#gnc lesbian positivity

[chaos-in-one]

Anyways reminder to all lesbians with intricate, seemingly contradictory, and/or otherwise ‘unusual’ relationships with their gender and/or orientation that I love you all so much and am giving you all lil kisses and hugs rn if you want them

-from your local butch lesbian with a very complicated relationship with both my gender and orientation <3

[gender-nonconformity-club]

This was tagged as butch bait, so I presume this is a jest post and I decided not to reblog directly from the original poster because of this. However butches and gender nonconforming women almost NEVER get shown as old in media, and our beautiful middle aged (and older!) butches never get to the public eye!

There is a future for butch and gnc women. We can grow old and be ourselves, without changing a thing. So I present to you pictures of older butch and gnc women!

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Source: Sublime Mutations - by Del LaGrace Volcano

[intersexfairy]

there is no shame in being a queer man. there is no shame in being a femme, a butch, a bear, a twink, etc. there is no shame in doing drag. there is no shame in being an intersex, trans, gnc, or nonbinary man. there is no shame in having sex traits that are deemed "female" as a man, or lacking one's deemed "male." there is no shame in not feeling attraction as a man. there is no shame in having multiple partners as a man. there is no shame in being gay, lesbian, or multisexual as a man. the list goes on and on.

all queer manhood is beautiful. all queer manhood deserves celebrating and visibility and protecting. there is so much joy and freedom inside us, and our existence makes the world a better place. we are not shameful - not in the slightest.

[lgbtqtext]

[erinelliotc]

A few years ago I used to be that annoying "transmasc lesbians don't exist, this shit is harmful and invalidates both transmascs and lesbians" person, and now I'M the transmasc lesbian. Seems like the tables have turned, huh?

I've spent so many months, years, trying so hard to fit into these categories that I saw so many people talk about as if it were the definitive truth, and this shallow and simplistic vision seems to be gaining a lot of attention and traction here in Brazil. Isn't it ironic to free yourself from cisnormativity and heteronormativity and all these binary boxes to find yourself again trying to fit into other boxes and norms that don't actually describe your experience correctly? Because your experience with gender is so chaotic and confusing (as expected of a nonbinary identity, and even more so if you're neurodivergent too) that there's no simple way to describe it. Then when you find out what describes this, people say you can't identify yourself that way because two or more of your identities are "incompatible". I see people treating non-binarity as if it were an exact science, as if it were math, as if it were something simple and logical, as it is precisely the escape from what has been established in our society as the only two possible options, generating countless identities within a gray area outside this black and white vision, so of course it's something complex, abstract and subjective.

EDIT: One of my reasons for thinking this way was that I ignored that the transgender experience and the cisgender experience aren't and will never be equivalent. It's obvious that a cis man can't be a lesbian, but the same doesn't go for transmasc people, and I thought that admitting that was the same as being transphobic, denying the masculinity of transmascs, denying their male identity. I already had a debate on Twitter because people didn't want to admit that trans men and transmasc people in general can suffer misogyny and male chauvinism (as society can still see and treat us as women) because they also saw it as the same as saying transmasc people are women. The identity of trans people is a very complex experience that involves a series of factors that cis people will never experience. We cannot equate the trans experience with the cis experience.

I thought identifying as a butch lesbian was enough to describe my masculinity, but I realized that I felt like it didn't encompass everything I felt, I still felt like something was missing. Preventing and depriving myself of identifying with more explicit masculine identities was actually making me feel bad and dysphoric. So yeah, I've been avoiding identifying with male-aligned identities because I thought that would mean having to stop identifying as a lesbian, and I didn't want that, and I don't really feel like calling myself straight makes any sense.

I have a text in Portuguese talking about my experience as a butch lesbian, and I feel that now it also serves to describe my experience as a nonbinary transmasc (the part where I talk about not identifying with "traditional masculinity", but with a "different type", like "soft masculinity", is directly related to the fact that, in addition to being nonbinary, I don't identify as a man, I don't feel comfortable with the term "man", but rather with "boy"). I spent a few months wondering whether I was libramasculine or boyflux, and I ended up deciding that if I can't identify which one I am, maybe it makes more sense to just adopt both identities, maybe I am both then! I'm tired of trying to fit into supposed rules about being nonbinary. This is exactly how non-binarity shouldn't be. I'm supposed to feel free, not trapped again. My identity is my identity and that's nobody's business.

[sapphos-darlings]

There's recently been some venting and discussion about butch stereotyping among lesbians I know, so let's bring up some things we should all keep in mind within our community.

Here's a reminder that gnc lesbians, butches and masculine women in general are not men or like men.

Masculine women and butches are not automatically tops, more experienced, or into using strap. Our style or gender presentation is not an indicator of sexual preferences.

Masculine women and butches are not automatically dominant either. Projecting your sexual fantasies on us is at best unfair, and straight up sexual harrassment at worst.

Sexualizing masculine women is not a compliment. Masculine style is not an invitation to receive sexual comments from strangers, no matter their sex or whether or not they are also a part of the LGBT community. We don't exist to "step on you" or whatever is the cliche of the month. This is just another side of the "predatory butch" stereotype, born of the same oversexualised image.

Butches and masculine women don't exists for your entertainment. We are not saviors, shields, or knights, we are real people with our own lives and personalities outside the myths and ideals pushed upon us. Even the ideals, while positive and what many strive for, are not all we are. No one can be a knight in shining armor all the time, and definitely not a sacrificial shield. Being constantly put up on a pedestal is very tiring in the long run. We need support and comfort too.

Masculine women are just as wholly women as feminine ones. Femininity is not some innate essence that "real women" posses, perform and like. Not fitting into the feminine role or disliking the style doesn't lessen our womanhood or make us men.

All women, regardless of our personal style and presentation, deserve to be treated with equal respect and humanity. We deserve to be seen as individuals and whole human beings, not as stereotypes or ideals. We want to be seen and heard and understood, because that's how real human connection works.

When others don't see you from their own preconstructed ideas, you don't feel seen or loved. You can't truly know or connect with someone if you've already decided who they are either.

Yes, we are handsome and strong and cool and sexual. But we are also happy, excited, giddy, silly, soft, funny and cute. We are also sad, lonely, stressed, boring, angry, tired and weak.

We are complex. We are vulnerable. We are just human.

[vintagequeer-oceansoul]

the world needs more proud butch women.

[munegirl]

the many shapes, sizes, and colors of women

[genderqueerdykes]

it really is okay to be a girl and to want to be a girl. society likes to tell us that being a woman is undesirable. that women can't be funny, smart, nuanced, or have a personality. that women can't have interests. women can't be this and women can't be that- none of that's true in the slightest- talk to any number of women and you'll see that's just not the case. women are as varied and nuanced as people can get.

it's okay to want to do the "shallow" things that people hate women for. it's also it's okay to want to be a woman who doesn't shave or care about their appearance. it's okay to be a butch woman. it's also okay to want to be hyper feminine and wear very well crafted makeup and well planned out outfits. it's okay to be a smart woman, it's okay to be a funny girl. it's okay to be the weird girl. it's okay to WANT to be a woman and ENJOY womanhood, no matter how you express it, no matter what body you're in or how your womanhood presents itself.

trans women, genderqueer women, intersex women, butch women, gnc women, cis women- it's okay to enjoy being a woman. it's okay to find joy in womanhood. it's okay to be a woman in your own way, too, stereotype or not- even if other people say you don't act like a woman or aren't one- it's okay to love being a woman. it's okay to love womanhood.

[xxcalicofemmexx]

lesboy boyfriend wallpapers!

flag credit: @mogai-sunflowers

Lesboy Boyfriend: Simply, a lesbian who likes being referred to as a boy and a boyfriend

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Source: Lesbians On The Loose ( January 1995 • Issue 61 • Vol 6 No 1)

[intersexfairy]

bears and fat butches... how's it feel to be the masters of gender?

[lgbtqtext]

[haunted-thing]

Image id: rectangular flag with six stripes that are, in order, : dark violet, medium reddish magenta, medium pinkish red, pale yellow, light reddish orange /end id

pt: salilian/end pt

salilian

pronounciation : sah-lil-e-an

a term for those who are gnc lesbians! meant to be a lesbian version of lavenian

requested by anon!

taglist: @puriette , @squidedibles , @idolkisses , @jiiamp

[sapphos-darlings]

Here's to my tomboys, to my masculine sisters, to my fellow women who want to break free from the gender roles.

I see you. I think about you. I want to be there for you.

I want you to know and believe that we are whole and good women. That we are more real than any stereotype, pre-made role, commercial or idol. That femininity is not natural, that we are not lacking or failing, that we are what makes womanhood, and sometimes that looks like us.

What does clothing have on our flesh and bones? What does make-up have on our blood? We are alive, we have voices and brains and beating hearts. We have spirits and hopes and dreams and will that has taken us this far, and will keep pushing us forward.

Every woman has a voice of her own. Of. Her. Own. That means you too.

Raise your voice. Stand tall. Call out. Live.

We are here together, as sisters.