#fight against the patriarchy

[caitlinjohns77]

[isawthismeme]

Black people and women have been overqualified for every position in America since July 3rd, 1776. It is the progress of white people and of men to finally get over their racism and misogyny that is allowing people into those spaces. Remember that.

[avicecaro]

“I want to address a message I’ve received from men many times, one that has a particularly angry tone and goes something like this:

“Why do you only talk about abusive men?? Why don’t you talk about abusive women?? There are a lot of them out there! Men can be abused, too! You need to stop avoiding that, and stop making it sound like women are all good and men are all bad!”

[…]

If you were a man who had genuinely been terribly treated by a female partner – and we probably all know a guy that’s happened to – you would feel an instinctive sympathy with female victims, because you’d really get what they’ve been through.

And I have talked to some genuinely mistreated men, and that was, indeed, how they reacted; they come up to me and say things like, “I really get what you’re talking about, because I actually had a pretty similar experience.”

So I get immediately suspicious of a man who stands up angrily, and starts growling, “Why aren’t you talking about this happening to men?? This happened to me!!” This style of guy doesn’t express any caring about what is happening to women. Nor does he express any gratitude towards the women and men who are working to assist abused women and to stop abusers. There’s no sign that he feels any sense of common ground with abused women. So I don’t buy his story. I think what he’s really mad about is that we won’t shut up about what so many men are doing to women.”

Men’s Angry Messages to Me, Part 2, blog post from Lundy Bancroft, on his website lundybancroft.com

[framemygazepls]

This is a gorgeous video essay by Pop Culture Detective (PCD). Highly recommend a watch! PCD notes while there are many legitimate criticism of Barbie’s feminism, or lack thereof, he doesn’t address those questions, but instead uses Barbie as a primer to beautifully explain how patriarchal ideas don’t benefit men or women.

It has such brilliant editing, research, script and visuals. I teared up at the end when he mentioned how important solidarity is between men and women as a way to end sexism and how men should challenge other men on sexism.

[fromtheseventhhell]

Most of this “let women be feminine” rhetoric is coming from those privileged enough to live in areas and families where they aren’t punished for not conforming to gender roles. Go to South Korea and you’ll see women smashing make-up and cutting their hair in defiance against societally enforced femininity. Come to America, and it’s pick-me’s complaining that they have financial independence from men and are allowed to have a career. Genuinely embarrassing.

That really is the thing that people refuse to acknowledge, this idea of a perfect feminine lifestyle is only available to a small and privileged group of women. All the jokes about being angry that women fought for rights and people glorifying the idea of being a housewife completely ignore how this lifestyle was never available to lower-class women or women of color. And even to women it was open to, it wasn't the feminist fantasy people pretend it was. There is nothing glamorous or progressive about women being expected to conform to patriarchal ideas. You can defend and support feminine women without leaning back on misogynistic rhetoric and tearing down other women.

[rebelontherocks]

the string of events that led me to watch dune 2 in theaters is something... and sent me into the rabbit hole that is only possible when you watch something that is 'good' but not 'great' and which doesn't seem interested to grapple with its own themes.

[echoesofadream]

omg disgusting men offended by the 4b movement who would ever be shocked but i actually am because its so stupid just go be a mra like im laughing

[lunar-nebulari]

There was nothing more soul crushing than walking out of the theatre after seeing the empowering movie that is Barbie and being catcalled in the parking lot

[cherry-treelane]

just remembered im gonna have to go through the feminism, puberty, adolescence, human decency, misogyny etc talks with my second brother too when hes older. and ensure that both my brothers turn out to be good men.

[marcos--budt]

JUST SAW SOME CRAZY MISOGYNY AND MISOGYNOIR ON MY DASH SO NOW YOU ALL HAVE TO SUFFER THROUGH 10 FEMINIST POSTS IN A ROW😘

[isawthismeme]

[qipsir]

The glamour idea is that what if we were able to discredit the cheese puff in the eyes of even his most loyal? Cast a sort of inverted faraday cage (contain instead of protect) of glamour on his team so he thinks they're conspiring to overthrow him. So he thinks his public is trying to cause his downfall. So that the news agreeing with him, THATS the false news.

Idk just some food for thought

[number-one-jew]

Realizing that the Barbie movie was not a feminist movie is a sad but necessary step for our society.

[radmalenia]

True. If it was the natural proper state it would just happen; and they wouldn't have to be violent sadistic scumbags towards women to enforce it.

There's a big reason humanity has been full of barbaric struggle and in total disarray ever since males flipped the natural order and decided to create a perverted hierarchy with them ontop; upheld through force and dehumanization. Humanity was never like that before they did so, but male ego was so sick and diseased that they'd rather choose a violent psychopathic state of humanity with them on top; rather than an ethical and happy state of humanity where they are not.

Like I've said quite a few times before; they literally choose ego and misogyny over peace and progress and happiness.

i think men are bad leaders because leadership just doesn’t come naturally to men. it’s easy to see leadership is a forced nature on men. if leadership was naturally part of men’s existence, they wouldn’t have to assert themselves so aggressively over women.

[kataraslove]

there’s a reason why the entire story of avatar the last airbender begins and ends with katara. there’s a reason why we are introduced to katara first before we are introduced to any other character. there’s a reason why katara is the narrator. there’s a reason why the creators have emphasized over and over again that katara is just as titular to the story as aang - she’s the other main character.

when you water down katara - remove her compassion, her ability to connect with others, her nurturing role, her ANGER and RAGE and DRIVE - you water down the very fundamentals of the story. you drastically and severely alter the core dynamics of the gaang, because katara was so important to the development of every single one of them. she was the rock and glue that held team avatar together.

katara was unlike any other character to ever appear on television; she was a young brown girl who took no shit from anyone, yet at the same time remained kind and compassionate and nurturing. katara was a force of nature; proud of her heritage and culture, burdened by the responsibility of being the last southern water bender of the water tribe, angered over the death of her mother and everything that the fire nation took from her, determined to help every single person in need, determined to change the world, angry and resentful because old men and rules and laws kept telling her what she could or could not do, thus, she was determined to restructure thousands of years of patriarchy that stood against her from accomplishing her goals and dreams.

watering down katara into at most 2-3 tangible characteristics, stripping her away of all her motivation and agency and nuance, telling the audience that she wants to help and change the world only to have her stand in the background with an air of grief, demonstrates that the writers of the live action fundamentally misunderstand the spirit of avatar. and that’s something so unforgivable. no matter how many changes they decide to make, or how much they decide to stay true to the original story in other areas, no matter how many flashy VFX fight scenes we get - if you fail to properly understand katara, you fail to understand the heart and soul of avatar the last airbender, everything that makes avatar such a timeless classic.

[nerdygaymormon]

The LGBTQ community has seen controversy regarding acceptance of different groups (bisexual and transgender individuals have sometimes been marginalized by the larger community), but the term LGBT has been a positive symbol of inclusion and reflects the embrace of different identities and that we’re stronger together and need each other. While there are differences, we all face many of the same challenges from broader society.

In the 1960′s, in wider society the meaning of the word gay transitioned from ‘happy’ or ‘carefree’ to predominantly mean ‘homosexual’ as they adopted the word as was used by homosexual men, except that society also used it as an umbrella term that meant anyone who wasn’t cisgender or heterosexual. The wider queer community embraced the word ‘gay’ as a mark of pride.

The modern fight for queer rights is considered to have begun with The Stonewall Riots in 1969 and was called the Gay Liberation Movement and the Gay Rights Movement.

The acronym GLB surfaced around this time to also include Lesbian and Bisexual people who felt “gay” wasn’t inclusive of their identities. 

Early in the gay rights movement, gay men were largely the ones running the show and there was a focus on men’s issues. Lesbians were unhappy that gay men dominated the leadership and ignored their needs and the feminist fight. As a result, lesbians tended to focus their attention on the Women’s Rights Movement which was happening at the same time. This dominance by gay men was seen as yet one more example of patriarchy and sexism. 

In the 1970′s, sexism and homophobia existed in more virulent forms and those biases against lesbians also made it hard for them to find their voices within women’s liberation movements. Betty Friedan, the founder of the National Organization for Women (NOW), commented that lesbians were a “lavender menace” that threatened the political efficacy of the organization and of feminism and many women felt including lesbians was a detriment.

In the 80s and 90s, a huge portion of gay men were suffering from AIDS while the lesbian community was largely unaffected. Lesbians helped gay men with medical care and were a massive part of the activism surrounding the gay community and AIDS. This willingness to support gay men in their time of need sparked a closer, more supportive relationship between both groups, and the gay community became more receptive to feminist ideals and goals. 

Approaching the 1990′s it was clear that GLB referred to sexual identity and wasn’t inclusive of gender identity and T should be added, especially since trans activist have long been at the forefront of the community’s fight for rights and acceptance, from Stonewall onward. Some argued that T should not be added, but many gay, lesbian and bisexual people pointed out that they also transgress established gender norms and therefore the GLB acronym should include gender identities and they pushed to include T in the acronym. 

GLBT became LGBT as a way to honor the tremendous work the lesbian community did during the AIDS crisis. 

Towards the end of the 1990s and into the 2000s, movements took place to add additional letters to the acronym to recognize Intersex, Asexual, Aromantic, Agender, and others. As the acronym grew to LGBTIQ, LGBTQIA, LGBTQIAA, many complained this was becoming unwieldy and started using a ‘+’ to show LGBT aren’t the only identities in the community and this became more common, whether as LGBT+ or LGBTQ+. 

In the 2010′s, the process of reclaiming the word “queer” that began in the 1980′s was largely accomplished. In the 2020′s the LGBTQ+ acronym is used less often as Queer is becoming the more common term to represent the community.