#getting back to fucking basics here with 'calling trans men women is transphobic'

[biracy]

Kind of can't believe I have to say this but "they let trans men into The Michigan Womyn's Music Festival" is not actually proof that MichFest / its attendants "aren't transphobic". In the exact same way that like a survey that says a bunch of cis lesbians would fuck trans men isn't actually proof that those cis lesbians "aren't transphobic"

[gettinontopic]

This is so transphobic like what the hell is this

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[Image Id: A large addition to a tumblr poat reading "Also if I'm going to be honest, passing as a man is also just easier than passing as a woman. The rules to being a man and passing as a man are much more lenient than being a woman or passing as a woman. Trans women have to worry about shit like "I need to wear an outfit that distracts people from the fact I have an adams apple, and not allow people to see that I have shoulders, and learn makeup and basically become a voice actor and etc. and maybe I won't be called a man today" (and if you pass too well and the wrong cis guy feels guilty about being attracted to you, you get murdered meanwhile if you're a trans guy and you wanna pass as a man, you gotta like have short hair and hide or remove your boobs and at this point you can already just go to the grocery store and most people will see you as a man. Once you get facial hair and a deeper voice, most people will just see you as some guy. Like I don't understand why transmascs insist on this idea that they could never really pass. Like the idea that trans man who passes is almost far-fetched. Weird as hell." End Id]

Lets upack this shall we?

1."Passing as a man is easier than passing as a woman"

No it's not. The rules to being a man and passing as a men as strict as lots of rules for women. Have you ever seen a cis guys who fails to pass? They're called names, theyre physically beat, and theyre often ostracized from their cis peers just as fast as any trans person. Cis boys cant even pass half the time by the rules they made. Quit fucking lying about men just magically having it so easy.

Your experiences as passing as a man aren't universal and if you've never passed as one what makes you think it's fucking easy?

Also god forbid you're a black man, or a black man who is into something deemed feminine. Shit I've seen guys call black men women for wearing a damn hair bonnet.

Oh not to mention I'm only a man to transphobes when they can call me a "dangerous black man" only to switch back to tryibg to detransition me by saying "you can just be a masc girl!"

2.Adams apple

While you have to hide yours, I have to wear shit that distracts people that I *don't* have one. Cause, and I know this is wild, if they expect you not to have one for being a women, what do they expect me to have for being a man? Hmm? And if you're a man who's adams apple never came in? I've seen them called girls to. Shit I've heard a guy called not manly for missing his, and he was still in puberty!!

3.Shoulders

While you have to hide you shoulders, I have to do whatever I can to have the.. small shoulders on men? maybe if youre in a "non manly" field like music or art, but I do gym work. I better look likeit regardless of the disability that effacts my muscles growth and development or I am called maam by every guy there. Which sucks btw.

4. Makeup and voice acting:

Trans men also are regularly advised to wear makeup that masculinizes them and do voice training. thats some of our oldest passing tips. thats litterally never been unique to trans women. what the FUCK kinda of implications are you trying to put out here?

5. Murder:

Hey did you know cis guys will murder trans men bc they were attracted to them and then found out they werent "real men" and then kill them. shit cis women also kill us if they find out they were attracted to us and we aren't their ideal man anymore. do u know how men who hear im butch and into women behave?

Fuck right the fuck off trying to tokenize the murder lf trans women while throwing trans men murders in the "that doesn't happen" bin.

6. How many times have we said short hair and no boobs dont fucking automatically gets us gendered correcly!! We have voices that have to be trained, we have muscles were expected to build,and some men even watch the way you walk to guess if you have a dick or not.

Listen to any trans men. any of us for five minutes. those things do not making an easily passing trans man fuck you for lying about our experiences as not a trans man.

7. "You gotta like have short hair or remove your boobs"

Untrue! just Untrue. we also have to preform the rules of manhood really well. ive seen beareded transmen clocked for like so many different other reasons and you wouldn't listen to those men if it would save all trans people lives forever. cis men constantly dig at other men presentation to keep each other in line. Its a regular for them.

Also: not all of want to pass with those features. I deserve to have long hair and not bind and still pass as a man and you suck for defining everything around passing.

8. I don't know why you insist on this idea that trans women never really pass without obscene work (when ive met trans women that admit they have it easy by throwing on a dress and wearing her hair down) and that all trans men who have ascess to transition magically do pass (When multiple of us transitioning have said we dont)

If we can't talk about the ones who don't pass then you kinda can just sweep away the idea we don't face discrimination or danger and that's getting us killed actually.

None of us have said we can all never really pass any who say they can't are usually speaking on their own experiences. Because you want us all to pass so bad you don't care that we don't, and that it gets us backlash and hurt.

Also, if you ever read this, kiss my black ass and go reevaluate what makes you think you should speak on experiences that aint yours as if you're the one with the Hard Cold Facts.

[monsterblogging]

Man, holy shit, this site is engaging in some weird revisionist history about JK Rowling and how people responded when they started realizing she was transphobic and just... not a great person in general.

This whole narrative that Rowling and Harry Potter were promptly sentenced to full and permanent banishment from fandom? It's not true. It's not what happened.

I know this because I was there.

First of all, there was in fact a period of time when Rowling's transphobia was getting obvious (I mean, more obvious than Rita Skeeter), but people just kinda... ignored it. It began when she liked a tweet that called trans women "men in dresses." Her PR people infamously tried to downplay it as a "middle-aged moment," but it wasn't long before she started liking tweets from other transphobes.

When news of her transphobia became widespread, "how do we deal with Harry Potter?" was always a controversial issue, with a wide variety of opinions. There were people basically telling you never to touch it again and for the love of God read a better book, and there were people being like "it's fine to keep engaging with it, just don't give her any money." These two opinions have always existed.

Also, there have always been a number of so-called "allies" who ditched all of their principles the moment a new product came out. A lot of people jumped to buy Hogwarts Legacy the moment it came out, just like a lot of people are planning to watch the new HBO series.

And? If you dig around you will find that people have been criticizing Rowling's racism for years, and practically nobody gave a rat's ass. I unfortunately was not aware of most of this criticism back when it was happening early on, because nobody gave a rat's ass. I do, however, remember reading one article where somebody gave the most tortured apologia for Cho Chang's name. (I was too young and naive at the time to realize just how bullshit this was.) People were really willing to give Rowling a lot of grace back in the day, when they really shouldn't have.

And yeah - if you're one of those people who thinks Rowling is right about trans people, I sure as hell think you're wrong, but I'm not going to try and argue with you here, because I know it won't work. I will say that you're the fucking scum of the earth if you weren't disturbed by her attack on Imane Khelif, though.

[velvetvexations]

Since we're talking about forcefem, here're most of the forcefem-related asks I've had in my inbox, some of which are a few days old on account of technically going in the vexatious tag if not exactly kink asks. I wanted to answer one from today on it's own which I'll get to later but I wanted to get to the older ones and also get to a few of the others from today while I was at it.

i just saw a post where a trans guy was showing some messages where someone was (unconsensually) basically roleplaying forcefemming him. despite him telling them that he did not want that and that it was very much transphobic, and he atill got a message boiling down to "you're not a man, silly, you're a girl :D" and. to be honest. this was the thing that stopped the brainworms of "what if the whole concept of transandrophobia is actually transmisogynistic and i am entirely wrong" bc at least some of these people will just say the most bog standard transphobic shit to trans guys and not register it as transphobia. so why the fuck would they be right about anything transmascs experience also on that note thank you for being so outspoken in favour of transmascs getting to discuss their oppression. it's really helpful to see trans women stand with us here, especially when it comes to aforementioned brainworms

congratulations to that transphobe for creating a new transandrobro

the 'forcemasc isnt revolutionary' shit is the most annoying iteration of stupid tumblr discourse. like im going through the tag trying to read some horny shit and oh look. theres someone being stupid and hypocritical. in my horny tag.

people are getting tribalist about kinks and it's depressing

Every time people are saying that trans men & mascs cannot possibly fathom being objectified & fetishized, I think on all of the posts I’ve seen that did that exact same thing. And yeah, some of it might have been kink, so no hate no judgement I dabble in that tag too, but I’ve also seen “get in the dress” type posts that seem to be genuinely calling for trans men to be more feminine, untagged & in the wild, enough where I’m like — am I just imagining this? Like am I crazy? Am I missing something, or was that extremely detailed post about why I MUST stay feminine — or become more — for someone else’s benefit being 100% serious? And, again — if it’s kink, all the power to them, I love that for them, I even occasionally love that for me. But I have encountered enough people who were dead serious that I sometimes want no one but trusted friends & advisors to ever witness me again. And then I look at statistics & feel genuinely ill. And yeah, I’m gnc — and there’s the rub, because while I feel genuine joy being fem as well as masc, I want it to be a Choice, not something forced upon me.

people need to be fucking normal

Yh like ik a lot of shitposts don't have any tags but people have. Really gotta tag forcefem. I've blocked a large amount of people making these jokes + filtered their names n I still see it

I'm sorry, anon. <3

Fuck thank you so much for talking so openly about forcemasc. I’m so dumb I thought there wasn’t a name for that kink that I’ve been into for years, albeit my version is way more weirder. It would be like a… forcemascfem??? Like first it’s forcemasc and then it turns into forcefem and then right back to forcemasc…. And then back to- Idk my gender is weird and my kinky fantasy for that is weird

Cross as many boundries as you want, that sounds rad. Forcefem has a lot of infrastructure to jump off of.

“I’m doing a kink in a non kink way so it’s not kink blog!” Sorry this pisses me off It’s still a kink. Like. If someone made an I-suggest-BDSM blog and tried to claim it wasn’t a kink blog I’m sure more people would see how silly this is but because it’s the transfem approved virtuous forcefem they just let it slide??? Like. You are engaging in a kink and thats fine. You can say there won’t be anything explicitly sexual! But it will still be a kink blog because it’s a blog about a kink! A kink blog if you will! It doesn’t matter if you’re not getting off to it, it’s still a kink! That you are participating in! On your blog about that kink!

It SHOULD piss you off! It's extremely fucking scummy!

what the hell? for like one solid minute(longer than that but i like saying it this way) all the forcefem on my dash was tagged and i could blissfully not have to see it every other post and then just today i had to unfollow a buncha people for an assload of untagged forcefem :/ like im transmasc i think its understandable that i do not wish to see that anyway hope your day is goin well miss velvet

yeah it's praxis to not tag kink anymore

trfs are perfectly aware what the "force" bit means when forcemasc comes up in conversation

strange how that works

[starr-angelofnarnia]

Accidental Hate

I’m certain I’m going to get hate for this, but I’ve been thinking about something a lot since coming to terms with the election results. Overall, I would say the democratic party, leftists, progressives, whatever name you have for the group is far more empathetic than the opposite side of the political spectrum. The term “bleeding heart liberal” always makes me laugh because it’s said as if it’s an insult. You’re looking down on me because I care about others? That’s not the flex you think it is.

But there is a concerning trend within the democratic party in the U.S. that I honestly think has a MONSTROUS impact on why we are where we are today. Plain and simple, a bad habit has developed of labeling things as -ist or -phobic when they just aren’t. I’m going to share some examples and I’ll start with the most immediate example that has me considering this in the first place.

“Kamala Harris lost because Trump supporters are sexist and racist.” No. I’m sure there were some voters who voted against her for being black and/or a woman. But that’s not the majority. The number one reason cited for voting Trump over Harris was the economy. THE ECONOMY. People are struggling to afford basic needs and they don’t think Harris is going to address that. Now, this is a problem with corporate greed (which Republicans escalate) rather than the economy. But that’s not an issue of race. That’s not an issue of gender. That’s an issue of more and more people struggling to put food on the table.

“But they want greater border control. That’s also racist.” Yes. It can be. But remember that fear about the economy? Most people assume that money that should be going to Americans is going to support people who enter illegally. And immigration in general is very nuanced because you have people here legally but temporarily, people here legally who overstay their welcome, naturalized citizens, people seeking refuge and probably more I’m missing. Concerns that borders need to be closed are coming (mostly) from people who are losing their jobs and struggling to survive. Assuming these people are racist ends up being classist because these concerns are coming mostly from the poor and undereducated.

“Jordan Chiles lost her medal because of racists.” Again, no. Anti-American, possibly, considering the nuances of international sporting competitions and human bias (because the US has dominated women’s gymnastics for decades now and other countries want to break that record). But it’s not racist. And anyone who thinks it is, clearly didn’t watch the competition in question. The medal issue is a problem with the International Gymnastics Federation, the International Olympic Committee, and the Court of Arbitration for Sport. And again, there are so many nuances here (it should not be impossible to earn a perfect 10) that makes it difficult. But to call it racist is a stretch. Especially considering Romania (the team that ended up with the bronze), has called for FIG to give Chiles’ medal back, as it was a clerical mistake.

“I can’t believe people stopped buying a brand of beer because the company chose a trans woman as a spokesperson.” This one really ticked me off because Dylan Mulvaney became popular by making videos with disgusting stereotypes of women. I’ll give her the respect she deserves by using her proper pronouns, but she did cause harm with some of the stereotypes she used. Some of the backlash was transphobic. A portion of the backlash were women who felt their voice was being taken away by someone making a mockery of them.

“J.K. Rowling is trans-phobic.” I don’t know her. Maybe she is. (I mean, fuck, she DEFINITELY crossed a line in her criticism of Imane Khelif). But she’s also had some valid points. There are biological differences in men and women that can be dangerous to ignore. A trans-woman can be killed by testicular cancer. A trans-man can die from uterine cancer. Meanwhile, I’ve been trying to learn about a chronic illness that impacts the uterus because I fear I might have it. And finding information on it has been difficult because it has been wrapped up as a trans-gender issue. A person with the illness might be trans-gender, but to even be diagnosed, they would have absolutely been born a woman. Trans-issues are real, but they shouldn’t be wrapped into women’s issues. Both are dangerously under-represented. And quite frankly, I don’t want to be known as a “person who menstruates either.” Again, it’s complex.

Hatred toward people based on their sexuality, gender, race, ethnicity, religion and so on are very real problems. Behaviors and rhetoric that are harmful to minority groups absolutely need to be called out and blasted. But these problems are being over-labeled, slapped on an issue that is more nuanced. And in this habit of over-labeling behaviors as hateful, we’re exposing ourselves as harboring our own kind of hate: hatred toward the lower class, toward the uneducated. By crying “racism”, “sexism”, “homophobic”, “trans-phobic”, etc. for nuanced issues, we’re unintentionally othering, and being classist and educational elitists.

Bottom line: we cannot fight hatred with hatred. And for a significant percentage of the United States, the declaration of democratic policies are anti-poor and anti-undereducated.

[fuck-customers]

Guess who got radicalized at her Malwart job today?! This girl. ✋(Sorry this is kinda long, tw transphobia?)

I am a cis girl, but I kinda look like a dude. I'm fat but practically flat chested, I don't wear makeup, and when I wear my long hair up I get called dude and sir a lot. It doesn't really bother me, and most people realize their mistake when they hear my voice or notice my long hair (why long hair=automatic girl idk, but whatever). Even my name could be a boy or a girl's, so it doesn't help people's confusion.

I'm a cart returner at Malwart. The other day I had to go to the bathroom, and rather than walk through the whole store to the employee restrooms in the back, I just used the ones near the entrance. No one was inside when I came in, so I went in a stall and did my business. Even sat on my phone watching videos and playing games for a while because fuck the corporate overlords. While I was in there, I heard a mom and a kid come in. Mom was struggling to help them pull their pants down and go potty, kid was fussing and probably in need of a nap. I don't think anything of it and kept playing games on my phone till I got bored and finished up.

When I left the stall mom and kid were at the sink, and mom whipped her head around to look at me like I had just jumped out and yelled BOO! Whatever, I assume she just didn't know anyone else was in there with her. I give her a smile and go wash my hands. "Excuse me," I hear her say to my left. Again, I don't think anything of this, I just assume she's talking to the kid. I dry my hands and leave. "Ex-CUSE me!" I hear behind me as I leave. I turn around and she's followed me out of the bathroom, tugging the grumpy kid along.

Her: Why were you in the ladies restroom?

Me, confused: Pardon?

Her: You were in the LADIES room!

Me, still confused: ...Yes?

Her: The MENS room is RIGHT THERE!

Me, having a realization: Ma'am what are you implying?

Her: Don't play dumb with me! You were in there with me and my CHILD!

Me: Yes, I was PEEING.

Her: In the WOMENS room! You're DISGUSTING!

She's shouting and people are staring at this point, and a member of asset protection (security basically) comes over. Unfortunately, I still look like a dude, and I don't know this particular coworker.

Security: Is there a problem ma'am?

Her: This MAN was just in the ladies room with me and my CHILD! I didn't know Malwart employed GROOMERS.

Me: Holy shit I was in a STALL and I left as soon as-

Security: Why didn't you go to the employee bathroom?

Me: It's at the back of the store!

Security: Well, I'm just saying, people like you should know you make people uncomfortable.

Me: I'M making people uncomfortable?! And SHE came in after ME! I didn't FOLLOW HER in there!

This went on for a few more minutes till security called for a manager to deal with ME, because I was the problem apparently. Thankfully the manager did know me, and helpfully informed them "She's a woman and she's worked here for 8 years you idiot." The security guy ran off with his tail between his legs and the manager let me go back to my job while she tried to calm down the lady.

Later that same manager came to me and said "Why didn't you just tell her you're a woman?" and I said "Would that have mattered to her? She would have assumed I meant I'm a transwoman anyway. Her mind was made up about me," and the manager just shook her head and said "You just made the whole situation worse"

I made the situation worse. I was harassed just because of what I look like, and I made the situation worse. I gotta admit I used to be pretty "well I can understand why some people would be uncomfortable" about trans people, but now? Fuck transphobes. Fuck ANYONE who would treat someone like shit just because of what they look like.

@staff I HATE the new text editor!

[cretaceousundead]

Honestly what even is the point in pride month anymore when what used to be the LBTQA+ community is now literally just the oppression club for bullies?

Trans people aren’t welcome. Transphobia is so fucking accepted now, not only from conservatives but even liberals.

Bi people are on ‘thin ice’, as the saying goes. We’re seen as Queer Lite. Only valid if we’re in a same sex relationship, but then we get told we’re basically gay anyway. When someone comes out as bi, let’s say a celeb comes out as bi, their fans celebrate, but it never comes across like they’re genuinely happy that this person felt comfortable coming out, it’s more like they’re just happy the person isn’t straight, cause we all know the only people gays hate more than bi and trans people are cishet people. Gays celebrating a celeb they like coming out as bi has always felt more like a “oh thank GOD they’re not straight” rather than a “I’m so happy for them”.

Recently I’ve seen LGBwithouttheT trending on Twitter allot, but let’s be real if they succeeded in booting the trans people out they’d start trending LGwithouttheB next.

Growing up I saw the community, back then simply called the LGBT community, as simply a community of people who were anything other than straight or cis.

If lesbians and gays ever succeeded in claiming this so called ‘community’ for themselves they’d start fighting amongst each other as well over whose more oppressed. Obviously the general consensus would be that lesbians are more oppressed than gay guys because “US POOR OPPRESSED WOMYN!!”. So then the fighting would begin between lesbians and other lesbians.

White lesbians vs lesbians of colour. The lesbian of colour would be the winner of ‘most oppressed’.

Then it would be lesbian of colour with mental illnesses or trauma ve lesbians of colour without mental illnesses or trauma.

It will never fucking end.

When I was younger, before I even realised I was part of the community myself, I thought it was just a community for people who weren’t cis or straight at a time when those people often didn’t fit in with people who were cis and straight.

But now it’s the oppression club. It’s not about acceptance. It’s not about equality. It’s not about having a community to feel at home. It’s a “you must be THIS oppressed to ride this ride”.

The LGBTQA+ community barely exists anymore. There’s no sense of community anymore. There’s no kindness. There’s just hatred and bullying so honestly what’s the point in pride month? Why is it still a thing, what ‘pride’ are you people talking about? Because I don’t see anyone with anything to be prideful about anymore. Trans people are referring to as ‘things’ and ‘freaks of nature’. Bi people are either gays with internalised homophobia or straight people trying to be special. Gay guys are oppressing lesbians just by being male. White lesbians are oppressing lesbians of colour.

The whole point of the community was that at a time when we actually were hated or the very least not understood by cishet people, we needed a community of our own to feel at home in and safe.

But cishet people are not out biggest enemies anymore, most decent cishet people support us. I, as a bisexual woman, feel more comfortable around my cishet male friend than I did at the most recent pride parade I went to because I spent half the time there wondering how many of the people waving around rainbow flags spend their free time on the internet being transphobic and/or biphobic, whereas I know that my friend doesn’t care about my sexuality and loves me for me and supports me for who I am however I am.

Speaking of cishet people, I’m sick to death of being told by my own so called community that I simultaneously don’t belong here AND that y’all are the only people I can trust because cisheta are my enemy. When I reality the majority of the bigotry I’ve ever experienced has come from gay people not straight people.

It reminds me of radical feminists telling women that men are the ones we should be fearing while they simultaneously abuse us and bully us when we want female abusers acknowledged or when we even so much as say that we don’t hate men.

You use bigotry by cishets as a way to shield yourself from critisism for your own bigotry.

Where’s the fucking pride? Theres no pride. There’s just hatred. There’s no sense of community or belonging. The community doesn’t fucking exist anymore. So what’s the point in pride month. According to the self appointed leaders of the community, A.K.A the people who see themselves as the most oppressed, pretty much nobody actually belongs in the community. And if we don’t belong here then what’s the point in pride month? Who does pride month exist for?

[crazyalien87]

You're right, that was weird of me to ramble on baout my gender questioning💀. I think what I was subconciously trying to say was that I DO have internalized transphobia, but it is still not related to my og post💀. The og post isn't shaming ppl for transitiong bc it is about cis dudes who don't wanna transition or be not male at all but think they are nonbinary due to not being totally masculine. That is sexist against men by implying they all have to be masculine to be men. It is also not even what nonbinary is about. Nonbinary is about wanting to be something other than male or female, not something other than masc man or fem woman💀.

Besides, how could I not have internalized transphobia when the "community" is full of shitheads like you? Who call any random pro-gnc post transphpbia? Do you know how much I hate the fucking stereotype and public perception that trans people and especially nonbinary people identify that way because of gender roles? Frick, lord knows how many times I've seen people say shit like "i liked feminine things since i was a child, therefore im a trans woman" or "i was a tomboy as a child which is a sign that im a trans man". Like bro. Do you see how sexist that is? Literally defininf whether someone is a man or woman based on gender roles. That's the same shit that conservatives do expect more progressive bc conservatives just say gnc ppl are failed/bad women & men whereas at least these sexist trans ppl dont hate them but still say that failed at being men/women! Bruh!

That is NOT what transness fucking means and NOT what nonbinaryness means either. yet i know if i comeo ut as nonbinary irl i'll just be seen as a "theyfab" with no dysphoria or transition goals who just wants to be special or who thinks im less of a woman because i play video games (i knew that was bullshit since i was a child and was a girl who played video games).

And on top of that, transness is so fucking politiczed by literally everyone like holy fucking shit. i wish i could just look at my dyspgoria more neutrally and decid ehow to deal with it and how much to transition and whatever. But then there are basic conservatives saying im an abomiation and defying god then there are "gender critical" conservatives who demean and infantilize me and say im too dumb to know what i want and then there are sexist trans ppl who say that me being less than 100% feminine is nonbinary even tho that's not why im nonbinary (but that shit confused my gender questioning during 2020 after years of getting gneder roles shoved down my throat from both sexist society at large and the lgbt social media spaces i frequented in the late 2010s - early 2020s). Fucking shit. Oh and im not done there are the "normies" who "accept" trans ppl but only very conditionally, who only accept adult binary trans ppl who transition and still misgender and deadname them behind their backs and would move out of california bc they don't want their future kids to get transed. And there are transmeds who seemed reasonable at first but then they have such strict rules it's actually insane. Absolutely no nuance on whether someone can have multiple types of dysphoria or have it not strongly enough to need surgery and most of them hate nonbinary people! Then there are the "terfs" who, again, actually say the same shit as "gender criticals" but now they also claim to be feminist while demeaning women for their choices that may improve their lives! What the fuck! Then there are tirf who finally agree with me on trans people. But then it's like, i actually came to tumblr to talk aboht lgbt+ and "mogai" stufd and not feminism bc im not an activist so why am i gonna sit here and read all this depressing shit all the time? why do so mamy radfems only post about horrible things that happen to women? i mean i get it but i wanna be happy tho i dont wanna read that shit and have it in my mind all the time.

tl,dr: the og post is not transphobic but sexist shitheads like u in the trans community make us look bad and makes me not want to be associated with it lest ppl think im also sexist and only identifying as nonbinary for sexist reasons imstead of normal reasons.

Infographic about how gnc men can still be men and if a male/amab person id's as nonbinary only due to being gnc that is bc of sexism and they can still id as cis man if they want

This is an edit of the original from this post, which is the same but opposite, it is about gnc women who think they aren't women enough. I posted it in a reblog, but thought it deserves its own post as well.

To be clear, I am not against nonbinary people. I'm just not against gnc cis people either, and I hipe to help people reocgnize the differences between them.

[theygotlost]

FRANCIS. and donnie. and…… 🙈 ezzie… ezzie dax.

jesus christ this is long. im putting it under a readmore

franny:

Sexuality Headcanon: bisexual. I don't think he realized it until his teen/adult years and now it doesnt really affect his life much now since he married piama so young but I can also see him using the fact he likes men as a way to rebel against lois (sidnote i wouldnt really consider lois homophobic if any of her kids came out she would be like "well i believe in equality so I'm going to make all you boys' lives equally miserable regardless of your sexuality. idgaf if you're gay go clean the toilet". um anyway). i just think it would be funny if piama had a celebrity crush or something and she was like wow hes sooo hot and francis would b like yeah he is 🤨😳

Gender Headcanon: i think hes a whiny little cis boy sorry. francisgender

A ship I have with said character: i do think he and piama are cute together :) i just wish she was in the show more and had an actual personality and stuff >:(((((((

A BROTP I have with said character: I like when he's with the rest of his family and gets to hang out with his brothers :) DEWER ESPECIALLY there is something so special to me abt him taking care of dewey and being kinder to him than malcolm and reese are

A NOTP I have with said character: Any other time in the early seasons when he dated a random girl for 1 episode i was like. um ok? but i didnt really HATE any of those

A random headcanon: uhhhh i feel like i should have something prepared to say here but idk. I think he listens to. weezer. fuck this 

General Opinion over said character: FEMINIST WOMEN LOVE FRANCIS. also you already know every opinion ive ever had about francis already but hes so pathetic and stupid I need to squish him between my thumb and forefinger

don of tello lol:

Sexuality Headcanon: HES SO GAYBOY. LOOK AT HIS GAY ASS ANIME GIRL STANCE WHAT IS THISSSSSS

Gender Headcanon: i dont think he is cis or trans i think he is a turtle . i think he can swimming in the water for algaes.  hope this helps

A ship I have with said character: nobody... tbh the ninja turtles are kinda unshippable to me. theyre just Creatures they dont “date”. But im not that far into the show yet so maybe there is another character that he can have a yaoi moment with later. But im not counting on it

A BROTP I have with said character: obviously all 4 of da turtle brothers are awesome together but DONNIE AND MIKEY ARE BESTIE VIBES!! Theyre my 2 favorites and i love their dynamic esp since they get paired up kinda often. I feel like they are the closest to each other out of all of them cause they’re both kind of the “weird” ones. Theyre neurodivergent and a minor. Also i like that donnie calls mikey “michael” its funny

A NOTP I have with said character: theres not really any viable shipping options to like or dislike . other than like the really reprehensible stuff like incest which is just like Why. do you know how sad and upsetting it is that so many tmnt blogs have to stipulate “no incest” in their bio? Can we all be normal and regular please?

A random headcanon: definitely the most online guy. Its really funny to enivision him being like a discord mod and getting into fights with people on reddit. Basically this 👇

General Opinion over said character:  he’s kind so annoying but in a funny and endearing way (much like many of my favorite guys...) but he ourple so that makes up for it. My favorite tutle

ezzie:

Sexuality Headcanon: Dax and all their symbionts are like. Inherently and canonically bisexy

Gender Headcanon: everyone likes to take the “I’m having trouble with my pronouns!!” line out of context 😑 but for real she said “some mornings I don’t know if im a man or a woman until i pull back the sheet” which um... kinda transphobic... we CANCEL the ezri!!!! Jk she can be whatever you want baby. Any pronouns 

A ship I have with said character: MIRROR EZRI INTENDANT KIRA HOT SOAPY BOOBS YURI LESBIAN KISS

A BROTP I have with said character: she has no friends lol sorry. Theres not really any bestie vibes between her and sisko the way there was with jadzia

A NOTP I have with said character: ONE MILLION TIMES JEZRI. WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY!!!! umm also when she started making out with worf i was like fml. That episode got me feeling so worfzia warrior but only because i was thinking “damn i wish jadzia was still here and worf was making out with jadzia instead.” it just feels weird to me 

A random headcanon: idk what do you want me to say. shes so tumblrina.General Opinion over said character: i know ive tormented you enough with the senorita awesome video but that really is how i see her. Im so sorry sam please dont be mad at me but I just don’t like her that much. She’s so #QUIRKY and its really grating. And I know that she didn’t formally complete her training but she is NOT a good ship’s counselor. If i went to my therapist and told her i was depressed or whatever and she was like “yeah sometimes i wanna kill myself too 😋 the #intrusivethoughts are so AWKO TACO!!” i think i would blow my brains out. But in Field of Fire when she was trying to solve that murder case and was hunting down that vulcan guy with a cool gun that was the ONE epsiode where i liked her and thought she was cool. I would like her more if she was badass like that more of the time

[ex-terf-anti-terf]

Hey (don't worry, this isn't anonymous hate). Basically, the past few weeks, I've found myself getting more and more attracted to radfem ideologies. I'm a cis lesbian, and the radfem community has given me something I've been without for a long time: an explanation that doesn’t treat me like I’m a terrible person for being a cis women who asks questions. (part one)

What they say just… feels right, but one of my best friends is a transwomen. I can slowly feel myself starting to hate her because I know that, if I were to discuss any of the issues I’m troubling over with her (like her excessive use of porn, her over sexualization of womanhood, her wanting to be called female slurs, etc.), she would shun me and I would be considered a hateful.

I just want answers. I want the truth. I want for womanhood to not be corrupted or erased by the men who oppressed us for so long. Am I a terrible person for having these thoughts? I promise I don’t hold real hate in my heart towards anyone, but maybe I’m snowballing. What advice would you give me as an ex-terf?

[WOAH this got long. Prepare for many many paragraphs below the cut anon, I am so sorry. Also a TW for a very brief mention of CSA below the cut, as well as two uncensored misogynistic slurs; the b slur and the c slur]

Hey! First of all, let me just say I really do understand those feelings. Even now I still sometimes find myself drifting back toward radfem beliefs, and I want you to know you're not a terrible person.

It sounds to me like this is a friend that you are generally able to confide in and want to be able to confide in. My first thought reading this was 'how can you discuss these things with your friend without making it about her specifically?' It may help to begin with broader conversations about the topics themselves (porn, sexualization, slurs, etc.) rather than specifically your concerns about how they relate to her. If that goes well, then you can gently ease into a different sort of approach, if you feel it's necessary. It may not be, and that's fine too!

I don't know all the details of your friend's life or your relationship with her, so I can only respond to what you've said here, but I do have some thoughts on the specific things you listed.

On the topic of porn, I find that while it's not specifically appealing to me, it is a way for many trans people to both explore and express their identities. I have a transmasc friend who watched straight porn for a while, initially imagining himself in the role of the woman, and one day found that he was imagining himself as the man, and that was his first big aha moment about his identity. It's not always harmful, in terms of creation or consumption, but I am personally still wary of it because I know how harmful it can be.

I find your second example complicated, because again I don't know the details, but I keep getting stuck on this one thought; if a cis woman treated her relationship to her body / womanhood / sexuality the same way, would you have the same reaction? Maybe you would, and that's fine, I just don't know, and it's what I keep catching on. That's how I used to figure out which thought patterns were transphobic when I was taking my tumblr break. "If a cis person did this, would I have a problem with it?" If the answer was no, it was generally transphobic.

One of the worst things radfems did to me was teach me that it's not okay for women to sexualize our own bodies. It really fucked up my relationship to my sexuality for a long time, and still messes with me on occasion. Women are allowed to interact with our own bodies however we want, as long as we don't force others to interact with our bodies -- or theirs -- the same way. Personally, I found that the most radical thing I could do, in the face of a world that wants to sexualize me uncomfortably as much as possible, was to reclaim that sexualization in a way that makes me feel comfortable. For me that meant dresses and cleavage (pre-op, at least) but no makeup and no fancy hairdos. It means different things to my various women friends, cis and trans alike. On that topic, I would advise you to start by asking what specifically feels empowering or satisfying to her about that behavior, before you begin to pass judgments on whether it has value.

In regards to slurs, I do tend to find that a red flag, but since I'm making a very conscious effort to also try and think about where she's coming from, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt. In my opinion, it depends on what those slurs are. For example, if she's embracing the term 'bitch' I personally wouldn't have a problem with that -- plenty of queer folk I know, men and women alike, identify with 'bitch' playfully. For myself, it depends on context. If someone says "hey bitch!" in greeting, I'm okay with that, but it's a whole different ball game if someone tells me "don't be such a bitch." On the other hand, if she wants to be called a cunt, I genuinely cannot see any reason for you to oblige that request, especially if that's a word that makes you personally uncomfortable. (I'm uncomfortable just typing it out and having to look at it.)

A big part of having relationships with trans people as a cis or cis-adjacent person is setting boundaries on both sides and ensuring that those boundaries are mutually respected and enforced. (Actually that's just a big part of having relationships, but I see it especially emphasized in relationships between a trans person and a cis-ish person.) You shouldn't need to use language that you're uncomfortable with or wouldn't use in an ordinary context, and she deserves to feel that her identity is respected. How that middle ground is reached depends entirely on the two of you.

To round this out, I want to briefly address your third ask. I'm curious what answers you're seeking, and what truth it is that you specifically desire. What are the questions? What exactly do you feel deceived by? I also want to gently remind you of two things. First of all, men have been trying to corrupt, erase, and appropriate womanhood for all of history, because they, as our oppressors, don't want us to have any kind of common ground, community, or identity that is independent of them. And yet women still exist, and there are still many experiences that are common among women, regardless of AGAB (assigned gender at birth). Secondly, if you are afraid of cis men corrupting womanhood, infiltrating women's spaces, or hurting women, you are still afraid of cis men. I find it highly illogical to assume that a man will spend several years and thousands of dollars on intensive therapies and hormone replacements and plastic surgery to have a body that he doesn't actually want, just so that he can get into a women's bathroom and sexually assault a little girl. Unfortunately -- and I know this better than anyone -- if a man wants to sexually assault a little girl, he's just gonna do it. (And make no mistake, that is the claim. And it makes zero sense.)

I won't tell you what to do, anon, but I want you to know that there are those of us out here that will listen and support you and respect your viewpoints and even share them without belonging to a violent right-wing hate group. Also, it's okay to be friends with radical feminists and to respect some of their opinions while disagreeing with others. If that helps you build a community where you feel safe, that's totally fine! You don't have to become a radfem to do that.

I'm saying all of this because I feel as though you don't really want to be a radfem. I don't think you'd have come to me if you were totally on board with the prospect. So just know you do have other options. And you can DM me any time :)

I hope this helps!

[genderpunktheo]

Do NOT Support ‘Adam’ When The Film Comes Out

I’ve talked about this before on this blog but this is the most disgustingly transphobic and lesbophobic narrative I’ve ever come across. 

CWs: transphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, corrective rape, voyeurism

The book Adam by Ariel Schrag is being turned into a movie which has been named as one of the most exciting LGBTQ films of the year. You should know before watching that the book is about a cis boy who pretends to be a trans man in order to persuade lesbians to sleep with him.

Yeah... you read that right.

Book plot summary: 

boy spies on his lesbian sister having sex

boy decides to pretend to be a trans man (gross)

i.e. pretends to have a vagina because he thinks lesbians will want him then (he literally wants to fuck lesbians because he watched his lesbian sister have sex wtf)

he does get a lesbian to sleep with him, he straps his penis down using ace bandages and uses a strap on.

all the actual trans dudes we meet identify as lesbians this basically implies that trans men are not real men (lesbians i.e. women)  

another time they have sex again only he uses his actual penis but tells her its a strap on. that’s literally rape, she didn’t consent to an actual penis.

he confesses that he’s been lying to her this whole time but she doesn’t break up with him. she even says its okay cause she fantasised about him being “a real boy"

that’s a direct quote. massive transphobia. huge. not to mention this is now the “lesbian is cured by dick trope” which is disgusting and that trope leads to real lesbians and bi women being raped to “fix” them. 

he leaves new york, they’re long distance. they get in an argument and he calls her a slut and a whore among other things and then she dumps him

eventually they get back in touch and she has a new cis boyfriend so yep, she’s been “cured” woo she’s actually straight and he helped her realise that yay (massive sarcasm)

It is deeply deeply transphobic. To imply that our identities are just costumes for other people to put on erases who we are as people. More than that, to imply it is done to trick people into sex is a dangerous lie that literally gets us killed.

It is also deeply lesbophobic. To fuel this narrative that lesbians can be “fixed” by having sex with a man leads to real corrective rapes happening. 

Here is a review of the book by a trans man. I have yet to find one by a lesbian but will edit this if I do.

This book gives out incredibly harmful notions about trans men and lesbians that are used to hurt them in real life. It’s so entrenched in the narrative that I don’t see how the film can possibly be any better.

I do not say any of this lightly. it’s very very rare for me to call out a piece of fiction or for me to decide that a story is unfixable. But this... there’s no excuse for the bigotry in this. 

I’d like to tell people to boycott it but I can’t tell you what to do. So instead I’m going to ask that you share this because it being named as an exciting new LGBTQ film is going to make LGBTQ teens want to see it. And they should know beforehand how hurtful it could be. They should be able to arm themselves with that knowledge.

Don’t make queer kids see this film believing it will represent them only to be exposed to this hatred of their identities. 

Please reblog.

[entity9silvergen]

I recently asked reddit for some LGBT history from countries other than the US. Here’s what I got:

Germany

The Weimar Republic was surprisingly accepting of "alternative lifestyles."

During the Weimar Republic, Germany had a pretty active LGBTQ scene, with some major films and songs being produced, despite it still being illegal at the time. However, there was also a push to decriminalize homosexual behavior which sadly wasn't passed as the Nazis came to power.

This was based of two factors: after WW1 the authoritarian culture of Prussia sorta received a long overdue pushback. People were kinda sick of it, especially since these losers led them into a seemingly pointless war to begin with. Second: A LOT of men died in WW1 - and the army did not exactly prefer LGBT people. So with a lot of regular folks dead, the percentages of the total populace was sorta shifted. This also pushed the women's rights movements at the time for a similar reason.

Magnus Hirschfeld was helping trans people transition, crossdressers get crossdressing 'licenses', and generally advocating for and helping the LGBT community in the early 1900s in Germany. Nazis ended up raiding and burning down his research institute.

Hirschfeld was a gay polyamorous man. He was one of the first advocates for trans and gay rights but his work was destroyed by the Nazis.

The institute he headed even did the first modern gender affirming surgeries. The institute was destroyed and many people who were there (including the first known person to undergo complete MtF surgery) were killed by the nazis and the place was little more than bombed out ruins at the end of the war.

More information on the institute

Pre Nazi interwar Germany (Weimar Republic)  was pretty open when it came to not only sexuality, but also gender identity. The Nazis put a stop to that & tried to destroy any & all research into either, but, for a brief moment, it was there.

Russia

Pretty sure all Russian LGBT history was erased before we even had a written language, but Russia almost got gay marriage legalized in the first soviet constitution (didn’t happen bc Stalin)

The early soviet period (pre-Stalin) is sometimes called “the first sexual revolution” as opposed to America’s “sexual Revolution” of the 60’s. Broad women’s suffrage, female employment and education, parental leave, advancement of GSM rights & decriminalization of abortion. This unfortunately did not stand the test of time & reactionary sentiment.

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UK/ Britain/ England 

The lead singer of Judas Priest is gay. The commenter’s father thought it was kinda funny because it didn’t match with his biker aesthetic, but the commenter doesn’t think he considered how much leather he wears on a daily basis

Hell bent for Leather was a track off Killing Machine. It was written by lead guitarist Glenn Tipton (who is straight), but it's fun to find alternative meanings in Priest songs. A second commenter likes to pretend a lot of the lyrics Halford sings are gayer than they actually are.

A couple people mentioned how uncomfortable it was seeing Ru Paul interact with British drag queens because he barely knows anything about British culture.

Ru Paul got angry that a British drag queen hasn’t seen the Golden Girls because “it’s gay culture” and then not five minutes later someone had to explain to him who Alan Turing was.

Alan Turing, who was an incredibly noteworthy figure (He made the Enigma codebreaker machine, which broke the code that was used by Nazis during the war and basically sped up the war by a significant margin. He also set the foundations for artificial intelligence, one achievement he was named for: the Turing Test), was homosexual and prosecuted multiple times because of it

Shakespeare was probably bisexual (some of his sonnets had homoerotic subtext/were sent to a younger man). Plus, Hamlet is gay as fuck. 

Sonnet 46 was very gay. Here’s a link!

King James 1st was corrupt and used his position to promote his gay lover to higher positions than he should've gotten. 

The 13 year old king James 6th of Scotland and 1st of England fell in love with a 37 year old catholic Franco Scottish man. The king gave the older man so much free shit that other lords started getting salty and his lover ended up converting to Presbyterianism out of loyalty to his young lover. He also fell in love with a man who ''was noted for his handsome appearance as well as his limited intelligence.'' 

Clearly James was into himbos, and women too.

He had a secret tunnel connecting his bedroom to George Villiers’s bedroom.

His relationship with Villiers was basically common knowledge and a source of much amusement and mockery. He also once said that his relationship with Villiers was equivalent to the relationship that Christ had with John the Baptist

Much more recently, there's obviously JKR and the banning of puberty blockers and Margaret Thatcher opposing LGBTQ+ rights by passing a law meaning you couldn't 'promote homosexuality'. 

Prince Philip was a racist twat (and probably a huge homophobe knowing him).

Gay marriage only became legal in 2014.

The Wolfenden Report was published in 1957, and it recommended the decriminalization of homosexual acts between consenting adults. It was a huge topic of public debate, and ultimately led to the Sexual Offences act of 1967, which legalized sexual acts between consenting men aged 21 or over in England and Wales (sexual acts between women were never explicitly criminalized). Scotland decriminalized sex between men in 1980, and Northern Ireland in 1982. 

For a totally batshit real-life bit of gay history, check out the show A Very English Scandal. It's about a politician, Jeremy Thorpe, who put a hit out on his former lover who was threatening to go public with the fact they had had a relationship. 

Austria

Gay marriage was legalized in Austria about 3 years ago. The worst thing is that it'd have staid illegal if the Supreme Court wouldn't have jumped in and declare it to be unconstitutional.

Austria did have something called "partnership" which was where gay couples could officially register with the state as couples but not receive any of the benefits of married het people

They still have super backwards Transphobic laws requiring for example "real life experience" to get even diagnosed. Basically you're forced to be and live as feminine/masc as possible and a doctor them judges if you're femme or masc enough. It's torture

Australia had widespread, over 60% approval of gay marriage for well over a decade before the government legalized it. The governments were actually going against the people for a very long time by denying it.

Taiwan/ Hong Kong/ Mainland China

When Taiwan recently legalized gay marriage, their official statement was something along the lines that they were casting off Western-imposed values and returning to their own traditional values and the entire western lgbt community ridiculed them in a "if that's what you need to tell yourself" sort of way but it's actually the truth. 

Prior to western colonization, the Imperial Chinese attitude toward sexuality was not dissimilar to Greco-Roman attitudes in that a man must marry a woman to beget legitimate heirs but whatever else he does on the side is his own business. It wasn't until Victorian colonizers came along and imposed homophobic attitudes on China that China started treating gays like abominations. In Taiwan, Hong Kong, and Mainland China, as indeed most of the world, homophobia is a western value imposed by colonizers.

Bonus history: there is an actual saying in Arabic that was in widespread use across the Middle East and North Africa for thousands of years from classical antiquity until European colonization. The saying goes "Women are for babies, [young men] are for fun."

The commenter specifies that this means “college-aged twinks,” not children

Another commenter speculates about when homophobia arose in China and how. They also add that in Rome, bottoms were stigmatized. 

There’s a story of Emperor Ai of the Han dynasty & him cutting off his sleeve for his boyfriend

There is also a god worshipped in Taiwan, the Rabbit God Tu'er Shen, whose domain is managing love and sex between same-sex attracted people. He is meant to be the incarnation of a soldier from the 17th century, who fell in love with an imperial inspector and spied on him bathing, and was tortured and killed by that official because he was offended by the spying. A villager from the soldier's hometown dreamed that Tu'er Shen appeared to him and said that because his crime had been love, he had been appointed to manage the affairs of gay people. The villagers erected a secret temple to the soldier, and people have been praying to him ever since.

South Africa

South Africa became the first nation in the world to explicitly prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation in its constitution. It was also first country in Africa to legalize same sex marriage in 2006. What really set them back for so long was apartheid.

There is some speculation that that Shaka Zulu was gay since he never took any wives

South Africa's post Apartheid constitution was the first in the world to outlaw discrimination based on sexual orientation in 1996.

South Africa was also the 5th country in the world and only country in Africa to legalize same sex marriage in 2005.

Even before that the Constitutional Court ruled that sexual orientation was not relevant when deciding child custody in 2002.

Transgender folks have been allowed to change their sex in the population registry since 2003.

Conversion therapy is not illegal yet and public opinion still needs some work.

Spain

In Spain gay marriage was legalized in 2005, now they are considered one of de gay-friendliest countries in the world. The commenter is a lesbian and has never been closeted or directly experienced discrimination for being a lesbian.

In July 2005, Spain became the third country in the world to explicitly legalize gay marriage, after a thirty-year struggle following the fall of Franco's dictatorship, during which most activism was carried clandestinely (as it was illegal).

From 2007 onwards, Spanish [binary] trans people can legally correct the name and sex fields of their IDs and currently, there's a push for a law that would allow for legal recognition of non-binary Spaniards.

Despite the dictatorship in the 60s, there were cinemas that specialized in gay meet ups. Trans women also had ways to get passports so they could go to the US for surgery.

Ireland

In Northern Ireland, same sex marriage only became legal in 2020 and the leader of the most popular party is homophobic transphobic racist and sexist af. In fact, the majority of the party are but some of the quotes from the biggest party leader are depressing.

Same-sex marriage was only legalized in Ireland in 2015. Homosexuality was decriminalized in 1993. 

When Ireland legalized same sex marriage by popular vote in 2015, it was still something you got horribly bullied for in schools if you were out. Queer people got an apology from the Taoiseach in 2018, for the suffering and discrimination we faced from the State prior to the legalization of homosexuality.

In the case of trans rights, in 2015 the Gender Recognition Act was signed into law. It allows legal gender changes without the requirement of medical intervention or assessment by the state as long as you are over the age of 18. 

Ireland has fines and jail time for anyone found guilty of attempting conversation therapy. 

Ireland has seen a lot of progress in LGBT rights in the last 6 years but even up to the 2000s, citizens left their family members and friends to rot for being LGBT+. It still happens all over the country, especially in circles that are still fanatically Catholic. As the Catholic Church has lost the iron grip on the country, people have become more accepting of the LGBT+.

India

The Kamasutra(ancient text on sexuality etc.) has an entire chapter dedicated to homosexuality

The Arthashastra, a 2nd century BCE Indian treatise on statecraft, mentions a wide variety of sexual practices which, whether performed with a man or a woman, were sought to be punished with the lowest grade of fine. While homosexual intercourse was not sanctioned, it was treated as a very minor offence, and several kinds of heterosexual intercourse were punished more severely.

Sex between non-virgin women incurred a small fine, while homosexual intercourse between men could be made up for merely with a bath with one's clothes on, and a penance of "eating the five products of the cow and keeping a one-night fast"

Milk, curd (cheese), ghi (clarified butter), urine, and dung are the five products of a cow

The commenter adds that this is not a terrible punishment.

The Mughal Empire mandated a common set of punishments for homosexuality, which could include 50 lashes for a slave, 100 for a free infidel, or death by stoning for a Muslim

On 6 September 2018 the Supreme Court of India invalidated part of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code making homosexuality legal in India

Prior to the British colonization of India homosexuality was not all that looked down upon when compared to what happened when the British took over and instituted anti gay laws.

The Hijra (literally means third gender) were seen as normal and have been accepted since long before Christ, as evidenced by the Karma Sutra. The British took videos of them to take back to demonstrate how the Desi were “barbaric”.

Bonsia

In Bosnia, there was a one pride parade that ended with religious extremists ruining it and the police not doing anything. It was supposed to be 5 maybe 3 days long but ended in like 1 or 2.

The Danish astronomer Tycho Brahe mapped out the entire night sky with only his eyes. It laid the foundations of many later scientists, such as Isaac Newton. He was a very rich nobleman, so much so that he owned 1% of Denmark's money. He had a pet dwarf that apparently could see the future, which sounds pretty gay. He was also part of the Elefant Ordning, which consisted of rich and strong Danish men.

Philippines 

Despite many attempts to legalize same-sex marriage, the Philippines still didn't budge. Being gay in itself is legal, but same-sex marriage still isn't.

Philippines ,the most Catholic Country in Southeast Asia, has held the largest Pride Parade in Southeast Asia.

Serbia

Serbia didn't have history from about 16th century to 1800's when the 1st revolt happened and failed till 1813's... Then yet another in 1830's for semi independence from Turks, and full in 1836

During the last lingering Ottoman rule over autonomous Serbia, Serbia was one of the very first few countries to have legal mostly everything... it then got removed with like 3 constitution changes and then it didn't move forward for a looong time

Switzerland

Would you have thought that small, conservative Switzerland was a center of the international gay community during the mid-20th century? The magazine "Der Kreis"- the circle - was the only queer magazine in the world that kept publishing during WWII. It was edited in Zurich and distributed internationally, which often meant illegal smuggling, even into nazi Germany. The magazine's annual ball was attended by hundreds of gay men from all over Europe each year. The whole thing was kept strictly secret from the public, though it was known and tolerated by the police.

The Kreis club disbanded in 1967, as repressions grew heavier after a number of murders in the scene had caught the public's attention. By then, other European and American groups took its place, publishing their own magazines.

They made a movie about it.

More info about Der Kreis

As of today, Switzerland doesn't allow gay marriage. A country-wide referendum will be held this fall on gay marriage.

The commenter speculates that gay marriage will be legalized.

A few people expressed surprise that Switerland is socially conservative and several people explained that women’s right to vote was only place in the 70s.

There’s a movie about it

Turkey

A Muslim Persian (born in modern day Turkey) philosopher/mysticist named Mewlana who is known for his sayings on acceptance and love for one another was gay! He had exchanged letters with his instructor Shams and wrote homoerotic poems to him! In Turkey this is ignored by many due to the country's stance on homosexuality

More information

Norway

The commenter’s hometown and the neighboring town arranged their first pride parade/event in 2017, which is a big deal for a small place and one of the local priests went livid and went straight to the newspaper and social media to condemn it. A local rapper wrote a short and to the point article in the newspaper calling him out for all kinds of things which was a great read. Then to top it off, the priest arranged for a "Jesus Parade" in protest to be held the day before the pride parade. Only like five people walked in it, not including the priest of course because he happened to be on vacation in Spain that week. The pride parade itself was a success though! It's become an annual event. Covid has put some breaks on it though, but they're making a documentary this year about the pride celebrations.

Hungary

Hungary has no same sex marriage or transition rights

Police are unkind to protestors

During “commie times,” being queer was illegal so queer people went to the gulag

Belgium

Same sex marriage was legalized in Belgium in 2003 (right after the NL who were the first in the world). The commenter says that same-sex marriage has always felt possible and she is confused about other countries’ actions.

Poland

Polish president on public assembly: 'LGBT is not people, this is ideology'.

Denmark

WHO took their sweet time declassifying being transgender as a mental illness, so Denmark got sick of waiting and became the first country to stop classifying it as an illness.

Australia

In Australia same-sex marriage wasn't legal until 2017.

Portugal

Portugal is know for having one of the most (if not THE most) peaceful revolutions in history back in the 60's, with only 4 deaths total.

Canada

Operation Soap.

Mexico

To learn more, watch Dance of the 41 on Netflix.

Netherlands

NL was one of the first countries to legalize gay marriage in 2001

Sweden

In Sweden they used to classify Homosexuality as a disease during the 20th century so in protest people would call in too gay to work.

New Zealand

When same sex marriage was legalized, the parliament broke into song.

The song

Other

Homosexuality is illegal in 73 countries, some by death or life in prison.

Only one country in Asia has legalized same-sex marriage: Taiwan

FNAF is older than same-sex marriage in the US

Condor Operation

I think this is some important stuff so please reblog so more people can see! And, if you would like to add to or correct anything here, feel free to do so!

[quillsink]

*comes with help for gender crisis*

what can i do to help my beloved

HI MY LOVE

ok i’m gonna rant now because yeah lmfao-

Okay so first about gender, first I was very lile “hahah yeah i’m totally a cis girl even tho calling myself a girl makes me wanna cry but maybe i’m like ONE percent nonbinary or smth” then i was like “ok i’m confronting this shit head on” and i was like ok nonbinary and genderfloren so masc, nb and fem genders but never fully male or female and then. then i just realise.

i don’t think i’ve ever felt fem in my life-

like. EVER.

and anyways yeah so i might be transmasc?? but idk??

so im think about different neopronouns to see what fits and ahhhh i’m using the pronoun dressing room and there’s some i like idk i’m gonna think about it

also um. NAME. so um. i can handle gender and pronouns i’m having a name crisis tho.

yesterday night i was basically having a crisis over this shit and i thought “what if i changed my name?” and it SCARED me. Like. I felt physically sick over the thought of changing my name and I know that sounds overdramatic but i literally did. Like for example Ive always liked the name Alexander but then I tried it out in my head and i HATED it. i tried other names and I fucking HATED it.

so now here’s the thing. i um, i don’t wanna reveal my irl name for like safety reasons lmfao, but it’s a pretty gender neutral name, right? it’s used across india for both girls and boys.

so i loved my name as a kid but now i’m sorta “ehhh” about it then i realise

i dont need to change my name

i need to get my old name back

like, the name used to be mine. the name was mine when i was just a child, when i was six, seven, too young to really understand the difference between boys and girls, back when i could still pretend i was a boy, back before puberty hit me. the name was MINE. i could hear that name and respond.

when i realised i was trans/nb i still liked the name, because the name was mine.

then i had to hear that name, the name which was MINE, be used in the same sentence as “girl.” Be used in the same sentence as “she,” as “her,” and I started to detest that. Because, yknow, the name used to be mine! It was mine, it still IS mine, but it’s slowly being taken from me. It’s being taken from me because I have to hide.

When I was a kid I didn’t know I was trans, so I didn’t have to hide anything. I was still me, I was the me I showed the world.

But now, I know I’m trans, I’m not a girl, and believe me I fucking LOVE my name but I have to pretend that that name, the name I love, belongs to a girl. I have to have two different personalities, one I show the world and one that’s me, and I use the same name for both.

If I could be out—it wouldn’t be a problem, because when Blue or Nebs use my IRL name, I don’t dislike it. Because they know I’m not a girl, because they know I’m nonbinary, because they use they/them for me, I don’t hate it. But when my parents will say to each other “Oh yeah ask ____ if SHE wants it. Make sure to ask HER to do HER chores” and I feel like they’re talking about someone else and they use the same name. It’s my name and they have no fucking right to use it as though I’m a girl.

So I don’t want a new name, I want my old name back. But I can’t do that safely because of this shitty transphobic world I live in. I cant do that because everyday I have to watch relatives make fun of ”confused men in dresses” who live in the streets, the women i see on the roadsides. Because everyday another trans person is killed in my country, because every day I have to know that my relatives won’t accept me.

And I don’t know what to do, because i CANNOT be out safely here, as someone who is AFAB is a sexist country and I cannot be out safely as a teenager, a literal minor.

So I feel like I’m losing my name, even though it’s mine and always will be. My name is nonbinary because it is mine, and I am nonbinary, but it’s being stolen from me and there’s nothing i can fucking do.

So yeah lmfao there’s that-

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#5

ok, here's what i'm driving at: this epidemic of 'maybe women are SMART ENOUGH to just not be influenced by society in any way :)' arises from the exact same flawed mentality as treating 'Racist' as a noun, as an identity. that a person Is An Racist or they are Not An Racist, rather than existing on a spectrum of benefiting from/perpetuating/internalizing racism.

it's the same fallacy that leads people to mindlessly parrot TERF talking points and then say 'trans rights!' in the same sentence. i'm sure there's a word for this, but if there isn't, i'm going to call it the 'Identity-Ideology Fallacy.' it's treating ideology like a list of The Correct Words To Identify As, rather than the internal system of the things you believe and why you believe them.

'TERF' is on the Bad Checklist, so i hate TERFs! no need to analyze what TERFs believe or why they believe it, because i am a Trans Ally (good), which means i am immune to transphobic dogwhistles! no need to examine my own personal beliefs, because i am not A TERF :)

and

'beauty standards' is on the Bad Checklist, so i hate beauty standards! no need to analyze how they work, because i am A Feminist/Antiracist (good), which means i am immune to internalized misogyny/white supremacy! no need to examine my personal sense of aesthetics, because i am not A Misogynist/White Supremacist :)

are both predicated on this fallacy, and, in case it wasn't clear, this is fucking dangerous. it poisons the well of public discourse, resulting in well-meaning people becoming unwitting proponents of deeply bigoted opinions. and genuine bad actors are aware of this, and will intentionally use the Good Checklist as camouflage- TERFs and other white supremacists are experts at this. it is a foundational component of every left-to-right political pipeline.

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#4

i've seen QUITE a few positivity posts lately aimed at gnc lesbians, along the axis of things like packing, binding, etc, doing things that look more 'manly' and how that's good and awesome, and it is! but yknow what i'd like to see? what i've never, ever seen? some of those posts aimed at... literally anyone else. everyone else. i want to see it independent of sexuality, actually

i want positivity for straight women who pack, who bind, who want facial hair, i want positivity for men who want breasts and vaginas and smooth faces, i want the desire for a certain body shape to be decoupled from gender entirely. i want a culture where there is no assumed correlation whatsoever between a person's gender or sexuality and the kind of body they want

i want queer/trans people fully liberated from the idea that our bodies should 'match' our gender, and that cannot be achieved without fully liberating cishet people from the idea that their bodies do 'match' their gender.

675 notes • Posted 2021-05-20 17:35:29 GMT

#3

Tumblr is such a weird and specific and glorious place. the ides of march isn’t trending on instagram I can tell you that

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potentially hot take: it’s not ‘being fake’ to be polite or even friendly to people you hate and bitch about them behind their back because it’s not worth it to have a public feud with them. that’s just, like, basic social intelligence

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I find it really telling that the people involved in the "dropout needs more transfem rep" discourse are TME/TMA users. Strange that there's an overlap but, should have expected useless tumblr discourse from the tumblr discourse crowd.

lol it's not that strange because it's an entirely invented problem

the way that people try so hard to divide the trans community into a binary over and over and over again drives me up the wall, whether its tme vs tma or the constant lumping in of all trans people into either transmasc or transfems!! like in regards to the whole recent dropout conversation (recent example) someone mentioned that there aren't any transmascs either. Dropout's trans representation is largely, if not entirely, nonbinary people, and yet somehow this conversation is somehow entirely focused around how few transfems there are. but oh no, because (loud sarcasm) transmasc and afab nonbinary people are both tme therefore they're basically the same thing right? and no one cares if i say act as if they're the same thing, right? so stupid.

Tribalism is poison.

I feel so fucking misunderstood right now by someone I used to trust. I literally have issues with splitting and I was fucking open about that, but then they bitch at me for being an evil transphobe because I've come to distrust tme/tma people AS AN INTERSEX PERSON, something they LITERALLY TALK ABOUT THEMSELF. I thought it was a safe space to vent there but now I have one less fucking place to go I guess. 'weaseling out' of what, having fingers wrongfully pointed at me? I vented about that, just to have more fingers pointed at me. fucking christ.

and if that wasn't bad enough my so-called friends aren't fucking bothering to pretend to care either. I hate everything.

hi, same misunderstood anon. 'bully' HA! all I did was express disdain for intersexists, but apparently that makes me a toddler and a 'bully'. how fucking insulting. I thought this person had better reading comprehension than that.

Sounds like they should get fucked.

so many people on the internet just. experience one thing and make assumptions about everyone else’s experience

like. trans men on here who pass or whatever will be like ‘well um ackshually i have never personally experienced any discrimination unique to me being a trans man and also have privilege over trans women so you need to shut up about being discriminated against specifically for being a trans man’

privilege when it comes to trans people is entirely fucking dependent on the person and largely influenced by factors that are not about which direction we are transitioning in

for example. i am a trans man. i am also autistic and mentally ill

(trigger warnings for discussions of ableism, specifically against psychotic people and autistic people, and transmasc-specific transphobia for the next few paragraphs. i will put in brackets when the trigger warning is done)

i am not treated like ‘trans’ or ‘man’ or ‘woman’. i am treated as an animal that does not understand anything and needs to be hurt and forced back into its place because how DARE an animal like me try to sit at the table with people

people assume that i know nothing. i cannot be trusted to determine my own identity. people try to convince me that i’m just genderfluid or just nonbinary

if i got aggressive or angry pre-testosterone, then it was because i am autistic and overreacting. now that i am on testosterone, if i get aggressive or angry, it’s because the testosterone is making me that way

i experience a very specific overlap between ableism and transphobia and the specific ways in which it is weaponised against me tie directly to the fact that i am specifically a trans man

for example, a real interaction: ‘you experience psychosis. you can’t possibly know that you’re trans. it’s a delusion, you silly, stupid woman. you don’t know reality. you’re not a man.’

^ this has happened before. because i am psychotic, and was afab, it’s assumed that i’m unreliable even about my own identity, so they brand me as a hysterical psychotic woman who needs her medication dose upped

another example. ‘no. don’t go on testosterone. don’t get top surgery. you’re ruining your gorgeous female body. autistic girls don’t understand gender, anyway. you’re just a tomboy.’

^ in these interactions, people do the usual anti-transmasculine tirade about ruining my body. except they also weaponise my autism against me, and say that i’m just an autistic girl who doesn’t understand gender and cannot possibly be trans

(trigger warnings end here)

privilege as a trans person is SO dependent on factors outside of which way you are transitioning. i have privilege over some transfems. some transfems have privilege over me. some nonbinary people have privilege over me. i have privilege over some nonbinary people.

i don’t usually experience transmisogyny. none of my transfem loved ones experience the specific anti-transmasculine transphobia that i do. my transfem girlfriend passes better than i do, even though she’s pre-everything. i very rarely pass, even though i have been on testosterone for months. some of my transmasc friends pass while being pre-everything. it all varies immensely from person to person

being a man in of itself isn’t a source of oppression, but it definitely influences the ways in which you are oppressed. some of my transfem loved ones go through the world in much easier ways than i do. some don’t. the level of privilege a trans person has largely depends on things like race, wealth, disability, and environment, among other things. the specific direction in which you are transitioning, from my observation, just changes the stereotypes and concepts weaponised against you. it doesn’t seem to dictate the severity of your oppression. it just seems to influence which specific things people use to oppress you

And they will never, ever want to acknowledge that it's possible for trans people to have privilege over each other in different circumstances despite the fact that most readily acknowledge the possibility for trans men to have privilege over trans women exists and do everything in their power to lift them up in those situations.

"and the cat is there" how is a cat. TMA?????? can anyone explain meowth being TMA. Are we being fucking for real here?

Well, I mean, he is sapient lmao.

TMPickmEs... I'm stealing that now holy crap that's so good...

I'm very funny.

Honestly I'm just so fucking worn out by the whole TMA/TME thing and the "trans women are the only people who are known about by transphobic cis people and the only one who's suffering matters" because I, a (closeted thankfully) trans man, just had to deal with my coworkers going on a MASSIVE rant about how little girls are chopping their tits off and mutilating themselves and getting "frankendicks" and shit.

But sure, trans men are beloved by all and are accepted by the transphobic cis people-

The transphobes at your workplace are probably outraged over little trans girls detransitioning.

happy warless weekend or at least im 80% sure its the weekend rn. my friend asked me for help starting crochet and i got to autism all over the place about it

Hell yeah! Doing things with friends is important.

It’s kinda crazy how so many people are speculating about your identity just because you have opinions they don’t agree with. It kinda reminds me of that one Hamilton fanfic writer who faked her whole identity to win arguments on tumblr, I guess they think you’re the sequel to that or something? Lol

I knew someone who faked being Black, years and years ago. Wild time.

Wait i wasn’t paying attention to the discourse for a second and am clearly behind on the plai/dos stuff, did Aabria actually block her bc of her dumbass “wah too many TMEs” callout??? That’s SO funny but genuinely Aabria (and everyone else) deserves financial compensation for having to see plai/dos’ & her little circle’s unhinged transphobic misogynistic etc takes

that's what she claims lol

honestly completely expected, people like that always melt down when you just ignore them and refuse to engage because at heart they're high school bullies who enjoy knowing they're tormenting someone with a faux-progressive coat of paint and it's incredibly transparent lmao. like sorry you tried to pick on someone who's established enough that you can't utilize your dead blogging website following to effectively ruin their life this time, might wanna go back to picking smaller targets like another trans person with 10 followers online

Aabria is 6 feet and one inch of invincible badass. You cannot start shit with her and expect to win.

Another day, another *** trying to get her followers to at- tack some random disabled guy she doesn't like (totally not because he's disabled…)

Better to block and ignore the feral little idiot. She doesn't have that much of a following and it's always appeared to me even the regular TRFs think she's too mask off to platform.

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you'll probably see this when you get back, hope you had a good weekend! been in a feels mood and gotta pay my rent being here! it's long again ugh

so this is very self indulgent. Frankie with a trans partner. of any gender variant he'd be very cautious, not in a reluctant "You a real woman/man/whatever?" but more "I don't wanna say something so stupid I offend them and ruin my chances" cautious. adding to my previous bi Frankie ask he'd be with any man/woman/nonbinary person and them being trans wouldn't change his attraction in the slightest.

with a trans woman he'd feel more in his wheel house cause he's used to flirting/pursing woman, need a quick course in being a good partner with a trans woman cause there are a slight few differences than with a cis woman but he'd be a quick learner.

now a trans male partner is the part he'd be stumped. not cause the guy is trans nah its cause he's not used to being with a man period. he'd go about stumbling being with any man but it wouldn't deter him from being with that man. again learning curve with trans anything specifics but he'd be such a good boyfriend to his own boyfriend.

extra learning curve with nonbinary partners. he's used to the "only men and women" line but after really thinking he'd see past what he's been taught and understand his partner as who they are; lack there or all of their gender and presentation.

basically Frankie is the best trans ally and fights all transphobes (ง •̀_•́)ง (I love text emojis lol) -🍄

hi babe I’ll be here the rest of the night lol but I do love this

PLEASE Frankie would be an amazing partner regardless of your gender and especially if you’re trans!! he’s hella supportive we know that, and once he learns a little bit more about how to deal with his bf having a period he would be so good about it!! same with anything a trans gf would need

Frankie fights transphobes its true. Frankie doesn’t accept any slander to first of all, his baby, or second or all, literally fucking anyone just bc they’re trans/nb/gnc. go fuck off if you think you need to know what’s in someone’s pants.

also please imagine Frankie with an nb partner. he’d have no clue what to call them (bc he’s afraid of gendering them or using a term they’re uncomfortable with) so he googles gender neutral terms of affection and calls them stupid shit like “my little ravioli” (don’t ask why that was the first that came to mind)