#flirting advice

[auroras-void]

Can't believe I haven't shared this here sooner, but life pro tip for all y'all tryna flirt with people:

Saying "hello I am flirting with you, you are being flirted with" with is actually unironically an irl cheat code.

I highly recommend you try it, especially for y'all out there flirting with your Tumblr mutuals.

Like it works unreasonably well. Has had a 100% success rate for me personally (Granted this is a single digit sample size composed entirely from people I met here on the Autism and ADHD gay flirting website, (I actually didn't even really get my current gf by doing this, but that's bc we met on a dating app so the expectations are a lot clearer from the getgo I feel like, though the more generalized ideas here do still apply))

Fr tho. Being explicit about your intentions makes the rest wayy easier to do. There are actual studies on this, most people, *including neurotypical people*, are extremely bad at being able to tell when someone is flirting with them. By skipping the guessing games and uncertainty, you get to be on the same page with the person you're talking to right away, you're not confusing each other, you're not wasting each other's time or bothering them, and you immediately get to operate under the assumption that you can now read any future interactions flirtatiously.

Additionally if someone reacts negatively and dislikes that you're communicating honestly and openly, they probably aren't a great person to be in a relationship with! So figuring that out is also a win!

You don't have to be as blunt as my example, (like you can drop a "to be clear I mean that flirtatiously" to the end of your dialogue and that feels relatively seamless, or you can open with a compliment followed by asking if they're willing to be flirted with at the moment, which also gives them the opportunity to turn you down right away, (Which helps even if they don't want to! People like having their consent requested and their boundaries respected!). Obv, also pay attention to social cues and context, be in a space where it is not unusual to be flirted with, don't jump out at people from nowhere, etc. Use your best judgement.

[prestongarveyslover]

I just met a guy who looked like Pelle irl I forgot how to flirt irl someone help me oh my god I wanna ask if he’s single AAAA (also I told him to listen to Mayhem and I hope it doesn’t freak him out)

[lordplavis]

I think I've figured this flirting thing out...

[sapphic-courtship-for-dummies]

just wanna start with a lil story cause its so damn hilarious to me

when i was younger i used to daydream about having a s/o, as children do, named… let’s say Griffin (idk very cool name but it’s supposed to be for any gender). I’m very loyal to my imaginary s/o and never imagined a different one. Now, recently I’ve moved to a new school and guess what. THERE’S A PERSON WITH THE SAME NAME AS MY IMAGINARY S/O AND LOOKS EXACTLY HOW I IMAGINED THEM. light brown curly hair, tall and beautiful. down to every last flaw. even the VOICE. recently got a new schedule for 2nd semester and I HAVE 3 CLASSES WITH THEM IN THE SAME DAY. plus my last study class (seminar i think its called) they look at me a lot and when we go out on walks during class they hang around me and sometimes sit at me seminar table. idk sappho i think this is fate (or i’m overreacting)

BUT i’m a super shy girly out here and need some help being confident enough to talk to this beautiful, POPULAR AND HELLA COOL being.

HELP ME SAPPHO I’M BEGGING YOU

(also i’m so in love with your blog thank you for existing ♥️)

Oh. My Goddess. Girl, I don't think you're overreacting. Either you manifested this, you saw the future, or this is one hell of a synchronicity, 'cause this is wild.

Anyway, once you've calmed a bit from that excitement, it is important to remember that this person is their own individual being, and will probably not react and behave the same way as your imaginary s/o. So don't be deterred if your interactions don't go exactly as you've imagined them. They're just like any other person, and you have to take the time and effort to get to know the real them. But that's the fun part!! And it seems like you'll have ample opportunity to bond and build this relationship through classes, walking after class, maybe do some homework together, etc.

This is a really exciting chance and I absolutely think you should take it. Just be yourself, be kind, and put yourself out there! If this isn't a sign from the universe, I don't know what is. Be brave sapling, Aphrodite is on your side, and you can call upon Her for confidence whenever you need it. You have the strength you need already, you just have to tap into it. I have every faith in you!

Here's to hoping that dreams really do come true. Keep me posted!

(And thank you so much!!! ❤️)

Goddess be with you,

Sappho 💘

[tr0ubl3d-tr4n53nd3r]

Hi guys. Flirting g advice from a person who has only had one relationship that lasted 3 months at most

Hi :)

I got you apple from apple tree.

I lik you and you like me!

[pandoras-labyrinth]

HOW DO FLIRT?

help I’m trying to get my boyfriend to say “I love you” first and all I can think of doing is just pulling out the ‘you like jazz meme’

[misanderousmisfit]

Tell me you don't understand Tom "Iceman" Kazansky....

[the-mighty-e]

I have too many wips, so have a small (rushed) comic I did like a week ago

It's a sort of sequel to Nori giving N flirting advice (shame it can't be canon anymore :()

ALSO, very slightly suggestive??? The pickup line is nsfw intended so ye

Don't ask why everything is yellow my camera is weird

Also credits to my friend for coming up with the awful (but in character) pickup line

[cammy-mcspammy]

ahhh, are you still taking requests? if so, I've seen your saiki art... I'd like to see kuboyasu in your art style :) (saw the little doodle in the terusai comic, so cute!)

Omg sure!! I've never drawn him before so I kind of struggled with it

So take this, and an upcoming comic of him being silly 💜💜

[youngpettyqueen]

I know the decision to have Julian's parents have him augmented was made on the fly but imo its pretty obvious from early on that Julian has Family Issues because he avoids talking about his family like the plague and I think they should've incorporated this into the Julian and Sisko dynamic right from early on because I think it would've made for some really compelling stories and moments and could've set up a REALLY interesting Julian and Jake dynamic which they kinda started to do but never fully went for

[sky-dragon-03]

Inspiration struck when I came across this audio on tik tok

Hope y’all like it 💜

[toads-n-moss]

[ no dl6 au ]

these two were and always will be complete and utter flirting disasters and i will stand by this.

anyways i rewatched into the spiderverse so-

[id in alt text]

[agalychnisspranneusroseus]

Sasha in highschool biting her tongue and clenching her fists and smiling as she helps Anne get with Marcy despite the distance because she loves them both so much and wants them to be happy despite how much it kills her.

[dragonsbluee]

I see your gay uncles of the straw hats Jimbrook and raise you old, gay, heartbroken, pirate captians who find a loving, romantic relationship in each other as they watch over a group of chaotic youngsters.

Because Brook and Yorki had a heartbreaking goodbye, and Brook spent 50 years mourning, but now he has a second chance. He wasn't expecting anything, but then, lo and behold! A handsome, kind, capable fish man enters stage right, and Brook is smitten. Here is someone who understands the grief of losing a captian and partner, then having to take their place to hold the crew together, but ultimately watching thier crew fall apart or suffer due to factors outside their control.

For Jimbei the last few years have been a whirlwind of chaos. He was looking forward to a new adventure full of chaos of his own making and choices. Now, enter stage left, this fantastic, enigmatic, adorable skeleton (and he's a musician!), who is a wonderful presence on a ship full of younger pirates. Jimbei never really moved on from the loss of the Sun Pirates, and hasn't had time to mourn all the friends he's lost in the past few years. But now he finds companionship and comfort in Brook. Someone who doesn't expect him to move on, let's him reminisce, but keeps him from getting stuck in his mourning. He's never thought of romance seriously before, but now he finds himself wanting.

The two meet in the middle, center stage on a ship of dreams as they forge a new one together. They still keep and work towards their individual dreams but find pieces of each other in them. Brook looks forward to the day he can introduce Laboon to Jimbei, and Jimbei has promised to translate the whale's words for Brook. Jimbei will see freedom for his people and finds motivation in every new song Brook writes and story he tells. Together, they find peace, calm, and rest. They find excitement, companionship, and a harbour in the other after years of storms.

[sapphic-courtship-for-dummies]

Hi! I could use some advice!

I've been talking a lot to this girl i like and sometimes i cannot tell if she's being genuine when she flirts with me? I have a difficult time picking up on tone and a lot of friends and i flirt in a sort of platonic way.

Essentially, my question is this: how can i tell if she is being genuine and how would i make it clear that i am?

ty for your time i hope you have a lovely day <3

Hello anon! Terribly sorry my answer to this is long overdue, but I hope it will be useful for someone regardless.

I totally understand the feeling. I'm used to being playfully flirty with my friends even though it's totally platonic, so it's not easy to tell when someone is being sincere. Honestly, unless she makes it utterly, undeniably clear that she's interested in you romantically, the only surefire way to know if she's sincere is if you ask! Same goes for making yourself clear on the matter: you have to be as explicit as possible. I know this concept may seem terrifying, but honesty is the best policy for a reason. And, truly? Just being direct and straightforward with someone about what you want is pretty hot tbh. People like to know where they stand in a relationship, so my advice is to embrace that kind of open communication.

I hope everything worked out for the best, and have a lovely day as well!

Love,

Sappho 💘

[sarahreadstoomanycomics]

Covers for the new Hellblazer miniseries we'll be getting in 2024. Written by Si Spurrier with art by Aaron Campbell.