#i have been so low & depressed bc starting classes is always hard for me & very draining but i am feeling better today đ
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me in a good mood for once. yay we did it!!!!!
#michelle speaks#very happy my friend asked me to hang out tomorrow she was the one who transferred so i didnât think we would really see each other#so makes me happy that she wanted to see meâŚâŚand we were texting for a bit i missed talking to her đŠ#also the circle ep 4 going crazy lmaooo love it for meâŚ..sad i will have to wait until wednesday for the next ep but WHATEVER! i had fun!#i have been so low & depressed bc starting classes is always hard for me & very draining but i am feeling better today đ#prob will not last realistically but i will enjoy it for rnâŚ..
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how would you rank the seasons of the oc?
(oh and btw i'm working on your ask, i just love so many of ryan' scenes, so it's hard to find specific ones)
Well I adore all the seasons but my ranking goes a little weird. There are first and second halves bc I can't decide full seasons lol
Season 1 is the best obviously. The classic class dynamics, the characters being babies and just starting off their development, the Cohens accepting Ryan and the beginning of Ryissa and Sethmer/the core four. I remember watching the first two episodes being like- yeah they always fight and burn shit down, this show seems like my thing. Thank you @closetfascination for recommending it xD. The Oliver storyline was so intense and all of the conflicts in that season is so entertaining and dramatic, even though there were ones that didnât age well- like Luke's gay dad or Hailey's stripping.
Then I'd say Season 2B. Mostly because Seth and Summer and Ryan and Marissa coming back together as couples and as the core four. The Mallpisode was great! The whole "save Trey" drug bust storyline was cool too- I basically gasped when Seth and Ryan are talking in the kitchen and Seth is like, are you disappointed Trey is selling drugs after everything you did for him? And Ryan is like he isnât, he only confessed to the police to protect Marissa. Seth asks how do you know? Ryan says, because I was about to do the same. It was painful to see the SA storyline and how it impacted Ryissa. Loved Marissa and Alex's relationship in the beginning but didnât like how they treated them later on- I get that they were getting homophobic backlash but they didnât have to casually homophobic too :( Julie and the revenge porn situation was so icky although I did like that she was about to kill Caleb for money but saved herself from doing it but he died anyways lol. The comic book storyline was so ridiculous it was funny. And of course, Kirsten's deterioration was the hardest but it made so much sense.
Season 3A. I love how the season starts off them facing external battles (expulsion, scrutiny) but internally going strong. The core four was ride and die for each other! Sethmer planning to go to college together was so cute, and I like that despite being horrible to Ryan, Julie stayed loyal to Kirsten and protected her and the town from Charlotte's scam. It ends with the core four successfully getting Marissa back into Harbour which is very sweet! I didnât like the Taylor/Dean Hess storyline but him getting kicked out was satisfying and even though Taylor started out annoying, I grew to like her when she started befriending and helping them. I even liked Marissa's public school storyline until the Johnny thing became too depressing.
Season 2A. Loved Seth and Ryan being back but the whole season is Kirsten and Sandy slowly facing issues and it was so painful to watch :( Marissa had it rough with her mom and Ryan leaving and DJ, but her dynamic with Alex started off really fun. I liked Lindsay's character and her relationship with Ryan and the reveal that she was Caleb's daughter but the aftermath was painful as expected. Sethmer started off kinda flaky and shaky but they got better eventually.
Then 4. It starts off dark but I'm glad they took the time to honour Marissa. It feels like a different show but I loved it. Ryan and Taylor's entire relationship is so funny and sweet and I love that Ryan got to be a little lighter this season. Sethmer getting engaged was funny but also a little frustrating. This season would've been higher because I was mostly happy and carefree watching it but it's so low because Frank's introduction was so suspenseful and fun but they ruined it for me by making it another "let's forgive abusive parents for doing the bare minimum". I loved the ending though- Julie getting her degree, Sandy and Kirsten having another baby, independent Summer, Sethmer married and Ryan helping that kid. It was also funny when Chris Pratt was in love with Seth for two seconds lol
Season 3B. It's the last one because it is the most painful lol (Ryissa breakup, everything about Johnny, them being in random relationships especially Marissa and Volchok ew and her eventual death) but I really love it too. Summer and Marissa officially becoming sisters was cute. The post-breakup friendship between Ryan and Marissa came naturally to them without the romantic expectations. Ryan's jealousy arc with MV was so fun- I always howl in the scene where Ryan and Sadie are hooking up in the poolhouse and Seth yells from outside that Marissa is hooking up with Volchok and the scene cuts to Ryan letting Sadie out because "the mood is ruined"- and ofc the prom and the aftermath. Ryan learning about Theresa's baby and putting up boundaries with Jess was cool to watch. Sethmer breaking up over college was frustrating and sad but glad they got back together and Seth smoking weed and burning down Sandy's office was so funny. Kirsten almost relapsing was sad and I'm glad Sandy finally prioritized family over the hospital.
Finally ugh đ sorry for keeping this hanging for so long! I'd respond to the other asks soon <3 best wishes!
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huge vent post feel free to ignoreâď¸
tw just in case tho for depression, anxiety, suicide/suicidal ideation, death, disordered eating, drug use, dissociation, depersonalization, and derealization
i need someone to come put a straight jacket on me i ruin everything i fucking touch i donât want to be a bother but im desperate to be known so i spill my guts just for them to get trampled. and i really do let everyone walk all over me. i assume that every other human being on the planet knows better than me about everything and i will tolerate literally an treatment so long as youâre a little bit nice to me sometimes, or even if you just tell me that you are ill probably believe you. my self esteem is so fucking low plus i canât ever rlly tell whatâs true anymore. my memory is so fucking bad like the amount of times a day i forget what im saying mid-sentence and then forget what i had just said and then forget what i was even talking about in the first place is genuinely embarassing. itâs so fucking humiliating actually like i am so out of it all of the time and i can never tell if itâs bc im dissociating or bc im dehydrated or bc i didnât sleep or bc i havenât eaten or bc i forgot to take my adhd meds or bc i hit the pen at 9:30am again or bc i DIDNT hit the pen but i have brain fog from smoking the night before and at this point itâs probably all of it all the time like it is so bad. ive never been worse in my life i donât think. again i wouldnât rlly know. all my memories feel a million miles away. im alone in my dorm room rn bc my roommate and our other friend went to our other other friendâs dorm to hang out. if i think about it too hard ill probably start crying. i was crying before they were even out the door.
everyone told me college is where you meet âyour people.â the friends you have for the rest of your life. why do i have about 3 friends total (as in i actually hang out with them outside of classes/club meetings/school events/etc) and why do none of them feel like theyâre actually my friends. oh wait actually i know why that is. itâs because i donât feel like im real when im at college. thatâs how i felt last year (like school year, and it was awful btw, thought it was the worst year of my life but then this semester happened and now im not so sure) but it just occurred to me that im feeling the same way except this time i wasnât so alarmed by it bc i got used to it. like this is baseline college feeling for me. the worst part of it all is that everything is actually all my fault. like for real not sarcasm. my anxiety is so fucking severe and i didnât realize it at all until recently when i started having more frequent panic attacks. i cry most days. i hyperventilate way too easily. i walk thru the world just going about my everyday life with the anxiety levels of an animal being hunted for sport. like literally if i accidentally do something wrong in public like the smallest tiniest stupidest mistake like pushing on a pull door or something i get so embarrassed it like so very seriously and genuinely the idea of people thinking that im stupid or laughing at me makes me want to die like seriously kill myself dead and i cannot overstate that im so scared of what people thjnk of me all the time.
oh and did i mention i also literally never stop thinking? overanalyzing everything i do and say and everything everyone else does and says to me and im always worried that my friends hate me or secretly think im an awful person or im thinking about things that they might potentially hate me for later down the line and sometimes i try to preemptively circumvent that by randomly being like âhey if i ever [insert thing im worried might potentially make them not like me anymore] just know that itâs not because [reason i think it might make them potentially not like me]â OH and i also all the time will ask my friends if they think im a bad person which is like so insane of me actually like why the fuck do i do that THIS IS WHAT I MEANT AT THE BEGINNING!!!! PUT ME IN A STRAIGHTJACKET CUT OFF MY GODDAMN HANDS JUST PLEASE DO SOMETHJNG because no matter what i fucking do i always end up crawling to SOMEONE to beg them for reassurance or tell them something that will make them worry about me (sometimes im not even aware im doing that one!) because i just need someone to care. i need someone to care about me or else im not real. (i feel like i only exist contextually but i donât have time to get into all that right now). but then i get embarrassed for needing something. the fact that i have needs and wants and desires is the most embarrassing thing in the world. asking for what i want and need is the most mortifying torturous experience in the world. i hate being vulnerable.
i want to be cared for without judgement. i want to stop feeling like i am hard to like and even harder to love. i want to stop feeling tired all the time. i want to stop feeling miserable all the time. i want to feel like im real, like i actually exist. i donât want to die, but i donât want to live either. i think the only thing about death that still scares me is the fact that i would have to go alone. but the idea of infinite nothingness sounds like a dream. itâs so loud in my head all the time. i just want it all to stop.
#im sorry y'all#i just needed to put all of this somewhere that wasn't my brain#anyways#i sincerely hope that you are all doing better than i am right now#i'll b ok eventually tho
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hi guyss
its been ages since I have been on here and I kinda miss it a lot, I am way more active on twitter under lioncunt but that's not what I logged in to say
its been a crazy (good and bad) months and I wanted to share a little bit
most importantly, I got off my medication which is crazy good. I have been on them for more than 5 years and I have very young so that's a lot. I started them when I was 14/15 and had been needing them since I was like 12 so getting off them is a huge thing for me. I am very truly happy about it because I truly didn't think about a time where I wouldn't need them. I thought it was going to be permanent especially since I am still living with my mom. its been crazy to see how depressed I was all my life, how sad I was. I haven't been taking my meds for like a year but that was me saying "I dont think I need them anymore" but to have a medical professional say "yeah you good" was crazy. bonkers. its so weird and so gratifying but that the same time I don´t want to come on here like everything is fine.
one of the thing that has made my months crazy is accepting I was abused. accepting that I am still abused. and have been, since birth. its really fucked up because now I truly see how little I was (and my brother too) and how much shit I was put through. that I am still put through. because that's the word. abuse. I always knew things were different but never ever considered it abuse. its a big word especially when its accompanied by child. I was a kid. still am in a lot of ways.
one of to good stuff is that me and my brother are thick as thieves which is something I never saw it happening. I just to be so angry at him. call him hideous names and now, he's the only person who actually supports me at my house. every weekend we go out and do a little brotherly outing, small as eating pizza or going to the farmers market. and its so nice. never thought that would make me as happy as its making me.
idk if I ever updated y'all but me and my ex broke up for good couple of months back. I don´t actively miss her but I have been thinking more theses lasts two weeks (I am over analyzing shit but in the normal sphere of things) about her unfortunately because she's in my class so I have to see her everyday but I low-key love hating her. its so nice. its such a normal thing and I love messing shit up. like I am sorry for her for being a child sometimes but I deserve to act like it ( it has been a while since I have bugged her, I actually only bugged her truly once and I learned my lesson!!!! I thought that bugging her was going to help to make me not hate her but it just added fuel to the fire so I leave her alone and I was having a hard week but yeah its so nice to hate her and call her names in my head. is it healthy? no but there's worse things in my life. the funniest thing that has happen is that I had a presentation on bipolar and she thought I was calling her bipolar through the presentation because my friends came to talk to me bc she was making faces all the time I was speaking so that was fun. in her defense, I used to say she had very bipolar behavior ( I actually forgot about it and only linked the dots after my friend talked to me and was like "she thinks you are talking about her") so yeah sdhfjhsdjfshdjfhsdjfhjsdsdjfhdjfsdhj do I really think she has bipolar? no. does she has a lot of bipolar behavior? definitely but you know, who's to say? I had to hold myself back a lot because I had to urge to send a text in the group we have saying "some people told me there wasn't a lot of happy faces while I was presenting, if anyone has a problem you could have talked to me and presented in my place" but as I said, I learned my lesson and I am staying quiet HUHUAHAUHAUAHUA
about jiji, my dearest, idk yet, going to the doctor again for the first time after the diagnosis and going to run more tests. wish me luck and will update yall again afterwards.
about my mom and her zumbi state, there's a light in the darkness because (dont ask me why or how) we have money to travel and see my family in Portugal next year. its going to make it or break her for good. I truly dont know what I want more. she's not living until I am thirty and I actually dont want it. if it didn't mean I would have more responsibilities, I would want her dead now, for her own good too (I am serious)
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Pretending tumblr is therapy
[tw: anxiety, depression, donât read unless you wanna hear abt my boring life]Â
okay so Iâm having an anxiety attack right now, but I donât have a therapist or friends to talk to (abt this particular issue) so Iâm gonna unload here, specially cause I need to get better asap and go back to studying.Â
you see, I donât know if I told you but I started an internship two months ago, on a factory that makes bike parts, as a translator, japanese translator, so yeah I work translating documents and translating convo for some people between japanese and brazilians. at first I was excited and afraid, but more excited, after all I loved the opportunity to learn more while also making some money. two months passed.Â
after the first month and first salary I wasnât that happy already, and I was already thinking that 6months would be more than enough (they could hire me for at least 2years and 6months is the minimum) and was already counting the days. after talking to a few classmates who also worked as interns (not translation) in factories they said my company was one of the worsts, the pay was really low and the work was too much. and I was still like, okay I can take it, letâs just get through 6months and then Iâm out.Â
but anxiety got waaay worse on the second month, I woke up and went to sleep extremely anxious, sleep was already bad and it got worse, I always felt tired af even after sleeping for at least 6hours, btw my schedule was: waking up at 6-6h30, go get the bus at 8h45 (i take my time having breakfast thnx to adhd) get to work at 9h15, have 1h break from 11h30 to 12h30, then 15min break from 15h30 to 15h45, get out at 16h45, get to college at 17h30, get to class at 18h, get home by 22h45 or 21h45, go to sleep around midnight or later. I even got sick in the second week. oh well, back to second month.Â
I was already overwhelmed with internship, college and living alone with my friend, when my dad decided to stop by for two days, he lives in another town, whenever he comes here I get even more anxious, itâs a family thing. he went to see my sisters in another state, came back a week later after fighting with them and only told me 6hrs before he got here and I had to pick him up at the airport at 1am. two days more of pure anxiety.Â
the month was ending and I have tests and seminars now that december started. I havenât been able to study for a single day even on weekends since college started bcs Iâm always too tired from work. I also started having classes on some saturdays, on other staurdays i had work bcs we needed to pay for the days we would stay home thanx to soccer (this is brazil after all 8-D). so yeah, sundays turned to pure hell, free days in the middle of the week only made it all worse to my biological fucked up clock.Â
I stayed home on the last day of november after taking my dad to his boat home. then I overslept the next day and said I had some personal business to take care. and damn I like this day. I could sleep a bit more, I got up and did some studying, then I went to college early and studied there too, until I met my friends for dinner. then we had class. oh yeah, class, specially this one, Japanese II, I started hating it in the first month of internship. it used to be my favorite class. I couldnât stand it on this day, even tho my spirits were just fine. and this is why Iâm writing this today.Â
I have a test in 8 days, japanese II, itâs usually a very long test and I really need to study kanji cause I suck at it. I sat down today (after hours of procrastinating) and after writing down half of the kanji i need to study, I started having anxiety, very hard anxiety, I started shaking and my hands and feet got cold, at every stroke or every read I would hate it more, I hated every second of studying for half an hour.Â
Now let me resume how I feel abt studying japanese. I love it (or loved). I started when I was 14 and loved it ever since, I got depression and after trying to get back to college I realized the only thing that could keep me there would be to study smth I Loved. and damn was I right. I simply LOVED my first two semesters, was super excited for the 3rd one, no matter how hard it got, it was FUN.Â
I hate it now. I feel like itâs killing me. I feel depression creeping in closer every day. and god that is one of the scariest feelings Iâve ever felt. no my depression is not cured or being treated. I donât have the money, even with the internship. but it was under control just fine for two semesters. now itâs loose and looking for me like a hungry wolf.
So anyway, I tried talking to people about this. but you see, Iâm the happy go duck type of person. nobody takes me fucking serious unless I start crying and shaking and shit. itâs always been like this. but thereâs another problem. I donât cry that easily. not for me. Iâm a total crybaby when it comes to fiction, gurl I start crying just from listening to love like you thinking abt TGCF. but crying in front of people? thatâs a weakness I was not allowed to have, and I locked it up deep inside. imo itâs almost a talent at this point, how much I can hold back tears no matter how bad I feel, no matter how scared I am of my own thoughts of hurting myself.Â
It hit me yesterday that no one is going to be on my side, when my oldest bff told me I was being a crybaby for wanting to quit the internship, âmoney is moneyâ, then I explained to her how bad it was and she just said âhmnmâ. my bff who lives with me? said sheâll beat me up if I leave it, we need the money, life has been to hard to give up on this money. my dad? he said âdo what you think best, we will do smth abt it (money)â (in a tone of âwe have no money, you should just hang in thereâ).Â
and well, I guess Iâve been too privileged my whole life, people just donât think Iâm having a hard time no matter how much I say Iâm having a hard time, itâs like everyone looks at me and goes âitâs hard for you bcs youâve never known true hardshipâ. and I know thatâs bullshit, I know hardship is not something to be compared. I also know Iâm privileged as fuck! so what is the truth? whoâs right? what am I supposed to do? like SHINee says, TELL ME WHAT TO DO.Â
you know whatâs worst? this internship is the first time my course got an opportunity to work with industries, it could open doors to all my peers and my cute juniors, also the lead teacher said âyou have a huge responsibility in your back, donât fuck it upâ. so yeah, no pressure lol.Â
if you read this until here you can comment smth or just move on, I donât really care. you canât say stuff like âask for helpâ tho, I already did several times during my years of depression, no one could do shit for me, I know what the people around me can do for me, none of it will help me right now.
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yknow while this hellsite continues on the whole religion discussion thing, iâd like to jump in on it with my experience particularly with leaving catholic school.
like aside from my angsty pop-punk/emo etc teen phase (whichâll obvs be weaved into story later on) that led me to have different views from the church and aside from the whole sexism thing that i endured over my year 10 formal/junior prom in 2010 and 2011 from staff thereâŚ.. i found it within myself incredibly hard to leave there⌠mostly because iâd known literally 1/3 of my year group at catholic school since kindy/kindergarten or some other point in primary school.
this affected my choice to leave and it was quite tumultuous inwardly. knowing the safety and predictably of the people i was with for all those years was a comfort to me. i knew their parents due to parent mixer bbqs that weâd have after motherâs day and fatherâs day liturgies- although i hated the motherâs day ones mostly, due to personal reasons. but to leave that comfortable place for overly loyal, kinda sorta shy (although everyone who knew me at that school wouldnâtâve described me as shy bc i was a very loud show off because of drama class đ
) and by year 10, very lonely, highly socially anxious and depressed, teen me was terrifying. it meant losing her friends and stability and she obvs hated that thought. it meant leaving the one one place she ever felt good at something, drama class.
obviously, after she did leave for public school, she visited the catholic school on a few separate occasions, to try and keep the connection âaliveâ or whatever the fuck she wrote in a fake deep status on her fb (that i now get in my fb memories every year lmao). but it all ended pretty badly, when everyone from that school stopped talking to her once high school finished. no one invited her out. or if people did try to invite her out, like a couple of people did, it always fell throughâŚ. and it made her feel like she was just a bad luck charm or whatever other low self esteem talk she was telling herself. there was quite a few moody statuses around that too lmao.
but yeah. leaving catholic school was a massive thing for me back then, because even though i hadnât gone to church on sunday for literal Y E A R S at that point; i still had a strong pull to that school because iâd known SO MANY kids at that school from primary/elementary/grade etc school, regardless of their year group level. because if thereâs one thing catholic school was good at, it was networking đ. you knew everyone, and everyone knew you. it was safe, it was sound, so i didnât want to leave.
but once you leave, you lose your friends and what almost felt like an extended family (although they obvs werenât). but at the same time, iâd grown to hate the safety and almost insularity of the school, because as i mentioned earlier, you felt like you could predict how people would react or behave in class/events etc.
i felt the above distinctly, because as iâve mentioned plenty on here, from years 7-10 i was a very emotionally demonstrative kid. in some classes (mostly religion and PE when i was bothered to participate) iâd end up in shouting matches with the teacher or other studentsâŚ. or yâknow just have a casual meltdown in the middle of class, which many people saw as âattention seekingâ behaviour. i felt watched, i felt ready to snap, and to quote the ever present All Time Low i felt like the bridge lyrics from âtherapyâ (which was/is quite obviously somewhat partially about the price of fame and hollywood imo- but that went over teen meâs head at the time lmao):
âarrogant boy, love yourself so no one has to, theyâre better off without you (better off without you). arrogant boy, cause a scene like youâre supposed to, theyâll fall asleep without you; youâre lucky if your memory remainsâ
like yes. iâll admit those bridge lyrics being applied to this time is rather overdramatic, in hindsight, but hey. that was teen me for ya lmao. and donât even get me started on applying ATLâs song âsick little gamesâ to this at the time as well đđ
. anyway. from all the âlms and iâll tell you what i like about youâ trend statuses that people were doing back then on fb, iâd gained the tag of âcool/chill girlâ, my crush rich boy, once called me âoutrageousâ because of how loud i was and how willing in years 7-9 to scream out stupid song lyrics like âi want to fuck dog in the assâ by blink 182, fight song by marilyn manson and then idek probably my humps by black eyed peas at the top my lungs through the very few halls that that school had đđ
. i was being purposely and annoyingly offensive most of the time.
but eventually, once it came to things like one of the girls in my group wanting to run for vice school captain and the other girls in my group A L W A Y S being given leadership positions (LPs)âŚ.. while i always had to apparently ârepentâ my behaviour by being made (in theory from my teachers) to sit alone at lunch because of my âembarrassingâ and âunseemlyâ behaviour at the so-called âtrainingâ/ âretreatâ days we had for things like being peer support leaders for the new cohort of year 7s etc etc. i felt like everyone was just waiting for me to leaveâŚ. and that they couldnât stand my âembarrassingâ presence and that iâd ruin my friends chances of being selected as co-captain or whatever other bullshit LPs they wanted to run for. but still. i felt like i couldnât leave. just. how do you leave a bunch of people that youâve known for so long???
and even when my teachers were nice enough to give me a chance in a leadership position once; in that dastardly bullshit internet safety workshop thing that they shouldâve literally just hired a professional workshop co. to doâŚ.. but to save money they used students in my year group instead. so, instead of being marked by my teachers on this program; i was marked by the catholic education office. they had a lady come in from the ceo to judge/mark us while presentingâŚâŚ and this lady went off at teen me for ânot being professional, responsible and respectfulâ or whatever the fuck the woman told 15/16yo meâŚ. which teen me then fired back with âi donât have to be fucking professional and responsible!!!! IM FUCKING 15!!!!â.. so from then on i was never given an LP or any other type of âpeer supportâ role against my friends who were littered with offers for them. mind you, i did call a whole room of 14 year olds âa bunch of cuntsâ or the like and then stormed out thinking that iâd made a solid point, so the CEO woman had a good reason đđ
âŚ.. again in hindsight.
of course there was also the bitterness of teen me being angry at the english dept for not giving her a spot in the top class of english in her half of the year. but as iâve said previously on other posts, iâve forgiven this because i did essentially fail one shakespeare in class assessment in year 8 or year 9 đ. but i strongly felt this during my time at catholic school bc my friends believed that i shouldâve been in the top english class too lmao.
but aside from those troubles and foibles, i still found it incredibly hard to leave. to leave the perceived closeness of that group of girls, who would sometimes walk me down to the office and sit with me in âpurple roomâ while i waited for the teacher that had to act as my therapist almost lmao. even though i always told my friends to leave me be and go back to class bc i felt bad about dragging them out of class for so long.
but yeah. with all the above behaviour, the song lyrics to me at the time made sense bc teen me just felt so pressured to fit into the whole âfunny, cool, outrageous girlâ bs box that people had put her inâŚ. but at the same time she wanted to escape it bc she was just *flyleaf voice* SO SICK of being laughed at instead of laughed with (atl weightless reference here kids) just because⌠like she DESERVED to be taken seriously for fucks sake, and not a be a âmonkey do funny danceâ person⌠she obvs felt this the most in drama class. where in the shakespeare unit, she picked a medley of romeo and juliet and taming of the shrew monologues to do for her monologue. although she nearly did lady macbeth throwing herself off the tower, to be hella edgyâŚ. but she opted not to do that in the end. but she picked serious pieces bc she was sick and tired of being classed as the one trick pony go-to funny person.
okay. this really went off topic. but yâall get the point??? the decision of leaving catholic school was a hell of a ride for little 14-16yo me. it was confusing, terrifying and tied up in years of being overly judged and feeling like people wanted me to leave bc they were sick of me. it was tied up in years of mid-class meltdowns that had become kind of routine for me to have, and that people were just brushing me off as âattention seekingââŚ. but also ironically waiting for me to snap at any second for another wild shouting match or walkout; which would then make me look like i was âunrulyâ or âuntameable/unmanageableâ or whatever the fuckâŚ.. but i couldnât take that anymore, for the final senior years. i HAD to leave it.
again it was hard to leave for loyal little teen me, despite how lonely and isolated she felt. why leave your friends when youâre comfortable??? but also: why stay in this toxic environment where people are just waiting for you to either shut the fuck up and put up with it or just blow up and absolutely lose your shit??? thatâs just unhealthy asf. and the only unruly thing thatâs happening here is the complete lack of mental health help or management in the aussie education system; but most especially in religious schools.
#life#about me#shut up ilona#ilonaâs catholic school memories#ilonaâs catholic school rants#sorry itâs another tl;dr in the feels post lmao
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Universe Falls turns 5 years old this week
I was 19 when I started it and still in college, in the throes of depression bc I hated college and wanted out even during the start of my sophomore year. I was homesick and had only a handful of friends bc I was shy as fuck back then and terrified of rejection (and had gone from a small pond back in high school where I was fairly popular to being an absolute nobody in college). I really, really fucking hated it during my freshman year and in particular and begged my dad to let me come home and go to college there instead of thousands of miles away. But for better or worse he made me stick it out even though I was absolutely miserable. But if there was anything that got me through that horrible freshman year it was my discovery of two shows:Â
Steven Universe and Gravity Falls
I binged SU first, having seen it when it first aired back in 2013 but then got back on the bandwagon for it around the time its first season ended, which was when I became a devout fan. GF was something I discovered through tumblr, I watched it not long after Not What He Seems premiered and fell in love hard and fast. I would spend hours watching and rewatching these episodes, reading fics and fan theories, speculating on what was going to happen next. Never before in my life had I ever discovered two shows that brought be so much joy and comfort until these two came into my life. I loved these characters, felt like they were the friends I knew I was lacking even though they were fictional. But they felt real, they felt alive to me.Â
So fast forward to August/September 2015. I had just started my sophomore year and so far wasnât having any better of a time than I had when I was a freshman. I still clung onto GF and SU as new, very exciting episodes were airing for both (that was the month we got the Last Mabelcorn and Catch and Release, for referenceâs sake). And then, one night, while I was falling asleep in my cramp dorm room I shared with a roommate I couldnât stand, the thought occurred to me:Â
What if you brought these two things you loved so much... together?
It was a random thought, almost insignificant, but in the days that followed, I just couldnât shake it. And the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to see these characters interact, the more I wanted to see their plots intertwine, the more I knew I was the one who had to write this since GF and SU crossovers were pretty scarce back then (unlike they are now in the new wave of SUF and GF crossovers that I donât much care for).Â
I was in the midst of a writing funk at the time, my ongoing Zelda fics all on hitaus while I began a new year at college. I had more or less lost passion for most of them, with the majority of them except my HW fic receiving low numbers of reviews and feedback (back then I didnât really know how to promote my fics like I do now). Even so, I started planning on this new project, but not without a bit of hesitation since Iâd never really worked with GF or SU characters before. But I began plotting out a chapter list (the original UF chapter list has been lost to the ages, I wrote it in an old homework planner during class), and I had decided that I wanted to try my hand at making this thing a comic. A hand drawn comic. And given that my drawing abilities were... subpar at best, yeaaaaah it wasnât the best idea....
Still, I got through two parts of UFâs âfirst chapterâ and posted them on here (theyâre still up somewhere if you wanna go back and cringe hardcore at my bad old art). Still, it had taken me a loooooong ass time to draw them and even more crazy was the fact that my laptop had crashed during that span of time, leaving me with only my shitty iPad to work with. Frustrated, I decided to forego the stupid comic altogether and write the damn thing as a fanfic, knowing I could get chapters out way faster than I ever would have by drawing it.Â
So I wrote the prologue and posted it on September 29, 2015. And letâs just say right off the bat people were excited. Iâd never seen so many reviews on the first chapter of one of my fics before and those numbers only started to go up the more I posted. I was jazzed up to work on this fic, pushed on by this encouragement as I decided to build my relatively reblogging-heavy blog up around it. Toward the end of the year, when I was nearing the end of arc 1, I decided to get myself a drawing tablet and download Sai so I could begin drawing my own art for the fic, leading to me first passes of character designs and UFâs old fugly cover lol
Still, I kept going with it into 2016, getting through both arcs 2 and 3 as the fic only began to grow more and more with more engagement from its fans. AUs were made, fanfics and fanarts of my fic were created, it was a glorious time to be alive, even going into 2017, 2018, 2019, and now. And all the while I kept at it, coming up with sequel plans, taking breaks every now and then to refresh and recoup, and to give the new pet project I started in 2019 (Keys to the Kingdom) some time to shine. But Iâve still never truly lost passion for UF. Itâs something I tend to see through to completion, no matter how long it takes.
Fast forward again and now its 2020. Iâm 24 years old and still going strong with it, having just completed RMD, an arc ender that I always hoped would be my magnum opus for this fic (and Iâm so incredibly proud of how it turned out). Both GF and SU have ended, their stories both told and their endings inspiring me in so many different ways. And while those stories are over, I still strive to keep these characters, or perhaps, my own unique takes on them, living on to tell new stories, to have new adventures right alongside the canon ones. To keep their flames going in the same spirit and hopefully try to follow, even in some small way, in the footsteps of Rebecca Sugar and Alex Hirsch, two of my absolute heroes in the animation world.Â
So UF turns 5 this week. Itâs half a decade old and itâs nearing its 100th chapter. Its passed the 1 million word mark quite some time ago and Iâm sure itâll pass 2 million before its all said and done. Itâs accumulated thousands of reviews, hundreds of followers/favorites, plenty of incredible fan interactions across the board. Itâs 9th arc is about to begin, leading the way into 2 more before its all said and done. And from there itâll only grow when I eventually write UF2 and UFF sometime way down the line. All things I could have never imagined doing as a lonely college sophomore back in 2015 when I was just starting this fun little experiment off. But as for where we are with it no, well, I wouldnât have it any other way.Â
So here we are in the future. And, well, for UF at least, Iâd say itâs pretty bright.Â
#i would have drawn something to accompany this post but ehhhh im busy#anyway ignore me im all emotional rn#my baby is technically old enough to start kindergarten#lol#jen writes#universe falls
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Genre: fluff, minor angst??
Pairings: jaehyun (nct) x female reader
Word count: 6k
Warnings: N/A
Notes: this is for @solilogyu bc i need to make her realise that she eventually needs to accept her Feelings for a certain valentines boy + i also realise its way past valentines but hey what can u do + i have no fucking idea about bowling. i had to wikihow. please dont hurt me i hope you can enjoy this and cait i hope you scream <3
//
âI donât think she likes me.â
It takes a while for anyone to respond to Jaehyunâs somewhat depressing statement, because half of them are engaged in shouting at each other while playing PUBG, and the other half are trying to do their homework. It is Yuta who responds first, bless him.
âWho? Who are we talking about exactly?â
Jaehyun takes back his words, that bastard. âYou know who Iâm talking about!â Jaehyun groans, rubbing his palms over his face and slumping back in his chair, homework long forgotten in front of him.
Yuta flicks a bit of eraser shavings at him, just to annoy him a little bit more. âAnd you can just ask her out to find out if she actually likes you or not, idiot,â Yuta says as-a-matter-of-factly, like Jaehyunâs dignity doesnât rest on the fact that he cannot ask her out just like that.
âI canât do that!â Jaehyun cries, frustrated and he swears heâs going to tear his hair out first before it falls out anyway because heâs just bleached it for the fifth time in three months.
âYeah,â Donghyuck pipes up from where heâs sprawled on the floor with Jaemin laying half on top of him, âhyung canât ask her out because being rejected will damage his frat boy ego. Canât let anyone know that our dear fuckboy â oops, hyung, was rejected, right?â Thereâs a mischievous grin on his face because he knows he wonât get into trouble.
âDong-hyuck!â Jaehyun says, but thereâs not one bite in his voice and he grabs his pen just to fiddle with it, spinning it repeatedly.
âStop that, youâre going to flick it into someoneâs face,â Taeyong says sternly, then softens when Jaehyun stops it and starts to bounce his leg instead. âListen, Jaehyun-ah. If she matters so much to you, it doesnât matter what other people think of you, or what she thinks of you. She will always be someone precious to you, one way or another.â
âJust take a chance, hyung,â Donghyuck adds, right after heâd sworn at the top of his voice loudly because Jaemin had team-killed him. âYouâre gonna regret it so much more if you never asked her out.â
âShe doesnât like me,â Jaehyun repeats, and he knows thatâs the truth. There may have been rumours that she liked him, and from the way her friends giggled and looked at him when they walked past, it had given him enough hope that maybe, perhaps, she liked him back just as he did⌠and yet.
Yet, she never gave him any hope. In the only class that they shared together, she never talked to him unless they were made to have a discussion or were grouped up for projects. And when she did talk to him, it was always polite, no trace of blush on her cheeks, just her calm, steady voice making this economics nonsense make sense to him.
It was not possible. She could not like him back.
That would be too much to hope for, and Jaehyun might be reckless but he isnât a fool. And somehow, in some ways, he is also a fool â to fall for her steady voice and bright eyes and soft hair and softer smile and â
He is a fool.
//
As much of a frat boy that Jaehyun looks like, all his friends know heâs secretly a romantic, notwithstanding Valentineâs birthday at all. Which is why, against all of his hope and logic, he decides he should write her a letter. Anonymously, of course, which all his friends protest hotly against.
âHow will she know if you write it anonymously?â Johnny asks incredulously, and theyâre bickering in whispers even though the common room is full of people chattering loudly.
âI just want to gauge her reaction!â Jaehyun hisses, and his eyes dart around the world, flitting from one person to the next and hoping neither she nor any of her ten thousand friends are in the room. Why does she have so many friends? That always have to be around her in a gaggle? Jaehyun is tired of flushing to the tips of his ears when he walks past, and they start giggling. (itâs just unnerving, he insists; johnny tells anyone with half an ear to spare that heâs shy.)
âAnd I gauge that you are an idiot,â Johnny concludes, calmly and then says in a much louder voice, âThe Valentineâs Box is just there, Jaehyun! Why donât you post your letter?â
Jaehyun has half a mind to tackle Johnny to the ground; the other half is contemplating how hard it could be to sink into the carpet and never rise again. Johnnyâs words had attracted some curious glances, and then they settled to watch him, interested.
âWow, thanks,â Jaehyun deadpans, but he walks up to the box and drops his letter in before he books it to the door with Johnny in tow.
âThat was the worst thing Iâve ever done,â Jaehyun starts to bemoan, âthe worst thing. Iâm so bad at this, Iâll just never move on from her and then Iâll live out the rest of my life being alone ââ
âOh, hello.â
Jaehyun comes to a screeching halt, just inches away from â her. Sheâs put her hair down today and â itâs silver. When did she bleach and dye her hair? He can already feel his ears start to become hot, and he wills himself to calm down.
âHi,â Jaehyun says, and his voice cracks on the single syllable.
She laughs a little, just the tiniest little thing that Jaehyun wants to hear again and again. âHow was the econs test? I didnât expect the 25 mark question to be so vague.â
Economics? What the fuck is that? Jaehyun can hardly say hi, let alone try to make his brain think about economics and free trade agreements and transfer pricing.
âOh, yeah, yeah it was. So vague. I just â scribbled something down. I think I talked about the transnational corporations at one point? Iâm not sure, I donât think Iâll do well,â Jaehyun says, managing to not stumble over his words and feeling so awkward with his hands because he doesnât know where to put them.
âI did too! I wasnât sure if that was the correct choice, but I didnât know what else to write⌠oh, did you post something into the box?â She asks suddenly, and Jaehyunâs heartbeat goes from slightly above average to notching at one hundred in two seconds.
âUm â yeah. Yes. I did. Just â yeah. I did.â
She doesnât seem to take notice of his flustered state, but Johnny is making stupid expressions at him behind her and Jaehyun swears to the highest powers out there that heâs going to bury Johnny and his six-foot ass into the ground later.
âHmm, I think I should as well. If the schoolâs popular guy sent a lucky girl something then perhaps, we should all join in, right?â
Jaehyunâs words dry in his throat. âWhat⌠popular?â
She snorts and pats his arm â a little condescendingly, Jaehyun would say. âYes, popular, you frat boy. Now I think we have to move, weâre blocking people.â For a moment, her hand lingers on his arm and the warmth bleeds through his shirt and itâs like all his nerve endings suddenly concentrate in that part of his body only. And then â she smiles.
Itâs like nothing Jaehyunâs ever seen before. Her eyes crinkle up sweetly, and her cheeks bunch up and someone accidentally switches on more lights in the room and they bathe her in white light, and it reflects against the silver of her hair. She cannot be from this world, and Jaehyun is hallucinating.
Pretty, Jaehyunâs mind helpfully supplies. So, so pretty.
âWell, Iâll see you around,â She says, and then her hand leaves his arm and the lights are dimmed again and all heâs left with is the glint of her silver hair making its way through the common room to a corner where all her friends have clustered.
âWow,â Johnny says, wolfish smile, and Jaehyun punches him in the arm for good measure. He canât pretend like heâs not flustered, but heâs also happy because that was the only time they had ever interacted outside classes, and if half an hour later, he can still feel warm where she touched him⌠thatâs only for him to know.
//
â19 years old!â Sicheng says cheekily, sidling up to Jaehyun on the morning of Valentineâs day as Jaehyun is sorting through the books in his locker. âHow does it feel to be old?â Sichengâs acting like he isnât the same age, turning nineteen in October, but Jaehyun overlooks it because one, Sicheng is cute and two, everyone loves Sicheng. Itâs just the rules.
âYou mean, how does it feel to be pining over someone for 6 months?â Johnny sings, and slowly, the hallway starts filling up with students, all chattering in low tones about their day, or if they had bought roses or sent a letter. It only makes Jaehyun remember heâs sent her a letter.
Jaehyun glares at him. âItâs my birthday. You have to be nice to me, thatâs the law.â
Johnny rolls his eyes, then hands him a small, wrapped box. âWhatever. Happy birthday, Jaehyun-ah. Youâll get the dozen of roses I bought for you later,â He adds, winking cheesily, and Jaehyun pretends to balk.
âWhat, one for every year weâve known each other?â Jaehyun asks dryly.
âOh, hereâs mine too!â Sicheng says, and rummages around in his bag before producing a soft, wrapped parcel with a note attached to it.
âThank you,â Jaehyun says, and reaches over to hug Sicheng. Johnny makes an outraged sound, and starts going off on a spiel about how Jaehyun never appreciates anything and I spent so long picking out this present and I donât even get a simple thank you! and itâs all really so entertaining but then a steady, familiar voice cuts through the dramatic of Johnnyâs monologue.
âAm I interrupting something?â The voice asks, amused, and Jaehyun thinks both his brain and heart stops for a second.
âOh, not at all,â Johnny says, quick to react.
âNothing at all,â Sicheng adds, very helpfully. âIn fact, Johnny-hyung and I were going to get coffee! Right?â
Johnny nods enthusiastically. âAbsolutely. Now, if you will excuse us, we have some very important business to attend to.â He offers the crook of his arm very seriously to Sicheng, who accepts it and then they go off into the hallway and the turn to the vending machines so that Jaehyun is left â with her.
âI see youâve already got Valentineâs gifts,â She says, smiling a little as she spots the two packaged in his hands.
âAh, this â itâs just presents, from my friends,â Jaehyun explains hastily. âI⌠donât think anyone got me Valentineâs gifts, anyway. Or if they do, they say that itâs a present. Itâs kind of a shitty move, isnât it?â He remarks, a little hollow because he can reject Valentineâs Day presents all right but to reject what someone he doesnât know insists is a birthday gift⌠Jaehyun doesnât want to be guilt-tripped into accepting something.
And all of a sudden, something changes in her expression. Itâs like something heâs said thatâs acted as a light switch, and her soft, open expression is suddenly schooled into something alarmingly like steel.
âI see. Well, I just wanted to tell you happy birthday. See you,â She says hastily, and then turns around where she came from. For two seconds, Jaehyun is sure he sees something in her hand that she then clutches to her chest, but then sheâs walking away and â and Jaehyun is too shocked to do anything other than stare after her.
What did he say? What did he do? Did he have something in his teeth â or did he do his hair weirdly today?
Jaehyun spends the next ten minutes contemplating about whether he should just go and ask the student council to take his note out so it wonât be sent, and then the next ten minutes as he walks to class wondering why he ever chose to have a crush in the first place. Itâs unnecessary, too much work, and not good for his heart.
Except his mind reminds him a couple beats later that she is clever, and kind and patient, and her eyes make the ugly florescent lamps look like a million stars and she can explain ridiculous concepts to him that actually make sense. Sheâs funny and laughs a bit too loudly and her friends look at him weird but all of that is her and god, Jaehyun is so whipped.
Itâs fine, he convinces himself when class finally starts and he blinds the teacher with a charming smile so she wonât notice his homework is half-assed when he hands it in. He wonât be there when she receives the letter, and anyway, she wonât know it was him because itâs anonymous. Itâll be fine.
//
Everything is about to be a little less fine.
âJung Jaehyun.â
Itâs lunch time, and Jaehyunâs barely managed to step into the cafeteria before heâs accosted by one of her friends. He smiles at her and tries to remember her name â Hyerin? Hyolin? Fuck, this isnât going well already.
âHello,â He says nervously.
âWe have to meet up for the discussion for the debate team now, remember? Have you written your opening speech?â
âRight,â Jaehyun says, the realisation dawning over him abruptly. âIâve done it, donât worry. Is it okay if I grab a sandwich and Iâll meet you in the common room? Iâve got the speech written on my phone.â
âYeah, thatâs fine. The rest of the team is waiting there as well.â She waves a hand at him â Jaehyun still does not remember her name â and she exits, leaving Jaehyun to blink after her and make his way to the section where cold lunch is available.
âHi, hyung. Are you going somewhere with Hyunae?â Itâs Mark, whoâs eating lunch with the younger ones in their ridiculous circle of friends, and theyâre all looking at him with wide, eager eyes. Jaehyun feels very much attacked, like heâs surrounded by a bunch of wolves.
ââVe got debate team,â Jaehyun mumbles, blindly reaching for a sandwich and then picking a fruit for good measure.
âWell, the letters are being delivered now, hyung,â Renjun says, smiling so sweetly that Jaehyun thinks he can trust Renjun for one second until he remembers that Renjunâs on the student council.
Jaehyun narrows his eyes. âAnd?â
Renjun blinks at him. âWhat do you mean? Iâm just telling you⌠information that could potentially be really useful to you in the next half an hour or so. Also, youâre about to drop your sandwich.â
Jaehyun squints at them one last time before he backs out the door of the cafeteria. The moment he leaves, he swears he hears a wave of guffaws coming from them, and the tips of his ears burn. One day the Dreamies will get themselves into trouble and he wonât save them, thatâll teach them. (of course he will. everyoneâs got a soft spot for the dreamies, including him, and if helping them means he gets into trouble he will gladly do so. just â no one can know about this.)
The common room only has a few students mulling about, presumably because everyone else is eating lunch, and so Jaehyun makes his way over to the corner where his team is settled. Theyâre all eating lunch and there are papers spread out on the table in front of them, half eating and half discussing.
âYouâre here,â Hyunae cheers as Jaehyun sits down. âWe were waiting for your opening speech so that Minjun can correct his since heâs going after you.â
âSorry â here, Iâll just forward it to you guys.â Jaehyun fiddles with his phone for a little before phones start pinging with the document heâs forwarded.
âAlright,â Minjun starts, but as soon as he starts to talk, the common room door opens and people start filing in, laughing and talking, and everyone sighs collectively. But it doesnât even stop there â a few members of the student council come in right after that, each holding a package of letters and eyes darting around the room looking for their targets.
Jaehyunâs so distracted by the sudden influx of people and noise that he doesnât notice her settling in a sofa next to his group.
âHey, having fun, Hyunae?â She calls and laughs when Hyunae makes a face. Then she catches his eye, and she smiles at him, just a little, small one that is no less precious than the one he saw a couple days ago. He has to smile back and then tear his eyes away before the red in his ears transfer to his cheeks.
Just in time, a member of the student council â Myungsoo â comes to their group and starts handing out letters. âIs Minjun-ssi here⌠alright, here are yours. Oh â Daehyun, here are some for youâŚâ He fiddles around and hands them around.
Jaehyun doesnât really expect to receive any, and yet Myungsoo really has the audacity to hand over the rest of his stack to Jaehyun. âHere you go!â Myungsoo says cheerfully, âThis is all yours, Jaehyun-ah.â Then he winks at Jaehyun and goes off with barely contained laughter as Jaehyun lobs some of his orange peel at Myungsoo.
Ignoring his teammates giggling and nudging him, he flicks through the letters slowly, seeing names on them. Theyâre all from his friends, including a collective one from the Dreamies that he immediately opens, only to see that all it says is Valentineâs in big letters and â itâs even spelled wrong. Still, he canât help but grin, seeing their messy signatures scrawled at the bottom, and he puts it away to sort through the remaining pile of mess on his lap.
Johnny has sent one, a thick envelope that Jaehyun is sure is full of glitter; then the rest are all named, Taeyong and Yuta and Jungwoo and Sicheng, just to name a few, and then â thereâs one with no name.
Itâs a plain blank envelope, with his name written in neat, dark ink and the words are pressed so hard into the letter that they seem like engravings. Jaehyun frowns â the handwriting looks familiar, but he canât seem to place it.
With his teammates equally as distracted by the letters, Jaehyun decides he can open this particular letter now. He unfolds the envelope, and he feels an unusual sense of peace, like two pieces of his life are about to slide into place in a few moments, and then he slides the piece of paper inside out. The words are inked so hard that the back of the letter feels like an engraving, and god, the writing is so, so familiar.
Even as Jaehyun reads over the letter â the contents simple, just, âI like you, but I know you donât, so I just want to confess to you to get over my feelings. And happy birthday as well, Jaehyun-ah. Happy Valentineâs Day! I hope the lucky person who gets your letter receives it well.â â he is completely distracted by where heâs seen this writing before.
It isnât until he sees her stand up to receive a couple of letters that it clicks.
It canât be.
It cannot be.
No way â the same letters on this letter â and the letters heâs seen countless times before in Economics â the way theyâre pressed so hard onto paper â but there isnât a signature at the end of the letter? â and⌠and can it really be her?
Jaehyunâs heart is in his throat as he reads the letter again, this time going over the words, and she likes him too and god, he almost wants to stand up and go over there and ask if this letter is from her, but heâs frozen and suddenly sheâs standing up and looking around her frantically and then she sees him, and their eyes lock onto each other and she gestures to go outside, clutching some letters to her chest.
Jaehyun doesnât even think about it, just ups and leaves the common room behind her and then theyâre in the relatively quiet hallway and itâs like this morning all over again.
âYou â this is yours?â She asks, and thereâs a degree of hesitation to her words, like she doesnât believe it.
Jaehyun takes a look at the letter she holds out. âYes. Itâs me.â He doesnât know what else he can say when his heart has already stopped beating and then sheâs looking at him, eyes brighter than the fluorescent hallway lights and he thinks he forgets how to breathe as well.
âItâs not a prank, is it?â She says, and her voice is so small Jaehyun wants to shake her. âYouâre not â writing this for fun, are you?â
âDid you write this for fun, then?â Jaehyun asks in return, and shows her the letter. His hand is shaking but thatâs inconsequential.
âNo!â She says, tearing her eyes away from the letter to land on his face, then his shoulder then somewhere behind him. âI didnât â I didnât. That was â what I felt. I just, I donât understand why â I donât⌠you donât ââ
And then all Jaehyun can do is to look into her eyes and then the first thing he says is, âTransfer pricing.â
She looks at him again at that, startled by the sudden mention of their classes. âWhat?â
âTransfer pricing. Just â at the beginning of the term, we were learning about transfer pricing and god, I didnât understand one single words from our bullshit teacher but then we were in a group and you explained it so well to me and I justâŚâ He trails off and pushes a hand through his hair, feeling the heat in his cheeks as he tries to put his feelings into words.
âYou were so nice to me,â He finally says. âYou were so patient and kind, even though you didnât need to do any of that and youâre also really funny. And, I guess it helps that youâre pretty,â He finishes, and his face must be in flames, but heâs said it and itâs done.
But then â sheâs blushing. His eyesight is not as bad as Kunâs or Sichengâs or Lucasâ, so he must be seeing it right. Sheâs blushing. There is red in her cheeks and she refuses to meet his eyes and god, sheâs so fucking cute.
âI hate you, Jung Jaehyun,â She finally says, but sheâs looking at him with red cheeks and a small smile and her silver hair spills messily onto the side of her shoulder and â Jaehyun thinks his crush is running deeper than he initially thought.
âChange your mind?â Jaehyun offers with a sudden rush of courage he doesnât know came from where. âThis weekend, Iâll take you bowling, at the alley by the beach. What do you think?â
âIs this a date, Jung?â She asks, raising one eyebrow.
âYes,â Jaehyun admits, âand Iâd be really, really happy if you said yes, because I like you too.â
And then, she smiles again. Bright and loud and it curls the corners of her mouth and Jaehyun wants to imprint this one moment into his mind for the rest of his life. âWell, youâre lucky, because I want to make you happy, Jaehyun,â She says, and then Jaehyun can feel the smile stretching his own lips, so wide but still not enough to convey the leap of his heart.
For now, this will have to be enough until the weekend.
//
Donât crash, donât crash, donât run a red light, Jaehyun reminds himself as he drives through the streets, glancing at his phone every now and then to check heâs going the right way. Heâs hands feel oddly cold even though itâs approaching spring and he jacks up the heating in his car a little more.
Itâs Saturday, just after lunch, and there are no cars on the street. Itâs a refreshing change from the usual jams of morning or evening when he drives to or from school, but itâs also refreshing because â heâs going to pick her up.
For a date.
Just the thought makes him nervous and excited in equal parts, and he nearly misses taking a right turn because of it. She had texted him to pick her up at two, but heâs already here and itâs just ten to, so he thinks heâs got some spare time to kill. Right at the same moment, his phone chimes with a notification so he parks his car by the side of the road and checks it.
[13:49] youâre coming at 2 right?
[13:49] Iâm ready so you can pick me up anytime ^^
[13:50] oh
[13:50] if youâre ready Iâm here
[13:50] but donât rush!!
[13:51] take your time, I can wait for you ^~^
[13: 54] no no thatâs fine
[13:54] Iâm ready anyway
[13:55] and itâs almost 2
[13:55] Iâll be coming out~~
Jaehyun has five minutes to calm down and not make himself seem like a fool in front of her. Tall order, considering how jittery heâs already been when heâs around her â and theyâre together a lot more often now. Since Valentineâs Day, theyâd spent a fair few lunchtimes together and hung out once after classes at the convenience store.
Jaehyun had bought her an ice-cream bar, only for her to snort and then eat it.
âWhat?â Jaehyun had asked, bewildered.
âIâm kinda lactose intolerant,â She says, shrugging. Half of the ice cream bar is gone.
Jaehyun panics. âYouâre what? Stop eating the ice cream then!â
âToo late,â She sings, throwing the wooden stick away and laughing. âI really donât mind, Iâll just suffer. How can I not eat it when youâve bought it for me?â
He had ended up buying her two samgak kimbaps to make up for it, and theyâd sat on the bench in the nearby park to eat.
Jaehyun remembers every moment fondly, but then he sees her stepping out from her house, locking the door behind her and jogging up to his car with a small smile on her face. He fumbles to unlock the car and then she slips into the passenger seat and turns to him with a bright smile.
âHello! This is for you.â She hands him a small bouquet of daisies and then reaches over, busies herself with putting her seatbelt on.
Jaehyunâs clutching the flowers and thereâs heat coming into his cheeks and he has to pass an arm over his face because heâs blushing and heâs blushing hard because he likes her so much and she brought him flowers and â wow, heâs really in this deep, huh.
âAre you blushing? Have I made the infamous Jung Jaehyun blush?â She asks, teasing in her voice but her cheeks are red too and she looks pleased.
âThank you,â Jaehyun eventually says, when his voice has returned. âThese are really pretty, thank you so much.â
âYouâre welcome,â She says softly, and then right there, in the quiet between them in the car, in the late afternoon sun, Jaehyun thinks maybe he falls in love. Itâs simple, like the dawn of the sun and the set of it, the formation of clouds and the fall of rain, the wilt of winter and then the bloom of spring; everything is simple and their course has been set.
The sun shines so bright on the tarmac that Jaehyun has to pull down the sun visor, but her laughter is brighter in his ears and when he looks over at her at the red lights, she is already looking at him, ruby lips and diamond eyes and Jaehyun doesnât want this moment to end.
They pull into the parking lot just as itâs half past, and by the time heâs killed the engine and gotten all his stuff together, she has gotten out of the car and has opened the door for him. As he gets out, she bows very seriously and even curtsies a little.
He stares at her and she at him, challenging, but then they burst into laughter two seconds later, and it is only natural that he takes her hand, interlacing their fingers as they walk into the bowling alley.
When they get it, they pay and get their shoes, and then bicker about which bowling balls they get to have, and Jaehyun eventually relents, lets her have the bowling balls she prefers. He only does so because he knows heâs absolutely going to smash her score regardless of whatever bowling ball he has, and so armed with this confidence, he sits back and lets her make the first roll.
As it turns out, sheâs pretty good. She knocks down six, and then another two, and she grins at him smugly.
âGonna do better than me, Jung?â
âYou bet I will,â He returns, and waits for the pins to be set in place before he takes his stance. The movements are safe, and familiar, and when he does let the ball roll, he knows itâll be a strike before it even hits the pins.
Thereâs a gasp of surprise from behind him when all the pins topple over, and he only smirks a little to himself as he rolls the second ball, and that scores a spare too.
He goes back to the bench with a too-smug expression on his face, so he deserves the solid hand to his chest from her.
She pouts a little when she concentrates, Jaehyun notes idly, and then the tips of his ears start to burn when he realises what heâs doing.
Still, she doesnât give up, just concentrates and then rolls a perfect middle, knocking down all the pins. She lets out a little victorious, âYes!â and then makes a face at him before going in for her second throw. Jaehyun is distracted by the silver of her hair that he doesnât see she makes a seven and that itâs his turn to throw.
âStop spacing out,â She says, kicking at his feet as she sits down, âit doesnât look good on you.â
âI look good in everything,â He protests, and then scores a nine.
âBoo! Stop hyping yourself up, frat boy.â
âI canât hype myself up when Iâm naturally talented,â Jaehyun argues, but then heâs distracted as he makes the roll and he messes it up slightly. Of course he would.
He may be good at bowling, but she is stupid competitive and also petty as hell, so her scores start to catch up with him as they play, and he has to actually play really, really well to stay in the lead. She overtakes him at one point in the seventh frame, and he only manages to pull ahead in the ninth frame, at which she glares at him hotly for.
Itâs his last throw now, and he has to make it count.
With the burn of her gaze on the back of his neck, he goes in for the last throw â and all the pins are knocked down. Letting out a loud whoop of glee, he turns to face her, hands on his hips and grinning smugly as she rolls her eyes at him.
âYou won by a five-point difference!â She says as they turn their shoes in. âThatâs not a significant difference, that was luck ââ
âI won fair and square,â Jaehyun says, and then ties the trailing lace of her other shoe because she couldnât be bothered. âStop being so petty, you can beat me next time.â
âOh you bet I will, Jung,â She says, just the tiniest bit of sulking in her voice. Itâs both endearing and adorable for him to look at her sulking over a five-point difference in their bowling scores, so instead he pulls her to the fast food restaurant next door.
âCâmon, letâs get some fries,â He says, taking her by the wrist and dragging her out slightly. âStop being so grumpy, it doesnât look good on you,â He adds, repeating what she told him a couple hours ago, and she snorts, then aims a soft punch at his arm.
âWhere are we going after this?â She asks as they wait in line to buy the fries, and sheâs moved her hand to hold his properly. Sheâs not looking at him and is studying the menu board very studiously, so he squeezes her hand a little in return.
âI thought we could go walk on the beach, since itâs right next to the building. And the sunâs almost setting so itâll be pretty nice. What do you think?â
She sighs, rubs a thumb over his. âStop being so good at everything, Jung. Youâre going to make me actually like you.â
âThat is the point though, isnât it?â Jaehyun teases, then lets go of her hand to pull her into his side, slipping his arm around her waist. âDo you wanna get two packets of fries?â
Her cheeks are red but she doesnât stutter over her words. âAh â isnât it cheaper to get one big one? We can shareâŚâ She trails off, like sheâs just realised how romantic that could be; Jaehyun jumps on her silence and capitalises on it.
âYes, yes youâre right. Letâs⌠hello, can I get one large fries, please? Yes, itâs just that⌠thank you.â He has to let go of her waist to fiddle with his wallet and take the change and receipt, but as soon as he stows his wallet away again, she slips her arm through his and leans in close.
âNext time Iâm gonna beat your ass at bowling,â She says, side-eyeing him. âNo mercy.â
âYou keep trying, babe,â Jaehyun says, the pet name slipping out carelessly as he watches the screen carefully as so not to miss their order.
âBabe?â She asks a beat later, in a slightly strangled voice.
âOh â sorry, it just slipped out. Do you like it â are you comfortable with it?â
âStop being so cute for two seconds, Jung Jaehyun!â She hisses, but there is only adoration in her eyes, tenderness on her lips.
âIâll stop being so cute if you stop being so pretty,â Jaehyun replies sweetly, and right then, under the shitty lights of some fast food restaurant, he can only see her, her silver hair and bright eyes and small smile, and he only looks away when their order number is called out.
They collect their fries and head out, going round the back of the building to where an expanse of sand stretches out before them before the waves come up to lap at the shore. The sun has just started to set, casting a soft orange glow around them so that the sand shines golden and the waves are coloured red and yellow.
Her arm is tucked in his and she holds the fries as they start to stroll slowly along the beach, fries bursting salty over their tongues and hot in the mild cold of the coming spring.
Itâs peaceful, and the silence isnât awkward; itâs calming after the rush of their bowling game, and Jaehyun doesnât think it could have gone any better. He hadnât ever expected anything to come out of this crush of his, and yet here he is, on the beach with his crushâs arm in his and her hair glowing its own moonlight.
âItâs so nice out here,â She says quietly, and a soft smile comes over her face. âIâd forgotten how nice it was to come out here. Thank you for bringing me here,â She adds, looking up at him, and heâs so distracted instantly, his focus going from everywhere around him to only her, pinpricks of his nerves all focused on her.
Which is why he yelps and drops some of the last fries in his hands when a seagull suddenly squawks loudly, obnoxiously somewhere overhead.
âYour face,â Is all she says before she starts laughing, snorting so hard sheâs bent over and stumbling as they continue to walk along the beach. âOh, my god, I canât believe you got scared of a bird, Jaehyun! What else is going to scare you? And you wasted those fries, what a shame.â
âShut up,â Jaehyun says, pouting a little.
âYou big baby,â She says, smiling and poking his dimple lightly. âDonât worry, Iâll protect you from any big, bad seagulls that want to steal your fries.â Jaehyun takes a look at the box of fries, notes that there are only a few more left, and then he makes his decision.
He spins them so theyâre face to face, her hand still on his cheek and now he winds an arm around her waist and the other cups the back of her neck gently, feels the softness of her hair as it spills through his fingertips like molten silver.
âJaehyun?â She asks, quiet, and her hand moves to cup his jaw; the other is braced on his shoulder, the box of fries just barely held between her fingertips â he can feel it pressing against his arm.
âYou know, I didnât think I would ever get to take you out on a date,â Jaehyun starts, voice low and tone reverent. âI just thought â you were too good. I didnât think I could actually try and get you to like me. Do you⌠think it worked?â
Thereâs a moment of silence, and then sheâs looking at him, really looking at him, eyes bright and beautiful and sheâs starting to smile, the curling of the edge of her lips into her cheeks.
âYou, Jung Jaehyun⌠I hate you the most, really,â She says, but sheâs breathless and there is pink in her cheeks and her hair is a mirror and her hand is still warm on his cheek and there is no bite to her words.
âGlad to know the feelingâs mutual,â Jaehyun says, and his eyes crinkle into a pretty smile and his dimples are so deep she thinks it holds all the love he has for his friends, his family, everyone. She looks up again and thereâs warmth blazing in his eyes and her heart is a rapid succession of thumpthumpthump that she hopes he canât hear.
âWould your feelings change any further if I kiss you?â Jaehyun whispers now, and itâs like the whole world stops for a moment, and everything that matters is only them.
âWhy donât you find out?â She murmurs, so close against him that her words feel like the sea breeze against his cheek, and then â he kisses her.
Itâs the sea breeze and the setting sun and the rush of the waves and the grains of sands in their shoes; it is all and everything and now and forever; it is warm even though it is cold and it is home even though theyâre the only ones on a bare beach.
ââVe changed my mind,â She says when they separate, and he can still feel the press of her lips against his. Her eyes are still closed and their foreheads are pressed together. âI think I really like you, Jung Jaehyun.â
She opens her eyes again and Jaehyun only has to look into them one more time to have a bit more bravery.
âThen, be my girlfriend?â
âYes, Jung.â
#drabbles#nct#nct fanfiction#jaehyun#jaehyun fanfiction#look at me writing 6.5k in 2 days#i rly overachieved huh#anyway tumblr doesnt have line breaks anymore i am FURIOUS#i hope u enjoy this at any rate cait!!!!!!!!!!
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Anthropology is something I've been interested in since I was a kid, and it's what I might go to school in, but I'm also torn as Hell bc ever since I was a kid, if someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would always, without fail, say an "artist" or "writer". And my parents were always super supportive of that. But it seemed like growing up, nobody else really was. I went into public school in 2nd grade, and as soon as I started telling teachers and guidance counsellors that I wanted to be a writer or an artist they'd kind of laugh and say how that would be a very hard job. And that I could be anything I wanted to be, I liked science, right? I liked computers? Why don't I be a scientist or write code? And when I said I wanted to be a writer/artist, they'd always pause and start with "but you won't make any money that way..." and idk. Like. Gradually I started to give in, because that started all the way up from third grade into high school.
And I still held onto that conviction for years, I just stopped telling teachers and adults what I wanted to do. I drew and wrote voraciously as a kid, but I never showed anyone in school my stuff, ever. But as I got older and in High School, I started genuinely looking up to my teachers. Honestly, it made me feel a bit seen, ya know?
But... then I showed my English teacher my poems. I wrote them based on very personal feelings of depression and loneliness, abandonment, hurt. And she read them all, looked at me, then back at the book, and told me "This isn't poetry." And didn't say anything else. I still held onto my beliefs. Until I went into 10th grade and my guidance counselor dropped my Art 2 class that I had put on my schedule and replaced it with criminal justice, which I had no interest in at all, so that I could get some kind of low-level scholarship by that year (like. Insanely low-level. I don't think it was even enough to pay for books with.) By the time I realized the issue, the school year had already started and they wouldn't let me change it back to Art 2, even though Art was always my favorite subject and it let me decompress after classes.
And honestly, I think that was the start of my issues that I have with my art/writing, and the end of my dreams of writing an amazing novel or painting the next great masterpiece. I still want to create, but I'm afraid it's not going to be good enough. That people won't like it. And that's tanked my motivation over the years. It's hard for me to even start a drawing anymore, much less finish it. It's why I've kept most of my projects to myself over the years and I only tell my friends.
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hewwo my fwiends it's currently real Loving Seaside Hours⢠again as spurred by talking to a blessed pal of mine earlier today about our comfort characters, so as I'm tryina ride out this thunderstorm going on outside so I can actually go to sleep I'm just gonna take a moment and gush about this robot and how and why he means so much to me, that alright w y'all lmao
putting a breaker on this bc I already know it's gonna get long and ramble-y lmao. Not gonna mind if u skip this over and don't bother reading it, I just wanna kinda shout into the void about my ocs a bit, don't mind me!
HEY SO YEE I JUST RLLY RLLY LOVE MY BIG DUMB ROBOT SO SO MUCH AAAAAA HE MEANS THE WORLD TO ME AND I COULD NEVER SELL OR TRADE HIM EVER AND I JUST WISH I HAD MORE DISPOSABLE INCOME TO USE TO JUST BUY MORE COMMISSIONS OF HIM BECAUSE GOD EVERY TIME I DRAW HIM AND EVERY TIME SOMEONE ELSE DOES TOO MY HEART JUST FUCKIN SWELLS W LOVE AND HAPPINESS!!!!! THIS ONE LITTLE TRANSFORMERS OC DOES THAT MUCH!!!!!!!! AND ITS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAA
ok but. For real now, besides my initial screams that I had to get out hksjdks. Y'all wanna hear some insight into what all went into making him and why he means so much to me and all. Strap in bc it's gonna get Real
let's start with something pretty well known. Maybe not coming from me but a well known fact regardless lmao. Truth be told I wrote out from the paragraph below this one to the bottom without writing an introduction first and I'm too tired to try to come up with anything good now so uh. Hopefully this isn't too jarring hkshdksk my bad y'all my bad.
Anyways. Mental health! Fucked mental health! that's so much fun right!!
Haha yeah. Nah. We all know this. Being depressed is rlly wack y'all. It fuckin messes up ur head big time. I still don't know if I have downright depression, because I still haven't been properly diagnosed, and I never rlly associated my symptoms and the way I was feeling with depression bc it didn't line up with the stereotypical symptoms of depression, so I was (and still am) just calling it my "existential crisis". That was rlly the only word I could use to describe it. And it was dark and it was lonely and crushing and so, so awful. Despite the fact that I had an extremely loving and supportive friend group, I was always, ALWAYS afraid of speaking up about it. Despite them and all, I still felt super SUPER alone in the way I was feeling about life, my future, and my general purpose. This was all just reinforced by my parents and other adults in my life who I tried to come to in the past who would brush me off by saying I was overreacting, or that I'll "figure it out, because everybody does", or just generally not really understanding or showing any empathy at all. It took my entire life up until SENIOR YEAR ENGLISH CLASS when I went to my teacher about how I was feeling about a certain project that was triggering my symptoms, and that was the first time in my life when any adult had actually shown any sort of understanding or sympathy towards me and my feelings. That was the first time in my life where my mental struggles were validated by someone I respected and held to high regard.
But I still felt so very very alone, with no one to really talk to or who I knew was going through the same thing as me. So I ended up just,, , making someone who did.
Fun fact, before I really went ham on his development, Seaside was just gonna be a one-off oc with a happy go-lucky attitude and not much else about him. It was only until I heard the song What We Will Never Know (which later ended up becoming one of his theme songs bc of this) for the first time that I decided "WAIT,,. ,, BUT,, , WHAT IF,,. , ,,, , I MADE HIM SAD TOO" pretty much hkHKDJDJSK and that's what kick started his development!!
here I was, this sad, depressed, deeply lonely bitch with a love for making characters who played on extensions of myself, finally able to make something to cope with how awful I was feeling all the time. And that's what Seaside kinda was to me at first, he was my coping mechanism for working through hard bouts of my existenial crisis. I crafted his backstory to fit EXACTLY what I was going through at the time. He was content but never truly happy with how his life had been for as long as he could remember, then something exciting and new happens and he's suddenly thrust into a brand new world with so many new possibilities, but as he starts to settle in he realizes just how lost and alone he truly is in this new environment and he doesn't know where to go or what to do with himself. This is literally, EXACTLY a point-to-point retelling of my experience going through high school, graduating, and trying to figure out what to do with my life all with my mental health rapidly deteriorating around me. And having someone like that in my life, even fictional, even one I literally made up myself, made me feel better. I'd daydream scenarios of of us going on little adventures at the beach at night where no one else would see him in robot mode (gotta keep up the disguise aspect and all), but mostly it was just us hanging out, usually cuddled up to each other bc it gets cold on the beach at night, looking up at the stars, chillin and talking and just taking comfort in each other's presences and knowing that we weren't alone in our struggles. And I KNOW that sounds super stupid and cringey and dumb but like, that's genuinely what made, and still does, make me happy and it's what I used to help me hold on just a little longer to get through some of the really rough periods of my existenial crisis. When it got super bad, when I still even couldn't tell my closest friends about how low I was feeling, I still at least had Seaside with me to help me cope.
it wasn't until it got to the point where I was pretty much (lovingly) forced to wake up to the reality that I was rapidly becoming genuinely suicidal that things finally started to change, even just a little bit. I only very recently finally started to get my mind right, I finally told my parents the whole truth about how I was feeling, I got put on some meds that are honestly doing WONDERS for me rn, and I'm definitely in a much better place mentally then I was just a few months ago. I certainly still have a long way to go, but for now I'm just trying to enjoy the ride and just soak up and relish in the fact that I'm, for the first time in years, genuinely going about my days just happy to be out here living life without constantly being weighed down by the soul crushingly empty sorrow that hung over me 24/7. (and to said close group of friends, if you're indeed reading this, this may be the first time you're hearing about what I've been going through all the time, and if that's the case, I'm gonna have to kindly ask that you not come to me about it. I'll know when I'm ready to talk about this openly, but now I don't think I am. I'm really sorry to have kept it from y'all for so long, it really was just eating me up inside, but I think I explained myself well enough)
so now that I'm doing much better mentally, Seaside's outlook has kinda changed, but at the same time, not really?? he's still my comfort character for sure, always will be, but now he's not so much a coping mechanism as he is just a solid source of happiness and peace to turn to every now and again. This one little transformers oc just genuinely makes me really really happy, and I love to just soak it all in and feel every little thing!! We still share the not knowing what we're doing with our lives aspect of ourselves, but now it's a little less completely lost and anguished and hopeless and a little more hopeful and reassuring. Things are gonna be ok. We'll figure this out at our own pace. And we'll still have each other to turn to at every step of the way.
there's a lot of different kinds of comfort energies that many different kinds of comfort characters give off, and different ones resonate more with different people. The most common one I'll see at least is a kind of is parental comfort, someone you can come to for guidance in life because they have the experience to advise you on what to do and can be almost a better pseudo-parental figure. Mom friend types, loving dad energy, that kind of thing. Someone to protect you and give you big strong hugs and stuff. Seaside gives off a similar yet very different kind of comfort energy to me. It's not parental in any way because he's far too young (relatively, even in Cybertronian standards. He'd be like, mid to late 20s in human years) and inexperienced, and, frankly, still a little too naive and unknowing about a lot of things to really be someone to turn to for guidance or just generally be a pseudo-parental figure, but instead, he's just a good friend. He's a perfect kind of friend that'd stand by your side and will always be there for you through the ups and downs of life, someone who knows how to cheer you up when you're sad, someone you can share a solidarity in where you know you're experiencing the exact same struggles. He's just a good shoulder to lean on and a constant reminder that I'm never alone. And I couldn't ask for anything better tbh
so yeah. There's my ramble I guess lmao. To sum it up rlly I just love this big dumb robot w all my heart and soul and I'm so so glad I made him đđđ
#words of meg#meg's ocs#seaside#ramble#tw: suicidal thoughts#existenial crisis#i debated writing this at all but i really need to just go and make myself Actually Do the things i Want To Do w my ocs so#yee#even if i get little to no feedback thats ok#i still made something#so this is kinda my attempt at trying to start that lmAO#rlly poured my heart out here huh#oof lmao
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think i lost my best friend
as a small child my first first best friend was a boy named omar. we met in daycare when we were two. we were the smallest in the class but had the biggest mouths. we ended up going to the same schools until 4th grade. at our elementary school anytime someone claimed me as a best friend, he would explain that we went way back to diapers and they werenât my best friend lmao.Â
in pre-k i met a boy named hakeem. (our momâs ended up being friends, they still talk occasionally and sometimes my mom will tell me how hakeem and his siblings are doing. because she know my weird ass cares about that sort of thing). hakeem brought these lemon cookies everyday for snack. i liked them too but in strawberry, so he would have his mom get me some and he brought me those cookies everyday until we changed schools in first grade. we always sat together, did our work together, played together. we had other friends but we mostly did everything together.Â
in first grade i had 2 best friends. a boy named franklyn and a girl named melody. melody moved away like 4 months into the school year but to this day iâve never forgotten her. franklyn, i thought he was so cool. he was a really great artist.. for a 6 year old lol. he was real funny too. he had the funniest facial expressions. and he was real serious which i was entertained by because iâve always been âsillyâ.Â
in 4th grade i met a girl named shanelle. we were the shortest girls in the class and the smartest. we were really similar in general and we instantly clicked. it was a whole lil group of girls that iâd known since first grade. but shanelle and i ended up in the same class in 4th grade and we clicked idk. that was my mf girl. when i first moved to florida we talked on the phone every saturday for hours. i also met a boy named anias that year. he was one of my best friends too. he was also my first crush lol. unrelated but itâs interesting to look back at how i handled the fact that i liked him, because i still handle liking people that same way.
fifth grade was my first year in florida. it was real hard for me to make friends. the other day, my mom said to me she realized that in new york i never had to make friends. i have bout 5011 cousins, so that's built in friends right there. and they were my friends back then, they're my friends now. then most of the kids i went to daycare with, they went to my elementary school. so again i never had to make a friend really. i knew everyone in my life since i was a literal infant.Â
but yea i did end up making friends eventually. got my first white friends ever lol. (one of their dadâs called me a nigger which is still hands down one of the weirdest things iâve ever experienced.) i started to befriend more girls which was cool because before then i always had way more guy friends than girls.Â
in middle school i went to one school for 6th grade, then another for 7th & 8th. in 6th i met my friend nijah. and she was my best friend then. she treated me like i was her little sister and iâm still grateful. she really looked out for my little ass and defended me no matter what. she was present after i got into my first fight lol. and even though i held my own, the girl had scratched my face. that shit set nijah off and she proceeded to beat homegirlâs ass even though i just did.
i struggled to make friends in 7th again. in 6th grade i went to the same school that most of my elementary friends went to, so again i didnât have to make friends for real. i did make new friends but it was different because it was a group thing. not me alone trying to fit in somewhere. in 7th grade i finally got into a school i applied to in 5th grade but was wait-listed. i was and am very reluctant to speak to those i donât know for a list of reasons. so i didnât. i would just observe the people in my class. eventually these two girls named janae and keely who were best friends, kinda let me stick my ass in there with them. then i met bart and this girl dani. i remember marcus and i had ended up befriending one another bc our history teacher sat us next to each other when he was reassigning seats. (i remember every mf thing but marcus was also my second crush so naturally i remember every detail of that shit). so yea those were my friends. at the time janae was my best friend tho. she was the only other black girl in the class that would talk to me and didnât think i was weird. it was because her ass was weird too lol. i didnât act like the rest of the black girls and they really only spoke to me to make fun of me. which i knew, but iâve never been one to entertain shit unless âyou got beat my ass about itâ.Â
in 8th grade janae and i met this group of girls. morgan, dejahnna, atlantis, and jarvayssia. some shit shifted that year and morgan and dejahanna became my best friends. they were the first friends i ever hang out with outside of school. it made me feel so good to be invited to shit and to feel included. to feel like a normal ass 13 yr old felt amazing.Â
so in high school there were two schools all the magnet school kids would usually apply to. stanton and paxon. with the exception of keely, bart, and a few other people i didn't mention here. every single person i was close with in middle school, went to paxon. what's crazy is most of my friends were going for stanton because in jax itâs the âbetterâ school as far as ranking goes. i don't even remember why but when i toured paxon, i liked it more than stanton and i wanted to go there. itâs still funny to me that my ass didnât want to go to stanton but was one of the only ones in my close friend group to get in.Â
so yea at stanton is struggled. a lot. personally but also in the friend department. to put it plainly i had none. people didn't really talk to me or acknowledge me really. at first i didnât mind it. but then having a fucked up home situation and having no friends just made me feel real shitty. there was that thing again, with people talking to me only to make fun of me. some of those same people would turn around senior year and try to be my friend senior year which was hilarious to me at the time. it was like they forgot how they treated my extra depressed ass back then. i met this girl chelsey in 10th grade and she was hella sweet. she basically forced me on her friends and they became my friends.
okay so anyway, in 11th grade i met a girl named ahmani. she was in my chorus class. i remember our first encounter, it was towards the beginning of the school year. stanton was playing paxon and it was the game everyone went to ya know. i wanted to go but my mom couldn't take me. so everyone is talking about it and someone asked if i was coming. i said no and why, ahmani ended up asking me what side of town i lived on. we realized we dead lived like 7 minutes away from each other. she offered to pick me up and bring me to the game w her. i was amazed that she was willing to, i know that dont sound like a big deal but to me it was. people werenât nice to me bro. like ever. so for her to do that it meant a lot. she ended up being my ride every mf where. she is dead the reason i hung out w people outside of school w my friends. she took me everywhere with her. sometimes we would just sit in the car and talk or listen to music. we had a group of friends, it was 5 of us. but i was the closest with her.Â
i admired her. i thought she was so strong and resilient. she's hella awkward but she owns it. she's low-key/highkey anxious sometimes but she works through it. no one iâve ever met works harder to achieve shit than she is. she sings so beautifully. she is beautiful. she's a caretaker of basically anyone she knows. she is a light, she was my light for so long when i needed it. weâre pretty different but also a lot alike. we just worked. i always told her where i fall short she picks up my slack and vice versa. we might be a bit of a mess separately but our heads working together is unstoppable. weâre kinda a mess together too honestly but itâs us.
in college we didn't spend as much time together. we both stayed home for two years and went to a community college. we would hang out like weekly i think. iâm pretty sure we saw each other once a week at the very least. but then she went to orlando for university and i went to UNF which in jax. we didnât talk all that much and i understood. i wasn't necessarily too busy, but thats because i just never am that fucking busy lmfao. idk the way i go through life is weird. i only make time for the shit and people i want to make time for. i refuse to do anything i dont want to. and that isnât necessarily my best trait but I'm working on it. but yea i guess she was busier than i? idk when i donât speak to people for a while i dont make a big deal. i tell myself it isnât on purpose and i move on. i often tell myself not to apply more importance to my life than what is necessary. especially when others are involved. again, not my best trait but iâm working on it.Â
so yea though our communication got limited i still considered her my best friend. when she would come to the city, if she had time we hung out. i always have time lmfao, always. again i know other peopleâs lives are more full than mine. well i assume so. anyway. we spoke on the phone. we were there when the other needed i think. i try hard not to need people. like not to call them or burden them with my issues. i try real hard. but when she needed me i was there. not to say iâve ever needed her and she wasnât there. because that isnât the case at all.Â
recently we planned to move to chicago together. a whole chain of events happened and now we arenât. iâm still moving and iâm pretty sure she is too. just not together. the way it happened is really fucking with me. i donât wanna get into it bc of privacy and shit. but i will say that i am hurt. im really hurt and im confused and im beating myself up over some shit that everyone keeps telling me isn't my fault. feels like my fault though. that feels like the only explanation. i dont know.
iâve been thiniking a lot. about friends and how i never really had any. i just spoke to people so i wasn't alone or sometimes i just spoke to no one and made myself be okay with it. and now i have this group of friends and weâre like family. everyone that is my friend currently is my family. all of my friends i have currently i made over the internet. and i was bothered by that im not even gonna lie. it felt good to still have ahmani bc i would see her more than i see my other friends. i still have some i didn't meet yet. idk i just.. im the only person in my like personal life with internet friends. like in my family. and i felt like i just fed the fact that my family thinks im not even the least bit ânormalâ. then i started to feel bad. because it felt like that meant i was ashamed of my friends.and iâm not. i love them. i dont wanna lose any of them any time soon. and iâm realizing i dont need anyoneâs approval to make those friendships ârealâ or valid. because they are real and valid to me.Â
but yea i dont think ahmani and i will be friends anymore. or if we do end up being friends again, we probably won't speak for a while. i donât know what that means. but losing a friend sucks a whole lot and i wouldnât wish it on anyone.Â
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sweet crazy love [ pt.1 ]
who?: Wanna Oneâs Ong Seongwoo genre: đ¸đş type: bullet point - bc fic would be too long so I broke this into smaller parts TW: blood, biting, fights, mention of PTSD, depression and psychiatry, supernatural experimentation - poisonÂ
blog navigator. part one / twoÂ
part two
vamp! AU
experiments donât always work out.... and when they donât, they go to the psychiatristÂ
that sounds dark already ^ it gets better, I promise! please do not read if this is triggering!!! thank you for requesting this anon, aha you asked twice/two anons, so cute sorry Iâm never on here anymore :( this week was rough and next week, I have tests all week until CNY.
- Admin LÂ
disclaimer: pictures used do not belong to me and credit goes to their original owners.Â
everything written here is purely fictional.Â
you never found out why there was always this boy who would glare at you with the most menacing eyes from across the hallÂ
 behind his locker in the hallwayÂ
in the cafeteria Â
across the hall when your paths crossed
from his seat in a classroom, you were merely walking byÂ
his eyes held such fire and flames it seemed like they were going to roast you aliveÂ
sadly, you never got a name or a reasonÂ
all you knew was how his face looked like and he was downright gorgeousÂ
even when he looked like he had -4 hours of sleep every day without fail, with those purple and bruised eye bags forming under his inky black orbsÂ
he always seemed to be thirsty, running his tongue over plump lips, a finger toying with his bottom lip, yearning for a drinkÂ
but you never knew whatÂ
honestly, it did bug you from time to time since he kept glaring but never confronted you on anythingÂ
besides, whenever you moved to talk to him, he would only vanish into thin air, as if he was never there in the first placeÂ
however, he would be seen drinking chocolate milk with his best friends a while laterÂ
you just figured you probably punched his nose in kindergarten, never apologised, he never forgave you and thatâs why he held such a huge grudge against youÂ
he also tried to avoid you at all costs, at least it was good that there were no joint classesÂ
how childish, you often thought. Itâs high school, he should grow up a littleÂ
if he is mad at me, shouldnât he at least try to talk it out instead of just glaring at me all the time? I canât exactly read his damn mindÂ
well,,, he couldÂ
the years wore on like that, as in, you ignoring his icy stares and trying not to be bothered by them. Seongwoo continued to slink in the shadows, keeping a low profileÂ
in fact, he became a prominent factor in your life. Your friends even nicknamed him.Â
you wondered how this mysterious brooding bad boy constantly hung out with Hwang Minhyun, the schoolâs beloved princeÂ
in fact, that guy was the only best friend Minhyun seemed to have from high schoolÂ
you rarely saw that guy at school functions, maybe once or twice at the homecoming game but never at dances or anniversaries. You figured he wasnât one for thoseÂ
Senior year changed a couple of things...
you had a study period in the study hall with him. Curiosity piqued in you
but contrary to your expectations, the mystery boy seemed to dwell in darker ends of the study hall, plugging into his own music and diligently taking his own notes in black inkÂ
he paid no attention to the world around him, absorbed in his textbooksÂ
you started to realise as the days passed, he seemed more beat up than the previous dayÂ
physicallyÂ
the bruises framing his eyes darker and he seemed exhausted of all energy.Â
He wore long-sleeved sweaters, you wondered what he was hidingÂ
your classmate seemed more quiet, sticking only to himself, he seemed more wary of othersÂ
however, that only lasted for a week before he returned to his usual self, chatting with his friends and sipping more strange looking juice boxes that didnât resemble his typical chocolate milk
but who were you to judge? And since when did you ever pay so much attention to detail?Â
were you intrigued by him?Â
you shuddered and spun away, forcing yourself to tune in to other, more relevant thingsÂ
finally, graduation rolled around the corner
Ong SeongwooÂ
you caught his name from the roll call donât judge
he was just too SECRETIVE otherwiseÂ
even with his name, there wasnât much you deduced from the school gossip realmÂ
he just drank peculiar coloured juices to âkeep his skin youthful and preserve his clear skinâÂ
Seongwoo N E V E R left the safety of a building into the sun without slathering on an unholy amount of specialised sunscreenÂ
if he had PE that day, he would bring two different types of nutritional juice and only shares his f&b with MinhyunÂ
no one dared to get close to himÂ
or rather, he was just too problematic to get close toÂ
it appeared he only appreciated his friends he had known since diaper days and that everyone else had to go through a selection to enter his circleÂ
okay so graduationÂ
itâs one of the most exciting days in your life and you couldnât be gladder to graduate with a 4.0GPAÂ
also, youâre determined to fix things with Seongwoo on the very last day of school, might as well right?Â
right after the valedictorianâs - minhyun - speech, you scan the hall to find Seongwoo as the closing speech is given by your principalÂ
heâs there in his seatÂ
the speech ends, youâre out of your chair, moving through the crowd of students throwing caps to where he was seatedÂ
but he isnât there,,, not anymore at leastÂ
the girl beside him said he just took off, along with MinhyunÂ
before you can register what happened, your feet take your along a corridor, maybe down a couple of flights of stairsÂ
right to the old lacrosse locker room which was under construction worksÂ
why the hell would you walk here? you donât even know where it is by memoryÂ
perhaps because you could hear two roaring voices, one calm and collected while the other panicked and ragingÂ
âcalm down, you need to get your shit together Seongwoo. Breathe!â Minhyun instructs, a growl in his toneÂ
pressing an ear against the door, all you hear are strangled cries from SeongwooÂ
you wonder if you should call the policeÂ
âCONTROL YOURSELF SEONGWOO!âÂ
yup, that doesnât sound shady at all
âthe side effects have been getting worse....â you hear Minhyun mutter to himself, a rustle of plastic or paper following suitÂ
the shower runs, someone seems to be spamming the knobs. All grows quiet.
you donât even realise youâre holding your breath until you release it
 nowÂ
you burst into the room, ignoring the red warning tape, ripping it away to fall at your feet. Your phone was already ringing, the police on the other sideÂ
The room was empty, despite all the yelling you heard, making your heart complete somersaults as realisation sets inÂ
were you imagining things?Â
hammers knock nails into your head as you try to comprehend whatever had happenedÂ
thereâs nowhere to hide, yet no other door to escape out of, you canât believe two of your batch mates have just vanished into thin airÂ
choking out a chuckle of disbelief, shaking fingers turn the call off, one hand covers your mouth as you slowly back away from the two graduation gowns and caps were strewn on the floor, blood staining both of themÂ
well...no one knows exactly what happened that day because when the cleaner discovered it, it was too late to identify anyone by thenÂ
only you knew the real answersÂ
but honestly, time wore on and you became much busier in college, whatever happened to your batch mates wasnât your concern anymoreÂ
you just couldnât afford any time to care or ponder about itÂ
yes, you wondered and dreamed about the possibilities but most of your time was spent studying hard, medicine majors canât afford sleepÂ
all you wanted to work as since you were little was a psychiatrist especially since your father was a scientist, specialising in biological sciencesÂ
you wanted to follow in his footsteps and join the scientist lifeÂ
your father often joked that you and him would be the greatest scientists in the world someday, him as a biologist and you as a psychiatristÂ
and that was your real motivation, you genuinely wanted to achieve that seemingly far-fetched dreamÂ
your parents were supportive, your professor sort of favoured you, your college was Ivy League...what else could you want?Â
life was perfectÂ
until one day...a Friday morning, which meant morning coffee and cake run with your roommates
that day, it also meant encountering people you never once thought you would see againÂ
Hwang Minhyun and Ong SeongwooÂ
they clearly didnât resemble the pesky 18-year-olds you remembered but they looked like elegant, poised and well-refined college upperclassmen
certainly, they dressed the partÂ
Minhyun was wearing a sleek black turtleneck sweater paired with camel coloured slacks, draped over his chair was a classy caramel and tartan blend of a Burberry trenchÂ
his coffee was Americano, his shoes embossed with the Louboutin stamp and a pair of thin circular framed spectacles rested on the bridge of his noseÂ
wow
is that really Hwang Minhyun?Â
you kinda saw his style coming anyway lolÂ
but then, is that Ong Seongwoo sitting across from him?Â
Seongwoo had changedÂ
okay he still kept his bad boy, had -2 hours of sleep for 3 decades look but there was a different aura around him nowÂ
he looked...dare you say it, attractively stylishÂ
his dark hair was swept into boyish bangs, just passing his eyebrows, it looked thick and silky.Â
Seongwoo wore an oversized grey flannel which he tucked into dark wash skinny jeans with rips at the knees.
To finish the look, he wore a pair of polished white sneakersÂ
yes, Iâm talking about the look from âBeautifulâ photos mhm
in his grip, was a familiar packet; he still drank the same juice since high schoolÂ
some things just donât change Â
cuteÂ
WAIT NO NOT CUTE REMEMBER HEâS THE BOY WHO HATED YOUR GUTS AND YOU STILL DONâT KNOW WHY
AND HE ALSO MYSTERIOUSLY DISAPPEARED THROUGH THE RENOVATING LOCKER ROOM ON GRADUATION DAYÂ
SHADYÂ
QUICK LOOK AWAY BEFORE HE SEES YOU
hastily, you place your order and join your friends at the table, trying to blend yourself in with the bubbling chatter, a distraction from the two people seated by the windowÂ
...awkward...
mhm but you had really exciting news to break to your friendsÂ
âyouâre awfully quiet today,â your best friend pointed out. âAre you hiding something?âÂ
yesÂ
ânah...I just have news to break to you guys,â you said, trying to seem nonchalantÂ
but it is true that you have amazing news to break!!!Â
âtell us!â your friends chorus excitedly, eager to find outÂ
on the opposite side of the cafe, both Minhyun and Seongwoo have taken notice of your presenceÂ
Minhyun chuckles. âRemember when we were 118, our graduation? You freaking out and succumbing to the side effects? Good times.âÂ
âgood times my ass, I lost my graduation gown and cap!â Seongwoo whines. âMy mum was making a collection of all our graduation gowns. I think sheâs still holding a grudge at me.âÂ
Minhyun cleared his throat and lowered his voice. âYour family still doesnât know about...it...right?âÂ
Seongwoo shakes his head and his friend sighs.Â
âyou know how much I hate it! Why canât you just go to the authorities about this! Itâs putting your life in danger and I hate seeing you hurt all the time!â Minhyun sighs. He pinches the bridge of his nose and takes a long sip of his coffee
Seongwoo wrinkled his nose. âYou know what will happen if I donât show up for even one session. Itâs happened before.âÂ
Seongwoo finds himself tuning into your conversation instead of engaging with his friendÂ
okay letâs be honest, heâs never really liked youÂ
âyou need real help, Seongwoo. You really think drinking all these plasma juice boxes are going to make a difference? Are all these helping you one bit?âÂ
âI canât take blood bags because of the injections you know it,â Seongwoo retorted. He was only half-heartedly paying attention to his friend and he was straining his supernatural hearing to listen to your conversationÂ
âExactly! Stop the process, take real blood so your body can survive and Iâll get help from a psychiatrist. Seongwoo, this can make everything better.âÂ
âIâm going to be an interning at Dr. Imâs clinic!â you announced happily, gaining gasps and congratulations from your friends.Â
huh...good for them. Looks like theyâre following their fatherâs footsteps into science and medicine. Notable.Â
he gave you a side glance, noticing how much more good-looking you had becomeÂ
hmmÂ
Seongwoo felt colour slowing draining from his face. He quickly stabbed a straw into yet another plasma juice boxÂ
was he angry? was he disappointed? was he glad? he didnât know either
perhaps just slightly stupefied, stunned......
he never imagined Doctorâs so-called âworkâ would continue, would ever become anythingÂ
a pair of fangs began to protrude, his temper began to flareÂ
what? how many more of us are they going to take? no, I must stop them
âSeongwoo hellooooooâÂ
I have to protect my family at all costsÂ
âSEONGWOO!â
the impact of Minhyunâs fist on the table made Seongwoo snap out of his angry thoughts. It also caused time to freeze as curious customers peered round to have a glanceÂ
the table now had a small crack forming in its woodÂ
blushing, Minhyun briefly apologised, downed the remainder of his coffee in a shot before grabbing Seongwooâs arm and dragging him outÂ
what a scene, you thought
 deep down you wondered when you would see them nextÂ
probably on campus somewhere,,, but with your new internship and all, you would be increasingly busyÂ
there just wasnât time to think about those kinds of irrelevant subjects
there was no time to waste on thoughts of Ong SeongwooÂ
crazyÂ
Iâm going crazy right nowÂ
week two of the internship was definitely not treating you the bestÂ
sorry, this part may not be so accurateÂ
 all you did for week one was sit at the reception, drop by the lab a couple of times, restock medication and occasionally, bring coffee in for Dr Im
honestly, you wanted to see patients or watch a session but those were all private and personalÂ
it was just you and the medicines for a bit :\Â
suddenly, Dr Im marches into the supply closet, court shoes, sparkling white coat and all. She smiles, handing you a clipboard and a form
âThereâs a new client today coming for consultation. I spoke to him and surprisingly, he agreed to let my dear trainee sit in. As long as you sign this protection of personal data form, youâre welcome to join this time,â she explainsÂ
OH MY GOSHÂ
what youâve always wanted :â)Â
WHY ISNâT IT 8PM YETÂ
why did he have to book the latest time slot what the hell there wasnât anyone in the 5.30pm one how dare you make me wait 12 hoursÂ
but you get yourself a coffee and tell yourself to suck it upÂ
at precisely 8pm, two well-dressed and tall men walk into the posh and pristine officeÂ
you donât realise who it is until you emerge from the medicine storage room just in time to see one of the guys remove his black mask
Ong SeongwooÂ
>:(
luckily, he doesnât seem to notice you yet. He and - supposedly - Minhyun turn in the direction of the waiting areaÂ
they look out of place in their dark coats and masks. Itâs a stark contrast from the white and grey interior, maybe a vase of pinky-white lilies sitting on a counterÂ
or a few paintings of scenery in sand coloured framesÂ
someone like Ong Seongwoo doesnât belong hereÂ
you wonder what problems he could even face.....
the second Seongwoo stepped into the room and sensed your presence, he wanted to turn around and storm right outÂ
getting help was Minhyunâs idea and when he said he knew of a psychiatrist that was fine with the supernatural, he placed his life in Minhyunâs handsÂ
clearly, it was the wrong choice
but he had to keep cool and wait for his best friendâs real intentions to be made clearÂ
his best friend was sacrificing him to Doctor, he had no doubt about that right nowÂ
you were Doctorâs child and also training in the field of science and medicine
...Minhyun had a lot of explaining to do later onÂ
the shock was written all over Seongwooâs face when you sat next to Dr Im during the consult, taking notes and allÂ
so, the intern was youÂ
throughout the session, you genuinely wondered why Seongwoo would be hereÂ
there was a section that you were asked to step out for a second and your best guess that it was an extremely sensitive matterÂ
somehow,,, you wanted to help SeongwooÂ
isnât that why you were a doctor anyway?Â
even if he despised you, you wanted to help him so badlyÂ
he left unscathed, that was astonishing to him too
when interrogated, Minhyun seemed to have 0 knowledge of your existence and that you were related to DoctorÂ
âI-Iâm so s-sorry. I really had no clue,â he choked out, holding back a sobÂ
Seongwoo brushed it off, believing and forgiving his best friendÂ
âhow are things with Jaehwan? More roommate trouble?âÂ
âugh, donât remind me. He keeps teasing me about my crush on our neighbour.âÂ
laughter resounded on the drive back to their dormsÂ
all was back to normalÂ
but both your lives wouldnât beÂ
Doctor: 1.45am. Usual place. Donât be lateÂ
âDr Im, if you donât mind me asking, what was your diagnosis?â you questioned carefully, afraid of setting off an explosion of fuming fireworks
Dr Im sighed, she pressed her hand to her forehead. âHeâs a difficult one if Iâm honest. However, my brain is telling me itâs PTSD or depression, worse case scenario and it could be both.âÂ
Iâm not an expert on both even though I did research so Iâm sorry if there are any inaccuracies, I tried to exclude it for the majority of the work
you kept silent, the information unable to fully sink into your mind.
Ong Seongwoo? PTSD? Depression?Â
was it related to whatever happened at graduation? Was he struggling then? Is he losing hope now?Â
 he was never my friend, your mind indicates, why am I so worried? Why am I freaking out over this? Heâs hated me all this while, yet Iâm so concerned
Iâm becoming a lunaticÂ
âDr Im,â you call out meeklyÂ
âhmm?â She hums in response, still scribbling words down on her writing padÂ
you swallow hard, throat closing at the thought of saying your next words
âyouâll do your best to help him right? Seongwoo would be okay? Would he?âÂ
her pen pauses for a prolonged period as if that question required an extensive amount of consideration to answerÂ
Dr Im nibbles on her bottom lip, nervously, you noteÂ
âyes. Seongwoo will be just fine.âÂ
Doctor: No blood, just plasma.Â
......to be continued
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more trans ramblings (tramblings?) - to T or not to T, that is the question
so iâm writing this so i have some thoughts to show my therapist next week instead of scouring my brain for them but im posting it on the internet instead of keeping it in a word document or some shit cause i need some of yâall to relate and iâm already way too personal on here anyways. and also at this point this is my personal blog too, iâve given up entirely on keeping it just for video games. tl;dr: please tell me i am not the only one with stupid amounts of doubt going against the stupid amounts of evidence that i am very transgender.Â
tw: long post, doubts, testosterone/hrt effects discussed in detail, (donât read this if you know me irl and havenât personally talked with me about being trans? otherwise go ahead), nsfw cause weâre talking about genitals but mostly towards the end of the second to last paragraph (iâll strike the nsfw stuff), mention of rape but no discussion of it happening, lemme know if i missed anything
so as my last transpost said im very excited for my hysto that im nowhere near getting but im flip-flopping as to whether or not i want to go on t. i know i can get it fairly quickly if i decide i do want it. thereâs a trans health clinic in walking distance from where i am moving in 23 days, i have 3 therapists who will write me a letter of recommendation for testosterone, and my mother even found me the trans health clinic so sheâll try to find me somewhere else to go if they donât take me in for some reason. (having a supportive mom is great i donât miss her crying about how hard it is to have a trans kid in january and february.) and iâve looked thoroughly at the effects of testosterone and have sorted them into pros, neutrals, and cons. (posting it here again mostly bc i need to do it but i also need some of yall to relate and/or validate me and/or answer my weird questions)
pros:
voice drop. im so tired of having a squeaky voice which is exacerbated by me always being anxious, and my sister has a deeper voice than me and always tries to sing ridiculously low parts to stretch it for some reason which makes me feel insecure. and apparently my voice is âalways squeakyâ according to my dad and like? shit man i pass until i talk thatâs just the tea.Â
i dont even care if i have a super deep voice, i actually think iâd rather be a solid tenor because thatâs the vocal range of most of my favorite songs, but i want to sound like a man when i talk and not an 8 year old girl
side note apparently a lot of trans guys have male âinternal voicesâ but mine just sounds like how i sound when i talk because iâm a very literal person and thatâs why it took me forever to figure out i was trans and not having a male internal voice makes me dysphoric sometimes and even doubt that iâm trans at all... thatâs dumb af i know itâs just my literal personality type not me actually being a girl
more muscle. i dont work out as it is right now but if i knew iâd see results the way i want them then i probably would. also im getting ripped during the school year anyways bc i walk everywhere with a 15-20 pound backpack strapped to me so iâm at least gonna look semi muscular which is what i want anyways. please give me strength quite literally i can barely lift bro
bottom growth. ik itâs still not going to be ~enough~ or whatever but iâd have... something? that would be nice.Â
side note would packers start to be uncomfortable with something there bc i wonder about that sometimes. not that mine is super uncomfortable now or anything (i just havenât figured out how to make it sit right) but i wonder about that
NO PERIODS NO PERIODS NO PERIODS NO PERIODS NO PERIODS
if im one of those guys whose periods dont stop on t i am actually going to perform a hysto on myself
fat shifting from hips, thighs and butt to my stomach. i donât care if i have stomach chub or not, but i DO care that my hips are Like That and my things are Really Girly and i have a fucking Girl Butt TM like please just let me Not Have These Problems
having a more angular face. doesnât happen to everyone per se but because of my facial structure as it is and also what my dad looked like when he was my age, i probably will get this change. i have actively wished for this since i was 13 and didnât even know dysphoria was a word. hopefully it makes my lips a little thinner too or at least more masculine.
veins becoming more prominent. i have this one pic of me where it looks like i have Guy Arms and i just wanna look like that all the time ya know
lookin like a dude and passing? that counts right
neutrals:
facial hair. i know a lot of trans guys want this but iâve never wanted one. i just want a jawline to cut a bitch tbh iâm never having more than stubble except the beard imma wear to my high school reunion
body hair. this is more of a pro-neutral ig bc i want it on my arms and legs but would prefer not to have a lot on my chest and stomach. fortunately i dont think my dad has a whole lot but iâm a pretty hairy afab person as it is i just dont wanna be a werewolf lmao
hair loss at temples. i just donât care about my hairline enough for this to really bother me. maybe i will when it happens but *shrug*
scents of sweat/bo/urine changing? idk i feel like it will be weird, maybe gross if it turns out bad but honestly i donât really care what i smell like as long as i donât smell like a dumpster fire? i shower itâs fine lmao
rougher skin? i dont know if iâd like having rougher skin but i also dont like being an uwu soft boi so
acne. nobody wants it but like... i already have stress-acne right now and donât really give a shit because i hate how my face looks anyways. not that i want a fuckton of acne because nobody does but im not gonna cry myself to sleep over it ya feel? itâs an annoyance but not really a con
cons:
increase in sex drive. not to be nsfw but masturbating is a chore as it is. it hasnât been fun since i realized i had crippling bottom dysphoria and even then i canât get off unless iâm completely distracted from my body (either through porn or being too tired to care). also i have like a 2% chance of ever having a partner so i really dont wanna have to deal with having the sex drive of a 12 year old boy when im 19, single, depressed, and dysphoric. im not even asexual but this is the worst con
emotional changes. yall know at this point i dont have the best temper, and i dont want t to exacerbate that. now, some of my friends have said that t has made them much calmer and actually less irritable, but the rest of my friends said t makes them angry. i have poor anger management and i know it. i donât need it made worse. itâll fuck my life up for real
increase in appetite. listen i have gastritis, ibs and acid reflux i cannot afford to be needing to eat more than i currently do
so as yall can see i have a fair number of all 3: 8 pros, 6 neutrals, and 3 cons. and whatâs more, all of the cons are things that donât have anything to do with my appearance (which my therapist and i noticed during our session a couple weeks ago and really made me think i should go on t). so then the answer should be clear: i should go on t, right? deal with having a fucked high sex drive and be pissed off because of it but finally be able to see my reflection in the mirror. so it should be obvious. what the hell am i waiting for?
the main reason iâm hesitant is iâm afraid iâll want to detransition. even though i KNOW it rarely happens and the women who do thought they were trans because of unaddressed traumas relating to being female or have a personality disorder. i have neither of those things: the only female-related trauma i have is being slut shamed by my mom for wearing tank tops and any shirt that wasnât a crew neck and one guy saying heâd rape me in 9th grade because he thought rape and sex were the same thing (for his sake i hope heâs grown the fuck up!! iâm not traumatized from this i just made my teacher not let him sit next to me in class and told him to stop talking to me. sadly this is the most sexual attention iâve ever gotten), and the only mental illnesses i have are depression and anxiety (unless weâre counting dysphoria, which i definitely have). i also sometimes feel like i discovered it too late: i didnât say âiâm not a girlâ until i was 14, refused to explore my gender until i was 17, and didnât fully accept i was trans until i was 18. and other dumb shit: i never tried to pee standing up so im not really trans even though i didnât know what a penis was until i was like 9, ive caught myself twice recently wishing for longer hair which made me feel feminine and gross and dysphoric (even though i know hair length =/= gender??), and im not in danger of suicide if i donât get testosterone and top surgery RiGhT nOw. the prospect of me detransitioning isnât likely, when you look at all the facts, but the prospect makes me anxious because everything makes me anxious. i am the poster boy for anxiety. and yes, i know i would have said that even when i accepted that i was technically the poster girl but i would have said poster boy anyways because it was âgender neutralâ and didnât rub me the wrong way like poster girl would have. same reason i insisted on being a dude instead of dudette and only described myself with words that didnât have a female equivalent in french class even if it wasnât true. so what the hell am i waiting for.
like i know i shouldnât be doubting at this point because itâs so, so obvious that iâm trans. just because i didnât try to pee standing up when i was little or ask why i didnât have a penis doesnât mean iâm not a guy. i logically know this. like when i was 11 and i insisted to myself i had a male brain but knew i shouldnât say that out loud because that was weird and i wanted to be a normal girl who didnât have a weird male brain, and when i was 7 and at my friend sarahâs house and her room was super pink and girly and i literally thought the sentence âis this what iâm supposed to be like?â and when i was 14 and cut my hair into the Typical Queer Girl Pixie Cut and my hair was just??? gone like i wanted it to be when i was 9 and ended up with a bowl cut instead, and instead of looking in the mirror and thinking i looked like an owl when i was 9 i smiled at how âandrogynousâ (masculine) i looked, and when i was 11 and only hung out with boys at summer camp and they treated me like one of them and the girls were really mean to me but it was the best summer iâd ever had, and when i was 15 and my friend chris joked that i was the âguyâ in my lesbian relationship and i was so fucking happy, and when i was 15 and starving myself because i loved my âangularâ figure and jaw,  and when i was 16 and wearing a dress to winter formal because my ex met me in one and i wanted to be cute for him but i picked the dress that looked like a suit because it looked very âqueerâ (masculine), and when i was 14 and literally went âhmmm im gonna bind my chest just because i wanna know what it would look likeâ and it made me so euphoric and i knew in that instant i wasnât a girl but repressed it for 3+ years because dealing with it would just be too hard, and when i was 11 and knew it was going to be my last day going to school without a bra on and just being so ashamed even though i wanted breasts so iâd be a normal girl, and when i was 16 and wearing that backwards snapback all the time and my friend said it was what tops did and i was so happy that nobody would consider me a bottom or whatever stupid shit because i couldnât imagine myself being penetrated ever in my cisgender gay life, and when i was 16-17 and scouring the lesbian section of pornhub for pov/strap-on videos bc i wanted to know what it would look like to fuck a girl with a dick without watching straight porn because iâm 100% a gay female because the word lesbian is too girly im not a trans guy or anything haha, and when i was 14-and-onwards wondering why it felt so empty between my legs and why it felt like i was supposed to have a dick lmao im totally a girl though haha, and when i was 15 and had to google how to masturbate bc i couldnât figure it out naturally and still felt like i was doing it wrong, and when i was 15 and looked at my vagina in the pocket mirror i got from selling like 30 boxes of girl scout cookies in 2007 and my first thought was âthat is not my body,â and when i was 16 and actually very upset that i couldnât ejaculate when i orgasmed. trans who? what the fucking hell am i waiting for
seriously. i was 7 and looking at my 2nd grade yearbook photo thinking âthat doesnât look like me,â and i was 13 and looking in the mirror saying âthat doesnât look like me,â and i went through all of my adolescence waiting for âpuberty to turn me into a girlâ and then i was 17 and done with puberty and crying because my body was still wrong. i canât believe how hard i tried throughout my whole adolescence to be some facet of ânormal girlâ so i wouldnât get bullied and be dateless forever and thinking âpuberty hasnât turned me into a girl yetâ and not stopping to think about what i was if i wasnât a girl until puberty was done, i realized it wasnât going to happen, and it was too damn late for me. now iâm 19 and donât leave the house without either a binder or a sports bra/baggy layers combo and iâd wear my packer everywhere if i could figure out how to get it to sit right (and also get it past my parents lmao). like if anyone else rattled off that list of trans shit i wouldnât question them for a second. but because itâs me and iâm like âwhat if iâm transwashing my memories? what if iâm gaslighting myself?â iâm still not on testosterone and please validate me. tell me other trans people doubt themselves, no matter how obvious it is that theyâre trans. tell me itâs okay to doubt hrt, even though you know it will be so much more likely to help you. tell me itâs okay to be afraid of detransitioning, even though itâs okay if i DO decide to detransition and itâs so unlikely anyways considering all the evidence of Me Not Being A Fucking Girl.
if you read this all the way to the end hereâs an awkward hug and some brain bleach im not even drunk or high i canât even blame substances for this behaviorÂ
#kieran screams into the void#to t or not to t#that is the question#i think i should go on t after rereading this post#but im still a lil skeptical bc of that anxiety ya know#also pls laugh your ass off at my dumb high school self#im here to provide the most quality entertainment#it took me 3 hours to type this
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What do you think the following kidswaps would be like: Rose Strider, Dave Lalonde, John Harley, and Jade Egbert
So I donât actually engage with kidswaps a bunch because I donât really get where most people are coming from with them, but my understanding of kidswaps is:
You take the canon kid but raise them in their surnameâs household.
One of the cool things Hussie did with the guardians was that they fit fairly well into the four parenting styles Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive, and Neglectful. Quick psychology overview, there are two categories parents usually get defined by, Involvement (also known as support or warmth) and discipline (or demand). Authoritative parents give high support/involvement/warmth, and moderate discipline, which is sort of the ideal parenting, and that fits Dad Egbert pretty well. Authoritarian is low warmth/support/involvement but high discipline/demand, which Bro Strider fits. Permissive is high warmth, but low discipline, which goes well with Mom Lalonde. Neglectful parents are low warmth low discipline, and are often absent entirely, which our unfortunately dead Grandpa Harley was (and from evidence in Hiveswap, probably would have been even if he was alive). Lucky for us Jade had a radioactive dog to raise her in his stead.
So weâve got a girl like Rose, raised in an authoritarian household, Iâm just gonna go ahead and say Bro Strider because I donât know how guardians usually work in kidswaps. So Bro âI got possessed by a demonic puppet at age 0 and have lived with that thing in my head all my lifeâ Strider is aggressive, unreliable, attacks his kid on a dime, emotionally distant, and emotionally detached. Rose, who is already pretty embittered by her mother in canon, would become someone utterly infuriated with the world. Sheâd forgo her passive-aggression games in favor of being outright nasty and rude most of the time Iâm talking full 90â˛s cliche delinquent here. Serious behavioral issues, âwhoâs going to make meâ attitude, seizing control by force wherever she can because control is something thatâs stripped from her in her home life. Distrustful of other peopleâs intentions, probably always sees the worst in others, the kind of person whoâs just waiting for the other person to prove her right so she can point at them and say âHa. I knew you werenât that nice.â without full awareness that she was the one to push them to snapping at her in the first place. REALLY nasty downward spirals of aggression and more aggression and a paranoid survival-based hair-trigger set of reflexes. Probably useful as a Seer of Time, but not good for her well being by any stretch of the imagination.
Then weâve got Dave, raised in a permissive household by Mom âI drink to forget that the world is about to end and also because Iâm lonely and life is hardâ Lalonde. On the upside, heâs got a parent who cares about him now, on the other, heâs still a kid whoâs gotta grow up too fast, bc his mom isnât really a mom. She adores him, of course she does, but sheâs drunk off her ass eight days a week so Daveâs sorta gotta be his own adult, which doesnât end well. He probably gets along with her though, thinks heâs got a cool mom when really sheâs just an enabler to pretty much anything he wants to do. Iâd imagine a Dave Lalonde would end up sorta spoiled, used to not being told no, raised a rich kid, heâs used to being able to get whatever he wants after a little whining and would likely have a bad reaction to being told ânoâ when he starts out. A well intentioned dude who wants to be soft, but believes he has to be the âmatureâ one of the group, just listen to him heâs the smart one here. Probably thinks photographing plants and collecting roadkill in jars makes him âculturedâ and ârefinedâ and tries to use that as an excuse for why everyone should listen to him. Part of that is just him being used to having to act the adult in his home life though, so itâs natural for him to think that heâs the mature one, the put together one, the one whoâs too old for that sort of childish nonsense. Also likely knows heâs pan/bi before the Game even starts tbeh. His quest as Knight of Light would probably involve him mostly just figuring out how to be a kid again, something heâd initially resent, like Rose resents the girlishness of LOLAR in canon, but would warm to eventually as he comes to terms with the fact that heâs not an adult, heâs allowed to be a kid.
Then John, raised in a âneglectfulâ household as much as having a dead guardian can really raise him, left with First Guardian Bec and the carapacians of Prospit. Heâd probably be really starved for attention. Even more of a class clown than he is in canon, but this time only on a deserted island. Just a boy with his dog, and his dream scape to make friends with strange white chess people, whose customs are very much not human customs but ah well. Depression likely sets in a lot sooner for him without a parent around, and itâs easier for him to lock himself away from the world when no oneâs even in his world on that lonely little island. Laying in bed all day watching movies and texting his friends and playing online games are less âinterestsâ as much as they are âthe only hobbies he has access to AND energy forâ, than in his canon timeline. Heâs still a boy overflowing with love for his friends, and would probably maintain his goofy disposition, but heâd be lonely and tired and depressed and it would likely be hard for him to work up the energy for his childhood nonsense that we all love and adore so much from canon. Bec, at least, would get him up, because dogs are high-energy pets and need daily exercise, and John would never ever let his dear sweet Bec get affected negatively by his depressed moods. Heâs a boy who wants to be in love with life but itâs really, really hard. His quest as the Heir of Space would be something of a spiritual journey, I think. Becoming one with the universe, coming to terms with the good and the bad, the highs and lows the desirable and the ugly, and, by extension, learn to balance his own inner joy and despair. Once he reaches an understanding with that which is whole, he is better able to handle his own cycle of depression, which never really truly leaves him but he is able to handle it, engage with his loved ones while maintaining his own illness.
Jade, raised in an authoritative household by Dad âI love my child more than my own lifeâ Egbert. Probably gonna be the most well adjusted out of all of them, surprising literally no one. Might be a little less punchy than we see in canon, having had a parent to appropriately model reactions to things like annoyance and anger, and probably has less access to rifles than our girl in canon. Still buff as shit tho, that much hasnât changed. A witty problem solver, someone whoâs had the support needed to really help her flourish, added to her own genius self. Has less need for the dreambot, but is still interested in science and furry/wolfkin stuff and her dad is, of course, only supportive (even if he doesnât really understand the wolfkin/furry stuff, he supports his child and her interests). Wins ever science fair ever held and Dadbert is just standing with a camera beaming in the background. A go-getter and a high-achiever, sharp-tongued and able to use wit and snark and humor in order to win her battles instead of just out-screaming Karkat, regional winner of the Screamer Award (to be fair, that moment in canon was ICONIC). Isnât necessarily GOOD at rolling with the punches, but is capable of it when she feels inclined. Her quest as a Witch of Breath would probably be something of a spiritual healer for the rest of her group? Someone who can manipulate the Aspect of freedom and in turn give that to her friends and loved ones. Someone for Dave to joke around with and just be a kid with, someone John can look to for support and help him when life is just too heavy, someone Rose can rail against and see that there is indeed still kindness in this world and yeah Jade isnât perfect, sheâs tempermental and a compulsive liar but sheâs good and sheâs loving and she wants nothing more than for Rose to feel okay again and Rose does indeed want that and wow JadeRose would actually be exceptionally good in this kind of kidswap wow. And in helping her friends, that would be an act of liberation for Jade too, because sometimes âweâ is easier than âmeâ and sometimes âletâsâ is more doable than âIâllâ and âIâll do this for youâ is easier than âIâll do this for myself.â
Anyway I got super long winded there but here are my Thoughts tell me what you think.
#Rose Lalonde#John Egbert#Dave Strider#Jade Harley#Homestuck#answers#Rose Strider#Dave Lalonde#John Harley#Jade Egbert#John#Dave#Jade#JadeRose#mentioned#long post#beta kids#homestuck meta#analysis
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hey iâve been thinking. who wants a very MILD opinion from meâŚâŚ the stars donât symbolise rachel, but neither does the fire.Â
all that the fire/stars symbolise is like.Â
1, fire: chloeâs life being a fucking mess / looking out for danger/issues in her relationships / not being reckless by getting caught up in fantasies whichâll end up hurting her(& rach)Â
2, stars: hope for the future / chloe being loved and supported by rachel/max regardless of conflict / looking out for the good stuff in her life / not giving up despite impending fights/conflict/cheating/difficulties/strain
it really felt like william was telling chloe to stick around, you know. chloeâs been falling behind in life and getting depressed and flunking in classes and shit, and we know that she has incredibly low self worth at the point of lis1. chloe just needs reasons to keep going. william would want her to keep going, and chloe knows that deep down â despite him being absent from her life, she still gets comfort from him when she feels totally alone, when others arenât giving her the support that she needed so desperately at that time. she falls back on him. she knows him. and knows heâd want to help. the stars are chloeâs future. the stars are a way of saying âkeep going onâ. thatâs what chloe needs. needs to know that she hasnât been abandoned by max forever, people do like her, she will get the support she needs eventually from rachel and max, her life is worth living. the bad things which have happened to her â the troubles she is going to face in the future â do not reflect upon her worth as a person. she is good. keep holding on.
maybe fire represents parts of rachelâs actions. forest-burning = destructive, bla bla bla. but in chloeâs dream later in the episode, williamâs there telling her that rachel needs her, that chloe should help her, that they should be there for each other. if rachel was like, some inherently dangerous heathen that chloe should stay away from because all she wants to do is ruin lives, then like, it makes no sense that this whole game is about these girls helping each other through rough times. the fire =/= rachel as a person. the fire represents the loss of control that BOTH of these girls face in their lives, and getting caught up in fantasies which, at the age of fifteen and sixteen, will not work out. itâs about expectations leading to pain and hurt. itâs about the turbulent nature of the beginning of amberprice, for sure, but not in a, âoh, amberprice sucks, itâs so problematicâ way. itâs william warning chloe to stay safe. âcause relationships are hard.
the scene this symbolism was introduced in was totally beautiful but also like, i h8 it in a way because. dontnod wanted chloe to die in the future. just straight up fucking die. regardless of how you interpret the stars, whether you think they symbolise max returning to her soulmate, or rachel saving chloe from the shitty things happening in her life â ⌠dontnod still wanted her to die. bad shit happens to her. regardless if she hears out âwilliamââs âwarningâ (w/ the fire). she continues to get abused at home, her best friend/lover holds back the truth from her and then goes missing, she gets drugged and assaulted, then killed/has to live with knowing her existence has SOMEHOW caused the destruction of a whole town. lis was like, fucking disgusting. so⌠likeâŚ. âthings will get better, theres a greater beauty yet to come⌠before you get fucking emotionally tortured and die?â. it makes no sense. in fact, it just makes me believe even Harder that lis1 wasnât canon. that rachel doesnt go missing, that max returns, that the three of them live happily together. itâs fucking cruel to include symbolism referencing a happy fate for chloe when we know what dontnod wanted to happen to her. (and like, no doubt some idiot will be like, well she can die and be in heaven with dead rachel, isnât that cute? no. no itâs not itâs gross fuck off.) (( or someone will be like, well she enjoyed her years with rachel before dying â this is still bad, guys. this is bad. any chlo death is bad okay. plus the end of amberpriceâs relationship was strained as hell due to the issues rachel was sadly going through at the time and the fact she didnât feel like she could talk to people about them, leadin 2 dishonesty between chlo n rach⌠plus chloeâs life kinda like, turned to shit right before lis if u dont remember. so yeah. thatâs just bad)) âŚ.. but thatâs gone way off topic. itâs just my way of saying like, the symbolism isnât Extremely deep anyway, bc itâs fuckin. flawed. and iâm seeing you guys all fucking fight over whether it means that max is the good one or rachelâs the good one and its like. both are good. chloe loves both. nothing you say can change that. youâre just making a fool of yourself. in summary: yâall are using this dumb symbolism as fuel for a ship war when like, itâs completely pointless. itâs not about whoâs better or whatever. theyâre just messages to chloe. messages letting her know that she should keep going on. messages warning her to not get hurt by anything. they donât reflect hugely on max and rachel as characters, chloeâs the most important part of this dream. itâs about her, okay!!!!! itâs about chlo chlo iâm telling you!!!!!! iâm making it all about my girl!!!!!!!!! my girl who loves both max and rachel!!!!!!!!!!!!! itâs about her looking after herself. itâs about her holding onto a connection with her dad. itâs about reassuring her that she should always hold onto hope, keep going on, even when shit starts to get fucky. because it WILL get fucky. it DOES. it doesnât mean rach is irredeemable or anything, itâs just. a warning. thats all. a warning that doesnât even mean too much when you consider dontnodâs intended fate⌠itâs just, annoying. iâm still salty about lis1 so seeing yâall fight over it just makes me go likeâŚâŚ. hhhhhh. it doesnt matter that much. chloe still gets hurt. but yeah anyway. it looks really silly when u use it as like, proof for one ship being superior/proof that one character is problematic. both girls are good who cares just care more about CHLOE and her WELLBEING ppLEASE i canât do this all by myself. cant yâall just join me in constantly ranting about chloe and caring for her. ur not a true chloe price stan if you demonise any of the girls she falls in love w
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sometimes and by that i mean a lot of the time, i remember how much elsa means to me as a character. in general sheâs very mediocre in comparison to others, but she was there for me when i was hella depressed and sheâs like a form of comfort for me now.
i was following the production of frozen for the longest time, letâs say about 5ish years before release? i was excited for it, i was disappointed in the changes made, i refused to believe the original elsa and anna leaked design images were real because they looked so bad, i read the script when it leaked and was mad at the conveluded plot.
but the movie came out during the semester of art school i got severe depression through. i had always dreamed of going to art school and working in the animation industry and i had a single thought that went in my brain a week before the semester started. it said i would never be good /enough/. it kept playing back over and over when i would turn in assignments. i did well in school, but the workload was a lot when you decide to take 3 studio classes at once. i started getting overly picky with what i considered to be good enough in my work and eventually stopped turning in assignments. sometimes i would have them âdoneâ but it wasnât good enough so i didnât bother
i was living with my grandparents at the time and locked myself in my room to be alone a bunch. i didnât socialize in classes and who i considered friends were out of reach. i had just started dating my bf a few months prior and the time zone/distance/etc was a new experience altogether. i was constantly scared i would lose my friends not just to distance but other personal reasons not meant to be shared on tumblr. my grandparents gave me my distance and i just spent a lot of time alone. i remember skyping with dean and staying up all night with him bc i didnât want to be alone.
i got more depressed over time, i was just sad. i would try to fill the void with buying things i had left at home with my parents. i remember i would drive out to the mall. i would get a pretzel to eat. eat it outside the disney store, maybe buy something after. if not disney merch, i would go buy clothes. i had not been eating much aside from the almost daily pretzel and lost about 40/50 pounds within a span of 3 months. i just thought i was losing weight for walking around the city to go to classes and spent a majority of the money i had saved up over my childhood on clothes that i have never been able to fit in aside from those few months at the end of 2013.
the day the game grumps released that one wind waker episode about dans ocd story was released during this time. i watched that episode and immediately started crying bc i knew i wasnât okay. i had completely changed in a span of about 2 months at that point. i was sad and didnât know what to do. i constantly wanted to not exist and spent a lot of the time crying and sleeping and starving myself. i called my mom and asked for help. parents tried helping but they didnât understand at the time what depression meant on that level. i told them maybe i could handle school better if i dropped one of the 4 classes i had. and of course i dropped the history class and not any of the studios. i made schedules and plans to complete the semester but i still. felt overwhelmed and not good enough and lonely and sad and frustrated at these emotions because i couldnât just focus like a normal person. i lies to my parents to my grandparents to a lot of people that i was continuing my work but i stopped doing 2 of the remaining 3 classes altogether. ended up with withdraw failures in them.
the last class was my life drawing class. i enjoyed it a lot. i took a train into the city to go to it. i found peace in the hour listening to music to get there. i would talk to dean before he went to bed on my way there and greet him in his mornings when i went home. i thought i could handle it and it was going well. besides for the assignments that were meant to be done at home. we had a final that was meant to be an illustration showing our learned skills in the class in a 24x36in size. not bad at all. i got the paper, had the sketch. i just had to do it. but i didnât. when i was in that room at my grandparents place i felt nothing but emptiness. so i filled it whatever i could think of
my hyperfixation of things soon moved to the release of frozen. i had followed it previously and was excited to go see it. i had bought the classic dolls for the main characters the day they were released and left them in box in case i didnât like the movie and wanted to sell them. my immediate family came to visit my grandparents for thanksgiving that year and i asked my mom if we could go see frozen at itâs earliest showing on release day. she agreed because i lied to her saying my figure drawing class had been cancelled for the holidays (it wasnât bc we were meant to show progress on our finals)
i cried so hard so fast bc whatever i was feeling i felt through elsa. i projected so much onto her and i fell in love. it gave me a second wind. i bought the frozen soundtrack and would sing along to let it go on the way to the train station. i felt like i could overcome my depression as simple as that. but circumstances donât work like that
i never turned in that final despite it being the assignment where âif u donât turn it in u failâ.
i dropped out of art school, telling my parents maybe i wasnât meant for art. iâm not good enough to make it in the industry if iâm like this. i was gonna go home and go to the local state college instead. get a degree in something ... useful.
i left art school with a total gpa of 0.9
elsa is a character thatâs just. i never understood the popularity frozen had. it has problems. itâs ... not that great honestly. but elsa stood out for me. she was some sort of proof to me i could be happy.
a lot has happened in the past 4 years, but i can say iâm honestly happy. i have a lot of good things going on. though i think the most important to this story i guess is ?
iâm graduating with my bachelors in art in may. my gpa is back at a 3.6. i took 3 studios classes this semester on top of 2 art history lectures and made it through. i thought so little of myself and my abilities over the years. i never thought iâd graduate college at that point i was at 4 years ago. when i applied to my local uni, i had to appeal to get in because of my low gpa from those 4 semesters of art school. i spent 2 years there not knowing if i even wanted to do art again. but i realized this is something thatâs always been a part of me. itâs who i am? and i want to use this talent i had to. make it in the industry. my dream for as long as i can remember is to make media for kids who feel lost and alone. itâs always been my dream and i wonât let anyone or anything keep me from trying my hardest to make it happen, which includes not letting myself stop me.
i donât know what the future holds but iâm excited to see where it takes me
and it just happens to involve me and my fleeting hyperfixation on elsa asking for the olafâs frozen adventure limited edition elsa doll for chrismas because i want to say i look at her and think everything i just said
but in reality i just go shheeeees my wiiiiiiiife i looooooove herrrrrrrrr
#jesse writes an essay about their life#i think this is worth it for the last sentence#pls if u wanna know more about me i guess#jesse thoughts
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