#group home

[todayinhiphophistory]

Today in Hip Hop History:

Group Home released their debut album Livin’ Proof November 21, 1995

[turtley-ausome]

Had a meeting this morning with DDS MFP group home people one is same lady i met last time and then her superviser and a nurse part of the team came too it was good meeting im very happy about that! They said when I get into group home i can choose what colors they paint my walls i want pink and purple! And i can probaly get a bubble tube and sensory swing for my room eeeeeeeee! And my mom will be able visit more they said becase group home can help for transportation! I cant wait for when i fiNALY have a home! So sick of living in hospital institution !!! We also talk about my allergies becase i have mint allergy makes it very hard to share a bathroom. In past was told maybe i get master bedroom in a group home as accomadation for this sinse it has own private bathroom plus need bigger room becase i have two wheelchairs!

[zebulontheplanet]

Listen y’all, I understand that assisted living facilities and group homes are notorious for being bad and sometimes even abusive, however when I reach out to the community and ask for advice relating to me possibly going into assisted living or a group home, your automatic response shouldn’t be to attack me.

To automatically assume that it’s my parents who are pressuring me into it. To assume that I don’t need it. To say that I���m a horrible person for even suggesting it. Some of us can’t live on our own and don’t have the best home life. I HAVE to look at other options and I honestly don’t think having support care come to a house or apartment I own is for me. (Not to mention I probably will never be able to work enough or at all to be able to afford my own place)

It’s very…demeaning. I understand completely why some people are on the fence about it and have had bad experiences because I know there’s more bad then good experiences, but please don’t assume. Please don’t attack me for just asking questions.

It’s really annoying and I will start blocking people who do it.

[morriesmind]

Having psychosis and working *with* people who have psychosis is a very interesting. I feel like I can connect in a way my coworkers can't. I can understand my clients' way of thinking in a way my coworkers can't.

It's caused me to grow (professionally) close with some of my clients. I accept "behaviors" without needing explanations. For a *very* vague example to comply with HIPAA:

I have a client who has paranoia around the safety of his home. He often does not sleep well and will force himself to stay awake for days at a time due to his anxiety. Eventually I came to realize that he could sleep better when I ran the dishwasher and the laundry. Why? Because he didn't feel alone. He didn't feel like the sole protector of the house with someone awake through the night. So it became a routine for us. I dim the lights down, play some relaxing music, do the dishes. Some nights he still can't sleep, others he can.

I feel a sense of accomplishment when he is able to feel safe enough to sleep.

My point of being there is to help my clients feel safe at night. Working in a group home is one of the best things I've ever done.

I have more stories like this but idk if I want to share them or not.

[malazansapper]

IF JORJA WERE QUEEN OF GROUP HOME

I live in a group home. it is a county run residential facility for disabled people. I have lived here for three years. this is what i would change.

A: choice. i was placed here after a month in the psych ward. it was just the first one that came up. i would have liked to be able to tour a couple for comparison. i am still interested in what a foster home would be like.

B: food. we are served a lot of processed, frozen foods. it has to do with our food stamp budget. some of it i think is gross. but its what is served to me. i can cook, but i dont get that option, tho i will be able to cook when i move to my new group home. jane, my caregiver, gets sad or offended when i throw out food i dont like. i dont like hot dogs. i eat them every week.

C: interpersonal relationships. jane, our main caregiver, doesnt get along with one of the residents. it makes me sad and upset sometimes. luckily, they like me.

D: rides. i think the group home is supposed to provide me with transportation to my activities. this happens rarely. it would have a big impact on my quality of life to be able to more spontaneously go out in the community. i have been wanting to go buy a sandwich for 3 weeks. i have paratransit services, but even that is somewhat difficult for me to use.

E: i would like to be able to have some storage that wasnt just everything i own in my room. i make this work tho. moving from a house to a room was hard.

F: i would rather live with family, but they are spread out.

G: access. I have a key to my dads house, and my friends house. i dont have a key to my own house tho.

H: maybe someday i can have my own house.

I: i would like a garden and a cat.

[omegaremix]

Omega Radio for July 19 & July 20, 2014; #56.

Wu-Tang Clan “Can It Be So Simple”

Public Enemy “Tie Goes To The Runner”

A Tribe Called Quest “Lyrics To Go”

Wu-Tang Clan “Da Mystery Of Chessboxing”

Black Moon “Crooklyn”

Gang Starr “Take It Personal”

Organized Konfusion f. O.C. “You Won’t Go Far”

Boogiemonsters “R.T.N.S. (Recognized Thresholds Of Negative Stress)”

Bushwackass “Ruff, Rugged, And Raw”

Jeru Tha Damaja “Mental Stamina”

AZ “Rather Unique”

Notorious B.I.G. “Unbelievable”

Group Home “Suspended In Time”

Funkdoobiest “Doobie In The Head”

Q-Ball & Kurt Kazal “Makin’ Moves (Bass Radio VER)”

Smooth Da Hustler “Broken Language”

Mic Geronimo “Shit’s Real”

Half A Mil “Another Homicide Scene”

Kool Keith (as Dr. Octagon) “Blue Flowers”

All City “Move On You” (RMX)

Reflection Eternal f. Gil-Scott Heron “The Blast”

Big L “Holdin’ It Down”

GZA f. DJ Muggs “When The Fat Lady Sings”

Bad Seed “For The Kids”

Deltron 3030 “Virus”

Hieroglyphics “Oakland Blackouts”

Smut Peddlers “One By One” (demo)

Kool G Rap & RZA “Cakes”

Slum Villlage “Raise It Up”

KRS-One “Underground”

Nas f. Large Professor “Stay Chiseled”

Peanut Butter Wolf “Dopestyle”

Company Flow “8 Steps To Perfection”

Yak Ballz “Nasty Or Nice”

Arsonists “Flashback”

Chi-N.Y. Network “Keep The Fame”

Dalek “Trampled Brethen”

Rubberoom “Evil Arch Angels”

Murs “H-U-S-T-L-E”

Company Flow “Collude / Interlude”

Cannibal Ox f. Vast Aire “Atom”

Smut Peddlers “Smut Control”

MF Grimm f. Kool G Rap & Akinyele “AIDS”

Cage f. Jello Biafra “Grand Ol’ Party Crash”

King Gheedorah “Take Me To Your Leader (Fazers)”

Madlib as Quasimoto “Return Of The Loop Digga”

MF Grimm f. MF Doom “Foolish”

Vast Aire “Cholesterol”

Madvillain “America’s Most Blunted”

MF Doom & MF Grimm “Tick Tock pt. 2”

King Gheedorah “G-Force pt. 2”

Molemen “Put Your Quarter Up”

R.A. The Rugged Man “On The Block”

CX Kidtronik “Wild Kingdom”

Jonwayne “404 Garbage”

Matches Malone / PIllsbury “It’s Like That”

Tragedy Khadafi “Best Of Both Worlds”

Diverse “Ain’t Right” (DJ Mitsu RMX)

Immortal Technique “Harlem Streets”

Tech N9ne “Who Do I Catch”

Action Bronson “Savage From Sarasota”

Jonwayne “The Come Up”

Skeme Team & Brooklyn Academy “Con Artists”

Serengeti “Directions”

DC The Midi Alien f. Vinnie Paz “Man-Made Ways”

Bonus Omega; overnight golden-era and backpacker hip-hop / rap.

[princess-kurosaki]

WORK RANT ⬇️

okay, so i am a Paramedic and I work in the ER, last night we had a patient that had severe autism, he was non verbal as well and got abandoned by his group home. it made me soooooooo mad. because if you sign up to care for someone then that’s exactly what you do. if it becomes too much for you there’s steps you take both legally and medical care wise to rid yourself of the responsibility. you do not drop your resident off because he’s being aggressive and decide to never come back.

you just have to put things into perspective, if you couldn’t speak or communicate the way everyone else around you does would you or would you not be “aggressive”? OF COURSE YOU WOULD. imagine being ripped from the comfort of your home and thrown into a hospital a LEVEL 1 TRAUMA ER (meaning we get the worst of the worst because we have the staff and equipment to handle it) overnight, and you are non verbal and autistic. can you fucking imagine how overstimulated he was? and if you’ve ever seen or been to an ER you know how bright, loud, and busy it is. 3 things most autistic kids don’t like.

it was just crazy to me, i’m not saying it doesn’t get hard because i’m sure it does. my job seems impossible sometimes and i’ve only done it for 4 months. but never in a million years could i see myself as a company who is trained and trains others to care for people with these disorders and disabilities abandoning a resident.

we ended up having to call the adult protective services and charges got filed against the group home but idk.. it was just awful. i can’t imagine doing that to someone i signed up to care for.

so if you plan on working with or for a group home for children or adults with diagnosed disorders or disabilities please make sure your heart is in it 120%. they are people just like us and literally no fucking one deserves to be ripped from their home in the middle of the night and abandoned at a hospital due to behaviors they can’t control.

[calciopics]

Nouhaila Benzina makes history

The 25-year-old defender is the first player to wear the Islamic headscarf at the senior-level Women's World Cup. 

[positivelyqueer]

Happy Disability Pride Month to people with nurses, carers, support workers, or who live in group homes!

[ex-foster]

The just-world theory explains how people rationalize injustice by assuming that victims must have done something to deserve their suffering. This mindset leads to harmful stereotypes and mistreatment of foster kids in several ways:

1. The "Bad Kids" Stereotype

People assume that if a child was removed from their family, they must have done something wrong rather than recognizing that they were victims of neglect or abuse.

Foster kids are often labeled as "troubled," "problematic," or "difficult," even when their behaviors are normal responses to trauma.

Teachers, caregivers, and peers may expect them to act out, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy where the child is treated unfairly and then struggles because of it.

2. The "Liars" Stigma

When foster youth report abuse, neglect, or mistreatment, they are often dismissed as attention-seeking or manipulative.

This skepticism stems from the belief that caregivers or adults wouldn't harm a child unless the child provoked it.

Many foster youth hesitate to speak up about mistreatment because they fear being disbelieved or retaliated against.

3. The "They Must Have Deserved It" Mindset

People struggle to accept that children can suffer horrific abuse through no fault of their own, so they look for reasons to blame the child (e.g., "Maybe they were difficult for their parents," "Maybe they acted out in their foster homes").

This mentality leads to less sympathy for foster kids and prevents society from addressing the real systemic failures that harm them.

4. The "Unadoptable" or "Damaged Goods" Assumption

Some people assume that foster youth have inherent behavioral issues that make them undesirable to adopt.

This discourages people from fostering or adopting older kids, reinforcing a cycle where many children remain in the system without stability.

Foster kids are sometimes treated like they are broken beyond repair instead of being seen as resilient individuals in need of support.

5. The Criminalization of Foster Youth

Former foster kids are overrepresented in the juvenile justice system because they are more likely to be policed and punished for behaviors that would be overlooked in non-foster youth.

If a foster youth has a meltdown or runs away, they are treated as delinquents rather than traumatized kids in crisis.

The assumption that foster youth are more prone to criminality results in harsher treatment from schools, law enforcement, and the legal system.

6. The Myth That Foster Kids Don’t Value Family or Attachment

Some assume that foster youth don’t care about relationships because they have been moved around or have strained family ties.

In reality, many former foster kids deeply long for connection and stability but struggle due to repeated losses.

Society’s unwillingness to recognize this leads to further isolation, reinforcing the idea that foster kids are emotionally distant or incapable of love.

[todayinhiphophistory]

Today in Hip Hop History:

Group Home released their debut album Livin’ Proof November 21, 1995

[turtley-ausome]

I am really really happy you are getting moved to a group home!!! having a personalized space and getting to choose what is in your room is so exciting!!! and getting to try the AAC device is very cool I hope it is awesome and works well for you. also I did not know that turtle fact about the sand temperature changing the sex of the egg, very cool! many exciting things :)

Thank u so much i am still have to wait for placment they have to find a right fit for me said it can take up to 6 months or even longer but it shoud be happen in 2025! This year i will start my life after being in a hospital like 6 years! I am exited about trying the new AAC device too, but am kind of nervous it wont work out turns out they need more info and maybe paperwork stuff but i hope i here back next week! And yes turtles are so so cool! I always have a sea turtle plushie with me his name is Jimothy he is atatched to my wrist by a hair band all the time!! Picture of Jimothy is below!

[ixtlilton4]

On "The System" as a Whole

So, firstly, I think what just doesn't click with people about foster care is how utterly horrible and hopeless it is. I know a lot of people read anecdotal stories about child abuse in foster homes or group homes, or they've seen a news article about children like Marcus Fiesel who were horrifically abused and murdered, so there is at least some exposure to what can happen. But I think when people read these stories, it's very easy for them to dismiss them as extreme and isolated events thar are rare. Or, maybe thinking about child abuse at all is so disturbing for some people they try to push it as far down and away as possible, and in the process they just ignore it entirely. I don't know. What I do know is that these anecdotal stories you hear online, from people like me? They aren't rare. They aren't even uncommon. They are, depressingly, the norm. I spent nearly as much of my life in foster care as I did outside of it, and in addition to my own experiences, I've met a lot of other foster kids. Our stories, if not identical, echo each other in one important way: while whatever situation may have landed us in foster care may have been horrible or abusive, foster homes and group homes were often equally as bad.

I feel extremely confident in saying that if you have been in more than three placements (or homes), or you have spent more than 3-6 months in foster care, it is nearly impossible for you to have avoided being abused or neglected. For most people, though, they don't have to wait until their third home, the abuse and/or neglect starts on the first.

That is *horrifying*. That abusive or neglectful foster parents and group home staff are so prevalent and unchecked that nearly every foster kid who goes through the system is exposed to it is terrifying. It should upset you. It should make you *angry* that what is arguably the most vulnerable group in the country is so under protected.

I could go on for another 50 paragraphs about all the reasons this is true, but I think the most important thing for people to realise is that abuse and neglect in the foster system is so prevalent that it is *normal*, and we need to do something about it.

[koibish]

I used to know you when we were young You were in all my dreams

[auntbibby]

i wrote chapter 2 to this scifi furry empty spaces story. its on deviantart here & furaffinity here. its inspired by living in psych wards and group homes as a person who has violent meltdowns.

i remember the stomping of boots. sounds of harsh movement; thick clothing thrashing thru my bedroom door. sleep paralysis giving way to waking up giving way to fear. then a loud blinking noise as a sharp pain in my neck put me back to sleep.

ohhh…. that nightmare again. i turned over in my giant doggy nest and licked my muzzle. that was the night the canadian government kidnapped me and took me here. my last memory of my normal human life.

the government had predicted using their internet algorithms that i was just about to turn anomalous. so they faked my death with a 3d printed corpse. i still wonder what my parents thought of me “dying”. they were probly very sad.

no time for me to be sad today though. today was the day i was going to eat in the communal cafeteria!!!!! with the other anomalies!!!! as i climbed out of my nest my tail wagged. i was so excited. i had to prove i was safe to be around for what felt like MONTHS to get this privilege. my….. meltdowns…… had slowed the approval process, but i made up for it by bein cheerful & cooperative most of the time!!!!

3 hours later, long after the tertiary guards had brought my breakfast to my living quarters and i had eaten it, vibrating in anticipation like a chihuahua, the alarm finally rang again.

*EEEENNNNGHHH!!!*

*click* *wheeeeze*

my primary security guard walked in, wearing full-body armor and holding a tranquilizer gun as usual.

“hey tina!! hows ur morning going?”

he was followed by 3 secondary guards.

“hi zayn!!” i yowled. “im exci….. ive had a decent mornin. im excited for lunch!!!!!!!!”

the primary guard armed his tranq gun with a *click*. “well, im glad ur excited!!!! we cant go yet though, tina, we gotta wait fiiiiiive minutes okay??”

i turned my head sideways and involuntarily made a slow rising grunt. “we……. umm…… ya?”

i could smell the guards sweating. “yeah just five minutes tina!” zayn was coincidentally inbetween me & the door.

i went and sat down as a show of peace. “ok bub. but dont stretch it out past five minutes please if u can please.” i whined.

the guards all relaxed their stances a little.

7 minutes later, the primary guard turned his head and put his hand to his ear. “affirmative. affirmative. negative. ok moving to checkpoint.” he turned back to me. “hey tina we can go now ok??”

i stood up and tippytoed from one hindfoot to the other a few times, nodding my head excitedly and panting. “ok good ya!!!! lets go!!!!! ill stay close!!!!!”

we walked with two security guards in front of me & two behind me. the hallways were long and confusing. i smelled what smelled like a swamp behind one door we passed, and i heard loud dialup computer modem noises behind another. finally we reached a very large double door that had many smells coming from it.

“affirmative. checkpoint reached.” said zayn.

*EEEENNNGGHHHH* rang the alarm

*click* *wheeeeezze* the doubledoors opened on their own.

inside was a vast sterile grid of benches & tables. over on the side one bench was bent in half vertically upwards, and a big roomba-like robot was cleaning up murky liquid off of it and the floor beneath.

in seemingly random spots among the grid of benches & tables there were anomalous folks eating lunch. some were big like me, some were human sized, one of them i couldnt look directly at for some reason (they smelled like rotten eggs).

my primary guard zayn motioned toward a table which had a big bowl on it. “hey tina your lunch is over here dear!!” i started walking toward it but stopped to look out at the other anomalies. i waved at one that looked like a cross between a giant bug and a sexy lady. she smelled like ladybugs. after a moment she waved back!!!!!!! i was so happy; my tail wagged rapidly. my social urge fulfilled, i went & sat down with my bowl & started eating.

my guards had gone to stand at the wall after a while. after i finished licking my bowl clean, i looked back at them nervously, and turned & slowly began to walk toward the bug lady.

my guards immediatelly started running to stop me. “tina lets go back to your living quarters okay? we’re all done our food huh?? tina??” zayn was pulling at me. all four guards had their tranq guns armed.

“i want to talk to the nice person!!!!” i yowled. “she….they seem nice!!!!!” i turned around to Zayn. “pleease????”

zayn shook his helmeted head. “im sorry but youre not approved for interpersonal anomaly-to-anomaly contact tina…. srry.”

i howled quietly. i turned my head to look back at the bug lady.

she was waving!!!!!!!!

i waved back enthusiastically, then turned and walked away with my guards over and out the double-doors.

that night, when the tertiary guards brought my supper to my living quarters, zayn turned to me.

“im sorry u didnt get to talk to Blum- uh… i mean The Nice Person”

i looked away to hide my smile. “thats ok zayn. im sorry if i broke the rules again.”

“no” zayn turned back toward the door of my living quarters to leave. “ur impatience is understandable. i hope u enjoy your supper tina.” all the guards walked out of my room to let me eat in peace.

Blumo…… i thought to myself.

he was gonna say Blumo…..

her name is Blumo…..

i wagged my tail as i ate my supper from my bowl.

[malazansapper]

group home is institution lite