#go educate yourself please

[thecloudychalice]

Ok, rant time. I’ve spent the better part of my adult life wondering why it is that guys don’t care about the girl’s pleasure. Sex, if done right, should be about you focusing entirely on your partner, and them entirely on you. This, when done right means each of you gets your needs met. Some realizations I’ve had as a good, honest man:

1. If she mentions it more than once DO IT. It takes NO effort to actively take an interest in her wants and needs. Instead of doom scrolling at 3 am, go look up what she told you she likes. Show her that her needs are important to you and deepen that connection by learning to better yourself as a sexual partner through listening to her needs and MEETING THEM. It creates a much stronger connection which deepens the sexual experience. AND… It’s your responsibility!

2. Fact: Women need to cum more than once to feel satisfied. And good girls deserve to.

Unlike men, who were given the gift of peeing standing up, women were given the gift of multiple/successive orgasm. Their refractory period isn’t nearly as long as a man’s and thus, they need to cum more than once. If you don’t make them cum more than once, you’re essentially giving them the female equivalent of blue balls, and a very shitty feeling.

3. All women can squirt, but they need to be aroused in order for it to happen. The G spot does exist. It’s akin to the trunk of a tree.. but for the clit. It’s surrounded by erectile tissue that swells in response to arousal. In doing so, you’re actually drawing the nerves to the surface and applying pressure is stimulating them. If you stimulate it enough, it will leave you with a soaked bed and one needy, drippy incoherent mess of a girl.

4. Most (not all) men don’t understand the female body. But there’s no excuse. With unfettered and seemingly limitless access to information, in today’s day and age, there’s no reason why men shouldn’t be able to learn the process for female arousal. All women are different (yes honey, you’re special, daddy knows!), but there IS a standard pattern of arousal. Your texting pregame and FOREPLAY is everything. It’s not about what you do in the bedroom, it’s about what you do before you even cross the threshold into the bedroom. Take the time to make her feel cared for, listened to, and appreciated, and you’ll see how it makes a world of difference in how she responds to your physical touch. Foreplay should be a minimum of 25-30 minutes focused solely on her and isn’t just about riding the clit. It involves her ENTIRE BODY. Pay close attention to her body responses to your touch, your voice, and listen to her when she’s telling you she’s enjoying it. That’s your hint to keep going.

5. If she says she’s going to cum… DONT CHANGE A THING! whatever you’re doing, stay exactly in that position. This isn’t an invitation to be a hero or fight for your life through her orgasm, and give her your all.. she wants you to stay exactly as you are.

6. AFTERCARE. My god it’s crazy how many men are absolutely spare parts when it comes to this point. It’s not an option but a necessity. Just as you wouldn’t take her to the bedroom and immediately ram it in, neither should you just abruptly end your session. You need to provide her a way of easing out of the experience and transitioning back to normal levels of functioning (chemically speaking). Also, aftercare shows her you value her for her person and not just her body. It’s so essential and men need to understand how important this time is. It helps you build a deeper connection and a better rapport with your partner, serious, casual, or otherwise.

Tip #1. As she’s about to cum, keep your motion steady and slow down a fraction to ease her into the orgasm and delay sensation.

Tip #2. Make her cum and squirt a few times before giving her the goods. Once this happens, she will cum faster every time and it will help create the sensation that her organs are rolling into each other. A truly amazing experience for her.

Ladies, let’s reblog the shit out of this and help it to reach as many men as possible. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

[dykeomania]

...bro, no. okay, see this is the fucking problem [pulls down mic, TW, SA ment] if you are at any point writing anything "dub-con" or "cnc" and the reader is like, completely incoherent, completely unagreeing to everything that's happening, doesn't fully know what's happening, and at no point during the fic do you disclose or hint or underline that this was some kind of consensual agreement (and/plus) there is no aftercare, that is not cnc. that is not dub-con. that is r*pe. you just wrote a fanfiction about r*pe.

[genericpuff]

Girl no offense but as someone who is actually not white & IS indigenous it would be really awesome if you stopped jerking around your Cherokee princess card like it means anything lol. We’ve seen your selfies and there���s no chance on earth anyone would ever see you as nonwhite so uhhh stop lol. It’s embarrassing and eye roll worthy

lmao no offense but you're being hella racist <3 idk what your point is at all here? "stop mentioning your culture" ??? might wanna clean up on that instead of gatekeeping an entire continent's worth of tribes and cultures, it ain't a good look.

[jean47mclean]

Please for the love of everything good in the world at least understand the difference between asexuality and aromantacism before you write a fic about it

And if you don't know, here's the easiest way to explain it:

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to all genders

Aromantacism is the lack of romantic attraction to all genders

I understand they're both spectrums but just because they start with the letter A does NOT make it the same identity

[kyoukamiiz]

THE STRIKE ENDS TMR BUT THIS ISNT AN EXCUSE TO STOP TALKING ABOUT PALESTINE.

THEY WILL BE FREE.

DO YOUR DAILY CLICKS. DONATE IF POSSIBLE.

WIP!!!!

[woafofbread]

New Year’s resolution is to post more so I’m gonna start off with critiquing generative AI.

My dad sent me this for new years. Obviously he didn’t know it was Ai and I didn’t immediately know for sure but I got the feeling. The feeling that’s like “hey something is off about this.” I wanted to talk about the process of recognition that I go through as an artist when I see something made by Ai because a lot of the time at first glance nothing seems wrong.

First thing that I notice is how after 2025 there something that is clearly supposed to be an exclamation point but it’s too small and incomplete. This immediately made me realize for sure that it’s Ai. Ai is usually bad at doing text and it would be pretty easy for a human to fix.

Then I see the rest of the inconsistencies. The n in new is disconnected. There is a stray line coming out of the h in happy. Snoopy’s hands: one has a different line weight and the other has a finger that’s way too small. The stray little lines on Snoopy’s mouth. Woodstock only having one eye brow. Then this part is debatable since it is clearly trying to replicate the style of the CGI Peanuts movie, but Snoopy’s eyes being different sizes bothers me. The ear which I didn’t even circle is probably trying to replicate the loosely colored in ears in the comic strip, but in the CGI version it’s fully colored in. The golden firework blending into the top of Snoopy’s hat. Woodstock’s hands. Woodstock’s feet. The blurriness of Snoopy’s foot that isn’t anywhere else. The lines on Snoopy’s foot which doesn’t reach the end. The blurriness at the top of Woodstock’s head.

As an artist in art school we are critiqued on every little detail of our work. These kinds of inconsistencies are not okay for professional artists to make so the idea that companies want to use Ai shows how little they cared about artists in the first place. Any company that uses Ai instead of hiring an artist is clearly is cheap and is making themselves look bad.

I know that Ai can look convincing and pretty at first glance, but I want people to look at artwork for more than a few seconds. With social media everything is so fast paced and we are conditioned to to want instant gratification, so Ai is a quick and easy way to make ‘content.’ But the things that generative Ai makes are low quality and infuriating to see as an artist. I would much rather see someone try to make art as a beginner than see a computer steal art from other people.

So when you share or like something take an extra second to see if it was made by a person because if a person didn’t even care enough to make it it’s not worth your time.

Any other artists feel free to point out anything that I missed.

[prince-peachie]

probably an unpopular opinion but people really should refrain from correcting artist’s artworks

[66stitches]

If I see one (1) more person posting edits about the Mendendez brothers from that shitty fucking show by Ryan Murphy I am going to lose it

[lightyaoigami]

americans only others look away this doesn't apply to you: i shouldn't be surprised that the most braindead political takes really catch flight on the website where white american suburban ex-evangelical shut-ins who use their queerness as a cudgel against other marginalized identities hang out lmao

[tianablackwell3000]

You know what, let’s do it. Republicans want a goal of no more pronouns? Then the republicans get no more pronouns.

At all. In fact, Americans will make pronouns go away forever! The person reading this will never have to read another pronoun again - each and every pronoun won’t even exist in the American vocabulary.

And! If a pronoun is found, the person who wrote said pronoun will be immediately thrown out/censored.

Problem. Solved.

[the-mingling-dating-sim]

hey guys i know on my main i said i was going to be on hiatus for a while but i thought i might say that within this time i’ll be working on finishing the game too. i know after everything that a lot of people won’t want to support me or the game anymore but if you could please continue to support the game at least then i wouldn’t be able to thank any of you enough

[thealternatemind]

42,000 people. 42,000 people with full lives and memories and family and a culture that is being erased. 42,000 people. My mind can’t even comprehend that number. Innocents. Infants. That’s a larger number than people who live in my city.

42,000 people are dead. Israel is committing genocide. This is an ethnic cleansing. It’s not only been going on for a year but for A HUNDRED years.

Read “The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine” by Ilan Pappe, an Israeli historian. Learn the history. Educate yourself.

Call your representatives. Advocate for a ceasefire. Free Palestine. 🇵🇸🇵🇸

[alltimefail]

"gender envy" you're pushing 30. Just say he's hot

I'm assuming these are from the same person, so I'm just grouping them together. I was going to ignore these asks, but this is harmful and I'm going to unpack it briefly.

People who are 27 or, as you put it, "Pushing 30" can experience gender envy. There's no age requirement or cut-off for that.

Jayden Revri is not the only man I feel this way about, nor is he the first man I've felt this way about. I've felt "Gender envy" numerous times over the years, as young as 7 or 8 years old (maybe younger, but I can't recall specific instances before 7). Trust me, I was teased RELENTLESSLY for this sensation that I thought everyone felt, and I was chastised by "Well-meaning" adults who wanted me to be prettier, more feminine, more in line with the male gaze (and for many years, I listened even when it made me feel itchy and awful all over). All that to say - it's not your business what my relationship to my gender and sexuality is, but just to be abundantly fucking clear when I say Jayden gives me gender envy, I mean exactly that. I don't mean he's "hot." (He is handsome, of course he is - the whole fucking cast is gorgeous but that's not the point. If it was just that, I would say that! You'd have to be damn crazy to look at Jayden and think he's unattractive, but it isn't his "attractiveness" that causes me to feel gender envy. It's hard to explain if you don't experience it!!! But I'm very annoyed at you right now, anon!)

I find John Krasinski, Rahul Kohli, and Winston Duke hot, but I don't envy their physical appearance, wishing I could just wake up and look like them tomorrow, feeling like I'd be happier if I did - I just think they're hot, straight-up kissable and all that. I understand the difference. Do you know what I'm trying to say here? Do you get it?

All that to say, good god PLEASE do not say this shit to other people. You don't know who is on the other side of these kinds of asks, you don't know their experiences or the unsafe, heteronormative, harmful situations they may have specifically been subjected to throughout their life. Unpack your own biases and bullshit before you hurt someone who actually cares what you have to say.

Oh, and fuck you. You sent this on anon, big bad authority on gender. At least say it with your whole chest on main.

[spineless-lobster]

if one more person asks me about college applications i’m going to burst into tears and rip their face off with my bare hands

[steel-and-fire]

// It's one of those days again where I am extremely perplexed on when people persuaded themselves that 'boob plate' is somehow less protective or effective???

It's just a breastplate shape, your boobs do not go in there, you wear layers of padding underneath, it's thick-ass steel.

Are we willfully ignoring the fact that plate armor was designed to look extremely horny? Just happened to cater to the aesthetics of the male body of the time, due to knights being male in their majority and plate being extremely expensive to make.

[castleofravens]

white activists will be all… “omg decolonization liberation woohoo 🎉” until the people liberating themselves don’t do it in a peaceful/“pretty” enough way for them

resistance isn’t terrorism and i don’t understand why they think they have the right to criticize how someone deals with the fucking ethnic cleansing and violence against their people because peace doesn’t get you very far when tomorrow isn’t promised and giving up means all your people will be wiped out/forced into even more horrific conditions (conditions which nobody should have to live in in the first place)/forcefully assimilated into the majority culture