#gendered bathrooms

[robotmechagirl]

OH MY FUCKING GOD PARTICLE

There was no tp in the stall in the women’s room and I got trapped there

I was scared to ask for tp because it was a mom and her daughters

I was worried I was gonna get clocked if I spoke, seen as a predator, and then stuck in a confrontation in a very vulnerable position and place.

[cr1zz0]

god... i hate urinals...

[throwsoupatthewindow]

Me: I have to pee. I'll use the women's bathroom since it's the closest.

Brain: No, you can't do that. You're not a woman.

Me: OK, I'll just use the men's then.

Brain: Nope. You're not a man.

Me: Oh alright I'll use the accessible bathroom then since it's neutral.

Brain: No you can't do that either. You don't have a physical disability.

Me: Well what the fuck am I supposed to do then, pee on the floor??

Brain: *shrugs*

[wundergeek]

I'm starting T in a couple days and have been experimenting with packing, and...

From a sensory perspective it's SO NICE and weirdly soothing

But packing outside the house while I'm still pre-T, holy fuck is my washroom anxiety through the fucking roof.

Like last night I was nearly in tears because I took my husband to the theater to celebrate our anniversary and a bunch of lazy straight people were lining up for the TWO all gender washrooms instead of walking downstairs, and they were all giving me funny looks as the only visibly trans person waiting to pee.

And then an usher came over and was reminding people that there are multi stall washrooms downstairs and most of the straight people decamped except for the lazy Boomer Karen in front of me who kept looking at me because now it was very obvious WHY I was waiting.

So now I'm crying in my kitchen because my husband wants us to go to the pool and I honestly wish I didn't ever have to think about gendered washrooms / change rooms again.

[transenbyconfessions]

Yesterday, I was sitting in a restaurant, and needed to go to the bathroom, when I suddenly felt an incredible wave of discomfort at the idea of going to my AGAB bathroom. This has never happened before, so why NOW?

Submitted May 16, 2023

[bunneclair]

Ah yes the 3 genders; male, female, and disabled/family

[flannelepicurean]

Today in Human Experience, me, eating ketchup packets so I don't completely dissociate in the co-working space I go to sometimes when I really need to concentrate, because I was today years old when it really landed on me how much I hate gendered bathrooms.

Work is already driving me into the dark, but I needed to pee right when EVERY SINGLE PERSON in the building was also in the women's room. And I just did the old "Hunch down and don't make eye contact and kinda pretend you're not there, or maybe a butch lesbian, just play it real cool," and bailed ASAP.

And it's not that I think I'm going to get arrested, personally. I still have tits, I can still up-speak to "Stacy with customer service" pitches, if necessary. But I have begun to feel, really deep-down FEEL, that this is NOT MY SPACE.

But I'm terrified, absolutely TERRIFIED, of taking that first trip to the men's room. Tight chest and heavy breathing and stomach churning terrified at just the thought. Because it's NOT MY SPACE. And I've spent my whole goddamn life being conditioned with ideas about what happens to people with parts like mine who go into NOT THEIR SPACE, or who just...try to exist, because when it comes down to it, the whole fucking WORLD is NOT THEIR SPACE. That's a whole other conversation, and I don't have the time or bandwidth to unpack it here.

But like...cis people who are up in arms about trans people in "your" bathrooms, this is what it actually looks like, sometimes. I'm not tryna bother you or anyone else, I'm trying not to have a mental breakdown when I have to fucking pee.

[micahthemoon]

December 29 2022 I went to the cinema alone to watch Puss in Boots today. This will not what I talk about, instead I will rant about an old classic: the bathroom. I spend seconds debating whether I should go to the bathroom that fit more closely to my gender identity, run to the basement where the disabled bathroom was or take the female bathroom. I took the latter. It is interesting that my mind finds this to be the safest options when all videos of trans people being harassed has been in the female bathroom.

[e-rated-beardo]

I'm seriously trying and failing to figure out which of them is even supposed to be which. Am I supposed to be like "ah, left one is wider at the base, that looks like a skirt, only girls can wear skirts (as we all know), must be the ladies'" or am I supposed to go "ah, left one has its 'legs' spread, only boys can sit with their legs spread (as we all know), must be the gents'"?

Genuinely I can't decide which outdated stereotype is the more likely answer here 😂

[robotmechagirl]

Oh my god particle, flippin’ ow. 😣 Bad plan bad plan. Also…

How the flip do I make friends on this dang app? The only people that have talked with me for any length of time have all been trying to scam me. Extra hurtful because one of them started by wanting to paint me, which felt so flattering, until they asked me to accept a check on their behalf. All the validation I felt dissipated . :(

Because I don’t want it to go unnoticed, and my memory is awful, first 6 months HRT completed 🎉🎊🎉 Getting extra weird to use the men’s restrooms. 🥲

[redactedonyt]

My family shops at a Fresh Market sometimes (we typically shop at a Kroger, but the Fresh Market has better produce most of the time) and at the front they have 2 bathrooms, as most places do. These bathrooms are both individual and are both handicap accessible because of their size. Despite them being individual, they are gendered.

As you all probably know; I am trans, yet I use the woman’s restroom unless they’re individual, so I just say fuck it and go in the men’s cause why the hell not. This bathroom is exactly the same as the woman’s just with no changing table. So, I raise you dear reader; why the fuck have genders on the bathrooms if they have no discernible difference! I don’t need to feel anxious about making some poor dude uncomfortable that a person with a vagina is in his space if the bathrooms aren’t gendered in the first place! Let me live my life guilt free in one more store god damnit!

[renard-rogue]

The real reason bathrooms are gendered

Because if they weren’t, men would realize it was a lie about women never pooping 😱

[momiji-kitsune]

[IMAGE ID: A digital comic by Sophie Labelle with four panels.

The first panel contains a drawing of four toilets with two rolls of toilet paper and one empty roll of toilet paper on the ground in front of them. One of the toilets has a small patch of waste under the toilet seat and another has a large batch of waste at the base of the toilet. There is text at the top of the panel that reads: "How she people imagine gender-neutral public bathrooms:"

The second panel contains a drawing of four individual bathrooms. Each bathroom is a seperate room. Two of the bathrooms have a green circle above the door handle, indicating they're open. One of the bathrooms has a red circle above the door handle, indicating it's closed. There is text at the top of the panel that reads: "What a gender-neutral public bathroom actually looks like:"

The third panel contains a drawing of one of the individual bathrooms with its door open. Inside the bathroom, there is a clean toilet to the right with toilet paper hanging on the wall beside it and a sink to the left with a paper towel dispenser above it and a soap dispenser to it's right. There is text at the top of the panel that reads: "A collection of fully-enclosed stalls, ideally with soap and a sink. I don't want going to the toilet to be a social experience, thank you."

The fourth panel contains a drawing of a building, presumably a school building, with 5 people walking in the bottom half. Three individual bathrooms are located in the bottom right corner of the panel. There is text at the top of the panel that reads: "Gender-segregated spaces, especially in schools, are where violence and bullying occur. Gender-neutral bathrooms are the safer and inclusive option." /.End ID]

[flint9]

You know things are going great when the first place I managed to get a definitive answer about whether trans people where I live can legally go to bathrooms for the gender they identify as was a transphobic blog complaining about that fact. Every news article I tried to access on the topic paywalled me out of being able to learn valuable information about my legal rights, and the search engine didn't filter things in any useful way. I found numerous articles talking about state laws for states I didn't live in despite me going as specific as to mention my city...

[the-one-who-died-at-the-end]

I fucking love University. But more than that I live University's Bathroom culture, because even tho the bathrooms are separated no one gives a shit about which one they use.

You see a bathroom? You go in there.

There is no time for fucking gender Kayla.