#hoping for a girl or nonbinary

[inkskinned]

okay is she being actually immature or is it just a woman over 30 expressing a human experience you find to be immature.

like yeah. at certain ages... let shit go. im not defending the real immature shit. im not defending the karen you're picturing. i worked in retail i hate those people too. (once somebody got mad at me because she didn't like how our winter window decor was a snowman smoking a pipe. i wish i was joking).

but men at 57 will write books about how 17 year old girls are soooo sexy. they will invent worlds where women have to be naked for "armor reasons." they will write songs that treat women as objects. people rush to defend them. meanwhile a woman at 35 will be like "heartbreak is hard, actually" or "i feel betrayed by a friend" or "i am struggling with something emotionally." immediately people will say stuff like this woman is 35 by the way. by the way this woman is SO OLD to be experiencing this. BY THE WAY.

im 31, almost 32. the other day a poet was blasted online because at her "big age", she had written a poem about feeling unloved. top comment was "this woman is 29 by the way." this woman is too old to still be useful, by the way. she has to behave better . maybe if she was a good wife and mother she could stop existing loudly, and the story could continue on without her. this woman has served her purpose, by the way. she's so cringe, by the way. at 29 - so old! - she still hasn't figured out that her existence should be one of shame.

[greghatecrimes]

alright i'm going to be a brave little toaster because this is my blog and i can write whatever i want forever! hilson, yes. toxic yaoi, yes. I get it! I do! It's great! but also... we as a fandom need to be way more insane about the women in this show. we need to step it up. 2025 should be the year of Being Crazyinsane About House MD Women. join me in the trenches, comrades. it's liberating

[socialistexan]

Perpetually annoyed that there isn't a moth emoji. It's only ever butterflies. Some of us like moths, thank you.

[meatball-soup]

guys

this is the mattress i found in aoi's room

... and then.. quincy's..

it doesn't help that arthur said this in one of his KIM chats

[scarycranegame]

thinking about. transfems. and trans girls. and how cool they are.. literally if you're a tgirl or girl-adjacent transgender person i want you to know that. you are so wonderful and beautiful and kind and talented.. we need you on this site now more than ever, and im so sorry about literally everything that's happened here. none of you deserve to be treated like this; you deserve so much better, and i'm sincerely hoping that other people (especially people with power to instate significant change that affects a lot of people) will understand this and work towards making this a safer platform for all of you. please don't let anything that's happening right now on this literal hellsite make you think that you're any less than amazing; i love all of you so so so much <333 please stay safe out there!!!

[thefishdeath]

Never feel more masc then the times I try to look fem

[weeby-monster-the-bastard]

i made this sticker all hope is not lost, stand up and fight my trans brothers, sisters and siblings. this election will not be our erasure. it will not be our end. i love you all and stay safe you deserve it.

[therealdoctorjellybean]

I think when it comes to being transgender some people hear it like a child going, "I want to be a fairy princess!" This being that fairies don't exist (that we know of.)

Except that they do. In video games, in stories, people even become professional mermaids and princesses for kid's birthdays.

It's not that you "can't", it's just people think the world should work a certain way. That instead of it having magic and making people happy, it should be gray without imagination, difference, or creativity. People want things they can understand, and when there is something they don't understand, then they get confused, angry, and hate that thing. When their dreams were never fulfilled because they lived by these rigid rules, and they see other people living happily, they want to take away and make them a bitter adult. Well, don't be a bitter adult, create, be the magic fairy princess, be the person you want to be.

[radiocmyk]

I always wanted to get into Dimension 20 but longform D&D live play has always been so inaccessible to me no matter how much I try to get into it, even ones that are funny with interesting stories, because I need visual input too or I get bored and start looking at other stuff which ends up distracting me from the plot and I have to rewind. I tried with Burrow's End because I thought "oh mustelids this is so Ekho coded" but I just couldn't sit still for the whole 2 hour long episodes. But the new one they're doing now? No THAT is Ekho coded. Employees at a failing video rental store in 2024 get curse trapped into a VHS set in the 80s where they're put in different people's bodies/lives and have to escape in time for their store's IRS audit. It's so fun. And I'm glad this is the first full season I get to experience on Dropout because this is exactly my shit and I got through the whole episode because I was actually interested enough to not go do other stuff and forget I'm watching a video

[orcelito]

You know maybe I'm not "vaguely gender fluid" maybe I'm just bigender or something like. Pangender. I'm everything. I'm nothing, too. Maybe I still am genderfluid. But it sure does feel like I got multiples in me

[greenerteacups]

I’ve just completed your most recent chapter and what a delight it was from start to finish. The slow burn continues to be delicious, and you’re doing an amazing job of gradually adding bits of kindling to the flames to keep DHr’s relationship progressing (and to feed us readers). This most recent chapter was a textbook definition of fic that gets me giggling and kicking my feet.

I’m always amused by our sweet Victorian child Draco’s reaction to sex, and the reference again to sheets and friction sent me. I’m pretty sure this isn’t the first time Draco has been nearly undone by his bedding, and it got me thinking about Pureblood culture’s views of sex and intimacy.

I know oftentimes in fanon, we tend to get Slytherin sex god/goddesses who are having their first sexual experiences pretty early, though occasionally we get a more prudish/Puritanical Draco. We know in Lionheart’s universe, Narcissa alludes to a certain level of hanky panky with Lucius in the RoR, and it certainly seems like Draco had imagined any number of acts with Hermione, even if he hasn’t acted on them in public or perhaps even privately.

If it’s not spoilery, I’d love to know more about how Pureblood culture in Lionheart generally views sex/intimacy, especially inside/outside of courtship and marriage.

It's a mixed bag! I think the Slytherin sex gods thing is a kind of wish-fulfillment (loving compliment) because, put bluntly, the number of 15-17 year-olds who are even kind of charitably good at sex is a mathematical rounding error. Also, Hogwarts has group dorms. Sexiling one person in college is hard enough; imagine you have to sexile (i.e., declare publicly your intent to fuck) 3-5 people every time you want to mess around. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, it absolutely does — it's a coed boarding school, you can't fight the wind — but I will say it's probably more at the realistic level of high schoolers fumbling through the excruciating ordeal of learning intimacy, and not "the plot of Euphoria is happening in the dungeons at all times."

Anyway. I interpret the wealthier pureblood set as a kind of wizarding aristocracy, so while in general they're expected to perform to certain expectations and social mores when they're in social/public settings, the fact of the matter is it's the twentieth century and sexual mores are changing a LOT from decade to decade. Narcissa's upbringing would have been radically different from Draco's in terms of how much sex and intimacy would have been open subject — in no small part because Narcissa's generation kind of blew the ceiling off that particular conversation. She was born in 1955 and lived through the Sexual Revolution, meaning that her childhood, adolesence, and young adulthood took place in practically three different geological eras of social life. Meanwhile, women like Walburga and Druella were members of the Greatest Generation (maybe Silent Gen on the younger side), and would've been incredibly traditionalist.

Of course, no matter what the social rules are, teenagers will find a way around them. For the purposes of Lionheart, in 1995, it's understood by most pureblood parents that kids are gonna do what kids are gonna do, but there are specific standards about who you can be seen with and make certain kinds of promises to. Narcissa kind of references this at the end of book 3; she goes on this insulting little spiel about how generations of Blacks and Malfoys had secret muggle-born pets that they kept on the side, they just didn't bring them to dinner parties. Basically, what you do in the privacy of your bedroom is your own business; just don't get caught and don't try to push boundaries, and your social set will be understanding, up to a point. But it would be absolutely improper for "dating" or "courting" to take place between a muggle-born and a pureblood, because that expresses the intent to associate with them in Society, which is a discrete sphere with its own set of rules — one of which is that you have to enforce the caste system.

With respect to specific mores and rules, there's a few references to "etiquette." That stuff's inspired by real etiquette manuals from Victorian and Edwardian England, though I've occasionally thrown in my own twist when it suits me. Dance with the one that brought you; you should have an escort to balls, theoretically but not necessarily someone you're interested in; women run the household, men run the estate. There are certain standards of chivalry and respect on the men's part, but there are also standards of ladylike conduct and decorum on the girls'. Daphne is shocked when Katie wears a suit to the Ball— to the point where she's like "?? ARE you a girl?" — because the rules of dress and poise have been so drilled into her. The level of slut-shaming we get from the Slytherin girls (despite several Slytherin girls being sexually active) also indicates how female sexuality is policed in a way male sexuality isn't; the rumors about Draco and Daphne hurt Daphne, not Draco. This double-edged hypocrisy runs hand in hand with the idea that women are training to be wives, and shouldn't be sleeping with people (if anyone) who they're not seriously pursuing for marriage. Relatedly, courting/engaged couples are usually seen together, a la Crabbe and Millicent, because the idea is you're supposed to be preparing for your marriage; now that you're socially connected, you've begun your tenure as a Unit, and you're expected to act like it. It would be strange for Vince or Millie to go to a ball with someone else unless that partner was a relative or (possibly) a close family friend. It would... imply something.

Marriage between a man and woman would be expected, not because purebloods on the whole are traditionalist — which, to be clear, they are — but because the emphasis on bloodlines means children are a priority. Pansy gives us the best précis on this in Book 2. Blaise, being gay, is in an interesting place vis-a-vis the marriage question because his position doesn't come from being heir to an old estate, it's from his mother's money; in that respect, he's not bound by usual expectations of hereditary legacies, which is possibly why he's comfortable being out. (Although there's a blink-and-you-miss-it remark about some tension with his mom in "Miseducation.")

[funstyle]

the most valuable object i own is this card from like 4th grade when we all had to pass around pieces of paper to write kind things about each other cus we kept having bullying incidents. whenever i make a flop post i have to pull this up and read it out loud over and over until i stop crying

[midamappreciationweek]

Midam Appreciation Week

Friends, Romans, Midam fans, lend me your ears.

Once again, it is time to celebrate our favourite just some guy from Minnesota and his archangel hubby. So, from September 29th through October 5th, let's honour them by posting fics, art, gifsets, collages, cosplays - you get the drift.

Anything goes, as long as it's about our boys (or girls or nonbinary folk - whatever your headcanons).

Prompts:

You don't have to use these, but they're here if you want some inspiration.

Sep 29th: 90's kid / Feast / Silver

Sep 30th: Bossman / Endings / Gold

Oct 1st: Family / Beginnings / Wings

Oct 2nd: Meet-Cute / Possession / Blue

Oct 3rd: Dreams / Cuddling / Light

Oct 4th: Halo / Sunset / Cure

Oct 5th: Blade / Reunion / Future

Rules:

Make it Midam (surprise!)

Tag your stuff with #Midamap2023 (Who even has time to spell out appreciation completely, and correctly??)

Choose one or several prompts or use a joker and do whatever you want forever

If life (and/or the short timeframe, sorry!) kicks you in the ass and you don't make it on the respective day or during the week, post late and tag this blog (@midamappreciationweek - I guess in this case you do still have to type out the word appreciation, sorry).

No hate! If someone creates something you don't like, avert your eyeballs (however many you have) or do whatever your (lack of) eyesight means you have to do to stop reading. Don't shame people, full stop. Especially not for their ships, their kinks, their writing/art skills etc. This is a celebration, not a competition, and not everything will be catered to your taste.

Canon-verse, AUs and crossovers are all allowed. Give us Midam in the Tardis. Make up an elaborate detective story set in the 1930's. Or send those two on a hunt - whether for werewolves or for groceries, is up to you.

All set? No? Then send an ask to this blog, tag it in a post, or scream at it from the rooftops. (You just have to be loud enough, depending on where you live.)

If you don't have a reply within 24 hours, poke this blog with a stick. Probably, notifications aren't working correctly. (Though tumblr is a usable site. So are they all, all usable sites.)

[many-gay-magpies]

holy FUCK

to shape a dragon's breath by moniquill blackgoose is amazing please read it

[cosmicyellow]

A small gift for @cinna-bunnie! (Thank you @thisismenoww for reblogging her selfie and inspiring this post <3)

When they're beauty AND they're grace, you know it's the entire package!

Should I colour this or leave it as is? UnsUuUure

[anonymocha]

Mocha of Anonymous,

Thou art a peculiar creature. The most peculiar one I hath come across in my travels. If I may, what doth thou mean by “Medpoc girlkissing collection”?

Asking questions obviously answered by the tag name