#i want. for people to validate how bad it was. and for people to call me crazy and stupid and still be sad for me. no i do not want that on

[inthefoxholes]

So sorry if I’m hijacking the post, I think your points are incredibly valid and well made, I’d just like to add:

This whole nerfing of Solas and consequently of Thedas also rubs me the wrong way politically, at this moment in time. I know, not everyone sees it that way, but for me, dragon age was always (also) about revolution; about the slow and painful realisation that some shit is not reformable, entrenched as it is (slavery, the discrimination of the elves, the plight of the mages, and the ways these are all interconnected).

(This is why DA 2 is my favorite game of the bunch, because while it does a lot of things wrong, it is a great depiction of how fascistic structures just grind you down; how it’s not enough that there are Cullen, and Thrask, who may be called moderate. All the complaining about abuses is just screaming into the Void, so much so that even though the Chantry kind of recognizes that Meredith is out of bounds, they still threaten an Exalted March if the city does not show compliance with her methods. You - and Anders - come to realize that there is no way out. They - the chantry, the nobility, etc. - will always protect their own, and the way out is through. Do I think Anders executes this well? Nope, but it’s a compelling story, and it warms my marxist heart.)

It is so insulting that the writers/devs/whoever is responsible for this go into the OPPOSITE direction with veilguard, and at this moment. Suddenly, we need to protect the status quo, no questions asked. Suddenly, we get told, again and again in almost every companion quest, that institutions (from assassins to pirates to the shadow Organisation that controls the nevarran politics) are inherently good, unproblematic, beneficial. There’s a few bad apples, sure, Illario, Johanna, but they are mad anyway, and if you root them out all’s well again.

Suddenly, Solas is NOT the leader of a popular movement (the elves leaving the cities?) of people who presumably have some issue with the status quo, and who he can give compelling reasons to follow him (otherwise they would not, at least not en masse). Suddenly, he is alone, and drenched in regret and the past, no vision of the future, no revolutionary impetus - even he, we learn, just wants to right past wrongs, his wrongs, so again, a rather private, individual problem, and consequently it gets solved by this weird (and frankly uncomfortable) (psycho-)analyzing of his memories. Suddenly, there’s nothing wrong with the world anymore, just with Solas. The status quo has to be protected at all costs, you guys.

The thing about Solas in DAtV is that because they were fundamentally unwilling to engage with the question of whether or not the Veil should actually come down (which is a symptom of them refusing to engage with anything remotely 'problematic' in the franchise to date: slavery, elven oppression, treatment of both city elves and Dalish etc.) he goes from a character who is supposed to be the embodiment of wisdom to a character who is kinda stupid. And further, it affects our questions surrounding his motives and relationships, his actions in inquisition and how compelling he is.

Like, there's a lot of people arguing ATM about whether or not a romanced Lavellans relationship with Solas was meaningful/if she knew him compared to how Rook knows him/if he loved her more than Mythal. And I think the answer is very tied up in this particular issue with the writing.

Because if Solas is a revolutionary who believes that the veil must come down, not just to fix a perceived wrong he did, but for the good of elvenkind...if we take a Solas who says 'people are always dying, it's what they do' and realise that he's saying that because PEOPLE DIDNT USED TO DIE and the way their lives are now so short is terrifying to him, if we take a Solas who says that the world today is full of those who seem tranquil to him and take that SERIOUSLY, if we get a Solas who is sickened by the way spirits are yearning for the world the way it was but are stuck in the fade without any contact and that's twisting them into demons and those willing to possess others to taste a glimpse of what was denied to them by HIS actions...

Then we get a Solas whose actions don't just make sense but we can see WHY they make sense. We get a Solas who is, yes, committing an act of horrendous violence by tearing down the veil but is doing so to literally save the world rather than just fix a regret or because he's bound up in Mythal somehow and what she would have wanted for the world.

THAT Solas who leaves Lavellan because of his revolution he must lead, who leaves Lavellan after seeing what this world does to those who are left of the people, that Solas...I think that we could then argue more than the relationships he formed in inquisition were real and he was tragically forced away from them by his own goals. That in some way he is doing this FOR Lavellan.

There should be a sort of semi-horror tint to this world for us through Solas's eyes because we can see a world of tranquil walking around like he does, a world where life is too short, a world of injustice and pain and reasons to go ahead with his plan

But Solas....kinda lacks agency in DAtV. I don't hate the Solas Mythal plot stuff I think it's quite interesting, but mix it with us never considering the merits of what Solas wants to do, of EVERYONE unilaterally deciding it's evil with no real debate or queries, with ZERO elves in the narrative siding with Solas or taking what he has to say seriously...THATS where adding the Solas and Mythal plot rubs me the wrong way. I don't want Solas to need to be released by Mythal before he can let go of his evil plan...I want a Solas who doesn't have an evil plan but instead a complex one. I want the conviction of Anders in Solas; that what he's doing is RIGHT and the ONLY WAY to fix a great injustice. I don't want to redeem Solas or even understand him I want him to CONVINCE me and me BELIEVE him. Otherwise the Solas we see in inquisition is more shallow and the Solas we see in Veilguard through Rook...maybe Rook does know him better than the inquisition did.

[thatbitchery]

Random reminders because I'm in a random posting mood lately

What you engage with you tolerate. That's how you say yes- engagement. The second you respond to it you give the signal you tolerate it. Attention and engagement= yes.

You have free will. You can literally just- not. You can just - fuck this shit and go. You can leave mid dentist appointment. You can just walk out on a bad date. You can just not respond to that text literally. You have free will you can literally just not. You can just ignore it. You can just delete. You can just go for a drive at 3 am. You can just cancel. You can just jump on a plane. You can just drop that course and do what you want. You can just block. Unfollow. Disengage. Say yes. Ask them out.You have both free will and an ID. Add adult money to that equation and this world is yours.

If you are not their parent don't parent them? Why are you teaching a fully grown adult basic manners what are you doing. Why are you having relationship problems with people you are not in a relationship with what even is that. If someone has an issue with you it's THEIR job to tell you they have an issue with you and yours to choose whether or not you want to do something about it? Why are you *are you mad uwu 🥺* people if they are mad they can tell you? If not that's a them problem? At which point did you become everyone's moderator and how much are you getting paid? If it's not your child (or a child. Below 15) don't raise it?

If you're not a machine don't decode. If someone can't come at you straight that's a them problem. We respond to passive aggressiveness with literal logic. If someone wants to degrade you they have to come at you direct, not send subs ? At this big age we are still responding to sarcasm and backhanded shit. If you said you're running a bakery and uncle Andrew tries to degrade that by *oh and how much will that make* you give him actual statistics and move on. If girl *that dress is so pretty* when she means the opposite you just *I'd hope so* and move on. We don't decode underlying statements and meanings we give a literal answer and treat people like adults that mean exactly what they say. (PS, CoC has such a great video on this where they call it the child's reply method. Children don't read under they just answer. That's what we do we don't read under if someone has something to say, they say it direct).

Mind the business that pays you.

Argument is sibling and husband privilege everyone else is right and you are wrong. Stop needing people to validate your reality, trust yourself. Argument is just to feed your ego I know you know no one is changing their opinion because you *owned* them in some argument it just makes you feel like you're a big deal- get a degree it has the same effect plus credibility. Argument is sibling and husband privilege. Everyone else is right. You're wrong. You're sorry you breathed the same air as them .move on. Stop engaging your ego (and other's) and learn how to not get triggered. Your reality is real to you and you're the only person it needs to be real to. Let it go. Study if your ego needs pumping so bad. *Destroying* someone in an argument was an adolescent thing, grow up. Validate yourself and learn to trust your thoughts and feelings and interpretation of the world so you stop needing everyone to cosign to be okay. Be someone formidable so you stop needing to earn it by stepping everyone else down.

"Okay. And?" . See this statement? <- . This one right here. This, this is the one. Not even with others as much as with you. In your life. Okay he didn't text back. Okay , and? Okay you don't have enough money for it. True. And? Then what? What next ? And this is an actual question that needs a real answer not some faux bad bitch mantra. An actual answer, now what ? What then? What next?

We don't deal with problems we don't have. Here, in this house? In this house we cross that bridge when we get there, we don't anticipate there might be a bridge that we might need to cross and then we will need shoes and- stop creating problems to solve. Come back to the present. Come back to the room. Solve the problems you have now, move on. When you get there, you'll know what to do. You have adaptability and a working brain you'll be fine. You're not weak. You're not stupid. You're not a newborn. You've survived worse and there are such things a survival mechanisms that you were born with. What's the point of being stressed twice, now and then?

[wolf-feathers12]

Hey, I saw your post about your fears of being percieved as a fandom tourist or a fake fan. Let me tell you one thing first. Fuck all those people that use these works unironically! Seriously, fuck them. Secondly, everbody has a different way of interaction with the material. Some read all the books they can get their fingers on, some only paint, some read articles on the wiki, other listen to podcasts. There is no way that makes one a better or lesser fan. Every way is valid. What is important, is how you interact with other fans. I would call anybody that is like "My interpratation of the lore is the only valid one" a "fake fan", but not because of their existent or non-existent knowledge of the lore or what they do (painting, reading, gaming, etc.) but because of how they treat others. Your headcanons are just as valid as others. And if your interpretation of characters differs from others, that's okay. Just don't act like yours is the only valid one. As long as you respect others you'll be fine. There will always be people with widly different interpretations of the lore. That's the fucking beauty of this HUGE universe. Sure, you should acknowledge that your knowledge is from the lore and how you see some characters might not be "lore-accurate" but again, as long as don't act like it is and don't attack others for their different interpretation, it is fine. Just do you, be a decent person, and have fun. Fuck everybody else who wants to take that fun from you. (And the block button is your best friend. Blocking somebody whose opinion differs wildly from you and you can't deal with it, is the best course of action. I have blocked so many people. Not because they were "bad" but because I just can't deal with their interpretation. And for my peace of mind I just block them. Curate your circle of fandom. Here on tumblr you can do that. Twitter and reddit are a completely different thing and I do know why I avoid them...)

Just observe the golden rule for life: BE A FUCKING DECENT PERSON! 😁

(One little advice though, Lexicanum is a LOT better than the wiki 😉)

Thank you so much. ಥ_ಥ

Y'all are all so kind omg

[todayisafridaynight]

seeing info only about the kiryu and majima statuettes but absolute radio silence on the ichi one is utterly sending me. Theyre hiding the fact theyre gonna make ichi pale as a cracker again

[maykop1010]

Ah, so we’re playing the ‘it’s bad, but not that bad’ game? Ethnic cleansing is a recognized crime against humanity. Downplaying it as though it’s a lesser evil is a cop-out and a lazy, fucking disgusting one at that. Also, the UN definition of genocide includes acts intended to destroy a group in whole or in part. Systematic destruction of homes, denial of basic rights, forced displacement.

Right, because Amnesty International, Human Rights Watch, and the UN have all never been accused of antisemitism when they release reports critical of Israel. Major NGOs face relentless backlash for calling out Israeli policies, my goodness UNICEF and Save the Children are routinely accused of antisemitism for raising valid concerns about children starving and freezing to death and displaced people getting bombed in fucking tents.

Criticizing state violence isn’t antisemitism. Pointing out human rights abuses by a government isn’t antisemitism. If you’re this eager to conflate Israel with all Jewish people, perhaps it’s you who needs to reflect on the dangers of that association. The weaponization of antisemitism to shut down any criticism of Israel does a disservice to the actual fight against antisemitism.

Funny how every time someone criticizes Israeli policy, you leap straight to calling them antisemitic. That is when you’re not calling them cunts, Nazis, calling Palestinian suffering “pallywood” referring to Palestinians and their supporters as terrorists, cockroaches, Amalek, animals, and beasts.

Your entire response is a masterclass in bad faith deflection, minimizing atrocities, and accusing critics of antisemitism. Here’s the truth: You’re more concerned with protecting Israel’s image than acknowledging the reality of its actions and atrocities.

Honestly, I’ve already wasted too much brain power on a cretin who thinks ethnic cleansing “isn’t that bad” and regurgitates the same tired-ass, bad-faith talking points. Spin it however you want in that clearly deranged mind of yours, but the reality is painfully obvious: you support what’s happening to Palestinians. You’ve proven it by your pathetic refusal to hold Israel’s government accountable for decades of human rights abuses.

At the end of the day, you don’t give a damn about babies freezing to death, the over 1 million people displaced, or the 2.1 million starving under siege. You brush it all off because it’s easier to play the antisemitism card than to confront the genocide in Gaza and the brutality of the apartheid policies in the West Bank and Jerusalem, policies upheld by the very government you continue to defend.

"This is much worse than apartheid. The Israeli measures, the brutality, make apartheid look like a picnic. We never had jets attacking our townships. We never had sieges that lasted month after month. We never had tanks destroying houses. We had armoured vehicles and police using small arms to shoot people but not on this scale." Ronnie Kasrils, Jewish South African activist, former member of the African National Congress

"The state of Israel practices its own, quite violent, form of apartheid with the native Palestinian population." Shulamit Aloni, former Israeli Education Minister

"I have witnessed the systemic humiliation of Palestinian men, women and children by members of the Israeli security forces. I... Their humiliation is familiar to all black South Africans who were corralled and harassed and insulted and assaulted by the security forces of the [South African] apartheid government." Bishop Desmond Tutu

In May 2021, Michael Lynk, then UN Special Rapporteur on the situation of human rights in the occupied Palestinian territories, stated: “There is a credible case to be made that Israel’s conduct amounts to the crime of apartheid and potentially genocide, as defined under international law.”

Richard Falk (former UN Special Rapporteur) argued that Israel’s blockade and repeated military campaigns in Gaza meet the legal criteria for genocide.

Francis Boyle, a professor of international law who worked on the Bosnian genocide case, accused Israel of committing genocide in Gaza, saying: “Israel’s policies in Gaza are a textbook case of genocide. The intent to destroy a national group can be seen in the siege, starvation, and repeated mass killings.”

The Center for Constitutional Rights (CCR), a U.S.-based legal organization, has raised concerns that Israel’s actions in Gaza and the West Bank meet the criteria for genocide under international law. They have cited the deliberate targeting of civilians, the siege of Gaza, and the intent to destroy Palestinian society as key factors.

Dr. John Dugard, a South African legal scholar and former UN Special Rapporteur, has drawn parallels between apartheid South Africa and Israel’s policies toward Palestinians. He has warned that Israel’s actions could amount to genocide. In his report to the UN, Dugard stated: “There is a serious risk of genocide in the occupied Palestinian territories. The destruction of homes, the killing of civilians, and the deliberate targeting of essential infrastructure are consistent with the crime of genocide.”

Eyal Weizman, director of Forensic Architecture and a professor at Goldsmiths, University of London, has conducted forensic investigations into Israeli military operations. His work has been used by human rights organizations to document genocidal practices in Gaza. Weizman stated: “The destruction of entire neighborhoods, the targeting of civilians, and the systematic denial of essential services constitute collective punishment with genocidal intent.”

Dr. Gregory Stanton, a prominent genocide scholar and founder of Genocide Watch, is known for developing the “Ten Stages of Genocide” model. He has repeatedly warned that Israel’s actions toward Palestinians are following the path of genocide. In a 2021 statement, Stanton said: “The systematic dehumanization of Palestinians, combined with the destruction of their homes and infrastructure, is consistent with the early stages of genocide.”

Raz Segal, an Israeli historian specializing in Holocaust and genocide studies, has explicitly accused Israel of genocide. In a 2023 interview, Segal stated: “What we see in Gaza is a genocidal campaign. The dehumanization of Palestinians, combined with indiscriminate killing and the destruction of their society, fits the definition of genocide under international law.”

Richard Rubenstein, a scholar of conflict resolution and genocide, has warned that Israel’s occupation policies exhibit genocidal intent. Rubenstein has drawn comparisons between Israeli policies and other colonial genocides, stating: “The denial of human rights, the destruction of livelihoods, and the mass killing of civilians are steps toward genocide.”

You don’t care about human rights. You care about protecting a narrative. That much is clear.

But keep spiraling. :-)

The right hates Jews because the right are bigots. The left hates Jews because Jews are bigots!!!

Seriously Jews, it’s you. It’s not us it’s you!! Y’all treat all us “goyim” like trash and then act surprised when we don’t want to be around you. Then you commit a genocide against the Palestinians and act like the victims when people protest it!!

JEWS!!! IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO UNPACK YOUR BIGOTRIES!!!

[equalperson]

being the friend that's "too woke" fucking sucks because everyone else can talk about their political beliefs just fine, but the moment you say something, the conversation either dies or you get berated for it. god forbid you want to talk about any lesser-acknowledged type of discrimination (E.G. sanism, fatphobia, ageism, etc.)!!

[talkorsomething]

want to cut my hair again like you wouldn't believe. What are the possible consequences of going bald

[sailforvalinor]

…well, turns out changing to a Jo pfp is fitting in more ways than one.

[ghostofasecretary]

feeling very down! annoyed about it! i had a good day!! i am upset that my brain went on a 45 minute long spiral about how bad my last job went and also how bad All My Trauma Ever has been and also how my life is a mess! i am trying to get out of that pit but it's not going great! graaaaargh!!

[pepprs]

beaver gnawing on wood noises

[imaginarypasta]

nothing grinds my gears quite like a second “why haven’t you responded to me yet” message a mere 1-2 days after the original text

[neverendingford]

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[snekdood]

idk who needs to hear this but no amount of social pressure is going to stop people from being religious.

[blazehedgehog]

Soaking this in

If you don't know what this is, here's an explanation: Both Fortnite and Call of Duty employ something called "Skill-Based Matchmaking" (SBMM for short), and it has become the bane of a certain subset of players who very vocally yell about how it is ruining multiplayer games.

In short, the game secretly and quietly keeps track of your "skill level." Even if a game has both ranked and unranked modes, it is always tracking this skill level stat that reports back how quickly and easily you're getting kills. When you connect to a new match, it tries to group you with players near your skill level.

The idea being you start with zero skill stat, and by playing the game well, your skill stat levels up until you eventually plateau and you are forever playing the game with people that are just as good (or bad) as you are, within some level of variance.

This means if you're one of these career streamer guys or a Youtube clip compilation sort of dude (or both), then you very quickly get put into high tier matchmaking pools with all the other career streamers and wannabe esports pros. Hence the very loud, very vocal complaints, because if you're one of those guys, the idea of having a "casual match" goes away. Everybody is always firing on all cylinders and you're expected to do the same in order to keep your rank and not look embarrassing to your captive audience.

So Activision apparently ran an experiment per Charlie Intel (article here) where they reduced SBMM's effectiveness, meaning the big fish pros and the little tadpole casual players were thrown into more games together.

The result was a sharp uptick in players rage quitting matches early, some even quitting the game entirely and never coming back. The report notes that while player retention for players with a high skill rank was improved, they make up such a small percentage of the player base (apparently less than 1%; the article has some grammar problems) that servicing them really doesn't make sense.

As it turns out, low level players don't want to get hopelessly destroyed by wannabe esports pros. And those pros make up such a small percentage of the player base it doesn't make sense to keep feeding them more low level chum, even though they are the hungriest for it. As more and more low level players permanently leave the game due to frustration, it turns into a wasteland where high level players are getting mad at each other until they also get frustrated and leave as well. SBMM ensures long term health for a game's multiplayer ecosystem.

And being a Fortnite player, it's so validating to hear this. "SBMM is ruining multiplayer" was always a narrative coming from streamers and youtubers who were frustrated by having to actually TRY instead of being able to score easy clip compilation fodder on clueless newbies.

Enjoy sticking to your smurf accounts now, I guess.

[dizzybevvie]

forever fighting the people who watched wkm for the first time, identified that Damien looked a lot like Dark, and instantly concluded he was "pretending to be good"

[imbecominggayer]

Writing Advice: How To Trauma

In seeing the recent explosion of my "How To Write Trauma With Humanity" post, I have decided to jump back into this topic!

This cute post will be covering how to write complicated individuals with Trauma. From the good, the bad, and especially the ugly since people tend to assume that victimhood is inherently seperated from assholehood

A) Being A Person And Afraid

In my experience, the majority of people with trauma have simultaneously existing fears and desires that often contradict, complicate, or outright hurt themselves.

I call them "fear combinations"

It's these fear combinations that cause people with trauma to often act in ways that seem confusing to outsiders.

For example, the person that's always on the hunt for a relationship but whenever an opportunity for romance strikes, they create relationship havok so the relationship can end

Or a person tries to always sincerely bring attention to themselves but whenver the attention is on them, they just shrug it off as not being worthy of it

This behavior seems kinda weird until you stop to take a closer look at their psyche.

Example 1 is based off of my character, Monday Vũ who has a tendency of jumping into relationships with a sincere desire to find romance until the honeymoon period ends as Monday realizes that if the relationship continues they might have to settle down, forgo their entire identity, and all of their freedom. Then they sabotage the relationship under the guise that it's a selfless endeavour.

Example 2 is based off my character, Niko Preyr who uses grand public gestures and his friendships to prop himself up as a person to be known but if you ever spoke to him then you would quickly see one of the most insecure yet attention-hungry individuals you have ever seen.

"Fear Combinations" are an excellent device in making your characters complex. In my opinion, the trauma-writing scene is just a little bit too neat in it's displays of trauma. It's too logical. It doesn't feel real to my personal experiences.

"he has trust issues because of trauma" What if he also had issues with being clingy to people he sees as trust-worthy?

What if your characters weren't so easy to understand? But I hear you wondering.

How? How do these people manifest such confusing behavior? Why should I add this into my characters?

I'll tell you

B) Instinct Vs Terror, Fighting Against Yourself

In my opinion, "fear combinations" are either caused by the distortion of a human fear or the event in which an intrinsic desire is contrasted against a "survival method".

Humans are born with certain "intrinsic" fears and desires. Humans are born with a desire for belonging, a desire for vulnerability, a desire for self-fulfillment, a desire for independence, a desire for security in themselves.

And with desire comes the fear of "missing out". The fear that you want something that everyone wants but for some reason you won't be able to get it. The fear that you'll loose it. And the fear that your desire might put you into danger. What if you get rejected? What if you never find that group? What if you never find freedom?

In not-traumatized individuals, while it may take some introspection, people can and often do reconcile their fears and desires in a movie-montage when they're children with the help of a strong support system.

In traumtized individuals, what tends to happen is that either the fear of lose and the fear of gain tend to be increased to unpredencented levels

Either that, or a lack of a strong support system doesn't allow the child to safely confront their fears in order to get what they want.

This causes "fear combination"

Niko Preyr has the natural desire to be validated as "good", as "special", as "worthy". A desire we are all born with. However, his upbringing convinced him that he is underserving of what we all need. This causes Niko Preyr to use attention as validation. However whenever he receives this attention, his gifted fear that he is undeserving causes him to reject the attention. But he continues searching for attention to serve that need for validation. A hellish cycle.

Monday Vũ has two understandable fears that we all have. The fear of losing two necessary things: indepedence and security. Monday fears being abandoned, fears being engulfed into relationships. While children and adults can often reconcile those fears in their childhood through a strong support system, Monday never had that. Instead she had her father who emotionally left her and her mother who literally left her. Monday only had herself to rely on, at least thats how she felt. And now, as an adult, Monday wants to fulfill that desire we all have. To be loved. To be connected. But she's afraid. Afraid of being blindsided. Afraid of not having the last laugh. Afraid of being apart of something.

What if that loner wolf found someone who they think is perfect. Someone worthy of their trust. Do you really think that all those years of yearning for love, for connection, are just going to be smothered when they have the perfect person to unleash their childish, half-developed, horrifying emotions onto?

But what next? After we have our character's contradictory fears and desires, after we have the justification for why they feel like this, what's next?

It's this:

C) Self-Destructive Habits: Why We Understand And Can't Change

Let me tell you, unless in very specific conditions such as certain personality disorders and so on, people tend to understand that their behavior is foolish, illogical, and hurting other people.

Monday knows that betraying other people, hurting their trust and faith in their relationships, and entering relationships when she understands her history is bad. It makes her a bad person.

Niko knows that their habits are actively hurting their chances at finding worth.

That "Lone Wolf" understands, deep down, that no single person can handle the high expectations and emotions.

They know it because they can see it. Many times. Monday can see that characters in movies who have their relationship history tend to be casted as the antagonist. Niko can hear the gossip. That "Lone Wolf" can see the way that their loved ones cracked under the pressure and guilt.

So why do they do it? It feeds into their idea of the world. It feeds into what they want to be perceived as. It feeds into their stagnancy.

If Monday can ignore how they hurt others, then they can live under the Martyr label for the rest of their life without having to come to term with the fact that this isn't selflessness, it's called being pathetic.

If Niko can ignore how deep that hurt goes, then they never have to actually make the effort to change. To take that potential and make themselves into something. To be responsible.

If "Lone Wolf" can ignore how nobody can meet their expectations without crumbling down, then they use everyone's failure to feed into their cynical, self-hating notion of how nobody's trustworthy. How they don't have the responsibility of being considerate.