#hoping for a girl or nonbinary

[socialistexan]

Perpetually annoyed that there isn't a moth emoji. It's only ever butterflies. Some of us like moths, thank you.

[happy10thousandyears]

happy (late) tdov from my ocs in Miitopia !!

[meatball-soup]

guys

this is the mattress i found in aoi's room

... and then.. quincy's..

it doesn't help that arthur said this in one of his KIM chats

[scarycranegame]

thinking about. transfems. and trans girls. and how cool they are.. literally if you're a tgirl or girl-adjacent transgender person i want you to know that. you are so wonderful and beautiful and kind and talented.. we need you on this site now more than ever, and im so sorry about literally everything that's happened here. none of you deserve to be treated like this; you deserve so much better, and i'm sincerely hoping that other people (especially people with power to instate significant change that affects a lot of people) will understand this and work towards making this a safer platform for all of you. please don't let anything that's happening right now on this literal hellsite make you think that you're any less than amazing; i love all of you so so so much <333 please stay safe out there!!!

[thefishdeath]

Never feel more masc then the times I try to look fem

[weeby-monster-the-bastard]

i made this sticker all hope is not lost, stand up and fight my trans brothers, sisters and siblings. this election will not be our erasure. it will not be our end. i love you all and stay safe you deserve it.

[mylove-thresher]

Men better step up their game

[therealdoctorjellybean]

I think when it comes to being transgender some people hear it like a child going, "I want to be a fairy princess!" This being that fairies don't exist (that we know of.)

Except that they do. In video games, in stories, people even become professional mermaids and princesses for kid's birthdays.

It's not that you "can't", it's just people think the world should work a certain way. That instead of it having magic and making people happy, it should be gray without imagination, difference, or creativity. People want things they can understand, and when there is something they don't understand, then they get confused, angry, and hate that thing. When their dreams were never fulfilled because they lived by these rigid rules, and they see other people living happily, they want to take away and make them a bitter adult. Well, don't be a bitter adult, create, be the magic fairy princess, be the person you want to be.

[post-punk-revival]

I always wanted to get into Dimension 20 but longform D&D live play has always been so inaccessible to me no matter how much I try to get into it, even ones that are funny with interesting stories, because I need visual input too or I get bored and start looking at other stuff which ends up distracting me from the plot and I have to rewind. I tried with Burrow's End because I thought "oh mustelids this is so Ekho coded" but I just couldn't sit still for the whole 2 hour long episodes. But the new one they're doing now? No THAT is Ekho coded. Employees at a failing video rental store in 2024 get curse trapped into a VHS set in the 80s where they're put in different people's bodies/lives and have to escape in time for their store's IRS audit. It's so fun. And I'm glad this is the first full season I get to experience on Dropout because this is exactly my shit and I got through the whole episode because I was actually interested enough to not go do other stuff and forget I'm watching a video

[whomeekmanlarsson]

In the dressing room tn for my intramural hockey game with the girl from the opposing team and she was complaining about her chest protector not fitting over her chest and how she kinda wished she didn’t have boobs. And I was like ‘as a nonbinary person, totally get it’. And then she kinda got shy and quiet and was like ‘you know how some non-binary people wear binders… I’ve always kinda wanted to get one’ and I was like !!! and gave her a couple tips, told her where I got my binders from, and let her know about our uni’s gender affirming care program (will order and pay for various different gender affirming gear for students). And she said that she worried she was taking resources away from people who needed it. And I assured her that wasn’t the case because there’s no limit to the number of people that can order stuff, and was like ‘Plus, gender is a social construct and if wearing a binder affirms your gender, then it affirms your gender! You can be a cis woman and not want boobs! And if that’s the case then that’s gender affirming care!’ She thanked me for the tips and I told her not to worry about it and it was just one of the nicest interactions I’ve ever had with a total stranger. And the timing of it, too.

Tonight was my first time playing hockey in two years. I started playing hockey when I was 4 and last year was the first year I didn’t play. There were a couple people on the intramural team that I was on that said some homophobic/transphobic stuff in the dressing room and it made me so uncomfortable that I didn’t want to play anymore. After 16 years, I couldn’t ignore that the sport I loved was not accepting of me anymore. It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve made.

But this year, I got sucked back into the world of professional hockey, and watching all of my favourite players play made me want to play. So, I waited for co-ed hockey to start, not comfortable playing solely men’s or women’s, and that was the first interaction I had? Wow. I didn’t even have my skates on yet.

The hockey community still has a long way to go, but it’s good to feel hopeful again :)

[orcelito]

You know maybe I'm not "vaguely gender fluid" maybe I'm just bigender or something like. Pangender. I'm everything. I'm nothing, too. Maybe I still am genderfluid. But it sure does feel like I got multiples in me

[greenerteacups]

I’ve just completed your most recent chapter and what a delight it was from start to finish. The slow burn continues to be delicious, and you’re doing an amazing job of gradually adding bits of kindling to the flames to keep DHr’s relationship progressing (and to feed us readers). This most recent chapter was a textbook definition of fic that gets me giggling and kicking my feet.

I’m always amused by our sweet Victorian child Draco’s reaction to sex, and the reference again to sheets and friction sent me. I’m pretty sure this isn’t the first time Draco has been nearly undone by his bedding, and it got me thinking about Pureblood culture’s views of sex and intimacy.

I know oftentimes in fanon, we tend to get Slytherin sex god/goddesses who are having their first sexual experiences pretty early, though occasionally we get a more prudish/Puritanical Draco. We know in Lionheart’s universe, Narcissa alludes to a certain level of hanky panky with Lucius in the RoR, and it certainly seems like Draco had imagined any number of acts with Hermione, even if he hasn’t acted on them in public or perhaps even privately.

If it’s not spoilery, I’d love to know more about how Pureblood culture in Lionheart generally views sex/intimacy, especially inside/outside of courtship and marriage.

It's a mixed bag! I think the Slytherin sex gods thing is a kind of wish-fulfillment (loving compliment) because, put bluntly, the number of 15-17 year-olds who are even kind of charitably good at sex is a mathematical rounding error. Also, Hogwarts has group dorms. Sexiling one person in college is hard enough; imagine you have to sexile (i.e., declare publicly your intent to fuck) 3-5 people every time you want to mess around. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, it absolutely does — it's a coed boarding school, you can't fight the wind — but I will say it's probably more at the realistic level of high schoolers fumbling through the excruciating ordeal of learning intimacy, and not "the plot of Euphoria is happening in the dungeons at all times."

Anyway. I interpret the wealthier pureblood set as a kind of wizarding aristocracy, so while in general they're expected to perform to certain expectations and social mores when they're in social/public settings, the fact of the matter is it's the twentieth century and sexual mores are changing a LOT from decade to decade. Narcissa's upbringing would have been radically different from Draco's in terms of how much sex and intimacy would have been open subject — in no small part because Narcissa's generation kind of blew the ceiling off that particular conversation. She was born in 1955 and lived through the Sexual Revolution, meaning that her childhood, adolesence, and young adulthood took place in practically three different geological eras of social life. Meanwhile, women like Walburga and Druella were members of the Greatest Generation (maybe Silent Gen on the younger side), and would've been incredibly traditionalist.

Of course, no matter what the social rules are, teenagers will find a way around them. For the purposes of Lionheart, in 1995, it's understood by most pureblood parents that kids are gonna do what kids are gonna do, but there are specific standards about who you can be seen with and make certain kinds of promises to. Narcissa kind of references this at the end of book 3; she goes on this insulting little spiel about how generations of Blacks and Malfoys had secret muggle-born pets that they kept on the side, they just didn't bring them to dinner parties. Basically, what you do in the privacy of your bedroom is your own business; just don't get caught and don't try to push boundaries, and your social set will be understanding, up to a point. But it would be absolutely improper for "dating" or "courting" to take place between a muggle-born and a pureblood, because that expresses the intent to associate with them in Society, which is a discrete sphere with its own set of rules — one of which is that you have to enforce the caste system.

With respect to specific mores and rules, there's a few references to "etiquette." That stuff's inspired by real etiquette manuals from Victorian and Edwardian England, though I've occasionally thrown in my own twist when it suits me. Dance with the one that brought you; you should have an escort to balls, theoretically but not necessarily someone you're interested in; women run the household, men run the estate. There are certain standards of chivalry and respect on the men's part, but there are also standards of ladylike conduct and decorum on the girls'. Daphne is shocked when Katie wears a suit to the Ball— to the point where she's like "?? ARE you a girl?" — because the rules of dress and poise have been so drilled into her. The level of slut-shaming we get from the Slytherin girls (despite several Slytherin girls being sexually active) also indicates how female sexuality is policed in a way male sexuality isn't; the rumors about Draco and Daphne hurt Daphne, not Draco. This double-edged hypocrisy runs hand in hand with the idea that women are training to be wives, and shouldn't be sleeping with people (if anyone) who they're not seriously pursuing for marriage. Relatedly, courting/engaged couples are usually seen together, a la Crabbe and Millicent, because the idea is you're supposed to be preparing for your marriage; now that you're socially connected, you've begun your tenure as a Unit, and you're expected to act like it. It would be strange for Vince or Millie to go to a ball with someone else unless that partner was a relative or (possibly) a close family friend. It would... imply something.

Marriage between a man and woman would be expected, not because purebloods on the whole are traditionalist — which, to be clear, they are — but because the emphasis on bloodlines means children are a priority. Pansy gives us the best précis on this in Book 2. Blaise, being gay, is in an interesting place vis-a-vis the marriage question because his position doesn't come from being heir to an old estate, it's from his mother's money; in that respect, he's not bound by usual expectations of hereditary legacies, which is possibly why he's comfortable being out. (Although there's a blink-and-you-miss-it remark about some tension with his mom in "Miseducation.")

[funstyle]

the most valuable object i own is this card from like 4th grade when we all had to pass around pieces of paper to write kind things about each other cus we kept having bullying incidents. whenever i make a flop post i have to pull this up and read it out loud over and over until i stop crying

[midamappreciationweek]

Midam Appreciation Week

Friends, Romans, Midam fans, lend me your ears.

Once again, it is time to celebrate our favourite just some guy from Minnesota and his archangel hubby. So, from September 29th through October 5th, let's honour them by posting fics, art, gifsets, collages, cosplays - you get the drift.

Anything goes, as long as it's about our boys (or girls or nonbinary folk - whatever your headcanons).

Prompts:

You don't have to use these, but they're here if you want some inspiration.

Sep 29th: 90's kid / Feast / Silver

Sep 30th: Bossman / Endings / Gold

Oct 1st: Family / Beginnings / Wings

Oct 2nd: Meet-Cute / Possession / Blue

Oct 3rd: Dreams / Cuddling / Light

Oct 4th: Halo / Sunset / Cure

Oct 5th: Blade / Reunion / Future

Rules:

Make it Midam (surprise!)

Tag your stuff with #Midamap2023 (Who even has time to spell out appreciation completely, and correctly??)

Choose one or several prompts or use a joker and do whatever you want forever

If life (and/or the short timeframe, sorry!) kicks you in the ass and you don't make it on the respective day or during the week, post late and tag this blog (@midamappreciationweek - I guess in this case you do still have to type out the word appreciation, sorry).

No hate! If someone creates something you don't like, avert your eyeballs (however many you have) or do whatever your (lack of) eyesight means you have to do to stop reading. Don't shame people, full stop. Especially not for their ships, their kinks, their writing/art skills etc. This is a celebration, not a competition, and not everything will be catered to your taste.

Canon-verse, AUs and crossovers are all allowed. Give us Midam in the Tardis. Make up an elaborate detective story set in the 1930's. Or send those two on a hunt - whether for werewolves or for groceries, is up to you.

All set? No? Then send an ask to this blog, tag it in a post, or scream at it from the rooftops. (You just have to be loud enough, depending on where you live.)

If you don't have a reply within 24 hours, poke this blog with a stick. Probably, notifications aren't working correctly. (Though tumblr is a usable site. So are they all, all usable sites.)

[many-gay-magpies]

holy FUCK

to shape a dragon's breath by moniquill blackgoose is amazing please read it

[brifdi-daily]

thanks for joining me for pride month ! im not sure if anyone caught onto this, but i tried to only draw canon* queer characters for the month. i thought itd be a fun way to celebrate (and also maybe a chance for nonbinary characters to catch up a little in the gender ratio of these lol)

... i tried incorporating the flag colors into the drawings at first but as you can see i kinda just gave up on that pretty quick...

*canon with the exception of Gaty and Chrome Gradienty. the former of which is heavily trans coded and featured in multiple pride month and trans day of visibility posts from jacknjellify but theyve also unfortunately been pretty cagey about fully canonizing it. the latter of which is only confirmed as a lesbian via jokes from recommended character screens which although is very silly is a little bit of an unstable foundation to call something canon LOL

... also i guess with the exception of heartmilk jr because that thing did not exist (at least publicly) until a few days ago and as far as im aware doesnt ahve. anything. confirmed right now. but i mean even if this baby ends up entirely cishet which would be hilarious theyre invited because its bring your kid to work day or something. whatever

edit cg is a canon lesbian i was wrong. an epic win for fujoshi nation