#from someone that has experienced or witnessed the situations explained

[clarisrenaldis]

I feel like this is important relationship advice that the media doesn't really show much and people should know.

1. If you are developing feelings for a friend, I mean friend friend. You've known them for a long time and such, don't harbour your feelings. Acknowledge them as soon as possible at a moment you'd be cool with facing rejection.

Been on the other side of the spectrum when the guy I thought of my best friend for two years decided to get so attached that threatened to commit suicide when I didn't feel the same way. And not gonna lie, other than the anger and sadness I felt from the situation, I felt complete betrayal.

So, don't put your feelings in a pressure cooker and be mindful of the other person. Make sure you are cool with being rejected or accepted. Maybe approach them with a "Hey, this is sudden but I have feelings for you. I don't need an immediate answer and I don't have any problem if you don't reciprocate. And if you don't, I want to still be friends", very straightforward, not putting pressure and not putting high expectations and reassuring the other person they aren't hurting you with your answer.

Be brave and pick your head up!

2. If your answer is a no, then it's a no. Movies and series constantly put the "don't give up, keep chasing for them" when, in reality, it's the worst. You just look like you can't pick up a hint, or in this case, a straight up answer. Just accept it, dust yourself off, pick yourself up and move on.

3. If you are met with someone that said no in purpose for you to chase them, nope out of there. Being with people like that will give you a warped sense of consent from them, are most likely to be toxic relationships and you'll end up with a pretty bad view of what a relationship is.

Take for example those crazy girls you see on twitter or tiktok were they block their boyfriend in every social media possible and get mad they don't try to reach out.

Maybe if your fantasy is to be chased for, then learn the difference between teasing and ridiculous behaviour.

Annnd if you like someone and they ask you out, say yes. Don't say no just to have this unreal fantasy of them chasing you around pleading for you to be their date.

4. You like someone but never talked to them? Strike up conversation and become acquainted. Make excuses. "Let's form a group for this project", "hey all the seats are taken, may I sit next to you?", "did you say X hobby? I like that too! What did you think about Y thing?".

5. There are many ways you can tell someone isn't attracted to you. Seen many times person A try to peck the cheek of person B and person B doing a complete swerve to avoid it many times.

General discomfort at flirting attempts, keeping distance, avoiding you altogether, overall rejection, etc.

You spot these? Keep your distance.

6. There are also many ways to tell someone likes you.

Nervousness or flustered when you get close, you make eye contact with them and they immediately look down, the moment they see you they start checking how they look or fixing themselves (checking hair is in place, straightening clothes, clearing their throat), they lean closer when it's not needed, etc.

7. Communication is important!! Movies use misunderstandings and miscommunication for drama and comedy and the viewers know it was simple to fix, they just needed to talk.

Are you in a relationship? Communicate!

Ask about their day! Ask about schedules! Tell them your schedules! Discuss interests! Are they worried? Talk! Are you worried? Talk! Did you notice they were uncomfortable at some point? Ask!

It's a lot more simple than you think!

I'm aware men are mostly the ones that don't express themselves as much (you know, society) but I highly encourage you to communicate. The most lasting relationships I've seen are when both parties communicate!

Now, disclaimer. There are many types of communication. Sometimes you just have to explain to the other person how you express some things and them BAM! Communication!

8. If you are in your last year of highschool/secondary school and you are single, don't start a relationship!

You are at a moment in your life where you are deciding something very important! Having a partner and having that to influence your decision is going to be a headache.

Don't be rash and enjoy yourself while you can!!

Anyways, hope this are useful!!