#gender marker too

[mousegirl-cheerleader]

Guess whose name legally changed today!

[sare11aa11eras]

Just before

[Image Description: a full-color drawing, depicting the moment before Lyanna Stark is discovered to be the Knight of tihe Laughing Tree by Rhaegar Targaryen.

In the foreground, Lyanna Stark stands on a large grey stone at the edge of some water. She is barefoot and her shirt’s ties are undone so it falls open, revealing linen chest wrappings. Her shirt is white with red details and a silvery-grey lining. She also wears strips of light-colored fabric like her chest wrappings around her wrists. She wears dark grey stirrup pants. Her hair is in two braids, one still piled up on her head, the other falling down. Her hair ribbons are blue. Her bangs are plastered to her forehead. A necklace with a silver pendant with a wolf emblem on it is tucked into her chest wrappings. In her left hand, she holds her plain, wooden jousting lance straight up. Her helmet is propped between her left elbow and hip. She looks downward, towards the water in front of her, smiling, looking breathless and excited.

Also in the foreground is water, lots of grass, reeds, cattails, and more grey stones. A sapphire sits in the water. A pair of steel-toed leather boots is nearby. A little behind Lyanna, a crumpled grey dress is lying in the grass. A frog sits on the stump of a tree. There are a few purple flowers and red weirwood leaves scattered here and there.

In the midground is a massive weirwood tree, its foliage taking up much of the top half of the drawing. Lyanna’s shield, painted with the image of a laughing weirwood, is propped beneath its face. A raven perches on one of its boughs, in profile. A figure in profile wearing red and black, Rhaegar, is just coming around the tree, sword extended in front. The background is mostly blue, with an attempt to convey more trees and forest behind the subjects. / End ID.]

[bananonbinary]

as a certified Diagnosed Autist(TM) i cannot stress enough that i am not only pro- self-diagnosis, but also pretty anti- legal medical diagnosis. it is, at best, a cruel hoop we have to jump through so privileged people will deign to give us what we need. don't fucking do that shit unless you have to, it was disgustingly expensive, fucking humiliating, infantilizing, and dehumanizing, and would probably actively cause problems in my life if i didn't have some really good allistic (-passing) people in my corner and also wasn't so fucking disabled that it mostly doesn't matter.

literally get that diagnosis if you need it for job/school accessibility shit or SSI or whatever, and otherwise dont tell the government SHIT about yourself. there is zero good reason for them to want that information. that's between you and the people you want in your life.

[tumblweeds-omegaverse]

worldbuilding thing I've been wondering about:

how do you handle gender identity, gender expression, and/or gender stereotypes, within your omegaverse writings?

this goes for ocs and for fanfics!

if alphas are physically male in the way we'd consider a human to be physically male, that's a statement on their sex, yeah? not their gender.

you can have the body parts implied there and still be a gender that is not "man". so how's that work for omegaverse? especially if alphas can be male or female.

how do you describe gender within your omegaverse? is it based more around dynamic / secondary? (alpha/beta/omega) or around sex? (male/female/others if they apply)

do people get gendered expectations assigned to them based on their sex, on their dynamic, on the combination of both?

(ex: is there a difference between the gender roles given to a female omega versus a male omega? are the stereotypes for a male beta like or unlike those of a male omega?)

could there be such a difference between female alphas, female betas, and female omegas, that only some female people are considered women, while others are labeled with some other term due to their dynamic? or are all female people considered to be women? (assuming they're all cisgender...but if you've got trans headcanons I wanna hear those too!)

I'm curious about this because it's reasonable to say something like "our image of what is masculine appearance / behavior is shaped by our society and time period," right? (since male doesn't have to equal man or masculine, but there's often some connection)

but that structure wouldn't be built from the same stuff in omegaverse. since behaviors and such could be associated with different groups.

so...if a male alpha is seen as a feminine presenting person, what does that mean in your verse?

are masculine and feminine less about what exists in your verse and more about the limitations of our own language?

is it something else altogether?

[wurmwizzard]

I kinda wanna bash my skull against a rock repeatedly but if anyone sees theyll call me out for wanting attention!!!!! So im going to take a hot shower and eat tomatos instead

[octoooo]

Sea slugs sea slugs sea slugs!!!

Sea slug Kocho sisters!!

Shinobu & Kanae are cyerce nigricans

Kanao is cyerce elegans

[kraviolis]

im god's strongest soldier bcus i've been headcanoning luz as a trans girl since before we even knew she was canonically bi

[crossbackpoke-check]

Why I Am Not Coming In To Work Today [abridged], Jess Zimmerman

part one | part two

[levangel]

not me tracking out an entire plan to finish my transition before this time next year

[coridallasmultipass]

I am once again begging online shop payment processing companies to allow me to enter a separate name for shipping and separate name for billing!!

It's the same address, I'm just trans and have not legally changed my personal name, but I still prefer to receive mail as my preferred name! Like it's literally my professional name, I do business as my preferred name.

Annoying as fuck, and I don't want to chance my bank rejecting the payment (though I'm sure someone at my bank has put a note to allow it on my account by now, since I've contacted them a couple times before when I realized too late that the billing section didn't let me input another "address/name" section, and they said the payment was fine in those cases.)

Anyway, legal name changes should be free and non-advertised for everyone. Tbh, you should get a free name change every time you file your taxes on time as an incentive for good citizen behaviour. Once I am elected pres-

[shrews-things]

Do y'all think as a dual citizen of Romania and Hungary it matters where I get my legal sex and name change done? Hmmmm

[nannichuan]

a couple months ago I had the idea to draw my canon GNC original characters and I just recently finished them! Each character is colored in with the pride flags that represent their gender identities.

Starting from the top left we have: Ella (she/they) who is agender, Jack (he/him) who is trans, Rae (they/she/he) who is genderfluid, and Trent (he/him) who is also trans! Those 4 are all from my story Ready! Set! Drop!

The next 4 are from my story It Wasn't the End of the World. On the left we have Peaches (she/her) who is an angel, Mara (she/her) who is a demon, and Fino (he/they) who is also a demon. They each decided their own physical appearance and gender when they came to the physical world. For this illustration I combined the colors for the apogender and genderless pride flags. on the right is Anise (she/her) who is trans!

I tried to have fun and do something different for the coloring of these by using colored lineart with selective sections of black lineart. Feel free to send me any comments or questions!

[velaraffricate]

i had this idea of verbs having multiple meanings depending on how they're conjugated - kind of an active/stative thing, but not in the morphosyntactic alignment way, more in the sense that the active verb would be a sort of intensified or more intentional version of the base stative verb. so one word could mean eat or devour, hear or listen, see or watch, etc. i think that could work, but i don't think i'll implement it into pyanli, i think it's already got enough other verb stuff going on

[gibbearish]

oh psa but if you're in an industry that checks IDs and the person in front of you is clearly trans, don't make comments about anything on that ID. for instance saying "OMG your middle name's Danielle? that's my name too!!!" to someone 5 feet tall with a full beard is perhaps not the best choice one could make if one didn't want to put a neon glowing sign above that person's head saying "THIS IS A TRANSGENDER" to everyone they're with

[an-sceal]

I got a haircut the other day, which was awesome. I've spent the past 48 hours looking at a stranger in the mirror when I pass one. I don't ever have a firm picture or solid understanding of "that is me in my body" when I look at myself anyway, just a vaguely recognized set of individual features (my ear with the elf point, my nose that is either too big or okay depending on the day, but is always the same shape, my eyebrows that are psychotic, my tattoo that is art.) Now my hair is short but still too long, which I will fix when I get home.

Before the haircut I was having a third or fourth day of feeling like nothing I was doing with or for my body was sitting correctly. Nausea from meds that are supposed to help my autoimmune disease, and bloating from meds that are supposed to help my stomach deal with the meds that help the arthritis, and fatigue from... everything? Anything? Breathing? (Possibly breathing, because allergens, and thus inflammation triggers, are high.) Clothes and hair and posture and voice were all clashing in this thing that contains me but doesn't fit. And I have had this body for many decades now, minus a part here or there, so I am very used to not feeling at home in it. Not feeling like my body is any sort of representation of who I am, or even a reliably identifiable placeholder for the spaces marked "ME".

It took me over 40 years to figure out that I wasn't a failure as a girl, as a woman, as a "female", even after I knew there were options well beyond the two I'd been given, or the notion of others thought I understood. Part of that was down to assuming I wasn't *____* enough to count. I didn't know what, but I knew I didn't hate my body, so I couldn't be trans, or even not-a-woman in some other way. Sometimes I clung to that as a defense, firm in reminding myself that I didn't, so I wasn't. Sometimes it just was, existing, a fact like my body, which is obvious to everyone else but a mystery to me at the best of times. In my mind, even though I've rarely felt at peace or in sync with "woman", I'd never had a moment where I explicitly felt that I wasn't a woman, much less one where I hated the idea. How would I have hated something that people told me I was, when I literally need to rely on the vague shape of myself and the labels people I trust have given me just to find myself in a mirror?

I was pretty clear for a long time on how I'd never felt any sort of gender dysphoria. Quite the opposite-- the things I held on to, got familiar with like the extra bump of my ear or the round tip of my nose, were all times I'd felt the MOST grounded and at home in this alien ecosystem I keep my consciousness in. Times I felt GOOD about how my hair fell or my clothes sat or my insides settled into my outsides. No dysphoria for me, no, no! Euphoria!

And that’s true! I have felt gender euphoria, lots of it, and bodily euphoria as I have moments where I'm seated and perfect inside my little squishy home. It never occurred to me that those opposite times, when I would have given ANYTHING to step outside my horrible hovel of a skin prison, might be... not how everyone feels. I'm not talking about self-harm or suicidal ideation-- the escape only counts if the me I know and am is intact when I emerge. I'm talking days where every part of me I recognized felt so disconnected and WRONG in relation to who I believed my body made me that I couldn't find any response but intense anxiety and eventual dissociation to cope with it.

I am not drift-compatible with my own body.

[vergess]

I saw your post that was explaining why "Is it possible that love is all subjective, or all objective?" is really gay re: the context of Wilde's trial. I didn't know that. I've read a few chapters so far but I wonder did Stoker put so much Jonathan/Mina (which seems popular here even if it's hetero) to cover up the gay subtext with an obligatory heterosexual relationship?

Post in question:

There are... a lot of complex hypotheses about Stoker's relationship to Mina!

A common interpretation among queer readers is that Stoker has two characters that most strongly draw from his own life experiences. His "man's brain" in Van Helsing, and his "woman's heart" in Mina. After all, Abraham is Bram's full first name, just like VH. But he only ever wrote under the name Bram, a less typical, ending dimunitive compared to Abe. Now, consider that the most common diminutives of Wilhelmina are Elma, Alma, Wilma and Velma, with the ending dimunitive Mina being notably distinct in formation and pronunciation.

It's all very Gender is what I'm getting at. If 20 years from now it's discovered that Bram had a drag persona or a different gendered persona or some wild shit, I guarantee you he chose Wilhelmina/Mina as her name.

Anyway, back on track. Analysis of the Man's Brain/Woman's Heart dichotomy is also common under a feminist lens. This frequently ties in to feminist interpretation of Mina as the New Woman (complimentary) instead of the New Woman (derogatory). I'd provide citations but oh good god, oh dear god, the amount of weird horrible things most of these papers say about rape victims...

But anyway, the point I want to get to is:

Yes, JonMina certainly can be interpreted as a panicked heteronormalizing reaction to the Wilde Trial and increasing homosexual stigma! But, I personally tend to prefer a more genderqueer reading, where Mina is (and I regret to say this is indeed the correct technical usage) Transfem Coded.

Jonathan too, actually. They are in lesbians together. I'll expand on that one day.