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Well, I'd say it has a big part to do with me being anattractional. So, like, fully aspec (aemotional, aphysical, and atertiary). I just don't understand love (and what it feels like) enough to resonate with that emotion. I may care for family and friends, but that's really because of the time I've spent with them than any love for them. I also don't like the way society typically portrays love, so even if I wasn't anattractional I'd probably still identify as loveless.

Can loveless aro/aces explain to me why/how they are loveless? Not that I don't think y'all are real, I just want to understand further.

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"I don't have pronouns"

tl;dr a terf said "I don't use pronouns" and I took it personally - as a dumb transphobe gotcha and also as a phrase I am stealing it's mine now because I'm agender and it's more true for me than a garden variety bigot who thinks they're being clever

I just watched an amazingly frustrating video "debate" with a particularly irritating and stupid terf (you can't walk into a debate and expect "some trans people I know" to hold up when asked for a source), but the section from the very start is what I've been pondering. It starts with the host asking for name/age/pronouns, and of course the caller responds that "I do not have pronouns," which strikes me as being an absolutely bananas way of answering the question.

What does it mean to "have" pronouns? "Have" implies something attributed to yourself, something that belongs to you - having a name, a sense of humor, hair of a specific color, a favorite food, preferred outfits. These things aren't necessarily meaningful to you or unique, they are mostly descriptors when used by other people. Pronouns are a general descriptor in the sense of indicating a gender based in which one is used - he/him for male/masculine, she for female/feminine, they for neither/unknown*.

This is what strikes me as odd, because the terf almost certainly does have pronouns by this understanding. So what was meant by "I don't have pronouns?" I assume that, since I've heard of the insult "pronoun-haver", it refers to using pronouns that don't necessarily reflect your "biological truth". And because gender, sex, and pronouns all describe the same thing**, a terf would not "have" pronouns, the terf would simply be a him or her.

Which still doesn't answer the question of what pronouns you use, but of course you shouldn't have to ask what pronouns you use, they must be assumed by your presentation. If pronoun use is incorrect, then it's an honest misunderstanding but also probably your fault for not presenting the correct answer obviously enough. (this paragraph is deeply sarcastic).

There's a much larger conversation I could get into about transphobes using language that isn't widely understood outside their own circles (a both sides problem, tbf), but my complaint is with a terf using "I don't have pronouns." And also this post got too long anyway.

The host of the video assumes "I don't have pronouns" meant "I don't use pronouns" (and makes a very heavy point of expressing how stupid that statement is). This annoyed me a bit because that's not what the terf said, but I also can't fault him because he's a streamer taking volunteers up for debate, and you get what you get when you don't use clear answers after volunteering to debate.

I wanted to use "if you can't answer as simple a question as 'name, age, pronouns' then you shouldn't be offering to debate someone" in that last section. I didn't because I realized while typing that I, personally, can't answer a question as simple as "what pronouns do you use". It's been coming up more often as I've been more openly presenting as agender/nonbinary, and I never have a good answer besides "no strong preference", or "she/her is fine" for a less outing response. I don't find any of the options particularly meaningful (except as an indicator that I am not necessarily being read as "woman", which is very cool and awesome).

I also don't find she/her harmful - it's like being called [incorrect pronunciation of my legal name that I've been hearing for 27 years and have grown used to]; that's not me, but I understand you're talking to/about me, even if it isn't right. Unlike [incorrect pronunciation], however, I don't have something to correct people with if I'm called she/her. I can't tell if I actually like they/them or he/him better or if I only enjoy the novelty of being referred to that way.

To get to the point I think I wanted to make, terfs/transphobes using "I don't have pronouns" is stupid and unclear to anyone who isn't them, and that's why I'm reclaiming it for me and the other agender people who don't have preferred pronouns. "I dOn'T hAvE pRoNoUnS" yes the fuck you do go to hell I don't have pronouns.

*and a variety of others for more specific gender identities, but the subject of conversation is terf logic, we know they aren't using alternative/neo pronouns (except maybe for it/its)

**which, by transphobe logic, is what's in your pants

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Love my dad's thinly veiled aphobia (transphobia????). Talking about pronouns and changing names and the way people dress. Boasting (bragging? making a point???) to me about how my sibling said it was okay for him to call them by she/her when they use they/them. Telling me that his cousin's "son" has changed "his" name, and then getting confused when I go: "Oh, so she's a girl, right" because she goes by Alexi and uses she/her pronouns and is a fucking girl dad.

Saying that I'm a girl because I dress like one (clothes are cloths. the only reason you think my clothes are feminine is because they're commonly worn by women). Saying that I "choose to believe that" when I go: "Well, regardless of what you think, we can both agree that I'm not a girl (agender)." It's like he's saying: "There, there, sweetie. You can play make-believe with your silly gender stuff. You're always going to be a girl, no matter what you say". Get fucked.

I hate how I have to keep a cordial relationship with him. I cannot support myself financially and I need his help with that. But he is a bigot who refuses to try and change and learn and even acknowledge that his children aren't female (as if he hadn't tried to force my mum to have a third child, despite her being mid-30's and having health issues, just so he could try for a son. he never wanted daughters, but he can't stand the idea of us not being girls).

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i’m so glad earth only has one moon, if there were more i’d have to pick a favorite and that sounds too emotionally taxing to even fathom

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I know that many people have shared the Shehab family's old campaign, which was recently frozen by GoFundMe after raising more than €78K in donations. (See this post for information.)

They now have a NEW campaign, the link above, but because they had to start over, as of 11:30 GMT on 14 November 2024, they are only up to $1,005 CAD / $100,000 CAD.

Fahed (@fahedshehab-new) and Reem urgently need to get a new tent that will keep their children warm in the winter. (Their current tent will not.) The Shehabs have set a short-term goal of $5,055 CAD for this purpose. Right now, the family still needs at least $4,050 CAD (around $3,000 USD) to reach this short-term goal. (The odd amount is to make sure they can cover the transfer and bank fees.)

Please help!

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Hello, I'm Hanan I write to you with a heart weighed down by sorrow and embarrassment.😓

The war has destroyed our lives, we are living in a worn-out tent, facing hunger, cold, and illness.💔

My baby Yaseen is suffering from severe infections, and my elderly mother-in-law can no longer walk after a coma caused by anemia.😥

Our health is deteriorating, and the bombings do not stop; we have already lost many of our relatives and loved ones.😢💔

All I ask for is a chance to save my family. We urgently need Blankets and clothes to keep us warm and buy a winter tent to protect us from the rain and cold, in addition to medicines for Yaseen and my mother-in-law, which cost $60 weekly. Please, help us as much as you can. 🙏🥺

Watch my story, Short Video: https://bit.ly/3Uz4vn9

Donation link: https://gofund.me/b905b50e 🕊️

Or vio PayPal: https://bit.ly/3C9TPFi

This campaign is vetted by @gazavetters, and my verified number is (#152)

Please donate if you can (literally any amount of money would help). If you can't please consider sharing either this post or a post from Hanan's blog.

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To cope with the harsh reality of our daily life, we find ourselves trying to make the best of food that should otherwise be deemed unfit for consumption. Flour, often infested with weevils and carrying a musty odor, is made palatable only by adding vanilla and cinnamon. Even more challenging is the fact that we must cook using firewood, as basic resources are scarce. This experience underscores our resilience and the harsh conditions we face to provide even the simplest meals.

"In challenging times, we all need the support of others to find the strength to move forward. Cooperation and mutual care are what help us overcome hardships and rebuild hope."

https://gofund.me/9b771289

Vetted by @gazavetters 105, @gaza-evacuation-funds 330

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Help Family Raghad🙏🏻🍉

Hello everyone! My name is Raghad and I am from Gaza. I am currently in my third year of university at the Faculty of Dentistry in Egypt. Before the genocide, I relied on paying my tuition fee ($3000) from my father. Now, our home in the Gaza Strip in the Khan Younis area has been destroyed. Throughout the genocide, my dear father lost his job, which was our source of livelihood, and all of our financial resources became inaccessible.

Currently, my mother’s family (my mother’s brothers and sisters and their children) and my father’s family (my father’s brothers and sisters and their children) are all in the Gaza Strip in an area called Al-Mawasi. All of them live in tents and are struggling everyday to survive.

Living in Egypt has increasingly been difficult for me and my family. 5 months ago, my family (my mother, father, three sisters and one brother) evacuated from Gaza and are struggling to pay our rent and daily expenses. My brother,@mahmoud-sd who is still studying high school online, needs $100 per month for his tuition. My three sisters, who are also in school, each require $100 per month for their tuition.

Due to the harsh living conditions and the extremely high cost of living in Egypt, we must pay $150 per month for rent. Additionally, we face great difficulty in meeting our obligations, as my family’s monthly expenses are approximately $600, covering high prices for food, water, electricity, gas bills, and medical expenses for my grandmother.

In conclusion, I need about $20,000 in total to cover me and my family’s Here are the details:

>>>FAMILY NEEDS<<<

*Housing and Daily Expenses*:

  - House rent: $150 per month

  - Monthly family expenses: $600 (includes high prices for food, water, electricity, and gas bills)

  - Medical expenses for grandmother

*Education*:

  - Brother’s high school tuition: $100 per month

  - Three sisters’ school tuition: $100 per month each

*Extended Family*:

  - Mother’s family and father’s family in Gaza (Al-Mawasi area) living in tents and struggling to survive

>>>EXPENSES FOR RAGHAD<<<

*University Tuition*:

  - Previous academic year: $3000

  - Current academic year: $3000

  - Total tuition fees: $6000

*Dental Supplies*:

  - Cost: $300

*Daily Living Expenses*:

  - Monthly expenses: $100

Everything we have in Gaza has been destroyed. I know that you have unconditional love for the people of Gaza and that you support us.

Donate if$20. if you can't donte, share my story,please! l need your donate to help me and my family🙏🏻😥

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hi, don't scroll. i'm coming at you with a list of palestinian fundraisers who very, very urgently need our help. please donate if you can, and reblog to boost. thank you!

najah al-haila, vetted by gazavetters (#49), 4,192€/80,000€

youssef alaa al-yazji, vetted by gazavetters (#87), 20,839kr SEK/200,000kr (1$=10kr)

dima rashed al-dahdouh, unvetted but RIS is clean, 506€/30,000€

heba's family, vetted by association through safaabed8, 2,920€/40,000€

siraj abu dayyeh, #219 on the vetted gaza evacuation fundraiser list, $89,084 CAD/$150,000

ola's family, #205 on the vetted gaza evacuation fundraiser list, $57,887 USD/$85,000

nour alanqar, vetted by 90-ghost, 23,757€/40,000€

ola ferwana, vetted by gazavetters (#60), 10,782€/35,000€

belal salem, vetted by 90-ghost, $1,276 USD/$20,000

abood and his pregnant wife, vetted by mohiy-gaza, $22,314 USD/$40,000

youssef al-habil, whose son has recently been hospitalized on account of a respiratory illness, #406 on the butterfly project list, 23,774€/30,000€

abdulsalam al-anqar, vetted by gazavetters (#4), 8,228€/50,000€

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Emergency: Help Evacuate My Family From GAZA WAR

Dear Humanity,

I'm Haya from Gaza , from a family of 8 people: my parents, two sons, and four daughters (two of them suffer from allergies).

I've witnessed the evidence of the tragedy that has struck our lives in Gaza, where my family and I have survived amidst numerous previous wars. But today, we face the most dangerous and fierce battle in the current war. The urgent need intensifies for us, as we have nothing left and are unable to secure our basic needs such as food, water, and safe shelter.

Here is our story - On October 7th, our lives changed forever, my family and I evacuated from northern Gaza to southern Gaza, hoping to return soon, but it wasn't meant to be. Our home was surrounded, burned, and then completely destroyed, Our home, once a fortress of hope, now lay in ruins, a stark reminder of our shattered dreams.

The night before we left from the north to the south was terrifying. Shelling sounds were everywhere, making a loud noise that felt like it went through our souls. Every explosions shook the ground like earthquakes, sending shockwaves of fear through our trembling bodies. filling us with fear. The air smelled of destruction and blood, making it hard to breathe. When dawn came, we saw the devastation around us, realizing our home was now a symbol of loss and despair.

We ran into the streets and with each step we took into the unknown streets, we felt as if we were plunging deeper into the abyss of our shattered existence, leaving behind everything we own in our home: Clothes, important official documents, the car, and literally it's almost everything - the enormity of our loss weighed heavily upon us.

Our home it was where we found hope, safety, and made precious memories. Losing it felt like losing years of our lives, leaving us adrift amidst the wreckage of our shattered existence.

A brief video depicting the devastation that struck our home and our entire neighborhood in Gaza.

Desperate Plea: Escaping Gaza's Allergy Nightmare

I, Haya, suffer from severe allergy to penicillin-derived medications, and my sister, Amal, also suffers from severe allergies to medications from my family such as Paracetamol and Ibuprofen.

These allergies create a deep sense of fear and anxiety for us, as we live in a constant state of tension and fear of anything that may require a visit to the hospital. We fear being given inappropriate medications due to the unavailability of suitable treatments in Gaza because of war or lack of awareness and not informing the doctor of our allergies, which could lead to serious consequences threatening our lives.

MY Father Income

Our dreams are heading towards oblivion in the labyrinth of an uncertain future

My story, along with my siblings, represents a united team of four individuals, three of whom are skilled programmers and one graphic designer. We work as freelancers in the world of freelancing.

As for my younger sister, she is a student studying at the College of Architecture. She has always carried a big dream in her heart, a dream of being part of changing Gaza, of making it more beautiful and better. She looked forward to the day when she would receive her degree and start building this dream. But the beginning of the war changed everything. The destruction of infrastructure and universities cast shadows of despair over her dreams.

When I think of my brother in Belgium, I can't help but feel deep sadness. He has been suffering from unbearable anxiety and insomnia since the outbreak of the war. Sleep eludes him at night, and his physical and mental health collapses under the weight of these heavy burdens, negatively affecting his performance at work. Problems and challenges pile up in front of him without the slightest opportunity for rest.

We all feel psychological pressure and extreme anxiety. The war hasn't been limited to external attacks but has deeply infiltrated our daily lives. We search among the rubble for a little safety and the basic resources for survival. Every day comes with a new challenge that we must overcome.

As we sway amidst the rubble of shattered dreams, our souls wrestle and our hearts beat strongly challenging the ravages of war.

Our parents earnestly seek a way to rescue us from this hell, feeling the heavy responsibility for every moment we spend under the shadows of fear and destruction. They dream of a safe place where they can build for us a better future, filled with security and hope, for we deserve life in all its meanings of comfort and peace.

Perhaps this fundraising campaign represents a light in the midst of darkness, it is indeed the only hope we cling to firmly.

I appeal to the world as a whole to hear my cry and the mournful cry of my family in Gaza. We need the helping hand that reaches out to wipe our tears and build a bridge to safety.

Your donation is not just a donation; it's an opportunity to rebuild life and brighten a better tomorrow. Be part of our hopeful story, for we need your hand to start anew.

The purpose of the fundraising campaign

The goal of this fundraising campaign is to rescue my family - my parents, my siblings, and me - through the Rafah Crossing to Egypt, which currently requires $5000 per person. This campaign is our only chance to stay alive, and I humbly request your assistance at this critical time. I will provide you with a comprehensive breakdown of the expenses, committing to transparency and clarity.

All of our important links are here https://linktr.ee/hayanahed

Verified by :

⭐️ operation olive branch, number 26 on their spreadsheet. (On Master list)

⭐️ Project watermelon,line 249 on their spreadsheet. Or you could see it as number 212 here is the photo for more clear proof

Thank you for your kindness and support.

.جزاكم الله خيراً

yours sincerely;

Haya Alshawish.

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Omg, this is amazing!!! Thank you so much, these shall immediately be added to my hoard.

part twoey!! @momiji-kitsune

image descriptions: an illustration of a man spraying a child with a spray can. Each image has a respective pride flag edited onto the spray:

agender, aphysical, aemotional, atertiary, afamilial, anattractional

part one

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I got a laptop with Windows 11 for an IT course so I can get certified, and doing the first time device set-up for it made me want to commit unspeakable violence

Windows 11 should not exist, no one should use it for any reason, it puts ads in the file explorer and has made it so file searches are also web searches and this cannot be turned off except through registry editing. Whoever is responsible for those decisions should be killed, full stop.

Switch to linux, it's free and it's good.

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Completely agree with this.

Not the same situation, but my FND manifested in grade 11 and continued to affect me throughout grade 12. At first I tried to keep going to school, but it just made my FND worse and I never had enough energy to do anything outside of it or interact with my friends. Once I started learning from home I found that I actually had energy to do stuff that I actually liked.

I doubt I would have been able to finish high school if I didn't start learning from home.

It may not be conventional, and it may not work for everyone, but it's a good thing to try if typical schooling is sucking you dry.

For anyone who needs to hear it: homeschooling is a good option.

I was vehemently against starting homeschooling for so long when I was first ill because I just wanted to be like everyone else and do things like everyone else.

Eventually I became so ill that I had to join a medical needs teaching programme and they started teaching me at home a few days a week.

I got a few weeks into it and realised I was the best thing ever. I couldn't cope being in a school but one to one lessons adjusted to my needs meant I could start getting one hundred percent attendance most weeks for the first time in two and a half years.

It helped so much with my struggles around school as an audhd person as well!

My contact with my friends didn't change. I actually started seeing them more because I wasn't wasting my spoons by trying to fit in!

Obviously it won't work for everyone but it's not as scary as it can seem and it's always worth looking into things that can help you.

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[Image Description: Four digital drawings of the chaotic goose from Untitled Goose Game. The goose is holding a different pride flag in their mouth and a different line of text above the goose in each drawing.

In the first drawing, the goose is holding the progress pride flag with the word "Pride" written in rainbow text.

In the second drawing, the goose is holding the aroace pride flag with the phrase "Fuck love only honk" written in dark blue text.

In the third drawing, the goose is holding the aromantic pride flag with the phrase "Fuck romo" written in black text.

In the fourth drawing, the goose is holding the asexual pride flag with the phrase "Ew sex" written in black text.

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Happy pride month!

And

Honk! for aroace :3

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[Video Transcript: A video from Instagram user: viceau. Audio as follows:

Australia has voted against recognising Palestine as a state on 80 votes to five. The Greens introduced a motion to the House of Representatives on Wednesday to recognise the state of Palestine but the vote failed. Only five MPs voted in favour. Greens Leader Adam Banda said Australia had a "moral responsibility" to recognise Palestine, and that a vote for Palestinian statehood would have been a critical step towards peace and ending the slaughter that we are seeing with the invasion of Gaza right now".

Assistant Foreign Minister Tom Watt said The Greens knew the vote would fail due to procedural motions in the lower house. He said in parliament the move was "wedge politics" which "seeks to reproduce this conflict in our own community".

The motion comes after Israeli airstrikes killed dozens of civilians sheltering in tents in the designated safe zone in Rafah earlier this week.

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Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

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[Start Video Transcript: The audio comes from a podcast. Speaker 1 (S1) is pro-Israel, Speaker 2 (S2) is anti-israel.

S1: Hamas is a terrorist organization that is building tunnels under them without—

S2: I love what you're saying. I really, I really, I really like what you're saying. I really do. It's strong. Let me explain something—you get billions of dollars of weapons from the United States annually...

S1: *Hums in agreement*

S2: Hamas are shooting rockets made from pipes stolen from underground. Did— do you not— you have M-16's. They have rocks that— they can barely get an AK47 smuggled in from— from wherever. You cannot compete—you have the fourth strongest army in the world. The fourth. The IDF is the fourth most powerful army in the world, okay? You have more capabilities than most countries. Your Mossad and intelligence—

S1: Yeah, I agree with that. Yes.

S2: —is known worldwide, okay? You have created more spyware for— as a country than anyone else in the world. You have all this intelligence—

S1: *Hums in agreement*

S2: —and you can't find Hamas. You really can't. You have to bomb a whole area—kids, women, everyone. Jabalia refugee camp was bombed and Israel came out on national TV, CNN, everyone reported it, saying there was one Hamas operative in the area. You killed thousands for one. For one. Thousands.

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