#i have reciepts and all

[gentlegentian]

i feel like one of the biggest things the mdzs fandom tends to forget is that lan wangji is silly

like yes he's stoic and jade faced and perfect but he also:

blushes SO often

loves bunnies and anything related to them

throws little tantrums when he's away from his husband for too long

gets flustered easily

is a MENACE when drunk

messes around with his husband

buried his son in a bunny pile

is a biter

so yes, whilst hanguang-jun is a big scary warlord, lan wangji is just a silly guy who likes bunnies and messing around with his husband :3

[freckliedan]

i'm sorry but if you've only been a phannie since the reniassance you really have no right to be criticizing dan gender posters.

i don't think anyone who got here post revival understands the distinction between "fans crossing the line" vs "fans listening to what dan and phil tell us even before announcing things explicitly and celebrating that". and the way people act like they need to defend dan from people who think he could be trans makes that abundantly clear.

dan especially has been so open about how this community's support is what made it possible for him to accept himself and come out, and that wasn't support that magically appeared the second BIG dropped. it didn't exist only after we got told officially.

the community support of dan and phil's queerness was the way people noticed and celebrated and understood the way they increasingly chose to be vulnerable with us over the years, and the way we shared how they made us feel safe in our identities.

they came out a million little ways before they said the words, but dan did especially: wearing nail polish, going curly, an earring in the gay ear, liking tweets that said he was gay, making increasing gay jokes. the winter before they both came out they tweeted about the bbc calling them a couple and didn't correct it. dan TOLD us in march of 2018 that he had a video planned for june that was relevant to the month but not because of his birthday.

they do the telling us with their actions before announcing it in so many other contexts too: moving, announcing tours, etc.

if you trust in and pay attention to their consistant patterns of behavior it's hard to be surprised by dan and phil.

so why is it that this one fucking thing—dan's gender—is not allowed to be posted about in the same way as everything else? those of us who do take so much care in what we say, too, if we ever do anything other than post jokingly. both for dan's sake (nobody forgets this is a public forum) and because the transphobic backlash is constant.

dan has been saying he sometimes wishes he was a girl since manchester. talking about gender since 2009. the gender conversation has been constant as long as dan's been online and we know it's been a constant since early childhood too.

dan said after BIG dropped in 2019 that he considered coming out in 2014 but then started thinking about gender and needed more time to figure it out. and you know how that ended? he did NOT say "i came out because i figured it out". it ended with dan saying that thinking about gender culminated in realizing it's okay to come out and change your mind. that you can be a formless blob. (quote)

and then sister daniel happened, and dan has been increasingly openly talking about questioning gender ever since. and hey: dan and phil commented on the possibility of a gender video from dan during dan's bday livestream. doesn't that sound familiar.

this isn't different from when dan and phil claimed heterosexuality and then were openly not in the lead up to coming out. this pattern of behavior is the same, and the way people are posting is the same, and i've never fucking once seen a dan gender poster cross the line the way people used to.

it's just a different subject.

would the people who get pissed at dan gender posters have been doing the same thing to people who thought dnp were queer before they came out? did you not realize what an rpf community is like because you got here after the fact, or are you being transphobic hypocrites?

why is the possibility of transness something dan needs to be defended from, anyways? it's a compliment and we know dan takes it that way.

figure your shit out. i'm sick of it, especially coming from other trans people. i've had so fucking many trans mutuals bullied off this website and out of this space for openly talking about the possibility that dan might not be cis over the years, and when the same transphobic talking points come from a trans sibling's mouth? it disgusts me.

you don't have to like it or agree with it or engage with it. but can you PLEASE stop acting like you have a moral high ground and are doing something beneficial to dan that he'd thank you for? just fucking block and blacklist and move on.

and know that if dan someday turns out not to be cis, you're gonna have to live with the knowledge that you made things harder for him.

us dan gender posters? we all know we might be wrong and we've had to think about whether we're happy with our actions if that's the case. and i know damn well we'll all be celebrating dan's gender nonconformity just as much for the rest of time if dan remains cis.

we're under constant scruitiny so we've had to self reflect. but i really don't think any of you have. think about your underlying biases. consider the impact a vehement defense of cisness would have on dan if he isn't. and please, for the love of god, let that impact your actions.

[shannonsketches]

also I love 'Yo! Son Goku and Friends Return', it is so stupid (immense joy)

[hermitshell]

YOU🫵

I swear your tower ouroboros was actually a prediction! gempearl onesided breakup caused by a misunderstanding + towers are being built + tilly / billy + scarlet pearl creeping in

See the thing is I think it would've ended up a prediction either way, the nature of Pearl's life series is that it always ends up cycling back in some way

For every life series since dl, pearl has built a tower; Pearl is always drawn towards wolves and/or having an animal companion; and her reputation has never really escaped her, in last life she was seen as fairly reasonable outside her alliance (i believe scott said something along the lines of being glad he was allied with her and not against her at one point) but past dl people are much more willing to think of her as any team's wildcard (and i mean they're not always necessarily wrong but also she's just a silly guy)(and regardless of shenanigans, she's loyal!! She's loyal to those she commits herself to to a fault)

i got off track. Point is that i think traffic!pearl is in a constant state of ouroboros relating to dl :O after all, pearl said it herself that she never really left that tower

[theautumnriverleaves]

literally every therapist ive ever had has had absolutely no concept of how difficult it is to find a job that pays a livable wage

[tomwambsgans]

i'm just gonna say it. on the app that could reasonably be called Misinformation: The Website, where you have no good reason to believe almost anything that anyone says, where people are known to play genuine fucked up long cons where they go so far as to fake a disability, or stage scenes of verbal/emotional abuse with their partners, or make some other incredibly serious claim only to eventually come out and admit that they lied or faked it to be *interesting* or whatever... i think it's wise to take the anecdote of a single random person with a grain of salt

[bitegore]

reasons to buy things from me physically: oh god i have so many tetraflexagons. on god if you want a tetraflexagon i will have to ship that shit to you but if you're already buying something i have to ship i will give you that shit for free. im trying to figure out the normal, nice way to ask 'can i offload my shitty tetraflexagons on you for free so you can throw them out instead of me' to the one person who i need to ship things to as we speak. please take a tetraflexagon. hell, take five. take ten! i had to throw out nearly 45 when moving out of college and i still have too many.

[istherewifiinhell]

Okay okay the rage meter spiked to like a 15 and its wasnt even 30 mins here. Thats not good. Ive got music going im trying. Jesus.

[unbloomingmoonflower]

Reason 309 on why I be tired of Retail:

Person: We're in a hurry, can we just get the reciept for the returns?

Me: *ready to roll my eyes so far into my head, I can see Narnia*

[thiswaycomessomethingwicked]

‘I need to know how to navigate this,’ Sicily says without preamble. ‘That wretched man has a bee in his bonnet about me. Thinks I have something to do with George’s death and I was trying to put it on you.’ 

‘Did you? And were you?’ Downey asks.  

‘No and no. It was there when I found George, just as I said. The thing is, I don���t have an alibi for the time in which it happened.’ 

‘Right.’ 

‘And I know how the evidence looks. I am not so stupid as to believe that if I have nothing to hide I have nothing to fear from the police. I wasn’t born yesterday.’ 

‘I was never going to suggest such a thing. The Watch are horrid and I wouldn’t trust any of them an inch.’ 

Sicily tilts her head in slight acknowledgement of the one thing they apparently agree upon. She pours herself more tea, adds milk afterwards. She should add it first, Downey thinks, if she truly wants to be a proper lady as she is so clearly attempting to do.

Downey and Sicily said ACAB but only because they’re both terrible and don’t want to deal with the repercussions of their actions. They like to fuck around and aren’t interested in finding out. 

Vetinari: do stupid things, suffer stupid consequences. 

Downey: sounds like something that happens to other people. I have money, didn’t you hear? I shouldn’t have to face the consequences of anything I, or people around me, do. 

Vetinari: 

Vetinari: get out of my office. 

[rose-tinted-nostalgia]

the universe just keeps encouraging my procrastination, and i'm here for it but probably i shouldn't be.

[satuurnos]

see I try not to beat myself up too much over the mistakes I make now that are inconsequential like truly but being home with my dad reminds me of why I developed these thoughts at all bc any mistake at all is just another example that you can't do anything right ever :/

[starlit-mansion]

yayyyyyy my bad behavior was reinforced!!! i will learn nothing!!!!

[sunnist4rs]

They’re just saying the quiet part out loud now

[estrellade]

need to find a better way to express that i'm not a person

[wellnesscard]

literally tragical af