#im just tired of trying to enjoy something

[poltergeist-punk]

i feel like an important part of the discussion around cringe culture is allowing people to just not like or even allowing them to hate things. i feel as if that was glossed over in most of the discourse i see.

like yes it’s important to let yourself and others enjoy whatever they want if it doesn’t hurt anyone, i think it’s something that the internet constantly needs to work on.

however we also just need to let people not like something. if someone prefers something else or doesn’t like something they should be allowed to not interact with it without needing a reason not to like it. because whats happening is people don’t like certain things and they feel this need to justify their preferences. it’s mirrored in the way people try to justify their cringy interests by being “self aware”. they do the same thing except they find a “moral high ground” to justify their hate.

you don’t need to find something wrong with a thing you don’t like to not like it. once you realize this, it’s easier on your mental health not to waste so much time on it and just block and move on. just like it’s healthier to just not worry about looking embarrassing when you like something.

you do not need to look at yourself through the eyes of another.

i think this would improve fandom so so much more because im sick and tired of hearing the lamest excuses why some rando thinks character a or ship b or whatever is problematic when at best it’s just a mundane thing like poor writing or a dick move. its underwhelming to hear “i can finally hate x the creator said a slur ten years ago”

you can have reasons for not liking them but you do not NEED them

because when you include morality into the situation, then people get ballsy to bully others for something that quite honestly is pretty harmless.

your behavior is what you need to keep in check on your opinions. this is how you can have a health fandom.

[championrevali]

Something that I see often on the revalink tag here is hate for revalink under the ship's tag- which is messed up.

I get it if you don't like revalink, if its not your thing, but leave that shit out of our tag. We're all out here just trying to enjoy a ship that doesn't deserve hate.

I have issues with Sidlink, but I'm not about to go tagging that in this post or if I ever made a post about my issues about it.

Basically, just let people enjoy their ships as long as they're not actually messed up. If you don't like seeing a ships content, filter it, or just don't interact, don't hate on something that makes someone happy.

[xxplastic-cubexx]

filler

[cali]

darkraiiiiii

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

For your consideration.

(Reminder to vote in the poll)

[naamahdarling]

Augh

[witchqueen]

Does anyone have any tips to help stop yourself from comparing your artwork to others, or equating your value as an artist with likes and reblogs?

I've struggled with this for a while and it's getting old, I don't know how to just shrug it off. Any genuine advice would be nice

[marshbarks]

i think its weird how artists and especially youtubers will 'redesign' characters from media they deem problematic as though slapping a new coat of paint on the character erases all the issues they were rooted in to begin with. or as though redesigning the character makes them Better than the original creator, because now its THEIRS

[xenomorphicdna]

Flames,, blanket boy, my beloved

I gotta draw more art like this of him, he's such an odd creature I love him so much

There's so much to his character that I never talk about aaa I'll make a lore post eventually

[apocalypticdemon]

I am so beyond ready to quit this job. Wednesday cannot come fast enough.

[xxplastic-cubexx]

How would you redesign Headmaster Magneto? Just out pf curiousity because while he served it didn’t feel like… Erik.

i have to keep it 100 i have no idea without just. rerunning his original design but with a palette swap LOL but we try around here

[artificer-real]

anxiety anxiety, go away, come again never

[mcsiggy]

Do yall like, know how to enjoy something w/o constantly criticizing it? don't you want to enjoy something-- anything for what it is? if it gives you joy and makes you happy, you dont have to be critical and pick a part about it to be a 'real' fan of the thing, or to show you're aware of the whatever problems it has.

just liking and enjoying it is enough.

[swankpalanquin]

apparently i don't exist in the billing system for my gender doctor appointments so like not sure what to do about that

[connormoving]

like obvs i cant ask How do i develop my personality ^_^ Id like to be an entire person with thoughts and feelings can someone tell me how to do this ^_^ like thats not how that works i just have to do it but its like i just dont have it like. i dont know why i dont have anything you know

[cosmicredcadet]

fandoms don't make theories anymore it seems. instead they get an idea of what they want to happen in their head and then use confirmation bias to try and prove that it will happen. they ignore any evidence that is contrary to this idea and will warp or say something is evidence to fit their narrative when really it's got nothing to do with it. it's kinda frustrating when you actually want to get into the theorizing side of fandom because it's so blatantly obvious that people don't actually know how to theorize and instead are just making shit up and calling it a theory.