#gendered bathrooms

[robotmechagirl]

Oh my god particle, flippin’ ow. 😣 Bad plan bad plan. Also…

How the flip do I make friends on this dang app? The only people that have talked with me for any length of time have all been trying to scam me. Extra hurtful because one of them started by wanting to paint me, which felt so flattering, until they asked me to accept a check on their behalf. All the validation I felt dissipated . :(

Because I don’t want it to go unnoticed, and my memory is awful, first 6 months HRT completed 🎉🎊🎉 Getting extra weird to use the men’s restrooms. 🥲

[wundergeek]

I'm starting T in a couple days and have been experimenting with packing, and...

From a sensory perspective it's SO NICE and weirdly soothing

But packing outside the house while I'm still pre-T, holy fuck is my washroom anxiety through the fucking roof.

Like last night I was nearly in tears because I took my husband to the theater to celebrate our anniversary and a bunch of lazy straight people were lining up for the TWO all gender washrooms instead of walking downstairs, and they were all giving me funny looks as the only visibly trans person waiting to pee.

And then an usher came over and was reminding people that there are multi stall washrooms downstairs and most of the straight people decamped except for the lazy Boomer Karen in front of me who kept looking at me because now it was very obvious WHY I was waiting.

So now I'm crying in my kitchen because my husband wants us to go to the pool and I honestly wish I didn't ever have to think about gendered washrooms / change rooms again.

[transenbyconfessions]

Yesterday, I was sitting in a restaurant, and needed to go to the bathroom, when I suddenly felt an incredible wave of discomfort at the idea of going to my AGAB bathroom. This has never happened before, so why NOW?

Submitted May 16, 2023

[bunneclair]

Ah yes the 3 genders; male, female, and disabled/family

[flannelepicurean]

Today in Human Experience, me, eating ketchup packets so I don't completely dissociate in the co-working space I go to sometimes when I really need to concentrate, because I was today years old when it really landed on me how much I hate gendered bathrooms.

Work is already driving me into the dark, but I needed to pee right when EVERY SINGLE PERSON in the building was also in the women's room. And I just did the old "Hunch down and don't make eye contact and kinda pretend you're not there, or maybe a butch lesbian, just play it real cool," and bailed ASAP.

And it's not that I think I'm going to get arrested, personally. I still have tits, I can still up-speak to "Stacy with customer service" pitches, if necessary. But I have begun to feel, really deep-down FEEL, that this is NOT MY SPACE.

But I'm terrified, absolutely TERRIFIED, of taking that first trip to the men's room. Tight chest and heavy breathing and stomach churning terrified at just the thought. Because it's NOT MY SPACE. And I've spent my whole goddamn life being conditioned with ideas about what happens to people with parts like mine who go into NOT THEIR SPACE, or who just...try to exist, because when it comes down to it, the whole fucking WORLD is NOT THEIR SPACE. That's a whole other conversation, and I don't have the time or bandwidth to unpack it here.

But like...cis people who are up in arms about trans people in "your" bathrooms, this is what it actually looks like, sometimes. I'm not tryna bother you or anyone else, I'm trying not to have a mental breakdown when I have to fucking pee.

[micahthemoon]

December 29 2022 I went to the cinema alone to watch Puss in Boots today. This will not what I talk about, instead I will rant about an old classic: the bathroom. I spend seconds debating whether I should go to the bathroom that fit more closely to my gender identity, run to the basement where the disabled bathroom was or take the female bathroom. I took the latter. It is interesting that my mind finds this to be the safest options when all videos of trans people being harassed has been in the female bathroom.

[mrmeckerd]

IDGAF WHAT THE GENDER MARKER IS ON THE BATHROOM AS LONG AS THIS GERARD WAY LOOKING MOTHERFUCKER DOESNT HEAR MY DIARHEA

[bluebrryice]

It's rly fucking funny how the research lab from my city's uni has a "women's bathroom", a "men's bathroom" and one labeled "humans" with a dragon painted on it.

I know they don't mean anything by it, but it's so hilarious.

[loachfriend]

[mr-kiwi-the-wizard]

Its strange seeing people on here wanting to abolish gendered bathrooms

We don't have gendered bathrooms at our work just a big external toilet block that functions as a bathroom. Yet the only woman tl step inside is the cleaner and she won't go in if any section of the room (including stalls) is occupied.

No, instead they get a special key to use one of three single person bathrooms instead. Which is more effort but I'd the choice always picked on purpose.

I'm fairly certain they don't want men in the same bathroom as them. You could add a "woman's only" bathroom and an any all bathroom and it'll change nothing for the abolitionists or the general public.

[bread-tab]

was just going through some old photos and found this: one of the most confusing set of restrooms i've ever personally witnessed. this was somewhere in either utah or nevada i don't even remember

[yrsonpurpose]

red, white & royal blue script easter eggs

[jetsi]

Most fucked up chocolate i have ever seen

[micahthemoon]

January 13 2023 As I told my friend, when you are transgender, you don’t need to jump out of a plane to get an adrenalin rush: just go into the bathroom matching your gender. I swear, sneaking into the men’s bathroom made my heart sit in my throat and so when two guys arrived when I was washing my hands all I could do was put my head down and hope none would talk to me or call me out. It is ridiculous, that it must be this scary. And yes, it was once again in the context of going to the cinema.

[ao3-shenanigans]

Honestly? My gender is whatever line to piss at the gas station reststop is shortest