#i know i am called to marriage
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#Why do guys who you only go on two casual dates get so invested?#we barely know eachother!#I do not owe you anything#the whole point is for us to figure out if we like eachother enough to then move onto the stage of figuring out if we are to be married#i don’t think i’m picky#but i have high standards on what a husband/father should be#and i am able to tell pretty quick if someone meets the 4 criteria i have for a boyfriend/husband#(a man after God’s own heart; attractive in personality/body to me; makes me want to be a better person; gets along with my family)#and i have found lots of guys who meet the criteria but sometimes it doesn’t work out#Pushy guys are not attractive when we barely know eachother#maybe it is because i am no attracted to him and do not want things to progress that makes the eagerness unattractive#but i have always thought it was weird and offputting#i know i am called to marriage#But i have a family/career/church community/hobbies that i am dedicated to#i can follow Christ and be a saint on my own#so anyone who i date/marry needs to be a man who can make me even a better saint and bring the best for family/career/parish#anyways i need to figure out how to let this gentleman down gently because he is very nice
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a little family
#buddy daddies#my art#doodles#sometimes a family is an two misfit assassins and the daughter of the guy you offed and thats a okay#but lets not talk about that#we love healing in this house and how do you heal if not after suffering#reis journey through depression and kazukis journey through grief#what 1 little girl does to a man#its 5 am all i can offer are doodles but i love them very much#i know we do reasonably get to call them cowards for not making it gay (esp at the end bc come on)#but i do love whatever relationship they have going becuase theyre just. Thats marriage babe....#theyre not going to be doing any dating with that committment that is the most domestic ass setting ive ever seen#everyone and their mother assumes theyre married/dating and doesnt even question it because theres NO QUESTION T O ASK#only the people involved apparently dont know theyre married#ok nvm they were cowards for not making it gay. but again. theyre clearly married your honor. theyre just a little stupid
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"Love is blind" has nothing to do with looks. It means that when you love someone, you miss their red flags, their shitty behaviour. You're not looking for their betrayal so you don't see it until it's too late.
#rawr personal#i am fine#i'm supporting a friend through a divorce rn#he was cheating on her for eight years#while she was preggo with his second and third child#they fucked in her bed#the rancid little coward won't be there when he knows i'm on the way#he will bully her over the phone#accusing her of walking away from their marriage#call her stupid and say she must have known#there is so much more#he is a manipulative narcissist#and the only reason i haven't beaten 7 shades of shit out of him is for her and the kids#oh and my partner would be fumin#don't EVER marry kids#men who cheat on or beat the mother of their children should be surgically castrated
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Oh my god it all happened exactly like I said it would ToT and Peter was so mean! "I know why you did it-" "--To help my friend!" "--and because you're a criminal, and I was an idiot for expecting more" PETER. Like I get it he's got a skeleton in his closet now and that's a fucked up thing to do to someone, but the boy HAD. NO. CHOICE. And also Peter! Peter Burke!! ASAC PETER BURKE?? You've done illegal shit before! What about the Burke 7 or whatever number? What about telling Neal to flee the Marshals when it was illegal because 'He didn't deserve it'? You were right!!! You already know that the law is not always what is just, and the just thing is the right thing, you just cannot apply it to yourself right now! PETER. PETER
God El is fighting for Neal's life right now. Our woman in the trenches carrying his broken body through the gunfire trying to save that relationship. She's so right and bless.
Jones is NOT helping and it would be fine if Dianna was there to balance him out but she just had a BABY and is on maternity leave and it's a perfect storm of hell TuT
And now Hagen has Neal's stupid girlfriend who it's been so so clear is evil since her first scene but he's too fool to see he's getting played and she's been 'kidnapped' by (read: working with) Hagen and Neal won't go to Peter bc Peter basically told him to go die, and everyone but Mozzie and El is making terrible decisions every 3 seconds and
#white collar#this is making my life significantly worse rip#PETER get your shit together I am about to smack you clear to Wisconsin!!! Neal gave up everything for you and you can't even thank him!!!#You can't even tell him you understand or you care about him despite it. I'm going to wring your neck#Elizabeth out here fighting out here carrying the last flickering embers of hope on her back#loved Peter going 'I can't believe he did this' and her going 'I told him to do whatever it took this is my fault' and Peter going 'no no h#broke the law not you' and her going 'and you know what? I'm GLAD he did it!! He was right!!! You were innocent and the system failed you!'#My queen....#Loved the episode where there's Peter's ex cozying up to him and El is like 'is she trying to steal my man?' so she calls in Neal to help h#r stalk them like they are his wife and his consort fr the third member of that marriage and right now they're the only functional part ofi
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"As excited as I am to have everyone see Kathy Bates deliver another incredible performance, I'm excited for people to be introduced- who don't already know how incredible Skye is." (x)
"I am having the time of my life and Jason Ritter keeps me laughing more than any human being on the planet." (x)
#matlock cbs#matlock reboot#jason ritter#skye p. marshall#listen i rarely watch tv and i HATE that the shows i make gifs of are cbs and prime(FUCK them for supporting genocide)#i just love jason skye david and leah in their employed eras#i want them to have multiple seasons and steady jobs#also i love julian and olympia's chemistry and anyone who know me knows i like exes who may or may not still have feelings for each other#i like that they are TRYING to stay civil and friendly and it seems like there is still love there(i see those smiles and stares)#sorry to elijah(he's pretty) but i prefer this trope to secret office romance(but also they were close friends!!!)#i think julian is covering up for his dad and that's why there's been such tension in his in olympia's marriage but idk#also the fact that jason is not credited in the last episode makes me anxious about something happening to him#maybe i'm wrong and julian was the one who unalived the daughter?(i kind of have a jason ritter bias and am HOPING he's not bad)#i love how in sync jason and skye are and how they seem to share similar humor?#conversely julian and elijah also seem in sync and have chemistry#they should just be a throuple /j#whether this is purely a friendship or ends up being a rekindled romance i'm here for it#wait this show has more than 12 episodes? maybe i'm not worried about him after all#i wanted jason and skye to share scenes as soon as i heard they were cast and to have them be somewhat friendly exes is such a gift to me#there was another interview where skye called jason her emotional support human#also love how happy he is for her whenever she says that this is her cinderella moment#the fact that he seems (jokingly)disappointed that julian fumbled olympia is so funny to me#''fumbled that somehow...''#''YOU LET HER GOT AWAY???'' ''i KNOW! i don't know how...''
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You know I see these posts about how maturity should be the standard and i start to agree untill i realize just how many fucking conversations ive had about maturity not even being a real thing??
Like people will believe what they will but i have times even niw as a fully grown adult that i recognize i am absolutely not fucking mature at all. And i stop myself then and ask what the hell maturity is, and every time i look it up because i want a source that isnt just my brain, i get a completely different answer. It really depends if you get it from merriam webster or this one guy on quora. One maybe be far more credible, but its not just one guy on quora. Ots a whole lot of people saying very different things to the actual definition of what mature is. This indicates that either education globally is fucking awful (which may not be wrong tbf) or that possibly what we understand to be matuity is a complex and nuanced thing that is unmeasurable and is probably sonething else actually
Like i dont know what fucking metric you want to use for "if this person consents to having medical bills" or whatever but if it isnt age then maybe something more concrete and physically measurable than maturity? Or maybe if we *cannot* have sonething concrete and measurable because that thing doesnt exist somehow, then perhaps we can say "to each their own" and just go with what the person fucking says they want?
I dont know about yall but i feel like im saying and not saying so much here. But like. Maybe let people make their own choices. Their own mistakes. And help them so that those mistakes are reversible. Other than that i dont feel like i should get a say in what someone else does. Just. End of story.
#important bit that doesnt fit in with the post structure:#do whatever you want forever#so long as it doesnt affect anyone else AND IF IT DOES#then idk maybe you two should talk it out and come to a fucking agreement on something#the thing that adults do. talk about shit.#if what you mean by Mature is that you can understand complex topics and navigate scenarios with fundamentally different people#to resolve conflicts then MAYBE you can call that maturity as that is easily learnable and testable#but when it comes to implementing that systemically oh boy i know thats gping to be a problem with most people on earth#like i dont know man if i can negotiate compromises at fucking 10 with my parents and trying to fix their marriage maybe i am Mature#or maybe i have several mental illnesses#those things can be separate and exist at the same time yes but idk if the systems we have today are SO convoluted maybe just#build better systems? so that whatever definition of maturity put in practice can handle them?#and i know thats asking to fix the world but like#maybe we should. maybe we can come together and build our own systems that make fucking sense actually#any other ideas beyond age or maturity im welcome to hear it. but if there is going to be policing let it be on something that is physical#and factual. otherwise let there be no fucking policing. is my point.#the law does not protect the citizens the fact that we must conform to society fucking proves that. the citizens are Too Weird
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The creepy thing about instagram and God is that I would think of an idea, just inside my mind, and then later I would see a reel telling me why it's a bad idea.
#the bad idea is deciding to go back to the dating scene before entering the convent#to see if this path is really for me and if I fall inlove a little then I would call my decision off#and then suddenly#this reel is showing me dystopian reality of dating apps#then another reel about filling your endless void of grief with an ingenuine interaction with another being#and another reel about finding real happiness by spiritual journeys and simple joys in life#and another reel about the scams of marriage#and that lesbians my age are messy in relationship arena#and so I went out of my phone to see the news only to remind me of cemeteries#that I should be visiting my dead girlfriend soon who has only been 9 months dead#as I bury her memory as I forget about her#because I could not afford to cry in the middle of the day#and the only place that allowed me to mourn freely everyday was the convent#in a month of staying there I was healing and I am knowing myself and god#and I am getting visions etc lol anyway#I was reminded that I will destroy my soul if I decide to date again to forget#and I thank God for being clear with me#because God knows I'm dumb so the message gotta be clear#I miss you my love#bakit ako bakit ikaw bakit tayo
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I hope the Zuko movie opens with Mai and Zuko getting married, but you can just tell something is wrong. They’re smiling and greeting guests but there’s this distance between them. Cut to Mai, and she’s thinking about right before the wedding and Ty Lee is helping her get into her wedding clothes.
And Ty Lee’s like “I bet married life’s going to look great on you.” Mai just gives her a look, initially it seems cold, impassive, but then she frowns and Ty Lee giggles and says “You make a beautiful bride.” Mai’s brows furrow and all that, “You don’t have to lie.” Ty Lee; “I’m not lying, you’re beautiful, always were”. And then they lean closer and closer, eyes hooded and right when you think their lips are about to brush the door of the dressing room opens and Mai’s mom comes in and she fixes up Mai’s clothes and checks on everything. She’s like “Don’t mess this up.” Mai says “I won’t, obviously, what’s there to mess up?” AND SHE’S LOOKING RIGHT AT TY LEE.
The wedding’s done, but the Fire Lady is in love with a Kyoshi Warrior who is her personal guard and the entire thing is about them realizing no fuck this we’re done(Zuko knows okay he knows, or he eventually finds out but his ain’t about him).
(eventual divorce, mailee elope, Zuko’s like ‘I should’ve seen this coming’. Gaang, everyone in the FN court and Azula who saw this coming miles away: ‘I’m not gonna say anything’)
#mailee#mai x ty lee#I am a SUCKER for when women think they're trapped in the patriarchal fate thrust upon them but they escape through sapphic love#'Marriage?' yeah that's not enough to stop LOVE#I hope y'all know I am making a MOVIE PRODUCTION out of this in my head#I am imagining Mai in the final scene getting rid of her crown the jewels the everything- scattered everywhere#and she opens her extremely organised and precise weapons drawer and adorns the knives with care#and Ty Lee is waiting at the door in her pink clothes like 'ready to go?' and mai says yeah and leaves a letter behind and they RUN#across a hilly flower field and to the docks#and the palace is in uproar over where the fuck the Fire Lady is#but Zuko's like 'nah call off the search' and he's watching the docks#then we see mai and ty lee at the deck watching the ocean with the sunset and they're standing super close#like a parallel to the opening#and THE END
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If ur generally perceived as a woman I can't recommend looking a bit strange and off putting and maybe a lil ugly highly enough. 'you don't get harassed every time you leave the house??' no I'm fat have Milo thatch glasses and generally give off the vibe of caring too much about isopods. People either actively avoid me or think I'm the coolest bitch in this grocery store. Middle aged and older women fucking ADORE me they'll watch me manically solve a puzzle and call me an inspiration. Of course I'm not getting catcalled
#OBVIOUSLY I AM NOT!!! SAYING THAT PEOPLE'S CHOICES MEAN THAT THEY SHOULD GET CAT CALLED AND HARASSED!!#NOBODY SHOULD BE CATCALLED AND HARASSED!!!#TEACH PEOPLE NOT TO LOOK MORE ACCEPTABLE BUT TO NOT FUCKING HARASS OTHERS!!#i am however saying that generally speaking being slightly strange and off putting and ugly makes ur day to day business easier#I'll never get three marriage proposals in one day and thats so nice#on one hand basically nobody hits on me :( on the other hand nobody hits on me :)!!!#u know?
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im so unwell im wearing the ring my friend got me. for emotional support. like a corny movie protagonist with his dead wife.
#mypost#i was still best friend-married my long time wife and actually realizing the joke marriages werent good for me to do anymore#but SHE got us matching rings. said its about time we get engaged since i wasnt taking the initiative#why do i always inevitably have marriage jokes with all my friends. vague one time jokes to full on repeating bits.#like why is it unstoppable. dont call me husband!! ill be tied to you with responsibility forever!#i consciously avoided it! but she made us engaged#am i in the wrong. am i too possessive. am i coveting my friends too strongly. its okay i know how to let go if i have to#why does friendship feel like im trying to unhinge my jaw and swallow them whole#gauging their reactions. to see how far along i can go.#and its never enough.#<- doesnt have family and thinks of friends as the only thing ill ever have
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heyo dirtbrain I got two for you for that ship ask game. first is wangxian. second is zhongli & childe bc i know nothing abt genshin impact and also bc the opinions i do have kind of relate to both of these asks which is fun
hello kiri Really tickled by your second selection here. I will try to be brief, (1/137)
literally every single time I think about mdzs I have this constant incessant need to say out loud I DO LIKE WANGXIAN. to my ghost audience. because I really really do. but I’m not Compelled. there are things that compel me and wangxian’s not doing much of any of it. it’s all there already….. which is . where’s the fun in that for me…….. granted though I still haven’t read the properly localized novels yet. started reading the first one the other day but it’s at the bottom of the priority list I guess you could add this one. because there are other more pressing issues at hand. I guess it’s. I’m a terrible marriage (complicated definition) fan and wangxian are so Regular marriage. good for them! but come on guys…..
Also colored in large part probably by the way mdzs fandom was in like 2019/20 and the shredding of lan zhan’s character . different rabbithole different day I hope it’s gotten better in the time I’ve been away . I do still miss my friend wei wuxian though They could never make me hate you king…….
zhongli childe genshin impact though Ha ha. ohhh man.

boring people yaoi is the worlds most egregious crime to me and I’m NOT kidding. I think I’ve mentioned to you kiri my extensive personal genshin mindpalace. and these two are both in there as two of four major players. probably also mentioned the debaucherous tilt this entire mindpalace has happening.
the point I’m not getting at here but am steering towards anyway is that childe knows that zhongli has the power to crush him and the earth he stands on with a lifted pinky and is so into it because he’s a violence freak. and so he’s constantly trying to push zhongli’s buttons, trying to see if he can move the mountain if he just shoves hard enough, shoves in the right way, at the right time. not that there’s not also like. resentment. some complicated feelings bubbling. I wouldn’t care at all if there wasn’t. mindpalace wouldn’t exist if there wasn’t. another rabbithole for another day.
anyway zhongli feels far too old for this. consciously. he feels too old for this consciously I don’t think the boring yaoi people are wrong on principle when they put that old man in Situations. I do so myself. they’re just wrong because they’re not putting enough struggle into it. because I think that zhongli knows what childe’s after and is determined not to give him anything. and yet simultaneously will see him in the right lighting or covered in gore and think I want to eat him. no quicker way to feel your age. he was a martial god, you know. it’s not that he’s averse to violence or the eroticism of it on principle you can’t be a martial god who is Normal about violence. but if you see this twenty-something human being who is trying to rile you up, trying to get you where he wants you, and you let him… you have to be a much kinder, more feeble minded man than zhongli. work harder, gongzi. try harder.
he’s also just not immune to it is the thing. pride be damned the actual thing stopping him is probably the ‘feeling like a cradle robber’ thing
all that said on this topic I’m citing one of my favorite tweets ever

#the bookmark is me#you know who REALLY suffers from the fucking grumpy one/sunshine one curse. wangxian. BIG TIME.#anyway first thing is If you ever wanna know how depraved the mind behind blog dirtbra1n is then ask about the genshin mindpalace#i honestly probably won’t answer. i have my fun though#second thing is If you’re reading this about what terrible marriage is you can ask and immediately trigger epic-length unskippable dialogue#from a dirtbrain whose passion on the topic is something like three and a half years or so years old#i Am going to finish that fic someday. god willing or whatever#askbox#thank you kiri for asking. if i cared less about my public image i could probably keep going on the zhongli childe thing#still don’t call ‘childe’ that though. doesn’t matter i’ll go back to writing or something
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wait oh my god massive brain. prince solar and eclipse are so fucking queerplatonic i am a FOOL
#certified wally post#solar is aro but his friendship with eclipse doesnt really feel the same as with. for example. sun#''friends'' doesnt really fully encapsulate what they have going on#but romance doesnt fit either and both are actively repulsed by the idea of dating each other#queerplatonic relationships are relationships that dont fit neatly into those two categories. its like the nonbinary of relationship types#what it means to a queerplatonic couple is defined by them. its different for everyone#with these two. they call each other friends and theyre not into things like kissing or most other typically romantic intimacies#but theyll share a bed for a night or theyll snuggle up together or they dont mind the idea of marriage one day. but not romantic marriage#they like the idea of calling each other cute lil pet names when they know theres no romantic connotations. its freeing to them#may elaborate further if this is accepted as a concept. as someone in a queerplatonic relationship i am BRAINING about this
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she really is the bravest soldier bc i don’t know how someone could a. release something so vulnerable and then b. go sing in front of thousands that same evening
#oh this is about#taylor swift#to any non swifties on board#it's such a double edged sword bc at the same time it must feel so great to perform to a crowd of ppl who love you#so in a way its maybe great that this is all getting out there during tour where she has that outlet#but as much as i know once an artist releases a song it becomes kind of more about what ppl associate it with in their lives#instead of directly connected to them and the mindset/intention they wrote it#but it still feels like it has to be hard to separate the 2 on some level right? like esp when a breakup is fresh?#so u get the weird feeling about performing love songs about a dying/dead relationship#although luckily the setlist doesnt have any of the really deep Joe songs other than lover#but i think bc of its fame that one really probably has become more about other ppl than herself#anyways i am rambling to the max#also not to make someone elses breakup into social commentary but there is so much to be said for this general phenomenon#of men stringing women along in long-term serious but ultimately non-committal relationships#like obv situations change so im not saying that he like. intentionally did this from day 1 bc hes evil or something#but ive just seen it happen alot and its sad#im sure it kind of just slowly became that. but it feels like they probably both could have called it quits way sooner#new motto for women (who are interested in marriage) should be: he better lock it down or i won't stick around#and then actually do it
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i remember reading chapter 112 and my delusional ass wished SO HARD for Maka to give Crona the ring that Spirit gave her before she went to fight on the moon. As a keepsake... Something physical to remember her by. You know?
#luckily for me i am an artist. so i can very much make this happen. i just need the time#murk talk#i feel like the ring would've should've been called back to after Spirit made a point talk about it and give it to Maka#and what better way to breathe new meaning and love into a wedding ring from a failed marriage.... you know....
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making mass effect OCs that are such fail loser idiots i love them
#the theme of this little gang i am creating is:#‘failed to live up to everyone’s expectations of them and never made anything of themselves#and they never would have even crossed paths with each other if not for the giant fucking war going on.’#currently we’ve got ‘very very Very old asari who hasn’t spoken to her daughter in years because of a personal disagreement#and came to the citadel to meet her and try to make up for it. only for the Giant Fucking Reaper War to start and her daughter to get calle#into military duty back to Thessia where her mom just left from. barely missing each other. they are never going to see each other again.’#and of course ‘salarian partner of the Very Old Asari’s daughter and source of their dispute because she never approved the marriage.#(doesn’t want to see her daughter go through the same heartbreak she did losing so many short-lived lovers.)#they work at an archive of salarian poetry btw. they aren’t the boss they just work there. as you can imagine poetry isn’t very appreciated#during a Giant Fucking War. or even before the war by most people. they also sold insurance at one point. they’re terrified of dying.#they are scared of being forgotten. none of the poems they write are even that good. they love the artform but they can’t do it well. very#insecure that the reason they chose an asari partner was just so SOMEONE would remember them. as you can imagine. they’re very stressed.’#and also ‘quarian on her pilgrimage who couldn’t get a ship back to the fleet before it went to retake Rannoch. catching bare newsclips of#the fleet always looking for her dads’ liveship so that she knows they’re alive. she’s a botanist. she couldn’t even help if she was there.#but the fact that she’s not. the fact that she kept delaying going home because she had to find The Next Big Discovery on her pilgrimage.#it haunts her. if the fleet goes down taking back Rannoch. what if she’s all that’s left. she wouldn’t be enough. she knows she wouldn’t.’#and two more I’m working on. probably based off that one-off dialogue in the refugee camps between the teenager and the turian. I like them#caterposter
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