#gender really is a spectrum

[saichicdamage]

thoughts?

[estragonsgayass]

[indorak]

"How about we have another heart-to-heart, you and I? 💛"

Amazing Milo art by the lovely @nikodart !

[sha-brytols]

in my head isabela has the exact same relationship with gender that i do. which by virtue of me having no fucking idea how to express my relationship with gender makes it impossible to actually articulate. but like. uhhhhhhh i remember once when i was in high school i saw this blog post about gender expression through bisexuality and that was literally the only time i ever had my own thoughts and experiences explained back to me but also because this was like almost 10 years ago i could not possibly hope to find it again. anyways if anyone has literally any idea what im talking about thats isabela. to me.

[novaenocyon]

[4rrenstep]

Lotf + Peter Pan AU Scene 12

- CW: Implied transphobia (but not really)

Ralph: [sudden outburst]

I’m not anyone’s mother! Not here. Not back home. Not anywhere.

Jack: [perched lazily on his throne of driftwood and bone, blinking slowly]

…What?

Ralph: [the outburst catches up to him--he hesitates, frowns, his voice smaller now]

I told you… I’m Ralph. That’s my name. I’m not a-- [he glances down at the nightgown] --not a girl. I’m not your guys's mother. I’m just...me.

Jack: [rises from his seat and tilts his head, genuinely puzzled. not cruel, just oblivious in the way children can be]

But you look like one. Your hands are clean. You’ve got that ribbon. And the dress.

Ralph: [defensive]

It’s not a dress, it’s a nightgown.

Jack: [floating back slowly, kicking his legs in the air]

…For girls.

Ralph: [grits his teeth, sighs--not in anger now, but in tiredness, and he’s had this conversation a thousand times in his own head]

You really don’t get it, do you?

Jack: [shrugs, still upside down mid air]

I don’t have to. You said your name’s Ralph. That’s good enough for me. Besides, you don't feel like a mother anyway.

[Ralph looks at Jack--really looks--and something settles in him. Jack’s confusion isn’t cruel, and it isn’t judgment. There was no ridicule in his voice, no edge of mockery, just a child’s simple acceptance: Ralph was Ralph. Jack doesn’t see Ralph the way others do--not as wrong, not as broken, not even as different. He just sees Ralph. Not because he understands, but because he doesn’t think there’s anything to understand. And somehow, that felt… enough. Not right, not fair, but enough.]

[spitblaze]

Transfems are not 'privileged' for being forced to live in hostile panopticons and transmascs are not 'privileged' for being forced to live at the bottom of isolated wells and any 'benefits' that either incidentally incurs are canceled out if not outweighed by the drawbacks. Are we done here. Can we all please just go home

[93millionmilesaway]

i think i'm actually just gay ✨

[stupidlittlespirit]

um

[thegirlinprague]

gender is a spectrum

[big-tiddy-goth-ghoulfriend]

after a lot of introspection and research (this is going to sound facetious but I mean it) I've settled on what my gender is: I don't mind that I'm a woman, but I have no attachment to femininity that means anything to me and I don't particularly want or need my woman-ness to be involved when people are identifying who I am. Like I get that I'm biologically female, I enjoy some of the social trappings of femininity like makeup and dresses, and people have to use SOME pronoun for me so like yeah. Most people are gonna clock me as female so she/her is fine. If I don't care regardless, why not go with the one 98% of people are gonna assume in the first place.

I tried he/him to see how that felt and I hate it. Gross. Doesn't feel good on me. I'm not saying he/hims are gross don't fucking @ me. They/them is fine I guess too but that's not the one most people are gonna default to unless you tell them it's what you go by. But if a particularly liberal person were to see me in public and just assume by the purple hair and piercings that I'm nonbinary, I wouldn't be upset about they.

So yeah. "Don't relate to or identify with anything really about masculinity or maleness but otherwise don't really care how my gender is perceived", whatever gender that is.

[menlove]

i'm of the belief that gender is so personal and individualized that no people even can have the same gender. bc it's such a social thing- you can have major similarities and these are where we get broad labels for things, but trying to compare your experience 1:1 with someone of the same gender on gender matters is always going to make you come up short. like even cis people. we all get fed different variations of similar messages & have such wildly varying life experiences i deeply and truly think it's a personal thing for everyone. doesn't make labels useless, in fact they're incredibly useful for finding the words to talk about overarching shared problems and experiences, but the search for "what is a woman" and "what is a man" will, imo, always be fruitless bc every person will have their own answer. like what is gender if not a mix of biology, socialization, social norms, social expectations, lived experience, community, etc. none of which can be easily boiled down to a sentence or even two or three.

[eva062106]

Why does realizing gender stuff always have to be through the lens of thinking about Shadow

[bubbles-and-bat-wings]

Just started watching dream productions (just finished episode one) and I already have thoughts, particularly about Xeni!

Headcanons:

They use they/them (if the show confirms otherwise I'll throw this HC away)

They were inspired to make daydreams by cult classics like What Would the World Be Like If I Was a Boy?, I Wanna Be a Pirate When I Grow Up, and I Wish I Was Home Playing Video Games Right Now.

[rubitheracoon]

Lately I've been feeling like part of my gender identity has some kind of cosmic beauty to it. Like its something timeless and ancient like space itself, stunning in its unfathomable vastness. Something that doesn't have an answer to its own existence, it just is, and that's what makes it beautiful.

I know that im still agender. I dont have a gender, but it feels like that lack of gender is beautiful yet undefinable in the same way that space is.

[randomwriteronline]

Do the matoran even know what the difference between male and female is. Did the great beings ever instil the knowledge in them or is it just something that they like. Picked up from other species like the vortixx and skakdi. And makuta i guess. Do they assume female and male are an oversemplification of the elemental thing. So like you have female which is Water and then all the other elements just get funneled into male which instead of a specific element is just Not-Water.

How do they rationalize lightning matoran then. Like are they a subkind of ga-matoran? Because water is a good conductor for lightning? And what about Orde and the psionics. Great Beings go well we cant have you be male now bc youre too destructive, lets make the next ones all female, and Orde is just like what the fuck is a male. Or a female. Never heard of that in my life.