"Then again, this was still a general animal, not a person. To put him down for being 'too aggressive' wasn't much different than unfairly putting down, say, a wolfdog because its owner wasn't willing nor prepared to actually train one properly..."

-Tykes at Heart, Getting Your Goat

Yeah, just a general reminder to NOT get something like a wolfdog on a whim... I know it's a cool idea to have your own pet wolf or something close, but there WILL be trouble if you don't know how to handle them properly-- whether someone getting hurt or the canine being put down. Instead, if you're capable of actually caring for a DOG, then get a breed that's similar like: a husky, a Northern Inuit... They're safer to raise and easier to manage, plus less legal troubles there.

[avarkriss]

listen. listen to me so carefully right now. (if you're in the eclipse path/planning on viewing). please don't stare directly at the sun tomorrow. i am begging you - do not stare at it. if you got eclipse glasses off of amazon/other, please put them on in your house and make sure you can't see anything; if you can still see like regular sun glasses, they are not safe for eclipse viewing, you will burn your retinas, and we cannot fix that. eclipse glasses should be iso/ce certified, and aas (american astronomical society) approved. please make smart choices and protect your eyes. please.

[sixth-light]

I have had these thoughts bubbling away in my head for like...eighteen months or so now (it will become very obvious why shortly) but the discussion in this post has pushed me to write them down: I think societally we HUGELY underestimate how motherhood for primary caregivers, particularly first-time motherhood, can be a source of vulnerability to radicalisation.

There is obviously huge cultural variance here, but for a lot of cis women becoming primary caregiver to an infant in a capitalist Western society represents a time of immense vulnerability because in general you are:

Incredibly sleep-deprived (which has well-documented knock-on effects for your judgement, mental health, etc)

If you gave birth, recovering from a significant challenge to your physical health (even in the best-case scenario)

Isolated from your previous networks and communities of people in full-time work

Completely separated from the context of your prior career goals and achievements

Under huge amounts of stress to learn how to care for an infant (don't get me started on breastfeeding)

And on top of this, you are also be experiencing a huge amount of messaging about how all this is natural, wonderful, something you're meant to do, something you should love doing, and something that you must do for the welfare of their child. It's a huge amount of pressure and life change even when everything goes right and there's very little cultural space to express negative feelings about it.

Any group of people who offer community, support, and affirmation to cis women in this situation are going to have a really good shot at radicalising them into some very weird and dangerous headspaces and in fact we see this happen all the time - think antivaxxers and TERFs. It flies under the radar because of the hazy positive glow that associates with motherhood and babies and also because we don't take the radicalisation of women seriously I guess because they rarely shoot anybody, but...yeah. It is such a vulnerable time!

[zap0ch0s]

ok umm....

just gotta say I was ausent cuz I've being busy and dealing with stuff the last months but I'm fine now, and gotta tell you that If I dissapear again from here is cuz I have things to do, nothing wrong, don't worry, just be patient with me, thanks for your attention

[desire-loves-food]

Express Yourself Carefully

I am an INTJ. I usually silently say "I think I am gonna die soon." Whenever I feel a surge of any sudden emotion.

Not just when I am angry or upset. I just say it casually even when I am too happy for me to put it into words or expressions.

Normally I say it under my breadth so that no one can hear it. I have been doing this since childhood without realizing that people don't normally say this as often.

That was until my acquaintance INFP heard it. She told me that it is not normal for people to think this way and that I need support. She hasn't left me alone since then.

(So be careful if you want your freedom even if it is from a very kind person who you value a lot.)

[warriorbarnes]

this had me crying real tears

[amaclucky13]

Softball - Sportsmanship

For my first article on softball, I have something extremely important to say!

Softball is many things. Softball can teach you many things. However, there is nothing more important than sportsmanship. It’s why it’s the first thing on the list of what I can teach to future and current softball players and coaches. I can’t express enough how important it is to respect not only oneself on the field but the players around you, the umpires, the coaches, and the game…

[forestpixies]

no actually you’re either gentle parenting your child or you’re being emotionally and/or physically abusive to them, whether or not you’re aware of that.

because the term gentle parenting already includes discipline and teaching your kid right from wrong. gentle parenting doesn’t mean you can’t tell your kid no. it means you can tell them no when they do something they shouldn’t, but instead of punishing or yelling at them, you’re explaining and giving them reasons why they can’t do that, you are helping them learn and encouraging them to be better. gentle parenting means you’re using reasons built on mutual respect instead of anger. because yes, no matter how young your child is, they deserve respect too.

I’m sorry but most of the times when someone says they’re a strict parent, what it means is that they give their child childhood trauma that’ll last a lifetime, whether or not they’re aware of it. especially parents who brag to other people about how strict they are and how they punished their children.

and I’m sorry but saying you have a short temper is never an excuse to be emotionally and/or physically abusive towards your kid either.

“I yelled at you because I have a short temper” then why am I the one suffering? if you can’t control your anger, then get help. work on it. do better. be better.

also… your child standing up for themself against you, when you’re being abusive to them, isn’t them being disrespectful towards you. it means they are defending themself because you wouldn’t do that for them and so they had to step in and be their own protector.

if you’re a parent and can defend and stand up for yourself when you feel like you need to, but at the same time punish your kid when they stand up for themself against you, then you are the problem.

I was that child and I’m gonna make it as simple as I can for any parent out there — because no kid deserves to go through what I went through — imagine yourself owning a dog. really. you can either

a.) beat that dog whenever they do something wrong and simply take your anger out on them until they’re fully submissive and are terrified of you

or

b.) train them with love and gentleness and earn their love and loyalty in return

now imagine both A and B dogs on leashes and imagine them no longer being on leashes one day. which dog do you think will run away as far as they can and never look back, and which one do you think will stay because they love and want to be with their owner?

[stellarred]

Yes!

[columboscreens]