#fight against the patriarchy

[1-800-chaos]

“She wants to tear you apart.”

[caitlinjohns77]

[dykedvonte]

Mini rant below and in the tags, the only time I’ll talk about this and my personal take on it.

The way people talk about hypothetical male Anya on Twitter and the idea of how Mouthwashing would play out if the genders were swapped makes me remember how people still don’t take sexual assault and rape with male victims with the same gravity, especially when the perpetrator is female.

[isawthismeme]

Black people and women have been overqualified for every position in America since July 3rd, 1776. It is the progress of white people and of men to finally get over their racism and misogyny that is allowing people into those spaces. Remember that.

[avicecaro]

“I want to address a message I’ve received from men many times, one that has a particularly angry tone and goes something like this:

“Why do you only talk about abusive men?? Why don’t you talk about abusive women?? There are a lot of them out there! Men can be abused, too! You need to stop avoiding that, and stop making it sound like women are all good and men are all bad!”

[…]

If you were a man who had genuinely been terribly treated by a female partner – and we probably all know a guy that’s happened to – you would feel an instinctive sympathy with female victims, because you’d really get what they’ve been through.

And I have talked to some genuinely mistreated men, and that was, indeed, how they reacted; they come up to me and say things like, “I really get what you’re talking about, because I actually had a pretty similar experience.”

So I get immediately suspicious of a man who stands up angrily, and starts growling, “Why aren’t you talking about this happening to men?? This happened to me!!” This style of guy doesn’t express any caring about what is happening to women. Nor does he express any gratitude towards the women and men who are working to assist abused women and to stop abusers. There’s no sign that he feels any sense of common ground with abused women. So I don’t buy his story. I think what he’s really mad about is that we won’t shut up about what so many men are doing to women.”

Men’s Angry Messages to Me, Part 2, blog post from Lundy Bancroft, on his website lundybancroft.com

[iam-the-wild]

Anytime I see discourse meant to divide the trans and queer community I look up trans art and queer art and I'm reminded of how many people create art to express themselves and create beautiful art and I'm reminded that the entire queer experience is vast and there's less people that want to divide and endlessly fight than there are people who are spreading art and joy and work to help make real changes.

A lot of times it feels like people think it's more important to endlessly debate terms and deciding who experiences what oppression or privileges instead of deciding to listen to each other and learn how to fight against these oppressive systems together and do the way more boring work of getting involved locally. You need to be able to listen to other people's experiences to be able to work together to defeat the system. Everyone who wants the queer community gone only benefits when we're divided.

Heres some resources to check out if you're in the US. A lot of organizations right now are dealing with way more people needing help with the upcoming Trump presidency.

Rainbow passage helps queer people move from environments that aren't safe

[aki-anyway]

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[framemygazepls]

This is a gorgeous video essay by Pop Culture Detective (PCD). Highly recommend a watch! PCD notes while there are many legitimate criticism of Barbie’s feminism, or lack thereof, he doesn’t address those questions, but instead uses Barbie as a primer to beautifully explain how patriarchal ideas don’t benefit men or women.

It has such brilliant editing, research, script and visuals. I teared up at the end when he mentioned how important solidarity is between men and women as a way to end sexism and how men should challenge other men on sexism.

[pornography-for-kenkus]

every day on this cursed webbed site i come across some of the stupidest fucking opinions i've ever seen and i'm honestly so so strong for not engaging

[fromtheseventhhell]

Most of this “let women be feminine” rhetoric is coming from those privileged enough to live in areas and families where they aren’t punished for not conforming to gender roles. Go to South Korea and you’ll see women smashing make-up and cutting their hair in defiance against societally enforced femininity. Come to America, and it’s pick-me’s complaining that they have financial independence from men and are allowed to have a career. Genuinely embarrassing.

That really is the thing that people refuse to acknowledge, this idea of a perfect feminine lifestyle is only available to a small and privileged group of women. All the jokes about being angry that women fought for rights and people glorifying the idea of being a housewife completely ignore how this lifestyle was never available to lower-class women or women of color. And even to women it was open to, it wasn't the feminist fantasy people pretend it was. There is nothing glamorous or progressive about women being expected to conform to patriarchal ideas. You can defend and support feminine women without leaning back on misogynistic rhetoric and tearing down other women.

[rebelontherocks]

the string of events that led me to watch dune 2 in theaters is something... and sent me into the rabbit hole that is only possible when you watch something that is 'good' but not 'great' and which doesn't seem interested to grapple with its own themes.

[echoesofadream]

omg disgusting men offended by the 4b movement who would ever be shocked but i actually am because its so stupid just go be a mra like im laughing

[lunarlapinou]

There was nothing more soul crushing than walking out of the theatre after seeing the empowering movie that is Barbie and being catcalled in the parking lot

[isawthismeme]

[cherry-treelane]

just remembered im gonna have to go through the feminism, puberty, adolescence, human decency, misogyny etc talks with my second brother too when hes older. and ensure that both my brothers turn out to be good men.

[marcos--budt]

JUST SAW SOME CRAZY MISOGYNY AND MISOGYNOIR ON MY DASH SO NOW YOU ALL HAVE TO SUFFER THROUGH 10 FEMINIST POSTS IN A ROW😘