#fated anon

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Asks January 24th

Fated Anon (TW ED), Red Flag Anon, Midnights Anon, Low-Key Anon (new), 30 people anon (new), student teacher anon (new), crash and burn anon (new)

Fated Anon

HIIII! It’s fated anon again ( I like that alias it’s so dramatic and fun I love it)

I took ur advice it helped a lot! I spoke to my friends and kinda fixed up what we had before and it helped me kinda get back on track. I never rlly realized how much all this has been messing with my head, I forgot how horrible I am with feelings. Ik it was et that long ago but just that conversation alone was so much progress which is fortunate just before exams, i have a tenancy to get a bit in my head about things and it was lowkey the worst I’ve felt in a while. Anyway for the boundaries thing, I’ve spoken to my friends and they seem to be more receptive to it than before except for one :(

I’ve took time to think about it but I think it would be better if we parted ways tbh I’ve only now realized how toxic our friendship has been. They never liked me to begin with for some reason always excessively dismissive at any chance I took to be friends. Anyway turns out they had a thing for my MULTIPLE of my friends and took it out on me??? Idk their behaviour is so odd to me. They feel the need to comment on literally everything. On my clothes, my weight, my hair, my grades, in their mind they’re the peak of human evolution which is so ufhdgchggsd. And all this feels so much worse when they know I was struggling with eating and such ( only realized it was an ed after I started recovering ) and used to make jokes about me being anorexic on the regular??? They used to make fun of my hair after I started to get comfortable wearing it curly, dirty looks and odd comments whenever my religion came up. It all feels so weird and lowkey kinda racist??? I thought I was overthinking this but it’s to the point where other friends are asking me about it. This is the kinda thing I hate, when other people get to pick and choose what cultures r ok based off weather or not their “ascetically pleasing” enough.

This is the kinda bs I’ve been dealing with for years. I got off without as many problems as a kid cause I was white passing, no problems on the schoolyard or anything but still annoyed me that no one would listen to me, but now the melanin finally showed up and a realized how shitty people can be. EXHIBIT A: the friend who genuinely thinks I can’t be mentally ill, and shoved me into the “angry black person” stereotype???? Like I’m not pulling things out of my ass this is the only way to describe it. AlicdYjuZhkjzfhK one more thing then I’ll move on cause Im on a roll rn, one of those people that think of mixed people weird??? Like better then being like totally one race and I’m sure has tried to use the one slit( I think it’s a slur still a shit thing to say regardless) idk its lowkey some Harry Potter type segregation going on but not my problem soon enough.

Im holding myself back from saying anymore but holy fuck I need to get that out of my brain even if it makes 0 sense. Anyway talked it out with my close friend and I plan on parting ways cause this is nonsense.

Anyway quick update on my girl problem, I think I may spontaneously combust. SHVFHXZBXC I can barely talk to her and she’s starting to catch on I think and I’m a shit lier and can’t say no to her so my solution is to just avoid the convo:( still can’t tell if she likes me or not cause we fit the one gay trope ever they be saying literally anything but “hey I like you 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃” idk I don’t think I’m going to make it😭😭😭 my grave will read “ here lies fated anon , cause of death: the girl was to gay to speak” this may become reality this girl has been making me lose my mind. I caught myself getting jealous at a shared playlist with another girl🙃 I know ur way past ur days of pinning being married and all but how do you deal with jealousy? Like it’ll be over the smallest things, and I know the first step is being able to realize that ur doing too much but like it’s still there?

Anywho I’ve realized that writing has been a good outlet for all this nonsense going on, idk I might start posting if I pump out somthing half decent :/

I lowkey forgot I have school and it’s past one so imma leave it at that, I write a bit much anyway sorry:( but I hope u have lovely night and thank u for everything u do Cas<3 ( I do apologize for the grammer I fear I may be a lost cause)

Hi! Honestly those friends sound like...horrible friends, tbh. I'm glad you're stepping back. So many of the things they're doing are NOT okay, and it's so good that you're working on setting boundaries and realizing that. I'm sorry that you have to do so in the first place.

As far as jealousy...yeah I think that thinking through the logic behind it might be helpful. Plenty of people share a playlist with friends, you know? But I'd also say that avoiding conversations certainly isn't going to like...help her like you. Like if there's a chance she likes you, avoiding her is just going to make her think you don't like her, and she might move on. Have you tried doing some of the things with her that you're jealous about? You can always make and share a playlist!

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Red Flag Anon

I'm not gonna copy your whole message here but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry about everything you've been going through. It sounds so scary and exhausting and just...I have no words. I'm glad you at least seem to be aware of the things you need to work on and you have a plan on how to take care of yourself. I am sending you so much love and so many hugs, and I believe in you <3

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Midnights Anon

I'm so sorry that your parents are acting this way. I think a really common thing with parents is that they let their own issues, upbringing, trauma, and emotions affect their parenting. Obviously nobody is perfect, but when it's affecting you this much, it's not fair. Do you have ways to get out of the house more? Maybe you could join some clubs or go over friends' houses? Just so you can get some distance, you know? And I'm glad that you have the coping strategy of reading fanfic. Maybe it would be helpful to come up with a list of coping strategies for when things get particularly rough?

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Low-Key Anon

Here's the beginning of your ask so you know it's you!

hiii cas :) im a moot of urs, a low-key one, and I’ve never done this before but I love ur asks cas thingy and omg I could rlly use some advice. 

Okay so...I think you should do a bit of both of what you were saying. Based on what you said, N is definitely someone you DO NOT want to be close to. The fact that N just like...admitted to hurting someone like that is insane. But I can see where you don't want to cause drama, either, and yeah, it's hard to cut someone out when you see them every day. So could you do a bit of both? Like..just pull back from N. Don't get involved in the drama, don't seek out time or conversations with N, only speak to them when spoken to. Don't give N a reason to be mad, but don't like...act all buddy-buddy, either. I think if you pull back, you'll find it'll be easier to avoid the drama as well.

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30 people anon

I wanna know if I'm in the wrong here

So me and my friend group are part of this big group chat of around 30 people

Another person in this group chat is one of my friends exes

I made some joke about how they used to date and this friend got really pissed at me because it turned out neither of them wanted anyone in the group chat that didnt already know to know they dated.

Not once was I ever told about that

My friend said I should've picked it up from "context clues"

Their ex hasn't been brought up in conversation pretty much at all since they broke up bc there wasn't any reason to bring him up

but apparently everyone refuses to bring him up as their ex which I didn't know because we have had literally no reason to talk about this man considering the fact they dated him over a year ago

Personally I don't think I'm in the wrong and I think they should have clearly stated that they didn't want everyone else to know about their relationship

But I need a second opinion because I don't trust mine alone

Honestly I think this one is hard to tell without knowing more about the dynamic of the group. But going off of what you've told me here, no, I don't think you're in the wrong. I think if someone says "oh me and x are dating!" and doesn't tell me to keep it quiet, then...there's no reason for me not to, especially around a group of supportive friends. So the same would hold true for exes.

But I guess it also depends on like...the dynamic of the group, the situation between the two people dating, the circumstances of the breakup, if the people faced any backlash from dating. Like there's so many things that could affect if it's a good idea to bring up a relationship or ex-relationship, that I can't really tell. Because yeah, if you were never told not to bring it up, you're not technically in the wrong, but there could be a million different circumstances that would make it so you still shouldn't bring it up.

SO yeah, all this to say...I dont know. (Also I asked my wife and she agrees with me)

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Student teacher Anon

hi cas!

I am asking for some advice? comfort? a sounding board? idek at this point.

Basically, I am terrified of what is happening rn in the US and I'm not sure how I get through this. on top of that fear, I am a student Teacher at a small school in a red state who is very left leaning. I listen to students every day talk about how great the horrible people are and how they're doing great things and I can't say anything without getting reprimanded and I know this won't end here. I know it'll be like this after I finish student teaching and signa contract too I have also been really struggling with my gender and know this is also not something many schools will accept.

I worry that I'm losing myself bc of teaching. I used to be a very involved activist who was speaking their mind and inspiring peers and now I feel like I'm not making any sort of a difference. I also feel like I have to hide my tattoos and change my self expression to be allowed as a teacher.

I just don't even know where this leaves me and I really don't know how to make it through life with the state if the US/world rn. leaving my state isn't an option unfortunately bc I can't leave my family here.

any advice?

Hi! I am also a teacher and all of these struggles and concerns are so valid. I have taught in a red state and I currently teach in a red town. I do want you to know though that it IS possible to find schools that allow you to express yourself and your gender, and to make a difference.

Don't get me wrong, my school still has lines I have to tiptoe, but I am able to wear what I want, identify as Mx., have purple hair and tattoos, and help run the GSA at my school. I still have to listen to the bigoted ideas come from other kids' mouths, but MY room is a safe space.

The reality is, it might take you a little while to find a school like mine because I had to be picky to find it, and when you're a new teacher, you can't be quite as picky. But if you're able to get a year or two of experience, then you'll be able to move to a new school and be pickier about what you want. Also make sure to ask the right questions in your interviews to see if the district/school is aligned with your goal (DM me if you want more details).

No matter what school you're at though, youll find that there are ALWAYS kids who are looking for an adult who understands. Even when I taught in a red state, and I had to hide my identity, the queer kids always found me and I was able to make a difference.

I know it's hard, but it is possible. Again, feel free to DM me to talk more! <3

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Crash and Burn Anon

Here's the beginning of your ask so you know it's you!

Hey, so I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months and 11 days. (But who's counting) And last night I was talking with my bestie.

Okay so I don't feel comfortable addressing your entire ask but I can say that it's your job to decide what you are comfortable with, not your best friend. Everyone's boundaries are different, you know? I think you need to reflect on what you want, and communicate that with your boyfriend. It sounds like he's respectful and willing to listen.

[rizzanon]

imagine if one of readers friends had a sibling and treated the friends sibling more like a sibling than any of the batfam ?? how would they react

it could be adriens twin brother felix wink wink nudge nudge

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NOT FELIX. i’ll be using Caitlyn’s older brother (from chapter 4) as the example ☺️

imagine reader in her petty era trying to avoid all conversations/confrontations with the batfam (especially dick—idk why im bullying him at this point—who’s trying to reach out to you and bridge the gap between you two that seemed to have grown bigger due to a particular incident(s) that happened will be explained more in depth in chapter 5 )

like imagine:

Dick: (calling out to you after spotting you along the hallways of Wayne Manor) Hey, (Name)! Do you want to—

regressed!reader: (cutting him off, speedwalking past) Sorry, can’t talk. I’m late to meet up with Caitlyn and our brother.

Dick: (blinking, turning to follow your retreating figure) Our brother? Wait, what? Who—?

regressed!reader: (already out the door)

Dick: (to himself, utterly perplexed) ‘Our’ brother?? What is going on?

regressed!reader: (stretching, checking the time) Wow, it’s late. I should head back before Alfie nags at me for staying out.

Jason: (shrugging, reaching for his keys) Yeah, I’m not letting you walk back to the manor at this hour. I’ll give you a—

regressed!reader: (cutting him off, excitedly) Oh, great! My bro’s here to pick me up! See you never, hopefully!

Jason: (stunned) Wait, what? Your—? (watches you jog up to some random guy on a motorcycle, who hands you a helmet before the two of you ride off.)

Jason: (to himself, bewildered) Who the hell… Did the old man adopt another kid again?

Tim: (walking up, holding some tools) Hey, I remembered you needed help fixing a gadget of yours, so—

regressed!reader: (cutting him off, smirking) I got it. My bro helped me fix it up.

Tim: (pausing) …Dick?

regressed!reader: No.

Tim: (frowning) Jason?

regressed!reader: Pfft, no.

Tim: Damian??

regressed!reader: Seriously?

Tim: (utterly flabbergasted) “What other brothers do we even have??”

regressed!reader: (walking off with the smuggest grin imaginable, answering a phone call) Hey, bro! Yeah, thanks for helping me fix that gadget of mine!

Tim: (standing there, staring after you, completely baffled)

LOL i need to do this with the other batfam members 😭

[ahappydnp]

did Dan apply to go to uni in Manchester only after meeting Phil? as in did he only choose that university to stay close to Phil since he was living there?

so it looks like he was mostly considering southampton until late 2009...when he switched to really wanting manchester or york (a total mystery why....)

despite him not retaking his psychology a level yet (which he should have needed to get into manchester because they required 3 As but dan only had 2 after he failed his psych exam) dan got unconditional acceptance into manchester uni feb 2010!

(proof once again dan is y/n and the universe moves for them)

he did still tour york uni though

[dingostrash]

I AM NOT IMMUNE TO YOUR ARTSTYLE....... MASHU MY DEAR.....

I'm glad you're a fan! Have another Mash. As a treat❤️

[eldritch-spouse]

Channeling my period pain to the icons, but vore-vore. 🤢

[devotion-disorder]

im gonna breed kuuya so hard hes gonna become a housewife i dont care what biology or anatomy says i WILL GET HIM PREGNANT!!!!!! I HAVE FREE WILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

it seems that kuuya just cannot shake off his mpreg destiny...

[genericpuff]

Something I realized with Lore Olympus is why the Fates were not used more. After the Queen Persephone reveal, at least from my memory, they are never mentioned again. Even with their actual mythology being very significant to the lives of the God's, especially Zesus. Like, a lot of problems would have not happened or could be done better if the fates came into play.

the trial arc would have definitely gone down a lot differently if Rachel bothered to use the Fates LMAO i mean they literally have everything recorded on tapes, they would be a prosecutor's dream come true 😭

[forsoobado137]

Hi. old hetalia fan, and I just got back again. Could you explain this nation revealed au/public au? I don't recall encountering this back in the day (god! I feel so old! lol). It sounds interesting.

I don't really know how new it is, but "nations revealed" is like a public au where nations were kept a secret until someone (usually the CIA or America spilling the beans) reveals them to the public. hence the name. There's a LOT of variety with this genre. Sometimes nations are hated and persecuted while other times they are worshipped like celebrities. Sometimes they've always been known/been known for a long time (which is what my au is).

I highly recommend TELL ME A PIECE OF YOUR HISTORY by cultureandseptember. It's my favorite nations revealed fic.

I'm just going to list some general tropes:

America is usually the one who leaks the secret. Either by accident or his government declassifies nations. I've seen some fics where England is the one who reveals the secret (usually while hammered).

The nations get on twitter and post stuff.

Nations are heavily hated because of their involvement in wars. They're seen as murderers and scapegoated as the ones responsible for atrocities.

There are people who are "Anti-nation". They're usually called "abomiNATION", and they believe that all nations should be gone and they're inhuman monsters. Sometimes they stage attacks on nations.

Nations are like celebrities and make a lot of public appearances. They give speeches and get interviewed and stuff.

The chaotic world meetings are revealed to the public, and the public is SHOCKED. There's usually backlash and nations gotta learn to behave better.

Canada hides from the public because he's shy. Either that or he's mistaken for America.

Prussia really wants to be famous but nobody knows or cares about who he is. He gets big mad about that.

America does something woah wacky and gets a lot of media attention.

Nations get caught by the paparazzi and have to deal with them.

P.S. Anon is an old geezer who is CRINGE and STINKY 😡 HEY EVERYONE! LAUGH AT THE OLD HETALIA FAN WHO PROBABLY HAS BACK PAIN AND READING GLASSES!!!!!

*everyone on tumblr laughs and throws tomatoes at anon. Anon cries and has to lie down from their back pain.*

[allastoredeer]

Angel Alastor did live in Heaven for a time so presumably he at least knew *of* Adam, even if they'd never met. I'm just imagining in this AU when they were at the strategy meeting, Charlie brought up needing someone to fight Adam, and Alastor was practically bouncing on the balls of the feet going, 'Please please *please*, Charlie, I've waited fifty years for the chance to punch this insufferable man in his stupid face, you have no idea how badly I need this, please-'

Hehehe I actually have this stupid little scenario where Alastor got the opportunity to sleep with Adam, which he took because he was curious about what the first man was like in bed, and it has haunted him ever since.

He would rather die than anyone find out that he actually slept with Adam.

Adam doesn't remember, of course. He's slept with so many people, I doubt he remembers most of them. Which Alastor is 100% fine with.

I'm still not sure I want to make that canon to the AU, but I enjoy thinking about it.

I do love the idea of Alastor bouncing on the balls of his feet to fight Adam, anyway. He's been in proximity of that man before and he's wanted nothing more than to punch him in the face since he heard him speak. He is NOT passing up this opportunity, do you understand, Charlie?

[typemoonconfessions]

[cute-girls-from-vns-anime-manga]

Feliz Navidad, etc etc

Feliz to you tooo

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hey cas :), I’ve been feeling down and can’t rlly talk to anyone rn but like idk u give rlly good advice and I kinda need some :p. just a warning this kinda just seems like a bunch of nonsense high school drama (which it is but I digress). I started high school last year with like a newish group of friends, and all of said friends are queer and so am I. They’re all already out, which I love for them, but I’m not. This wasn’t an issue before, the only difference in our interaction was that they wouldn’t mention anything in front of my family and that was that. Going into high school though they’ve started to ignore my concerns. All of them either have accepting families or their parents have no way of knowing about them. Where we live there’s a tight knit community of people from the country I’m from too, and they all hapen to be very religious. I consider myself religious too, but as much as I hate it there’s a lot of deeply rooted homophobia. As much as my friends claim they understand they really don’t, I already struggle enough not speaking enough of the language, being queer is quite literally the worst thing I could be. My friends don’t get that. I’ve basically been “disowned” from some of the kids at school because of people assuming that am queer bc of my friends talking about me being gay, which I find weird but whatever. Like it sounds silly when I read it back but it’s like that’s the only thing I’m associated with now, even with my straight friends which I hate, not because im ashamed but I don’t want the fact that I happen to like girls to be my only personality trait in their eyes. This seems like an overreaction but cas when I tell you I’ve had days where I go from class to class with one specific friend (this is mainly an issue with like three people btw but like it’s worse when they’re with other people) and this girl will be basically singing to the hills about my most personal details while I’m losing my shit beginning her to shut up. And these god damn assumptions that people make about me now has ruined every romantic relationship I’ve had a chance at. Anyway I love my friends ofc but I genuinely don’t want to be out and I don’t know how to get them to understand that. Idk Cas I suck balls at making boundaries and the last time I had to do something like this the only advice that I got wax that I have a major skill issue and to get better. Idk cas, ur welcome for this juicy vent, I hope you and your partner have a lovely day, I apologize for my grammar, I fear I am fated to write like an 8 year old for the rest of my days :(. Oh! And happy new year :)

Hi hon <3

I'm so sorry that your friends aren't respecting your boundaries. It sounds like even though THEY are comfortable with being open, you aren't and that's okay.

I know you already know you need to set boundaries, but could you maybe start by setting some small ones that aren't as important? Like just as practice? That way you aren't doing anything that feels as drastic. That might make it easier. <3

I'm naming you fated anon!

[rizzanon]

silly little sanaerio that came to me in a dream (literally)

reader tries to sneak out to go to the park with caitlyn and adrien and gets caught by damien

to shut up damien reader takes him with them and they all go park tgt idfk

damien refuses to admit he wanted to just spend time with reader , he wasnt actually gonna snitch

when sneaking back in they all domino onto eachother (reader walks in first then stops beecause ruh roh they got caught) and damien bumps into reader, caitlyn bumps into adrien and eyeah

tgis prollh doesng make sensw idk what im on abt tyoing this half aslddp

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HELLO WHAT?? I LOVE THIS (although this exact scene won’t happen, i think it’s cute that damian is forcing reader to let him tag along so that he won’t snitch—literally younger sibling core and there will definitely be a moment or two like in this undoing fate (for the bants/fluff) lol)

reader: (quietly tries to sneak toward the back entrance of Wayne Manor, bag slung over your shoulder)

Damian: (from the shadows) And just where do you think you’re going?

reader: (startles, spinning around) Damian?! What the— What are you even doing here?

Damian: (arms crossed) The better question is: what are you doing? Sneaking out like some common criminal. Suspicious, don’t you think?

reader: I’m just going to the park to meet Caitlyn and Adrien, okay? It’s no big deal. Go back to brooding or whatever it is you do.

Damian: Tch. You’re sneaking out to meet those two? Again? Does Father even know about this?

reader: (glaring) Do you know how to mind your own business?

Damian: I could let this slide… or I could inform Father. Imagine his reaction when he hears about this little escapade of yours.

reader: You wouldn’t dare.

Damian: (raising an eyebrow) Try me.

reader: (groaning, pinches the bridge of your nose) Fine. You want to come? You can come. Just don’t ruin it for me, okay?

Damian: …..Hmph. I suppose I could accompany you. Someone has to keep you out of trouble.

reader: (mutters) Yeah, because I’m the one who causes trouble.

(You and Damian reach the park where Adrien and Caitlyn are waiting for you)

Caitlyn: Took you long enough. (gaze shifts to Damian) Oh, you brought company.

Damian: (flatly) I assure you, I did not want to be here. Someone needed to supervise you lot.

reader: (rolling eyes) Oh, please. He just didn’t want me to have fun without him.

Damian: (sharply) I don’t care about your fun. I have better things to do.

Adrien: (teasing) Sure, sure. And yet here you are.

Caitlyn: (grinning) Well, since you’re here, you might as well enjoy it. Or at least try.

Damian: (grumbling) I’m not here to enjoy anything.

[pretend you all hangout at a nearby night fun fair, and afterwards, after much begging, Adrien and Caitlyn managed to convince you to let them crash at the manor for the night]

reader: (whispering) Alright, stay quiet. No one’s around, so if we’re careful, we’re good.

Damian: (scoffing) Speak for yourself. I don’t get caught.

reader: (rolling eyes) Right, because you’re oh-so-perfect.

reader: (steps inside cautiously, but freezes mid-step as you hear someone—) Oh no—

Damian: (not realizing you stopped, walks straight into your back) Watch where you’re—

(Adrien, close behind, bumps into Damian, and Caitlyn crashes into Adrien. It’s a domino effect, leaving all four of you in a heap at the door.)

Adrien: Why do I always end up on the bottom?

Caitlyn: You’re just unlucky, I guess.

Damian: Get off me, you imbeciles!

reader: Shh! You’re gonna—

Alfred: (calmly stepping forward) I trust you all have a good explanation for this?

[All four of you collectively freeze, dread sinking in.]

Adrien: (still on the floor) …I’m just gonna stay down here.

Damian: This is entirely her fault. (points at you)

reader: Yeah, this is going to be a long night….

(i might write a full on oneshot for this lol i actually love this idea)

[terminalkisser]

for art requests: ok i love your sisyphus sooooo much but i also love your gabriel soooo much. so maybe both of them if youre feeling up to it

SELF RECOGNITION THROUGH ANOTHER

[dingostrash]

That Mash so pretty. Thank you for my life Dingo.

Anytime anon. Why not have another one, on the house.

[lowpolyanimals]

Toto from The Wizard of Oz: Beyond the Yellow Brick Road