Relapsing is a part of healing
[one systems perspective on relapsing during Resolution/late stage DID recovery.]
This post has been cooking in my drafts for a while, but since I'm back in a headspace where I would consider myself back in Resolution, I'm comfortable talking about this. I'm airing out my dirty laundry quite a bit in this post, but the reason I'm making this post is because of the fact I don't see many late stage recovery systems talk about relapsing back into dissociation and other CDD symptoms. I'm here to say it's totally okay and a part of healing. I don't know who needs to hear that, but I definitely did. I didn't hear it until i was in therapy.
A couple of months ago [when I was initially writing this post], I went through a series of traumatic events, including little over 3 weeks of reoccurring flashbacks due to a re-traumatizing situation. I have lovingly dubbed it 'the three weeks of hell'. There was more than just that, including 2 explosive breakdowns, where I just couldn't handle all the input I was getting with what all was going on. I was a whole wreck for a moment there, that's for sure. THANKFULLY, we only split off a one new alter after everything, which is healing progress, but it meant an increase in blackout amnesia in our day to day life, let alone the dissociation it was causing the system as a whole, nearly putting us back at step one of recovery.
The moment I noticed the blackout amnesia and increase in DID symptoms, I started thinking I had ruined any progress I could've possibly made. It felt like I had taken ten steps forward and then tumbled down the stairs. I never got to process the trauma as it just began to pile on, and eventually I popped in probably the worst explosive breakdown I've EVER had- my fight or flight kicked in and for gods know what reason, my brain chose fight. But that breakdown had solidified that 'fuck, I'm getting worse again' mentality I had going on. Everyone I knew seemed to 'keep it together' during rough times, so why couldn't I?
So that brought me to this post.
I wondered why I don't see talk of relapse in Late Stage Recovery spaces, let alone general CDD spaces. I figure, in my mind, that it's because it just isn't talked about. At least, not frequently. In the space I have curated for myself, I see a lot of fellow late stage recovery systems and finally fused systems, but everyone seems to not have relapsed at any point. Granted, this is the internet, and people show what they want others to see, but I felt ashamed for a good while that I had relapsed back into the amnesiac aspects of my dissociation. I didn't feel like I could call the stage of healing I am in 'late stage recovery'. But that's just. not true. I still am. My healing is ongoing, and I was able to resolve it.
In recovery for many disorders, relapses are, inherently, a part of the process of healing. Symptoms resurfacing is, to some extent, part of healing. Everyone is bound to have slip ups and rough times, and if your go to coping mechanism is dissociation [in CDDs cases], it's possible that you might slip back into those maladaptive mechanisms due to the stress of life happenings, but that's okay. What is needed is to learn the proper coping skills to deal with that stress, but it can be extremely hard to unlearn maladaptive coping skills and make turning towards healthy ones a default. Relapsing gives you the time to reinforce and build up what skills you do have.
When the three weeks of hell was occurring, I didn't exactly have the coping skills necessary to keep on with life, and any I did have, they were not 'automatic' enough. On top of that, my therapist was conveniently out of office for those three weeks. It did give me the time to make my skills stronger. Of course, I felt terrible about it but Relapsing is okay. As long as you learn how to deal with the stress and trauma, that's what matters. I'm still learning how to properly cope with everything that happened during those weeks, to be blunt, but I have gained a grasp on Resolution pretty quickly afterwards. I don't think it would've been possible to recover so easily had I not been in late stage recovery, and like I said before, it helped reinforce my coping skill box, making them stronger and much easier to recall. I definitely would say that relapsing was a part of my healing. Didn't feel good, but it became a huge factor in how we cope day to day.
TLDR; Relapsing during Resolution [Functional Multiplicity/Final fusion] is a part of recovery itself.
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I know we tend to... Ignore certain Minecraft elements of the Dream SMP during our rewirtings, drawings, and analysis of it but...
Dream beat Tommy to death with a Raw Potato in his hands.
A symbol that Tommy had likely learned to associate with the very man who had once sheltered him from the monster in the act of finally killing him
The Potato King whose various ways of preparing the same root vegetable kept Tommy warm and fed for nights both in the bitter cold of the north, and in the depths of Pogtopia.
And now in his final act of violence upon Tommy, both physically and psychologically, Dream stains Tommy's image of his brother with his own blood
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i don't know if you've answered this before, but why does murdoc choose to call reader "fawn?" it's very cute but knowing him there's definitely some sort of Evil Bitch Lore™ behind it in his lil head
I have answered this but some of the lore changed/I've better character insight on Fawn and Murdock so I'll link the old post and give a bit more info.
For one thing, take any lore I list for Fawn's background with a grain of salt as I'm wishy-washy with everything from Murdock's killing motives to his first name (Murdock is a middle name) and his eye color to Fawn's occupation and how they meet.
As an example, previous post has Fawn being adopted, yet more recently I've rolled it back to bio-mother and stepfather. Fawn's bio-dad has a pivotal role in the story as he has from the beginning.
Everything related to 'Fawn' as a nickname in that post remains true to my canon, but what I've changed is as thus:
The night Fawn and Murdock meet, Fawn freezes up when faced with the threat of a murderer- ironically not the first one they face that night but they don't know this.
In Murdock's mind, Fawn very much reminds him of the baby animal in question, and he mockingly refers to them as such. The intent is to remove a witness, glean information from them because he saw them interacting with the other murder, his longtime target- only for something about them, some old deja-vu to stay his hand, letting them escape...
... but they don't leave his mind.
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Your art has something special to it and I’ve always wondered about the hidden meanings! When I look at your older work it all seems to tie into your latest projects and I really enjoy the subtle hints about what might be happening!! [Any Lampnold art has been really particular about themes I think the newest art is very forward with what the message might be about without saying it]
It’s fun keeping up with your blog Doll!
I hope you continue to grow as an artist and get the recognition you deserve because both your AU and artwork show amazing talent! I’ve read your fanfiction and it’s impressive how much depth you’ve given to all the characters! BIG INSPIRAITION YOU ARE TO ME!
i wish i knew what to say to all of this but i've been given so much support lately that i feel really overwhelmed and teary eyed (/pos)
whatever has been drawn lately is perhaps the peak of my abilities and the newest art is BY FAR my favorite from anything i have drawn this year. it's an extremely emotional piece for me to convey some inner trauma and i am a bit glad no one here is ever judgmental to my knowledge? i'm becoming a bit more motivated to draw the more my posts hit above at least 10 notes (my standards aren't too high here since i'm still a small blog) so just really thank you for supporting me for however long you have.
THANK ALL OF YOU.
thank you all for also being super kind, patient and understanding with me. everyone means a lot to me even if i don't directly speak to you all on the daily. i know some of you send inboxes i don't answer but i promise it's not you! it's mostly myself haha
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