#i'm the worst person on the planet

[buddyhollyscurls]

@shysmug HI I SAW UR POST ON U NOT UNDERSTANDING ARMANDO'S REACTION TO READING BETTY'S DIARY SO YES I HOPE U DON'T MIND ME TAGGING U IN THIS BUT I ACTUALLY HAVE A LOT OF THOTS ON THIS ITS ONE OF MY FAVORITE PARTS OF THE SHOW TBH ITS CHEFS KISS so the way I see it is it's bc this is Armando finally getting an insight into Betty's feelings and thoughts like their entire relationship he never really knew what she was thinking even at the height of her feelings for him when she constantly daydreamed about him when all she wanted was to be by his side she downplayed her emotions to him A LOT (take him confessing to her saying he's obsessed with her in love with her and she's like I... admire you... I think you're... good looking WHILE SECRETLY IN HER MIND SHE'S LIKE I LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING I WOULD DIE FOR U ETC ETC) and she does not even tell him she loves him until they're about to sleep together. Not only that but once she finds out the truth she distances herself from him and he doesn't know what's going on until she quits. This is also a big part of the reason he doubted her once she left Bogota and why everyone was able to manipulate him into thinking she was doing all this to keep the company until he doubts her and even thinks she never actually loved him. This entire time he never knew just how long or how deep she loved him and to see just how much she suffered for his love even before their relationship and seeing the real amount of pain he put the woman he loves through

so yea he had the appropriate reaction imo

[caramellashton]

'this is like wanting your kid to get better by yelling at them and hitting them… you know it won't change/fix anything.'

EXACTLY I have been saying this for so long!! it's not gonna work and it's just gonna make everything worse. it's not a form of activism to just bully people until they conform to what you want; humans are autonomous people capable of choosing good, and like. we could be in the fandom of another band that doesn't even try, whose fans have given up on them and are just there for the music and the drama, but it's like the minute they do try to do something good they have to do activism a certain way and it almost becomes a kind of purity culture and purity culture is famously about control and not good for anyone.

but it's also people trying to be funny in the comments with thinly veiled frustrations that come out as insults about their appearance (which especially gets to me bc like. does body positivity stop if you're famous? or are they just idealised figures/bodies/personalities for us to look at and pretend our bodies don't change over time and we don't like it when they remind us that they actually do?) or their partners or how they express themselves. and it's the aura of entitlement that erodes their right to autonomy and individuality that gets me, not only because the way we get the creative music they make is them expressing that.

anyway i do think we as a fandom can do better and i want to attempt to start a conversation about that rather than trying to call people out in the comments. still thinking of how. there's a lot of people in the fandom who are struggling and exasperated with life and relate to their songs and the pressure has to come out somewhere; it ends up being in comments they feel like won't ever be seen except for by people who agree with them, at people who seem to far away and too big to ever see getting hurt by their comments. at least that's what I assume happens. but yes, they were bullying a cat

I agree with everything...

Was it always like this? It can't be because this is too much, none of the hate was on me and I couldn't take it, I wonder how the guys (or any celebrity) feels, being judged about the tiniest move you do, it's crazy I would totally lose my mind.

That's not how life is... yes I would love to be a fan of good people but if the gf/partner of the artist you're a fan of is bad and their friends are bad what does that make them? Maybe it's on you, maybe YOU should pick better idk 😭.

[syxnewt]

for one of my classes I made a video in which I made claims I'm like 60% sure aren't true. No idea if I'll lose points for that

[dawnsbreaker]

can people leave me alone and pretend i don't exist? i don't want to be perceived

[opalsiren]

please please please can something good happen to me now 🙏

[thepurpleprince]

I'm so sick of people making me feel guilty for the things that are out of my fucking control!!!

[cervinelich]

So yesterday this song came on my random playlist in the car. It makes me cry every single time I hear it but my partner didn't know that.

When it first started playing, my partner was like, "Oh, did I ever tell you that I think of this song as your theme song?" Cue immediate crying.

[monstermoviedean]

having feelings today so if anyone has words of encouragement or reassurance they would be very very appreciated <3

[jenny-from-the-bau]

I haven't been around much recently. I'm bad braining really hard and I've been spending more time with my wife. If I spend too much time online, I start feeling like a worthless terrible human, so... breaks are good

[musical-chick-13]

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[navree]

vicki vale and deathstroke and task force x all set to be in at least one episode of my adventures with superman? one cannot help but wonder.......

[lakemichigans]

just had the most disgusting and disturbing dream. surely this won't make me ruminate about my morality for the next few months

[jibunbosh]

not to post about the crab day thing again but you guys know that even if it wasnt started by a terf or whatever it is that people are saying it would still be a bad idea regardless right.

[chrisbangs]

actually it's very cathartic for me now telling my close friends who never knew abt all the shitty things this person has done 🥺👍 never really realized how much i'd been bottling it up and how bad it was making me feel till i started telling ppl i actually trusted abt it 😕👎🤍

[thesean]

I dont know. i wish i was as smart as i pretend to be sometimes

[waitingforminjae]

i think lee seunggi coming out abt hook only now, eighteen years after their abuse started, does offer a unique perspective in the sense that it shows just how thoroughly it affects a person, especially if they were a child when it started. like even though someone may be 35 years old now and able to put words to what they experienced and knows it was wrong, and have removed themselves from that abusive relationship, doesn’t mean its affects just magically go away.