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the way she looks at him in this scene I'm so sappy rn my heart andshe'ssoprettyomg
#THIS SCENE#“We can do this” killing myself don't talk to me (please do im so 🥰👹🥰😭🥹😔😼😕😕🥰😭😭 rn)#It gives me a heart attach in the best way possible I would gladly die of a heart attack caused by elita-1 peptalk scene#GORGEOUS GORGEOUS GIRL#i will never get over this#i simply cannot#I simply refuse#AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH screams and fucking shouts#tf one spoilers#Ik it's an officially released promo but still#transformers one#transformers#elita one#elita 1#tf one#tf one elita#oplita#TECHNICALLY#transformers one spoilers
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no because it is criminally bad. he has no business being so ungodly worthy of my affections. please support me in this struggle by way of assuring my forcible expression of all the overwhelming thoughts i have of this man🙏🏻
y’all, i am currently having the worst hyperfixation on finnick odair of my entire life. drop requests <333
#please tell me y’all get it#i CANNOT be the only one#i simply refuse the possibility#finnick odair#the hunger games#thg
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Finally glad the mouthwashing fandom-at least on here- is finally coming around to see the idea that neither curly or jimmy are completely innocent nor should be babied or completely villainized because to do that you'd need to *checks notes*
Completely ignore how mouthwashing is a story of how systems of abuse are kept in power. Particularly rape culture and the patriarchy that encourages these actions while also encouraging bystander effect from other men close to predators...which is all encouraged under a system like capitalism.
Idk read more of tha rant in tags I got carried away I fear.
#its all interchanging systems babe#if i see another post babying curly#or removing any amount of humanity from jimmy#im going to assume you simply dont want to interact with the meat of the game#you just looked at overall plot points and story beats with a glance and refused to give this wonderful game its flowers#stop turning these complex character into one dimensional things you can comodify like prepackaged food#this also heavily includes anya and the weird way you guys also baby her#shes a grown woman...a tramatized one yeah? but a grown woman who should be treated decently#not just spme one note preformative doll you wave around in order to comfort and baby curly or to shit on jimmy in the most ooc way possible#same with swansea#my goodness#mouthwashing#seriously ik fandom always does this but mouthwashing tumblr somehow impressed me?#with how much they could miss themes and intricacies for their preformative turn to the camera so they can say#“grrr this character bad and is monster lets throw a bunch of cluster b disorders at them and remove any character to prove a point ”#“wow this character is completely absolved from his actions and is too innocent to be deeply analyzed...#lets give him a playtoy supporting female character to dote on him and loft him up despite her own trauma!“#rant#im sorry its just soo annoying#usually im a “do everything you want forever” type girl#but its seeing the fandoms hypocrisy in jow they treat charscters like jimmy and curly and swansea that makes me realize#media literacy is soooo down hill.#quick give me a 500 word essay on why you think *shittiest take ever* is acceptable!
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Some people say 'I love Steve' but the way they talk about him is just? My dude, you don't even know him.
"I love Steve!" They say, and then say things like they're fact about a man who is not even Steve that they made up in their heads lmao. Pure Clownery. Sometimes those things are mean and sometimes they just don't make sense.
Like Steve as a blushing and delicate nervous flower?? He is confident and charming and goofy! Yeah he's sweet but not docile. Who is this man they're talking about. What is happening there. Let him be suave.
Steve as an unrepentant bully? He was homophobic to Jon and insulted his family and then got his ass beat and realized oh no I shouldn't have done or said all that it was really bad and went to fix it and apologize? He mostly ignored people, didn't realize they existed (like Robin said) Maybe he and or Tommy/Carol spread a rumour or two, but I highly doubt they ruined anyone's life. Literally just a rich mean girl kinda guy who could make a bitchy remark and barely registered anyone not on his radar. Annoying and a jerk, but not horrible. Being popular requires people to like you, remember.
Being a doormat who never complains? Please. Steve complains all the time. He makes muttered remarks about things the kids do or say. He rolls his eyes like it's going out of style. He says no! He kvetches with the best of them (Robin)! He cares and helps but my god he's not doing it quietly.
Who is this man why is he so different from the Steve I know and love?
#or that the worst possible thing he could do is continue to like sports as though its a moral failing and crime of the highest order#A portion of this fandom has fallen for the duffer brothers anti-sports propaganda and the false nerd/jock dichotomy#and the seeming belief that it's a nerd=good jock=bad when that is simply not the case. Narrative wise in stranger things it is because#it refuses to confront Eddie being a dickhead to Lucas and Steve now being openly kind while still liking sports#i feel ive mentioned that before but its so fucking annoying#as though so many nerds arent unrepentant assholes and racist and misogynist#steve harrington#stranger things#findaanswers#anonasaurus#finda's rambles
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hey so when did Reciprocal Alchemy get over 400 kudos on ao3???
y'all are gonna make me cry fr, wish i could give each and every one of you a big ol' smooch on the forehead <3
#trying to imagine 400 of y'all in a room with me and my brain is simply refusing lol#THAT'S SO MANY PEOPLE#that many people read at least the first chapter and decided it was worthy of kudos??? unreal#(in the best way possible)#i love you all sm#reciprocal alchemy#hannigram#hanngram fic#will graham#hannibal lecter#murder husbands
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Flying Low
A magical AU where Law is a raven shapeshifter, but has had his wings torn off, so he is always using a cane to balance himself and he lives in seclusion in the forest. He absolutely doesn't trust, well, anyone. Whether humans or other shapeshifters or any other race, he doesn't approach anyone and does everything he can to not let them approach his home either. But that changes when one day a guy just falls from the sky. It literally falls from the sky. Right in the middle of Law's herb garden and although he really wants to get rid of this invader, he can't get rid of his curiosity because Law's house is in the middle of the forest, far from peaks or mountains, so where the hell is this guy came from and, even better, how did he survive the fall? Curiosity (and his sense of duty as a healer) causes Law to drag the guy inside and nurse him back to health. 'The guy' soon wakes up and gets a name, Luffy, who reveals himself to be a priest of the Sun God's temple, which makes sense to Law, since Luffy's magic seems totally opposite to his, a raven whose species is constantly attributed to the Goddess of Darkness, Nika's enemy. All this, however, does not explain how Luffy fell out of nowhere from the sky and it only gets worse when not even Luffy knows how it happens. Unfortunately for Law, meeting Luffy is a path of no return and in the blink of an eye his isolated and peaceful life is disturbed by the priest who, after returning to full health, becomes a noisy guest in Law's small cabin. Things get weird when Law's wings start to grow back, white instead of black, at the same time that Luffy also starts to change. For worse. His health simply declines and his magic grows and becomes out of control, becoming a danger to everything around him, excluding, in some way, Law. Desperate to understand and help Luffy, Law begins his journey out of seclusion toward the capital's temple, where Luffy is said to serve as a priest. But dragging a time bomb in the shape of a man all the way to the capital is not simple when you are alone and Law has no option but to accept the growing number of people who seem to be drawn into Luffy's orbit and who decide to accompany them on the journey
#one piece#lawlu#lulaw#Law said 'I want to live in peace alone in a forest' and Luffy took it as a personal challenge#is just one piece but magical shapped#also luffy is about to explode#Other than that it's basically magic op#law said 'I want to take Luffy to the temple as quickly and as peacefully as possible' and EVERYONE took this as a personal challenge#nakamaship is what it is#Luffy is Nika but I think we already knew that.#he simply sealed himself in a human form or something and ended up awakening the seal when he began unconsciously healing Law's wings.#law said 'I don't want friends' and as always people felt challenged#People need to leave this guy alone he's going to have an aneurysm#This was supposed to be a winged au but I forgot what I was going to write lol#There is Zoro a half-blood tiger#Sanji a fugitive prince#Ussop a cursed wooden doll whose magic is highly fabricated based on his lies#Nami a witch who doesn't seem to know she has witch blood#Robin a mysterious shapeshifter who refuses to show her animal form (shes a godamn octopus)#Franky a robot who#similar to ussop#was cursed with sapience#Brook an undead whose bones were the only thing left#And Jimbe a fishman who was far from home at sea#they simply meet on the way#they look at Luffy (a strange and very friendly guy who attracts them) and Law (a grumpy guy who doesn't want them around)#they think 'hmm I should join the party'#much to law's despair lmao
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Mirror, mirror, on the wall...
Who's the fairest of them all?
#lowkey cringy caption but I thought it was fitting given the context#my art#artists on tumblr#the legend of korra#original character#who I still haven't figured out a tag system for lmao#Kat and Nia and their multiverse of madness#alternative title: what a difference half a lifetime can make#summiya at 18/19 vs summiya at 34/35 is like night and day. she barely even looks like herself anymore#or maybe.. she looks more like herself than she ever did? what came before wasn't her. it was an empty porcelain doll devoid of personality#hiding the rotten nature underneath that's been steadily seeping through#and now that she has been thoroughly destroyed her outward appearance finally reflects what she was like inside all along#but just as she manages to convince herself of it. she looks in the mirror and refuses to accept that this is who she really is#where did that gorgeous girl who was so excited for her wedding day go? or the one who lit up upon being showered with compliments?#what happened to them? to her? how did she sink so low?#she was supposed to be better than this... better than her siblings. she was always better than Zaheer and Aiza#but now she's easily the worst of the free. their betrayal doesn't even compare#she deserves death for what she did. she looks at the bruising on her throat and wonders why it wasn't enough#why he didn't press just a little harder. then at least she wouldn't have to live with the shame#how awful of her to wish for that. she is getting what was coming to her. she did all of that for the shame. it is her punishment#she doesn't get the mercy of dying and escaping the consequences of her actions#she is by no means innocent. what's happening now is simply justice being enacted. she's sure of it#she's alone and ruined and miserable. having driven away everyone who could have possibly cared for her. not that anyone did#perhaps it's better that way. maybe then no one else will look at her and realise just how different she looks from her younger self#she wasn't happy back then either but she was content. she was taking the first step towarcs the perfect life she was promised#now that very save perfect life is crashing and burning all around her. perhaps it was inevitable. it was always going to end this way#(sleepy tags so I apologise if they make no sense whatsoever or are just rehashes of stuff I've said before. I'm tired. gonna go to bed now)#oh. before I forget though:#injury tw#bruises tw
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utsuro child afraid of dying indiscriminately casts about for Identity and Agency and Control and finds none ^_^ and such is human life
#sopping wet gintoki posting#i simply refuse to engage w the gintama themes of shouyoutsuro+gintoki being inhuman lol they mean nothing to me#u guys are the most Human Experience its ever been possible for fictional guys to be. deal with it ^_^ <- and show me how to
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Cant remember for the life of me if youve already discussed this but I need to know your opinon on Callum (there aren't even rumours so pulling this out of my ass) going back to Indy to race for prema? Or do you reckon he'll stay in WEC?
Heyy, I haven't really discussed it on here I think, but I have been thinking a LOT about it.
Edit: adding a cut here because it really was more than i expected to write😭
What I ideally want, is that he gets a full time Mclaren Indycar seat. While I love prema and I'm super excited for them to come to Indycar, I would oviously prefer to see him at an established team, close to the top. I think Callum has also said at the beginning of the year that he is happy in WEC and he would only consider coming back to Indycar if it's with a top team (i don't think he said it this emphatically but that was the sentiment). Now, obviously Prema could be an exception here, because they have history together and he at some level knows what he can expect from the team. Also, importantly, they are already quite an established and serious operation (Alexander Rossi called prema basically an f1 team in one of his recent podcast episodes).
At the same time, there are definitely arguments for staying in WEC. I think hypercar drivers can get paid quite well?? (I think i read that in some Indycar article a few months ago. If anyone knows more about that PLEASE let me know. I have been googling a bit about hypercar salaries but Ican find nothing. I'm pretty sure the other endurance categories have mainly pay drivers but idk about hypercar.) Anyways, if he's getting a nice salary in WEC, switching back to Indycar is also a financial question. I know Mclaren would have no trouble paying him decently, but I have no idea where Prema will stand on the pay driver front. I can also imagine that living in Europe and not Indianapolis is a bonus for him.
It's also important to note that he has only had two WEC races with Jota so far. They seem pretty competitive with that first podium, but i imagine their performance at Le Mans for example will be a big factor in if he wants to stay.
All in all, i think if Mclaren offers him a drive, he will definitely come back to indy. For that to happen thogh the options are
a) they add a 4th car (idk if that works with the number of engines? But i have seen it discussed in the past)
b) David gets replaced. I mean, the rumor is that that could happen soon with all the complications surrounding his recovery. If that happens, i assume Théo will take the seat because i'm pretty sure that Callum's WEC contract is airtight and Jota won't let him fuck off to Indycar whenever he wants. There are a lot of clashes later in the season. What David loding his seat would mean for next year is anyone's guess.
c) Alex gets replaced. Remember when Prema said they want an "Indycar veteran" and young talent they developed in their cars? I don't know what they define as a "veteran", but I picture someone over 30? I think he could be an option for them, because he is good, but he doesn't seem as tightly tied to his team as most of the other older top drivers seem to be. I think Prema has enough clout internationally that they wouldn't just take anyone. Additionally, he has spoken super positively about Prema on his podcast.
If Mclaren isn't an option, I honestly have no idea if he would pick WEC or Prema. I do think Prema is probably in contact with him because he seems like such an obvious choice. I also always get the feeling that WEC is something a top level driver can always come back to, simply because there are so many seats. Obviously, a lot of people want that Jota seat, and there is no guarantee of getting one as good again, but I think there is more of a tendency in single seaters to forget about drivers once they miss a season or two. F1 is the worst with this, I don't think it's nearly as bad in Indy, but his career is still losing momentum. I think if he wants another try at Indy, he should probably give it a go sooner, rather than later.
Now what do I want? I would love to see Callum in Indycar again. Both WEC and Indycar aren't available on free TV here, so it's much more of a concious effort for me to seek out some link to watch a race, than it is to turn on F1/F2/FE/Motogp etc. Indycar interests me enough that i do regularly go out of my way to find a way to watch it. The thing with WEC is that I already spend way too much time most weekends thinking of motorsports. I really can't find the time to tune into an endurance race throughout the day. I know I don't have to watch all of it, but I simply am not invested enough for this to appeal to me. What I am doing now is simply refreshing the live timing like once an hour while I go about my day, to check in on how callum and mick are doing. So from my perspective, Indycar, which I sometimes watch anyway, would be way more convenient😅
About Prema specifically, I have to say I have been watching so many Prema youtube videos recently, wishing that they made them to this extent while Callum was there. If he does end up there, I will be obsessed and use every bit of delusion to manifest some wins.
Wow, you asked for an opinion, sorry for writing a whole ass essay😭
TLDR: i have no idea what will happen, i want callum to come back to indycar but mainly i want him at a good team
#and now he's testing for formula e??#and about the hypothetical sch*lott pairing at prema... i won't speak on it. i refuse to jinx even the tiniest possibility of this happenin#i would simply become too obsessed#bitches will try to manifest things one second and the next moment be afraid of jinxing things by saying them... it's me i'm bitches#i do have MANY thoughts about wanting mick in indycar tho if anyone wants to hear them#contemplations
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Why are people being so fucking weird about demanding reblogs of polls? No one owes you publicity??? And on that note, nobody owes you reblogs for anything else either!! Liking something and scrolling past is literally not an insult, and yall need to get over yourselves, my god.
#i do not expect anyone to reblog my shit!! i post it and if people like it that’s great! they liked it!#‘liking without reblogging is like a slap in the face—‘ what are you ON ABOUT#harsh reality here but maybe you should consider the possibility that the problem is not people refusing to reblog#it is simply that whatever you’ve produced isn’t something people are that interested in#i just can’t fathom the entitlement that ‘content creators’ on this site have#are you making art because you love art or because you want attention?#there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting attention and validation but like#if that is your ONLY MOTIVATION and lack thereof is a crushing blow to you#maybe consider idk becoming another Charlie Bowater clone and only drawing skinny pretty white girls with pouty lips and beach waves#but don’t act like other people are obligated to share stuff they don’t care about
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Peepaw
I was literally possessed and couldn't do anything until these three doodles were done. Hyacinth by @catboymoments showed up in my "For You", I had a vision, and this is what the vision was. Dadleb Wittebane has been blessed with yet another Grimwalker to give his love to (and he can twin with this one!! Without them being mean like some other Grimwalker *cough* hayden *cough*) Maybe one day Hayden Wittebane's story will get out of my drafts, but for now! You can all thank the fact that I was scrolling on "For You" for this pleasant meme/meeting/thing. Dialogue under the cut and in Image descriptions!
[Left Image top left corner states Hyacinth Park by catboymoments Caleb "Dadleb" Wittebane + Hayden Wittebane by @hex-wittebane] Hayden, about Hyacinth: Just like their Peepaw. Caleb, suddenly stops spinning Hyacinth and is angry: Call me "peepaw" again. I dare you. Hayden, off screen:
PEEPAW
Caleb sets Hyacinth down off screen and starts chasing Hayden: You might have given me these prosthetics, but I will kick your Grimwalker ass with them!!! [Middle image, side one] Hyacinth, about a bloody shovel: Is this yours? I found it in the closet. Hayden: Ah... Yeah. Used it to bury the dead animals I tried to gift to Belos as a kid. He grounded me for the blood trails. Hyacinth: Boo! Hayden: Tell me about it! Caleb isn't cool either. He was afraid I'd be Belos^2... Want to go grave robbing? Hyacinth: Sure do! [Middle image, side two] ✨GRIMWALKER COVEN✨ [Image on the right] Final move to the dragon dance from ATLA but with Hyacinth and Caleb. And yes, it was Caleb's idea.
#hyacinth park by catboymoments#so sorry if i mischaracterized hyacinth#i just knew once i saw them that he needed an adventure with Hayden because they both like bones!!! also caleb too i guess#blood tw#toh#the owl house#oc: hayden wittebane#oc: hayden wittebane au#the dadleb au#as per the dadleb au caleb hates being called 'peepaw' and i will not elaborate thank you for coming to my ted talk#dadleb au takes place in season 3 and epilogue. hayden is closer to 18 here and caleb is probably 42 due to belos shenanigans#caleb wittebane#caleb wittebane fanart#caleb wittebane meme#all hand drawn on paper because i simply refuse digital art?#yes i know hayden is dressed like kim possible in image 1. she doesnt like any other fictional female characters and no i will not elaborat#Hayden is the most clawthorne-wittebane to ever clawthorne-wittebane y'know?#caleb has a total of three outfits btw#blue and grey. that weird beige color and olive green. and white and olive green
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is it midnight? yes. but i had to get this concept out there before it ate me alive. the swiftlis are rotting my brain fr!!!
#the way i actually looked at the 5e handbook for this#ANYWAY i've been annoying nyx about this literally all day today and this simply refuses to leave my brain!!! they're so!!!#listen to me LISTEN to me. link deserves the ability to kiss the ouchies away okay#link checking on taylor after a battle and giving him a little smooch to smooth over his injuries...#giving him kisses to help ease some of his chronic pains... even rlly mundane things like headaches... the possibilities are endless!#i'm just. i think that growing up link is a really touchy-feely kid and he loves doting on his friends and giving them lots of hugs#but the kisses i think he reserves just for taylor <3#i have the first part of this written already i'm very unwell abt them#also. yes paper rings is a swiftli song. to me 💗💗💗#dndads#swiftli#happi scribbles
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My toxic knitter trait is that if you provide me with a pattern that is knitted flat I will do everything in my power to convert it to be in the round instead. I will put in hours of unnecessary extra planning for the sake of not having to sew a seam later and it will be 100% worth it in my eyes
#wastepaper basket#My new neighbours had a kid yesterday and I want to make them a little toy for the baby so I'm looking through a book I have#Literally have spent like the last 2 hours mentally reworking this pattern to be as much in the round as possible I simply refuse to sew#that many pieces together
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The Existential Dread of Being Queer
“The nothing is the complete negation of the totality of being.”
Martin Heidegger, an influential German philosopher, wrote that as part of his essay “What is Metaphysics?”. Heidegger was not in any way attempting to talk about what we today call “identity politics,” but his definition of nothing is not far from the experience of the queer community, wherein our identities are systematically invalidated by the world around us and we are made to feel unwelcome in the shared experience of being.
“The nothing” was important to Heidegger for other reasons as well. He believed that understanding the nothing was essential to fully understanding being, and he believed that “Anxiety reveals the nothing. … Anxiety leaves us hanging because it induces the slipping away of beings as a whole. This implies that we ourselves–we humans who are … in the midst of being slip away from ourselves. … In the altogether unsettling experience … where there is nothing to hold onto, pure [human experience] is all that is still there.” This feeling of anxiety, which Heidegger believed could be self-induced by thinking about the inevitability of death, is how we come to a better understanding of our being.
For the longest time, I couldn’t quite wrap my head around Heidegger’s hypothesis. Sure, it was insightful to say the fear of death was the key to understanding life, but I couldn’t fathom why anyone would willingly put themselves through anxiety for that understanding.
Then, at two in the morning on June 12, 2016, a man opened fire with an AR-15 in a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, killing fifty people and wounding over fifty more.
Over the course of that Sunday, I was slowly and gradually overwhelmed by the very anxiety Heidegger discussed. It was just five days until the anniversary of my coming out, and I had begun to feel more at ease as a part of the queer community than I ever had before. The attack undid that. My feelings of safety and security had been ripped from me. The people of this country hate me and my people enough to commit the worst mass shooting in its history. How the fuck was I supposed to feel safe?
My existence as a queer woman suddenly came into stark light. The world was no longer content to make subtle digs at my identity, attempting to erode my being into nothingness because they don’t understand it. The message of the shooting is clear. I am not only not welcome to experience the fullness of being; I, along with my sisters, brothers, and siblings in the community, may also not be welcome to any form of being for much longer.
It seems unlikely that Heidegger expected the experience of such anxiety, such existential dread, to reveal this specific truth to me. Despite that, this experience has helped me realize what he found important about anxiety. My existential dread over being part of the queer community has shown me that anxiety is essential to understanding the ultimate futility of fighting for being. It’s sobering, and it puts reality into perspective. The hope I had when I first read him is suddenly no longer worthwhile.
I’m not sure that that hope will ever feel genuinely worthwhile again.
#martin heidegger#philosophy#transgender#lesbian#orlando shooting#this is a hard piece to revisit#obviously being written right in the aftermath of the pulse shooting#it's genuinely reflective of the feelings i had at the time#that was a terrifying ordeal that showed me exactly how much some people hate queers like me#and there is value in expressing those emotions#but also?#this entire piece is blackpilled as fuck#and i simply refuse to be so nihilistic#there is hope#a better world is possible#we are going to have to fight like hell to get it#but it can be won#also just#yikes at quoting heidegger again#i guess it's safe to say his writing left an impact on me#especially as i turned to it for understanding during a dark period#but again#motherfucker was a nazi#he is rotting in his grave#and deserves no more attention
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byan getting angry, sometimes to the point of violence, when someone tries to diagnose them in any capacity.
#yes even in a professional capacity when they're sitting with a psychiatrist#they are FINE. there is NOTHING wrong with them.#nothing they've been through has affected them deeply enough to affect their development or behaviour or thought processes or anything#they're not normal but they're not not normal in a mental illness kind of way okay????#and their brain is wired the same way everyone else's is so shut the fuck up and take that back#by which i mean a lot of their appointments with counsellors and psychiatrists usually end in byan shouting or throwing things#or even biting someone or simply shutting down and refusing to cooperate#........it's actually fully possible they've been in a psych ward at some point i'm realizing now while i think about this &#also the fact that they have overdosed... it's actually probable and incredibly likely and idk how that hasn't occurred to me#before now. especially as someone who's spent time in a psych ward.#new thing to ponder upon for a bit ig even tho that wasn't the point of this post at all akjfhsd#━━ ˟ ⊰ ✰ ooc ⋮ don't @ me.#overdose cw#i feel like the mention of that needs a tag but i'm not sure if anything else might :x
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Someone please tell Me if aiming for 1 date a week when single is realistic
This book How Not To Die Alone gave such advice and while I realize where it's coming from good intentions in theory (making dating Hesitators who always feel they need to be more perfect before dating to just Go Date), i also frankly don't know how I'd meet 1 vaguely stable vaguely compatible person to ask out in a year let alone weekly.
#rant#like. if i were to meet the once a qeek quota right now?#id basically HAVE to ask out someone with nothing in common or whos in a poly relationship even tho#tyats not what im looking for (so the relationsgip would go nowhere and id waste both our time)#or with red flags (overt ones... which i simply refuse to do)#and then... if somehow i disregarded all boundaries and asked out virtually Anyone#and thats assuming ppl say yes. and i matxhed 10k people once and 1 single incompatible person said yes in a whole year.#well even IF it all worked out and i found one date a qeek.#im chronically ill and have gastroparesis. so SITTING hurts a lot and EATING food is not always possible for me#if i have a bad day i cant eat foods for a few days or week#and even on good days... one bad food choice can mean puking and pain and unable to eat for a WEEK following#so im scared of restaurant food a bit.#because even when i order very safely and barely eat. a restaurant might make a mistake and add food im allergic too#or forget to remove what i asked. or i didnt realize they used dairy in a salad dressing#and then im puking and bloated and in oain and starving for days :/#so like. a coffee date? a tea date? id be up for that. resonably safe its jyst flavored water.#but ANY restaurant or long movie (sitting) or something involving food and im quite scared i would be#very sick the remainder of the week.#and i have othef things to save my energy for vesides dates: WORK MEETINGS. work so i dont call in sick VOMITING.#my family wanting a nice dinner including some bread (and me reallt wanting the bread and to not have to skip dinner so i want to risk it)#my 2 times weekly PT where i cant call in sick and if im exhaustsd and vomiting and in intense pain PT is VERY hard.#my friends who (like dates) often wish to grab food. which as mentioned is always a huge risk and#i always sacrifice Getting to see friends i love with May Be Utterly fucked up for a week :c
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