#gender crisis!!!! again

[spacecowboy-01]

But guys

I what if im just a demigirl

Either that or im just a feminine-aligned enby

idk whAT I AM ANYMORE-

[phosphorus-noodles]

how do we feel about a cis girl using he/him pronouns

[theallegedbird]

finally drew the door twink

[m-for-now]

As someone who is genderfae (microlabel under genderfluid), I have a lot of different experiences with gender.

I just wish someone told me sooner that it won't go like "today I'm a girl" "today I'm an enby" but more like ,,, "today I am a swamp witch" "today I am a feminine victorian vampire boy" "today I am a forest goblin collecting people's stares about my gender expression like shiny rocks on the ground" "today I'm an androgynous pirate lady"

Like,,, sure, are those real genders? I don't fucking now. If a cisgender person asked me what I identify as that day, would I answer like that? No, definitely not.

But to my genderqueer, trans and genderfluid friends; do you get me? I can't be alone with this, right?

[godhurts]

Yo so I'm confused

How do I tell if I'm poly and a little bit in love with all of my close friends or if I'm aromantic and just love everyone platonically

[lucadrawss]

Gender no, gender please, stop having a crisis for the 100th time just because you want to cut your hair.

[queer-reader-07]

gender, amiright?

[foxgloveinspace]

I mean this in the nicest way possible: I wish I was a better friend.

[a-knight-in-shining-rainbows]

the longer i spend on this earth the more i wonder how anyone can just not think about pronouns. ever. fascinating concept to me to not investigate your own gender

[mori-no-majou]

HER!!!!!

[midnightkens]

me looking at pictures of ryan gosling as ken: do i want to be with him or do i want to be him?

[nautilusopus]

worldbuilding for my one fucked-up dude in a hyperspecific context

so like the distinction between the fair folk and humans you usually see is that in the human world shit like physics and biology are absolutes. i can't drink transmission fluid and have it taste like baja blast no matter how much i want to taste the forbidden soup, and then afterwards i'll vomit up my organs and die even if i disagree that that should happen. however, things that are more abstract or part of a social code tend to be fairly arbitrary -- i can lie and say transmission fluid DOES taste like baja blast despite that not being the case even remotely, and maybe someone will even believe me, and all this time the properties of transmission fluid have not and will never change.

in contrast, the physical nature of the fairy world is usually heavily vibes based and runs off dream logic 90% of the time, with things like time and the physical properties of objects being highly subjective; but most social rules are as ironclad as something like gravity is. if you say you'll do something, you'll have to do it even if it's just by technicality. you can't NOT do it. if a social debt is incurred, it has to be repaid, the same way if i drop an object it has to fall. things like names and memories and years have concrete value and can be traded. so on and so forth.

which makes me wonder where gender falls on that spectrum. on the one hand, with a world full of creatures that are famously horny and not too picky (for better and for worse), and can look like literally anything they want, you'd think they wouldn't give a rat's ass about it, if they could comprehend what it was at all.

on the other hand, gender is another one of those social constructs that holds a lot of weight despite it being arbitrary and relative, like love or honour or the nature of an agreement, and so maybe it'd be the other way around and they wouldn't even really comprehend the idea of gender being fluid or arbitrary or an extricable part of your identity.

but also if they don't really follow the same rules biologically and wouldn't have the same social impetus to create those constructs, what is gender even built on top of for the fair folk if they do have an understanding of it? but also if the social framework exists in some capacity then they'll have to engage with it whether they like it or not and so how would they engage with that if it's a very real concrete thing for them but just kind of some shit we made up as a social framework for us that doesn't even maintain the same standards from location to location?

buhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[mantisgodsdomain]

We should make patch notes for SB au it would be funny

[jacianpikachu]

the REAL saw trap is how watching all the saw movies will cause irrevocable changes to your gender

[rebirthdinosaurs]

me trying to figure out if im aromantic like:

[sequoiareachesforthesky]

Milgram fic idea: the prisoners are bored (as they always are) and they've already celebrated every holiday imaginable. So someone suggests doing a cross-dressing event for a change. Mahiru, Mikoto and Muu help everyone find the perfect fit (Mahiru sews half the clothes herself to make it look perfect).

A bunch of gender crisis ensue.