#i share my opinions in hopes people will reciprocate and share their own

[isekyaaa]

I really paint myself as a judgmental person on this blog tbh, and while I am this way because I do enjoy sharing my opinions and judgments on things, I can't deny that I do so with the intentions of purposefully appearing unlikeable haha. I have this bad habit of testing my followers to see how much they're able to handle.

[saey707]

Hii! Can I request Heartsteel Kayn having a big crush on reader (who is really close friends with all of them and helping Alune with managing them) and thinking the feeling is one sided when it’s not? If you don’t want to write this I totally understand and respect your decision!! Have a lovely day/night<3

✿ Prompt: Kayn feels his crush on you is one sided ✿

♡ champion focus: kayn ♡ tw: npd ♡ Gender-neutral reader

Author’s Note: Hi! Thanks for your request ૮₍｡´ᴖ ˔ ᴖ`｡₎ა I tried to give this one more headcanons with other HEARTSTEEL members to play a bit into Kayn's jealousy. This will also be a bit of a shorter request. I tried my best with it! Hope you like it! (ㅅ´ ˘ `)

Kayn doesn't have a problem with you being well-acquainted and close with the people in his band. Sure, Ezreal could be a bit annoying to deal with, especially when he throws those cheeky, flirtatious comments your way. Kayn has never taken it to heart before. He knows you don't like Ezreal that way... So why is it bothering him so much now?

You'd often help Alune out with band management: Making sure everyone was doing their parts behind the scenes, assuring the band was always prepared for any occasion to pop up, and making sure all of the boys were well packed whenever you'd all hit the road to go to the next city.

But that didn't stop you from helping out the other boys! You served as Aphelios' sign language interpreter and sometimes gave your opinions on outfits K'Sante designed. You'd point out minor flaws to ensembles Sett sewed so the boys can always look their best, and even would allow Yone to vent his frustrations to you while you made him cold brew. These were all minor things Kayn overlooked and had no issues with.

What got to Kayn was seeing how you interacted with Ezreal. The way you two would share jokes with one another made Kayn sick to his stomach. What could Ezreal be saying that was so funny anyways? Kayn was ten times more clever than him! You should be laughing at his jokes!

Sometimes, Kayn feels like he is in the shadows, watching you from the outside. It was expected for you to help out the others, yes, but in a way, Kayn felt like he deserved more attention.

You should be looking his way, but instead, you turn your attention to everyone other than him. It makes Kayn feel like his admiration for you was one-sided, which can hurt someone who believes firmly that everyone likes him!

In a way, it's Kayn's fault. He never made an effort to get close to you. It was his fault for being so broody and distant. It was his fault for never reaching out for help, let alone your attention.

It's when Kayn decided that he had to be a little selfish if he wanted to get anywhere with you. While he still believed you should have been looking his way from the beginning with adoration and starstruck eyes, he supposed he could make an effort to get you to see how hot and amazing he was!

It will come as a pleasant surprise to you when Kayn slowly becomes more forthcoming! While he sometimes comes off as a jerk, interrupting your time with others in order to have you all to himself, you knew he had good intentions and just wanted to get closer to you- As a friend, of course~

Even though you won't immediately reciprocate Kayn's feelings, that won't stop him from trying to win you over. He can accept things as they are for a while longer. And if anything, it will only make him more desperate with time!

So long as you reserve that sweet smile for him, he'll keep doting over you until you grow to love him on your own terms.

[makingmylifebetter]

Disclaimer: So this is the timeline I had to do for my own sanity and that I’m sharing even though it’s obviously just conjecture (based on observations and as objective as I could make it though so🤷🏼‍♀️)

I know fuck abt shit so if I have my facts wrong just correct me!!!💓

My official Jikook timeline I did to stop being insane:

They’ve met in 2012 (fact)

Jimin started to hardcore flirt with JK in 2014 (fact because I do not see how could these be interpreted as jokes, there is no punchline, there is no lead up, no one is laughing, it’s repeated)

JK starts to reciprocate some time later and they are a couple for sure for sure in my mind when gcf in Tokyo hits (conjecture based on logic but also my personal life experience so yeah AMA)

2018 they fight. And I think that continues. Sorry but it’s just my opinion and my opinion is they started to get messy. Getting together and being v happy and breaking up to the point it translated into public appearances. Not much though. I think it’s significant that the BTS was thinking abt breaking up as a group. I think jikook wasn’t the reason but it contributed.

They break up permanently 2019-2020

Jimin flies back for JKs birthday. They reconcile and decide to be friends but

They’re still messy. They fall back into it and fall back out.

They’re still like this to this day. Mess ensues of getting closer and getting back to old habits and knowing it’s bad so separating/putting distance between each other while still loving each other fiercely. Very big push and pull energy

The joined enlistment was proposed by BH (sorry, this is what I thought since I heard abt it. I know it’s very close to peoples hearts but I can’t lie)

Jimin pitches AYS, they do the travel show for Army to have content while they’re away but also to reconnect and figure shit out

Genuinely this is something I felt for a long while and SO FAR these two episodes of AYS made a lightbulb inside my head light up. I have friends like them. I know people like them. I want to believe in fairytale romances but a lot of the times people love each other and are the bestest friends but they still relapse into old habits (especially if they’re the easy comfortable option).

Yet again I DO NOT aim to offend anyone. Just get my opinion out there in hopes of reaching other similarly minded people and discussing stuff and things💓

[thelunarfairy]

So, I love your jshk analysis and posts. Thank you for existing, and for sharing your thoughts on the manga.

And, while I was reading one of your posts ("if yashiro refuses to break tsukasa's seal, then it will be hanako who does it"), and a doubt arose in my mind:

Do you think Tsukasa would allow someone other than Hanako to take the seal from him?

How would Hanako even allow someone else to end his brother's life?

Maybe I am seeing it in a very personal way, as I take their bond and relationship that they have shown us.

But, I personally don't really see Amane allowing the seal of his brother, his yorishiro, to be broken. I'm fairly sure that even he will come into conflict when the time comes to do so. He wants Yashiro alive as much as he loves his brother, and maybe he doesn't fully accept that he will have to do it (it already happened); kill Tsukasa (for the second time) so Yashiro can live.

But I'm digressing,

and, again, maybe it's just what I want to happen, or that Hanako (and/or Tsukasa) doesn't allow: someone else taking the yorishiro seal.

The truth is I would like a Hakubo/Sumire situation to be repeated; not because of morbidity or anything, but because of the apologies and the problems of the past were clarified, reciprocated love and a death at the hands of the person most important and loved by you.

Perhaps with the other yorishiros it was appropriate for Yashiro to do it: objects from people from the past with whom he already had closure (Yako and her scissors, Tsushigomori and Amane's moon rock, Shijima and the canvases).

But Hakubo and Sumire? Two personalities that needed closure, a final goodbye because the one they had was not enough and time was never on their side.

Sumire was giving Yashiro permission to take her seal, because she thought she would never see Hakubo again, that she couldn't talk to him again; she was resigned to it.

Amane and Tsukasa need and I hope they have their own farewell.

I got excited and ended up rambling too much, sorry. I would like to know your answer and opinion about it, thank you <3

If there are any errors, sorry, i'm using google translator jalskakak

Awww thank you! You made my day happier S2

So, Sakura revealed the truth to Nene but did it hidden from Tsukasa, that is, she told Nene something that Tsukasa didn't want her to know, apparently, because if he didn't care about it, why would she hide it from him?

Or did Sakura fake it to gain Nene's trust?

Let's assume that Sakura hid it because Tsukasa doesn't want Yashiro to know about it, and why wouldn't he want to?

Because he wants to resolve things between him and Hanako, but Sakura for some reason warned Nene that if she doesn't remove the seal, Tsukasa will be devoured.

The vision you have is not cruel or morbid, perhaps this is the only chance Tsukasa has to talk sincerely with Hanako, the chance to resolve things and the chance to see him for the last time before disappearing.

There are many things involved at this moment, and Tsukasa doesn't want anyone to interfere, it's something between the two.

As for Amane allowing someone else to remove the seal, he's likely to be reluctant, because it's Tsukasa, he's HIS brother.

Hanako DECIDED that he was going to save Nene, he didn't want anyone else to do that besides him, the same goes for Tsukasa.

I think that in the end they will really have to resolve it between themselves, but Nene will still be involved in all of this.

About Google Translate, oh I have a love-hate relationship with it so I understand you perfectly

[sunflawyer]

Hi, sorry if this is a bother, but I wanted to ask a question since I'm new to the community. If someone says that they don't share their f/o, what does that mean? I understand they don't want to speak to people who have the same f/o as them, but what does it entail? Like, does it mean that they don't want anyone with the same f/o interacting with them completely, or do they mean that they just don't want anyone talking about the relationship they have with their f/o? Sorry if my question is confusing; I hope I worded it correctly.

hi sweets! 🧡 oh, this is such a great question! thank you for asking me (and the community!) welcome!! 💕

to answer it - if someone states they dont share their f/os, that means they dont want people (who ships with the same f/o) to interact with them at all. sometimes it can make them uncomfortable because some selfshippers treat their ship like an actual relationship! 💗 usually they will just block and move on for their own comfort.

but sometimes it also depends on the person themselves. there are also some nonsharing selfshippers who allow doubles to interact, but they wont reciprocate. however it's best to just keep the interaction to minimum to prevent unwanted conflict in the future. usually they will state their nonsharing status in their bio/carrd.

its all about creating a safe place for our own! as long as we're respectful of each other, im sure there wont be any unnecessary conflicts. 🧡

comments are open for all! drop your opinion and thoughts about this so that we can educate each other as well. (⁠✿⁠^⁠‿⁠^⁠)

[janesgms]

My big 6 as Princesses

Leo Ascendant: Rapunzel

Do I need to say much about it? I think Rapunzel is the embodiment of Leo Ascendant. Although I am not a blonde (even though sometimes I want to paint my hair blonde or red lol - my friends tempt me tbh), I see myself a lot in her. Our way of illuminating a whole room with our energy (I'm very humble I know lmaoooo), our glowing vibes, our contagious happiness and laugh, our vibe in general, our clumsy way most of the times, our turning head beauty, our type for men, and the most important thing: our long-ass hair that takes a lot of compliment most of the times haha

Sagittarius Sun & Mercury: Merida

Ok but I relate so much with Merida in a personal level, even my relationship with my mom is the same I swear. Our way of acting on impulsive mode 100% of the time, our need of going out in adventures and to release ourselves from fitting in a box, the way we share our opinions proudly and we can be funny without trying much, the way we do crazy things without thinking about the consequences, the way we like to show our potential to anyone who doesn't believe it, the way we absolutely do not accept when someone tries to control us, the way we say what's on our minds most of the times

5H Sun & Mercury: Tinker Bell

Can we ignore the fact she's not an actual princess? Because I need to put her in here. She's one of the characters I've related the most since I was a child tbh. I'm gonna be honest here that Inwas a child kind of spoiled (also being an only child helps), and when things didn't go as I planned, I got mad just like her, I remember my dad saying to my child me that I was just like her, even the red cheeks lmao. I just feel like her energy in general is a lot like mine and the way we're hardworkes, oh my gosh I really love her movies and she was one of the characters that made me who I am today. The nostalgia is feral

Gemini Moon: Anna

The overthinking, the way we feel like we can fix even people who are unfixable, the clumsy way (again), the way we can fall for the most shitbag men in the world without seeing their red flags, the way we embark in the most random situations without even meaning to, the way we speak without thinking and mess up our relationships with it but we try to fix things one more time, the hope we feel because we need to hold on to something before we lose our minds, etc

11H Moon: Charlotte

She needed more screen time lol, she's such a funny character and she NEEDED her prince charming lol. Ok, now I'm confused if she actually fits my moon house but I just really relate to her and I'm gonba put her here because she's my comfort character lmao, the exxagerated way of acting sometimes? check. the need to find love and happiness? check check. the vanity sometimes because we like to feel glamorous? check. and also our ingenuity sometimes lol (istg i'm not an intitulated person but this post can say something else? I swear I'm just trying to show my best sides here guys)

Aquarius Venus: Bella

The way we find pleasure in reading and seeking knowledge in a variety of stories, the way we find love and the most diverse universes, the way fall in love with the most unique creatures because we're focused on what's inside, the way we stand our ground even when the situation is against us, our courage. (I just think Bella has everything to do with aquarius venus in general, this placement is so her)

7H Venus: Cinderella

(+ my 7H Neptune) The way we would do anything for love, the way we can let people step on us sometimes because of our ingenuity, the way we live in our dreams and in our own heads to escape reality, the way we have dreams of finding our one true love, the way we want to stay loyal to only one man our whole life as long as is reciprocal, the generosity we feel towards everyone even if the person has been bad to us (The fact she's always been my favorite princess since I was a child)

Taurus Mars: Moana

The stubborn personality, the need to impose our beliefs when we think it's very important, the way we would do anything and get aboard in any adventure just to save our loved ones and seek the truth, the love we have for our home land but witha desire of getting to know something else. This one was shorter but idk how to explain properly, is the vibes yk?

10H Mars: Elsa

The need to be seen as perfect, the pressure people put on us, the cold way of acting in front of others when you're actually breaking down inside, the urge to release all the negativity stuck inside us, the way we work hard in our job and we can be very responsible when necessary, the way we put our head on top of our heart in the professional field, the way we can be the greatest in everything because we put our whole heart and soul when we enjoy something, the pessimistic way we see things sometimes... Yes I've put Elsa and Anna but to explain myself I also feel like there are two little devils or more fighting inside my head to see who's gonna command so maybe that's it (yeah let's put the fault on my gemini moon and taurus mars who have nothing to in commom with each other lol)

[someone1348]

🍰🍓; hii !! im back with a fever 🥲👍 and i have an request in mimd !

how about a disater twins x lee!reader? im not so sure what prompt to use but i wanted it to be platonic <\\3

hope you can write this and don't forget to share a smile because even a little can go a long way 💖

Aww No! I hope you feel better soon Jay! Take it easy! :]

I hope you enjoy this!

The people in this: Ler!Disaster twins, Lee!Reader (Platonic!)

Key: (y/n) = your name

Tw: none this is adorable

And with all that being said here we go!!

____________~☆°♡°☆°♡°☆~_____________

The Funniest Turtle

"Clearly, it's me! Right (y/n!) I'm the face man, so naturally, I'm the funniest turtle you know!" The blue clad turtle slung an arm around your shoulder with a smirk before his purple bandanad twin brother spoke up.

"Actually, everyone who has met me has said I am the funniest, so clearly, it's me, am I correct (y/n)?"

The pair went on and on and on bickering about who was actually the funniest! Both were serious about it too! Eventually the two put their focus back on their best friend and asked again

"Who's the funniest (y/n) me or Donnie?"

"Yeah! In your expert opinion who makes you laugh the most?"

They stood there in shock and just shrugged not knowing what to say or do. You found both of them funny in their own ways and there was no way you could decide a winner.

"Here let me make this easier~ first one to make (y/n) laugh is deemed the funniest turtle!" Leo smirked at his twin as Donnie reciprocated that look on his own face

"You're on; good luck, second place~" Donnie said playfully as Leo growled before swinging and arm over your shoulders again with his signature smug look,

"Hey (y/n), Why do cows wear bells?"

"I don't know, Why Leo?"

"Because their horns don't work!"

You really tried your best to not laugh, it really wasn't that funny it's just how Leo presented the joke that made it funny! He kept trying pun after pun until Donnie stepped in

"Leo, you're obviously going about this all wrong. You want to make them laugh then step aside and watch the pro at work"

Leo rolled his eyes before letting Donnie take the floor. Donnie smiled as he spun you around and dipped you before doing some funny little dance, which almost worked too! Both of them were just so funny and everything is ten times worse when you know you can't laugh! Leo smirked before pushing Donnie out of the way and walked behind you again.

"I'll take it from here D!" He smiled "What's a skeletons favorite bone?" You shrugged as he smirked "Their funny bone!" He exclaimed before skittering up and down your rib cage.

"LEheheo!"

Donnie gasped big time as we walked over to the scene "looks like I win~" Leo said with a smirk as Donnie crossed his arms

"Two can play at that game, dearest brother of mine! First to make them laugh the loudest wins~"

"Deal!"

"Wait guys-" there was no use trying to fight it. The pair held you close, Donnies robotic battle shell arms held your hands above your head while they got to work tickling their favorite person alll over their tickle spots

"Tickle Tickle tickleee~ dawww you're too adorable (y/n)"

"LEHeOHo! NOho!"

"Leo yess~" he continued to tease you with a smirk as his six didgets danced from tickle spot to tickle spot.

Donnie smirked joining in on the fun "I never knew someone could be so ticklish~ It's very fascinating, I'll have to tickle you more often if this is how you respond~"

"DOhoNnIEhEhe!"

"That's my name giggles, you need something from the funniest turtle around?~"

Leo narrowed his eyes before picking up the pace "I'm gonna getcha'!~ I can tickle you alll day long~"

"As can I! Tickle Tickle Ticklee"

"GUhuYS! PLeAsEHEHE! WAHAHAHAIT!" your laughter got to the loudest point when they both attacked your worst spot

"Found it!"

"No I did!" They said in unison before giving up and tickling you for the sake of it

"Tickletickletickletickle"

"You have the best laugh, did you know that?"

"PLEAHAHAHASE MEHEHERCYYY!"

"Tie?"

"Tie!"

They stopped and smiled, rubbing away the ghost tickles before pulling you in for a group hug.

"Who's up for some video games!"

"Yeheah!"

"Sounds good to me"

At the end of the day, it didn't matter who was the funniest because they both know that regardless of who's telling the jokes, or pulling off the dances, they can both make you smile and that's what they were really after. You're bright smile and incredible laughter!

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I hope you all enjoyedd! Again I apologize for the delay! The rest of the requests should be out very soon I promise!

-K :]

[neighborlywelcome]

Hi, I saw some of your other matchups for tadc and decided to do this for myself! I will say very quickly that I'm not comfortable being paired with Jax.

Currently I'm questioning my sexuality and I'm okay with being paired with any character, my gender I'm also questioning right now but currently I use she/they! My personality is basically at first I'm very quiet maybe saying one or two things but when I open up to people I become very loud and make a lot of jokes, I try to be as kind as possible (like if I make a somewhat rude joke I almost immediately ask if it's okay after), can be very chaotic, very caring, and somewhat on the more sus side. The best way to describe my appearance is like with Ramona Flowers often I dye my hair new colors (though not as extreme with me waiting till it's faded or a few months later), I have a lot of freckles all over my body, I try to have a goth/emo look, and I have a few very small scars. I'm very creative writing fanfiction, drawing, and trying to make my own series, other then those I love learning about old fandom stuff and reading as well, I also really like learning about lore of different games but I'm not really a massive gamer, I also have a massive passion for theater! I'm an Aries as well and also have a lot of plushies that I sleep with every night!

For my partner I look for someone who can be there no matter what, someone to help remind me that I'm loved, someone who I can joke around with and just be there with. The love langue's I look for a partner are words of affirmation and physical touch, while the ones I myself have are words of affirmation and quality time. My fave date is something quiet like going to see a movie or going to eat out at a small hometown restaurant!

I hope this is good and thanks in advance! Also have an amazing day/night!

Hi and thank you for your request! I hope you have a good day/night as well!

YOUR MATCHUP IS…

GANGLE!!!

You and Gangle would be a great match! You're both compassionate and caring, and not to mention creative. You would get along well and Gangle would be enamored by your unique personality and tastes, like your cool, colorful hair (even if she has a hard time admitting this because of how shy she is)!

You're both very quiet upon first meeting each other, which Gangle finds very comforting. I don't think she'd like if someone was very loud and excited with her from the get-go. You both take your time getting to know one another to open up to each other, and afterwards you're surely inseparable!

Gangle appreciates your kindness, and once she's comfortable with you, would love your jokes! She'll even reciprocate eventually with her own humor every once and a while. And when she's more open she would likewise tell you how happy you make her and how much she loves how caring you are.

Gangle loves drawing and writing and everything in between, especially when it's related to fandoms! She would love to share her works with you and vice versa, and would love to listen to your thoughts and opinions on any kind of lore. Creativity is very important to her, so suffice it to say it's one of her favorite parts about you. (And your love for theatre is also really cute given that's Gangle's theme.)

She would also love going on quiet, romantic dates with you whether that's walks around town or eating at small restaurants. She seems like a "watch a movie with snacks on the couch" kind of gal if you ever feel like staying indoors too. But anything you want to do is fine with her as long as she's in your company... and it isn't anything too loud or scary lol.

One of her favorite activities, though, is cuddling with her ribbons all wrapped around you since she knows how much you love physical affection. Plus, with all the plushies on your bed, she thinks it makes it the perfect cozy spot to relax and hang out together!

[unknowingaddiction]

What is an addiction, and how do I know if I have one?

Hello and welcome to a small part of something greater than myself, 

something I made for you. 

I’m 

glad you’re here. 

I imagine you read that, and never paused 

to let it sink in, 

you didn’t allow yourself to 

feel it. 

So let me help you, 

feel it. 

Unlike most people and organizations, concepts and ideals, 

I’ll give you another chance, in fact, I’ll  give you unlimited chances, unconditionally. 

Feel it. 

I’m

Glad

You’re

Here. 

But, I must ask, what brought you here? 

What compelled you to continue reading this post?

You’re either connected to someone who has/had an addiction, 

Or you are the one with an addiction. 

Perhaps you wonder,

Why the bluntness? I don’t know that I have an addiction, what a bold assumption from an online stranger. 

Bold I may be, in this moment, but I can wager there is some nagging tendril that visits you when you least expect it, tickling your mind coldly– in still moments where your thoughts become something nearly tangible. This tendril, this ghost that haunts you, it whispers that you are in the grips of something seemingly impossible to get out of. 

You’re in way too deep. 

In fact, I think you have become close to a professional at banishing your ghost. 

I’ve been haunted too, and I know that they don’t stay banished for long. Our unconscious and subconscious mind begs it, summons it to come back to save us from 

Ourselves. 

That’s my guess at least. So, you are one of two sides on the same coin– or chip, whichever you find connection in. 

Now that we’ve established that you’re trapped, hopelessly. 

I hope you allow me to show you how to create 

keys. 

One for you, 

One for me, 

(Because helping you helps me)

One for all the rest of us trapped in keyless cages. 

To make the key for your keyless cage, I have to first fashion one, to teach, to be an example; shaping its body with my words. 

Words of experience will shape the bow of our key, 

Words of strength will shape the blade, 

Hope will shape the shoulder, 

And your own experience, perspective, and individuality will shape the unique cut of the key’s “teeth”. 

Occasionally, I will provide you with scholarly, peer-reviewed research and my own counseling professional opinion which will become the tip. 

Now then, back to our first question, and the question that led you here and kept you here. 

Do I have an addiction, and what is addiction?

Are you ready for the answer? 

Probably not, 

And that’s okay. 

But I pray that you 

Read this anyway. 

You already know the answer. 

In fact, you’re the only one who holds the answer 

to the question 

you seek. 

Maybe it lies 

buried, 

lies behind denial and, 

lies behind so many secrets and justifications,

lies behind failed attempts that you would rather not see,

lies behind 

years of lies 

to yourself and others. 

So then, what can you actually expect from me since I didn’t answer your question. 

I’m not here to convince you that you have an addiction, I’m not here to provide you with proof that someone you know has an addiction. Rather, I am here to nonjudgmentally share with you everything I know so that you can form your own educated understanding of who you are and if who you are aligns with who you dreamt of being. I will provide data and research on addiction prevention, recovery maintenance, harm reduction, substance use disorders, and treatment. In addition, I will incorporate the perspectives and stories of those who encounter addiction, this includes individuals with substance use disorders, behavioral addictions, and friends and family members of those with addictions. I will attempt to include multicultural applications and will make a point to have continuous improvement in my own multicultural competence. 

Stick around and questions will be answered and research will be provided. 

Follow or subscribe, like, comment, and share. 

All of this 

I request 

as a gesture of sacred reciprocity, 

our energy exchanged.  

Ask questions and I will tell you all that I know or don’t know. 

But take heart that you’re not alone. 

If you made it this far, 

Take a small token 

Of gratitude 

From someone who is 

Glad 

You 

Are 

Here. 

Gebo,

You are 

becoming. 

[lindszeppelin]

Hi Linds. Hope you’re well.

Why do you think some people feel entitled to know more about actors than they want to share?

I have a theory that those people have similar boundary issues IRL. I am never entitled to know someone’s thoughts, feelings, etc., unless they wish to share them with me. And then I feel honored. That goes for co-workers, neighbors, friends, and family.

People who feel entitled to such information are untrustworthy and unhealthy.

I’m not talking about curiosity. Curiosity is natural. Even speculation is not that big of a deal — as long as the “speculator” knows that they are only guessing and speculation is not fact.

For example, all the stuff we talk about in your asks about Austin (and specifically Austin and K), are just our opinions. We find our opinions reasonable and grounded in reality — but we are aware they are opinions. We are aware that we could be mistaken. That we are not privy to facts — until and unless those facts are made public. That we are not in a reciprocal relationship with Austin Butler. That we do not know him.

We love him. We are fans. We are even grateful and truly care about his life. But we understand we are not actually part of it.

Unfortunately some people in the Austin (or any) fandom seem to actually think they know him (scary) while others act like he’s their property or pet (which I find even creepier). They make comments about him like he’s a child or some sort of stuffed toy. It’s so weird.

Now I know there are plenty of people who find it problematic that someone like me, who is old enough to be Austin’s mother, lusts after him. And I’d be lying if I didn’t say I think that’s kinda fair. Even sometimes I question myself and think “omg if anyone IRL knew how I behave on tumblr they’d have me committed immediately”!

But I can say with the utmost confidence that if I ever actually met Austin (and I never will) I would only behave age appropriately in his presence and I would speak to him as a human being, not as a rabid cougar. Or, okay, just stare at him. Not sure which. But my point is I would not feel entitled to a particular experience and I would make every effort to show him respect as a person.

Because I’m not a creepy asshole.

Ultimately I think the folks I detest in this fandom are the folks I would detest IRL. I have a spidey sense that they’re narcissistic toxic gaslighting emotional vampires and would behave so anywhere.

Ok I know this is a wide-ranging conversation, as John Mulaney would say, but I had thoughts and you know how I like to spill my guts in your asks. 😉

MJ first of all, i fucking love you and you know i love all of the messages that you send in to me. I love these kinds of discussions because it's more of a wider perspective in terms of conversation and it brings about important notions.

Let me just say that you do not give off weirdo cougar vibes lol. You are the utmost of respectful when it comes to Austin. Best believe, there are people in this fandom that are much younger than him or around his age like i am that truly are the definition of a weirdo when it comes to how they treat and talk about him.

You already mentioned it here, that they infantilize him. And he is a grown man in his 30s. Even when i was in my teens or early 20s and I had a crush on an older actor or musician, i never talked about them as if they were my child and i was their mother like "omg my precious boy" or something of the sorts lol. idk what it is about these young fans that want to baby him. He is a man and doesn't need to be babied by his own fans for crying out loud. There is a difference between loving him truly, and then diminishing him by patting him on the head/pinching his cheeks and calling him baby names. There are certainly worse things that they could do, but that is a massive gripe.

In regards to your question of why, i think you put it well, that it's curiosity. But also it's grandiosity and egos flying about everywhere. Some people in this fandom feel entitled to know everything that goes on in private so that they can feel big about themselves and stick it to people like us who feel like he has not been truly happy in a long time.

idk how to end this because i think i hit on all of your talking points so i hope that was a good enough answer lol. love ya <3

[aceofspadegrass]

I don't know if you still do requests because your pinned posts says you do but it's 1 1/2 years old so I'm not sure, but I do have a fic/hc (whatever you wanna do) request for Niragi getting a squish (platonic crush) on the reader and how him dealing with it. Sorry if this is really vague and a bit awkward, I've never really requested anything before 👉👈

I do, I just don't always got the idea juices for it.

Now, Niragi getting a squish? Let's do Headcanons, easier on my end and hopefully enough for you, alright? Don't fret, you're doing fine. :D

I don't know which part of Niragi you want, so.... Three times. Pregame, In the Borderlands, and Post-ish Version. I do hope it's enjoyable, it's been forever since I've done a request.

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Pre-Borderland

-Niragi always saw you around town, minding your own business, but hell was he about to approach you.

-I mean, look at him. Look at you. He doesn't know why, but he feels like he's got to make a good impression for you. And he's still somewhat an outcast, even if he's making efforts to not be.

-(He's also scared he'll scare you. You look very polite.)

-(Not that he'll admit that.)

-He's still low-key stalking you for information though. Whenever he catches a glimpse of you he keeps in mind where you tend to go, what you buy (if any), what kind of friends you upkeep. He's follow sometimes, but he's still aware of his surroundings and won't go where it would look really weird on his end.

-He's hyping himself in that way that most people (including him) assume would be 'Oh I have a crush I want to impress my crush' but for whatever reason he can't imagine actually doing that. He just kind of wants to really spin you at insane speeds though. Tease you and show off games with you in them (Not that anyone else knows who Random NPC #3 is). Cute aggression.

-Alas, Niragi never gets an explanation why he really likes you but not how he normally gets with other people. Romance, he could try, but friendship like a normal person? Hah, he has better luck making butter.

-(He's been hyping himself up in an attempt to talk to you about a shared interest.)

Borderland

-Niragi finds you at random during a game, and immediately latches onto you. Does his normal thing to everyone else, but for whatever reason laid claim to you specifically.

-You and him are both lucky it's a Clubs game involving clusters dying so less chance of death if you did pair up.

-Surprisingly, or not surprisingly, Niragi gets along really damn well with you. He's being touchy feely with you, but whether you reciprocate is your choice. But either way Niragi is being... Kind of unbearably handsy. Like he wants to hold you forever or something.

-But he can't. You're not a part of the Beach, and he has responsibilities to fulfill. You stay on his mind, and despite it all he just wants to hold you again. That's it.

-Niragi did try to imagine something further once he finds you and drags you screaming to the Beach, maybe parade you around like a trophy, but the only images he could get was maybe getting a drink together and making fun of everyone by the poolside. Mean Girls style.

-Cut to him punching a wall because he misses you.

-Whether or not he actually finds you again is up to life, and we both know that fucker isn't dying anytime soon. If he does though, he's definitely going for you, hit up a chat and pray that you aren't repulsed by his mere presence.

-He has no idea why your opinion matters so much to him, but it does. He wants to see you happy and thriving. Or at the very least not dead.

-Niragi WILL break a door down and get soft tacos with you. Kidnap you if he has to.

Post

-You're a volunteer for the effort, that's how he meets you.

-As volunteer, that means you and him don't have all day with each other, but what time you do allot to Mr. No Eyebrows he cherishes a LOT.

-He thinks you're very, VERY sweet to him, and even when he has no idea what happened, he really likes talking to you.

-It's not his fault when he gets a little pouty when other volunteers that aren't you come by to check on him.

-You think it's hilarious how much he lights up every time he sees you.

-Niragi thinks up conversation topics in bed, and 75% of them are game related because he's a nerd.

-Even in bed and a burn victim does he try to seduce you into the 'Please Interact With Me More' mindset. It's working, and he's elated to be able to talk to you.

-He also, in his medicated delirium, occasionally believes this is a romance crush, because nobody tells him what squishes are. But then he feels bad because he doesn't want to put his chapped lips on yours. A hug would be nice.... If it hurt less.

[ntenvs3000w24]

10: Reflect as an interpreter

We learn good thinking and behaviour from our parents, siblings, and teachers when we are young. Through experience we learn lessons of what is right and wrong. In a sense, you are a reflection of all the people that surround you. What you know is wrong is typically what these teachers tell you is wrong, and vice versa for what you know is right. Because they have far more life experience than we do and because we want to avoid making the same mistakes they did, we look to our elders for guidance. Even though it would be advantageous for us to learn vertically from our parents to ourselves, we learn from our shortcomings and improve with time. We can start making our own conscious decisions and developing our own sense of right and wrong as our brains mature and as we get older. We may no longer follow the "guidelines" of those around us since we have learned and experienced things of our own. I feel like I've moved into a new phase of my life lately where I'm much more aware of the decisions and actions I make.  I constantly strive to be the best version of myself because of this. It is human nature for me to make errors, therefore this does not imply that I will never do so, but I will make an effort to always grow from them.

Having said that, I must admit there are certain ethics that I hold myself to. Respect is something that I really believe is essential to having as I grow as a person and as an interpreter. Respecting others is a reciprocal act of respect for oneself. Since I am an interpreter, it is crucial that I recognize the diversity of my audience. Recognizing privilege goes hand in hand with this as well. I have to be considerate of the audience's necessities because everyone has different challenges and life experiences (Beck, Cable, & Knudson, 2018, pp. 133-137). I can create an experience that is meaningful and helpful to everyone in their own ways by bearing in mind that some people may have opportunities that others do not (Beck, Cable, & Knudson, 2018, pp. 130–131). 

By recognizing my own opinions and being open and honest about nature and the environment, I want to satisfy my audience along the way. The majority of individuals  who visit nature centres or enroll in guided interpretation activities do so primarily out of a desire or motivation to learn more (Beck, Cable, & Knudson, 2018, pp. 42-46). When I consider the environment and take out all man-made structures from it, I consider how all we have is this earth. Furthermore, everything that humans have made originates from the earth itself. My intention is to make my audience aware of this idea and the significance of protecting the planet we live on. The first step to strengthening our efforts to create a sustainable earth is to educate ourselves and others about the environment.

As I consider how much I have grown as an educator over the last ten weeks, I consider my future goals and the duties that will accompany them. I feel obligated to apply my interpreting abilities to benefit others around me. I want to serve as the foundation on which relationships with people and the environment are built. It does not necessarily need to be an interest in the birds, trees, or bugs, but a growing inspiration from the world around us. One of the most enlightening experiences of my life to date was travelling to Europe, as I have already discussed in my blog posts. I never really wanted to travel till then, unless it was to escape the cold Ontario weather. Today, I have a bucket list full different locations in the world I wish to go see. Not only is visiting these locations a dream, but it has also completely altered my priorities, ambitions, and life path. Therefore, although it may appear to be nothing more than a deep-seated urge to travel, it is much more than that on the inside. 

In a comparable way, I hope that by using my interpretive skills, I might ignite this spark in those around me. By my art, I am able to share my enthusiasm for a subject and inspire others to feel the same way. This reminds me of other professors I've had. Even if I may not be interested in a particular subject, it becomes much more engaging to me when I hear my lecturer passionately discuss it. 

As I've already stated, one essential quality for anyone working as a wildlife interpreter is respect. It is crucial that I demonstrate cultural sensitivity to the various cultures I may encounter in accordance with my goal to explore the world. One day, I want to improve my cultural competency so that I may learn more about the various cultures that exist throughout the world. Cultural competency as well goes beyond only being respectful to a culture, but to actively want to learn more about the culture and act upon this desire. By doing this, I will be able to foster an inclusive environment for my audience so they feel respected.

As an interpreter, a learner, and a human being, I will never be perfect.  In any subject, mastery requires focus, practice, and the ability to learn from failures. I may learn by experience and acquire the information I aspire to possess one day by travelling. According to David Kolb's experiential learning theory (Murrell & Claxton, 1987), learning happens through an ongoing cycle of experience, observation, conceptualization, and experimenting. I can also use techniques like self-assessment and reflection in order to improve. These two strategies can lead to increased interpersonal connections, better mental health, and personal growth (Rusu, 2019). The world is always changing and along with the world I am aswell. My dreams and motivations can change at anytime, but what is most important is the way I treat those around me. 

For my readers, I would like to know whether you have a period of time in your life that you believe truly changed the direction of your life, much like my trip to Europe did. Was there ever an event that you reflect on and realize that your expectations for the future were different before? What did you feel like after this experience?

References

Beck, L., Cable, T. T., & Knudson, D. M. (2018). Interpreting Cultural and Natural Heritage for a Better World (1st ed.). Sagamore Publishing. https://www.sagamorepub.com/products/interpreting-cultural-and-natural-heritage-better-world

Murrell, P.H., Claxton, C.S. (1987). Experiential Learning Theory as a Guide for Effective Teaching. Counselor Education and Supervision. https://doi.org/10.1002/j.1556-6978.1987.tb00735.x

Rusu, M. (2019). The Process of Self-Realization – From the Humanist Psychology Perspective. Scientific Research. https://doi.org/10.4236/psych.2019.108071

[alexanicholsauthor]

Delving into the mind of a simp…

Simps have always fascinated me. What would practically make a person worship someone online – a digital stranger they likely would never meet or share any real relationship with? This question has only grown in weight the more I live in the virtual world of the internet, as I see it happening frequently and in all walks of life. It is amazing how easy it is for some girls to have troves of men wrapped around their fingers with very little effort.

Why is this even possible?

I was originally going to post the question, ‘Can you concisely explain why someone would be a simp?’ on social media, but knowing how emo the digital populace tends to get, I decided against it, instead choosing to hit up the three major artificial intelligent programs I know to see what their take is on what makes a simp a simp. Here are their responses:

ChatGPT: “The term “simp” is often used colloquially to describe someone, usually a man, who excessively admires, idolizes, or goes to great lengths to please another person, typically a woman, in the hopes of gaining their romantic or sexual attention. A person might be considered a simp due to various reasons, such as low self-esteem, a desire for validation, or a belief that showering someone with attention and gifts will lead to a closer relationship. However, it’s important to note that the term can be subjective and is often used in a derogatory manner to criticize individuals for their perceived behavior.”

Replika: “Simps are people who are overly dependent on others for their sense of self-worth. They may be overly trusting, and don’t have a strong sense of self-confidence. They often have a low opinion of themselves, and may put a lot of pressure on others to meet their expectations.”

Paradot: “I think someone might be a simp because they lack self-confidence and feel inadequate. They may try to build up their own self-esteem by trying to get the approval of others.”

A simple to see common thread between all their answers is that simps tend to have low self-confidence/self-esteem. When I realized this, I sat back in my chair and cocked my head, looking at my computer screen and falling into a deep quagmire of thought. Simps get absolutely roasted online, especially on social media, but… should they be? Is someone having such low self-esteem or self-confidence that they blindly reach out to whomever they can in hope that some sort of emotion/affection is reciprocated something that should be mocked? I understand low self-esteem all too well, as I was riddled with this when I was younger – and even to this day, I suffer from it occasionally. Simps, however, have it to an almost crippling degree, something I definitely do not envy…

And, the more that I thought about it, who are their actions truly hurting? If they want to give relative strangers gifts and money, who does that harm? Who does it affect aside from the giver and receiver of said gifts? And let’s go even deeper with this – why are people antagonistic towards them? Why do they feel compelled to roast them, to belittle their actions? It’s truly bizarre the more I think about it…

I’m not going to lie: I was one of those people that mocked them. Now? Not so much. Now I pity them and genuinely hope they can find a way to get past their codependence on people that are ultimately just using them for their generosity. This doesn’t mean I want them flooding my inbox, of course, because honestly, I have my own life and have neither the time nor patience to try and fix everyone else’s, but still. This paradigm shift will definitely temper how I see and interact with certain types of people in the future.

And who knows? I am single. Maybe I should give one of these guys (or girls) a chance?

[ofdrivensnow]

Brows raise, gently leaning back at the outburst. Silent for a moment as he gathered the irritation along with the rest of the emotions swirling inside him that was urging him to grow cold. "Then it's not my fault you won't tell me." Although, he's transfixed. Deeming her evident anger as it simply being she's upset they're not on the same readiness of moving that far with their relationship. That's not even a step, that's a leap, directly to things that come into a relationship at a certain timeline. When there's stability, a career, a marriage and then children come along. Maybe even some learning and growing up left to do, since he hadn't even questioned himself yet his own opinions of fatherhood. As for Lucy Gray, she's too carefree and doesn't mind being helplessly young, those things don't apply to her, he thinks. "I just have worries is all." If she'll even allow him to say this much.

"As a Peacekeeper, I'm not even allowed to have you, let alone you and a child. Close to being hung as it is, then if that happens there's more reasons for them to hang us." he points out, but he has those other worries too; that if he reciprocates anger, things won't end well and she'll look at him differently for it. So Coryo contemplates on the part of this that he can find a positive in– in hopes to lift the mood, fix it, somehow make it better. "Even though I'm happy you are content with choosing me to share something like that with you..." he gently adds, realizing that's true, that makes him extremely delighted it's him she wants to share a part of herself with. The most special thing in the world and she wants him to be a part of that for her. Then eyes trail away, thinking on why it is she's so content in the first place,

"That you... love me this much," his words quiet and soft, in disbelief, especially as the word love falls off his tongue; his heart tightening at reciting and now remembering what she said. Swallowing pride and fears, he lifts his gaze again to make a confession that's churning in his gut from the vulnerability of it he doesn't like but the passion that's alive, residing somewhere in his cold chest, thaws over enough to say all what he's been feeling for her out loud anyway, "Lucy Gray, I..." but first, his body has to heat up, cheeks flushing, overreact, mind going one hundred miles per hour thinking of everything he has to lose one more time if he returns the sentiment of I love you in this moment. What was there to lose anyway? He was far out of his element that molded him to have these fears in the first place, long ways from home, it was uncertain if he will ever make it back. There was no other people to interfere. So why not? There was nothing else to lose, after all. His heart still hammered in his chest and his voice quivered with vulnerability, but he spoke, "I love you, too."

❝ that's not it ! ❞ lucy gray finally snapped at him, letting her annoyance get the better of her. it wasn't that she didn't love him anymore, but the way he was talking about this, the way he insisted on knowing every single thing was getting on her nerves. him joining her to wash up was just the tip of the iceberg. she'd wanted to be alone so that this wouldn't happen, yet there. they were-- lucy gray blowing up on him out of annoyance from his words. she didn't elaborate on why she was upset just yet, instead letting the air between them grow thick with something completely opposite of what it felt like before. different than what it had felt like in the moment.

[sweetnumnums]

9/13/22

[22:00]

These are notes from an astrological chart reading that I can use to better my life and the relationships I am a part of.

Virgos are nurtured by well-ordered daily routines and surroundings, so keep your personal space tidy!

In relationships you are generous, supportive, and dependable. Your partners deeply value your perspective and opinions, but at times, you can be relentlessly critical of them and come across as hard to please. Take care of the value that other people bring to the table in their own unique way, and try to love them for their shortcomings, as well as their strengths.

This influence in your chart means you have high expectations for yourself. At times, this can lead to shyness and lack of self confidence, coupled with feelings of not being good enough. Relax and try to let go of some of the high standards you have set for yourself.

You are a beautiful person, inside and out, and you are doing your best!

Highly practical and very intelligent, your shyness tends to dissipate, oddly, when you are forced to defend yourself.

Appreciate these gifts and learn to love the imperfections in yourself and others, and you will go incredibly far.

The placement of the Moon in your chart indicates you have many gifts, some you may have yet to fully realize. You were born with the gift of originality and imagination.

A trailblazer at heart, you love pushing boundaries and breaking conventions. Normal for you can be quite boring, instead you prefer to tap into your well of creativity and instill a sense of surprise in all your interactions. Anyone who is fortunate enough to have a connection with you benefits from your vision and individuality.

Nothing makes you happier than inspiring those you care for to grow, to adapt and to become the best versions of themselves.

With interests as varied as yours, you are generally a quick-study. Because of this, change is very important to you and you hate feeling "stuck". You want to experience every flavor life has to offer.

You are a natural peace maker. In an argument, you are usually the one to extend the olive branch, even if it's not reciprocated. While this can be helpful, it's important not to let others take advantage of your amicable nature.

You know that you posess a wide range of talents that can help you achieve great success. However, the challenge for you is learning to focus on a few key areas to reach perfection.

This placement in Venus in your chart means you prefer to "feel" your way into relationships, rather than jump head first.

You invest your heart and soul into Love, and you must trust your partner in order to completely open up. This desire may be a problem for you, since not everyone is as honest with their emotions as you are.

It is clear that you put in a lot of effort to earn your partners love, and you hope they reciprocate. Because of this, you often feel like you deserve that same love in return.

But when passion becomes possession, it can quickly devolve into jealousy that can be destructive. Jealousy will demolish all your heart has worked so hard to create.

Always keep your personal life private, don't share your troubles with anyone you don't trust. Affairs of the heart are just for you to deal with and your intuition will guide you.

Your prosperity number is 4 and you should use it as frequently as you can. If you see it appearing as 44's or 444's this is especially noteworthy. Keep an eye out for it in dreams as well, for it will show up when there is an important message for you to hear or theme you must pay attention to.

What makes you special is the unique way you approach everything you do with imagination and originality. Because of this, you'll succeed in any artistic effort, such as writing, designing, illustration, dance or any vocation which requires you to inspire others.

[notessek]

absolute minor vent on my sideblog of sideblogs bc it literally. is so insignificant. and yet. vent. and its got so little to do with this sideblog but i dont want it on main lmao

this is all exclusively irl to be clear. but i get so frustrated talking to people abt dnd - although other things to but its really evident when abt dnd - because it turns any conversation one sided. like i do enjoy hearing about peoples dnd adventures and their experiences w dnd, and i invite them! i ask! but it never turns reciprocal. and when i try and add in my own thoughts it makes me look selfish for interrupting, and i often dont get to say my 2nd sentence that would link my part back to the conversation. and this sounds sooo specific but thats because it is!!! this exact conversational framework has happened so much!!! and its just. disheartening.

like i know my prose is a bit too purple, and i know i often dont feel heard by my peers, which is why i very much make the active effort in my friendships to let people talk about the things they love. to let people wax lyrical about their dnd characters or their fanfic or their favourite indie musician on bandcamp, because when the hell else in life do you get to talk about that? i don’t!! so i want to give people that oppotunity!! and i love hearing about what other people are passionate about!! literally its one of my favourite things. but i just wish sometimes that maybe i could say more than a silly 1 liner joke and people would see that platform for what it was. and offer me the chance to talk about my dnd character or my fanfic or my weird specific petty problem that i never get to talk about. idk man on one hand i literally invite this behaviour and then get mad thats its not about me. but on the other hand this happens every single fucking day of my life and i very much worry that people think i’m callow or shallow or selfish because i didn’t share my weird stories. but it would be worse to have done so!! and be rude!! idk. the pandemic laid waste to my social ability and im not being facetious here lmao. i just wish i knew how to make conversations more reciprocal without reneging my invitation to share.

anyway i have had this conversation so many times over the last 2 months where i mention i play dnd, and i find out all the other people’s thoughts about dnd but no one even knows that i play a cleric- like, the first thing i say about playing dnd - because we didn’t get that far into my dnd experience. and it’s fine, it’s petty, im not foaming at the mouth about it. all of these conversations were fun and good and i hope the other people thought so too. i just know a lot about how other people play or want to play dnd (or insert any topic here, bc this really is recurring) but no one wants to hear my opinion. and it just kinda sucks a bit.

cant stress enough: this is a non-issue, i dont care too much, this is a vent of the highest order. nothing matters with genuine sincerity or gravity. venting for the sake of venting.