#i have s/o credentials

[gojowh0rcs]

I was JUST thinking about househusband Gojo and then that came out of my queue. Im a little busy for most of today but just know I am thinking of headcanons

[edwardslostalchemy]

There's a position I saw in a job listing that has me annoyed because they want a registered dietitian with a license, a master's degree, all the letters, yet the position is "nutritionist". Is that a joke or are they being serious? Like I hate to be a snob, but there is a difference between registered dietitian and a nutritionist. We can be called registered dietitian nutritionist. That is one of the credentials and it's interchangeable with registered dietitian. But nutritionist by itself is not the same. An RDN/RD has a bachelor's degree in human nutrition, they may have a master's degree, and starting next year, it will be required, and they go through a dietetic internship or a program equivalent in order to sit for the registration exam. We can also prescribe meal plans. A nutritionist doesn't do all of that. They can have a bachelor's degree, but without the credentials and license, they are not an RDN. A nutritionist cannot call themselves an RDN. RDNs are nutritionists, but the credential/title is registered dietitian nutritionist. Like it just makes me mad. You're asking for all these things that RDNs have, but you're not calling the position Registered dietitian nutritionist? Jerk.

[streetslost]

i forgot i have a draft here on cat like 80% answered but then i got stuck with the fact cat doesn't want to say anything so it's literally just the "awkward silence" sort of reply so gotta change that up ajkldfs;ja

[crushedsweets]

may we get some like random hc? i just like hearing them.

ok im so bored and have no ideas but i will talk and see what emerges. ok actually now that im done i wrote a lot LMFAO

natalie's hair was always really fucked up growing up. tangled, dirty, matted, etc - generally neglected. eventually her dad just gave her a shitty ass bob so they wouldnt have to deal with it anymore, which grew into a shag that she wore throughout highschool. after highschool, she never cuts her hair. she doesn't take GREAT care of it, but she keeps it brushed - never wants to deal with matted hair again

natalie also kept the literal clock in her eye until she was about 22. she wore a medical eyepatch when at work and made up some health excuse, but she EVENTUALLY got an actual prosthetic eye when she was around 25. . . and it is in fact clock designed. but its more comfortable and less risk of infection

after the whole nina leaving jeff fiasco, jane realizes how much her job (private investigator) has been impacting her health. she begins getting teaching credentials to be a college professor. mary, her wife, teaches elementary school. they compliment each other nicely

jane also began dipping into some gothic looks after meeting nina. at first, it was because she was playing undercover (paid by Liu) to figure out what Nina's deal with jeff was - so she knew nina was in alternative crowds, and tried to dress the part. then she started to get into the silhouettes and lace and jewelry and whatnot. but she still is usually just in classic, simple dresses and jewelry

natalie, toby, and nina all smoke weed. natalie is the worst of them. kate gets super paranoid when she's high, and jack just doesn't like it. all of them drink though, usually when they hang out at the proxy cabin, toby will open a 6 pack and they'll chat or something.

nina would cut a very shallow smile into her cheeks basically every week from ages 17-22. it was just the first layer of skin and would bubble up some blood, but it was never that severe. the skin on someones face heals really well, BUT nina did it so often, it's permanently scarred. she uses makeup to cover it

nina gets a motorcycle after she leaves jeff!!!! it's her easiest way of getting to and from her friends in the woods, and she thinks she looks super badass. she's got it wrapped in pink and has a pink helmet and everything. clocky n kate have been her backpack a few times. toby refuses to try, and jacks too big.

BEN, Jack, and Jeff all frequent the dark web.

since I know it doesn't make sense for all of them to even have wifi in the woods, I THIIINK i'm just gonna chalk it up to BEN's presence. he is a wifi tower. or something like that. when he's off and away(which is rare), they all lose signal and r pissy about it.

nina goes to raves. frequently.

when kate is finally getting pushed to get away from slendy (since O/S are both getting weaker and starting to fall back into hibernation), she gets a job at a morgue. night shift, quiet, private, used to everything, etcccc etc etc

[headingalaxys-spicy]

hey there! i really loved your interpretation about japan and germany stalking a celebrity s/o! maybe you could do the 2p!allies next + 1p!romano and spain (just bc i love them sm lol)? thank you for taking the time to read this :3

finally I wrote this one. Also I’m sure you need a heavy dose of escapism.

2p England

Olivers makes nice with the Hollywood elites, directors, and producers. Oliver lures them in with his accent and gentlemanly charm. (Plus, Americans really fawn over a cockney accent) He’ll glean information about what things are like for you on set, whether is there a co-star you don’t like / butt heads with/ find creepy, etc, so that he has more ammo to use on you later. 

The dude definitely has a pristine shrine of yours decorated in pinks and blues, complete with enchantment candles, crystals, and incantations all designed to get you to notice him and think of him. Nothing has seemed to work yet, but you did like a few of his posts on Instagram and Twitter.  

Of course, he has sent you cupcakes and other goodies from his bakery to try, and since he runs a legitimate business, you don’t hesitate to eat. (It’s too cute not to eat since he had a decent level of popularity himself.) But don’t count on it always being poison/drug-free. The first few batches are to gain your trust.  

Once he’s gathered enough info, he has a full setup plan to nab you and keep MI6  off his trial and suspicion away from him. He’ll send you one last batch of assorted sweets that know you, your security, & entourage out. Oliver takes care of your video cameras with his magic & leaves no trace. No one will be able to find you. 

2p France 

He attends most of your shows with a VIP pass, where he’ll always want to shake your hand. François will give you his number every other time he sees you backstage in the hopes that you’ll shoot him a text. Every time you see him though he does make your neck hairs stand on high. 

He keeps a picture of you that he expertly took like a paparazzi cameraman in his wallet. He keeps a faint hope that maybe one day you’ll see him more than some adoring fan. 

François does have enough influence to have one of the interns who worked under you steal some of the lingerie or costume(s) you used in one of your shows. 

Follows all of your Twitter and Instagram posts so he can get a good dopamine hit. He will print out your saucy ones & pin them too his walls. 

2p China

Dude definitely has hacked your home security cameras so he has a decent idea of your habits and routines. 

Has spent time making a collage in his office made from magazine clippings, newspaper articles, things he’s found on Weibo, South China Morning Post, etc there isn’t a piece of news or update he’s missed form you. 

Zao is charming and knows how to rizz you up, and he managed to get you to go on a date with him. Being a drug lord who controls most of the Chinese trade and is a powerful political figure, it’s easy for him to take you somewhere exclusive and elusive for a date. Zao will sweet-talk you and shower you with expensive gifts. However, during the date, he’s careful not to give away how much he actually knows about you. He has to downplay that to keep you at ease. If you reject him and don’t want to have a committed relationship with him he won’t outwardly show his rage…at first. 

Zao and his crew will collect you when you’re at some glitzy party. Your critical thinking skills will be marred too much by booze and drugs, especially the ones that make it’s way into one of your drinks. 

2p Russia 

Viktor will keep a journal and give critiques on how you could improve your performances. He never misses a single broadcast, livestream, or when you’re featured in another person's song or in one of those daytime talk shows he usually abhors but you being a topic makes it interesting. 

When you walk the red carpet he’s stolen some member of the press credentials so he now has an advantage to get perfect shots of you, that he’ll later add to his scrapbook collection. 

Viktor will even indulge in reading x reader fanfictions he’ll find across the internet. Viktor is a lurker he won’t comment, subscribe, or interact with posts nada. He’ll observe and print his favorite ones he keeps in a file for his enjoyment when he has a shitty day. He does rank his favorites in which would be the most realistic senarios. 

He will dabble in poetry and pull some strings to ensure you see his masterpieces while you’re in your dressing room, along with a few gifts he’s left behind. 

2p America 

Allen is one of your more rowdy fans when he attends your live performances. Allen puts his all into it when he cheers for you. It feels like he’s reached a new level of euphoria when he sees you on stage hitting extremely high notes. 

Allen of course attends all of your concerts with backstage VIP passes. He will be extremely touchy with you. He doesn’t do anything that would get him kicked out but he feels up your upper arms, waist, and of course will want a hug from you. 

Allen will ask you to autograph his bicep. Later on he will get it tattooed on himself. 

He’ll clean himself up extremely nicely & chat you up at every club, event, & appearance you’re at. The mantra that he lives by: ‘Someday you’ll love me doll & I’ll have you for myself.’ 

2p Canada 

Mathieû had been following your career since it’s infancy. He attended all of your small events as they gradually grew. He was always in the background, recording, taking pictures, and notating your behavior. 

On occasion, Mathieû successfully followed you home & surveyed your entire house. He beats off other stalkers because that job only has one position for him. 

He knows your favorite cafes you like to frequent & once a month he will buy you your favorite drink and simply leave his signature with his cellphone number attached. 

You once left your jacket at a nightclub and yeah you’re not getting that back. Mathieû will relish in your natural scent & trademark perfume. He lets Kuma have a whiff so he can hunt you down when the right time has come. 

1p Romano 

Lovino's house is filled to the brim with all of your merch from concerts and brands that have endorsed you. 

Attends all of your concerts, appearances, & small VIP events. Nation’s meetings be damned! Seeing you again in show was far more important than attending those. 

Lovino does try to be discreet and smooth when stalking you when you’re out in public to get photos or to simply admire you, only to be apprehended by security. 

Bro has a Twitter stanning you and burning any fucker alive that criticizes you. 

Lovino has to fall back and stalk all of your socials. Writing & reading fanfics daydreaming about the days you’ll notice him. 

1p Spain

Only your music & flamenco plays in his house. 

Antonio's obviously happy face will be one you always see in the front row at your shows. He’s got a little bit of a tug on your heart with that charming and disarming smile of his. 

He’ll come armed with roses & a waterproof tracker hidden well within them. He will track you back to your house and strike when you’re away so he can claim your undergarments as his trophies. He will leave a singular red rose on your dresser with a card written in Spanish. It reads 

“Te adoro. 

Estoy enamorada de ti. 

Cásate conmigo y hazme el hombre más afortunado del mundo.” 

I adore you. 

I’m in love with you. 

  Marry me & make me the luckiest man in the world. 

[polarisbibliotheque]

About the time a guy was being creepy to me on a professional setting and my gut feeling told me "GET OUT NOW"

Ok, so hi! This post has to do with a reblog recently here in my blog, on one of my fics regarding Dante and Vergil with an s/o suffering from being hit on without their consent. I write Devil May Cry fanfiction and that was my way of coping with a CREEP being, well, a creep.

Who would've known, fanfic is therapeutical

My answer got so big, I decided to make a separate post about it - and I'm talking like this because, if this gets out the DMC sphere and other people read it, they'll understand the fandom talk a little bit. This is not just for the fandom, but everyone out there.

Including men. All of us are prone to being targets of creeps - even if I'll be telling about my experience as a woman, take this advice to your heart NO MATTER your gender.

When this episode happened in my life, I was 27 y/o, I think...? I got pushed into such a stupid corner by this guy who kept messaging me with "work related" stuff... And my family wasn't validating my "this is weird" feeling.

So... What happened?

(TW: I mention the words "rape" and "sexual abuse" but none of that has happened. It was a red flag and I want to talk about avoiding it like the plague and how people might dismiss your gut feeling when something is wrong. I write with brutal honesty, curse words and don't censor anything, because I'm here to tell people how it is not curating content to go viral on clean ~family friendly~ social media. This is honest advice I'd give someone else, so it's just a heads up. I'm a little jaded with all the censoring of "forbidden words" when you have to discuss serious subjects like this nowadays hahahaha)

First context, I'm a Lawyer. Hi. I know it doesn't sound like it Second context, I'm from Latin America. Hi again!

Well, in my country, we have to vote every couple of years for the National Lawyer Association President and Vice-President (for my USA people, it's like the BAR association for Lawyers - meaning only lawyers who have passed the BAR and are, indeed, full-fledged to the association and with a lawyer permit can vote). I hate it, but it is what it is, I have to vote every time for one of those posh speaking clowns or else.

This much older guy stopped me at the entrance to the voting building to do some political propaganda of one of the candidates. Expected. They weren't the ones I was gonna vote 'cause their agenda didn't fit what I wanted for the Association - nevertheless, I smiled and was polite. Guy wouldn't shut up, but that's a lawyer thing. Kept being polite, dismissed him kindly and went inside to vote.

As I came back, guy is there and stops me. I had called my mom to give me a ride home - by that time, I had been broke and without a job for 2 years up until that point, trying to get back into the ~lawyer business~ and recover from a very bad burnout, so paying a ride back home was a big no. I had my phone on my hand and kept chatting because, you know, networking. You never know.

Now, mind you. I'm about to celebrate my 30th birthday this year, but people seriously think I'm underage wherever I go. I have to literally show them my credentials and ID so they can believe a single word I say. This guy, must've been around his 50s or something - and I look like a teen or, at best, 20 years old. I graduated when I was 22, so that's the most he could've imagined I was.

As we're talking, dude is flexing his career so hard I start to do the same. He says he has known the President and influential people in politics (back then, far-right government, so red flag already waving in the horizon), he has an office both here and in New York and Miami, he has worked with the FBI (we're in Latin America, the USA stuff is a flex for far-right people). I say I have worked as the Labor Lawyer in a huge worldwide known multinational company, coordinated with people in the USA and UK, had around 100 cases to manage monthly and keep the company in order when the directors were not around.

Guy is impressed and asks for my contact on LinkedIn. I'm down for it, I'm looking for a job and he could be one hell of a way to get back on business. Dude mentions he's in digital law and, heck, I wanted so bad to get into digital law! It was like he was put in my way by the angels to help me get back on my feet!

He asks for my resumé and my cellphone number, so he can have me in his office to have a cup of coffee. I am soaring by now. "That's it!!" I think "That's my ticket back to being a lawyer, to having my own money, to breaking the cycle of unemployment and having my career back!" - so I do it! I give him my number!

hello, workaholic aunt here speaking, my career was everything to me, I'd do everything for it

After I got back home, told my mom everything, and everyone was so happy. That's when he started sending me messages - asking for my address so he could send me some lawyer magazines and such... Even though he had asked when we were talking before and I changed the subject. I didn't give him of course, but instead sent him my resumé.

So, next day he asks me about that coffee and I said we can make it happen... Even if he got my name wrong. I have a pretty exotic name in whatever country I go, so it's a common mistake, known to happen, no one can pronounce my name right if I don't teach them how to, so yeah. I'm willing to gloss over that.

I'm assuming he read my resumé, saw how smart, capable and hardworking I am, and wants to talk business. Wants to offer me a job. I'm super ready. I'm taking my business clothes out of the closet, I'm cleaning my high heel black boots, I'm checking my references and vocabulary so I don't screw up. Guy sends a message saying he wants to take me out for lunch.

Red flag. My instincts flare up and I'm just staring at the screen. I start reviewing everything. I mean... Business lunches are ok, right? I had lunches with my manager and director plenty of times back in the day and it never got weird. So... Why was I feeling weird now...?

Guy says we can go out for lunch and then back at his office so he can show me around. I was like "hmmm... ok? shouldn't be weird. this is normal." but nevertheless I went to check with my mom and my sister.

Both said it was fine. I was feeling weird because it's a guy and me and I shouldn't be feeling uneasy - it's my social anxiety/workplace trauma talking. It's the opportunity of a lifetime. I shouldn't screw up.

I keep talking to him. I ask where we should meet up for this lunch and he tells me to give him my address, so he could pick me up and we can go to "a nice place to have lunch" (his words, not mine).

Red flags are dancing around my head. I keep thinking "have I lead him on something????" and going mad. What was I wearing? Only work clothes, that's all - suit pants, black high heel boots, dark silk shirt and only a nude lipstick so my lips wouldn't get chapped. My shirt didn't even show cleavage.

It's ridiculous how I feel this is a thing I should add 'cause heaven forbid the cleavage

What about what I've said? Did I accidentally flirt?? 'Cause that's been known to happen - I'm a clueless ace who can't for the life of me notice when people are flirting or not or notice when people think I'm flirting with them. And usually when they are not flirting or being attractive, that's when the magic happens for me! So... What gives?! Did I do something wrong, that sent the wrong message?

I mean, I was nice, yes. But you're supposed to be nice to people. I'm not gonna be rude just because most guys can't keep it in their pants.

I go over the messages. I didn't do anything strictly not business like. I'm very good at that. I have only worked responding to men as bosses in my life, had four male bosses before him, all different ages, marital status, star signs, backgrounds, lives. The best colleagues and co-workers I used to spend hours having coffee and laughing with were men. So I know how to keep professional and not mixing things up. It wasn't a slip up from my side.

Well, then there's always the chance I was going crazy and overreacting, soooo... I go over to my mom and sister. They think it's weird, yes, but they do think that's exactly what's going on: I'm overreacting and my social anxiety/workplace trauma is blocking me from pursuing this opportunity that can help my career - and make me have a salary again so I can help at home.

Ok. I though up and go back to talking to him. I tell him fine but I'll go to the place myself, so he can tell me where he's thinking about having lunch. Guy tells me nothing and keeps insisting I give him my address and he will give me a ride so we can "get to know each other better".

My GODS I've never felt so uncomfortable. Not even when I had to stay ONLY with my boss working until 1 am, only the two of us in the company building, every light out except the one in the room we were in, him being around 15 years older than me and very confident, with the two of us having one of the best work chemistry I had in my LIFE.

He could've done ANYTHING to me, but we only talked strictly work. We were tired, he waited for my mom to pick me up at 1 am outside so nothing bad would happen to me, both of us under an umbrella, he apologized to my mom for having me stay at work so late and then went back home to his wife and kid. I NEVER, at ANY moment felt unsafe around him. He was my mentor, he was my boss, he was a good colleague and even somewhat of a friend.

So why on EARTH was I feeling SO UNCOMFORTABLE with this guy I had only met ONCE face to face in my life?

I start to voice my concerns. My mom and my sister think I'm only saying that because I don't want to go back to work. That I want to throw my career away because I can't control my anxiety and my feelings. We fight a couple of times and a couple of days. My mom tells my aunt about it. My aunt goes full FBI and does a background check on this dude.

That's when she told my mom some things weren't adding up. His LinkedIn profile was a little too weird and he had no ties whatsoever with the elected President of the Lawyer Association - was he really someone in their team for propaganda? Nevertheless, he did have an office and did work with digital law, both here and in the USA. I shouldn't let this opportunity slip.

I got so mad. SO MAD. To the point my sister decided to ask her boyfriend for his opinion on all of it and he was like "hey... your sister is kinda right. guy wouldn't offer to take ME to a nice restaurant to have lunch and go to his office later for a coffee, would he...? I mean, this never happened to me" - and sis' boyfriend is on the business meetings and negotiations/selling part of the spectrum. He knows what he's talking about.

So now I finally have a man validating my concerns.

I take the decision to shut the whole thing down. I go "very well, I will NOT meet him, I will NOT maintain contact with him, he's treating me like a whore he picked up on the street". At this point, I am FUCKING FUMING. But still, my sister and mom gave him the benefit of the doubt and made me feel like I was doing something wrong.

So I decided to marinate him for a while.

I should note that all his messages were sent close or around midnight, not at working hours. And I only answered at working hours. Since I was taking a while to respond, my dude just goes like, and I kid you not, "ooooh she's not answering, she's ignoring me, I don't like that *sad emoji*" LIKE A FUCKING 13 YEAR OLD (no offense, 13 y/o peoples, but this dude is a FULL GROWN ASS MAN).

I am offended, I am flabbergasted and I wish I could suplex him to oblivion.

I show my mom the message. She just stares at me in awe. She FINALLY is like "yeah, ok, this isn't very professional". ALL THIS TIME, I never really told her what I was thinking and what was really worrying me. And then I break her the news that, what I'm really afraid of, is that this guy is going to rape me in his car. Or he's going to drive me somewhere I can't fight or scream and then he'll rape me. Whatever the scenario, it ended up with me being raped and I was scared. SO. FUCKING. SCARED.

My mom goes into Sphinx mode - that's when she doesn't answer and doesn't even look at me and just ~thinks~. It's a brutal reality she doesn't like and I don't like it either, I mean, it's my safety we're talking about here.

I shut down the guy completely. I tell him there's a family emergency and I couldn't continue to give him any attention nor I could go out for that lunch and I couldn't talk anymore. He SUDDENLY goes cold and "I am sorry if any of my messages seemed inconvenient. Do answer when you have the time so we can make an appointment." And that's it. No more messages. He's done in my book.

My mom tells my aunt. Aunt goes Sherlock Holmes mode this time and, lo and behold, they find an website of this guy's office. My mom is shocked at how 90's internet it looks for a guy who works with digital law. She then recognizes the address of the office but the doesn't remember of any office building in that street - so she Googles it.

His "office" is actually a residential building - meaning, it was his home address. She shows it to me and I want to cry - out of rage, shame, fear, sadness. I go like "yeah, this is the place he wanted me to go, to his home. What was he going to do to me there, huh?" - and I think the answer is pretty obvious.

Later, speaking to my sister, she's like "I dunno why you're so mad" and I'm like "WELL MISS I just got PICKED UP LIKE A WHORE outside of an OFFICIAL EVENT for the NATIONAL LAWYER ASSOCIATION while I was DRESSED UP PROFESSIONALLY and looking for PROFESSIONAL opportunities and I COULD HAVE BEEN RAPED. I think I have all the right in the FUCKING WORLD to be FUMING."

That's when we diverged some more. She just said like "hey that's how the world works: women are treated like whores - you weren't the first one to have this happen to you and you won't be the last. What are you gonna do about it? Get over it."

Oh. Boy. I looked at my sister's eyes. I saw her just staring at me weirdly. A storm was approaching. The skies darkened. Bury the Light started playing in the background. Vergil's doppelgänger was standing behind me like an angel of death. (All DMC references for my non-DMC peoples)

"Well. I wanna have power. So much fucking power in this world that no one ever even thinks about treating me like that again. So much power they will fear standing in front of me and saying those words - they will look into my eyes and shut up. So much power I will never be afraid to walk on my own again and I will never have to doubt my feelings when I'm feeling unsafe because some lowlife pitiful little shit decided I should be a whore to satisfy him. I want to have power so I will never be this helpless again."

Cue in my sister just sitting there with butter in the slice of bread in her hand, staring at me like "wtf man... do you need a hug...?" and me doing a dramatic exit back to my room to, well... Write the fanfic in question.

(For my DMC creatures: I never even thought of Vergil when I said all of this, I just noted that thought later in my diary and reading it a couple of days later I was like "omg I have become my worst enemy, fuck you Verge" because I kid you not, I used to hate this man with all the fibers of my being - hence where my longfic Nemesis came from. I realized I lived long enough to become my worst enemy - and maybe I hated him because Vergil made me look at the part of myself I didn't like and didn't want to admit existed *I'm laughing while writing this, I do find it weirdly amusing*)

DMC things aside, this WHOLE episode made me feel so frustrated. I never had anyone to validate me, only people doubting me or asking me if I lead him on, or what was I wearing, or if I smiled too much, if I was being too nice, if I said something inappropriate, and so on. I had to get it all off my chest and I thought maybe, juuuust maybe, Dante and Vergil would've been more supportive regarding that.

Because, you know, they know trauma and they are protective as fuck. They can have all the red flags and mental issues in this world, but I don't think they would EVER dismiss their partner - especially a woman - feeling unsafe and fearing being abused or raped. In order to trust, you have to give the person and opportunity and room to open up to you without judgements - and I do think they aren't very judgy people.

I mean, they are demons, for fuck's sake. They can't judge anything especially Vergil

Also, I don't blame my mom nor my sister (even if I got really mad at her). In the end, both of them wanted what was best for me, they thought it was an opportunity and wanted me to get my career back. Truth is, no woman knows how to act when this happens. And they didn't know how to act as well. They didn't want to think of the worst: just like I was doubting myself and my own feelings, they were doubting theirs as well. We ALL had to be validated by a man to admit something was wrong and we weren't hysterical.

Ok, ok, storytime over. But I felt like sharing this because people, you are ALWAYS valid in your concerns - and there's no clothing, no smile, no attitude, no NOTHING that JUSTIFIES abuse. If you're abused or feeling like someone wants to take advantage of you, especially sexually, YOUR FEELINGS AND FEARS ARE VALID. Don't shrug it off or water it down just because people are saying you're overreacting - if I had listened to everyone around me instead of my gut feeling that something was REALLY wrong, only the gods know what would've happened. But I'll tell ya, it probably wouldn't have been good for me.

At best, I'd be mad this guy would want to pick me up like a whore and I'd have to turn him down and take a ride home. At worst, he would've raped me - in his car, at the "restaurant", at his "office". We don't know, but I didn't want to "give luck to bad luck" as we say where I live.

I didn't have support, so I wrote a story to feel supported by the fictional characters I look up to - I wished SO bad I was dating someone, especially a man, who'd tell me he'd go through hell and back to keep me safe and wouldn't allow anyone to hurt me and validate my feelings. Someone who would make me feel safe and I wouldn't have to only rely on myself.

cue in V saying he too wanted to be loved and protected, I tell you, all this time I thought I hated Vergil when I had only found my nemesis in a mirror

So, don't ever doubt yourselves. Don't ever doubt your gut feelings. We might want validation and someone to keep us safe, but sometimes we don't have that and have to rely on our survival mode. It sucks, but there's a reason why that thing is called "survival": it keeps you alive. It keeps you going.

And no one, NO ONE has the right to say you're overreacting, you're being hysterical, you're reading too much into it, you're just trying to find the easy way out, you just don't want an opportunity because you're lazy, you're crazy and deranged, etc, etc.

If your gut is flapping red flags all around, then overreact. Be hysterical. Read too much into it, find the easy way out, be lazy, be crazy and deranged. Be the villain. Be the bad person. You're not perfect. You're not a princess. Be comfortable with people telling you you're bad - but never NEVER let go of your gut feeling when your safety is on the line.

That fucking thing WILL save your life. Being too nice, though, might not. Listen to yourself, be TRUE to yourself, and, again, don't be afraid to be bad.

Someday you might just find your half-demon man who will support you, protect you and treat you as an equal powerhouse, but until that day, keep on conquering your self-esteem and unwavering will.

I'm just saying all of this now because:

1 - I was too scared to talk about this for a looong time afraid the guy in question would find this, know it's me and my safety would be on the line again

2 - Just now I'm getting comfortable with the concept of being "seen as the villain" and being "seen as bad". My whole life I have been dancing around this because people always said I had a "difficult" personality. I watched Cruella recently and it hit home so hard. We do have things to learn from villainous characters and maybe this is just who I am. People are going to see me as bad so, who cares. Even if I'm not, it would do me good getting used to that idea - I can be more assertive to my boundaries and not allow any of this to happen again. So, there you go. It's an exercise everyone should do. Are you comfortable defending your ideas, your boundaries and your integrity even if people are mad you're not being a pushover/perfectly polite?

It's something I think all of us should think about ;)

Also

thanks for coming to my TED Talk :')

[thearkavist]

Alastor's first "broadcast"

All over Hell, radios had been popping up. No one knew who was doing this, or why. All that ever played was static anyways. Until the day it didn't, the day the Radio Demon made his presence known.

It was just another normal day in Hell. 257 days until the next extermination, but the Radio Demon, Alastor, didn't need it to be any special day to kill.

Alastor walked up to the mirror, straightened his tie, and put on a smile. "It's time to let everyone know why I'm here..." He walked upstairs from the 1920's style bar he'd been staying at and made his way to the front door. Avoiding the sick from all the shellacked people from the night prior, he opened the door and stepped out onto the street.

After a little while, and with limited use of his power, he finally tracked down the last overlord he needed. He would broadcast today. He snuck between the shadows, slowly watching and waiting. Eventually, the overlord turned down into an alley, and Alastor appeared in the middle of the alley behind them.

A: "Hello pal, how are you doing this fine day?"

He looked down the Alley, watching every movement, like a hunter and his deer. The overlord turned around and tilt their head curiously at Alastor.

O: "Oh hello there, I didn't see you. What is your business? I have no time for pleasantries."

A: "Now now, that's no way to treat a... fan, now is it?"

Alastor mirrored the head tilt and smiled wider.

A: "And you know, if I were you, I'd be very worried about my safety."

The overlord scoffed and turned around to walk away, only see to Alastor now standing right in front of them.

A: "Do try to run, that is my favorite part..."

Alastor laughed as he started to elongate and twist, a red x now appearing on his forehead. His mouth no longer moved, instead blinking with every syllable that came out of his mouth. What once looked like small twigs leaving in his hair, transformed into a frightening set of antlers.

The Overlord turned and attempted to flee, they rose to power through trading souls for drugs, not fighting! But it was too late, the further they ran, the closer the hoove clomps were. Strange glyphs started appearing in their vision and then there was-

Alastor returned to the bar, now cleaned and ready for tonight's hooligans, and headed downstairs. He walked over to some broadcasting equipment. Most of it was recent, but there were some bits that you could tell had been in Hell for a while now. Alastor sat down in his chair, tapped his microphone, sending a redish spark to the equipment and booting it on.

Hell went silent, the radio static had stopped. They all listened in, when all of a sudden-

A: "Why hello there people of Hell! I will be your radio host tonight! The name's Alastor, and it is a pleasure being here with everyone tonight and for a long time moving forward."

Out on the streets, he heard the laughter. This is it? This is what the radios were for? The months of static, just for some random demon to start a radio show? It was preposterous, laughable.

A: "Now then, it seems that some of you may think I'm laughable, hmm? Well well well, then perhaps let me prove my credentials."

The people of Hell waited, then the static returned. Only, this time it was... different. They could swear they heard something, something familiar? Then it screamed. Oh the voices, how they screamed and moaned, they were trapped in eternal torment. Then a singular hellfolk realized:

H: "those voices... they belong to... overlords."

From there it spread, everyone knew. This... this demon, killed all the missing overlords. After 29 minutes or so of just this, the static stopped.

A: "Now then, I hope you all learned your lesson, I wouldn't want anyone getting themselves hurt. But in case you didn't get it, let me teach you, never mess with the Radio Demon."

Author's Note: Hello! This is my first ever attempt at a fan-fic! I hope you enjoyed, and idk, I might write more! Feel free to comment/pm criticism, enjoyment, etc. This kinda barely deviates from the source material, but it was also retconned too, so I'm operating in that gray zone. Any parts that are orange mean that Alastor is in that slightly more demonic tone. Anything in red is when he is fully radio mode, and he wants you to feel it. (Also whenever I'm emphasizing certain things) Alright, that's all, bye!

[jester-lover]

Vyvyan with an s/o! (Headcanons)

Includes- fem terms for reader, FLUFF, canon typical violence, SLIGHT OOC, author has only watched the first 6 episodes and it shows

this is a Neil appreciation account, I am an American and attempting my best British lingo (*eagle cry*)

Wowie, an extremely niche British show from the 80s? This sounds exactly like something I’d write about!

How did he get a girlfriend? (asks Rick, aghast)

The two of you definitely met at some local pub, the smell of sweat eventually luring you both out onto the empty street

The two of you bump into one another, and he’s ready to destroy whoever just ran into him, but then he sees you

Cue the absolutely dumbfounded expression, and immediate request to walk you home

Rants on and on during the walk to your place, about everything from his flatmates to medical sciences

You don’t know if it's just the liquor talking, but your little escapade ends with your phone number written on his arm

Congratulations! You now have the world’s weirdest lover!

Your first ‘date’ is definitely somewhere secluded, walks through old forests and abandoned buildings are his favorite, because he really loves having your undivided attention

He acts like an absolute moron and you love it, dancing around, bumping into trees and making you laugh without even trying

The two of you definitely fit together, and your relationship is very sweet

Plenty of nights are spent together, snoozing on how rickety little bed, even if the both of you are still wearing your shoes 

Your family is also very happy that you’re seeing a medical student, they are less happy when he busts through the window 

His mom honestly couldn’t care less about who he dates, but she appreciates you nonetheless 

Your relationship is full of ups and downs, but nothing and nobody else will pull you apart 

Bonus- dinner with the boys!

Inevitably his housemates will get curious, and ask him to invite you over for dinner

Of course you go! You've been wanting to meet them after hearing him talk about them

When you get to the door, a sad looking man with long brown hair answers, eyes widening like he’s never seen a woman before

Two other men sit on a red couch, the man with two rat tails looks up, aghast

(Rick refused to believe you're a real person until you walked through the door)

 The shorter man in the pinstriped suit smiles at you, getting up and welcoming you in

Mike’s voice alerted Vyvyan, who immediately barreled down the squeaky stairs, picking you up in a spinning hug

Vyvyan animatedly shows you around, finally stopping at a small hamster cage

The hamster began to talk, you promptly decided to ignore it and move on

The long haired man pulls another chair to the table, beckoning you to join the group

The introductions start off well enough, until the man with the rat-tails begins to talk, opening up with his credentials within the local anarchist association, only to be promptly interrupted by Vyvyan tossing a toaster at his head

Turns out his name was Rick, and he really wasn’t having a good time 

Dinner was well, a little overkill on the lentils

The two of you ended up talking into the night, so he drove you home near midnight 

The Drabble that pairs with this is coming out once I peel myself off my bed. I will focus on giving you wonderful people more dialogue in the next Vyvyan installment, this is not the end.

[forbidding-souda]

Hii! I'm sorry yo bother You, can You please do "Yasuke with a S/o that has TDAH"? :D

Matsuda Yasuke with a S/O who has ADHD

my husband picked this one bc i couldn't decide which one to do next

i have an advisor meeting tomorrow so we get to see if i can get a teaching credential while at this school rn or if i have to wait until afterwards smh

-Mod Souda

❤ He noticed your behavior habits quickly and was able to identify them. He didn't comment on it at first.

❤ He did have to bite his tongue when it came to not commenting on certain things like whenever you'd interrupt him or when you'd lose concentration whenever he talked about something he likes.

❤ ^ When you annoy him with these things he always pinches your cheek.

❤ You watch him chew out other students but he's never had that negative energy when it came to you. You always worry about irritating him too much, and you worry about accidentally pushing him away because of it.

❤ Sometimes he'll sit down and let you ramble while he works. He likes to noisy air, plus listening to you talk gives him butterflies.

❤ You have very strong opinions about a lot of things, which he thinks is funny, until you disagree with him on something and then he'll passionately debate you (yet still hardly see your side).

❤ You'll have to have tough skin to be able to date him because he has a dry, insulting-type sense of humor. His conversations are filled with: "if you say so...", "uhm, okay...", "i guess?", and passive-aggressive things like that.

❤ You get to play with his hair whenever he's sitting down (he's most likely reading). He'll also lay on your lap as you sit up in bed.

❤ He'll let you mess with the buttons on his shirts, even on school grounds in classrooms, and then glare at people if they do a ?????.

❤ He kisses your forehead a lot, which includes grabbing the back of your head in a less gentle way than you'd hope he would.

❤ His romantic gestures are usually aggressive because he doesn't consider being on lovely-dovey.

❤ You forgetting certain details about things he's mentioned before drives him insane but he doesn't mind re-explaining things.

❤ Sometimes he'll give you directions like "can you grab that for me" and he'll watch you stare directly at it, but not realize that that is what he is talking about.

❤ ^ "I don't know where it is, I can't find it"

❤ "Ok."

❤ There have been many conversations about the same topic, that go the same way, but neither of you really care. He doesn't mind hearing stories he's already heard before and you don't mind telling them again (which comes you forgetting you even told it before).

❤ He is always impressed by your skills in multi-tasking because that's not something the average person is even capable of doing, and certainly not him either.

❤ He'll force you to play chess with him because he wants to see what your mind can do.

❤ He makes you do a lot of activities for this point ^ he is really interesting in your brain. He hasn't met a lot of people like you.

❤ So he'll observe you a lot. You hardly notice, but when you do you just smile at it, a bit flattered that he watches you with such love in his eyes.

[robbiefischer]

i p r o m i s e i will send you more of these tomorrow after i have slept but for now... what about 📚 🚫 💘 🎂 for my boys alexei and elijah????

Aaaaaah tysm for sending me this for my boys (and for all of your lovely asks) ily! I welcome anything else you want to send me about anyone.

📚 BOOKS — what level of education has your oc most recently completed/is currently in (GED, undergraduate, grad school, phd, etc)?

Alexei got his bachelor's degree in English Lit, then completed a teaching credential program. A couple of years after he started teaching, he went back to school to get his M.Ed because he's crazy like that. That's the last thing he's done although in the future he's going to do an MFA in creative writing. He enjoys being a student. Yeah, I don't know where he gets it either.

Elijah got through undergrad and got his bachelor's degree. He wasn't especially interested in going to college (he'd managed to build his streaming stuff up really well throughout high school, and was signed to a pro esports team), but his parents insisted and he wanted to shut them up. He majored in art partly because he's actually really interested in it and it would make the four years tolerable, and partly because he knew it would drive his parents up the wall (they really wanted him to major in something more serious and "grownup", and kept trying to push him into premed like his sister) and make his father's forehead vein pop.

🚫 PROHIBITED — does your oc drink/smoke? do they do it regularly, or is it more on occasion or for special events?

Neither of them are big drinkers. Elijah may have the very occasional hard seltzer if he's doing a fun, chill stream, or something if they're out on a fancy date night but he's just not a big fan of it overall. Alexei's pretty similar - might have a cocktail if they're out on a date or if he goes to a happy hour with his co-workers. If he does have a drink, he likes his sweet, fruity and preferably with a tiny umbrella.

Neither smoke, but they both enjoy edibles on occasion. It's usually a weekend thing - Elijah will make them some fancy snacks, they'll both have a gummy and spend the day catching up on a favorite show or watching movies together and just hanging out. Sometimes they'll go out for a walk in the park near their apartment and commune with nature, do a little people-watching, grab lunch together and chill.

💘 HEART WITH ARROW — what and/or who do(es) your oc consider the most important to them?

Elijah's absolute favorite people in the entire world are Alexei, and his older sister, Lucy. He's also ride-or-die for all of his teammates (Jude, Apollo, Omar, Flora, Nico and Noelle) and his boss, Rosa, who's basically a second mom to him (he's been working at her coffee shop since he was about 15 and she adores him).

Alexei is very family-oriented and, next to Elijah, his moms, younger brother and older sister are the most important people in his life. After that, it's Chase and Reiko. Chase is a teacher at the same school, and they've become incredibly close friends. He took a few of Reiko's classes in undergrad (and is going to take more with her when he goes back to get his MFA), she really took him under her wing and mentored him as a writer and they've developed such a close friendship.

🎂 BIRTHDAY CAKE — when is your oc's birthday? how old are they? what are their sun, moon, & rising signs (if known)? what about their tarot card, ruling planet, & ruling number (if known)? do they fit the typical traits of these sun, moon, & rising signs?

Alexei's 29 years old, and his birthday is on July 19th. He a Cancer sun, Libra moon with a Virgo ascendant. He embodies his big three traits pretty well. He's very family and relationship-oriented, is nurturing and compassionate, hates conflict and is a natural peacekeeper. He tends to be really well-liked no matter who he's around - he's just got fantastic, soothing energy and tends to be very diplomatic so he can get along with almost anyone. He's hyper-organized, especially at work. He's absolutely that teacher that has weeks of sub plans stashed away if he needs them, and they're all incredibly detailed. He can be a bit fussy sometimes, and a little indecisive when he's stressed. He can definitely be prone to having some very Cancerian big feelings, but the Libra moon tamps those down a bit and mostly keeps them on the inside.

Elijah's 26 years old, and his birthday is on November 18th. He's a Scorpio sun, Leo moon with a Gemini ascendant and he's classic. Think all of the Scorpio intensity and emotional depth, with the charisma, creativity, desire for recognition and self-confidence of a Leo. Throw in a twist of restlessness, curiosity, adaptability and such a way with words and you've got Elijah. Those traits can definitely clash a bit sometimes, and he has to keep himself from flitting from one thing to the next rather than being focused on one big goal, but he usually manages to strike a good balance and make it all work together cohesively.

[gold-iridescent]

Always check.

A few things you could look for or do:

0 (Always do this): Take a breather, try to calm your emotions. Fake news want you to feel a certain way so you believe them!

Now.

1. Do they cite their sources?

2. Search up something that was claimed to be true by the source and check with other sources (be wary if there is no other sources.)

3. Search up WHAT ORGANIZATION(S) FINANCE THE NEWS OUTLET. Be especially wary if it's by a Political party or a company in close cooperation with a Political Party

4. Check the URL (if it seems to be an 'edu' domain, but is followed by a ".co" or "Io", it likely is a fake site.)

5. Be wary if the info is protrayed as SENSATIONAL or seems TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE.

6. If your resource has an ABOUT US section, read it. Modt reputable websites WILL have an about us and a way to contact them.

7. Check the Authors credentials. Why are *they* an authority on the matter? Do they currently work in that field? Check their LinkedIn, if available. Google the authors name.

8. Does the article only present one side of a debate? Then it is biased. That is not necessarily bad but make sure to get all sides of the arguments to make a well-based opinion

9. BE AWARE of CONFIRMATION BIAS. People tend to seek and interpert info and evidence in the way that confirms their belief or expectations. Try to be neutral. Don't fall into this trap

THIS IS NOT ALL so well explained, but i tried my best /gen

I have linked resources and such below. Will be updating this post. making edits if i see mistakes, etc. PLEASE MESSAGE ME of more tips and resources and such that might be helpful! I would appreciate it /gen

BE AWARE SOME SOURCES ARE BY THE GOVERNMENT (.gov). we do not know how much the government will control/change the acurracy of them, so PLEASE double check)

ALWAYS CHECK WITH SEVERAL RESOURCES, NOT JUST ONE, TO FACT CHECK

https://www.factcheck.org/about/our-mission/

https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/fact-checker/

https://www.allsides.com/media-bias

https://www.courtreference.com/

https://factcheck.afp.com/

https://www.reuters.com/fact-check/

SOME GUIDES AND INFOS ABOUT / TO FACT CHECKING

https://www.wnyc.org/story/breaking-news-consumers-handbook-pdf/

https://andrew-philips.medium.com/a-beginners-guide-to-fact-checking-a98309fe875b

https://projects.research-and-innovation.ec.europa.eu/en/horizon-magazine/five-fact-checking-tips-disinformation-experts

-Ares

just as a general reminder

learn how to fact-check for yourself, cause soon enough, most online sources won't be reliable

[market-news-24]

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[thequietmanno1]

TheLReads, Vigilantes ch 87, Replies Part 1

1) “I`m still baffled about that tbh. But let us carry on with the flashback so we can get back on track. Knuckles was about to lose to Rappa, and I`m already pointing a gun at Furuhashi just in case he decides to ignore cannon…���- Can’t ‘lose’ if he was never actually fighting him to win…

2) “Dammit Furuhashi, did we just opened into a flashback inside a flashback? 

Are you trying to drag this on for another chapter Christopher Nolan?”-   Just showing perspectives from Knuckle’s analytics-based POV, which I honestly really appreciate, as it’s sorta close to Izuku’s own tendancy to oberveve everything about an opponent and their Quirks, if only in his case because he’s a massive geek.

3) “Knuckles please, nobody in here is scared of that letter opener”- Well, a reasonable person would be, but Knuckle miscalculated. Reasonable people don’t get involved in underground cage matches.

4) “Huuuuuh… I see… So by showing it from knuckles pov we can see that all the events of the fight were calculated, since he was both a pro hero and had a high-speed quirk, that is a way to justify how he could lose to Rappa, that according to cannon, never lost a fight”- Also gives us an idea of what fights are like to Knuckles in the present, albeit, his slower body means that he now needs to start analysing/predicting their future course of actions to stay ahead of them whilst his physical shell struggles to keep up.

5) “But now that I think about it, wouldn`t a chapter showing this be better after we saw knuckles defeated on the ground? You know, you finish a chapter with hook, then open the next one showing that it was all according to keikaku?*

*Keikaku means “plan””- True, but then you’d have gotten pissed at Furuhashi just keeping the ‘fight’ off-panel for the last chapter.

6) “Alright, I`ll give it to you Furuhashi, this particular decision was clever, because it both preserves cannon and Miguel O`hara won`t need to gut you like a fish, and explain the situation on how knuckles managed to get hit and lose his weapon to this guy. Clever. I hope you can keep it up because I don`t want to go back on my compliments.”- I do feel the writing noticeably improves in the third act overall.

7) “What prep knuckles? We certainly haven`t seen any of it, which is a shame because that would probably be interesting.”- Knuckles definitely stabbed a man or two to sell his credentials as a knife-user to the overseers.

8) “HOLY FUCK ITS FATGUM

ABNDHE IS SO YOUNG

AND HE`S THIN AGAIN

AND FUCKL YOU FURUHASHI THAT`S NOT HIS STANDARD WIGHT THAT`S HIS LOW-VOLUME FORM”- Should have been “slimmed-down form”. I guess Fat recently had to burn a lot of calories absorbing another bomb or two.

9) “NO WAIT DON`T MOVE THE SCENE AWAY FROM GUN I`M SORRY FURUHASHI I WON`T COMPLAIN ANYMORE DON`T TAKE FATGUN AWAY FROM US PLEASE LET HIM JOIN IN THE FLASHBACK”- In exchange for less Fatgum, but about some more bunny as compensation?

10) “Dammit there goes Fatgum…

Also, what`s this girl about? Did she got wind of the fight going on right now?”- The Bunny’s instinct for Blood cannot be equalled.

11) “….

wait

wa it a moment

was th-

was that- “- You thought this flashback had its full roster with the fighting maniacs, but there was another waiting in the wings!

12) “Oh there we go, back to the good stuff”-  This panel looks pretty similar to that double-spread of Kirishima jumping between Fatgum and Rappa’s blows…and now I’m writing this, I just realised that Fatgum turned up for a cameo appearance in this chapter precisely because Rappa has an extended role in this flashback, as a nod towards their eventual encounter @thelreads

[saiyanqueenreads]

Former executive office level banker here. I dealt with legal and regulatory complaints. And let me tell you, the number of times that I had to break the news to folks that the significant other / family member that "stole" all their money had not actually done anything that we (the bank) could have stopped them from doing... was tragically high.

So here are a few do's and don'ts that I'm hoping might help.

Don't have joint accounts. The previous posters listed great points. And like, there are PLENTY of reasons why it's actually a smart move for couples to have separate accounts. General fraud and ID theft come to mind immediately. If someone steals your s/o's wallet, do you want them to get ALL your combined money, or just your s/o's half? When you have completely separate accounts and only carry your own account's cards or checks, casual thieves can't get at the other person's money.

Do add 2FA and verbal password protection to your bank accounts. Again, good for casual fraud prevention too. But if you have someone trying to get at your account via phone or in-person branch visits, adding this to your account FORCES the banker to throw that blocking hurdle at them. And many banking systems make bypassing them impossible or at the very least traceable directly back to the banker. And NO banker wants to loose their job and face potential criminal charges when the paper-trail leads back to them...

Don't share your login credentials or set your devices to "remember you." With ANYONE for ANY REASON. Entering a password into online banking does more than just grant access to the person logging in. It's also establishing the IDENTITY of the person logging in. It's saying John is the one accessing John's account right now. Anything done at that point was done by "you", and it's gonna take some deep investigation of things like IP addresses and such to prove otherwise. And if the person defrauding you lives in your own home, like an s/o or child or step-child, it's even MORE likely that the bank will rule against you if you file fraud. Because it was YOUR password and YOUR home network.

Do ditch paper statements. Yes, even for tax purposes! (Banks are required to keep your account statement documents for 5 years, and many banks keep them available for 7 or more.) Your bank statement letter in the mail can easily be intercepted by those wanting to defraud you, especially those that share your home or know where you live. And there are details on that paper than can be used against you. You balance for starters. But also your FULL account number on many. Even your address, deposit and transaction history, and name of the bank you're using can be useful for folks looking to steal from you or looking for proof of your financial situation (like an abusive spouse).

Do check your accounts often. At least twice weekly if you can't be bothered to do it daily. Particularly sneaky s/o's, family members, or professional fraudsters know that sometimes the best way to get the most money from a person is to do it tiny bits at a time. I once handled a case where we found out that the person's step-son had been using their account for relatively small purchases (mostly under $30, but all under $100) for at least 7 years. I just couldn't see any further back than that... And it was happening on 3 of their accounts. The amount they'd lost was easily over the total amount that they currently had in any 1 of their accounts total at the time. And that's the thing. If someone steals all or the most of the money they can right away from you, you notice it, close the account, and update all your security. Meaning that they likely can't do it again. They've killed the goose that lays the golden eggs. But if they just take $30 daily and you never notice.... well the account stays open. The goose continues to lay those golden eggs for them. It just doesn't happen to notice when a couple eggs go missing.

Do be VERY VERY wary about who you grant rights of Power Of Attorney to. Even temporarily. This applies to wills, guardianship, fiduciary, conservatorships, living trusts, and other types of legally binding ways for others to assume control of you or your loved one's financial decision making too.

Don't co-sign for anything that you are not fully prepared to have to pay for entirely yourself. I cannot tell you the number of creditcards and loans that I saw s/o's, new spouses, and parents get dumped on them because the main signer just took the money/stuff and ran. Fiancées especially should be VERY leery about signing for things with their s/o when there is no other legal protections in place in regards to shared debts and nothing really tying the s/o to them.

While we are on the subject - financial abuse is not always just physically taking money away or not having a savings account or escape stash. For a lot of people it is the other spouse sabotaging your credit score, constantly overspending, and you being unable to trust that joint household bills and loans are paid. Did you know that once you add an authorized user to your bank account it’s nearly impossible to remove them without their permission? Did you know that your spouse, who likely knows your birthday and SSN, can often gain access and reset passwords for any online accounts and create new ones?

Financial abuse will ruin your life and there’s really nothing except significant time that fixes it. If you are in a situation where you think this might happen to you you should freeze your credit with all three major agencies. You can find info on how to do this at USA.gov/credit-freeze

This is not something that only happens to tradwives. You are not exempt because you are independent or competent.

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Inside Perfectly Imperfect's First SXSW Showcase In the earliest days of the pandemic, all eyes were on our screens. An already hyper-online generation was grasping for any remaining signs of life. Some of the best art is born out of isolation, and in the midst of countless podcasts, influencers and the short-lived Clubhouse fad, Perfectly Imperfect has persisted as one of the leading New York tastemakers.Started by Tyler Bainbridge, the newsletter boasts an expertly curated experience of the coolest parts of the underground. As a showcase of some of the more interesting personalities within the sprawling scene, the cult-favorite one-stop shop has featured everyone from Chloe Cherry to Anna Delvey, Surf Gang to RXK Nephew. And Bainbridge wants to take a chance and bring the magic of Perfectly Imperfect outside of the reigning cities of New York and Los Angeles. Enter Austin, Texas. For the newsletter's debut SXSW showcase, the likes of Isabella Lovestory, Blaketheman1000, Club Eat, Sunflower Bean, Model/Actriz and many more touched down in an intimate Texan venue, filling the room with smoke, good tunes and an unshakeable cool. Below, check out exclusive photos from Perfectly Imperfect's debut showcase at SXSW alongside a Q&A with its founder, Tyler Bainbridge.For the uninitiated, what is Perfectly Imperfect? And how has it evolved during its lifetime?Perfectly Imperfect is an independent New York City-based newsletter that shares “a taste of someone’s taste” a few times a week and throws parties around the city.The project started while I was still living in Boston and had no industry credentials or online presence at all. Over the last two years it’s snowballed into some bigger guests like Charli XCX, Lena Dunham, Michael Imperioli, Anna Delvey, John Wilson and Chloe Cherry, but we still mostly feature "if you know, you know" smaller creative types in the city.What is THE NEW SOUND?Last year I noticed a few artists (s/o Damon Rush, The Hellp, Snow Strippers, MGNA Crrrta, Club Eat, etc.) bubbling in the underground who were making exciting music that felt totally fresh but also shared influences in the realm of witch house, electroclash, synth punk and 2000s dance music. I called the playlist THE NEW SOUND because I didn’t want to be the one to come up with a genre name. I’ll leave that to the Spotify curator who inevitably steals it.Do you think that these artists are being seen outside of small circles in a few key major cities?The music industry as a whole is sleeping on these artists. They’re still thinking that hyperpop is the new transgressive genre and it was for a few years, but things are changing. What drove you to choose these artists for your showcase?SXSW was the perfect excuse to get a bunch of this developing scene’s key players on one stage and most importantly — somewhere outside of LA and NYC. I was totally geeking when Club Eat, Snow Strippers and Eera were on stage as Isabella Lovestory performed. To me, it’s an iconic and important line-up but it may be a while before it’s seen that way by anyone else.What is the future of THE NEW SOUND?That it’ll be the new sound, haha. The Hellp signing with Atlantic probably indicates that it’s moving in that direction, but I guess we’ll have to wait and see.Photos courtesy of Tyler Bainbridge https://www.papermag.com/perfectly-imperfect-sxsw-2659674411.html

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i took the first flick :)