#hyper empathy flag

[calypsoscyclone]

Hyper Empathy Redesign

“A flag for when one is hyper empathetic, could be because of a preexisting condition, or it could just be who one is”

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[acronym-chaos]

Pan Hyperempathy Combo Flag

[PT: Pan Hyperempathy Combo Flag].

[ID: a rectangular flag with 5 stripes, with the second and fourth being half the size of the rest. in order from top to bottom the colors are: deep pink, pale pink, orangey yellow, pale pink, bright blue. End ID].

Flag for those who are pan and experience hyperempathy!

[ID: A red line divider with dark red devil horns on either side outlined in red. Orange text outlined in red reads “Team Villains.” End ID].

Attack on @theadorableundead! Worth 7 points!

@radiomogai @coinfight

[skeleton-monarch]

yknow some of you have gotten real comfortable mocking hyper-empathetic people because some assholes use it as an excuse to be a dick to those with low/no empathy

you guys do know that hyper empathy can cause issues? like it’s a real thing?? you know this, right???

[vanessagillings]

I’m posting the ever-so-rare photo of myself alongside one of my characters based on my childhood because today is World Autism Acceptance Day, and I wanted to show my little corner of the internet who this particular autistic person is:  

I was officially diagnosed in February, at age 38 (I’m now 39). A lot of people thought I couldn’t be autistic.  Some people who know me in real life still don’t.  And until around 10 years ago, I didn’t think I could be either, because I was nothing like the stereotype media portrays. I was told that autistics lacked empathy (untrue), and never played make-believe (also often untrue) and only enjoyed STEM.  I was — and am — an empathetic artist -- and make believe?  I can spend days sketching finely bedecked bears brewing tea or carefully choosing the right words to weave tapestries of fiction — though perhaps my hyper focus was a bit of a red flag.  Even so, how could autism describe me?  I was a good student.  I got straight A's. I didn’t act out in class.  I can make eye contact…if I must.  And lots of girls hate having their hair brushed with an unholy passion, right?  Clearly I swim in sarcasm like a fish, so autism couldn't be why I was so anxious all the time, could it?

If someone had told me when I was younger what autism ACTUALLY is — instead of the nonsense I’d seen on screens — I would have seen myself in it.  I didn’t hear that autistics have sensory issues until I was in my mid-twenties, which is when I first began to really research autism symptoms, and I had almost all of them:  sensitivity to light, smells, fabrics, temperatures, textures, and certain touches, all of which make me feel anxious, I fidget (stim), I never know what the hell to do with my hands or where to look, I talk too little or too much, I have special interests, I have entire animated movies memorized shot-by-shot and can remember the first time and place I saw every movie I've ever seen but I often forget what I'm trying to say mid-sentence, I echo movies and tv shows (my husband and I have a whole repertoire of shared echolalias, making up about 20% of our conversations), I was in speech therapy as a kid, I have issues with dysnomia and verbal fluency, I toe-walk, I can't multitask to save my life, I like things just-so, I’m deeply introverted but not shy, I need to recover from all social interaction — even social interaction I enjoy — and I find stupid, every day things like grocery shopping, driving and making appointments overwhelming and intensely stressful, sometimes to the point where I struggle to speak.  It turns out, I am definitely autistic. My results weren't borderline. Not even close. And while these aren’t all of my challenges, and not everyone with these symptoms is autistic, it’s definitely something to look into if you present with all of these things at once. 

So why did it take me so long to get diagnosed? The same bias that exists in media threads through the medical community as well, and because I'm a woman who can discuss the weather while smiling on cue, few people thought I was worth looking into. Even after I was fairly certain I was autistic, receiving an official diagnosis in the US is unnecessarily difficult and expensive, and in my case, completely uncovered by my insurance.  It cost me over $4000, and I could only afford it because my husband makes more money than I do as a freelance illustrator — a job I fell into largely because it didn’t require in-person work; like many autists, I have been chronically underemployed and underpaid, in part due to physical illness in my twenties, which is a topic for another day.  But it shouldn’t be like this.  It shouldn’t be so hard for adults to receive diagnoses and it shouldn’t be so hard for people to see themselves in this condition to begin with due to misinformation and stereotypes. Like many issues in America, these barriers are even higher for marginalized groups with multiple intersectionalities. 

It’s commonly said that if you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person.  This is why it’s called a spectrum, not because there’s a linear progression of severity (someone who appears to have low support needs like myself might need more than it seems, and vice versa), but because every autistic person has their own strengths and weaknesses, challenges and experiences, opinions and needs.  No two people on the spectrum present in the same way.  And that’s a good thing!  No way of being autistic is inherently any better than any other, and even if someone on the spectrum struggles with things I don’t — or can do things I can’t — doesn’t make them more or less deserving of respect and human dignity.

But speaking solely for myself, the more I learn about autism, the happier I am to be autistic.  I struggle to find words and exert fine motor control, but my deep passion and fixation has made me good at art and storytelling anyway.  I find more joy watching dogs and studying leaf shapes on my walks than most people do in an entire day.  More often than not, the barriers I’ve faced weren’t due to my autism directly, but due to society being overly rigid about what it considers a valid way of existing.  My hope in writing this today is that maybe one person will realize that autism isn’t what they thought — and that being different is not the same as being less than. My hope with my fiction is to give autistic children mirrors with which to see themselves, and everyone else windows through which to see us as we actually are.

If you’re interested in learning more about autism or think you might be autistic, too, I recommend the Autism Self Advocacy Network  autisticadvocacy.org and the following books:

What I Mean When I Say I’m Autistic by Annie Kotowicz

We're Not Broken by Eric Garcia

Knowing Why edited by Elizabeth Bartmess

Unmasking Autism by Devon Price, PhD

Loud Hands edited by Julia Bascom

Neurotribes by Steve Silberman

(trigger warning: the last two contain quite a lot of upsetting material involving institutionalized child abuse, but I think it’s important for people to know how often autistic children were — and are — abused simply for being neurodivergent).

Thanks for reading 💛

[thebadboyfanclub]

I Don’t Think I Can Do This (Daemon x Reader)

Hey y’all so I know I was supposed to write another request but my job has cause my imagination to ran dry and this was certainly easier cause i wanted to write something that shows the burden that women carry and also that Daemon is a very grey character, I hope you guys like it

The story of (y/n) Eaglemore and Daemon Targaryen did not start as a love story, one would suppose that seems to be a common trait amongst the concept of arranged marriages, especially to a young maiden of an independent kingdom to the rogue prince Targaryen, their marriage was the establishment of Eaglemore joining their forces with the Targaryens, (y/n) was dressed in her traditional attire with her hair in an intricate style, she was breath of fresh air in the house of the dragons, a proud Eagle that was brave enough to fly with the dragons as the flag with the colors of red and black flew next to the black and red she assumed the similarities were bound as an omen for success.

That was quickly ripped out of her mind at the bedding ceremony that she endured, the prince was not brutal, yet she had hoped that he would forbid it, he was cold and only placed a kiss at the top of her head after it was done before he left her laying while the ones that observed it cleared the room, tears streamed down from embarrassment while the handmaidens helped her get up to assist her with her bath.

-

“Husband!”

She exclaimed excitedly before she skipped over to Daemon who was preoccupied with having a conversation with Viserys was much more important than turning his head to face her, alas the newlywed stood by his side and reached for his hand to get his attention, innocently she squeezed it only to be met with an annoyed expression as he gazed intensely at her.

“What?! (Y/n)! Did they not teach basic manners in your homeland?”

“I-I just, I wanted to give you this, I sewed it for you, it’s the dragon symbol with the eagle”

“Great, give it to the handmaidens, is that all?”

Suddenly she became hyper-aware of the pie of eyes around her, mostly men that had taken interest in the scene that unfolded in the gardens, she felt like a little girl scolded by her father, she bit her lower lip as her shoulders sunk in defeat, the glimpse in her eyes slowly disappearing like a light snuffed out.

“My apologies, I did not wish to interrupt you and the king, I hope you can forgive me, y-your grace”

“It is quite alright, my dear, for what it’s worth I found your creation a wonderful gift, do not pay attention to daemon he has never been good with gifts”

“If that means I have never been good with gifts that have no use then yes, I agree”

“I shall go, excuse me, your grace, husband”

She curtsied before she ran off, her chocolate-colored hair swinging left and right in her ponytail as her eyes looked down to hide the tears that she desperately held back, Daemon watched her and could sense the damage he had caused, sometimes he would catch himself staring at her with purity and interest, he had even smiled once when she struggled to find the right word in his language.

He should have stopped, he should have held his tongue when the evident quiver of her chin started to show when her eyes bounced in different directions as she wanted to gather her composure, but he didn’t, now Daemon stood as still as a grain of salt whilst she once again ran away from him covered in shame.

“She is your lady wife Daemon, must you be so hard on her?”

“A wife that was bestowed to me”

“She is also someone that was bestowed a spouse, yet she took it with grace and is grasping desperately to create the best out of the worst, as a man that prides himself on his intelligence your lady wife has surpassed you, at least in principle and empathy”

Daemon was stunned, as Viserys spoke in such kind words his words slashed through Daemon like the sharpest of knives, this was Daemon's second marriage, and it had become second nature to be rude and unattainable to his lady wife since the bronze bitch shared the same hatred as he did for her, now the cheerful lady with the deer like eyes and red puffy cheeks had been nothing but kind, a foreign pain in his chest started to make Daemon uneasy as she ran further and out of his line of sight.

“If I were you I would be very ashamed”

-

(Y/n) sat in front of the mirror as one of her handmaidens lit her candles and the other brushed (y/n)s hair to prepare her for bed, (y/n) stood as still as she could though her fingers intertwined with one another and twisted in odd ways.

“Could you leave me with Chiara, please? Thank you”

(Y/n) requested softly, the young handmaiden only curtsied before she walked out of (y/n)s chamber, whilst Chiara continued to brush her hair, they had grown into a bond that (y/n) felt comfort in, Chiara was sweet and honest, somewhat older, and had just given birth to her first child, she was the first handmaiden that she met when she got to the red keep.

“Do you love your lord husband?”

“I do, now”

“What do you mean?”

“I married him per my father's request, and he gave the biggest dowry, at first it was difficult, we had to figure out a way to communicate and after a while, I like to think that he grew to love me as much as I love him, though first, we respected one another, then love came gradually”

(Y/n) grew silent, her head hanging low before she bit her lip in defeat, she respected her lord husband? Did her lord husband respect her? After the incident on the morrow, it certainly didn’t feel like it.

(Y/n) had not noticed that Chiara had scrounged in front of her and placed her hands over (y/n)s, she only saw the tears that splashed over the handmaidens' skin.

“You won’t always feel like the outsider”

“I don’t think I can do this”

“You can, it is alright my dear”

One sob came after the other as (y/n)s body shook and Chiara lovingly wrapped her arms around the lady’s frame in such delicacy, it resembled a girl hugging her porcelain doll while she tried to not crack it, in its macabre nature you could identify a certain beauty, someone that had the strength to comfort a disheveled young lady as she navigated through womanhood and all its trials.

What had (y/n) nor Chiara had taken into account was that Prince Daemon had made his way to the half-cracked door, freezing in his sport once the whimpers of agony hit his ears, he peaked through the shadows only to be met with his lady wife letting tears stain her dress and hiccups shaking her hunching back as the handmaiden rubbed circles on her back.

“Prince Daemon is a fool for not acknowledging the precious stone that is you, may the gods bless him and open his eyes before he is taken from us”

Daemon had no reason to intervene, the poor lady was right, he was a fool, here she was, a beautiful and intelligent young royalty crying over his acts, he had always longed for home, for family, and now he kicked and toyed with it.

He should be the one comforting his lady wife, to gaze upon (y/n)s puffy and red face and do his best to calm her nerves, not to be the face of her pain, shamefully he scurried away without a word, mad at his reflection that stared back at him in such high horse, he had become everything he hated, a man that did not care about anyone but himself, stopping at nothing to prove he was right.

-

“Good morrow”

(Y/n) did not respond, she only raised her head and nodded at Daemon that had just entered the dining area, exhausted from crying the lady felt like a family of horses had run over her, getting barely a wink of sleep, evidently so by the veins under her eyes.

(Y/n)s silence was deafening to Daemon, however, he cleared his throat and took a sit next to his lady wife, waiting for a servant to pour him some wine.

“Orange juice? I believe we do not grow these over here”

“A gift from my mother, she said orange juice in the morning is a secret to a woman’s beauty”

“She must be the most astonishing lady back in your line”

“You met her, on our wedding feast, I believe you were too busy to pay attention, like always”

The last comment was barely above a whisper still sharp as a knife right on Daemon's abdomen, Daemon only turned his gaze at her, confused by her demeanor, it wasn’t uncalled for yet it took him by surprise, she always seemed to have the ability to hide her agony at least in public.

“Mayhaps we could go to her, I’m sure she will be more than happy if her daughter visited her”

“Not if my belly is flat, as much as she wanted me to be thin for most of my life she is now sending raven after raven to just check in with my monthly bleeds”

She informed him in a mumbling tone while her hand was rubbing circles on her temples, visibly annoyed over her mother's disregard for her well-being and hyper-focused on her womb.

Daemon was taken back by her comfortability to speak over her monthly visits, brushing it off easily though since they were husband and wife after all, those matters should concern him as well, the idea of a sweet little child running to (y/n)s arms brought him joy.

“It must be uneasy, being put in this position”

“Indeed and if I am being honest, my lord husband has not been making it any easier, with my empty womb nor his attitude”

“I understand you are cross with me”

“Can you blame me? You humiliated me”

Her tone switched from my king to a hiss, her eyes spewing fire as she stared back at him, it was the first time that she dared to show her true emotions, albeit Daemon could detect that it wasn’t just an act of anger but a sense of fear was laying behind those hues of hers.

He was correct, (y/n) feared for her future, the whispers of Daemon's visits to the street of silk, the adoration for his niece, his continuing ignorance over their wedlock, it all came crashing on her chest making it unable to breathe sometimes.

“I came to break my fast with you as a sign of goodwill, I want us to work on our relation-“

“Us? There is no us, you made sure of that my prince, you have crashed all my efforts and now you dare to speak of us”

“I cannot correct my past mistakes, I can only hope that you will allow me to work on our future, you did not deserve my coldness and for that, I sincerely apologize, I only wish for your good graces and for you to allow me to show you how I truly feel for you and our wedlock”

Silence, her eyes focused on his to scatter for one ounce of a lie, alas she was left with nothing, a sigh left her lips as she sunk to her chair defeated, why did the gods curse her with such a difficult match?

“I do not know if I can love you, I tried to desperately earn your affection for so long, I have grown tired of this”

“I know you have and I do not blame you, I beg you, my sweet (y/n), let me try”

His hand had found hers to hold, the warm flesh against hers grew goosebumps, a small beam of light found its way into her soul and a ghost of a smile appeared as (y/n) glimpsed upon their hands locked together, she gave him a subtle squeeze to see if this was a dream or reality.

“I suppose trying couldn’t hurt”

“Thank you, now you must eat, your mother might be right you have lost some weight”

“My efforts of getting accustomed to your foods have not been working”

“You do not have to, we can bring a cook from your homeland, my lady wife shall eat whatever her heart contents”

“There are some delicacies that I believe you would enjoy”

“I am not very picky with food so I will try anything you put in front of me”

Chatter was something (y/n) could easily do, however, even though Daemons spirits were high, (y/n) would steal glances of caution at him, was this another scheme? Or was he genuinely craving her presence and good graces?

“I was hoping you could come to meet Caraxes later”

“I do not know if that is the best idea”

“Nonsense, Caraxes is a part of me, therefore a part of you by law, soon our children will have their eggs on their cradle, if you are surrounded by dragons you need to get used to their presence”

Requests are open!

[bloodplague]

Ticci-Toby in relationships

Simply how I headcanon Toby in romantic and sexual relationships. ^^

Toby is… a walking red flag: Paranoid, murderer, possessive, obsessive, clingy, ADHD, bipolar, selfharming, antisocial aka sociopathy, obnoxious, manipulative, sassy, touchy, incompetent, abandonment issues, uncontrollable due to his bipolar disorder, emotional bursts, mental break downs, schizophrenia, depressed, eating disorder, no social life, no remorse and only rarely empathy, full of himself, selfish, forceful, bloodthirsty, shy in an insane way and way more.

After analyzing Toby for years, gathering canon facts, sheets and tracking down all possible information, I created a whole damn discord server just to write down all the things I analyzed & everything about him in general. So, I can say that this is pretty accurate:

I'll begin with possessive. Toby is incredibly possessive and jealous, trying to be around them as MUCH as possible. He will struggle with respecting boundaries, completely claiming his partner as his. He might even stalk his partner when he can't be around them or if they need space, fully focusing on them like an insane love-sick raccoon. Toby constantly has his hands on his partner, gives them hickeys or hugs/cuddles them in a possessive way. When it comes to kissing, his cheek won't really bother, it'll just make things a bit messy.

With possessiveness, the paranoia comes as well. He'd immediately assume his partner is about to leave him if they'd either dry text or are really dry with him in general, thinking he's doing something wrong. This will cause him to feel insecure as well as irritated (since he's temperamental). Abandonment is one of his biggest fears anyway, which is why this man needs a LOT of reassurance in a relationship. His schizophrenia and manic episodes make this whole thing worse.

The next 2 things are his unhealthy obsession with his partner & his pure clingyness. As soon as he loves someone, he'll grow so obsessed with them, being all touchy (which is another canon trait) and needy as he constantly craves their attention, to the point where he's being obnoxious.

He's uncaring about almost everything, though seems really interested in his partner. Sure he'd tease them a lot about literally anything, even during serious conversations, but he still listens. Even though he wouldn't admit that.

In arguments he can quickly become frustrated and blame the other person, thinking he did nothing wrong, unless he's going through an depressive episode. Then he tends to blame himself, terrified he's going to fuck up the relationship. This is mainly because of his ASPD (antisocial personality) and the tendency to blame others for things.

Due to his C.I.P.A, he can't feel pain, nor can he tell what might hurt and what won't. He might accidentally hurt his partner at times by holding their arm or hand too tightly, not aware that he's causing pain. Because of that, Toby is always trying to be as gentle as possible, unless he's all hyper and barely paying attention to anything.

Tobias has always been the weird one, always left out and never really recieving love from anyone other than his mother and sister. He's not used to affection, so he'll definitely try to be as affectionate as possible, almost in an overly needy way. He's trying to squish out comfort from his partner, the comfort & love he never received in the past.

Due to all the physical abuse he experienced including watching his own sister getting beaten to the ground, he's extremely protective of his partner, willing to go through a LOT just to make sure they aren't hurt. If they get hurt, he will most likely blame himself.

Yes, Toby has many disorders and a tragic past, but people tend to forget that it's canon that Toby forgot his past and doesn't question it. To him, it never happened, and he only gets flashbacks or remembers things when he see/hears/smells familiar things that remind him again. He might have flashbacks, but they will end and he'll forget about it eventually. After those flashbacks and episodes, it's best to not remind him at all and just appreciate the fact that he's doing alright again.

His ADHD causes a lot of hyperactivity and other severe symptoms, his bipolar disorder gives him split personalities and constantly makes him go through mania or depression- and his eating disorder causes him to starve himself at times. Alone that is way too much to handle for most people, which is why Toby is convinced he's unlovable and doesn't deserve love. The second he would actually receive love, he'd become paranoid to the point where he'd think they're just manipulating him, constantly overanalyzing everything.

Suffering under ASPD caused sociopathy: little remorse, lack of empathy, committing serious crimes, impulsive behavior, controlling, defensive, possessive, narcissistic behavior at times, not afraid to use people, a good lair, very manipulative, doing a lot to archive what he wants to archive… etc. It's a serious disorder and handling someone who suffers under this disorder can be exhausting at times, just like arguing with them. Yes, sociopaths are capable of loving and bounding, but it's not easy for them and often ends unhealthy, sadly. Even if Toby is a sociopath, he would definitely not be physically abusive. He might manipulate his partner for either his own pleasure (not sexual) or other reasons, but he's not some monster. It might be emotionally exhausting to deal with him, but he would never lay a hand on his partner.

Since Toby doesn't really care about other's feelings (as long as he's not fond of them), he will be pretty sassy. Same with his partner. Of course he will be a little more careful, but he might say sassy things that can quickly cross the line, without him properly realizing it.

At times, he might have heavy mental break downs or lets his rage get the best of him, just throwing his hatchets around and yelling, breaking stuff or even hurting himself. Usually it's just the hand-biting, but he can also find other ways to do self-harm. Those random burst of emotions don't happen a lot, but they are very intensive if they actually happen. That's when he needs his partner the most. At least afterwards. Because of all the rage, Toby distants himself, purposely staying away from his partner to not accidentally hurt them. Once he's just more relaxed again, he needs a lot of comfort and feels rather depressed, clinging onto his partner once again.

A big red-flag can be his amnesia. He might forget important things, dates or specific moments that had happened, which can be very irritating to most people. The lack of social interactions also do him no good…

Snuggling, cuddling and kissing are his favorite activities, his head usually buried in his partners neck when holding them. Tobxy loves planting little kisses all over his partner, praising them and complimenting them endlessly. He's not the best boyfriend to say the least, as he's visibly not easy to handle, but he's trying.

He will try to be 'the one in charge' in relationships, as Toby craves dominance and control.

There's a lot more to say as he's probably one of the most interesting and coolest characters ever, but that's it for now :]

[rq-nursedolly]

hello, may i request a MUD for one of my sysmates? he does not feel anything unless he's interacting with some sort of media, usually music, but games and books are included too. it might come with dpdr symptoms, a general sense of apathy for real people and situations, low/no empathy for real people but hyperempathy for fictional people. not sure what else to add here to be perfectly honest.

-🦉🌙

MEDIA - DEPENDENT EMOTIONAL DYSREGULATION

— What is it ?

MDED is a condition where individuals feel emotionally numb in real life, relying on media — like music , games , and books — to elicit feelings. This leads to apathy toward genuine relationships while fostering heightened empathy for fictional characters, creating a dependency that hinders authentic emotional engagement.

— Symptom List :

Emotional Numbness : Difficulty feeling emotions in real - life situations . Media Dependency : Reliance on media to experience emotional responses . Hyper - empathy for Fiction : Intense emotional reactions to fictional characters or scenarios . Social Withdrawal : Preference for media interactions over face-to-face relationships . Reality Distortion : Trouble distinguishing between real and mediated emotional experiences , often causing dissociation .

— Treatment ?

This disorder can be regulated with the right support !

Treatment may involve therapy aimed at increasing emotional awareness and fostering real-life connections , such as cognitive-behavioral therapy or mindfulness practices ! Additionally , gradually reducing media consumption while engaging in real - world activities can help individuals reconnect with their emotions and improve interpersonal relationships !

@ credit to @armyflags for the flag <3

[disabledstraydogs]

Kenji has hyper empathy caused by autism

"i think kenji is with me on the “feels too much empathy squad.” (Submitted by @bee-writes-n-spins)

Image ID: A manga transparent of Kenji with the hyper empathy flag by neopronouns

The second image is of the same transparent with the autism flag

The divider is of the disabled flag but turned into a gradient.

[holder-culture-is]

Well, this is gonna be a long one!

Tags and Flags Masterlist I: Emotion Holders

Emotion holder flag here

Anger - Flag

Anxiety - Flag

Apathy - Flag

Devotion - Flag

Dysphoria - Flag

Embarrassment

Empathy - Flag (note: this includes low/hyper empathy!)

Grief

Guilt - Flag

Happiness - Flag

Hyperactivity

Infatuation

Loneliness - Flag

Mania

Misanthropy - Flag

Motivation - Flag

Obsession

Paranoia - Flag

Sadness

Self-hate - Flag

Shame

Spite

Stress

Tags and Flags Masterlist II: Symptom Holders

Symptom holder flag here

ADHD

Alexithymia

Anxiety - Flag

ASPD - Flag

Autism - Flag

AVPD

Bipolar Disorder

BPD - Flag

DDD/DPDR

Depression - Flag

DPD

Dyslexia - Flag

ED - Flag

HPD

Hypersexuality - Flag

Insomnia - Flag

NPD - Flag

OCD

Physical Disorder

Psychosis

Sleep Disorder

Tags and Flags Masterlist III: Misc Holders

Abandonment Issues

Addiction - Flag

Attachment Issues

Belief

Dissociation - Flag

Delusion

Destructiveness

Energy

Hallucination

Hygiene

Hyperfixation - Flag

Interest

Intrusive Thoughts - Flag

Memory - Flag

Overstimulation - Flag

Pain - Flag

Pet Regression

Religion

Sexual

Sexual Thoughts

Trauma - Flag

[icanseethefuture333]

hello, could you do Zendaya red flags/green flags?tysm

Zendaya's flags 🏳️‍:

Green flags 🟩:

Acknowledge(s/d) when her behavior was self destructive or self sabotaging and took accountability for her actions instead of being angry and blaming others

Stays clear of things that could set her down the wrong path (substance abuse, hanging with a bad crowd, etc)

Feels it is important to heal from generational trauma and wants to set herself and her future family free from those toxic cycles

Her character Rue has been a outlet for her and she hopes that she will be able to shed light on those suffering from mental illness or drug addiction

Very intelligent

Uses whatever tools she has (mentally or an actual object) to achieve success

Shows gratitude to what she has even if it's little or a lot

She is able to turn anything into something magical (scripts, art, a performance, etc)

Fast learner

Stays out of gossip

Trustworthy

Considerate of the feelings of others

If she doesn't have something nice to say she doesn't say it at all

Wants to do things that haven't been done before as an actor

Passionate about creating more spaces or roles for black people or poc in general

Refuses to let Hollywood change her as a person

Defends herself and others from people in hollywood, she will never let anyone turn her or someone into a victim while she's present

Good communication skills

Would gladly share tips on things she's knowledgeable about when asked

Could have wanted to be a teacher if she wasn't famous

Red flags 🚩:

Can be detached, cold, blunt, or aloof when talking to people

She needs to learn to balance logic with empathy, she's too logical or overanalyzes things at times

Projects an image or uses her characters she plays as a way for personal gain

She's constantly acting or playing a role even when she doesn't need to

Inner child wounds (something happened to her when she was a child where she was unable to defend herself, so the possibility of not having control again terrifies her. Zendaya needs to learn to let go and understand she can't always be in control all the time)

Holds grudges or anger towards her past

The show "Shake It Up" could be a bad memory for her. She gets triggered when it gets brought up or feels bitter about it

Takes it very personal when her partner does something that hurts her or makes a mistake, she's valid when it comes to her feelings but she also needs to learn how to forgive when it is necessary, otherwise she could be losing the people that she cares about and also care for her

She possibly suffers from sort of mental health problem (Post traumatic stress, Anxiety, or Disassociation. Its like she's numb or nervous at times. This isn't necessarily a red flag, but it's something people have to be mindful of when getting to know her)

Lets her talent get to her head. When things don't go as she planned or what she wanted, she can be very stubborn and arrogant

Nags or complains a lot when she's not in a good mood. Can be a downer or ruin the vibe when she's around others. Its very obvious when she's not happy and it can make some people uneasy

"Nevermind I'll do it myself"

This is a interesting take but she could be reverse codependent??? Like she's so hyper independent that she wants to always take care or help her partner to the point they don't know how to be responsible for themselves anymore?

In her relationships her partners loses their identity, they just become known as "Zendaya's partner"

Similar to the dynamic of Barbie and Ken in the movie ("Barbie" "and Ken" vs just Ken)

[sheisalivingchild]

Who's afraid of a YA villain protagonist?

Creating the Hunger Games posts I want to see in the world by starting a sideblog...

I've been seeking out review and reaction content for TBOSAS for the last few weeks, and while I've seen a lot of what basically amounts to flag planting about whether or not it's okay to feel sympathetically towards Snow, I feel like there's a hesitancy to actually engage with his character. Even for people coming down on the side of "yeah it's obviously fine," the trend seems to be to keep him at disavowable arms' length. To me, especially while reading the book, and especially in the first sections, I found Coryo to be really relatable in a lot of ways. There's clearly a reason Suzanne Collins felt she could tackle a close-third perspective with this character, and I don't believe it's because she wanted to venture into the dark and twisted mind of a psychopath; quite the opposite.

(Am I telling on myself here? Or do we all experience the world within a bubble of subjectivity? Anyways,)

It's pretty easy, in my opinion, to extend empathy to Coryo on an every-day, visceral level. He's fearful about his future, he's afraid of being ostracized by his peers, he's hungry. With the book laying out his thought process in a straightforward and incremental manner (something I think Collins really excels at as a writer), I saw reflected back at me many of the impulses within myself that I'm most ashamed of; parts that are self-consciousness, cowardly, selfish, resentful. Coryo's hyper-vigilance in social settings jumped out to me right away, and was at times comically relatable. His attention at every moment is concerned with how he is being perceived by others and how his actions will be interpreted, which seems to me like a familiar struggle to pretty much anyone who has been a teenager! Or really anyone who has made themselves visible in a social or online space. Coryo has humanitarian impulses, too, but he's calculating, and never acts unless he can justify a behavior as 'correct.' He doesn't want to stand out. The repulsion he feels towards Sejanus, who wears his heart on his sleeve, comes from the projection of that very fear - Why are you rocking the boat?! Don't you know what they'll do to you?? We know what happens to people who are loud and different; they are bullied, they are knocked down and ostracized. And, in Coryo's case, coming from a place of privilege makes that fear even more acute. He doesn't know what it's like to be deemed an outsider, and he doesn't want to find out.

So, Snow is ambitious, yes, but above all he's driven by a desire for safety and stability, for things to return to "normal" (i.e. when his family was rich and powerful), and an intense fear of what will happen if the tenuous stability of the Capitol is breached. And I get it! Last time that happened, he lived under siege and his family lost everything! Stability in some form is something we all need on a base level, but that desire expresses itself in a myriad of ways; some of which are more well-adjusted than others. Being privy to Coryo's thoughts, fears, and gut reactions makes it easy to understand why he makes the choices that he does, even if we recognize them as wrong.

We see in the book many others ways in which his fears lie underneath his worst impulses, even when they are past the point of being relatable. Alongside his fear of social difference/social upheaval comes a fear of pollution (put inversely, an obsession with purity), which feeds into his misogyny and his bigoted attitude towards the districts. He feels shame and disdain at thought that his cousin may have had to resort to sex work to keep them fed. The question of Lucy Gray's previous relationships drives him to jealous madness. When he starts falling for Lucy Gray, his internal justifications reveal a lot; rather than interrogating his preconceived ideas about citizens outside the Capitol, it's easier for him to single her out an an exception, inventing reasons for why she should be considered more Capitol than District. Dr. Gaul is able to stoke and prey upon these insecurities, persuading him that humanity will always be on the brink of collapse and corruption, and the only solution is to exert totalitarian control.

I think what TBOSAS does wonderfully is illustrate that choosing safety and stability can put us at odds with our compassion. That being human on the inside isn't enough to spare us from villainy; we also have to expand outside of ourselves, resisting judgement of others and choosing to protect each other. That choices made out of fear and out of selfishness are what keep the status quo in place and allow evil to perpetuate.

[calypsoscyclone]

Hyper Empathy System Flag

“When your system is hyper empathetic, either do to preexisting conditions or it’s just the way you are”

[no ids]

~ coined by 🐰 ~

[mogai-headcanons]

(moonlight raven and sunshine smiles are both from mlp) moonlight raven is an autistic polyamorous auti4auti gorecoric bloodcoric fleshcoric gothlitacoric kenochoric gothaesic gothfashionaesic narclexic bloodsoundic stabsoundic meatsoundic clothwoundic pastelfemic bloodinkic cuvampiric chessaic kenochessaic compchessaic chessfascic chesshypic chessboardaic queenpaic queensymbic queenblaic queenwhaic fleshlolitadressic vampiretraitic vampstelic pastelgoric vampgoric cutegoric kenovampic stagevampiric pastelcutic luckyblackcatic vampilacdernic blacatpaldernic laminteasic hemodrainic meatcutehoardic cutecharbloodknific bladefleshic pasgoric kenovampic pastelgolita fleshlita fleshica (flag by @gender-mailman) narceuria compactmirrored (flag by @ecrus-gotd) alderpastelgore bloodigowne organshove gothloline vampireperpesque kenoire skelecute vampicute kenocute fleshcute gurocute chessreine catnitous chesscesse harbinchess vesichess drivameus gorevesi lolivesi (related to lolita not loli btw) gorething bloodthing fleshbeing goththing fleshthing knifething aldervampish npdfreak phogutial phogoreial invirevidot vampblanchlacean cutiekillen ghoulicnarcet kenocollector peausipeur gothfamix narcpridix genderscum gendercute genderlolita gendergore genderguro genderbloodstained narcissistic vampiregender (combo flag by @fanged-horse) coffingender bloodgender catgender blackcatgender dramagender theatergender spitegender bloodybubblegender mollisdeathgender energydrinkgender goregender npdgender gurogender vampiregender freakgender pastelgender vampirigender knifegender humanmeatgender killgender vampiricgender gothicgender pastelgothcatgender meatgender gothgender cassfemflux black cherry femme (combo flag by @imsocool2000) bipanromantic (use the standard bipan flag) apothisexual transfemneu demiwoman with npd who uses bow/bows, coff/coffins, de/deads, vamp/vamps, cor/corpses, qu/queens, gu/guros, che/chesses, go/gores, meow/meows alongside auxiliary she/her pronouns! coff also experiences intense low-empathy but raven is trying vamp best to be more empathetic!

additionally, moonlight raven is supported and loved by bows sister, sunshine smiles, an autistic pinkgender genderqueer woman (use the genderqueer gal combo flag) with hyper-empathy who is indifferent to labelling her orientation and uses any pronouns! - 🍒 anon

queued!

[bytethebinary]

[💬] - “QUEERY: ???”

”QUEERY…” by @robotixtz

When reality sets in…

*a cyborg egg, hyper-fixating & coping w/ trans miku, cracks her shell in the closet*

There’s a lot you can do to a person. Happy Pride Month 🏳️‍🌈

NOTE: To whom it may concern, a lot of QUEERY is derived from my personal experiences with gender dysphoria & other personal narratives composed into a short, coming of age story taking place 3-6 months — or even years — into the future as the cyborg Bukimi (any/all) is left with unanswered QUEERIES about her regressed C-PTSD, unbeknownst to her, after coming out. From how the media treats us, it reveals how much trans people are often demonized in discriminatory rhetoric. Ultimately, I want to represent the philosophy of Humanism seen within people, whether it be in human decency or in civil rights issues, particularly representing those of the oppressed, marginalized, & outcasted. It might even evoke strong emotions of sympathy & empathy; those without a voice must be heard in a mature subject matter. Overall, my dream with this project is to create psychological resources accessible to LGBTQ+ youth within an anecdotal narrative standpoint. They deserve life, love, dignity, & respect. 

FLAGS: AroAce, Queer, Rainbow, Microsoft, Bisexual, Demigirl, Trans, QPR, & Unlabeled

[schrodingersdragon]

Ok so I was just on the hellscape of TikTok and came across the tri gender mess so I investigated and I wanna bring up one in particular that I found. They were against the concept holding the common opinion that it’s illogical. I looked through more of their TikTok’s and found one where they were upset about someone taking down an American flag because they had military family.

So that’s what it is

Can we stop polishing gender for transphobic biggots? That’s what that person was trynna do right? They likely grew up in a hyper Catholic hyper conservative hyper masculine house where they were constantly being defeated for being different, so they try and polish and fix their community to look as presentable and “normal” as possible. If we can accept multi gender identities such as gender fluid and even more culture specific ones such as two spirit then why is it suddenly different when the wording confuses you. What is so different about trigender.

We made this shit up. The binary is a European white invention that we spread. Stop pretending like there are rules. There are obvious limits and at some point yeah maybe something else is going on but don’t *mock* or *belittle* when that happens SHOW SOME FUCKING EMPATHY YOU FUCKING MONSTERS.

[betaamity]

Wolf Pride Flag

'Wolves are gay or bisexual men who are hairy with a medium build, along with being more overtly masculine'

I’ve never seen a flag specifically for wolves and while wolves are part of the bear community, there are some community-made otter flags, so I figured it’d be nice to make a wolf flag! The stripes are simply the colors of furs of many different animal wolves, as such to mirror the stripes of the bear community flag. Feel free to use!