#i love your support

[hawks-flat-ass]

Its still weird to hear about my fics.

Not that it's not appreciated! I'm glad my writing did something for you. I write smut. Its bound to happen.

I'm just not used to it yet.

"cummed" "jerked it" "bricked up right now" and other beautiful things that your friends can say to you when u post something crazy

[magicians-abode]

We reached 100 followers!! 🎉✨️💖💪🏻

Ahh! I'm so happy and thankful for y'all! Your support means so much to this anxious/stressed nineteen year-old girlie! 💖

It might not be a lot but I'm glad people like what I write and decide to follow (and even ask me to write for them, knowing that it might take long due to my mental health)

Believe me when I say that it is so satisfying when I publish one of your requests after stressing so much because I didn't post it earlier.

I will continue to try my best and persevere! I am so happy this is a safe place for me (and hopefully for you too) and that I am allowed to do what I like without being pressured. I love y'all so much!! Stay safe and keep an eye out for all the new posts that are coming soon!! 💖💖💖🌸

[donatellokinnersinner]

BAMBOOZLED?!/pos

I DIDNT KNOW I WASNT FOLLOWING YOU UNTIL I TRIED TO TAG YOU AND IT DIDNT SHOW UP IMMEDIATELY.

I was like WAIT- and then had to go back and follow you cause like, you reblog a lot of my posts, it'd be pretty lame of me not to follow you.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

historical drama/sitcom where two gay best friends (woman and man) get lavender married--and proceed to spend the Fancy European Honeymoon their parents paid for acting as each other's wingman

[ionomycin]

my favorite pieces from 2024

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[iceycloversart]

when will the dan and phil it takes two playthru return…

little concept sketch i did:

[stil-lindigo]

warmth.

a comic about not being alone.

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Collab animation by Awi (awisha_doodles on insta!) and myself bc we both love this game 🥺🎉🎉🎉🎊🎊🎊

Happy (belated😭💥) 1 year anniversary Star Rail!! 🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉

Himeko, Stelle, and March + Illustration done by Awi :)

Dan Heng, Caelus, Welt, and FX + Compositing by me 😄

[jkvjimin]

KIM NAMJOON ↳ YTC IN BUSAN | for @raplinenthusiasts 💜

[cr. @jung-koook]

[hansoeii]

It's the end of an era!! I've upgraded my icon!! I understand if we all need a second to grieve...

[zomb13queen]

[magicians-abode]

I was so excited when I saw Red Son in your request list until I realized it was closed lol. When will you be opening them?

Love your writing btw I've been following you for a few years, keep it up!! 💕

Hi there lovely! I'm so sorry about that, unfortunately I don't have a date set for when my requests will be open again. I struggle with anxiety a lot and sometimes the idea of not meeting the expectations (or invisible, imaginary deadlines) for posting their requests stresses me really bad. So I'm taking a break from it for an undetermined amount of time.

However, I am glad to know you've been a follower of mine for years. I value each and every one of you! Your support is always appreciated a lot, more than you may imagine even! Thanks for being here, to you and all the others. I'm glad I have such sweet followers who understand and like what I write.

Remember to take good care of yourselves! And don't hesitate to send little asks so we can interact ^-^ 💖✨️

[vaguely-concerned]

are. are you telling me that if the romanced mage warden dies and alistair is king, he deadass stares greagoir down over her dead body and grants the circle of ferelden its autonomy after ordering it rebuilt somewhere safer. first you have to deliberately leave him behind so he won't die for you and then he does that for you once you're gone, even when you're broken up??? absolute and literal king behaviour of the highest order????? the actions speak louder than words of it all??????? I think I hauve covid

[bababaka]

Yall need to interact with fanfiction author's more.

So. After the ddos attack on ao3.

I was encouraged to write more comments and make my love known to fanfic writers.

I dont really like commenting. Because im a bit shy and soooo lazy.

Now though. I am writing more comments. And dude. This is so heartwarming. Ya'll need to treat writers better. They are doing the lord's work.

Take for an example, couple of days prior, i was searching for something interesting to read, and found an oneshot quite compelling.

I read it. At the end of it, i was blown away by how good it was. It promised me something and it went beyond my expectations. But then i saw a crime, zero fucking comments!

At that moment, i wasn't feeling up to writing a comment. Because, normally i like to write huge paragraphs. But because im lazy i decided to be brief.

Next day, the author answered that the comment lift their mood for the whole day.

That warmed my heart.

Duuuuuuuude! Write comments! Suport the writers of the fics you like! No need to be something super elaborate. Just give your thoughts. Freak out. Ramble. Ask something. Make theories. Compliment. Make a joke about how you wished to give kudos every chapter but ao3 sucks(not true bby) and won't let you.

Truly. Just. Comment. It can make someone's day. And that is part of the apeal of writing fics. Interacting with people.

Just give love to fanfic writers yall. They deserve this and so much more.

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happy birthday @mybodyfails 🩷