#frustrating things to neurodivergent people

[spacelazarwolf]

I think part of the stupid idea that adhd (and other meds) are addictive is the false (but deeply held for some reason???) belief that our adhd/neurodivergence and/or other conditions are obviously temporary or a phase and underneath we're quote on quote "normal"? But of course we'll need those meds for a long time, perhaps forever, because our brains will be wired the way they are forever! It's so frustrating.

YEAH!!!! meds are seen as a stopgap until you’re able to magically cure your adhd through sheer willpower. and if you can’t and still have to rely on meds, that’s a sign you’ve somehow failed to do the work to manage or “overcome” your adhd. like. i’m sure there are absolutely people out there who are saying diabetics don’t need insulin and they can just treat it through diet or some shit, but truly in the same way that diabetics need their insulin in order to function, i need my adhd meds in order to function. being unmedicated is miserable. every time i have to go through periods of being unmedicated because of insurance or finance issues, it’s always some of the hardest times of my life bc i literally cannot get my brain to do the things it needs to do. sheer willpower is not going to fix a chemical imbalance in my fucking brain!!!!

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

My Biggest Frustrations as an Neurodivergent Person

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[guardianspirits13]

I have a theory that people who are the most critical of neurodivergent traits in others are more likely to be neurodivergent themselves.

We've heard this before through the lens of parents who say "that's normal, even I do that" and failing to realize that they likely have the same variety of neurodivergence, but I think on a deeper level people who have spent their entire lives memorizing social cues and societal norms and masking strongly without realizing it will probaly find it easier to spot people who regularly break those rules and become upset because they hold themselves to such a rigid standard and are frustrated that others freely reject standards that they put so much effort into meeting themselves.

Very rambly, but just a thought.

[ndcultureis]

Autism culture is being annoyed when people are like "autistic people aren't sexless/loveless/emotionless" because I am sexless and (romantically) loveless and often emotionless (partly from autism and partly from anti-anxiety drugs)

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[tea-cat-arts]

Actually, I hope Jiaoqiu stays blind (at least for a couple years in our time) and just bullies the Xianzhou alliance into inventing disability aids and treating disabled people better

[dennisboobs]

my favourite thing about the always sunny podcast is listening to rcg all say something extremely neurodivergent and then agree amongst themselves and convince themselves its completely normal

[autisticlee]

no one knows just how hard I work at things. how I have to work 1000000x more than the average person to compensate for being autistic and adhd and probably other things i'm working out with therapist, and having a sort of physical disability i've not received any help or treatment for. everyone assumes I don't try or give up too soon. they think I just started, need more practice. they think I expect everything handed to me immediately with no work or effort and don't acknowledge the multiple years i've put into things. they think I have no right to be upset about still failing to get where I want even after working my entire life to get there, while watching people around me surpass even my meager goals within a fraction of the time and work i've out into the same thing. constantly getting surpassed by everyone around me who seem to barely do any work to get there compared to me. it's all handed to them and falls into their lap so easily. all because they don't have the extra obstacles to overcome and work around that I do. while they go from point A to Z immediately with no major stops in between, I have to go through every single letter and then some, often getting sent back to the start. but it's always *my* fault, according to everyone. it's not the fault of those around me who ignore me, don't support me, don't help me, don't believe in me, etc. it's my fault they don't do those things. because doing the work of 10 people in one isn't enough, just because it's me. and not reaching Z as fast as everyone else means I don't deserve any of the support or help or anything else and means i'm not trying hard enough. it doesn't matter that I *need* to work harder than 100 "normal" people combined to get even half the result! Just because I can't reach what they do means i'm not trying hard enough! ugh.

[everybody-hit-the-pyro-cue]

specialized education and gifted children programs are so fucked up I see the purpose but the execution and expectations are genuinely horrific I've yet to meet a single one of us that's doing okay besides from those who just reached their breaking point and chose to stop caring

[shoechoe]

"potentially autistic enough to get regularly assumed some form of neurodivergent including just being asked 'are you autistic' several times from friends and acquaintances, but not obviously potentially autistic enough to ever be evaluated for it" is such an interesting spot to be in

[girlscience]

Why do I feel so immature compared to literally everyone I interact with. Why does everyone treat me like I am some naive baby that needs to be protected. Why does everyone act like I am incapable of putting myself out there to get things done.

[mittenhater]

i've been seeing a lot of posts about the way children don't get treated as human beings deserving of respect but i want to talk about the way so many of these negative experiences children have with adults come at the hands of people whose literal job is to deal with children (parents, teachers, healthcare workers etc.)

[kasumingo]

Goddddd the corn plate meme is the manifestation of how piss poor the analysis skills and need of interpretation is to the people consuming media nowadays

[maochira]

I decided to close my asks for now because requests are closed anyways and honestly, my asks have just been feeling kind of weird lately with just random words/sentences sometimes (for example, I received one with just the word "jelly" last night) and then there's the random paragraphs about anons' lives I've gotten as well. I have no idea what to respond to that stuff so it's been a bit frustrating to look into my asks lately.

[2amtechnicolor]

is it just me or is the online autistic community overwhelmed with posts that only talk about stimming or special interests as if it's the be all, end all to autism...

yes i stim and have special interests but those things aren't always positive. i cannot relate to most people on an emotionally intimae level if they are not into my special interest. as in physically cannot. my stimming has disrupted people around me, and given me bad acne because i touch my face too much and i've caused myself to bleed due to scratching.

sensory issues are talked about sometimes, but more in the sense of "lol texture bad" rather than pointing out how difficult it is to exist in a world of sensory hell. i can't go out in public without my headphones; i'll have an anxiety attack. i've refused to wash clothes because i was afraid it would "ruin the texture".

and don't get me started on social difficulties. turns out, i'm not as good at "masking" as i thought. i have low empathy and very little patience for people who don't indulge me in my special interests. i can't make small talk, even a grocery job wore me out. i can't watch videos with peoples face in them because all i can think about is the eye contact, and i skip past most tiktoks with a real human's voice because i just can't connect to voices and people like that. it's frustrating and isolating and it's not fun.

and if you read all that, remember i'm still considered "level 1/high-functioning" in a diagnostic setting. i don't have an intellectual disability, i was never in special education, or otherwise separated from my neurotypical classmates. there are autistic folks who struggle a lot more than i do but all i seem to see are people who never struggle at all.

and i didn't expect to be so isolated in the autism community now. i used to feel really at home here, but now it seems all posts are "autism is great and has never caused me any problems ever!" "yippee autism creature" (<- i still don't understand this meme? another thing about my autism: i don't pick up on memes and references quickly) "special interest is so fun!" "stimboards!"

i'm not saying you can't enjoy aspects of being autistic. but it's just really isolating when all you see from the community are the "good parts" and all the "bad parts" are just shoved under the rug. you don't have to post about every "bad day" to be a valid autistic person either. but autism is still a DISABILITY. in a perfect world, i'd still have low empathy, i'd still be unable to make small talk or relate to people, i'd still struggle with eye contact and loud chaotic noise.

just like...autism isn't fun all the time. and i wish i could find more people to talk about it like that.

[starphobe]

fh fandom back to wishing death on a fictional teenager for being mentally ill and not learning how to cope with that in a healthy way. what else is new

[charlattehotte]

denial is a river in egypt I probably definitely have autism, dyslexia and ocd lol