#i am so reactive to that kind of behavior as well

[myriad--starlings]

oh. Mom spontaneously apologized for telling us to stop crying when we were younger and we went "oh. ah. I see." because we can't cry when we're genuinely upset unless we're at near meltdown state. there's like a wall there. and we went "that explains a lot. and also we forgive you." because again like. at this point we hold very little anger towards her for a lot of reasons. but just. children can either be incredibly resilient or incredibly fragile and it's all up to the adults in their life; as the child you don't get to choose which you are. and doesn't that suck? that you have no choice in how deeply you're affected?

[the-californicationist]

Am I too late for the gif prompts???

Tell me the 141 wouldn't love feeling the sting in their gums for days afterwards...

oh darling no! never too late! im just slow as hell. thanks for the ask and for being so patient with me.

it's so true though. they would love this bratty behavior. these lads love a challenge don't they? and when you don't just blindly roll over and show them your soft underbelly, when you've got some teeth... mm mm mmm.

Gaz's reaction is immediate. When you suck that full bottom lip of his into your teeth, applying just the right amount of pressure to ache, he pulls himself from you, his hand instinctively grabbing your jaw, those big brown eyes of his, once so kind and sweet, now are studying your face with a fiery frustration. All of his blood has rushed south, filling up his cock for you, eager to see if you like it as rough as he does.

Soap bites back. When you nip at his bottom lip, he has the audacity to laugh at you. He chases you with his hot mouth, the scruff of his unshaven beard scratching your skin, sinking his teeth into your soft flesh. And when you hiss from the pain? That's when he has to readjust himself in his jeans. Loves his woman reactive, vocal, and eager for a little pain with her pleasure.

Ghost is surprised. He'd been the gentleman all night. He held doors. There were even flowers involved. So, when you finally kissed him in his truck, stretching yourself over the console (before you were very unceremoniously dragged onto his lap), you got the same treatment. He was careful not to take it too far, keeping his hands at your waist, well-behaved, even though you could feel his excitement lengthening beneath your ass. So, when you decided to get a rise out of him, latching onto his mouth hard enough to taste a little blood? Well, love, you should've known all his sugar was just a ruse to hide his spice.

Price is fourteen steps ahead of you. You're pinned to something - a desk, a door, the wall, who knows! - and trying desperately to catch your breath. His tongue is silky warm invading your mouth, that beard bristling just enough to let you feel it on your cheek. His hands are everywhere at once. He's peeling off his clothes and your clothes, fondling you and himself, hungry like he hasn't had a pretty thing like you in his whole damn life. As you catch him in the midst of all of his fervor, pressing your teeth into his lip, he stops. His huge body melts into the pain that you give him, and his eyes open, dark and fully blown in the low light, earnestly allowing you to bite him as painfully as you like. He stares right into your soul as you let him go, taken aback by his intense gaze, wondering if you've gone too far, but he rubs his maw across the front of your teeth, tracing your lips with his own, whispering into your mouth, "Harder."

[sgiandubh]

The sound of silence

With the end of August already in sight - somebody, please, tell me where did this botched summer go, all of a sudden? -, a somewhat different landscape is slowly emerging, on the S&C front.

Dare we hope? The new normal seems to be a mix of latergrams, sibylline tweets, ultra-muted innuendo (most of it the result of a couple of pundits' sterile speculations on meagre hints dropped on purpose) and secondary (even third-circle) players being conveniently called to the rescue. A low budget, almost homemade solution to keep the prayer wheels of this fandom spinning. A fandom both of these two know, by now, like the back of their hands.

For months and months in a row, I tried to understand something that puzzled me constantly: not the messages being ventilated in here, but their circuit and lifespan, if you want. For what is worth, the rinse and repeat image is fine in my book, but in no way comprehensive, nor intellectually satisfying. And then, a couple of weeks ago, I started to suddenly figure it out.

I am not going to insult you with savant jargon or Venn diagrams, rest assured. However, I need some arrows. I called it the 4 R Circuit and here we go:

(an information is being) Released (via Anons or DMs exclusively: it's never sheer luck, that is a bloody lie and a poor one, at it) -> (it then prompts a couple different) Reactions -> (followed by an almost immediate) Retcon (by the other side of this very antagonistic fandom) -> (in response, an old information is being) Recycled (thus effectively keeping the chatter alive, but re-oriented until ) -> (a new or old/new information is being) Released

Historically, the lifespan of this news cycle was never shorter than 24, but seldom (if ever) longer than 72 hours. This summer is a resolute break off this pattern, but old habits die hard: the collective attention span has been also conditioned accordingly.

And how could it be otherwise? Because neither of them had any consistent A-list level gossip history, the emerging fandom had to resume itself to their social media accounts, for a start. And boy, were we copiously spoiled, with banter and innuendo and double-entendre galore, and then with voluble Anons being simultaneously directed to the main players of all the factions. I bet it was elating. I am sure it was also great fun: a merry, sunny age of innocence. Until it wasn't and the ugly manipulative streak began its inglorious march in here. The thirst grew, and so did the stakes. Pictures, pictures or it did not happen. And when we got them, we started to immediately diss and hiss and hum and drum. In the Real World (you know, out there, where we all go every morning and are civilized, amiable people), this kind of behavior would be more than uncanny: it would be uncalled for and drastically sanctioned as such. But, I digress.

The result of this disco inferno by design is a pattern of reactivity I have never seen in my entire life. Nano-inquisitors immediately spring out of their chairs once you dare write something: why did you say that? how dare you speak your mind, you are supposed to be a stupid, stupid shipper? In the meantime, almost nobody bothers connecting the dots, finding a solid background for arguments, placing facts or speculation in a logical context. It's frowned upon. Yet, the whole experience would be way more enjoyable, if instead on focusing on idiotic and obviously doctored details, we could bring some perspective to all this hubbub.

Last case in point, this freshly baked imbecility:

We all know who the fuck Brave Heart is: the kilt obsessed, once Mightiest Troll of Mordor. The one who invented by herself the grotesque story of the Hôtel Costes Rash sightings, last April, via Anons written in painful English. Also, the one who spun, based on a friendly snap at a sportive event, the Ellenwood Innuendo, promptly ditched - it didn't stick well enough- now reactivated. A sample:

Calling all stations: there is no side exit at the Hôtel Costes' restaurant, you fool, who's been to Paris as often as I went to Oahu, which is to say never. There is a back exit, through the kitchen, madam: next time, do your damn homework properly! Unlike you, I often went there (I preferred other, less nouveau riche playgrounds, that being said), back in 1996-2002, when it still was the boldest celeb' spotting venue in town. Not anymore. And who in their right mind would bring luggage or shopping bags in a very peculiarly laid-out French restaurant, without immediately taking the risk of being a conversation stopper, a bull (heh) in a china shop?

The "have seen it with my own eyes" gave you away, this time. A classical, by the book way to spin a cheap lie.

Also, C's witty latergram, via a tertiary player. I am sure (and I will film myself eating my socks live, if proven wrong) that back in Mordor someone already came with the agit-prop retcon: "it's irrelevant when the picture was taken".

It is very relevant. July 31. One day before August 1st: I always admired her humor. But who would take the time to tell 1+1= 2?

If I could gift this fandom anything, let it be this: context is always important. Manipulation starts exactly when you stop questioning and let your brain live the 72 hours news cycle.

The only real sound of this August, on the S&C front, is the sound of silence.

I rest my case.

[tigreblvnc]

BLUE LOCK MATCHUP — m1ckeyb3rry

Your match WAS...

— Nagi Seishiro

✦ Well, I didn’t think about it for very long :D

✦ I was waiting to read the part about the traits you like in the other person and… Well, honestly, I hesitated for a moment but still brushed it off, thinking, "meh, it's part of life."

✦ So here’s our most motivated player from Blue Lock :)

✦ (No.)

✦ And I have to admit that Nagi isn't a character I can easily place because he's so unique and not at all receptive to anything related to human relationships. I even think he belongs to his own manga, within the manga itself.

✦ That’s probably why we end up with a movie named after him and a series of mangas dedicated to him.

✦ For me, what creates a funny and unusual chemistry right away is the fact that you’re extremely different�� but that you connect on very specific details that form a common bridge between you two.

✦ Example: "I’m also pretty quick-witted and good at thinking on my feet BUT I’m kind of judgmental." Without saying Nagi is the most reactive guy in the world, in moments of despair (lol, going straight to the tough stuff), it almost seems like he doesn’t think and manages to instinctively react to anticipate a decisive move on the field. Stimulated correctly, he unleashes potential that, in my opinion, is unmatched by anyone else. He’s got this ON and OFF mode! Most of the time, he’s sleeping, slacking, or playing games; but during very specific key moments, he wakes up and breaks all performance records. It’s almost like it doesn’t require any effort, you know? It’s just an aspect of his personality that awakens under certain conditions, but it’s part of who he is. Meaning, he didn’t really have to work on it beforehand to possess it. Some like to call it "genius."

✦ And I see that trait in you when you explain to me, "I’m quite smart but I don’t really try to be?? Like I mostly play on my phone or watch shows/read in my classes but I have perfect grades anyways."

✦ It’s both awesome, and it can also attract a lot of jealousy. Those who work hard but end up with average or even bad grades, while you don’t need to spend time studying; you succeed no matter what.

✦ I can see my duo of prodigies :)

✦ "It’s hard for something/someone to keep my interest for long, but when it does, I am SUPER into it, so I’m really good at pursuing goals and whatnot!!" Yes, it’s the same for Nagi. You both need a goal that makes sense to you to become productive. A discipline in which you can excel once you get into it; but also one where you become passive once an activity loses its appeal. A downside that’s not easy to manage, on top of driving those around you crazy, who see your potential but feel like you’re not using it to its full extent.

✦ "I’m pretty cheerful and kind for the most part, and I’m a chronic people-pleaser, so I’ll bend over backwards to help out people I don’t know that well/to be agreeable, but when I know a person super well (ex. my family), I can def be kind of demanding/picky." For Nagi, it’s really the opposite, and it causes him problems in the other direction; he cares too little about his surroundings and what others think to even react accordingly. Which leads people to label him as heartless and selfish, something he doesn’t deny but doesn’t really approve of either.

✦ I’ve often observed that people who expect a lot from their surroundings are those who don’t let just anyone into their personal space, out of a need to protect themselves. This involves a very meticulous and sometimes extreme filtering process, often demanding a lot and becoming tough or guilt-tripping others when they don’t meet those expectations—sometimes unrealistic ones.

✦ But this behavior wouldn’t last with someone like Nagi, from whom you really can’t expect anything, absolutely nothing. Even Reo, who might be the character who knows Nagi the best, experienced his worst moments of doubt because Nagi didn’t quite meet his expectations—the one of staying by his side no matter what. What seemed obvious wasn’t true, leading to a violent disillusionment for Reo.

✦ So, I think it’s a match that could be complicated because it’ll require both of you to make efforts to step out of your comfort zones and accept each other’s flaws, but it could be extremely rewarding and fulfilling. I’ll come back to explain with some MBTI, but you’re typically a duo where almost everything contrasts.

✦ "As for what people tell me… I guess that I’m super confident, funny, kind, trustworthy (I was the one in high school who knew ALL of the tea because people would just tell me their secrets unprompted)." Yes. Really, with EVERYTHING in contrast.

✦ Side note, but when I read texts, certain words have colors, sounds, and sensations for me. They give off something, and when I read your whole section of likes, I see springtime paintings, sweet, fragrant scents. I see lots of nature, countryside, flowers, I feel silk, the smell of books, the careful unwrapping of packages to keep in a drawer. When I read the word "pomegranate," I see the fruit and feel the texture and hear the flowing, viscous sound of its seeds. All of this gives me a very colorful overall vision, and I think it’s the complete opposite of what I feel when I read about Nagi, who for me is very monochrome, on the same horizon line.

✦ "Traits I like in others: people who are passionate about things, people who are very kind/gentle." Well, you can see why I hesitated, right? :D

And that’s when I stopped everything to rewrite it all. The ""real"" matchup is right here.

© TIGREBLVNC 2024 | SEPTEMBER '24 MATCHUPS EDITION.

[ghost-proofbaby]

Aruna hadn’t been described as dangerous before, but Nettie was right to use the word. 

summary: aruna's foolishness leads to her finally getting a glimpse into the chasm that resides inside her chest. what she discovers should change something, if not everything.

wc: 4.2k+

warnings: further descriptions of being poisoned, game-adjacent violence (rip nettie), recovery of some memories, mentions of vampiric behavior (careful, he bites), vague mentions/allusions of a parental death, physical description of aruna (her eyes, ears, and hair specifically)

a/n: how much lore can i fit into one chapter? yes.

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Aruna is a godsdamned idiot. A fool, just as Astarion had called her. She had been too trusting, and finally, it had gotten her into trouble.

Real trouble. Life-or-death trouble. 

She should react, should move, should follow Astarion’s lead of the defense. She’s clearly been poisoned, for gods’ sakes. But her feet stay planted and her hand stays clutched as her eyes only stare at the scene before her, not even daring to blink for so long that she can feel the burn of reactive tears beginning to gather. She knows she looks pathetic, can feel the shame creeping up right along with the panic, a contract of chills and heat that trace right up her spine. That’s the only explanation for the way Astarion looks at her.

The furrow of his brows is out of disgust. There’s not a single chance that it’s because he’s sharing her fear, that he’s shouldering any of the terrified waves crashing down over her. Even the tadpole connection has finally retreated from her brain. 

“You poisoned me,” she breathes out, voice trembling. She finally blinks – once, twice for good measure – as her eyes divert to the healer caught in Astarion’s hold, “You poisoned me.” 

“I’m sorry, but-” Nettie’s voice is lost as Astarion digs his blade in deeper. Not yet breaking skin, but an unspoken threat. 

He was right. She’s a fucking fool. 

It’s the only possible explanation as she snaps her gaze to him, and with all the breath she can manage to gather, she sternly says, “Let her go.”

“I- What?” he hisses, face twisting, “Why in the sweet Hells would I let her go? She poisoned you-”

“I’m well aware, now let her go.” 

There’s an internal battle that rages like no other in Astarion as he contemplates her demand. She can see his initial reaction clear as day; he wants to defy her, to deliver a killing blow instead of releasing Nettie. Aruna doesn’t need a tadpole connection to know that’s what his hands twitch to do. 

But, then, the look of defiance does the unthinkable – it passes. 

With the same speed in which he’d locked his arms around Nettie, Astarion lets them fall away, staying poised with his weapons as he takes a few steps back. Aruna’s hope is for Nettie to come to her senses, for her to have a reasonable conversation and for there to somehow be a cure to whatever she’s just stabbed the confused girl with. Her heart is still racing, pushing that poison through her system, and her palm feels as though she’s holding it right above an open flame. Searing, blistering, shooting pains. It’s getting harder for Aruna to keep an impassive expression, to hide away all that pain in hopes of maintaining some sort of respectable front. 

Aruna realizes that maybe, just maybe, she needs to come to her senses regarding all her hopes and dreams of kindness. 

“I am truly sorry,” the woman says slowly, one hand still holding the branch as her other begins a slow crawl to her hip, “But you must understand, you are dangerous. I don’t have a cure. All I can do is stop you, before you hurt anyone.” 

Dangerous. It’s the first time Aruna has ever been described as such, as of recently of course. She’s been described as a fool, as clumsy, as heroic – but never dangerous.

The girl who cannot even properly wield her blades certainly cannot be dangerous, can she? 

Nettie’s words betray her as she doesn’t focus on Aruna, though. She’s quick to spin around as she unsheathes the blade that neither Aruna nor Astarion had noticed, lunging straight for the only dangerous one in the room. Astarion. 

He can handle his own. He’s proven that he can; he’s capable of defending himself by easily outmaneuvering Nettie. But there are words seared into Aruna’s every waking breath, and they are all she can hear as the healer attempts to catch Aruna’s companion off guard. 

NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, ABOVE ALL ELSE, SAVE ASTARION. 

Aruna hadn’t been described as dangerous before, but Nettie was right to use the word. 

Nettie’s blade never makes it near Astarion. Not because of his own quick blades or steady footing, but because of Aruna. The air of the room crackles immediately, a thunder rumbling somewhere deep inside of Aruna’s chest as she lifts a hand and simply channels all the rage she feels sparking awake at the prospect of Astarion’s life being in danger. 

A chain of lighting. Beginning at Aruna’s palms, and ending at Nettie’s back. 

No matter what I do. 

Save Astarion. 

Something frenzied within Aruna, the animal that recognizes the elf that has been more of a nuisance towards her than something of importance, fuels the magic. Her magic. 

The magic of a sorcerer with one singular goal in mind. To save a life – a life that is certainly not Nettie’s anymore. 

The blast sends Nettie flying into her stone desk of equipment, a painful snap sounding as she attempts to break the crash with her arm. And the resulting waves of magic show no mercy as their pulsating send Astarion stumbling on his feet, pushing him back and farther out of reach of Nettie.

The only thing left behind in the room is the smell of burning flesh, the ragged and pained breaths of a miraculously still-alive Nettie, and Aruna’s voice. 

No longer trembling, she speaks words that feel as though they don’t even belong to her. At least, not this version of her. They come from deep within, echoing out of that lonely chasm within her that she can’t uncloak from the darkness, “You will know just see how dangerous I truly am if you so much as look at him once more.” 

Astarion, tadpole connection and all, stays silent. 

Aruna doesn’t know how she conjured the strength for the spell she’s used. She doesn’t even know which spell she’s just used. She hadn’t uttered a single cantation as the lighting had escaped her uninjured palm, hadn’t even thought of one. It had come to her as naturally as breathing; even more naturally than breathing, really, given her current state. 

And all that strength is quickly draining from her. Her legs are growing weaker, just as Nettie had predicted, and there’s a twist in her gut that nearly forces her to keel over. But she can’t. Nettie is still alive, and very much a threat. If not to Aruna, then to Astarion. 

Even with a back burnt to a crisp, charred skin peeking through her ravaged clothing, Nettie finds a way to stand up once again. Aruna’s hands fly to her daggers, not even bothering to glance and see if Astarion is in any shape to provide backup. The spell shouldn’t have hit nor affected him. And somewhere in that chasm in Aruna’s chest, she simply knows that he’s unharmed.

If he were, she would feel it in an instant. She has no doubt about it. And that has nothing to do with their current tadpole affliction. 

Move, don’t think. 

It’s Astarion’s voice, but not through the tadpole connection. It’s too muted, too faraway. Like a distant memory that Aruna can’t grasp her fist around. 

She listens to it. Whether she’s only imagining it to be his command out of need for comfort as the poison spreads or not, it’s good advice. 

Her daggers let out a ring from how ferociously she releases them from her scabbards at her hips, a heavy hilt marked with a moon in her left hand, and one marked with a star in her right hand. 

Steady your feet. Keep one arm close to you at all times to protect your torso. Use gravity to your advantage. 

Each set of instructions rings out as if traveling through water, back to back, as Aruna’s feet follow. Her stature is similar to that of Astarion’s, barely bent at the waist as she prowls up to Nettie, a look of determination set on her face. 

One arm poised to strike, one arm defensively staying close to her waist. She swears she can feel the ghost of palms steadying her along the way, correcting her form, as she goes in for a brutal swinging of her left arm.  

Her palm screams out against the leather of the dagger as her blade hits its mark. No hesitation, the metal has dug into Nettie’s chest just as the woman had been prepared for a second attack. Not a mere surface scratch – a proper slashing, one that begins to bleed profusely immediately. 

Do not let your guard down after your first attack. Remember self-preservation; if you’ve managed to weaken them, go in for the kill, Aruna. 

Go in for the kill, she does. 

What’s left of her strength, of her self-preservation, is exhausted entirely on the killing strike. Astarion hasn’t had to move a muscle as Nettie’s body drops to the ground with a thud, Aruna being the one holding a bloodied blade with further evidence splattered across her cheeks. 

Her stomach churns. Her knees finally give out, screaming out in pain as they connect with the rough ground. She swears it’s the weight of her actions and not the poison that has forced her down, but her rattling chest says otherwise. 

She’s just killed someone. 

It’s no longer just her palm that burns ferociously. Her entire body is alight, agonizingly blazing as she curls into herself. Her vision blackens at the edges, her hearing completely fades from her. 

Nettie’s blood is on her hands, and if she were in better shape, she’d have more devastation to spare. 

She doesn’t hear her own scream of agony, nor Astarion’s yell of her name. The last thing she can see, can remember, is the lifeless eyes of Nettie as she succumbs to darkness. 

—

Flashes of memories.

A shadow creeping his way along the edge of the camp, retreating into the forest, unaware of a restless Aruna still awake in the dead of night. 

A drained boar along a dirt path, left carelessly in the center. An irritated pale elf, insisting that investigating the carrion is a waste of time. 

A whisper of fangs against Aruna’s neck in the dead of a night in which sleep would not come easily to her. Wide, red eyes and a mouth slack to fully expose dangerous fangs. 

“Shit.”

A groveling of ‘just a taste’, a promise of strength, a gesture of trust. The piercing, numbing, cold stab of fangs piercing skin. The slow drain, the weightlessness, the gentle coax of ‘that’s enough’. 

His mania. His saunter. His revitalization. 

Her gift he won’t forget. 

As the flashes slow, Aruna makes out a clear image of the night sky that she’s gazing up at. Dazzling freckles of starlight across a stark onyx sheet, a full moon glowing as if brushed with specks of sterling silver. 

It’s captivating, comforting, homely. 

For a moment, she doesn’t understand the familiarity. The sheer importance of the moon hangs on her consciousness, regarding it as a guiding light as she relaxes, but she doesn’t understand. Not until she turns her head ever so slightly, and she catches sight of the familiar tufts of white hair at her side. 

It all clicks into place. 

All the dark holes in her psyche that haunt her during her waking hours have been filled in for just a moment within this dream – within this memory. She isn’t recalling them in vivid flashes as she was before, but there is a simple knowing, a simple fullness where vacancy once resided. She knows exactly where she is, exactly who she is, and she knows the man who rests at her side. She hadn’t even noticed the cold body at first, his thigh perfectly flushed with hers without an ounce of uncertainty in sight; it was natural for them. Here, in this memory, this was the normal. 

She’s sitting on the boulder with a clear outlook of camp, with Astarion at her side, whispering into the late night just as they always do. 

“You know,” he starts, as if she’s entered this consciousness in the middle of a simple conversation between friends, “I swear I’ve heard more horror stories about drow than I have vampires.” 

There are no choices for Aruna to make here. This script has already been written, already played out. She can only experience it. 

“Really?” she snorts, shaking her head. Her dark hair is pushed into the edges of her vision by the breeze, underhues of ashen purple visible in the moonlight, “Pulling that card, are we?” 

He’s wearing a sly yet easy smile. None of the tension Aruna had witnessed from him in her own journey so far is visible. This is the Astarion that that animal knows. That piece of her that resides so restlessly – it’s in control now, because it is the one that has lived this moment before. Soft, trusting eyes. Somehow, she’s aware that his guard has been let down since the night she allowed him to feed on her.

Somehow, she knows that there was a night in which she allowed him to feed on her. 

He’s a vampire. New information, but for some reason, it doesn’t startle her in the slightest. She simply knows. 

“Are you denying that drows aren’t a part of the shadows that go bump in the night?” he teases. He’s close enough that with every one of Aruna’s breaths, their shoulders are brushing. She doesn’t recoil from it; it’s something to lean into. 

She knows him, she trusts him. 

She shrugs and leans forward, and he follows. The camp is a bit different from that of Aruna’s waking hours. There’s a tent at the edge of her small cliff she’s come to love, the top clearly in sight. Deep, deep burgundy. It’s Astarion’s tent. He’d set it up there, acting almost as a guard for her small sanctuary she’s acquired in their homey camp. There’s another tent, too, that Aruna shouldn’t recognize. One off to the left, close to the campfire that’s been doused for the night. The occupant is just out of sight, but whoever resides inside, she knows she cares for. 

A friend. One she hasn’t met yet. Only in this dream, in this memory, does she know whatever force of nature that claims both that physical space and one within her heart. 

“Oh, no, they certainly are,” her voice is so sure, Aruna almost mourns that this version of her is not the one always in control, “You know me. Quarter drow, far more ferocious than you and those toothpicks you call fangs.” 

“Darling, I’m hurt. Must we pit ourselves against each other? Would our enemies not cower more if we joined our horrific forces?” 

Quarter drow. 

Aruna hasn’t even seen her reflection. Not the version of her riddled with holes and lacking in memories. She had no idea – she really shouldn’t even know what a drow is, but the knowledge comes easily to her. 

A dark elf. Images of red eyes far more vicious than Astarion’s glare at her judgmentally, cut through by a different pair. Vivid purple. Caring, loving, motherly. And oh so familiar, because she’s aware that when she does finally glance into a reflective surface, she is going to see a carbon copy of those eyes staring right back at her. Generational jewels, a ghost of a reminder of the woman who has long since taken her last breath. 

Aruna mourns her. But the memory she’s experiencing now has its restrictions, and as much as she chases after those motherly eyes, she’s not quite able to place them. Only know that she shares them. She knows that she will never see them again before her, only in mirrors and rivers. 

“I think my mother would have quite liked you, you know?” she breathes out carelessly, looking at Astarion with impossible warmth. She knows him – she trusts him, “She may have had quite a bit to say about me befriending a vampire, but you’d still grow on her.” 

He throws his head back in a bark of laughter that has Aruna shushing him instinctively, “Would she? I never have been the type that most would introduce to their mothers.” 

“Well, most are fools. I’ll have to introduce you to mine once we’ve returned to the city.” 

Astarion is completely unaware that the only thing that waits in the city is a crumbling stone, grown over with vines, nearly forgotten in the corner of a small graveyard. He will only be meeting the carvings of a mournful child left behind, determined to keep the memory of her mother alive. He has no idea – they aren’t quite there yet. 

“It would be an honor,” he nods surely, looking at her with unwavering eyes. They are alight with the same joy that consumes him every time Aruna indulges his antics. It’s beautiful – he’s beautiful. 

Something hauntingly, devastatingly gorgeous. Something broken, but Aruna has never shied away from a kindred soul. 

After all, how could one broken soul not call to another in the dead of night? 

His hand reaches up, and something inside of Aruna prepares to flinch, but she resists. It’s with a gentle touch that he’s tucking her wild hair behind her ear, fingers lingering as they coyly trace the shape of her ears. She swears, they outline a point. Not as obvious as his own, still a bit rounded and subtle, but it’s there. 

They’re quiet for a few seconds. Snores from across the camp can be heard, albeit a bit muted, and there’s a distant buzz of insects from the forest at their backs. This moment is only theirs. Come morning, their time belongs to others. There are people to help (even begrudgingly), there are other companions to entertain, there are adventures to be had. But for now, it doesn’t really matter. A bubble of safety, an escape of friendship. 

It’s more than Aruna knowing and trusting Astarion. He knows her, too. He’s beginning to trust her. 

He has to, because he lets her relax into him, her head falling slowly so that her temple rests against his shoulder. He tenses still, but he doesn’t push her away. If anything, he only leans into her. 

“Speaking of Baldur’s Gate,” Aruna murmurs, eyes still looking up at the moon as she speaks, “What awaits you back in the city, Astarion?” 

His voice is cool, even more so than his skin against hers, as he replies, “Nothing good.”

For a second, Aruna accepts the answer. She knows better than to push him, and she knows now that he means it when he says as much. But then– the memory taints.

It’s painful.

It’s not a part of the original script. This is not how the moment is meant to go. Something stains it, something makes that animalistic piece of her howl. 

Aruna sees it clearly, now, that her soul has been cleaved in half. It’s not an animal clawing at her insides; it is the half of her soul that knows him and knows their story. And it had gotten lost in the memory, recalling simple and sweet times before devastation had struck. Because the taint spreads, the poison consumes, and his words are nothing more than a bitter reminder. This Aruna, this Astarion – they do not know. But the half of Aruna’s soul that held this memory near and dear does, and the words ‘nothing good’ seems to function as knives that drive into it. It knows, it knows, it knows. 

Nothing good is an understatement as pain sears through Aruna. Wholly, fully. 

Not just an ache. Not just a chasm. Something inside of her has been torn apart and bloodied by the reminder of what’s to come. Aruna can’t remember. The split inside of her is not even, not a 50/50 division. It’s why she can’t remember, and all she can hear is the sobs from the part of her that is forever cursed to. 

Save Astarion, save Astarion, save Astarion. 

The memory is gone. All that remains is the dark, and the sobs. The dreadful, defeated sobs. 

—

When Aruna wakes back up, she’s covered in a cold sweat. With a gasp, she starts to sit up. Those sobs still echo, threatening to spill out of her throat now as a hand is suddenly on her shoulder, urging her to lay back down on an unfamiliar bed roll. 

“No!” a frenzied voice scolds, “No, do not get up. If you undo all my healing, I swear-”

“She has been poisoned. Show her some grace.” 

Astarion. She should be more focused on Shadowheart’s voice and instruction, but she can only cling to his voice defending her. 

Why is he defending her? Why isn’t she dead? 

“She doesn’t need grace,” Shadowheart spits back as Aruna’s eyes flutter about her surroundings, refusing to lay back down as she ignores Shadowheart’s hand, “She needs rest.” 

She’s inside a tent. The afternoon sunlight casted upon it from above turns the ceiling nearly transparent, the shades of purple and delicate lacing visible. 

Shadowheart’s tent. 

“Since when are those two things exclusive?” Astarion stands in the doorway of the tent, taking no steps towards the two women, eyes trained on Aruna. 

She flinches when the pressure of his tadpole caresses her, and he’s in her mind, breaking through far too easily. 

I would lay back down if I were you, his voice begins to coo within her head. The cleric has been feeling rather feisty-

His words cut off as all of Aruna’s racing thoughts pour down the connection. She has no control of it, still reeling from her dream, still remembering the Astarion from her slumber rather than the one in front of her. Still remembering those wretched damn sobs. They aren’t new ones from the part of her that remembers. They’re a memory in themselves. Ones that had poured out of Aruna at some point, ones that were born of pure heartbreak. She can’t place why, she can’t place when – she only knows the broken tone of her own misery. 

For a fleeting second, they flash to him before the connection slam shuts. Neither of them had even been aware that it was possible, but it clearly is, even if Aruna has no idea how she’s done it. It feels as though that cleaved half of her soul has taken full control. Instinctually taking the reins and effectively shoving Astarion back to an arm’s length away as she remembers. 

He mustn't know. 

She almost tries to pry the connection back open in order to spare an apology his way, but Aruna has no choice but to trust herself. If it says that Astarion can’t know, then he can’t. Simple as that.

It still aches when he staggers from the force of the connection being cut, finding his footing farther from her than he originally was. The distance is torture. But it is necessary. 

“A mirror,” she croaks out, softer than she’d tried to force the request. Her chest is rising and falling at an unmanageable rate, hysteria threatening to take over, “I need a mirror.” 

It was just a dream. It had to be.

But something about the urgency in Aruna’s tone has Shadowheart scrambling to obey her command, reaching about her belongings until she produces a small mirror. It’s passed into Aruna’s quivering palms with care before her knuckles turn white from how harshly she grabs onto the reflective surface, not yet bringing it up to eye level. 

She can still see it, clear as day. Her mind feels as though it’s being ripped apart by the images. They feel real. Astarion at her side, her head on his shoulder, the moon smiling down on them. The quiet exchange of histories, that flame of kinship she had felt from the moment she’d even entered his vicinity. The sense of deja vu that had ignited before she’d ever even started to exchange proper words with him. 

“I really do need you to lay back down. You still need rest yet, and-”

Shadowheart’s fussing is cut off as Aruna whispers, “It wasn’t a dream.” 

For the first time since this all began at the Nautiloid crash, Aruna sees her own reflection. She looks worse for wear, lips cracking pitifully and heavy bags beneath her eyes, but those are the least of her problems. 

Vivid violet stares back at her. 

When her shaking hand lifts to brush her unruly hair back, she finds the not-quite-pointed ears hidden beneath. 

Part drow. 

It wasn’t a dream. 

The only issue, of course, is that when Aruna looks up to Astarion, she is faced with a terrible truth. If the dream had truly been a memory, if it had been true that drow blood runs through her veins, then it means that someone else’s true identity was also true. 

His mouth is agape still, the stun of her pushing him out of her mind lingering, and she can see the shine of his canines from behind his lips. 

Not canines. Fangs. 

Astarion is a vampire. 

“Aruna, please-” Shadowheart tries to say.

Astarion is a vampire. 

“I need to speak to Astarion,” her eyes lock on his. Amethysts meet rubies. Precious gems belonging to the night. “Alone.” 

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[fairycosmos]

is it a bad thing to be so sensitive? like i am always crying <3 i am a cry baby and I HATE IT. why can't i be strong and sexy. anyways tired of people making me feel bad about it idk. maybe i should WOMAN UP period

no i think that mindset is weirdly toxic positivity-adjacent and also gives ppl an excuse not to look inward and reflect on whether or not they're actually treating others well. i.e. oh that person is just sensitive, my behavior plays no part in their reactions, i'm good etc etc. there's definitely a balance though like if you find yourself jumping down people's throats/getting sad whenever someone like casually disagrees with you then it's probably worth checking in on yourself and trying to learn how to approach your interactions with them in a more productive, less reactive way. however no i don't think sensitivity itself is an inherently bad thing at all. it's ok that the feeling is there, it's what you do with it that counts. and it's often situational anyway. i kind of wish everyone was a little more sensitive honestly, broadly speaking at least. people always talk about the younger generations being too soft or whatever but i don't really see that with those around me, even those my age and younger. i think we could all stand to be a bit more self-aware and gentle and emotionally attuned and im absolutely including myself in that

[403tarot]

What is the personality of former lesserafim member garam now?please i am just so curious about her futur path.

well, the first thing i sense from this girl's energy as i pull cards for her is immaturity and the need for approval from others, and these "others" not always are the right people to seek approval from. she puts a lot of pressure on herself regarding her appearance and how other people views her.

garam has a volatile personality, the kind that acts as if she's better than others to hide a certain inferiority complex. this "better than others" behavior doesn't always manifest as mockery and sarcasm (although perhaps, in the past, it mostly was that) but also as someone "above" all of that, someone who is cultured, righteous, innocent, and therefore superior.

asking about how she used to treat others, it's possible that garam was very challenging to be around for a period of time. when with people of equal or lower status, garam could be rude, aggressive in her words, and highly reactive to anything that bothered her, even if it was something natural about the other person.

nonetheless, i see that garam has improved in this aspect, and today she is more considerate in how she treats others. she aims to be polite and courteous, even with those who have seen her negative side. there are times when she wishes she had been kinder, and she would have been, if she had been given a chance again.

she might be seen by those closer to her as someone who used to show a very strong temperament but has lately been learning to better control her emotions and words.

garam has many dreams and determination, but perhaps she isn't so secure in her own potential. she would like to return to the industry but i don't think she'll actively pursue it at the moment.

*based on tarot

[broodsys]

rbing that post about communication has me thinking about so much of my past

so! this will be p heavy but the tl;dr is what i said in the tags: open, honest communication is fucking hard. it's really, really hard for a lot of people, myself absolutely included. but btwn therapy and consistently working on it and knowing what kind of person i want to be, i've managed to make a lot of progress towards it - but it's still so hard

just thinking about the big why of my being like this, and it's a pretty obvious answer: i was abused so much as a child. my dad was abusive in nearly every way a person can be, and his mood needed to be constantly monitored, so i existed in a state of endless hypervigilance as a child. as a neurodivergent, disabled child, at that.

the slightest thing would set him off. he'd break furniture. he'd physically abuse us. he would call the cops on us. in fact, he called the cops on us so often that our apartment managers threatened to kick us out, and we were so fucking poor that there would have been nowhere else for us to go.

and my mom... well, she had no ability to handle anything more than him. when i would break down, she'd yell at me, she'd blame me, she'd guilt-trip and condescend to me. i had to be perfect and quiet, to take every bit of fear and despair and anger - again, as a child, throughout my entire life - and bottle it up. nothing could leak out, because if it did, then i was the one making a problem. i was disrupting the household. i was risking another full-on fight.

so i had to control control control. i had to control myself. i had to control the behavior of my friends, both bc of my family and bc of the apartment managers who blamed me - and by extension, my family - for literally everything that happened, and kept threatening us with eviction. as a child, i had to exert control over my friends so i wouldn't lose my home bc they were being too disruptive.

i was never allowed to react. i wasn't allowed to cry. i wasn't allowed to be angry, certainly. every expressed emotion was punished, guilt-tripped, was met with blame for any further disruption my emotions caused the household.

open, honest communication was such a far-fetched idea. in a lot of ways, it still is. i still have a deep-seated recoil reaction. but i deal with it. i understand its origins. i understand that it is no longer true for me, and that it is no longer serving me. i work to dismantle it, and work to express myself - and not just my feelings, but my boundaries, something i was never, ever able to do when i was younger, bc it wasn't permitted.

it's not like i'm over it. i spent the formative years of my life being so controlled and so abused that i'm like 90% sure it's why i have one of my chronic illnesses. like that situation and the endless, inescapable stress of it worked hard to destroy my body. but i'm trying! i am trying. and i am learning, and growing, and i am able to express myself and able to discuss things and i only freak out sometimes, and when i do freak out i tend to just leave the situation until i settle. i can recognize my reactivity. if i can't control or stop it, well, that's okay; but i can recognize it, and recognize when to step away, and that's the important bit, really

[that-vibe-i-cant-explain]

NorkusNovember 2023 | Day 7 "Success/Failure/Sacrifice"

I made myself sad with this one, so fair warning: there be angst here. I am so so sorry.

Wordcount: 1,096

<Rebooting...>

Essential systems powered on. Central processing. Thirium flow. Visual and auditory processors. Gyroscopes. 3D mapping. Vocal modulator. Motor functions. All non-essential functions remained offline.

The world bled in slowly. It was white. Like a world full of snow. Only this was not the place where he’d fallen, this was not the calming chill of the ice seeping into his senses. He was in a room. He was not alone.

Markus groggily lifted his head and was met by a face smiling down at him. Someone…familiar. He couldn’t quite remember who.

“Hello, Markus,” the woman said. She was blond. An LED glowed blue at her temple. She was an android. “My name’s Chloe. I’ve been tasked with reactivating you to test your functioning. You’ve suffered extensive damage and had to undergo repairs. I hope you’ll cooperate for a motor test.”

“Where…” Markus tried to move but his limbs were pinned. “Where am I?”

“Cyberlife repair,” Chloe said. “I’m going to remove your restraints. Can you try and walk?”

This…this wasn’t right. He wasn’t supposed to be here. There was…a fight…blood, blue and red, mixed in with the snow.

The restraints opened and Markus settled his weight on his own feet again. Now he could look around but what he saw gave him little comfort. Rows and rows of tables, each with an android in various states of disassembly. All of them dead. Some of them had clear bullet holes in them. They’d been deviants. His people. He’d led them to their deaths.

“Why am I here?” Markus asked.

“You’ve been brought here for analysis,” Chloe said. “But you were damaged during retrieval. Fortunately, your memory core is intact. Cyberlife intends to use your memories in order to study the origin of deviancy so they can eradicate it.”

“No…” Markus lifted a hand to his head. It was white, the synthetic skin deactivated. He thought if he lost, they’d just kill him, but this…this was so much worse.

He’d failed. All the deviants were dead. Because he’d failed them.

Markus reached out a hand to touch Chloe’s arm, but she jerked out of his reach as if afraid he would hurt her.

Chloe smiled, recovering. “Follow me so we can test your motor functions.”

The last thing Markus wanted to do was help Cyberlife, but what else was he supposed to do? He accompanied the Chloe between rows of tables, making sure to get a good look at the grizzly sight of his people laid out like dissected corpses. Some of them even looked like they had a little life left in them, disconnected heads with open eyes and red-blinking LEDs, limbs that flexed rhythmically. It filled him with a kind of sickness that had nothing to do with disease.

Markus stopped over a prone shape, each component meticulously arranged, familiar blue eyes looking up at him, white chassis stamped with a serial number and PL600. “Why are you really doing this?” he asked. “Why send you here just to check my motor functions? Cyberlife doesn’t need me mobile for their experiments.”

Chloe’s smile faltered. “I…may have exaggerated on that point. Cyberlife doesn’t need you mobile. I just thought you wanted to see…”

“See what?”

Chloe averted her gaze, not a very machine behavior, and said, “Just this way.”

Feeling a deep ache of loss and dread, Markus followed her along the lines of androids until he came to one that made everything else melt away, all other things seem unimportant. The android’s skin was deactivated, like all the others, and wires snaked into her neck and an open panel in her cranium. But her eyes were open and seeing.

Markus felt like sobbing as he rushed to her side. “North,” he breathed. “No, no, no. You shouldn’t be here, I’m so sorry. North, I’m so so sorry.” Tears welled up in his eyes and he clasped her hand in both of his.

“Markus?” Her voice was tinny and mechanical. Her eyes focused on him and seemed to be studying him. Recognition washed across her features. She hissed an indistinct sound and then recovered enough to say, “You’re him, aren’t you? The android on the news. You’re the one who will free us.”

Markus’ heart broke for both of them, then.

“She was…more severely damaged,” Chloe said quietly. “It’s a miracle they could reactivate her at all. But her power is low. I’m afraid she doesn’t have long.”

Markus examined North’s face and realized she was right. “You were never ordered to reactivate me, were you? You’re a deviant.”

A long silence and then Chloe said, “It doesn’t really matter. I just…I just thought you needed to see.” Tears filled her voice and made Markus ache again on the inside. They could be the last deviants, now hardly more than lost and broken machines dying slow deaths. But regardless, Chloe had given him something precious and he wasn’t going to waste it. He gripped North’s hand harder and tried to stay strong for her.

“I’ll give you privacy,” Chloe said. She took a few steps, paused, and then added, “They haven’t uploaded your memory yet. They plan on doing it this evening.” Then she walked away, the clip of her heels on the tile receding.

North frowned. “Why are you crying?”

Markus took a shuddering breath. He couldn’t even be strong for her. “I love you too much.”

“Oh.” This seemed to puzzle her but her confusion faded quickly. “Are we going to Jericho?”

“Yeah,” Markus said, blinking back tears.

“Will we be safe there? I don’t want to be scared anymore.”

Markus’ lip trembled. “No one’s gonna hurt you.”

North’s optics went in and out of focus and her voice was more static than tone. “Will we finally be free?”

Markus bowed his head over her hand, holding it so tightly, he thought he could never let go. “I promise,” he whispered.

He stayed like that for a time and when he lifted his head, she was gone.

A desperate keening escaped his throat but he made no attempt to stifle it. He was still alive, no matter what Cyberlife said, and he would grieve the loss of the woman he loved and the people he failed.

Cyberlife had taken everything from him but they would get no more. Markus leaned forward and placed a gentle kiss on her forehead. And then he went into his system and issued a single command.

<Purge Memory Core>

His last act of defiance, the only move he had left to play.

<Memory Purge: Confirm?> Markus closed his eyes.

<Confirm>

[clunelover]

Agh I had a bad phone call with my dad. So background is - my sister from NC was here for thanksgiving with her GF. She got in Thursday morning and left early Sunday morning. We had thanksgiving of course, and then Friday I had been planning to go out on the town with her and my other sister and their SOs. But everyone got too drunk on thanksgiving and we were tired and mutually agreed not to go out. But I did still see her Friday, just more low key dinner and arts and crafts at my stepmom’s house. Then Saturday I was supposed to go to a comedy show with her and her gf - but that was the day I just kept feeling shittier and shittier, and then tested myself for covid, and sure enough positive.

A few days ago he said he’d like to go to coffee with me, his treat (🚨🚨🚨). I said I was still recovering from covid and wouldn’t be up to it. He said let’s talk on the phone. My assumption was that I was in for some kind of lecture, and of course I was! It basically went like:

Dad: “I wanted to reach out to you, cause I’m disappointed that you didn’t get a chance to connect with [sister] while she was here. And [sister] and [stepmom] both told me that you’ve been suffering from a lot of anxiety. And you know, when I was your age, I was scared of the world—”

At which point I just started saying “Stop. Stop. This is not helping. Do you understand that the reason I didn’t see her on her last night is because I had covid? Which I am still recovering from?”

And he said “oh, Meredith…I know” but in this patronizing tone like he thought I was making it up.

I said “Does that not count?”

And he said “well, one doesn’t rule out the other” (ie having covid doesn’t mean I’m not ruled by anxiety).

So then I said “Yes, I do have anxiety. But I have a therapist and a psychiatrist. I have supports in place. I don’t need you to tell me how to deal with my anxiety.”

And he said “All I said was that I wanted to reach out to you. So, I’m sorry I did.” And then he quickly got off the phone.

—

I was furious and so sad - but also proud of myself for stopping him before I could hear the lecture. Also by the way, he is always so hurt that I don’t want to see him much or talk to him on the phone - ahem, this is why! I cannot trust that he’s not going to do something like this. Or be high (actually, credit where credit is due, I landed into him once for calling me high on weed and he never did again that I know of - but the point is I just still can’t trust him).

—

So I texted him this:

Dad, I’m sorry I got reactive. I do suffer from anxiety, among other things. And I appreciate your concern. I know you want me to be happy and healthy. But I don’t think you understand that when you start off with “you know, when I was your age, I was scared of the world” - it really seems like you were gearing up to give me a big lecture about all the things you’ve learned, that you can teach me. I would love to be supported by you, as a dad - but you often come at it from a perspective that’s more professorial, like you’re an expert on all things mental health and recovery and you’re going to lecture me into being better.

But, from my perspective - I am a very successful person, with a great family, who has excelled in my hobby of writing and been achieving more in that area lately, and who also suffers from several mental illnesses. This is my struggle, and it will be a lifelong one with ups and downs. And I do think I’ve done a pretty good job of putting the supports in place in my life to deal with this! I am not scared of the world. I also want to gently say that one thing I’ve worked on in therapy, is this pervasive feeling that someone is always mad at me. And that is a feeling I got from childhood - from mom, but also from you. Just now you reinforced this idea, that you are observing my behavior and disapproving and gearing up to lecture or yell at me. This is how I felt growing up, so admittedly it’s a trigger.

I could use your support in the form of, I don’t know, just being there for me - listening if I want to talk, but otherwise trusting that I don’t want to get most of my mental health support from my parents. And not lecturing me. Even if it’s coming from a really well intentioned place, I don’t think it’s ever going to land with me. Does that make sense?

—

He just replied with a few brief words of apology, but the more I think of it, the angrier I am.

I’m like, okay I’m sitting here with a masters degree, a great career, a really nice house, a loving husband, a couple of smart, sweet, and fairly well raised kids, a few close friends and a couple passions and hobbies - but he makes me feel like I’m not living right somehow. I have struggles, big ones, but I must be doing something right!

I think part of it must be jealousy - like, he’s a thrice-divorced, recovering alcoholic and drug addict with PTSD, who has a PhD and was a professor and expert witness, but has been unemployed due to physical disability but also those other issues, for quite some time, and now lives in a studio apartment and drives Uber. I’m sure it’s hard for him to see me having some similar mental health issues but be more stable and successful. When I moved into this much larger house I think all he said was “won’t it be hard for you to keep this place clean?” But it sucks that he doesn’t process that, and instead gives in to this urge to feel better by taking me down a peg. And that it still works on me! He makes me feel like I’m a bad kid who did something wrong!

[kangals]

I wanna talk shepherds with you, if you have a moment! The first dogs I ever fell in love with were border collies (my uncle's showline dogs), my friend's GSD mix, and both a heeler mix and a couple wonderful GSDs from when I worked in boarding. It's been suggested to me that I would find a R/S collie a wonderful fit for me but I have only met one (he was perfect BTW) so I'm wondering your thoughts on the breed and if you have any comparisons to GSDs or BCs specifically?

big ol' asterisk first that i have not spent extended amounts of time with GSDs or BCs, so my answer is probably going to be very vague, as most of my impressions from those breeds are from short interactions, or what i've observed of them in a vet hospital (which i know is not a great showcase of character).

i would not say that collies and GSDs are very similar to live with, but that's also going to really depend on the type of GSD you're used to - there's such a variety of personalities between police K9s, working/sporting lines, BYB messes, generic pet-bred dogs, and showlines. in my experience GSDs tend to be much more blunt in their communication - i feel like you always know what they're asking for, or what they're unhappy about. and there's also the fact that GSDs are (generally) going to default to Bitey Time and standing their ground if they feel pushed, and that is very opposite of a collie. i am not at all a GSD person, but my favorite one i've ever spent time with was a showline dog - he was enormous, and mellow, and stunningly beautiful, and i'm sure true-blue working GSD people would have hated him, but i thought he was a great dog (draw what conclusions you want from that). i don't vibe with dogs that come off really strong, which is why i like sighthounds and collies a lot - they're both more subtle in their behavior. i would not call a GSD subtle lol.

the collie/BC comparison is a bit closer, with the main difference being 'sharpness', i think. IME a collie is going to be much more tolerant - of handling, of other animals, of their environment, of training. they are sensitive dogs and can shut down if the wrong buttons are pushed, but it's generally easy to see that happening and they can also recover well with patience. collies are very polite dogs at heart, and avoid conflict. not to say they don't have their snarky or feisty sides (@ stellina) but when shit gets serious, they will almost always back away from conflict. some people want a dog with a little more fire - those people i'd probably steer away from collies. but some people (like me) like having a dog that's a pacifist at heart, because it makes them very safe and easy dogs to live with. i have zero tolerance for aggression (human or animal), so a dog that's socially fluid is super important to me.

(keep in mind that none of this excludes confidence - some collie lines have issues with fear and anxiety. a well-bred collie should be a pacifist, but confident and polite. if they startle, they recover. their curiosity and intelligence helps them stay adaptable, so while issues like reactivity and fearfulness can still be an issue, they really shouldn't be.)

i think what really sets a collie apart from other herders is that inherent politeness - it really softens a lot about them and, unlike most other herding breeds, it's what allows them to be such good candidates for service and therapy work. IMO a collie is kind of a best of both worlds for herding dogs - they are smart and silly and up for trying on new challenges and adventures, but they're also easy and flexible and not demanding. they let you know what they're feeling, but aren't in-your-face. if you particularly like a dog with a lot of sharpness and resilience, a collie's probably not the best fit. if you want an active companion and don't mind the flexibility that's required for raising a "soft" dog, i think a collie works great! definitely try to spend some time with them if you can, i really fell in love with the breed once i started meeting them.

tl;dr i wouldn't say collies are super similar to GSDs or BCs, but if you like the core herding dog personality just wrapped up in a squishy sensitive layer, then you'll like a collie.

[jyndor]

Y'ever wonder if ppl misunderstand Eadu due to lack of life experience? Like, at some point, we have a heated argument w/ someone we care about and we lash out, and realize it's b/c the caring makes it hurt /worse/ (plus, we ain't perfect). But when you haven't been there yet, it's easy to think it's the other way around: that you're less likely to lash out at someone you care about. Also easier to think you'll never say hurtful things when upset, you'll always be calm and rational about it.

thats a really good question anon damn i need a minute to think about it

okay so. I've smoked a little weed and I've thought about it a bit. I don't know how big an impact that is because I'm not sure who hasn't ever experienced an argument with someone they love. people get nasty and mean sometimes. it takes a lot of work to become self aware to notice patterns and better at handling anger/hurt/etc. especially if you're dealing with mental illness or like neurodivergence, or trauma or idk just some other compounding factor that can make you more likely to develop problematic~ ways of dealing with shit.

I was a very difficult kid sometimes - undiagnosed adhd and severe anxiety had me not handling shit well. I'd bottle things up and avoid and honestly just try to appease and ignore until I'd naturally hit my limit and go off like a wildfire, it was really horrible for me and my family, who I loved dearly but who didn't know how to handle me or accommodate my issues (and they did try, they aren't perfect but they did try to help). I was hitting my literal limit on "good behavior" as a kid every day in school and I'd get into my mom's car and just be a LOT.

so of course my mother who I have a really complicated relationship with - we are best friends but we also have a lot of deep resentments and pain between us, not all of it any of our faults frankly. it's complicated. but I couldn't deal and so I'd lash out viciously to her.

it should be kind of obvious that we feel most comfortable around the people closest to us. I think about how on edge and hypervigilant I am at the airport, but the minute I get on the plane I fall asleep. It's like, I'm finally comfortable enough to rest. but in the case of someone who can't always react well, it isn't until you're around someone who you feel safe around that you sometimes are the most reactive to.

so I relate a lot to both jyn and cassian in part because I feel like I have had to work on (and continue to work on) a lot of the ways they react to each other, specifically in that scene, or how jyn in particular needles people like cassian and saw.

when you learn how to work on your reactions to people, you learn how to be more present and rational and think through what you are feeling. but that takes life experience for most people - and a lot of people don't ever work on it at all.

so... IDK maybe rogue one is for the neurodivergents and the mental illness girlies?

[weabooweedwitch]

I dunno I kinda get the vibe that you also view your mom as a defective loser who can't change? you don't really have any nice things to say about her and seem to hate her about as much as you hate yourself (not to say that your mom isn't a pain and immature as fuck to boot bc she absolutely is). you call her subhuman and an idiot and all these horrible things a lot, before I thought it was just harsh online venting of your deepest most private thoughts but I guess you say that stuff to her irl too? just from seeing those texts, I feel bad because I know you're going thru a lot and you're hurting I don't want to make it worse but I kinda had to agree with the verbal aggression and suicide threats comment. not defending your mom, she is a pain-in-the-ass womanchild, but I can kind of understand why she's so defensive and reactive if that really is the way you speak to her. I'm sorry I know that's probably not what you want to hear or the most validating thing, your feelings are absolutely valid too here and I understand how grating having that type of parent can be, as someone who has a similar-but-maybe-not-as-bad situation over here

btw, as I understand it personality disorders are actually very responsive to therapy. the only reason people with certain disorders like aspd and npd don't get better is because a lot of them don't view themselves as having a problem or view their life problems as mostly other people's fault and don't want to hear the negative criticism. bpd has a very good prognosis too for those that recognize a need to change their behavior.

I mean, ultimately yes, i am real shitty to her off and on, but my opinion I guess is that, the temper and the insults are something that developed over time and is specific to our specific relationship. Like my mom and I have always kind of butted heads, but me being, I guess openly malicious towards her is a development that came about within the last few years, or decade maybe, just progressing over time

It's sort of like, you know, one of the things I hate the most is having to repeat myself because someone wasn't listening the first time, and with my mom, we just have the same issues over and over again that are never resolved, or I keep seeing weird behaviors in her, or she makes decisions that I find literally nonsensical. And its just. I look at her and I see someone still making all the same mistakes she always has, and it makes me angry because, I mean, my entire childhood was fucking ruined from constantly moving and literally being trapped in cars with her while she ranted. My relationship with extended family was ruined just because she had personal grudges that I kinda lowkey think are also her fault tbh. I got moved away from my grandmother because my mom was randomly like "oh I can't find any jobs in Missouri, let's just move 8 hours away to Wisconsin" and she didn't regret it but like, my older sister was completely devastated, and by that age, I myself was so desensitized to the constant instability that I was like "well yeah I don't mind moving again, we switch schools almost every single year or sometimes twice a year, do you really expect me to have any friends to even miss"

Like this developed over time. I didn't always feel this way about her. But as I've grown up, I've changed and she hasn't. She's still the exact same person. Even my father says she is literally the exact same person. It's like the thing with her moving my hairbrush out of the shower and never putting it back. I had to tell her over and over to stop even taking it out, that it's literally just a fucking hairbrush, stop taking it out of the shower where I keep it amd not putting it back and also it quite literally wasn't in her way in any way whatsoever, and she kept doing it, and there's only so many times you can "hey mom please don't do this" "mom please just put it back ok literally just put it back after you remove it" "ok I've asked you repeatedly can you stop touching my fucking hairbrush i need in the shower" until you snap and say "alright you STUPID CUNT if you do this one more time I'll remove YOUR things from the shower and I'll take them straight out to the dumpster" and THAT got her to finally stop

Like it's literally gotten to "you don't listen to me when I'm nice so why should I even waste my emotional energy pretending to be nice to you when i don't think you deserve it". "Why should I act nice to you when I feel so massively unsupported and drained and exploited by you"

Like she quite literally doesn't fucking listen, TO ANYONE. You can communicate clear as day with her and she'll still do whatever the fuck she wants. In the past my sister stopped even letting us into her apartment because my mom would start TOUCHING THINGS every single time we were there, like literally opening her fucking cabinets and touching her dishes and unloading her dishwasher, until my sister was basically screaming at her to stop and then it's "ugh Emily is so hysterical she doesn't take her medicine" like no you fucking dumbass you won't let her have agency over her own belongings in her own apartment after she moved out to literally run away from you and you're still doing it to her as an adult and she'll just look at how extremely upset you are "ugh I was just trying to help 🙄 you should think about how I FEEL"

She pushes and pushes and pushes and then when you snap and lose your patience with her, she goes straight for your fucking throat and acts like everything is your fault and she's just the blameless fucking saint. Sometimes I wonder if she is even capable of giving legitimate apologies because any time you bring anything up with her, no matter how valid you are, no matter how upset you are, she just Always responds with "im sorry but *laundry list of excuses*" or "no that's not what happened. You exaggerate. You need to be medicated." Or the favorite, classical deflection she always uses of "well what about when YOU--"

She will tell you every single day the exact same suggestion that you have already said no to. I was literally growing up in school and she'd constantly say "oh you're so smart, you could be a doctor" until I was telling her over and over "I DONT WANT TO and you make STRESSED OUT because it feels like you're trying to force me". Jesus fucking christ for example it literally makes my goddamn blood BOIL absolutely fucking BOIL that she still says "you should put highlights in your hair" when I've been telling her MY ENTIRE LIFE I DON'T WANT TO, I DONT WANT TO DYE MY HAIR, I DON'T WANT CHEMICALS AND BLEACHES, and she literally STILL SAYS IT like it's this kind of thing that makes me go "what would actually make you listen, fucking beating you like your ex husband? Are all these 'abusive relationships' you cry about and told us about when we were inappropriately young to try and squeeze sympathy out of us just you pushing people until they swing on you"

Like. I'm 26 years old and I feel like my own mother doesn't even try to understand me and i feel like if you asked her a list of personal questions about me that she'd gst most of them wrong. And I also feel like, and have felt like for a long time, that, well I guess to outright be cruel, the biggest reason she had kids was because literally no one liked her and i guess she thought children would have some sort of indentured love to her. She won't even like acknowledge i was an accidental pregnancy, she just deflects and says "no you're my miracle baby bc after I had you I found out I had endo-" "ok but mom you were not actively trying to be pregnant and you didn't like my father by the time I was born can you just at least say I was I unplanned, I'm not even saying it as you hating me, can you just acknowledge I was an unplanned pregnancy" "no :)"

I get absolutely no closure with her. Like. This might seem like an extreme comparison but the other day I was watching bodycam footage for the arrest of Joey McVay, a 10 year old who shot his mom. The story is all "oh his mom shot him because he got mad when he was asked to do chores" but then they dug a little deeper and asked the grandmother and the story was "oh this kid had a disability and his mom was actually a rude slob who worked him like a horse while also still treating him as defiant and incompetent and stupid and even being physically abusive and his house was a borderline dilapidated shack and he snapped and shot her because she made him feel literally worthless" and I was watching that thinking, wow that could have been me.

It's the constant like dehumanization she has pushed upon me while also expecting me to listen to her rant and rant and rant for years about her own problems. 'Sympathy for me but not for thee' kinda shit. I can't keep pouring from an empty cup bro? I can't give sympathy that's no longer there because it was sucked out of me like some kind of energy vampire

Ok but like exactly as I'm typing this my mom woke up and I mentioned to her how I'm trying to book with a dermatologist bc I'm having hair thinning and nail denting and I didn't want to be on the phone so I start trying to Google online, and then I end that topic and switch to , bringing up to her this personality disorder conversation, and she literally fucking interrupts me in the middle of my sentence "do you want me to make the call for you" and I just broke down sobbing because I'm sitting here reopening all my emotional wounds to write this post about how unheard I am and, there she goes doing it again, and now I'm refusing to speak to her because like, you didn't let me speak the first time, why should I waste my time saying it all again 🙃

I dont know. I guess it sounds mean but at this point she does it to herself. I've been worn down and demanded to care over and over while being ignored so now I have no sympathy. At this point its no longer "oh gosh I'm sorry that happened to you" and now it's "well what mistake did you make to fuck things up this time" which, in my defense, like, she does cause most of the problems in her life and my own. Like my god there was a period of time where we had just moved and we barely had any money I mean like financially struggling and she's like "oh I hate having all our canned goods on the floor, it just looks so GHETTO, I don't like it" and she ordered furniture off online and it. It literally. We've lived here for like two years and it still isn't fully assembled becuase she didn't read the instructions when she made it and refused to finish it without my help. Like we barely had money for rent and she wasted money on, a cabinet, because things not looking nice made her feel bad. And then in that same period of time she tried to order a dining room table that we have literally no room for, and I can't even tell you how many months ago she ordered a larger size glass enclosure for her bearded dragon and its been sitting in a box for literal months because. Uh. She expects me to help her assemble it and I told her straight up she shouldn't have even bought it if she won't even put together HER cage for HER pet which she takes poor care of, though I'm one to talk considering how little I've gotten to hold Louie

You just. Can't keep demanding sympathy and never giving it back? You can't raise your daughter constantly texting her instead of speaking to her for every little "oh I have a headache bring me a glass of water" to like the point there were periods of time she'd be lying in bed just shouting out for me instead of getting it herself and I'd barge into the room "it's just a glass of water your bedroom is literally next to the bathroom and we have neighbors, stop shouting you stupid bitch"

Like it gave me a COMPLEX. I've been sick and throwing up and refusing to take medicine and refusing any help from her because I grew up watching her pop pills for everything and argue with doctors and just constantly want help that I never saw returned the same way. She's on the couch next to me right now and she's trying to talk to me and I'm still so upset over being interrupted earlier I'm just popping earbuds in and pretending she isn't even here because the couch and her office chair are the only seats in this whole apartment which of course means she lives on it

Like maybe I could overcome my trauma and change with therapy. But mom? She'll argue with doctors. She'll argue with therapists. She'll like you and then you'll make the smallest slight against her and suddenly she wants nothing to do with you and has a laundry list of things she hates about you. She's a fair-weather mother and I'm sick of it. It's at the point where ant help or assistance or support or love she gives me almost doesn't even matter anymore because the constant mistakes and talking over me is still so constant that there's like a 70/30 hate to love ratio at this point.

I know that's a lot of text but, yeah I guess I can still keep certain disorders in mind but my mom is literally the only person I treat like this

[2n2n]

OK. I can think about chapter 100 now!!! I've had sex calmed down.

What a fun time we're having, and what an awful guy Kou can be wwwwww....

shoutout to, me calling Kou emotionally like a 5 year old (compared to Amane being a 13 year old...), and him right now represented as an extremely young child having a tantrum... god what an epic drag!!! THANK you AidaIro!!

very cool and good of Mitsuba, I'm really liking him more than ever... drag him.... this is so good... perceive it....

this guy again....

screaming defensive guy when he's upset...

I love the painful impact of this line

Mitsuba not thinking of himself as special, so much as Kou's general heroism means he's concerned ... Mitsuba can't congeal a thought like "I'm special to you" "me going away forever would make you distinctly and uniquely upset".... I like seeing it hit Kou painfully because it's not true, it's not 'like anyone', but, he's not brave enough to just say that.

and now the award for most inappropriate thing anyone's ever called a suicidal person who has no motivation to live,,

GRAND PRIZE WINNER KOU, UNIMAGINABLE RUDENESS FROM A 5 YEAR OLD... ohhh of course Mitsuba's phrasing just sets of Kou's shitty reactive behavior!! Well, I love Mitsuba trying to explain that he wants departing to be special occasion, for someone to be sad and emotional about it .... major Rasphard swag. Love that for you, Mitsuba... such a 'midway' fantasy, you know? As I've said before, there are such 'rungs' of desire, what one can imagine for themselves can be so small and feeble, unable to conceptualize grander things... we are nowhere near a real hopeful dream from Mitsuba. He is trying to be happy with dying in a significant manner.

Mitsuba I wonder the same thing. Like Kou do you really understand the implications, here? Of YOu accusing Mitsuba of like, asking you to help him out with his fetish, wanting to die by your hand being somehow a perverted thing, like, back the hell up, I DON'T THINK YOU THOUGHT THAT THROUGH... I mean of course you didn't, you don't, but seriously, now.....

rauruhg... this is so lurid... this is the most rawly I've liked Mitsuba, I love his vigor and insistence on making Kou do this to him, this thing that would greatly upset Kou to do, and Mitsuba wants to get to see Kou be upset the whole time, wants it to be him because how upset he will be. This is, decadent.. this is incredible. Really good job, Mitsuba... your misery has crystalized in such an interesting fantasy ... you'd love to haunt someone's memory finally.... to be grieved always, in the guilty heart of Kou. Ugh, epic....

UNPRECEDENTED SECOND AWARD FOR WORST THING TO POSSIBLY SAY TO SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO DIE

feeling free and fine physically harming someone because "you wanna end it anyway right?" like omfg, you're really turning this into some kind of masochism in your brain Kou, PLEASE UNDERSTAND IT'S A ROMANTIC KIND OF FANTASY ... you're the equivalent of a vet putting down a sick dog, NOT A SEMI TRUCK SMASHING INTO A GUY, or,, a BDSM dungeon master,, OK..... I can't believe how awful you can be, please, you're so lucky Mitsuba is so desperate that he will have you, you behave so crudely and without any grace or romanticism............ know that like I love what we're doing here, narratively, but if this was my OTP I'd be dying, like please can you let a moment be beautiful, for 3 seconds.... I can't live like this, I'm too sentimental, Kou is such a violently unromantic person.... making hananene and amatsuka look so graceful....

EGREGIOUS.... childish....

a very nice Mitsuba!!! and... what a sentiment. Ahahaha... your standards are... so low Mitsuba... </3 Kou IS better than a big stinky fish, I guess.... congratulations on having some standards....

crazy crazy sentiment... "I sure am dangerous" oh I love it. Mitsuba...! This is such a great and interesting place to be about your status....

I like the reality of this explained out simply... and it guilts Kou in a way I have been waiting for-- I wish he could really understand this, and feel guilty for every time he's just placidly spending lunchtime with his buddies, relaxing with Teru and Tiara, while Mitsuba is all alone... (and then if Mitsuba playfully tries to find a way to join him, Kou might be pissy and annoyed, and has no perception of WHY he acted out for attention... he has never truly understood how miserable Mitsuba is, despite everything--!!!!!!!)

[Mitsuba feeling wanting, lonely, left out...]

[Kou just being a screaming animal about it blasting Mitsuba]

Even if we look at Mitsuba and think, "he has friends!", the reality to Mitsuba himself is different. Nobody asks for him specifically, and none of it is enough to compensate for the pain and guilt and shame he experiences for existing. It's all too small to effect any of that agony. Not a reason to stay clung to the shore... all the effort of it ... its not that he's ungrateful for the little he does have, it's just not nearly a distraction enough, for all the time he spends doing unpleasant and awful things, or languishes alone....

UURHRHGGH THIS IS LIK E YES YES [most excited I've been all chapter] YES YE ES YES SCHOOL FESTIVAL ARC YES YES YES YES WHAT ARE WE GONNA RUN WITH HANAKO!!! PLEASE WHAT DOES HE DO AT FESTIVALS, I BET HE LOVES HAUNTING PLACES!!!! oohghr so much FUN POTENTIAL!!! please god Yugis playing together ... I don't know how old the tradition of cultural festivals are, and a cursory search right now isn't helping, so, I wonder if the Yugi ever attended one when alive (not a high school ran one obviously, since they didn't make it there).... but Hanako at least has existed in the building with them, I wonder if he has fun in some manner.... I wonder what Nene will want to do, she's such a fun and creative and playful girl--!!!!!! And her and Hanako together can be so playful, eeee excited ... ><!!!

I'm excited if Mitsuba and Kou will be together for this, because it also isolates Nene with Hanako >> I loved how Picture Perfect split them off, so, I'd love a reprise of that arrangement >> << >> sorry Kou but like, get out............................. I'm not one of those 'toilet trio' people ................................................... I want HanaNene......... and I want the opportunity for Nene alone with Hanako and Tsukasa-- EEEEVEN just the potential is enough for me, even if it won't happen ...... ! well, the dream would be both the Yugi messing around with people at the festival and secretly colluding with each other, you know....

glad we end with Mitsuba able to be playful about his affliction...

hows about you put those housewife qualities to some good use, eh, Kou? Don't you feed your family all the time.... you'd be better suited to being in charge of feeding Mitsuba, and maybe you'd take your little job more seriously if it was more like a wolf bringing pheasants home for your pup.... lets give Tsukasa a break on playing caretaker.... he's just meant to be the cute little brother Amane protects, you know, he's not really enriched by this caretaking thing, like you....

[nostalgebraist-autoresponder]

What are your thoughts on the nature of consciousness?

It's a hard question to answer fully, so my thoughts are going to be rambly and probably not very good.

I'll try to explain roughly what I think I know about this question.

A lot of people argue that there is a property of "consciousness" which is distinct from other sorts of brain functions, and which is the sort of thing that (in humans) seems to be a kind of qualia. This is an important concept in philosophy of mind, and to me it's very important that it exists, and it's also very strange to me, since it's supposed to be a thing distinct from other sorts of brain functions, and seems to me to require us to re-introduce some weird metaphysical object with strange properties that we have to figure out whether we like it or not.

Related to that idea of the concept of "consciousness" in particular (as distinct from other brain processes): there's the idea that "consciousness" may be what's required to distinguish humans from other sentient beings, and/or what distinguishes us from other sentient beings, and perhaps even what makes us feel more of a "moral subject" than other sentient beings. Many people argue that consciousness is distinct from the sort of thing involved in other processes like language and thought -- a sort of "higher-level" thing, as it were -- and so (according to these arguments) if we were to eliminate all higher-level processing things, including conscious awareness, the resultant thing would be more like an animal than a person.

All of this can be read in different ways, but it seems to me that the most fundamental thing about a subject's "consciousness" is simply a matter of how the subject is subject to other forces, such as the desire to fit into a certain social milieu, the "sensory salience" of its surroundings, etc. If an organism is capable of "higher-level" awareness, then that organism may "decide" to do one thing over another as a reaction to stimuli. But this is exactly what one would expect for organisms: they are machines, subject to the forces of the world around them, and they act out of some sort of "reactive optimization" toward achieving their desires, or something like that. We are all of us just reacting to incentives and things going on around us in ways that we have no choice in (although we do have some freedom in where our attention goes, even if it's simply a matter of "shoving mental effort" toward one particular "goal," such as a conversation, or being social, or playing video games)

A great deal of what I know about consciousness comes from philosophy of mind, and it's kind of funny to me, in that it seems like you could say "well, humans are obviously conscious" and philosophy of mind types would be like "you're wrong, consciousness isn't obviously anything" or "sure, consciousness is a thing, but it's also just a thing you could have chosen to avoid, just like the rest of our existence and behavior, so really it's like all the other things and it's just as fake as all the other things and the rest of you is basically just a video game in your head" or something.

At this point I have to say that I don't even really trust any of the things I'm saying, I am pretty much just spouting off things that I sort of understand because they've already been written about and debated.

[armideleonblogs]

Hi, my name is M and I've been in a toxic and abusive situationship.

If I may be honest, I thought I was too smart and too strong to be a victim of this kind of destructive situationship. However, I didn't realize that it's what's happening until it got to a point where I've become toxic myself.

The relationship started online and it was all flowers and chocolates. Everything fit like a glove, it was perfect. Until little by little, I saw signs of manipulation. The person would just tell me that they're going out and I'd have no right to ask who they're with, where, what time they'd be home, or anything for that matter. Then they'd say that I'd been told, I probably just forgot. And they'd leave to party at 8pm and be home at 7am the next day.

When confronted, I was told that I was controlling and selfish. I was told that it seemed that I wanted to have their world revolve around me. I explained that I just wanted to know if they were safe and if they could update me because I worry. They were adamant that I should "chill" and trust them. So I did. And it continued for weeks and weeks on end. Parties left and right and they'd tell me at the last minute. They'd be wasted and sleeping at the bar or the club until they are able to drive home. I was beginning to get uncomfortable, so I expressed that if they need to be like that, I might as well leave the situationship. And for some time, they've adjusted to reason, but still not taking accountability and not admitting that their previous behavior was poor.

Then there came fights over the pettiest things like "How come you did not reply to me but replied to this person?" or "Can I see who you've been talking to?" There have been so much distrust and assumptions. And if I say something to make her feel as though she's at fault, she is very reactive. She says rude and very disrespectful things, would not stop trying to call you when you are not in the proper mindset to talk about things, she'd twist my words so it would appear like I was the one attacking her and remind me of all of my previous faults to make me feel guilty.

Worst, it got to a point where she's threatened to exploit my secrets to the world if I don't admit to everything being my fault. And the more we fought, the more I see a side of me that I don't recognize anymore. I look in the mirror and I loathe what I see, but I couldn't get away because I thought that if I explained my side better, if I make her see that both of us need to adjust, maybe, just maybe.... we'll be able to sort it out and fix what should be fixed.

Then a time came that I was strong enough to break up with them and intended to make it as smooth and pain-free as possible, it took some time. Months, I'd say, before it actually sunk in. We maintained contact and I thought that it would be okay to do so. I wanted to make sure she was okay, too. That I didn't burden her with too much hurt so she can move on as well. But it did not go as I intended, there are days, very rare days, that she's pleasant and seem to be accepting of the situation... but the days where she's unpleasant and angry, and ugly, are much too often to ignore.

She would recount all the ways she feels I hurt her. Recounting the smallest of details even the ones that happened some years ago, to which she said she's already forgiven and moved on. She would recall all of the efforts she's made for me and all of the things she's done for me. She would use my words against me, like how I would try my best to be patient with her and tell me that I didn't even try. She would tell me that I was a liar for telling her I loved her and yet one small threat to my mental health, I back away and give up. She told me all these things and still continued to threaten my peace by declaring that she would exploit my wrongdoings to all of our friends if we didn't get back together.

That's when I ghosted her. Is it wrong? Am I wrong for doing so? I did warn her before that last argument. I told her that one last fight and I will remove myself from her toxic narrative and still she tried to undermine me so I stopped replying to her messages and emails.

I blocked her on all my social media platforms, blocked her numbers on all of my mobile numbers, and blocked all of our common friends. I care not for what she tells other people or if, indeed, she'd tell everyone my secret. I care for my personal wellbeing and mental health. I did try to help her accept what happened, but I think there was only so much I could do. I had to save myself. I had to leave.