#flirting advice

[auroras-void]

Can't believe I haven't shared this here sooner, but life pro tip for all y'all tryna flirt with people:

Saying "hello I am flirting with you, you are being flirted with" with is actually unironically an irl cheat code.

I highly recommend you try it, especially for y'all out there flirting with your Tumblr mutuals.

Like it works unreasonably well. Has had a 100% success rate for me personally (Granted this is a single digit sample size composed entirely from people I met here on the Autism and ADHD gay flirting website, (I actually didn't even really get my current gf by doing this, but that's bc we met on a dating app so the expectations are a lot clearer from the getgo I feel like, though the more generalized ideas here do still apply))

Fr tho. Being explicit about your intentions makes the rest wayy easier to do. There are actual studies on this, most people, *including neurotypical people*, are extremely bad at being able to tell when someone is flirting with them. By skipping the guessing games and uncertainty, you get to be on the same page with the person you're talking to right away, you're not confusing each other, you're not wasting each other's time or bothering them, and you immediately get to operate under the assumption that you can now read any future interactions flirtatiously.

Additionally if someone reacts negatively and dislikes that you're communicating honestly and openly, they probably aren't a great person to be in a relationship with! So figuring that out is also a win!

You don't have to be as blunt as my example, (like you can drop a "to be clear I mean that flirtatiously" to the end of your dialogue and that feels relatively seamless, or you can open with a compliment followed by asking if they're willing to be flirted with at the moment, which also gives them the opportunity to turn you down right away, (Which helps even if they don't want to! People like having their consent requested and their boundaries respected!). Obv, also pay attention to social cues and context, be in a space where it is not unusual to be flirted with, don't jump out at people from nowhere, etc. Use your best judgement.

[maccreadyswife]

I just met a guy who looked like Pelle irl I forgot how to flirt irl someone help me oh my god I wanna ask if he’s single AAAA (also I told him to listen to Mayhem and I hope it doesn’t freak him out)

[lordplavis]

I think I've figured this flirting thing out...

[tr0ubl3d-tr4n53nd3r]

Hi guys. Flirting g advice from a person who has only had one relationship that lasted 3 months at most

Hi :)

I got you apple from apple tree.

I lik you and you like me!

[sapphic-courtship-for-dummies]

Hi! I could use some advice!

I've been talking a lot to this girl i like and sometimes i cannot tell if she's being genuine when she flirts with me? I have a difficult time picking up on tone and a lot of friends and i flirt in a sort of platonic way.

Essentially, my question is this: how can i tell if she is being genuine and how would i make it clear that i am?

ty for your time i hope you have a lovely day <3

Hello anon! Terribly sorry my answer to this is long overdue, but I hope it will be useful for someone regardless.

I totally understand the feeling. I'm used to being playfully flirty with my friends even though it's totally platonic, so it's not easy to tell when someone is being sincere. Honestly, unless she makes it utterly, undeniably clear that she's interested in you romantically, the only surefire way to know if she's sincere is if you ask! Same goes for making yourself clear on the matter: you have to be as explicit as possible. I know this concept may seem terrifying, but honesty is the best policy for a reason. And, truly? Just being direct and straightforward with someone about what you want is pretty hot tbh. People like to know where they stand in a relationship, so my advice is to embrace that kind of open communication.

I hope everything worked out for the best, and have a lovely day as well!

Love,

Sappho 💘

[pandoras-labyrinth]

HOW DO FLIRT?

help I’m trying to get my boyfriend to say “I love you” first and all I can think of doing is just pulling out the ‘you like jazz meme’

[misanderousmisfit]

Tell me you don't understand Tom "Iceman" Kazansky....

[the-mighty-e]

I have too many wips, so have a small (rushed) comic I did like a week ago

It's a sort of sequel to Nori giving N flirting advice (shame it can't be canon anymore :()

ALSO, very slightly suggestive??? The pickup line is nsfw intended so ye

Don't ask why everything is yellow my camera is weird

Also credits to my friend for coming up with the awful (but in character) pickup line

[cammy-mcspammy]

ahhh, are you still taking requests? if so, I've seen your saiki art... I'd like to see kuboyasu in your art style :) (saw the little doodle in the terusai comic, so cute!)

Omg sure!! I've never drawn him before so I kind of struggled with it

So take this, and an upcoming comic of him being silly 💜💜

[youngpettyqueen]

I know the decision to have Julian's parents have him augmented was made on the fly but imo its pretty obvious from early on that Julian has Family Issues because he avoids talking about his family like the plague and I think they should've incorporated this into the Julian and Sisko dynamic right from early on because I think it would've made for some really compelling stories and moments and could've set up a REALLY interesting Julian and Jake dynamic which they kinda started to do but never fully went for

[sky-dragon-03]

Inspiration struck when I came across this audio on tik tok

Hope y’all like it 💜

[toads-n-moss]

[ no dl6 au ]

these two were and always will be complete and utter flirting disasters and i will stand by this.

anyways i rewatched into the spiderverse so-

[id in alt text]

[thebigqueer]

i think vis reaction to sevika being a traitor to vander is so interesting because the strong anger she has implies that sevika must have played a much bigger role in vis life than just some woman who hung around the bar. given how close sevika seems to vander at the start of s1 (considering how she and vander talk to each other like theyve known each other for years, and its clear that sevika has some sort of common presence at the last drop) i wonder if maybe sevikas the closest that vi ever had to a maternal figure. not that i think sevika was a huge presence in vis life but maybe she was more of an aunt-like figure in her life who is distantly there every now and then when vi needed advice. maybe sevikas the one who taught her about periods. maybe sevikas helped her learn how to fight. the potential sevika vi bond is so special and important to me

[agalychnisspranneusroseus]

Sasha in highschool biting her tongue and clenching her fists and smiling as she helps Anne get with Marcy despite the distance because she loves them both so much and wants them to be happy despite how much it kills her.

[dragonsbluee]

I see your gay uncles of the straw hats Jimbrook and raise you old, gay, heartbroken, pirate captians who find a loving, romantic relationship in each other as they watch over a group of chaotic youngsters.

Because Brook and Yorki had a heartbreaking goodbye, and Brook spent 50 years mourning, but now he has a second chance. He wasn't expecting anything, but then, lo and behold! A handsome, kind, capable fish man enters stage right, and Brook is smitten. Here is someone who understands the grief of losing a captian and partner, then having to take their place to hold the crew together, but ultimately watching thier crew fall apart or suffer due to factors outside their control.

For Jimbei the last few years have been a whirlwind of chaos. He was looking forward to a new adventure full of chaos of his own making and choices. Now, enter stage left, this fantastic, enigmatic, adorable skeleton (and he's a musician!), who is a wonderful presence on a ship full of younger pirates. Jimbei never really moved on from the loss of the Sun Pirates, and hasn't had time to mourn all the friends he's lost in the past few years. But now he finds companionship and comfort in Brook. Someone who doesn't expect him to move on, let's him reminisce, but keeps him from getting stuck in his mourning. He's never thought of romance seriously before, but now he finds himself wanting.

The two meet in the middle, center stage on a ship of dreams as they forge a new one together. They still keep and work towards their individual dreams but find pieces of each other in them. Brook looks forward to the day he can introduce Laboon to Jimbei, and Jimbei has promised to translate the whale's words for Brook. Jimbei will see freedom for his people and finds motivation in every new song Brook writes and story he tells. Together, they find peace, calm, and rest. They find excitement, companionship, and a harbour in the other after years of storms.

[sapphic-courtship-for-dummies]

hey this is important and it’s very short! So I’m talking with this girl on insta, always telling her how pretty she is and how good she draw, I drew her & we had a great convo where she was like omg show me... pinky promise i won’t laugh.. now I switched the topic to school cuz I wanted to hold the convo but it dropped any ideas what I can do? Or how I can flirt more but like soft and!! Idk if she’s straight or not?? She is always walking with this boy and also wore his hoodie. But she posted on pride in her story also she gives me the vibes. Any ideas how I can ask her abt that? Thanks in advance and this wasn’t so short.. sorry

Hi anon, I just want to start by apologizing for never getting back to you about this! I know it's been a while and you've probably moved passed this issue by now, but I wanted to answer anyway in case it could be helpful for you or anyone else.

I find that genuine compliments are usually a good way to flirt, especially if they're not just about someone's appearance and really come from the heart. Just giving someone your full attention and letting them know you're really listening goes a long way. And when all else fails, try to make them laugh. Spreading smiles is one of the easiest ways to get closer to someone.

When it comes to gauging whether or not someone is queer/into your gender...if it isn't made obvious, once you're friendly enough with someone I think it's alright to just casually bring up the subject and ask. In this case, if your crush posts about pride in their story, that could be a good branching point for you to use to ask them about it. Same goes for finding out if someone has a partner. But if you're not comfortable just asking them, you could try sharing your own status or situation first, and usually folks tend to be forthcoming about themselves after you've opened up about it.

I hope everything worked out alright and that you're doing well!

Take care,

Sappho 💗