#i don't mind you venting to me just fucking ask. that's why I blocked a lot of you

[kylievershion]

me wondering why my 17-30+ deviantart 'friends' have the nerve and audacity to randomly vent to me as if I'm their fucking therapist and continue talking about some random drama that was over with months ago

[kaijuposting]

"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

[selfshipgushing]

hey guys! I just wanted to remind y'all of some things

number 1, please don't vent in the inbox. as stated in the FAQ, complaining like "auhg today was shitty" and "saw a double kinda upset" is fine, but otherwise pleasseee don't vent. /nm this is a gush account and I wanna keep things positive if that's okay :]

and number 2, uh, this is gonna sound very Strange. but I am blacklisting talking about getting your f/os pregnant. some of them I know they're jokes !!! I know this. but I've gotta a large handful that are. certainly. not jokes. and are NSFW. jokey jokes are one thing I don't really care but uh. I think I'm gonna put a blanket blacklist on this because. sometimes I cannot tell what is a joke. and what is not. so. not much else to add. again I'm not mad and if u made a jokey joke and aren't blocked there's no issue here but the ones who have been outright just gross have been. and for now on those asks are not allowed. says me.

also number 3, this was something I wasn't gonna mention because I delete these asks when they crop up but no shit talking other people's f/os!! I got one ? last week? and I feel like I should remind yall of this. no asks about how, "I saw that someone posted about x f/o and even tho I actually hate them so much and can't fucking stand them, good for them :) they suck btw" or even the shit I got a while back in here for my own husband !!! leave !! why send anon hate to a gush box I fear you are dumb !!!

anyways. I'm not angry or anything I just want to remind. please be mindful of the rules <3 I've had to delete so many asks lately.

[littlestardescendants]

Lol look guys I offended my first White Knight :D

Warning: Their spelling is so horrendous I could barely read what they were saying.

( So ima be real I KNOW it can get annoying to hear me shittalk this game like I GET IT. But that's why I only respond to asks and don't associate with the fandom/game. If you notice I only delve in it when prodded somewhat. )

( Fans like this are why PrettyBusy will never take yalls seriously. I'm always for the 'get mad and hold your ground' it's annoying but that's why I only touch on this fandom when yalls update me/slink into my asks. )

( Also at some point I realized they were serious about venting to me about their grievances so I decided to F with them. I'm not here to argue I'm just here for a good time. )

( Anyways I blocked here because I was like "What the fuck am I doing with my time? Why am I arguing with this twat when I can be enjoying my day?" So I blocked them. )

( SEE HOW SIMPLE THAT WAS?? )

Anyways TLDR: Yalls if you don't like my bitching about the game then you got two options: A. Block Me or B. Let Me Know so I can Block YOU.

I talked massive shit to Obey Me and even their fandom didn't act this childish. Trust me I'm only keeping this blog up to keep in touch with cool peeps.

WHB does NOT take my mind 24/7 like it does this friend here.

Update: Heheh Hi. :)

And by maybe I mean; Go to bed, drink water and look at yourself in the mirror. You're crying over some user on Tumblr instead of going outside and moving on.

Byesies~ 💕

[orangepanic]

I know you usually mind your own business and avoid ship wars, but out of curiosity, have you ever gotten unprovoked hate for shipping Iroh and Asami? Also, what’s your advice on staying strong about it? I feel like such a coward because I don’t want to get attacked by the mob for it. I know it’s just a ship, but the idea of dealing with that negativity makes me hesitant to speak up about it. 😰

First off, big hug.

Second, oh boy have I ever. I've gotten it here in my askbox and in replies to my posts, I've gotten it on fics, I've gotten it in comments about me on twitter and private discords, both ones I'm in and ones I'm not. I once had someone hate me in a comment on nearly every chapter of a fic - why did they keep reading it? Seemingly just to yell at me about the ship. It got so bad I had to report them for harassment. And that's not counting all the ambient hate out there of the "ewwww omg who the fuck would ship that?" that's not directed at me specifically. So... yes.

In terms of advice, I can recommend a few strategies that have kept me safe and sane over the years:

Aggressively curate your online experience. Block anything you don't want to see, be that tags or individuals or authors. Know that shipping Korra or Asami with anyone who isn't Korra or Asami is extremely unpopular in mainstream fandom spaces and avoid those spaces - for example, public fandom discords, tumblr communities and most of Twitter. Don't start shit or comment on bad takes. Don't reply to negative comments - delete them. Don't like, don't read. Etc. This is both to protect your own mental health but also to be a good fandom citizen. I've found that if you're generally doing all the right things and minding your own business people who go out of their way to shit on you wind up looking that much more like assholes to everyone else, which can help avoid that mob mentality you mention. I've also found that, on balance, you get back the energy you put out there. If you're a positive person who is seen as a positive person, most people will interact with you positively.

Find cool people and hang out with them. In my experience, these tend to be people who are both a) emotionally mature, and b) also ship a small or non-canon pairing. They do not have to like your ship and often won't but they'll also understand the experience of having their preferred pairing disliked by a large number of fans and so are less likely to be bullies themselves. Definitely avoid absolutists - people who believe a certain kind of ship is intrinsically superior to others (e.g. canon ships, queer ships, same-age ships, whatever) - in favor of people able to say "it's just not for me" if they don't like something. Finding spaces to interact with these people like their blogs or ask boxes, or finding small-ship-friendly private discords, are great ways to build community in fandom while shipping something out of the mainstream. These people are also great to vent to and problem-solve with when you get unprovoked hate or see a terrible take so you don't feel in it alone. If you don't know where to start, find fics on AO3 that you like and be friendly in the comments. That's how I met my first fandom friends.

Recognize that you can't argue with unprovoked hate. The first nasty comment I got on a fic I agonized for a week about what I'd done wrong and how to respond. I wrote out a very thoughtful reply asking for feedback on how I could better represent Asami's bisexuality in my writing. I got back "you're a piece of shit." I've learned since that the kind of people who say that what you ship in fandom means they should run you over with their car are not the kind of people looking for a thoughtful discussion. They are looking for the moral high ground, or for a fight, or to be seen as doing something "right" online so that they can be reassured of the black and whiteness of the universe, or whatever, but the point is that it's about them and it's about them getting a reaction out of you. Engaging isn't going to change their mind. So don't. It also prevents escalation. If someone drops a turd in your ask box and you delete it, nothing happens. Publish it with a lengthy rebuttal and that continues the conversation. Instead, treat them like you would any other bully, that is, disengage if you can, and hit them really fucking hard if you can't and then disengage. Again, don't be afraid to delete, block, or report someone if they are violating any TOS.

There's also all the standard online safely stuff like never sharing your name, address, or any personally-identifying info online. Table stakes. You don't owe anyone anything.

Anyway, good luck, and I hope to see more of you, anon. I'd love to chat with more people who like Iroh and Asami together, and I firmly believe fandom can be wonderful no matter what you ship.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

any tips for being outed as a proshipper/freak on main? i had it under wraps and now everyone knows and i'm getting a lot of hate and threats

I am so sorry you're dealing with this, anon. It sucks so fucking bad and depending on how public it is, it could get very rough.

My first bit of advice is to close your inbox IMMEDIATELY. That means no asks off anon either. Also check your DM settings and switch them so that you can only receive messages from blogs you follow. Switch your reply settings too while you're at it. If the callout or posts are on a different site, like Google docs or archive.org, consider making a report or putting in a request for them to be removed. It may not happen, but it's worth a try.

Do NOT respond to the hate. I know it's tempting to try to make a snappy comeback or even to express how much you're hurting, but it is absolutely 100% not worth it. Report any threats and harassment, then block the person and move on. If you have any side blogs that are associated with your main, make sure to block them on those blogs too.

If you want to make any sort of posts about it, severely limit yourself with what you say (try not to get too emotional, again I know it's tempting but it WILL be used against you) and try to keep it short; a simple explanation of why you're a proshipper and why you are NOT ashamed or embarrassed of that will suffice if you really want to talk about, then TURN OFF THE REBLOGS. If you don't want to acknowledge it publicly, then don't. That's your right.

Depending on how bad things are, you may want to take a break from tumblr. Whether that's for a few days or a few months, take all the time you need. Harassment on tumblr is very much based on the victim's responses; if you don't give people the satisfaction of being publicly hurt, then a lot of them will lose interest and move onto something more interesting. Taking a break from tumblr both lets the hype die down a bit and gives you time to recalibrate without that stress.

If you want to make a new main blog, that is also totally fine; people will tell you that it's cowardly to "run" like that, but remember that those are the people harassing someone over fiction. Taking care of yourself is not cowardly. I switched all my side blogs to a new (and "secret") main before and it was a huge weight off my shoulders and the mutuals who were chill followed me.

Again, I am so sorry that this is happening to you, anon. It is an absolutely miserable situation to be in and I hope things get better for you. Feel free to vent in my inbox if you ever need a place to just lose your mind a bit.

[mcsm-r0ckz]

Hello!! I'm the owner of the MCSM-R0CKZ blog!!😋

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《⭐️》 Names: Ast3r, R0ckz, Ax3l, Aid3n

《⭐️》 They/It/He

《⭐️》 Nonbinary, Demiboy, Omnisexual, Poly[sorta]

[🔥] AB0UT M3!!

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《⭐️》 Axden, Cassaya, Nellinta, Xaragaard, Pamdar, Stellivia, Magriel, Jesstra and Jesskas multishipper in MCSM🏳️‍🌈

《⭐️》 A HUGE Glitterhugs and Ragebait/Shrimpbowl multishipper in Dandy's world✨️

《⭐️》 My number #1 top hyperfixation is MCSM, Mouthwashing and Dandy's World, but I might post some others like Nimona, The Sonic 3 movie, and Wreck it Ralph, mostly MCSM focused blog tho, other than Dandy's World

《⭐️》 I'm a mine-imatorer, horror creator, writer, artist, cosplayer, and editor😋

《⭐️》 Big Axel, Aiden, and Glisten kin😛

《⭐️》 Trigger words: Axolotls[not much anymore but still], mentions of the words like or similar my ex best friends names, and at times S/H and suicide

[🔥] WARN1NGS!!

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《⭐️》 My AUs contains mature topics like, drugs, alcohol, etc.

《⭐️》 My MCSM AU is HELLA different from canon MCSM[ex: ages, lore, characters, etc], so be warned

《⭐️》 I might and will say dirty things because I'm dirty minded, so be warned👍

《⭐️》 I cuss A LOT like 24/7😭

《⭐️》 Do not hate on any ships[except animal x human or straight up illegal ones] or I will roundhouse kick you😇/sil but still do not

《⭐️》 If I hurt you w/ my joking teasing/bullying, just tell me nicely, but I might be stubborn because I don't understand/gen

《⭐️》 I have anger issues, so if I get snappy or pissed off at times, then that's why🥲

《⭐️》 I will get passionate about certain subjects, so be warned🙏

《⭐️》 I'm new to Dandy's World so if I screw up lore don't scream at me please😭

[🔥] RUL3S/B0UNDARI3S!!

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《⭐️》 Do not flirt with me. I have a boyfriend[ @aid3nk1nnie ] who I love very much. Fuck off💞

《⭐️》 Do not randomly or dm me without a reason. I do not know you. Nor are you my friend. Just ask. Same on discord except w/ sending friend requests. I have to have at least a conversation to be able to friend you.

《⭐️》 I am not religious, like, at all, so like, don't bring up that stuff around me🫠

《⭐️》 Kindly and PRIVATELY correct me if I make a mistake, half the time I don't know if I do so just correct me😃

《⭐️》 Do NOT trigger me with triggers!!

《⭐️》 Respect my ships, even if you don't like them. If you can't, just fucking block me for all I care lmao💀

《⭐️》 Do not insult my favorite/comfort characters, I only say this because I might insult yours unintentionally so just to be safe, don't hate on them in front of me😭🙏

《⭐️》 USE TONETAGS❗️❗️

[🔥] S0CIALS!!

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《⭐️》 WATTPAD : AST3RUSSY

《⭐️》 ROLEPLAY ACCOUNT : @b1gmanax3l

[🔥] DNI's!!

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《⭐️》 ANY TYPE OF HOMOPHOBES

《⭐️》 ANY TYPE OF TRANSPHOBES

《⭐️》 XENOPHOBES

《⭐️》 HYPOCRITES

《⭐️》 PROSHIPPERS AND SUPPORTS

《⭐️》 HARDCORE SHIP HATERS[ex: romesse] GET OUT!!!!!!!

《⭐️》 RELATIVE NEGATIVITY

《⭐️》 ABLEISTS

《⭐️》 MISOGYNISTS

[🔥] TAGS!!

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《⭐️》 #aster rambles: me rambling about certain things on my mind lmao💥

《⭐️》 #aster announcements: news about a new book, intro, or whatever I think is important😇

《⭐️》 #aster wtf moments: me being a dumbass/weirdo🥲

《⭐️》 #ask aster: a new tag where basically it's just all the asks I get, not fully done tho as of rn🫠

《⭐️》 #asters shitty drawings: drawings I made😋

《⭐️》 #aster vents: me venting basically😭

《⭐️》 #asters fun facts: me sharing info/fun facts abt mcsm🤑

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And that's it lmao

[sanguinaryfreaks]

WELCOME !¡

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I interact from here for @sangylittlespace, @sanguinarywriter and @sanguinaryclaws

Hi! We are Sanguinary Freaks Massacre you can call us Gore or Visceral, we use any pronouns (and neos) but prefer shi/hir. Our collective gender is transmascfem and sexuality is omnigay, quoiromantic and ambi, the body is latino and intersex. We are 21 years old and are a C-DID system of a lot.

System terms: System, collective, pwDID, multiple, alters, headmates, littles.

sideblogs and others (link) - pronouns.cc (link) - plain text (link) - icon and banner id (wip)

DO NOT INTERACT

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Basic DNI criteria (homophobic, transphobic, racist, etc)

Transmeds, radqueers, etc, etc

SH, ED or gore blogs

Pro endos, tulpas, endos or any kind of non traumagenic system and their supporters

Pro/comshippers and shipcourse in general

Sexualize age or pet regression

Anti-xenogenders, anti-neopronouns, anti-therian, anti-otherkin

Anti-recovery IRLs or DAs, we won't feed into your delusions (sincerely a delusional system)

TransID, or supports TransID, TransRAMCOA, etc.

Syscourse blogs

Belive in cluster b abuse or any disordered abuse

Pro-contact / anti-recovery paraphilias

Believe in "doubles" (as in you're too annoying with the "doubles dni" and get mad at doubles for existing)

Anti good faith identities / "contradictory" labels, including mspec lesbians / gays (neutrals are on thin ice)

Believe that transfem alters can't be in an AFAB body or transmascs can't in an AMAB body. Or that AFAB people can't be transfem, etc. (You're intersexist btw ✌🏻)

Empty accounts, accounts without a pinned post or reblog accounts (you're probably safe if you introduce yourself in asks and tell me why you followed me)

Zionist, pro-Israel, or "neutral" in the Palestinian genocide

Use "TME" or "TMA"

BEFORE YOU FOLLOW

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We don't mind minors following us and interacting with us outside of dms

Depending on the alter and the day we might accept endo neutrals to follow and interact but don't bring endos/pro endos to our account please

Know that if we follow you is because we want to be friends so feel free to DM us (we are too scared to dm first dnjakckwkd) !!!

We have alters from problematic sources, if you don't like this go away

We like problematic media but we don't support their creators or the media itself (like buying the games or watching the show on the legal sites). If you're gonna be morality police and tell us that we are still supporting them by just liking the media (we cant control a hyperfixation), feel free to block us, we don't care

We won't post anything nsfw, we will probably post this type of jokes but trigger warn them

Don't try to force us to change our name or source separate, we aren't doing it for a reason. We also use names respectfully and would never disrespect the culture

Sometimes we reblog stuff about the yandere stereotypy, we have bpd and we use the term for ourselves

We call ourselves freaks (because we can and we want), if you don't like this fuck off, we don't care

Interests and more

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Special interests: Psychology, system terms, xenogenders, Simply Plural, art in general, horror in general, etc.

Collective interests: Heaven Official's Blessing, Silent Hill, Stardew Valley, Honkai Star Rail, Wuthering Waves, Death Mark, Danganronpa, CoTL, My Little Pony, Fear and Hunger, Stardew Valley.

Tagging system

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#❛𔓕— alter name ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — how we will tag who's fronting

#❛ 𔓕— sanguinary vent ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — us hating our life /hj

#❛ 𔓕— unsobriety ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — alcohol or any substance mention

#❛ 𔓕— spirit my beloved ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — posts about @lesbian-aurora

#❛ 𔓕— minors don't look ꒱ˎˊ˗ ❜ — nsfw posts or mentions of such stuff

Extra:

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Credits:

DNI banner: @/seraphim-coinz

[mari-lair]

There has been a massive argument about aoikane on Twitter since this morning ,people are calling Akane a domestic abuser ...

I'll be honest with you, Anon, my reaction to that was "Of course they are, the dumb fucks" cause I have no respect for twtbhk. Zero. Negative even.

I don't need to tell you why Akane isn't a domestic abuser (I hope i don't have to. Please, I want to believe tumblr have basic reading comprehension) but I'll use this ask to vent about Twitter.

Most of twtbhk don't care about the manga, they don't even have their own opinion. I am not joking. It's like a cult of ungrateful kids that use 'jokes lol' to hate on everything they disagree with, being so immersed in their own headcanons that they don't even know what they are talking about anymore

They don't care about Akane as a character, at all, if he is a domestic abuser or not in canon doesn't matter, they won't check, they won't change their opinion, they won't go "oh this character action doesn't fit my perception of them, let me see if I missed something" they'll just claim the character was "written wrong" or "acted ooc in that scene" because they want a character to just be an accessory to a ship or to be an easy target to hate. They'll forever ignore the manga for a version that they created that is the "correct version of the manga" and they'll keep mischaracterizing Akane, or Aoi, or any character they like/dislike to fit their cute troupes or easy to hate 'version.'

They'll basically create OCs and act like is the truth, aoikane doesn't exist on twitter, it never did, I have seen people say "Chapter 69 doesn't exist cause I personally hate that chapter" unironically. So yeah... They don't care about aoikane, the ship they are talking about, where Akane is a domestic abuser? It's just something they made up.

Picture this:

They are openly disrespectful towards Aidairo (I no longer check the comments on their wonderful art) when they created the manga they claim to love, so of course they have no respect for other fans and won't try to hear them, of course being kind to a stranger is something that doesn't cross their mind, they want to argue or 'joke' about it instead.

At this point, if I visit twtbhk expecting anything insightful, that's on me, shame on me. I should have known better.

So my advice to you is to not go there, and if you're addicted to the site and can't escape, just block people without restrain. I promise you're not missing anything, they aren't even reading the manga you like.

[mrstsung]

Somehow this is controversial.

Vent ahead.

Srry im pissed rn.

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If someone doesn't wanna share their f/o.

Fucking Respect that.

More under cut

Dont tell me "oh but you got to" no i dont brenda. No tf i dont.

I dont mind sharing most of my f/os. But i ask for one. ONE FUCKING THING.

I dont share one character. All of a sudden. You have a problem with me non sharing shang tsung? One character. How is me not wanting to share shang tsung as a f/o a problem?

One character. Only one. Only one guy. Like thats all i ask!

Any other of my f/os from various fandoms and media. Im ok with sharing but all because i dont feel comfortable with sharing shang with others. Suddenly it's an "issue"?

Get comfortable with the fact some people dont wanna share also. And nothing you say is gonna "convince them" and sometimes saying that we should get comfortable is rude. No i dont have to get comfortable. Thats why i dont share,because im not fucking comfortable. Duh!?

Just because you are comfy sharing all your f/os doesn't mean others are.

One character man. That's all i ask. And thats the messed up thing. It's only one character,like legitimately im ok with any other characters i self ship with. Not just for mk. But other characters too,from other media. But shang tsung is a no go. Him i just cant. Y'all are too weird,and too fucking rude and mean for me to ever do that. And i just genuinely love the character. So i just can't.

I have my reasons why i dont share shang. But even if i didn't,that don't make me less valid.

I don't share shang tsung as a f/o. All i ask is people respect that. I have a few people on here that do. But if i don't interact or block you because of that. Dont get mad at me then.

I mainly self ship with shang tsung. My main f/o also just happens to be him. Out of all the fandoms,he's the main one. So why is me not wanting to share a problem again? Why does this bother people so damn much?

I ask for one thing. One thing. That feels well....like it's special. Suddenly it's a problem? Ugh people suck.

Anyways I'm gonna self ship hard with my husband shang today. Screw the haters and jealous people.

Non sharers are just as fucking valid in this self ship community. We dont need to share blorbos to be valid in this community.

Sorry. I dont share him. End of discussion.

[lemuel-apologist]

Listen. The way that universities treat ADHD is deplorable. The way that the public at large treats ADHD is just as bad, but universities in particular are fresh on my mind, given where I am in life, about a month post-graduation.

This post is a bit of a preamble. Bear with me.

I struggled through three and a half years of genuine college being the way I am with no buffer; had an unwelcome epiphany of a diagnosis at the end of my second-to-last semester; and had the best semester, confidence- and social-life-wise of my life-- which was, simultaneously, the worst semester of my life academically. I have gone on and on about organic chemistry and how it fucked with me, but I don't know that I have gone into why.

Post-diagnosis, I was presented with the opportunity to tell my ochem professor about anything that could be an issue during the semester. I debated it; I debated it very seriously; but this form was a graded assignment, and I had to either tell him or not tell him, and it was better than I tell him than not. So, I told him, in very edited-down words, that I have some issues with anxiety and I have ADHD. Both have, because of how I am as a person, meant that I have to approach labs in a certain way and I probably will freak out at some point, but I was optimistic that it wouldn't be an issue at that point, and I would recuse myself to the hall if it was. (After all, I'd been medicated for about a month and, in that time, had survived moot court, navigated a family member's arrest that I advised on forensically, and cooked for two family events. I was fine. I was only medicated for the sake of anxiety. It was working as planned.)

I have a bone to pick with that professor in particular for a lot of reasons. He had a lot of interactions with women that rubbed me the wrong way, but none of them crossed that line like they did with me. I told him the way that things were going for me, I told him what I needed (a chance to eat before class, some extensions as needed on assignments, and clarifications on what he wanted done with equipment), and he consistently held me to a higher standard to other students, stepped in to mess with my fume hood when I didn't ask him to, and, importantly, would dock anyone up to five points from their labwork for being late to class, meaning that I couldn't eat before lab, since I had to sprint uphill from my osteology class-- which he knew, because that was something I told him. I vented very briefly, in exasperation, to my Senate advisor, who was the only member of faculty anywhere near administration who knew about my ADHD; and, when she asked why I didn't see about more formal accommodations, I reminded her the state of our school's Disability Services processes, which we were in the middle of advocating for fixing, as a block (famously hard to navigate and famously impossible to get through in a timely manner, meaning I wouldn't be able to do anything about it before I graduated-- and it wouldn't guarantee nonretaliation anyway).

And you know what? I got a D+ not because of him, but in SPITE of him. I got a C total not because of him, but in SPITE of him. Eat my FUCKING ass.

[chxrrie-bxmb]

vent incoming, no tws as far as i'm aware

we are. genuinely fucking shaking right now! why is it so hard for the endo community to understand that we don't want them to fucking interact with our shit. why do they think they're so fucking special that they have the right to dogpile people within the traumatized community that their community, no matter how much they're trying to fight for "scientific proof" of their validity, IS FULL OF PEOPLE CLAIMING TO BE SYSTEMS WITHOUT A DISSOCIATIVE DISORDER. FULL OF PEOPLE MOCKING OUR FUCKING TRAUMA. we're tempted to fucking shut down this blog and start over because we're genuinely so fucking scared. no matter how many times we say to leave us alone and not interact with our blog or posts they keep replying to our posts, they keep sending shit in our ask box, they're mentioning us in posts complaining about BASIC FUCKING BOUNDARIES.

it took every fiber of my fucking being to keep zack from losing his fucking mind and just block the acc without saying anything and i'm starting to get scared of what he'll do if this happens again. this is seriously starting to trigger us, but i doubt they'd care. we feel cornered, we're paranoid every time we have an activity notification, and i'm starting to think that starting over with a new blog is the best idea for us. we're a fucking 16 year old kid, we shouldn't have to be this fucking paranoid over something so simple. block the tags we use. if you see our posts on your home page, literally just click "not interested in this post" and we'll be off your feed. but no, you want to actively hunt down traumatized kids and fucking harass them. you disgust me.

the only thing we're asking you to do is leave us the fuck alone. and you don't even have the decency to do that.

-- Rin 🥽

[faunabel]

vent. aghhh. sorry. dark stuff so probably don't read.

i just spent an hour straight sobbing and rapidly switching because my parents make me feel that bad. they both get passive aggressive and sigh exasperatedly or slam doors and get mad at me if i say how it makes me feel bad. continuously saying i'm too sensitive. making me feel insane and unable to trust my judgement. if i say they make me feel like a burden they just get mad at me like that somehow proves their point wrong.

also my mom sits there continuously yapping about nothing while i'm crying then guilt trips me when i say something because apparently i'll be mad at her either way. or you could just. use fucking context clues and not sit there talking about the tv when i'm crying. how stupid are you.

also eventually i had a panic attack so i wanted to get away from the people causing it but my mom just blocked me from the door and pinned me to the couch and hit me. which is fucking lovely. day one and already that :) i fucking hate feeling trapped it makes me dissociate so heavily when i can't get away and already i have nowhere to go to feel safe i feel like i'm in the mouth of a lion and i can never relax because it could bite down at any moment

then i panicked and ran and locked myself in the bathroom and heard them overtalking about how they should've "fixed my mental problems" already as if the problem isn't them being horrible fucking people. either they tell me to stop crying and get mad when i say that doesn't help or carry on a conversation like i'm not breaking down in the corner. regardless they treat me breaking down like i'm a crazy person who needs to be locked away.

i don't feel safe. all of the previous hotel trauma came back at once. i'm scared. i don't want to go through this again. i made so much progress recovering. i don't want to regress. i'm scared to be alone again. i'm scared everyone will leave me now that i'm depressed and not cheerful. i'm scared nobody will ever love me and care about me and accommodate for me. i'm scared i'm too much of a burden and my existence is flawed and the only way people will like me is if i have no wants or needs and smile 24/7. i'm scared i'm not allowed to be upset and i'm just spoiled and delusional. i'm scared anyone who saw what happened would blame me for it because i'm such a fucking nuisance. i didn't ask to have sensory issues. i think it would be better for everyone if i was dead.

i regressed to a childlike state of mind again. i want to be held and protected. but nobody will do that. everyone is mean. i want to be safe. but everyone is mean. why is everyone so mean. why am i so bad. why can't i be good and loveable. i want to be good enough to be held and cared about. why am i such a burden. why is the world so cruel. i want to be loved. i want to be happy and safe. why can't i have that. what about me do i have to destroy to be good and deserving.

i don't want to be alone........... i don't want to be rotten.

[persimmonpoet]

before you interact ☆

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ no dni technically but i will block / softblock if i dont fuck w/ your content/takes.

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ i already said this before but like. im sorry if i dont interact w/ you much ily (/p) i promise i'm just really shy and you all are so cool it intimidates me

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ i reblog body horror. if you dont like that sort of thing, block the tw body horror, tw gore, tw horror, and tw blood tags

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ sorry if i act really childish at times i swear to god im older than i act idk why im like this wtf

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ dont come at me hating on my rarepairs / asking why i dont ship 'popular ship x' or why i 'don't like character x' !! it makes me uncomfy!! plus i wont usually interact / talk about things i dont like so... it's pointless to even ask yk?

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ lowkey im dumb and sensitive as hell please be patient (im rambling and repeating myself but whatever we prevail)

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ if you know me irl and i havent given you my blog PLEASE dni or ask before you interact this shits embarrassing!!!!!

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ also yeah i curse a lot and use caps

꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱ my side blog (@persimmonfillets) is solely sfw stuff so if some of the stuff going on here (like the body horror) is weird to you that place is much better :3 just keep in mind that's also my vent blog. the tag for that blog will be #꒰ᐢ. .ᐢ꒱venting

[eclipse-strider]

Ripped the (hopefully) final band-aid off in regards to my ex I think. More under the read more so I don't bother y'all with my rambling venting.

Told her I knew she was traveling with the new guy so I didn't want to bother her, but asked if she'd give me a call sometime later so we could talk and catch up. Said I understood if she didn't want to, then got left on read. Told her "I guess I'll leave you alone then" and she just hit me with a simple "no." Still tried to stay polite and tell her ok, "I'll leave you be, have a nice night", but like....

What the fuck did I do to her over the past few weeks? Two weeks ago we texted a little bit and sent some cat vids to each other, then she just starts leaving me on read and blocks me from seeing her stories.

She's the one who said she wanted to be friends, why start acting like this now? Yeah, I'm still a bit jealous and bitter about the new guy, but I'm not gonna try and sabotage the relationship, nor do I want to be a toxic ass like some of her other ex's. She said she still cared about me, and I just want to be in her life as a friend cause I care about her.

Idk man, I just want to move on, but everytime I think I'm making progress, she does or says something that puts my emotions through the ringer.

I know that's not her fault, it's my emotions and how I'm choosing to react to it, but sometimes it feels like she does some of this stuff specifically to rub it in my face.

I don't want to be a toxic ex, I want to be her friend, like she said she wanted, because after everything that's happened, I still care about her and want the best for her, even if that means I'm not her boyfriend or husband or whatever. Idk, wish I could just turn off my emotions or cut my feelings and memories of her out of my mind. I just want to be happy and work on myself now.

Why the fuck am I like this?

[thattimdrakeguy]

Frankly if you asked me, all of that unnecessary misdirection and twists that left poor Tim at the ‘make him angsty and edgier’ block for later writers to force upon him was the result of the whole darker and edgier train that permeated not just the Batbooks but the whole industry throughout the decade he was in.

Basically short, in my honest opinion, Tim Drake was the perfect character at the absolutely wrong time.

The 90s edgier nonsense (as foreshadowed by the marvelous competition’s hefty promotion of Venom, Cable and other like minded antiheroes, Early Image having a foundation built on that) made possible with the Batmania (since he’s naturally the perfect candidate for darker and edgier due to both his gothic aesthetic and his insane popularity) unfortunately gave the writers of that era and the 2000s the impression that since it’s Gotham, things in universe are just miserable and sucky

And since Tim lives in Gotham, despite meant to be the counter to that misery that permeates the city he helps defend, it was only a matter of time before that wrong impression got to him too

It’s why to this day, my preferred Tim Drake is that original Fanboy we saw in A Lonely Place of Dying since in the end, that’s what he’s meant to be, beginner or not and why I am still reluctant to get anything Dixon related on both him and Nightwing since those runs are built on that train of thought that says ‘misery in setting and edgier characters means compelling and mature storytelling, especially in Gotham’

I know, long winded, I just needed to vent. You may ignore this if you wish to

Bro, I just asked #cats what a raw potato tasted like, I don't feel like ignoring much.

And, I wouldn't say Tim was in the wrong time. He has his great successes in the 90s. The main reason he's talked about past people's obsession with one story in Red Robin, that has slowly lost popularity 'cause of people realizing it wasn't the best Tim--is 'cause of the 90s.

There was plenty of people who were sick of the big overexaggerated 90s crap even if it did infest Tim a bit when they'd draw him way buffer than he was clearly meant to be.

It's all just a matter of writers with the ability to do better either not advancing to the right places in comics, or throwing their talents down the toilet to be there.

It's all about good writing. That's it, really, that's the big secret.

Why is Dick a massive joke of a character now? 'Cause the writing got bad.

Why did Batman look like a total maniac more like usual for a while? 'Cause the writing got bad.

Why is Damian totally unrecognizable a lot of the time on nearly every single level for over a decade now(Though I have heard some aspects like art have been getting better, or so I've seen thankfully, but I'm still not trusting that all the way because now this fucking fucking hell)? 'Cause the work got bad.

Why is Jason just a fan fic edgy woobie fuck a lot of the time now? 'Cause the writing got bad.

How did Steph go from edgy, determined, "vigilante vixen", who was morally kinda questionable at times go to acting like a 12-year-old sometimes? 'Cause the writing got bad.

No matter what in the end. It's all down to the writing, and also art.

There's always been good movies in every decade no matter the taste, because people with true talent and knowledge, and know-how where out there to make so happen.

Comics being a dwindling medium that's how a down-turn in quality going on for a long time? It's just not a business worth getting into anymore. Passion or not, people just aren't good writers. And that can happen in any era.

But back to the main point, Tim was at his most popular in the 90s in an era you wouldn't think he'd fit into with all the Rob Liefeld stuff. Like he got an 80-page-giant in the late 90s over some characters you think would actually get one because he was so naturally popular.

But what made him work then isn't dated. It's timeless. They just haven't had good enough writers to make him work, and it sucks, but it's how it is.

The reason Tim really got changed so much isn't down to tastes in an era. It's down to the taste of a few people in specific positions. Things that made Tim work were still working wonders in other places.