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WHAT IT TAKES TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN TRUST IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE:
Building And Maintaining Trust In A Relationship Or Marriage Requires:
*Foundational Elements:*
1. Honesty: Transparency and truthfulness
2. Integrity: Consistency between words and actions
3. Communication: Open, clear, and respectful dialogue
4. Emotional Intelligence: Empathy, self-awareness, and self-regulation
5. Reliability: Following through on commitments
6. Vulnerability: Willingness to be open and susceptible
7. Accountability: Taking responsibility for actions
8. Respect: Valuing each other's feelings, needs, and boundaries
9. Consistency: Predictable behavior and follow-through
10. Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and resentments
*Trust-Building Behaviors:*
1. Active listening
2. Keeping promises
3. Showing appreciation and gratitude
4. Being dependable and reliable
5. Demonstrating empathy and understanding
6. Apologizing and making amends
7. Respecting boundaries and privacy
8. Sharing thoughts, feelings, and desires
9. Supporting each other's goals and dreams
10. Celebrating milestones and successes
*Maintaining Trust:*
1. Regular check-ins and open communication
2. Continual learning and growth together
3. Addressing conflicts and issues promptly
4. Practicing forgiveness and letting go
5. Cultivating emotional intimacy
6. Fostering independence and interdependence
7. Embracing vulnerability and openness
8. Setting realistic expectations
9. Prioritizing quality time together
10. Seeking help when needed (counseling, therapy)
*Challenges To Trust:*
1. Infidelity
2. Dishonesty or deception
3. Emotional or physical abuse
4. Neglect or abandonment
5. Substance abuse or addiction
6. Financial secrecy or manipulation
7. Lack of communication or emotional intimacy
8. Unresolved conflicts or resentments
9. External stressors (work, family, health)
10. Personal insecurities or traumas
*Rebuilding Trust:*
1. Acknowledge and accept responsibility
2. Seek counseling or therapy
3. Communicate openly and honestly
4. Reestablish boundaries and expectations
5. Focus on emotional intimacy and connection
6. Cultivate empathy and understanding
7. Demonstrate consistent behavior
8. Make amends and work towards healing
9. Practice self-reflection and growth
10. Foster a culture of forgiveness and understanding
*Remember:*
1. Trust is built incrementally.
2. Maintaining trust requires effort and commitment.
3. Forgiveness and understanding are essential.
4. Communication is key.
5. Vulnerability and openness foster deeper connection.
By prioritizing these elements, you can:
1. Build a strong foundation of trust.
2. Maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
3. Overcome challenges and conflicts.
4. Foster emotional intimacy and connection.
5. Create a lifelong, loving partnership.
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Sorry, not-so-amicable-exes anon here again just cause I saw your big toxic fh breakdown post again cause a friend wanted to read it and we were tlking about it- unimportant, sorry, we just had a thought. Because I've seen some anti-toxic shippers act like this interpretation is out of spite or some intentional thing shippers of other jimmy ships made up (specifically ranchers usually), but the timeline and accusation is all wrong. Like I don't remember ever seeing anyone even talk about this interpretation until post-liml? And it was very hesitantly and apologetically. There was a fic or two before this but most people even the people who enjoyed it expressed discomfort or concern at its existence and that's how most people react to them even to this day.
But I remember when I saw that first post I was like, "Oh thank god, someone else also thought that!" It felt like before that there was scenes in their POV that only happened when I watched 3l because no one talked about them, or wrote them very differently to what happened. And I saw some other people saying the same thing. I think the post even got deleted a few days later, too. It seemed to me like a lot of people had quietly independantly come up with the interpretation as far back as 3l itself, but stayed quiet until recently to avoid upsetting anyone or we all thought we were the only ones who saw it that way. I know I tend to hesitate to write characters negatively because it feels a bit wrong to do that when the ccs are friends, even if I think it would be interesting. I wonder how many people feel that way also?
But I guess what I mean to say is it seems to me that a lot of people independantly have been thinking it since 3l or ll and the only reason it started popping up in dl is because it was the next big Jimmy ship from the big shipping season, and people werent really willing to even talk about it for a whole other season because they were scared of being seen as negative.
But!! I just really think it's neat, I really like this narrative for Scott and Jimmy. It's rare to be able to get stories where people have problems and break up and move on to new relationships and grow from them. It makes sense because they're the first season couple and they've grown further and further apart as seasons go on.
Even people I see who don't like fh don't seem to WANT to talk about it, they only bring it up when asked, and try to be respectful. Maybe I've not seen something happening somewhere else? I just wish I didn't have to spend most of my energy when writing quadruple checking that I'm not making Scott a bad guy and emphasising Jimmy's faults just so people reading know for certain I'm writing it this way because I'm legitimately interested in exploring this interpretation of them, and I'm not one of "those" writers. But I'm starting to wonder how many of "those" writers there actually are. (At the risk of comparing petty fandom drama to a serious topic, but it feels a lot like I'm back on 2016 tumblr assuring people I'm not one of "those" enbies or "those" aces, trying not to get pushed out.)
I'm guessing anyone who doesn't care for toxic fh probably already has you blocked, but if there is anyone like that who does see this: Hi! I also love flower husbands a lot! They just aren't my fluffy comfort ship, I like headcanoning them as divorced and imperfect because I think it makes them more interesting to write. I love being able to write characters who don't find the love of their life immediately but each relationship still shapes them into a new person. Sometimes I like to imagine their relationship as more mild and silly, and sometimes more dramatic and intense, I'm not a one-headcanon person! But their divorce is what really inspired me about them so I like writing about it. I don't want to stop anyone from enjoying them how they enjoy them and have no interest in making people who would be upset by my content to read it, so I try to tag it correctly! I'd like to be able to write my stories without walking on eggshells wondering if someone thinks I only wrote something I worked really hard on and cared a lot about just to spite them or because I'm secretly homophobic while writing about men kissing, just because my interpretation is different. It makes me scared to put Scott in my fics at all and contributed to my writers block for fics with them in it. I think Scott gets treated unfairly by certain people too, but that's not what I'm trying to do, I wouldn't write about him if I did!
(Also sorry if my paragraphs are strange, I'm not used to writing on mobile or pouring my thoughts out.)
Hi hello welcome back!! Please don't apologize I love long asks, especially long asks about scott smahor. The fact that you pulled up that toxic fh post and read it with a friend is so funny to me. Looking back, I wish I'd planned it out better and wrote it more eloquently, but I'm glad it brings people some sense of joy/entertainment/understanding. I hope you and your friend enjoyed it, even in an ironic sense.
It's endlessly entertaining (and fascinating) to me personally how every toxic fh believer seems to undergo the same-ish pipeline of watching the fh pov and being horrified --> looking at fanon fh and disengaging out of fear --> finding other toxic fh posters in the wild and suddenly realising you're not insane after all. I know I personally went into scott's pov expecting wholesomeness and ended up wide-eyed at what I saw before proceeding to slink FH into the back of my mind for awhile.
People tend to believe others operate like they do and I think that's where a lot of the discourse originates. Most of the louder voices I've seen that are very against the toxic interpretation are from people who primarily engage in bending the characters to fit specific concepts i.e. the "toxic jimmy" brainstorm that happened awhile back on here where interpretation is less a study and more confirmation bias-ing your way into making an idea work. Which I must reiterate is completely awesome because we're making fanfics here not nukes. But this leads people to assume that everyone who writes about toxic fh is going in with the mindset of "how do i interpret these moments so that scott is an abuser" and not "wow that thing i just watched sure kind of felt like domestic abuse"
Which like. YEAH, if there was a theoretical group of people who went out of their way to interpret everything scott did ever as evil and irredeemable, I too would assume that they had it out for the guy. But that's not what's happening, usually, afaik (at least on here, twitter's situation is a bit different due to the culture and would be its own beast for me to dissect and I honestly don't spend enough time on there to really feel confident making any statement).
For the record, I think a lot of people are on the same boat regarding FH being toxic and just simply don't care enough to voice/explore it, don't want to deal with the fandom nonsense that comes with it or would simply rather shift focus onto other pairs with similar themes. i.e. there is something going on with the toxic fh believer/ethubs shipper overlap I just know there is if anyone would like to do science with me it'd be awesome.
I know that I definitely focused my sights more on Scott and Pearl's relationship following my "wow that was sure something" watchthrough of scott's series, which is ironic considering I now base alot of my thoughts about their dynamic on scott's previous relationship with jimmy.
I think there's like. Something about the DL Pearl fans and the ranchers fans specifically who tended to communicate in code re: Scott's toxicity because for a long time all of us were afraid of saying it outright. So you get a lot of posts where Scott is like. A vaguely unpleasant force in the narrative while not really being a main focus himself, which I think may have contributed to the "ranchers fans only view scott as the villainous ex to push their ship harder" argument that I've seen a lot.
Once I realised from that one Shepscapades comic that there were others who saw the same plot I did, I would go out fishing for signs of agreement/acknowledgement. Hybbat if you're reading this, take this as my apology for sending you anon asks back in the day essentially trying to bait you into posting more FH slander, there was something deeply wrong with me (there still is, I'm just more upfront about it now I think).
There's also just this very like.. us vs them mentality very apparent in the way people talk about The Discourse that kinda sucks. Weirdly enough it's kind of shifted from toxic fh vs healthy fh to fh vs ranchers (or any other jimmy ship for that matter) nowadays. I can't talk on 2016 tumblr but regarding your last point (which I know isn't directed towards me but I think it's worth saying) -- would it matter if you Were one of THOSE fh writers? (or one of THOSE aces or THOSE enbies for that matter). You're not but like. Would it?
(side note rhetorical question do not answer i dont want to know but wtf did the aces/enbies even do lmao)
Not to get too away from the discourse cus I do my fair share of glazing on this blog already, but yes yes yes big agree on fh's storyline being amazing!! I love that we essentially watch them both have to live on after their mutually life-changing marriage.
Scott especially I love because in a lot of stories that feature an abuser they're painted as entirely evil and oftentimes disappear from the story once the relationship is over, but Scott doesn't and will never go anywhere. He's forced to grapple with his previous actions and the destructive way he thinks about himself and relationships has and continues to damage both himself and the people he loves. Just like how irl even when we wish abusers would just "go away" they will still continue being living people as they've always been, not a concept that will simply perish once you overcome the trauma. I love abusive characters who are fully written as human and think they're important. Is all.
#asks#discourse#long post#i was gonna say more about how i think both perpetrators and victims of abusive relationships (cont)#(cont) tend to seek out writing that humanizes abusers more since. the abusive ppl we know irl are people#and oftentimes ppl we loved and continue to love. whereas to outsiders it's a very black/white situation#there's also i think like. a wish fulfillment aspect of it. that you or they can get better and everything can be okay again#which is obviously not like. the most amazingly healthy fantasy wowie but it's a fantasy for a reason#i know i at least have entertained one million here's how scott can get better scenarios in my head. some of them worse than others
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I will admit I hate the trend towards measuring how Healthy fictional relationships are. they're not breakfast cereals! we don't need to measure the amount of fiber! even if it did matter how much fiber a fictional relationship has "healthy" is also a very general, vibes-based word for concepts that I think we probably should get more specific about
#here are some great words: 'consensual' 'exploitative' 'fulfilling' 'draining' 'enjoyable' 'painful' 'affectionate'#we can talk about the ways a relationship is or isn't working for the parties involved#without falling back on 'health'#i think that what is considered healthy changes based on the time period and in general as a queer person i do feel a certain hesitance#to just like nod to health without specifying what i mean given the complicated relationship between queerness and#being considered unwell or unhealthy by society/doctors/psychiatry#ultimately this is a small thing and doesn't matter because once again#if everyone in a work of fiction stayed physically and mentally healthy throughout that would be a very boring story. to me#it's just not the type of story i like so it doesn't matter anyway it's just#sometimes i'm like. but we all know there is no one simple standard for health right? right??
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I desperately need more Time Stuck AU and Twins in Time AU
Btw since the Twins in Time AU seems to be almost exclusively on TikTok, allow me to explain what little I know (not much)
The Twins in Time AU is an AU where, somehow, Stan ends up with a young Ford, and Ford ends up with a young Stan, generally. I believe.
The main artist has drawn Ford (in his Bill fanatic arc) with young Stan, both protecting him from Bill and also being like “how tf I end up with this thing?” Type nonsense, as well as what seems to be pre-reunion Stan with young Ford, whom he seems to adore and clearly misses very much.
I have seen a sort of… Twins in time/Time stuck mix, where older Stan got thrown BACK in time to be with young Ford, and vice versa which is also cute.
(I just need more of those fuckin brothers bonding and shit aiight)
#gravity falls#gravity falls ramblings#gravity falls stanford#gravity falls stanley#stanford pines#stanley pines#Stan pines#ford pines#gravity falls Stan#gravity falls ford#gravity falls stan pines#gravity falls ford pines#am I vicariously living through them and attempting to fulfill my desire for a healthy. natural. loving sibling relationship?#perhaps.#all my siblings half and full fucking suck okay
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#i personally feel like it's somewhere in between#like sexuality and gender i think it's where you decide to choose what label your experiences/feelings fall under#it's decided between the two people in the relationship#like intimacy can exist in every kind of relationship and it's upsetting to hear people say it can only happen in romantic ones#if i were in a relationship with someone i trusted Who had an intimate relationship with someone else#if i really trusted that person i'd have no problem with it Unless it very clearly started to affect our relationship#i don't think i'd call myself a very jealous person#maybe a little envious but not jealous lol#i think restricting intimacy to one person isn't very. healthy? i don't know#like there should be other people too. support networks#we're a social animal yknow ?#it can't be possible for one person to fulfill every single need#that's an unhealthy expectation that can put a strain on many relationships i think#there's a reason spider webs are made from joined threads of silk#they don't dangle from a single piece They'd get blown away in the wind#reason why i bring this up now is bc i just discussed this with my parents who hold very traditional views#idk how i ended up being so different from them LMAO#thanks steven universe i guess!!!
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I've made a huge mistake.
I told my gf we could potentially be poly, but there were rules we would have to follow. There were only two. She broke both of them.
I've been crying for days thinking there's something wrong with me, only to have my fears validated. I don't think I can tell anyone and not be judged because I feel like I brought this on myself.
I'm so stupid.
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#you didn't bring this on yourself!! poly relationships can be healthy and wonderful and fulfilling#SHE broke the contract of your relationship. SHE crossed your boundaries. you didn't do that. your poly structure didn't do that. SHE did
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being in the dsmp fandom fic wise is like being the richest man on the planet not just for the sheer quantity of fics but also because as someone who enjoys genfic a bit more than slashfic nowadays i have been spoiled beyond belief. i forget that not every fandom has a massive section of the community focused entirely on familial and platonic relationships
#as soon as i got into a very healthy very fulfilling romantic relationship i became much less interested in slashfic kekw#i still like it and i still read it but not nearly as often#myposts
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Always keep in mind that you are a complete and valuable individual, deserving of genuine and wholehearted love, unwavering attention, and sincere effort in all aspects of life. Settling for anything less than you deserve is a disservice to your self-worth and well- being. Embrace the empowerment that comes from recognizing your inherent value and prioritize your emotional and mental health by establishing healthy boundaries. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and respect you fully, and let go of those who offer only half-hearted affections or minimal efforts. Remember, you are too whole to accept anything less than the genuine and fulfilling experiences that life has to offer.
//Tuesday 25th July//
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#self-worth#empowerment#self-esteem#self-care#mental health#emotional well-being#healthy boundaries#genuine love#self-respect#relationships#personal growth#self-empowerment#self-acceptance#fulfilling experiences#note to myself
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The obviously endgame straight couple becoming canon being one of the most controversial moments of Tokyo Ghoul fandom history will never not be funny to me
#i posted dis on twt already but whatevs#it’s funny#’most controversial animanga moments of all time’ and it’s fucking touken lmfaooo#ik im not a shipper and i don’t understand shipping (*crowd boos but it’s cool*) but genuinely what did ppl think???#In what world was hidekane or shuuneki ever going to become canon like be fuckkng fr#shuuneki should never be canon imo idgaf - like idc abt ppl shipping it: cute. u do u boo. im happy 4 u.#but imo i think it being canon would defeat the purpose of shuu’s arc.#Maybe just my bpd/projecting of him but idk. growing past ur unhealthy obsession feels like a better ending than having it fulfilled#in an ideal world they’d have a healthy relationship but idk. i wouldn’t mind it but i think growing as an individual is better#gunk#tg gunk#Ramble in tags#I still dk why ppl were so mad abt touken tho#tokyo ghoul#tokyoghoulcore
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Most recent "not to sound like a feminist scold but" was my speech on how the majority of relationships are heterosexual and therefore have an inherent power imbalance because men hold structural power over women in a patriarchal society.
#this doesn't mean individual partners can't negotiate healthy and fulfilling relationships#that's where the 70s radical feminists went wrong with this imo#I was just criticizing the overuse of the 'power imbalance' argument in some areas (age)#and simultaneous silence on the most common one (gender)
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crazy how much different my life is from this time two years ago and then this time last year
#two years ago: miserable relationship#one year ago: even more miserable relationship#now: healthy and fulfilling
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it's crazy what a significant life change will do to you. life feels so much better. like a freshly peeled orange. like laying on a flat, sun-warmed rock. insane weight lifted!! brain rewired!!!
#i'm finally leaving this frankly abusive toxic relationship i had with my ex-boss behind me#the whiplash is insane like holy shit looking back i can't believe i survived 5 years of this#it was so bad. so so bad#and now this new job is showing me i good i can have it and how healthy it can be#i still don't dream of labor but i have an ethical and fulfilling role i'm happy with and it's insane#never thought it would happen#what next?? am i about to meet my spouse or something???#shut up mag
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Youtuber guy: I am presenting you this detailed process of summoning a demon, FOR EDUCATION PURPOSES ONLY. Do not try it at home
Me: I want to try it at home
#txt#it seems like too much of a hustle though the only reason im not gonna do that#the same youtuber: some people testify for having very healthy and fulfilling relationships with demons. me: yeah i bet
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look it's late and I can't sleep but why is it that a lot of media spends all its time dancing with a big will-they-won't-they and then ends almost immediately after they do?? my good sirs I waited all this time I was so patient it may be a nice and easy way to de-escalate tension towards the end of the story but I am sad and lonely give me ESTABLISHED RELATIONSHIP you COWARDS
#booklr#give me high dramatic sweeping romance in my novels PLEASE#and then SHOW ME WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE#lonely lesbian screaming into the void#especially frustrating when you want to write it but you cant for the life of you find any examples#me watching 2005 pride and prejudice like THAT'S IT???#you made me wait an hour and a half for TWO SCENES??#show me them being married#show me them being adorable#show me these poor people in a safe healthy fulfilling relationship#this is why i am a regular browser of a certain website lol#ao3 my beloved#maybe i just need to go watch heartstopper again
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#i dont want a healthy mutually fulfilling relationship where we settle down and live into old age together#i want a deeply codependent and maladaptive situationship in which we never actually speak our feelings aloud#but rest assured we're in love and we show it with gore violence and mutually unhealthy attempts at control#im tired of trying to be good and healthy and well adjusted. cant i just indulge in my worst traits and sink#with someone else who is also fucked up enough to stick around so we can drag each other down further
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There is one type of OFMD fic that exists for me and it’s Ed can’t process his feelings for Izzy until Izzy gets with someone else (literally anyone/everyone else)
#flip the tables on him izzy girl#you get those healthy fulfilling relationships with the useless crew of therapists#blackhands#edizzy#our flag means death#izzy hands#I usually see this in lucius/izzy fic because that’s the most common izzy ship that isn’t with Ed or stede#even most stizzy stuff assumes edizzy as established and it’s like but what if no#what if eds a fucking idiot like in canon
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