#Foster care system

[neechees]

A Native woman committed suicide after her children were taken away by rcmp because she asked for refuge from her abusive relationship. Instead of helping a Native woman flee abuse with her children, they took her babies away.

Note that the video says that Manitoba has some of the highest child apprehensions by child welfare in Canads, 90% of whom are Indigenous, and until 2 years ago they got paid by the amount of apprehensions they do.

[intersexfairy]

Hey, if you haven't heard already, please take a moment to view and sign this petition about the kidnapping of an Inupiaq baby via the foster care system. There is also this site and a twitter account you can follow to stay up to date.

The reason baby Chanel is in the hands of Joseph Jurco and Nikki Richman (racist foster parents) is that her mother (Kristen Ballot-Huntington) was murdered by her father (Eric Rustad). Her maternal grandmother (Aana Arlene) is fighting to get her grandchild back home.

Again, please sign the petition and also spread the word. Chanel's family and nation deserve a world's better than this.

(If anything in this post needs correcting, please let me know)

[kissablelips-desireslure-vol2]

EYEWITNESS S1 E1 (2016, USA NETWORK)

Created By: Adi Hasak

TYLER YOUNG (as Philip)

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JAMES PAXTON (as Lukas)

[ex-foster]

[cjbolan]

Unpopular Opinion: Only adults feel sad at Lilo and Stitch .

Unless you were in Lilo’s situation as a kid —which sadly is a lot of kids— I think no kid fully comprehends the challenges of the foster care system. Nor the challenges of being raised by a sibling instead of a parent. Unless your family sat you down for honest talks about such heavy issues. Which was definitely not my family.

(I dunno…is my experience as a childcare worker making me underestimate kids’ intelligence?)

[ivyprism]

I Didn't Mean To (Marguerite Backstory)

Warning: Child abuse, fire, blood, death, pain, sadness, uncontrolled power, panic attacks, bullying, foster care system, and implied mass murder.

This may be heavy for some readers, so please be cautious if you want to read it.

This has a switch from 1st Person to 2nd Person near the end.

"I don't know very much about my parents. When I was little, my mother was regarded as a lovely and sophisticated woman. My father was a powerful yet mysterious man... However, I've never actually met them. I'm not sure if they died or simply decided they didn't want me anymore. I was a child who was moved from one foster family to another. Many of my foster parents returned me, claiming I was "too difficult" and "dangerous".

Regardless of what happened, my social worker would always remind me there was nothing wrong with me. My magic and lack of control are typical for a child my age. She was the only person who understood me. I didn't intend to be a nuisance or a threat…. I was simply unable to manage my magic. I was a child; how could I know?

When I met my next foster family, I assumed everything would be the same as before, but I was mistaken. My foster mother was a lovely older woman who gladly took me in. She wasn't a monster, just a human woman who believed my lack of magical control just needed a bit of patience. She never treated me like a monster for it. I genuinely adored her…

But then the other kids learned about what I am, what I could do...And as they say, kids can be cruel. I was going home that day, I didn't know what they wanted.

"Is it true you killed your parents with your fire?" "Wow, a monster walking among us! The horror!" "You're not going to kill us too, are you?"

I was a child and could not grasp these queries. I didn't know what to do, so I ran home and into the arms of my foster mother. I was terrified, but they did not stop. My foster mother tried to stop them and did everything she could, but it simply made matters worse. When I retaliated in my defense, the situation became really heated.

"Y--you scratched me! Monster!" Following my defense against them, the boy shouted at me. They'd tugged my hair and horns, and it ached. I did not aim to hurt them.

"I'm- I'm sorry!" I had said. I was just a child, I didn't know and I didn't mean to. But they turned to their parents. Their parents disliked me as well; after all, hatred is hardly a natural emotion. They were determined to take action.

They stopped my foster mother and cornered me. I was a child, and I was defenseless against them. My foster mother pleaded to be spared, but I don't believe they listened.

"We should've never let you foster this monster anyway." One of them said anything.

"We should've done this a long time ago." Another had said as he raised a weapon and struck me. I don't recall exactly what happened; all I remember is the excruciating pain of getting smacked in the eye. I saw blood, and I couldn't open my eye because it stung so severely.

"Leave her alone! She's just a little girl!" My foster mother begged loudly. I looked at her, but then another attack came. I didn't have time to open my mouth as I felt more pain. I cried out in pain as my foster mother pleaded. I was in pain, so much pain. I was scared.

I didn't have time to think as my foster mother approached me, pulling me into her arms and attempting to comfort me. Telling me everything would be fine, I knew it was a lie, yet I felt so protected in her embrace…

Until I didn't.

I heard a hit followed by a thud. My foster mother lay bleeding on the ground near my feet. I couldn't determine if she was still alive. I was so afraid that I began to hyperventilate. I couldn't breathe and was so afraid that I kept apologizing for being born. I couldn't think, everything was whirling, and I was scared. I was so scared.

So the terror presented itself as a blazing fire that I had never seen before. I didn't have time to react; all I could hear was a chorus of cries, the sound of fire, and people fleeing, but only the screams. I kept apologizing; I was scared and didn't mean to. I could see the fire blazing and hear my foster mother trying to comfort me, but I wasn't sure if I was hallucinating or if she was actually saying it. All I remembered after was passing out from the pain and the smoke.

After that, I didn't know what happened. I was in the hospital, I was isolated in a wing. I didn't know if people had died, or if they had lived, but as soon as I could I ran. I couldn't face my social worker, I couldn't face my foster mother... I was a monster. I started picking up odd jobs and lying about my age to survive. All I remembered was the screams, the terror, and all the fire.

I wouldn't let anyone get too close to me, I couldn't. I was dangerous and erratic, and I didn't know how to control my fire. Of course, after years, I started teaching myself how to be a human, and how to not use my awful magic, and I blended right in. I was just another person who worked everywhere. No one knew what I was or who I was.

I met my ex-husband when I was 18, and we were married for a few years before we divorced. I never told him who I was, and I'm not sure I ever completely trusted him. That is on me. But I didn't want anyone to fear me again because of things I couldn't control.

After that, I met Tart. They were just a baby and my friend made me their godmother. I didn't know how to care for a baby, I was so scared that I'd hurt them. So I was a bit cautious with them until I learned how to be close and care for them like a mother should.

And that's how I'm here today. I'll never know what happened to the place I used to live or anything. Honestly, I barely remember what happened that night. All I know is that I didn't mean to hurt anyone. I just didn't know how to control my magic.

Of course, that's one of many things I've dealt with, but those are all stories for another time~."

You blink carefully at Marguerite, who smiles at you. She pats your head and walks away. You stare at what you've written; a part of you wants to console her, but she appears fine now.

That's something for another time, I suppose. You still had a lot of questions about her. I mean, she was your friend. She was a single mother to a very sweet child, and you're sure they have lots of stories to tell at some point.

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[fosteringinsc]

Transforming the Foster Care System: The Biden Administration's Game-Changing Policies

Biden Administration’s Foster Care Reforms: Navigating the Pros and Cons for Child Welfare Transforming the Foster Care System: The Biden Administration’s Game-Changing Policies. The recent foster care system reforms by the Biden administration represent a pivotal shift in child welfare policy. These changes, aimed at bolstering support for kinship caregivers, safeguarding LGBTQ+ youth, and…

[defyinglabel012]

Defying Labels: A New Vision for the Foster Care System

Longstanding stereotypes have burdened the foster care system, portraying children as "difficult" or "troubled." In most cases, however, these labels fail to provide any recognition of the depth and potential within each child. "Defying Labels: A New Vision for the Foster Care System" confronts these preconceptions by focusing on initiatives that make room for the uniqueness of every child in care. It's by embracing personalized care plans, promoting family reunification, and providing mental health support that the foster care system can empower children to break free from the past trauma and build a brighter future. This is the way through which foster youth will not be seen as victims of circumstances but as resilient people who are capable of success and happiness.

[ivygorgon]

An open letter to the U.S. Congress

Separation of church & state! Co-sponsor S 1206 / HR 2725 the Do No Harm Act.

267 so far! Help us get to 500 signers!

As your constituent, I am writing to ask you to co-sponsor S 1206 / HR 2725 the Do No Harm Act. Religious freedom means that everyone should be able to practice their religion or no religion at all, so long as they do not harm others. And this bill is an important step to fulfilling that promise. The Do No Harm Act will ensure that a federal law, the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA), which was designed as a shield to protect religion, is not used as a sword to harm others. Our country is strongest when we are all free to believe or not, as we see fit, and to practice our faith without hurting others. As you know, passage of the Do No Harm Act is more critical than ever. Unfortunately, RFRA is being misused to allow discrimination against LGBTQ people, women, religious minorities, nonreligious people and almost anyone else – all under the guise of religious freedom. For example, the law has been misused to allow discrimination against workers, undermine people’s access to healthcare, and deny children in the foster care system the loving homes they deserve simply because families don’t meet the agency’s religious litmus test. The Do No Harm Act would serve to prevent dangerous rulings and policies like these in the future. Please co-sponsor it now! Thanks.

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[erebusvincent]

I hate the foster care system. It's the only thing worse than adoption.

[nuggeteri]

Foster kids are supposed to be taken care of.

That isn't the case when you go ahead and tell everyone their secrets. Hey, social workers, proffessional secrets mean you keep it to YOURSELF, not yourself along with OTHER SOCIAL WORKERS. if it was about hurting myself, i'd understand, but me being transgender?

Hey, i'm a foster kid, i haven't mentioned that before. who cares.

I'm a teen so i'm a bit rebellious- In the foster care system, at least in france, social workers have to keep little notes about kids- how they spent their day, good bad if they did anything productive if they slept or woke up late.

I never liked those. always asked to see mine but they said no-- I always found that weird. But, i do cope in self-harm and once saw a line where they said they found sharp things in my bedroom- So i assumed that's why they didn't want us to read, for us not to be able to tell when they found out when we did something 'wrong'.

Anyway-- Tonight, I went downstairs to look for somethign (another foster kid's water bottle where he hid his money, he had lost it) and get up my act of "i just woke up, i'm looking for water." But the nightguard is asleep.

Very unproffessional. The office is unlocked. extremely unproffessional.

I tell my friends this and they immediately go down to get some things down there-- something catches my eye, the binders where they used to put out notes. (Used to, because now everything's digital.)

I go ahead to read it and, would you look at that.

They had written that i was transgender. When it was supposed to be a secret.

This is bullshit. Okay, maybe i'm not the perfect calm and rule-listening little goblin, but i don't deserve to be outed. at least i think i don't. Especially when i've been put in foster care for being outed to my parents who proceeded to hit me-

Yet, somehow, this-- This felt worse.

The fact that they knew it. Yet did nothing. Or, precisely, said nothing. They didn't say shit to me.

I was outed, it was kept from me for them to keep up a nice facade, and they told me to trust them. How could i ever

how could i ever. Ever. Ever. Ever. Trust a proffessional again? Especially with the fact that this isn't the first time, a year ago a psychologue told my parents troubles i'd been having. Yet this is worse- the psy didnt out me. They did.

It seems like i was made to be outed. Huh.

[creatorj-meow]

I never seen this movie ONCE in my life till now. And now saw the cruel reality of what my race has to go through.

Never knew how much the Mexican American children suffers under the foster care system here....

I'm not one to break down in front of my family but that one SPECIFIC SCENE... is now ENGRAVED in mind now.

Now I just want to look for this movie to see it from the beginning to end.

[ex-foster]

Common issues for former foster kids who aged out of the system:

1. A significant number face challenges in finding stable housing.

2. Higher rates of homelessness are observed among this population.

3. The transition to independence can be abrupt and overwhelming.

4. Many aging-out foster youth lack a support system.

5. Mental health issues may persist due to the trauma experienced in foster care.

6. Employment difficulties are common among individuals aging out of foster care.

7. Educational attainment is often lower for those who age out of foster care.

8. Limited access to higher education is a barrier for many.

9. The likelihood of experiencing poverty is elevated.

10. Some face difficulties accessing essential life skills.

11. Former foster youth may struggle with self-identity and belonging.

12. The foster care experience can impact their sense of trust.

13. The stigma associated with foster care can be a barrier to success.

14. Many aging-out foster youth lack guidance on financial literacy.

15. The trauma of separation can affect emotional regulation.

16. Legal emancipation does not always equate to emotional readiness.

17. Limited exposure to positive role models can hinder personal development.

18. The lack of a consistent educational environment affects academic performance.

19. Limited access to extracurricular activities impacts skill development.

20. Some aging-out foster youth may experience a sense of abandonment.

21. Peer relationships can be challenging due to differing life experiences.

22. Aging-out foster youth may face challenges in obtaining legal documents.

23. Former foster youth may have a heightened awareness of societal issues.

24. The experience of foster care can impact one's ability to trust authority.

25. Former foster youth may struggle with self-advocacy.

26. Aging-out foster youth may grapple with feelings of unworthiness.

27. Legal emancipation does not erase the emotional scars of foster care.

28. The stigma of being a "ward of the state" affects self-esteem.

29. The foster care experience can contribute to a sense of powerlessness.

30. Many aging-out foster youth desire connection and a sense of belonging.

[naggascradle]

[fosteringinsc]

Decriminalizing Foster Care: The Vital Importance of Child Welfare Reform

Foster care is like a big support system for kids who have had tough times at home, maybe because their parents couldn’t take care of them properly or they faced some problems in their families. But, sometimes, instead of helping the parents do better, the system can make them feel like they did something very wrong, almost like they’re criminals. That’s not good for the kids. In this blog, we’ll…

[bethanydelleman]

One thing that bothers me so much is when a woman wants fertility treatment and people are like, "Just adopt." I don't think people realize that you cannot "just" adopt.

My aunt is an adoption social worker, she's my source here because I couldn't find official numbers. In the province of Ontario, there are barely any private adoptions per year (child adopted without CPS taking the kid away). Probably lower than 60 total and that's out of about 16 million people. Why? Because unwanted babies are either terminated (this post is not the place to talk about this debate, this is just a fact right now) or adopted by family (ie: teenage mom's baby is raised by grandma). There are no private adoptions to be had.

Foster to adopt? Not for everyone because the point of foster care is actually to return the children to their parents. You can have a child for 2 years only for them to return to their parents at the end instead. That would break some people. That would very reasonably be too much for some people to take, especially people who desperately want to be parents. Also, fostering can mean taking on a lot of medical and psychological issues that some people don't feel able to deal with, financially and personally. I have a ton of respect for foster parents and people who foster to adopt, but not being able to take this on isn't a moral crime. Also, less children available than you think, in 2022-23, only 456 adoptions happened in Ontario.

International adoption? Don't make me laugh. Just check the news and learn about how it's the shadiest thing in the world. Would you like to learn in 20 years that your child was stolen and has parents? It also tends to cost a lot of money, similar to fertility treatment.

The easiest way to acquire a human child is to make one yourself, that is a fact in high income countries in the 21st century. Stop shaming people for trying to use what really is the only option a lot of the time. And I won't even get into the social pressures that make a woman feel lesser if she can't produce her own children or if you happen to have a criminal record and therefore cannot adopt at all.