#i don't mind you venting to me just fucking ask. that's why I blocked a lot of you

[kylievershion]

me wondering why my 17-30+ deviantart 'friends' have the nerve and audacity to randomly vent to me as if I'm their fucking therapist and continue talking about some random drama that was over with months ago

[kaijuposting]

"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

any tips for being outed as a proshipper/freak on main? i had it under wraps and now everyone knows and i'm getting a lot of hate and threats

I am so sorry you're dealing with this, anon. It sucks so fucking bad and depending on how public it is, it could get very rough.

My first bit of advice is to close your inbox IMMEDIATELY. That means no asks off anon either. Also check your DM settings and switch them so that you can only receive messages from blogs you follow. Switch your reply settings too while you're at it. If the callout or posts are on a different site, like Google docs or archive.org, consider making a report or putting in a request for them to be removed. It may not happen, but it's worth a try.

Do NOT respond to the hate. I know it's tempting to try to make a snappy comeback or even to express how much you're hurting, but it is absolutely 100% not worth it. Report any threats and harassment, then block the person and move on. If you have any side blogs that are associated with your main, make sure to block them on those blogs too.

If you want to make any sort of posts about it, severely limit yourself with what you say (try not to get too emotional, again I know it's tempting but it WILL be used against you) and try to keep it short; a simple explanation of why you're a proshipper and why you are NOT ashamed or embarrassed of that will suffice if you really want to talk about, then TURN OFF THE REBLOGS. If you don't want to acknowledge it publicly, then don't. That's your right.

Depending on how bad things are, you may want to take a break from tumblr. Whether that's for a few days or a few months, take all the time you need. Harassment on tumblr is very much based on the victim's responses; if you don't give people the satisfaction of being publicly hurt, then a lot of them will lose interest and move onto something more interesting. Taking a break from tumblr both lets the hype die down a bit and gives you time to recalibrate without that stress.

If you want to make a new main blog, that is also totally fine; people will tell you that it's cowardly to "run" like that, but remember that those are the people harassing someone over fiction. Taking care of yourself is not cowardly. I switched all my side blogs to a new (and "secret") main before and it was a huge weight off my shoulders and the mutuals who were chill followed me.

Again, I am so sorry that this is happening to you, anon. It is an absolutely miserable situation to be in and I hope things get better for you. Feel free to vent in my inbox if you ever need a place to just lose your mind a bit.

[sanguinaryfreaks]

WELCOME !¡

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I interact from here for @sangylittlespace, @sanguinarywriter and @sanguinaryclaws

Hi! We are Sanguinary Freaks Massacre you can call us Gore or Visceral, we use any pronouns (and neos) but prefer shi/hir. Our collective gender is transmascfem and sexuality is omnigay, quoiromantic and ambi, the body is latino and intersex. We are 21 years old and are a C-DID system of a lot.

System terms: System, collective, pwDID, multiple, alters, headmates, littles.

sideblogs and others (link) - pronouns.cc (link) - plain text (link) - icon and banner id (wip)

DO NOT INTERACT

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Basic DNI criteria (homophobic, transphobic, racist, etc)

Transmeds, radqueers, etc, etc

SH, ED or gore blogs

Pro endos, tulpas, endos or any kind of non traumagenic system and their supporters

Pro/comshippers and shipcourse in general

Sexualize age or pet regression

Anti-xenogenders, anti-neopronouns, anti-therian, anti-otherkin

Anti-recovery IRLs or DAs, we won't feed into your delusions (sincerely a delusional system)

TransID, or supports TransID, TransRAMCOA, etc.

Syscourse blogs

Belive in cluster b abuse or any disordered abuse

Pro-contact / anti-recovery paraphilias

Believe in "doubles" (as in you're too annoying with the "doubles dni" and get mad at doubles for existing)

Anti good faith identities / "contradictory" labels, including mspec lesbians / gays (neutrals are on thin ice)

Believe that transfem alters can't be in an AFAB body or transmascs can't in an AMAB body. Or that AFAB people can't be transfem, etc. (You're intersexist btw ✌🏻)

Empty accounts, accounts without a pinned post or reblog accounts (you're probably safe if you introduce yourself in asks and tell me why you followed me)

Zionist, pro-Israel, or "neutral" in the Palestinian genocide

Use "TME" or "TMA"

BEFORE YOU FOLLOW

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We don't mind minors following us and interacting with us outside of dms

Depending on the alter and the day we might accept endo neutrals to follow and interact but don't bring endos/pro endos to our account please

Know that if we follow you is because we want to be friends so feel free to DM us (we are too scared to dm first dnjakckwkd) !!!

We have alters from problematic sources, if you don't like this go away

We like problematic media but we don't support their creators or the media itself (like buying the games or watching the show on the legal sites). If you're gonna be morality police and tell us that we are still supporting them by just liking the media (we cant control a hyperfixation), feel free to block us, we don't care

We won't post anything nsfw, we will probably post this type of jokes but trigger warn them

Don't try to force us to change our name or source separate, we aren't doing it for a reason. We also use names respectfully and would never disrespect the culture

Sometimes we reblog stuff about the yandere stereotypy, we have bpd and we use the term for ourselves

We call ourselves freaks (because we can and we want), if you don't like this fuck off, we don't care

Interests and more

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Special interests: Psychology, system terms, xenogenders, Simply Plural, art in general, horror in general, etc.

Collective interests: Heaven Official's Blessing, Silent Hill, Stardew Valley, Honkai Star Rail, Wuthering Waves, Death Mark, Danganronpa, CoTL, My Little Pony, Fear and Hunger, Stardew Valley.

Tagging system

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#❛𔓕— alter name ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — how we will tag who's fronting

#❛ 𔓕— sanguinary vent ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — us hating our life /hj

#❛ 𔓕— unsobriety ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — alcohol or any substance mention

#❛ 𔓕— spirit my beloved ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — posts about @lesbian-aurora

#❛ 𔓕— minors don't look ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — nsfw posts or mentions of such stuff

Extra:

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Credits:

DNI banner: @/seraphim-coinz

[mari-lair]

There has been a massive argument about aoikane on Twitter since this morning ,people are calling Akane a domestic abuser ...

I'll be honest with you, Anon, my reaction to that was "Of course they are, the dumb fucks" cause I have no respect for twtbhk. Zero. Negative even.

I don't need to tell you why Akane isn't a domestic abuser (I hope i don't have to. Please, I want to believe tumblr have basic reading comprehension) but I'll use this ask to vent about Twitter.

Most of twtbhk don't care about the manga, they don't even have their own opinion. I am not joking. It's like a cult of ungrateful kids that use 'jokes lol' to hate on everything they disagree with, being so immersed in their own headcanons that they don't even know what they are talking about anymore

They don't care about Akane as a character, at all, if he is a domestic abuser or not in canon doesn't matter, they won't check, they won't change their opinion, they won't go "oh this character action doesn't fit my perception of them, let me see if I missed something" they'll just claim the character was "written wrong" or "acted ooc in that scene" because they want a character to just be an accessory to a ship or to be an easy target to hate. They'll forever ignore the manga for a version that they created that is the "correct version of the manga" and they'll keep mischaracterizing Akane, or Aoi, or any character they like/dislike to fit their cute troupes or easy to hate 'version.'

They'll basically create OCs and act like is the truth, aoikane doesn't exist on twitter, it never did, I have seen people say "Chapter 69 doesn't exist cause I personally hate that chapter" unironically. So yeah... They don't care about aoikane, the ship they are talking about, where Akane is a domestic abuser? It's just something they made up.

Picture this:

They are openly disrespectful towards Aidairo (I no longer check the comments on their wonderful art) when they created the manga they claim to love, so of course they have no respect for other fans and won't try to hear them, of course being kind to a stranger is something that doesn't cross their mind, they want to argue or 'joke' about it instead.

At this point, if I visit twtbhk expecting anything insightful, that's on me, shame on me. I should have known better.

So my advice to you is to not go there, and if you're addicted to the site and can't escape, just block people without restrain. I promise you're not missing anything, they aren't even reading the manga you like.

[mcsm-r0ckz]

Hello!! I'm the owner of the MCSM-R0CKZ blog!!😋

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《⭐️》 Names: Ast3r, R0ckz, Ax3l, or Aid3n 《⭐️》 They/It

《⭐️》 Nonbinary, Omnisexual, Poly-curious

[🔥] AB0UT M3!!

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《⭐️》 Axden, Cassaya, Nellinta, Stellivia, Magriel, Jesstra and Jesskas multishipper🏳️‍🌈

《⭐️》 I'm a mine-imatorer, horror creator, writer, artist, cosplayer, and editor😋

《⭐️》 Big Axel and Aiden kin😛

《⭐️》 Trigger words: Axolotls, mentions of the words like or similar to mochi or Aymar, and at times S/H and suicide

[🔥] WARN1NGS!!

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《⭐️》 My AU contains mature topics like, drugs, alcohol, etc.

《⭐️》 My AU is HELLA different from canon MCSM[ex: ages, lore, characters, etc], so be warned

《⭐️》 I might and will say dirty things because I'm dirty minded, so be warned👍

《⭐️》 I cuss A LOT like 24/7😭

《⭐️》 Do not hate on any ships[except animal x human or straight up illegal ones] or I will roundhouse kick you😇/sil but still do not

《⭐️》 If I hurt you w/ my joking teasing/bullying, just tell me nicely, but I might be stubborn because I don't understand/gen

《⭐️》 I have anger issues, so if I get snappy or pissed off at times, then that's why🥲

《⭐️》 I will get passionate about certain subjects, so be warned🙏

[🔥] RUL3S/B0UNDARI3S!!

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《⭐️》 I am not religious, like, at all, so like, don't bring up that stuff around me🫠

《⭐️》 Kindly and PRIVATELY correct me if I make a mistake, half the time I don't know if I do so just correct me😃

《⭐️》 Do NOT trigger me with triggers!!

《⭐️》 Respect my ships, even if you don't like them. If you can't, just fucking block me for all I care lmao💀

《⭐️》 Do not insult my favorite/comfort characters, I only say this because I might insult yours unintentionally so just to be safe, don't hate on them in front of me😭🙏

《⭐️》 USE TONETAGS❗️❗️

[🔥] S0CIALS!!

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《⭐️》 WATTPAD : AST3RUSSY

《⭐️》 ROLEPLAY ACCOUNT : @b1gmanax3l

[🔥] DNI's!!

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《⭐️》 ANY TYPE OF HOMOPHOBES

《⭐️》 ANY TYPE OF TRANSPHOBES

《⭐️》 XENOPHOBES

《⭐️》 HYPOCRITES

《⭐️》 PROSHIPPERS AND SUPPORTS

《⭐️》 [INSERT SHIP] HATERS[who mean it in a literal sense]

《⭐️》 RELATIVE NEGATIVITY

《⭐️》 STUPID PEOPLE

《⭐️》 ABLEISTS

《⭐️》 MISOGYNISTS

[🔥] TAGS!!

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《⭐️》 #aster rambles: me rambling about certain things on my mind lmao💥

《⭐️》 #aster announcements: news about a new book, intro, or whatever I think is important😇

《⭐️》 #aster wtf moments: me being a dumbass/weirdo🥲

《⭐️》 #ask aster: a new tag where basically it's just all the asks I get, not fully done tho as of rn🫠

《⭐️》 #asters shitty drawings: drawings I made😋

《⭐️》 #aster vents: me venting basically😭

《⭐️》 #asters fun facts: me sharing info/fun facts abt mcsm🤑

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And that's it lmao

[lemuel-apologist]

Listen. The way that universities treat ADHD is deplorable. The way that the public at large treats ADHD is just as bad, but universities in particular are fresh on my mind, given where I am in life, about a month post-graduation.

This post is a bit of a preamble. Bear with me.

I struggled through three and a half years of genuine college being the way I am with no buffer; had an unwelcome epiphany of a diagnosis at the end of my second-to-last semester; and had the best semester, confidence- and social-life-wise of my life-- which was, simultaneously, the worst semester of my life academically. I have gone on and on about organic chemistry and how it fucked with me, but I don't know that I have gone into why.

Post-diagnosis, I was presented with the opportunity to tell my ochem professor about anything that could be an issue during the semester. I debated it; I debated it very seriously; but this form was a graded assignment, and I had to either tell him or not tell him, and it was better than I tell him than not. So, I told him, in very edited-down words, that I have some issues with anxiety and I have ADHD. Both have, because of how I am as a person, meant that I have to approach labs in a certain way and I probably will freak out at some point, but I was optimistic that it wouldn't be an issue at that point, and I would recuse myself to the hall if it was. (After all, I'd been medicated for about a month and, in that time, had survived moot court, navigated a family member's arrest that I advised on forensically, and cooked for two family events. I was fine. I was only medicated for the sake of anxiety. It was working as planned.)

I have a bone to pick with that professor in particular for a lot of reasons. He had a lot of interactions with women that rubbed me the wrong way, but none of them crossed that line like they did with me. I told him the way that things were going for me, I told him what I needed (a chance to eat before class, some extensions as needed on assignments, and clarifications on what he wanted done with equipment), and he consistently held me to a higher standard to other students, stepped in to mess with my fume hood when I didn't ask him to, and, importantly, would dock anyone up to five points from their labwork for being late to class, meaning that I couldn't eat before lab, since I had to sprint uphill from my osteology class-- which he knew, because that was something I told him. I vented very briefly, in exasperation, to my Senate advisor, who was the only member of faculty anywhere near administration who knew about my ADHD; and, when she asked why I didn't see about more formal accommodations, I reminded her the state of our school's Disability Services processes, which we were in the middle of advocating for fixing, as a block (famously hard to navigate and famously impossible to get through in a timely manner, meaning I wouldn't be able to do anything about it before I graduated-- and it wouldn't guarantee nonretaliation anyway).

And you know what? I got a D+ not because of him, but in SPITE of him. I got a C total not because of him, but in SPITE of him. Eat my FUCKING ass.

[leomonae]

What is this drama with dhampling I'm so confused but I like drama

I'm not bothering to look anything up for my summary, so no guarantees on complete accuracy. Explanation below the cut since I highly doubt anyone not directly involved is going to care about any of this.

Right, so basically @dhampling put up a post asking for BG3 fic recs the other... day? Week? Idk, I'm bad at time, it was recently, anyway. They asked for recs, various people reblogged and responded, including someone who recced a few members of this discord server I'm in - smaller creators, writers who haven't had much of an audience/exposure for their fics, and were pretty happy about the recognition. At some point, dhampling deleted their original post on the subject, leaving a message on their blog about how they didn't want to name names/get pulled into drama or some such - making a pretty vague statement that raised more questions than it answered, basically.

Some members of that discord server I mentioned were a little miffed about this, since to their minds it was removing one of the ways they might get more people finding/reading their fics. I, personally, was rolling my eyes at the incredibly vague nature of the non-explanation and questioning why they didn't just delete the thing and leave it alone after, if they didn't want it being made into some big deal somehow. Since the discord server is private/invite-only, some of us expressed said frustrations in a vent thread therein. Other people, including the person who'd reblogged and given some recs of the server's members, attempted to speak in dhampling's defense a little - they're young (which I guess they disliked being said about them once they found this out?), we don't know what prior experiences they've had in fandoms and some people can get vicious sometimes, the OP's original post may be gone but the reblogs are still out there so it's not a huge deal anyway, etc etc.

Then at some point soon afterwards, someone in the server shared screenshots of the aforementioned venting with dhampling, who apparently strongly disliked it/what was said? I know the server owner tried reaching out to talk to them without getting a response, and I gather that they blocked a few people, but as far as I was aware, this nonsense was pretty much over. Guess not, though!

Oh yeah, and around the time we were discussing the matter in the server, I went and commented on dhampling's "I deleted my post" non-explanation to say that it didn't really tell us anything at all and questioning if it was something personal or an issue with one of the stories or what, since a) I am a naturally curious/nosy person sometimes, b) a couple of my buddies were fretting that they might have done something to offend this person somehow, and c) why not?

And no, dhampling, if you were including me in the whole "I want an apology" thing you just posted, I will not, in fact, be offering one. I decided the other day upon review that I have no actual issues with anything I said at the time, and given that it was a handful of friends expressing some mild frustrations to one another in a private server, where they had every reason to expect their words would remain private rather than ever getting back to you, I don't really think anyone there owes you an apology anyway.

Sometimes people get annoyed with others. Sometimes they say so to their friends privately, rather than going and being rude to the person who annoyed them or whatever. This is normal, healthy, interpersonal behaviour. Nobody was plotting to come harass you or what the fuck ever; there would be no harm done here at all, including to your feelings, if someone from our server hadn't decided to disrespect our own members' right to have their private comments not shared with someone outside without their consent.

So let's drop this non-issue, already, huh?

[jabberwock-islanders]

vent incoming, no tws as far as i'm aware

we are. genuinely fucking shaking right now! why is it so hard for the endo community to understand that we don't want them to fucking interact with our shit. why do they think they're so fucking special that they have the right to dogpile people within the traumatized community that their community, no matter how much they're trying to fight for "scientific proof" of their validity, IS FULL OF PEOPLE CLAIMING TO BE SYSTEMS WITHOUT A DISSOCIATIVE DISORDER. FULL OF PEOPLE MOCKING OUR FUCKING TRAUMA. we're tempted to fucking shut down this blog and start over because we're genuinely so fucking scared. no matter how many times we say to leave us alone and not interact with our blog or posts they keep replying to our posts, they keep sending shit in our ask box, they're mentioning us in posts complaining about BASIC FUCKING BOUNDARIES.

it took every fiber of my fucking being to keep zack from losing his fucking mind and just block the acc without saying anything and i'm starting to get scared of what he'll do if this happens again. this is seriously starting to trigger us, but i doubt they'd care. we feel cornered, we're paranoid every time we have an activity notification, and i'm starting to think that starting over with a new blog is the best idea for us. we're a fucking 16 year old kid, we shouldn't have to be this fucking paranoid over something so simple. block the tags we use. if you see our posts on your home page, literally just click "not interested in this post" and we'll be off your feed. but no, you want to actively hunt down traumatized kids and fucking harass them. you disgust me.

the only thing we're asking you to do is leave us the fuck alone. and you don't even have the decency to do that.

-- Rin 🥽

[faunabel]

vent. aghhh. sorry. dark stuff so probably don't read.

i just spent an hour straight sobbing and rapidly switching because my parents make me feel that bad. they both get passive aggressive and sigh exasperatedly or slam doors and get mad at me if i say how it makes me feel bad. continuously saying i'm too sensitive. making me feel insane and unable to trust my judgement. if i say they make me feel like a burden they just get mad at me like that somehow proves their point wrong.

also my mom sits there continuously yapping about nothing while i'm crying then guilt trips me when i say something because apparently i'll be mad at her either way. or you could just. use fucking context clues and not sit there talking about the tv when i'm crying. how stupid are you.

also eventually i had a panic attack so i wanted to get away from the people causing it but my mom just blocked me from the door and pinned me to the couch and hit me. which is fucking lovely. day one and already that :) i fucking hate feeling trapped it makes me dissociate so heavily when i can't get away and already i have nowhere to go to feel safe i feel like i'm in the mouth of a lion and i can never relax because it could bite down at any moment

then i panicked and ran and locked myself in the bathroom and heard them overtalking about how they should've "fixed my mental problems" already as if the problem isn't them being horrible fucking people. either they tell me to stop crying and get mad when i say that doesn't help or carry on a conversation like i'm not breaking down in the corner. regardless they treat me breaking down like i'm a crazy person who needs to be locked away.

i don't feel safe. all of the previous hotel trauma came back at once. i'm scared. i don't want to go through this again. i made so much progress recovering. i don't want to regress. i'm scared to be alone again. i'm scared everyone will leave me now that i'm depressed and not cheerful. i'm scared nobody will ever love me and care about me and accommodate for me. i'm scared i'm too much of a burden and my existence is flawed and the only way people will like me is if i have no wants or needs and smile 24/7. i'm scared i'm not allowed to be upset and i'm just spoiled and delusional. i'm scared anyone who saw what happened would blame me for it because i'm such a fucking nuisance. i didn't ask to have sensory issues. i think it would be better for everyone if i was dead.

i regressed to a childlike state of mind again. i want to be held and protected. but nobody will do that. everyone is mean. i want to be safe. but everyone is mean. why is everyone so mean. why am i so bad. why can't i be good and loveable. i want to be good enough to be held and cared about. why am i such a burden. why is the world so cruel. i want to be loved. i want to be happy and safe. why can't i have that. what about me do i have to destroy to be good and deserving.

i don't want to be alone........... i don't want to be rotten.

[eclipse-strider]

Ripped the (hopefully) final band-aid off in regards to my ex I think. More under the read more so I don't bother y'all with my rambling venting.

Told her I knew she was traveling with the new guy so I didn't want to bother her, but asked if she'd give me a call sometime later so we could talk and catch up. Said I understood if she didn't want to, then got left on read. Told her "I guess I'll leave you alone then" and she just hit me with a simple "no." Still tried to stay polite and tell her ok, "I'll leave you be, have a nice night", but like....

What the fuck did I do to her over the past few weeks? Two weeks ago we texted a little bit and sent some cat vids to each other, then she just starts leaving me on read and blocks me from seeing her stories.

She's the one who said she wanted to be friends, why start acting like this now? Yeah, I'm still a bit jealous and bitter about the new guy, but I'm not gonna try and sabotage the relationship, nor do I want to be a toxic ass like some of her other ex's. She said she still cared about me, and I just want to be in her life as a friend cause I care about her.

Idk man, I just want to move on, but everytime I think I'm making progress, she does or says something that puts my emotions through the ringer.

I know that's not her fault, it's my emotions and how I'm choosing to react to it, but sometimes it feels like she does some of this stuff specifically to rub it in my face.

I don't want to be a toxic ex, I want to be her friend, like she said she wanted, because after everything that's happened, I still care about her and want the best for her, even if that means I'm not her boyfriend or husband or whatever. Idk, wish I could just turn off my emotions or cut my feelings and memories of her out of my mind. I just want to be happy and work on myself now.

Why the fuck am I like this?

[cookinguptales]

TIL that you can block anonymous users via your inbox! And if you do that, it also gets rid of any of their old messages! Which has the side effect of letting you know which anon wrote which messages!

Which I guess is nice because

It gave me confirmation that the one anon I suspected was the same one who keeps sending me stuff I just... do not wish to read (because it's so long-winded, passive-aggressive, and full of absolutely rancid takes) actually was that person, despite the fact that I have asked them repeatedly to just unfollow me. And now I'll never have to get one of their diatribes again.

Kind of a relief to know that actually, my inbox was not full of people who hate me! It was just full of like two people who were really dedicated to hating me! Which is very fucking weird of them!

I will never understand why people get so fucking mad because someone wrote some fandom takes they didn't agree with on their own blog. Just... block me and move on and read stuff from other users who agree with you. It's fandom, not WWII. It doesn't always have to be combative. I'm open to discussion, but if you're just here to curse at me or tell me I'm an idiot or go on a rant about "certain people in fandom" or just be a condescending douchebag... save your breath, maybe? I'm not going to change my mind; all you're doing is irritating us both.

I see takes I don't agree with all the time, but I am normal and well-adjusted (lmao) and I just... scroll. Or block them, if it happens repeatedly. Or if I really feel strongly about it, I make my own meta post about my own opinions without referencing theirs. If I feel irritated, I vent privately to friends. It is just never worth a fight on tumblr dot com. Everyone just comes out feeling bad.

Also like... very genuinely, I do not understand why people send me long anonymous rants via ask when they clearly don't actually want my input. I get that it's scary to make posts of your own with your own name attached (like... obviously, I am proving the risks of that rn) but like?? Stop trying to use me as a platform or something. Gather your courage and make your own fucking post. Surely that must be easier than sending me like 400 words in multiple asks whining about the ~state of fandom these days~ when I clearly disagree with you, then getting angry with me when I disagree with you.

I've pretty much decided to stop publishing those. I feel like it's probably just going to give people what they want? A platform for their vents without actually having to put their names on their ideas. I fully welcome anon asks (even very long ones!) that really want to discuss elements of canon or bring up ideas or ask me for my opinion. Even ones that don't necessarily agree with me, as long as they're respectful! But damn, some of you treat me like I'm not even a real person and I'm tired of it. You don't have to like my ideas, you don't even have to like me, but if you want me to engage with you, you gotta treat me with some semblance of respect.

Like... maybe I've been too nice? I try to answer all messages, even ones that are kind of shitty, as patiently as I can with as much good faith as I can muster, but like. maybe I do need to just tell some people to fuck off and/or delete their shitty bad-faith asks without reading them. Maybe I've emboldened people by engaging with these asks at all, idek. I really like ask culture on tumblr, but like. to be brutally frank, some of you are real shitheads with bad reading comprehension and terrible takes. You're not nice, and your ideas aren't interesting.

(I do just delete the ones that are just cursing or insults, typically, but I usually try to engage if there's any real content beyond that, and maybe that was a mistake...? Maybe you can't react to bad-faith actors with good faith...)

Anyway. This was a long and mystified post, but I really do feel much lighter knowing that the problem was less widespread than I thought (if... more concentrated than I'd anticipated) and that I will never have to hear from certain people again.

I'm probably going to leave anon off for a few more days just because I really do think I just need a mental break from wwdits for a few days, but I feel a lot safer turning it back on now. :')

[thattimdrakeguy]

Frankly if you asked me, all of that unnecessary misdirection and twists that left poor Tim at the ‘make him angsty and edgier’ block for later writers to force upon him was the result of the whole darker and edgier train that permeated not just the Batbooks but the whole industry throughout the decade he was in.

Basically short, in my honest opinion, Tim Drake was the perfect character at the absolutely wrong time.

The 90s edgier nonsense (as foreshadowed by the marvelous competition’s hefty promotion of Venom, Cable and other like minded antiheroes, Early Image having a foundation built on that) made possible with the Batmania (since he’s naturally the perfect candidate for darker and edgier due to both his gothic aesthetic and his insane popularity) unfortunately gave the writers of that era and the 2000s the impression that since it’s Gotham, things in universe are just miserable and sucky

And since Tim lives in Gotham, despite meant to be the counter to that misery that permeates the city he helps defend, it was only a matter of time before that wrong impression got to him too

It’s why to this day, my preferred Tim Drake is that original Fanboy we saw in A Lonely Place of Dying since in the end, that’s what he’s meant to be, beginner or not and why I am still reluctant to get anything Dixon related on both him and Nightwing since those runs are built on that train of thought that says ‘misery in setting and edgier characters means compelling and mature storytelling, especially in Gotham’

I know, long winded, I just needed to vent. You may ignore this if you wish to

Bro, I just asked #cats what a raw potato tasted like, I don't feel like ignoring much.

And, I wouldn't say Tim was in the wrong time. He has his great successes in the 90s. The main reason he's talked about past people's obsession with one story in Red Robin, that has slowly lost popularity 'cause of people realizing it wasn't the best Tim--is 'cause of the 90s.

There was plenty of people who were sick of the big overexaggerated 90s crap even if it did infest Tim a bit when they'd draw him way buffer than he was clearly meant to be.

It's all just a matter of writers with the ability to do better either not advancing to the right places in comics, or throwing their talents down the toilet to be there.

It's all about good writing. That's it, really, that's the big secret.

Why is Dick a massive joke of a character now? 'Cause the writing got bad.

Why did Batman look like a total maniac more like usual for a while? 'Cause the writing got bad.

Why is Damian totally unrecognizable a lot of the time on nearly every single level for over a decade now(Though I have heard some aspects like art have been getting better, or so I've seen thankfully, but I'm still not trusting that all the way because now this fucking fucking hell)? 'Cause the work got bad.

Why is Jason just a fan fic edgy woobie fuck a lot of the time now? 'Cause the writing got bad.

How did Steph go from edgy, determined, "vigilante vixen", who was morally kinda questionable at times go to acting like a 12-year-old sometimes? 'Cause the writing got bad.

No matter what in the end. It's all down to the writing, and also art.

There's always been good movies in every decade no matter the taste, because people with true talent and knowledge, and know-how where out there to make so happen.

Comics being a dwindling medium that's how a down-turn in quality going on for a long time? It's just not a business worth getting into anymore. Passion or not, people just aren't good writers. And that can happen in any era.

But back to the main point, Tim was at his most popular in the 90s in an era you wouldn't think he'd fit into with all the Rob Liefeld stuff. Like he got an 80-page-giant in the late 90s over some characters you think would actually get one because he was so naturally popular.

But what made him work then isn't dated. It's timeless. They just haven't had good enough writers to make him work, and it sucks, but it's how it is.

The reason Tim really got changed so much isn't down to tastes in an era. It's down to the taste of a few people in specific positions. Things that made Tim work were still working wonders in other places.

[thegoldenarcher]

i'm seeing some really bad takes about the avengers and clint... some of yall think clint is the most put together, I EVEN SAW A POST SAYING HE HAS THE MOST "NORMAL BRAIN"?

heartbreaking. clint doesn't work himself to death to keep up with gods and assassins and super soldiers and super genuises and trained assassins for yall to call him the "most normal (minded)."

he was an ORPHAN raised by CARNIES. you think he's gonna be "normal"?

BEFORE I REALLY GET TOO FAR AWAY FROM THIS, WHAT THE FUCK IS "normal" TO YALL???

idk it's beyond clint and being a fictional character, it's using poor wording that feels borderline ableist to describe him and the other avengers. bc that's what the post i saw was about. "who is the most fucked in the head and who is the most normal avenger" what the fuck???? idk maybe i'm missing something but i don't want to participate in conversations like that and if i see them on your blog i will probably block you on sight. do better. think harder. what the fuck happened to critical analysis, i'm not saying it's wrong to pick at characters' minds and even fucking "categorize" them if you want. but it bothers me to see terms like "normal" and "insane" (because that was the opposite word they were using to "normal" in their shitty post) to describe the mental state of anyone. fictional or not. it creates and enforces a stigma around mental health and mood disorders etc. if i get questions asked "how" or "why" on this, i will not be answering. there are enough answers here.

i'll get off my fucking soap box. i just? expected better? idk but this is a personal post more than anything and won't tag it lol i needed to vent after seeing such an atrocious post holy shit

[necroticghost]

Venting about art and content creation:

I love getting ignored in art group chats even if I'm just doing the same things as everyone else.

So, picture a support gc for art. Art post sent before mine: "a bunch of likes", my art post: "a bunch minus quite a few likes", post below me "the same bunch as the one above". Dude, it's a drawing that took me 15 hours, super proud of it. There's literally nothing off with it, so why did I not get the same kind of support? Why me? Why was I the only one with less support? Fucking embarrassing, especially when I support all of their posts. I should turn into an asshole too.

Then, another art group chat. Me: sends progress picture on something we were working on together. The host: privately messages me to delete it. Huh?

They specifically said that it's adviced to send progress pictures, like?? Eventually they messaged me again and apologised, saying they made a mistake, but it was too late and I was too embarrassed and actually deleted it, only for everyone else to actually start sending progress pictures as well right after that. So my mistake was being the first to share anything.

See it's shit like this that makes me hate the art community I'm in sometimes. I didn't experience this at all when I was a content creator for something else in the past. I actually made friends through it, some I talk to even now after three years, but I feel like the artists I'm mutuals with literally only care about themselves. It's either that or jealousy lmao. And yeah I'm delulu but I'm actually going crazy with little inconveniences like these happening every day. Plus, my art is the only thing I'm confident in. I've been doing it my whole life, and worked so hard to get to the level I'm at. Anyone would want recognition.

Take another example. I posted a work in progress and someone told me to "colour that item as well, like in the original". No way, did you actually think I'd leave blank spaces, like pure white in the middle of something that's clearly unfinished? I even mentioned that it was still in progress, but I guess some people don't read before commenting. Whatever, I deleted that post and simply went with the finished version.

I'm not even going to mention the amount of times I was asked to do something for some people, and in return they'd do something for me (S4S), I said thank you and they said you're welcome as if they weren't the ones asking.

I swear to fucking god, the community gives me art block sometimes.

I'm sorry for ranting so much. This has been on my mind for too long.

[evilichu]

i came up with the idea of having my best friend block me whenever i get emotional.

i rely on him too much, and i feel like i'm borderline abusing him with everything i put on him. he's my favorite person still and whenever i start to feel anything i feel the need to text him, to ask for comfort, to vent, trauma dump, all of that. and i also have splitting episodes where i think i could be very nasty to him for no reason (i mean at the time i do have my reasons)

so the blocking prevents that.

and i know it was my idea, but i guess a part of me can't believe it happens. i guess i wish he said no, i wish he would want to stay with me when things are going south. i mean, what do i expect from the same guy who broke up with me for being mentally ill? of course he doesn't want to deal with this.

but he says he's my friend, and he acts like he's genuinely concerned. so where does that concern go when i start spewing dysfunctional thoughts? why doesn't he care that he's basically leaving me on my own, when that has proven to be a bad idea? and he textes me "okay. please don't hurt yourself. good night" like bro???? i have literally abandonment issues and i'm putting up with it for you, so don't ask shit from me

i feel so lonely. i wonder if i'll ever find someone to care for me and not see me as a burden.

and fuck, i know it's unfair to expect him to care for me constantly. i just don't know. it all makes me feel so shitty and i wish it didn't. i wish i was a normal person with normal thoughts and healthy relationships. don't we all?

i hate all of this back and forth of thinking it's the best for him to block me and then feeling absolutely devastated when he does. if i were normal i could be an actual good friend instead of this.

lucas: if you ever see this i'm guessing i'm dead. i'm really sorry that i put you through hell. you probably can tell that it was hard for me to make up my mind about something. i promise you i really tried to be a good friend.