#extrasexual

[fucktoyfelix]

It’s wild how often asexual people are pitted against hypersexual people and extrasexual people cuz the reality is that both extremes of sexual expression are marginalized for the same reasons. Sex in our culture is both deified and demonized, and if you don’t participate in a very narrow band of “approved” sexual behavior then you’ll be coerced, shunned, and punished. Asexual people and highly sexual people are allies whenever everyone involved puts emphasis on individual agency and respect for consent and safety.

[askfucktoyfelix]

Hey, sorry, i just read the term "extrasexual" on your page, and I wondered what that means. Would you mind to explain?

All that information is on my pinned post on my main blog fucktoyfelix :3

since 'hypersexual' is a mental health symptom, it basically is a word people can identify with when they have an unusually high interest in sex/sexuality that is healthy/adaptive

Extrasexual pride day is coming up this weekend! 6/9 !

[basilpaste]

hey fun fact you can be asexual, sex-repulsed, and hypersexual all at the same time and none of those identities conflict with each other.

the opposite of being sex-repulsed (/sex-negative), is being sex-positive! sex-positive aces are a recognized part of the asexual community!

the opposite of being hypersexual is not, in fact, being sex repulsed! hypersexuality is typically distressing for the people who experience it, its a disordered way of interacting with sexuality and often stems from some form of trauma!

not all hypersexual people are allosexual (meaning they experience sexual attraction)!

the term many people are looking for when hypersexuality is mentioned is usually extrasexual! someone who is, as it happens, very sexual!

extrasexual people and asexual people are not enemies and anyone, regardless of their sexual attraction, can be hypersexual

[bogleech]

Every casual friend I've ever had who's ever talked about sex is of the opinion that it's not as big a deal as society makes it out to be (ie, it's nice but they can live without it), so are all my friends asexual or am I just the extreme opposite, some kind of extrasexual. Because yes it does feel as great as all of society's most ridiculous horniness treats it. Like you could 900 times and it's the new best thing you ever experienced all 900 of them. Right? That's the "common" experience right??

[edgysaintjust]

The relationship of Camille Desmoulins and Robespierre in literary works of Przybyszewska

I was finally motivated to translate you some extracts from Przybyszewska’s letters, obviously getting right into the most interesting ones - her analysis of character relationships in her works in a letter to Helena Barlińska.

Przybyszewska was strongly influenced by Freud, and herself admits that she believes “all tenderness must be of erotic nature”, but in some cases can be more, as she calls, “sublime”, and reaching beyond one’s sexuality. As an example, she provides us the relationship of Camille and Robespierre in the Danton Case:

The feeling is unconditionally homoerotic (non-sexual, because sublime) on both sides; but with Camille it is only seemingly sublime. Hence the vagueness of this feeling, his anxiety, the imbalance: hesitations around a hidden goal, of which Camille feels terrified (of course, he only feels it, because he never let himself realise), disgust, increased strabismus, the inaccessibility of Robespierre - a goal which, however, draws his personal life along a carefully unknown line, not a shameful secret.

The emotion suppressed by force, forced into a different form, makes him feel bad in hatred, but in friendship he feels even worse, because here the distance to the proper form [an erotic one] is already irritatingly short - and yet remains insurmountable. The form comes closer, and as long as it is in motion, so long his emotions are fine. [...] Closeness, in the face of the apparent possibility of fulfilment (a passionate kiss or embrace would be enough, of course) makes the irritation shift into passion. 

Camille is therefore constantly nervous and driven by feelings he doesn’t control; we can observe his sudden mood swings in both the play and the novel, aware of his “love”, but never letting himself decode it. During the conversations with R, he will try to leave, angrily shut the door, and turn around to fall on his knees, all in the span of a few seconds. On Robespierre’s side, the approach to the same feeling is quite opposite:

To R., on the other hand, it is sublimated at full, completely extrasexual, therefore calm and conscious. (More clarification: in my opinion all tenderness is erotic, therefore of sexual origin; and traces of this origin must remain in shape, even as a new center has formed and has moved completely beyond the sexuality of allism.) He knows exactly the bitter intensity of his attachment; he knows his caring tenderness for Camille, a tenderness that no longer demands even the touch of his hands, that has become so inorganically pure that he can admit it - not only to himself, but even to his Camarade de chaîne, Lucille*.

We observe Robespierre as a person who fully realises his feelings, and has control over them. From his side, the relationship is more “pure”, but it is still not fully “mental”, as Przybyszewska will describe bonds deprived of the erotic tension. He is the person to look after Camille and try to help and enlighten him, being at times more harsh due to the irritation caused by other one's expressiveness. These emotions are often repressed, even though the character openly admits to them; he will not allow Camille to get too close, and rejects his acts of tenderness and devotion (read: the feet part) as well as the need of physical touch, which is almost non-existent to him.

*R and Lucille meet in the Danton Case, to discuss the case of Camille just adding this little fact if it causes confusion. Obviously, they both have feelings for Camille, which Przynyszewska highlights in the letter.

[pansexual-pied-piper]

I thought I would share this with people bc it's goddamn hilarious. It's from the AIDS Project Newsletter (1988), the entire thing can be found here:

https://digitalcommons.usm.maine.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1013&context=aids_newsletter

(Excuse the ugly link, I'm on mobile. Also shoutout to @posi-pan whom I stole the link off of and whose blog y'all should check out.)

A SEXUAL GLOSSARY By Diane White

Sexuality seems to get more and more confusing every day. There's the Boy George look, Michael Jackson as Peter Pan, Annie Lennox as him/herself, actors playing women, actresses playing men, bi's, trannies, androgynes, one-sex-fits-all.

Where will it all end? It probably never will. Meanwhile, here's a short glossary to help those who may be bewildered by the new trends and terms.

Ambisexual: Someone who is sexual on both the right and the left sides.

Antisexual: One who is militantly opposed to sex in any form.

A-sexual: Better than B-sexual or C-sexual. The highest grade.

Autosexual: (a) A person who wants himself all to himself, or (b) someone drawn to cars.

Bisexual: A person who engages in sexual activity once every two years. (See "semisexual" for comparison.)

Cinesexual: One who is addicted to sex in movies.

Circumsexual: (a) A person who is sexual on all sides, or (b) someone who likes to give others the runaround.

Disexual: A passionate admirer of the Princess of Wales.

Exsexual: Someone who engages in sex with a former spouse.

Extrasexual: (a) Somebody extremely sexy, or (b) a person who has a fling with a being from outer space, then sells his or her story to the National Enquirer.

Hypersexual: One who exaggerates his or her experience.

Hypnosexual: Someone who puts his or her partner to sleep. (Compare to "narcosexual")

Insexual: The opposite of outsexual, used to describe anything that's fashionable at the moment, such as androgyny.

Maxisexual: Popular leading man in countless X-rated movies.

Megasexual: Elephants. Whales too. And hippopotamuses.

Minisexual: What turns Mickey on.

Narcosexual: A person who falls asleep during sex.

Nonsexual: Someone who never says "Oui"

Omnisexual: People who are excited by back copies of Omni magazine.

Pansexual: Someone who emulates Michael Jackson.

Parasexual: (a) One who is qualified to advise about sex but not to engage in it, or (b) someone who engages in sex while (1) sky-diving or (2) holding a small umbrella to ward off the sun.

Phonosexual: A person who likes to talk about it on the telephone, preferably long-distance.

Pixisexual: One who is fond of elves. Polysexual: One who is turned on by manmade fibers.

Prosexual: (a) Someone in favor of sex, or (b) a classification (compared, for example, to "semiprosexual).

Protosexual: Pertaining to sexual etiquette.

Pseudosexual: A person who pretends to be interested in sex but isn't.

Quasisexual: (a) Something resembling sex, or (b) a person who's all talk.

Resexual: Somebody who's middle-age crazy.

Retrosexual: Someone who fantasizes about sex during the 50's.

Semisexual: One who engages in sex twice a year.

Stereosexual: A person who insists on wearing his Sony Walkman at all times.

Subsexual: (a) Sex involving small cars, or (b) what Robert Mitchum was in "The Enemy Below".

Synsexual: Something you shouldn't be doing.

Tautosexual: Pertaining to the pointless repetition of sex.

Trisexual: A person with whom sex is a trying experience.

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HOW DID I FORGET

Afrosexual

Aggrosexual

Amatosexual

Anthrosexual

Arachnosexual

Astrosexual

Bronchiosexual

Carnisexual

Chemosexual

Christosexual

Crepusculosexual

Cybersexual

Entomosexual

Ethnosexual

Extrasexual

Extremosexual

Geosexual

Heliosexual

Helicosexual

Herbosexual

Hindusexual

Hydrosexual

Islamosexual

Judeosexual

Linguosexual

Lithiosexual

Lunasexuap

Magnosexual

Malificosexual

Metrosexual

Millisexual

Minisexual

Nanosexual

Nitrosexual

Oncolosexual

Oversexual

Pathosexual

Petrosexual

Photosexual

Picosexual

Pokésexual

Polysexual

Pornosexual

Pyrosexual

Ribosexual

Robosexual

Sexuosexual

Teleosexual

Undersexual

Vinosexual

An Incomplete List of Sexualities

Homosexual

Asexual

Allosexual

Demisexual

Pansexual

Monosexual

Bisexual

Trisexual

Quadrisexual

Quintisexual

Sextosexual

Xenosexual

Sapiosexual

Moronsexual

Antisexual

Prosexual

Presexual

Postsexual

Neosexual

Paleosexual

Microsexual

Macrosexual

Bromosexual

Egosexual

Autosexual

Motorsexual

Anglosexual

Francosexual

Russosexual

Sinosexual

Ecosexual

Nucleosexual

Quantumsexual

Levosexual

Dextrosexual

Metasexual

Physiosexual

Cardiosexual

Electrosexual

Thermosexual

Thaumosexual

Sociosexual

Neurosexual

Biosexual

Abiosexual

Apiosexual

Benzosexual

Anarchosexual

Theosexual

Last and least: Heterosexual

Feel free to add any I missed! 😊

[cutepatzie]

Credits to: @extrasexual

[fucktoyfelix]

Happy pride day to all people who identify as extrasexual, supersexual or megasexual! Of course it's 6/9 ! (Sorry to any of those who are celebrating in a place where the date reads 9/6...maybe you can celebrate again in September) Today I'm officially updating the flag so it reads better in a digital format! The green still represents consent, purple is sensuality, pink is carnality...and the black star represents the kink community. How are you planning on celebrating?

[askfucktoyfelix]

A play partner showed me a podcast sometime last year where they talk about megasexual and it definitely felt like something I identify with and seems to “fit” (for lack of a better term) with my being aromantic. But I haven’t heard of extrasexual before and I don’t feel confident in the google results I got. How do you define it?

Theyre the exact same thing. I didn't know that some sex educators had been using the term megasexual when I came up with the idea to create a pride flag for extrasexual and supersexual. After learning about it, I added it to that post. Maybe someday when there's a thriving extrasexual community, the labels will evolve to have slightly different definitions like bisexual/pansexual/polysexual...but right now they are completely interchangeable and people should just use whichever one sounds best to them.

[meanwhileinoz]

10+ Posts That Will Speak To Your Soul If You’re Just Really Bad At Flirting

Everyone isn’t as smooth as Johnny Bravo when it comes to flirting. There are some who can’t even speak to people they fancy. Let alone flirt with them. Here’s the bad news, flirting might not come naturally. However, the good news is that one day you’ll be old enough to drink legally. So, you will not remember the cringe-worthy things you might have said while trying to flirt.

For a while, anyway.

While some people take flirting like scandals to the Kardashians, the rest of us are left looking on in wonder. And of course, despair.

Here are 10+ posts that will speak to your soul if you’re just terrible at flirting:

1. I don’t flirt but when I do…

I don’t flirt.

But I will stare at the floor shuffling my feet in a seductive manner.

— Mr Wright Now, Maybe (@dannyboy7813) October 23, 2017

2. Can’t breathe!

    3. They call her the queen of sass.

Get ready. We are going to do the sex stuff.

-me flirting

— Queen of Cool (@queenof_cool) October 21, 2017

4. It’s called intergalactic flirting.

  5. Dank memes > Flirting.

6. To be honest.

7. Someone, please explain.

Someone explain to me how you flirt with someone bc I only know how to be mean

— Twisted Petunia (@mynameistat) October 14, 2017

8. *Giggles dorkily*

Me: I won’t fall for him

Him: “hey what’s up”

Me: http://pic.twitter.com/jcE5j8y2Mm

— Sexual (@extrasexual) September 28, 2017

9. Your face, I like that shit.

*Other people flirting* “Hey babe, you are damn hot!”

*Me flirting* “Your face, I like that Shit!”

— Prizza (@RoyalThough) October 22, 2017

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[ashleyresch]

Tweeted

Name a better duo.. i'll wait http://pic.twitter.com/R6qtvlfsPT

— Sexual (@extrasexual) October 7, 2017

[oysters-aint-for-me]

extrasexual homoterrestrial

homoverted introsexual

[fucktoyfelix]

(Check this post for flag color meanings)

[fucktoyfelix]

A friend pointed out that the black stripes meant to represent the kink community on the extrasexual pride flag read kinda weird in a digital format. (check my pinned if you dont know what im talking about) It suggested removing them and using a logo like other sex-related pride flags, but I personally hate that choice in flag design. Maybe a very simple black 6 pointed star somewhere would still work. Another friend suggested moving the stripes inbetween the other colors. I'm interested in hearing people's opinions and other alternative ideas! This flag is still new so its a good time to make design changes before I get one actually sewn!

[fucktoyfelix]

Hypersexuality is a clinical term where sexual behavior is a symptom of some type of trauma or mental illness. Extrasexual, supersexual or megasexual are terms people have started using for highly sexual people who aren’t doing so as a maladaptive response. Obviously the actual lines between the two are blurry since it can be hard to untangle if you have trauma, but that’s the intended difference.

i said wat i said