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I do not understand why, when I talk about sexual relationships or wanting to have non-romantic sex in general, people feel the need to respond with stuff like "as long as you don’t lead people on / trick them, you’re fine", "as long as you’re open about what you want, it’s okay", or even "as long as you don’t force people to have sex with you, you’re fine."

No one would respond to a person talking about wanting a romantic relationship with "well as long you don’t abuse your partner, you’re fine" because no one would just immediately jump to that assumption.

But hearing me talk about sexual relationships and immediately thinking I might want to trick and abuse, even rape people, and need to be reminded that that is wrong, is somehow seen as normal? Why?

Just. Maybe don’t say stuff like that? Of course everything said is true. I’m aware raping people is wrong, I don’t need to be constantly reminded of the fact that people see me as a rapist-in-waiting for being AroAllo, or as a whore who leads the poor alloros who just want to have a romantic relationship on and tricks them into having non-romantic sex with me (because obviously no one would have sex with me if I were open about my intentions).

Why do people feel the need to say these things every time sex (and especially non-romantic sex) is mentioned? Why do people assume the worst possible things, to then say "well as long as you’re not a horrible piece of shit, you’re fine ig"?

Or am I just reading too much into it? Am I overreacting?

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I do not understand why, when I talk about sexual relationships or wanting to have non-romantic sex in general, people feel the need to respond with stuff like "as long as you don’t lead people on / trick them, you’re fine", "as long as you’re open about what you want, it’s okay", or even "as long as you don’t force people to have sex with you, you’re fine."

No one would respond to a person talking about wanting a romantic relationship with "well as long you don’t abuse your partner, you’re fine" because no one would just immediately jump to that assumption.

But hearing me talk about sexual relationships and immediately thinking I might want to trick and abuse, even rape people, and need to be reminded that that is wrong, is somehow seen as normal? Why?

Just. Maybe don’t say stuff like that? Of course everything said is true. I’m aware raping people is wrong, I don’t need to be constantly reminded of the fact that people see me as a rapist-in-waiting for being AroAllo, or as a whore who leads the poor alloros who just want to have a romantic relationship on and tricks them into having non-romantic sex with me (because obviously no one would have sex with me if I were open about my intentions).

Why do people feel the need to say these things every time sex (and especially non-romantic sex) is mentioned? Why do people assume the worst possible things, to then say "well as long as you’re not a horrible piece of shit, you’re fine ig"?

Or am I just reading too much into it? Am I overreacting?

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I do not understand why, when I talk about sexual relationships or wanting to have non-romantic sex in general, people feel the need to respond with stuff like "as long as you don’t lead people on / trick them, you’re fine", "as long as you’re open about what you want, it’s okay", or even "as long as you don’t force people to have sex with you, you’re fine."

No one would respond to a person talking about wanting a romantic relationship with "well as long you don’t abuse your partner, you’re fine" because no one would just immediately jump to that assumption.

But hearing me talk about sexual relationships and immediately thinking I might want to trick and abuse, even rape people, and need to be reminded that that is wrong, is somehow seen as normal? Why?

Just. Maybe don’t say stuff like that? Of course everything said is true. I’m aware raping people is wrong, I don’t need to be constantly reminded of the fact that people see me as a rapist-in-waiting for being AroAllo, or as a whore who leads the poor alloros who just want to have a romantic relationship on and tricks them into having non-romantic sex with me (because obviously no one would have sex with me if I were open about my intentions).

Why do people feel the need to say these things every time sex (and especially non-romantic sex) is mentioned? Why do people assume the worst possible things, to then say "well as long as you’re not a horrible piece of shit, you’re fine ig"?

Or am I just reading too much into it? Am I overreacting?

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I do not understand why, when I talk about sexual relationships or wanting to have non-romantic sex in general, people feel the need to respond with stuff like "as long as you don’t lead people on / trick them, you’re fine", "as long as you’re open about what you want, it’s okay", or even "as long as you don’t force people to have sex with you, you’re fine."

No one would respond to a person talking about wanting a romantic relationship with "well as long you don’t abuse your partner, you’re fine" because no one would just immediately jump to that assumption.

But hearing me talk about sexual relationships and immediately thinking I might want to trick and abuse, even rape people, and need to be reminded that that is wrong, is somehow seen as normal? Why?

Just. Maybe don’t say stuff like that? Of course everything said is true. I’m aware raping people is wrong, I don’t need to be constantly reminded of the fact that people see me as a rapist-in-waiting for being AroAllo, or as a whore who leads the poor alloros who just want to have a romantic relationship on and tricks them into having non-romantic sex with me (because obviously no one would have sex with me if I were open about my intentions).

Why do people feel the need to say these things every time sex (and especially non-romantic sex) is mentioned? Why do people assume the worst possible things, to then say "well as long as you’re not a horrible piece of shit, you’re fine ig"?

Or am I just reading too much into it? Am I overreacting?

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I do not understand why, when I talk about sexual relationships or wanting to have non-romantic sex in general, people feel the need to respond with stuff like "as long as you don’t lead people on / trick them, you’re fine", "as long as you’re open about what you want, it’s okay", or even "as long as you don’t force people to have sex with you, you’re fine."

No one would respond to a person talking about wanting a romantic relationship with "well as long you don’t abuse your partner, you’re fine" because no one would just immediately jump to that assumption.

But hearing me talk about sexual relationships and immediately thinking I might want to trick and abuse, even rape people, and need to be reminded that that is wrong, is somehow seen as normal? Why?

Just. Maybe don’t say stuff like that? Of course everything said is true. I’m aware raping people is wrong, I don’t need to be constantly reminded of the fact that people see me as a rapist-in-waiting for being AroAllo, or as a whore who leads the poor alloros who just want to have a romantic relationship on and tricks them into having non-romantic sex with me (because obviously no one would have sex with me if I were open about my intentions).

Why do people feel the need to say these things every time sex (and especially non-romantic sex) is mentioned? Why do people assume the worst possible things, to then say "well as long as you’re not a horrible piece of shit, you’re fine ig"?

Or am I just reading too much into it? Am I overreacting?

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Aroallo Flag Colorpicked from the Duolingo Owl

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i'm too aromantic (but allosexual and affectionate with my friends) for this bullshit. hashtag Quarrel Quibble Queerbait

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You're a fucking moron :))

If bigots hate trans people equally they'd kill as many trans men and Theyfabs as they do Trans Women.

But they don't. You're so fucking scared of acknowledging you have modicum of privelage over us. Because you might have to be held accountable for the vitriolic bile you spill over the internet.

This isn't your safe space to wave-away critically thinking and have a pity party.

If you think I should die, why don't you come and do it yourself since you're so mad everyone before you has failed?

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every time you tag an aromantic post that only talks about aromanticism as "#asexual" or "#ace" i punch you in the astral plane. when you call a character that's not interested in romance "asexual", i punch you in the astral plane. calling aromantic people asexual when they don't refer to themselves as such earns you one hundred astral punches. and so on and so forth

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Captain James T. Kirk is alloaro

Evidence:

It's said 3 times in season 1 alone that the Enterprise is his lover, and that he would prioritize it over any woman

The only "romances" he has are (1) past lovers of his returning for an episode, or (2) flirting with the woman of the week in order to save his crew — femme fatale style

His uniform is gold, and his secondary wraparound outfit is green — the alloaro flag colors

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[Vector Art Source]

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Aphobia

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For aro/ace writers:

- you don't have to write sex scenes. Tolkien didn't

- you don't have to write romance. Lewis didn't

- you can write very close friendships that have nothing romantic nor sexual in them. Scott Lynch did

- you can write sexual relationships that don't involve romance. Sapkowski did

- you can write romantic relationships that don't involve sex. Pratchett and Gaiman did

Don't let anyone tell you that some kinds of relationships are impossible or that a story must contain some themes. It's your story, write it the way you want

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aroallo culture is your ideal relationship being an intimate platonic kinky relationship

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