#friendship ending

[lyonn-avery]

"Reflecting on the past as I say goodbye to a relationship that once meant so much to me. This bond taught me that holding onto someone too tightly could cause it to crumble before my eyes. I realize that my favorite and comfort person could just leave without warning, and I'm grateful for the moments we shared together. Thanking her for being my number one at the time and showing me the value of letting go. Reflecting on the past relationships I've had helps me grow and appreciate the value of present bonds and connections."

[theravenclawfangirl]

Second part and woo that feels good, you know finally putting my thoughts together and no longer hating myself over it.

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I did it again

Fell into the trap

It lasted longer then normal

A full year and a half

Except this time I know I'm not to blame

Why would I be?

I keep fighting for this friendship

And you never do

You don't want to be friends as much as I do

And I understand that now

At first I blamed myself

Thought I made you leave me

Then I thought I was crazy

That you truly were my friend

Then you made it clear where your priorities laid

And how much you truly wanted to be friends

And I was pissed

How could you lie to me like that?

How could you use me like that?

Why don't you care about me?

Finally, currently

I'm done

I don't know how you feel

I can't tell why you act like this

But I can decide to be done with your games

And you treating me like I'm a last resort

We were supposed to be best friends

When did that turn into strangers

Strangers who had nicknames for each other,

Or was that just me too

Cause I don't remember a time where you cared enough to give me one,

Just one

For the millions I gave you,

No,

Your family friend gave me my first nickname,

One that I didn't hate,

And you didn't even use that.

Maybe that was where I should've realized the truth,

That me and you weren't friends,

We were people who wanted to have people to be close with,

Only it didn't matter who for you,

But I chose you

And I hate myself for it.

But it wasn't my fault

And I don't want to blame you

But I know that I walk through life alone,

I don't care anymore though,

Because I'll keep being me,

I refuse to change,

And I'll keep telling the stories that I made with you,

You and me aren't anything,

After this,

I'll be free of anything you did,

Unknowingly or not,

That made me feel like a lesser person,

Thank you for the memories and happiness in the good moments,

But I'll be done with you starting now

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I hope anyone who remotely felt similar to the first poem somehow moves on because living and thinking like that is something that only hurts you. And it destroys your happiness and what you think of yourself. Because whether you want it to happen or not there will be a breaking point and as little as it may seem all the other things come to light at the same time, and you will get better and become happy again. No doubt, just make your peace and it'll happen.

[therealhm]

the ending of friendship

Why does ending a friendship hurt more sometimes than a breakup? Why does it leave us questioning everything? Why are there times when it doesn’t hurt at all? 

Friends are people that you collect throughout your life, there’s an old saying “you have friends for a reason, a season or for life”. You want to believe that everyone you meet will be your friend forever but sadly that isn’t the case some people you meet will and some will just use you until they don’t need you anymore, even 20 + year friendship end, the secret to good friendships is knowing which ones to nurture and which ones to let go.  Friends a bit like plants, you nature them all and soon enough you’ll see which ones grow and will be around forever and which ones are the weeds who will suck all the nutrients out of the soil and leave you dry.  

True friends, soul sisters, your person, whatever you want to call them are rare and you want to hold on tight to these, these are the people that you can call no matter what, they are ones who will celebrate your wins and good times, be with you through the tough times, will listen on the phone or will hold you while you cry, will always call you out on your crap, will bail you out of jail and will help you bury the body. No matter what you tell them they stay their friendship never waivers and their love for you never changes. 

What happens when someone you thought was your best friend for 20+ years is no longer your friend, you begin to doubt yourself, you continually questions and overthink, you wonder what you did or said that made them pull away. Let me tell you  IT IS NOT YOU.  You have did not do anything wrong, it was just that this friendship was not meant to last and it was only one for a season, when the season changed so did you and so did they and that’s ok, yes it still hurts, yes It still makes you question everything but its ok to look back and remember the good times.

I recently experienced this, a few years ago my ex-best friend got married, I was so excited that I didn’t think anything when the snide comments were being made about me being single and not being able to bring a date to the wedding because a) I wouldn’t ever find anyone who would want to go with me,  b) I would be to busy helping said bride on her wedding day. I should have known something was up but I chose to ignore it.  When the wedding RSVP came I was not allowed plus one, ummm ok, also I was asked to be the MOH while were all out dressing shopping for her dress and I wasn’t even asked I was more so told by the way your the MOH, at that point what do you say, ok thank you, what else is there to say, Everything up to the wedding day was not the smoothest sailing but with her and the new in laws it was to be expected.  I knew the night before her wedding that the next day would be the end of our friendship, she was getting married  and joining that club she didn’t need me anymore the constant single person. So the wedding day came and went, forced wedding pictures were taken (which I still haven’t seen to this day) the reception was held, speeches were made and in a room full of people I knew, I felt lonelier then ever. I cleaned up the hall and left by 11:30 without even a thank you. After the wedding I heard from her only when she needed something from me, we maybe hung out once when her husband went away and it was awkward, every time since then whenever I see her I ask the normal polite questions you ask but she never asks anything about my life and its ok. Does it hurt that she can’t be bothered to ask about my life yes, but I’ve realized that, that is who she is and that at the end of the day.

I’m grateful for that time we had as friends we went through a lot, but at the end of the day I am so lucky to have such a great group of true friends who know me, know my dark twisted secrets and still stay, even with 2000km between us we are still the same best friends that we have always been, this group of girls has been there for me through it all, some longer then other but time means nothing, wether its 2 years or 20 years of friendship they are my people, my soul sisters and I am a better person for knowing them and having them in my life.

[notsurpisedheartbreak]

The recent Heart break although not so recent, is my long distance “best friend” just basically ghosted me without closure. And it’s been almost a year tommorrow since I said a “how are you” and no message back. You know what i am okay. It’s okay! I am living with it well, I am starting to see it for what it is. I will never know what caused her to not explain her ghosting me. We have a relatively healthy friendship it was my first healthy friendship. She was my best friend I genuinely thought that. But my best friend wouldn’t throw me away like that, i don’t try to come up with theories I just simple believe we have grown apart. We talked everyday for 3 years we made it work she put so much energy and effort and consistency. But I am not gonna even try at this point to come up with idea why I didn’t deserve an explanation. It is a coward move considering we had such a honest friendship but that doesn’t apply anymore. Not any more, anyways. A no-answer is an answer, and there is a part of me that wishes her well. But the hurt side of me is hoping that she still thinks about me, I jsut want to believe. But one gone friend doesn’t matter I still have other friends who actually are putting effort into our friendship! They matter more. With this hurt I just transform it into grateful for the people who had stayed and remain consistent! Everything happens for the best!

[mental-health-advice]

Hey. I used to have a friend I was really close to and considered my best friend, and then one day they decided to cut all ties with me and tell me we had never been friends. It set me into a depressive episode that lasted eight or nine months, I isolated myself from everyone else believing if they weren't my friend then I couldn't trust that anyone was, and a couple of traumatic things happened while I was already down so it culminated in a suicide attempt. I am now a lot better than I was, it has been a few years, I have built a life for myself and I am happy. But sometimes I still wonder what happened with that friendship, I feel like I never got closure and I want to reach out and see how that person's life is now and ask what happened and why they did what they did. Sometimes I get obsessed with this thought for a while and then force myself to move on. Would it really be a bad idea to reach out after all this time? Or how can I forget about it?

Hey there,

It must have been such a shock to you for this friend to suddenly cut all ties with you for no apparent reason and then to tell you that you guys were never friends to begin with! I am so sorry that you had to go through this but please know that there are some really good people out there, some of which you will have friendships with and they will not treat you like this and make you feel so bad.

I am so happy to hear that you are doing better now and have been able to move on as best you can. But I do know that the lingering thought of what happened with that friend, why they did what they did to you and what their life looks like now is still and probably always be there on your mind.

I guess the main priority though is you and your happiness and safety. So for example, if you did reach out to this friend, how would you feel or may react if they want nothing to do with you or hurt you all over again? Yes, several years may have passed and hopefully they are doing better, but there is always the off chance that they may re trigger you and your depression. So this is definitely something you need to take into consideration. I am not saying that reaching out to them will be a bad thing but it may be really helpful for you to think about each outcome that could possibly happen from reaching out and how this may make you feel and the best ways you may be able to get through it and especially if it doesn’t go so well. Just something to think about!

If you choose to just let things just be though and try to move on completely/ forget them, this can be a lot easier said than done. I say this because regardless of the bitter ending to the friendship, the time you guys spent together will have had some impact on your life and helped to form who you are today, and this isn’t something you can just forget about. By focusing on the here and now though, focusing on today and your future, then moving on may be that much easier for you.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

[coldprism]

Character so fine she hauls you out of an art slump

[me-beef]

@strangeravatar made a great point

i was gonna focus on the spike-hotboxing-celestia aspect but i got distracted somewhere along the way and i think i forgot what joke i was trying to make

but dont you think its interesting how many guards of the exact same color/body type she's managed to accrue?? i do

ooohh you want to go look at our stickers so bad

[morganbritton132]

The person who knows Steve the most is Tommy. The party is annoyed every time they are confronted with this fact, because sure. They know Steve’s favorite songs and his hair care routine, but Tommy knows that too. He also knows that Steve is allergic to aspirin.

Nancy and Jonathan are standing in the middle of Melvin’s arguing about painkillers because neither can remember what Steve asked for, and decide to just grab one. They all do the same thing anyways, right? Wrong.

Nancy barely has the bottle off the shelf when it’s grabbed out of her hand, “Wow, Wheeler. Breaking his heart isn’t good enough? You wanna kill him now too? Get Tylenol.”

Steve calls Dustin up and is kinda whiny until he agrees to go to his house and watch movies. He doesn’t want to do this. He makes it clear that he doesn’t. Like, an hour and a half in, there’s a knock at the door.

It’s Tommy with a birthday cake that his mom made and insisted he drop off. Dustin didn’t even know it was Steve’s birthday. They’ve known each other for two years.

Tommy is roaming the shelves as Family Video, rolling his eyes about Steve befriending Eddie ‘The Freak’ Munson and a band geek and how loudly they are just dicking off at the counter. Theyre snacking on brownies Robin brought in, and then he hears a wheeze.

Then panic. Then the thump of a body on the floor. Then without even thinking, he’s pulling an epi-pen out of his pocket and jabbing it into Steve’s thigh. Of course his ‘friends’ have no idea about his peanut allergy. Of course.

Steve has the presence of mind to blurt out, “Is that expired?”

“I don’t freaking know!” Tommy snaps, and then snaps his fingers in front of Steve’s face when his eyes start to droop. “Hey, stay awake until the ambulance gets here.”

“Am’lance?”

“Yeah, the ambulance,” He says, turning to Steve’s friends. “You did call an ambulance.”

And Eddie and Robin are like, “Yes” as they slowly back up to go do that.

[97tears]

This is my oc his name is shoujo male manipulator

[chloesimaginationthings]

Friendship never dies in FNAF..

[c7arisse]

chapter 284 be like

[emotsper]

airiena exes is such a funny concept to me

[abyssal-ilk]

thinking about sten again. thinking about him calling the warden kadan and never explaining what it means. thinking about him offering to take the warden back with him to par vollen, but it's never actually an option the warden takes, even if you agree. thinking about how sten responds the best to a warden who stands their ground even if he doesn't agree with them. thinking about how he loves sweets and art, and how he plays with kittens. "it's training," he says. but come on. he's playing. thinking about what else he's had to justify to himself for liking.

and he calls alistair kadan! shale as well! do you think it was ever extended to the other party members? just,, agh

[hotpotatopotat]

"There's Peace with Time"

After the war, Tomura resides in a facility where he can receive medical care and peace of mind. Even after a decade or more, Izuku still makes the effort to visit him once a week.

Based on a small thread I wrote and a small doodle of an older Shigaraki back in 2021. I still have the doodle, and I still recall the story. There's a reason it has never left my thoughts.

[pixie-katt]

MADE A DRAGON SONA!! His name is kiwano :D

[royalarchivist]

Bad: I don’t think people understand the effect QSMP had on some of the streamers in terms of like… The real raw mental impact, so I’m gonna set the stage for you. [...] Imagine that you were given a friend to play Minecraft with — like your best friend — BUT if this person dies, if they die in the game, you never get to talk to them again. Can you imagine what that’s like?

Bad: If you did not live through the QSMP, if you did not live through that, it almost sounds like, crazy. But I don’t think people realize how much of a joyous experience the Eggs were. They were SO awesome! They were literally so awesome to just hang out with and spend time with.

Bad: I’m not saying I regret it. To this day, I loved the experience. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. Even knowing how everything went, I would still do it all over again. [...] I would still do it all over again, because — even knowing like, all the trauma and suffering and stuff like that — because it was just… It was just that fun, it was just that fun.

Earlier today during his stream, Bad shared his experience and thoughts about the Eggs and the significant emotional (and traumatic) impact they had on him and his fellow QSMP members.

This clip a very edited-down version since his commentary was ~13 minutes long, so I highly recommend checking out Bad's VOD if you have the time. (Timestamp: 47:36 - 1:00:14)

[ Full Transcript ↓ ]

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Bad: To be fair Chat, I really think the QSMP... I don't think anyone really can relate to it, Chat. It's something that's so... I've told people this before, like– but it's hard to understand. Right? Like...

Where was I? Sorry Chat, I'm losing my train of thought. Look, let me explain Chat– here's the dealio, ok? Here's the dealio, and this is what I mean when I say like, it's important to keep this in mind, Chat. Ok? It's important to keep this in mind:

I don’t think people understand the effect that the QSMP had on like, some of the streamers, in terms of like… The real raw mental impact, so I’m gonna set the stage for you. This is the analogy I’ve given to every person who I’ve like, shared this with. Imagine you meet somebody– [He hears a strange noise] What the fudge was that? Did you hear that?

Anyway– Chip! The story I was just relaying to Chat, Chip, was this: I was sharing this story with them, I said–  I was giving them an analogy. 

Imagine Chat, for example, imagine that you were… playing Minecraft, with like– you were given a friend to play Minecraft with, Chat, like your best friend, and [unintelligible] were like, “Hey, you get to play Minecraft with this person, right? BUT if this person dies – they’re currently your best friend, Chip – but if they die in the game, you never get to talk to them again. Ever again.” Can you imagine what that’s like, Chip?

I don’t think a lot of people understand like, what that does, right? I’m not gonna say that like, it creates this situation, Chip, that like, messes with your head, but it– Chip – but it totally, totally does, Chip. It messes with your head! It literally puts you in a position where you’re second-guessing and thinking about everything, Chip! You’re thinking about EVERYTHING Chip! Ok? And that’s the problem, Chip– is you turn into a paranoid monster because of it, Chip! Like, you don’t understand Chip– I was- I was so afraid of every dirt block, I used to carry a shovel with me Chip, and I would specifically right-click dirt blocks that looked suspicious because mines, Chip– mines could not be shoveled! Like, I was crazy, Chip! But here’s the problem, Chip: that craziness is still there. I’m genuinely like–

I remember thinking Chip, that I would one day– I was like, “I’m going to move past–” here, let’s go up here, Chip. I remember thinking one day Chip, I was like, “I’m gonna move past the underground base, one of these days. You know, one of these days, I feel like I’ll be able to grow and achieve the desire to build a base that doesn’t have to be underground.” But I don’t think it’s possible now Chip, because I think… I just don’t know. I feel like the paranoia– there’s still like, residual leftover trauma from that situation, Chip.

But here’s the problem Chip: I don’t think I don’t think– I don’t think people understand it. Like, I just really don’t. But I also don’t blame them Chip, ‘cuz I don’t think it’s possible to fully understand it if you haven’t lived through it. Like, if you did not live through the QSMP… I’m talking about the QSMP, I don’t- I don’t know if that was obvious– if you did not live through that, it almost sounds like, crazy. But I don’t think people realize how much of a joyous experience like, the Eggs were. Right? I don’t think people realize it. Like, they were SO awesome! They were literally so awesome to just hang out with and spend time with, Chip. So, it’s just one of those things that–

[He’s interrupted by a loud rumble of thunder above them]

Did lightning just strike here? Is it thunderstorming out…? But anyway, Chip. That’s the food for thought.

But that’s the problem– Like, every time it rains in Minecraft, I have to like, look at the sky, and I get this weird, like, second--hand vibe because of the trauma. The trauma, Chip! The trauma is real! But that’s the point– I’m not saying I regret it. I, to this day Chip, I loved the experience. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. Even knowing how everything went, I would still do it all over again. 

[He falls down] Dangit, don’t come over here Chip, ‘cuz I’m coming back up! Ok.

I would still do it all over again, because — even knowing like, all the trauma and suffering  and stuff like that — because it was just… It was just that fun, Chip, it was just that fun. I really wi– I don’t think it’s ever gonna be possible, Chip, to give people that same energy, like that same experience. You know what I mean, Chip? I don’t think it’s ever gonna be possible again. Like, EVER.

Because… because like, one: I will say on one level Chip, I will say on one level, like– it’s sort of emotionally like… It’s emotionally devastating, and I think to actually go through that– and this is where like, if I ever do end up going to a– see a therapist, if I ever do end up going to see a therapist at any point, I’ll talk it over with them and be like, “Hey, what do you think about this?” Because I genuinely think on one level, like– it’s created this fear of forming attachments because of like, how things can go. You know what I mean? Like, the fear of getting attached to something and then potentially losing it. Like, it’s- it’s a genuine thing. I think people forget about that.

Like, at the end of the day, everything was RP, right? On the server. You know what I mean? Like, everything was RP, Chip. BUT at the same point, even though it was RP Chip, it was still like– there the reality of you were still playing like, with another person, and you were still getting that experience, and it felt like you were genuinely attached to someone and you didn’t want anything bad to happen to them. It was GENUINELY stressful, Chip.

But at the same point, I don’t regret it, and I don’t think it was a bad experience. I’m– 

Sometimes in life Chip, you go through stuff, and maybe you have a certain amount of like, things that like, can happen, that you’re like, “You know what, maybe this wasn’t a good thing that this happened,” but at the same point, you still aren’t necessarily upset about it, because… it’s like growing as a person, right? Here’s the thing Chip; even bad situations, Chip, can lead to an overall good outcome. Like–

Even if you’re going through something bad Chip, just because a bad thing happens doesn’t mean that only bad things have to come from that. That’s one of the things I tell people all the time, Chip, is that if you go through a bad situation, you can learn from it, and you can use your experience to help others. And you can be that– you can be, at the worst-case scenario, you can be someone for other people who are going through that same experience to lean on when they go through that.I think there’s a certain amount of comfort that comes from that; from knowing no matter how bad your situation is, you’re not the only person who’s experienced it. You know what I mean?