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For the past few days, I’ve been binge watching content from many #Russian #expats and others who still remain in Russia giving us an #insight into their #lives. https://halflifecrisis.com/hlc-articles/lets-talk-about-the-russian-people… To truly understand #Russia you must need explore their vast #history. It's eye-opening.
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This is a very important article. I believe china is doing the same.
Trace their money. If they’re paid to have relationships with people, they should be expelled.
I’ve always felt something fishy going on with every russian expat I know sympathizing russia but fucking living in United States. that is very different from other countries when they know living in america is a better life.
2 countries of expats and immigrants most reliable that they’d be criticizing america in favored of where they came from. China and Russia.
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Here are a few things I want to have happen to Marina and Elijah in Expats, which, inspired by Everything is Illuminated, is going to include a road trip through rural Ukraine, possibly to hide out at the family cabin.
-- Fun bit of trivia: Elijah Wood had to get a motorcycle license for his role as a teenager in Deep Impact, because one of the scenes required him to ride a motorcycle down a stretch of highway. Presumably, he still remembers how to do it, even if it's been a while and even if his license is no longer valid. This might tie in nicely into a scenario of "we're in the middle of nowhere and our car broke down and the nice man who is essentially the only one in this town and has worn the same hat for ten years has only a motorcycle to lend us." And when Elijah questions what to do if he's stopped and asked for his license, which he doesn't have on him and which is probably expired, he's told that 1) there's like one police officer for the entire county, and 2) in the unlikely scenario you are stopped, just give them a bribe and be done.
-- A rural location that includes the following piece of directions: "Drive until you can't drive anymore, and then get out and walk." (which kind of begs the question of what do you do with your car, do you just abandon it and is it going to be ok, but that's another story). Granted, this is a little more likely to happen in rural Russia than in rural Ukraine because the distances are greater, but I just think this is everything when it comes to rural locations. Bonus points for a dying village where there are more houses than residents, and the only reason Marina's family still has the cabin is because, in that remote location, you can't give real estate away, nobody wants it.
-- a joke about the fact that "Marina" means "boat parking lot." Possibly one of Elijah's friends/costars is fond of this joke. AhemDomAhem.
@from-the-coffee-shop-in-edoras @konartiste, @konjugaltdien I am tagging you because I've realized this is basically modern day LOTR/FoM in some ways - innocent, blue-eyed person flees a great peril with the love of his life.
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Content warning: This article contains a scene including a graphic sexual assault.
My friend sets aside his cocktail, its foamy top sprinkled with cinnamon in the shape of a hammer and sickle, to process his disbelief at what I’ve just told him. “You want to return to Russia?” he asks.
I met Enrico when I arrived in Stockholm eight months ago. He understands my situation as well as anyone. He knows that I fled Moscow three days after Russia invaded Ukraine; that my name, along with the names of other journalists who left, has fallen into the hands of pro-Kremlin activists who have compiled a public list of “traitors to the motherland”; that some of the publications where I’ve worked have been labeled “undesirable organizations”; that a summons from the military enlistment office is waiting for me at home; that since Vladimir Putin expanded the law banning “gay propaganda,” I could be fined up to $5,000 merely for going on a date. In short, Enrico knows what may await if I return: fear, violence, harm.
He wants me to explain why I would go back, but I can’t think of an answer he’d understand or accept. Plus, I’m distracted by the TV screens in the bar. They’re playing a video on loop—a crowd in January 1990 waiting to get into the first McDonald’s to open in Russia. The people are in fluffy beaver fur hats, and their voices speak a language that, for the past year, I’ve heard only inside my head. “Why am I here?” a woman in the video says in Russian. “Because we are all hungry, you could say.” As the doors to McDonald’s open and the line starts to move, I no longer hear everything Enrico is saying (“You could live with me rent-free …” “You could go to Albania. It’s cheaper than in Scandinavia ...” “We could get married so you can live and work here legally …”).
Part of me had planned this meeting in hopes that Enrico would persuade me to change my mind—and he did try. But I’ve already bought the nonrefundable plane tickets, which are saved on my phone, ready to go.
A week later, I spend a night erasing the past year from my life—a year of running through Europe as if through a maze. I clear my chats in Telegram and unsubscribe from channels that cover the war. I wipe my browser history, delete my VPN apps, remove the rainbow strap on my watch, and tear the Ukrainian flag sticker from my jacket. The next day—March 29, 2023—I fly to Tallinn, Estonia, and ride a half-empty bus through a deep forest to the Russian border. The checkpoint sits at a bridge over the Narva River, between two late-medieval castles. German shepherds keep watch, and an armed soldier patrols the river by boat.
“What were you doing in the European Union?” the Russian guard asks.
“I was on vacation,” I say.
“You were on vacation for more than a year?” she asks.
I reply that I have been very tired. She stamps my passport and the bus moves on.
What I didn’t tell the guard, and what I couldn’t tell Enrico, is that I’m tired of hiding from my country—and that I want to trade one form of hiding for another. I have conducted my adult life as if censorship and propaganda were my natural enemies, but now some broken part of me is homesick for that world. I want to be deceived, to forget that there is a war going on.
“Start from the beginning,” my mother would say when I couldn’t figure out a homework problem. “Just start all over again.”
I woke up on February 24, 2022, to a message from a friend that read: “The war has begun.” At the time, I was an editor at GQ Russia, gathering material for our next issue on Russian expats who had moved back home during the pandemic. I was also editing a YouTube series called Queerography. For a blissful moment, I took my friend’s text for a joke. Then I saw videos from Ukrainian towns under bombardment. Russian forces had encircled most of the country. My boyfriend was still asleep. I wished I could be in his place.
A few months earlier, American intelligence had informed Ukraine and other countries in Europe of a possible offensive. But Russia’s foreign minister, Sergey Lavrov, had responded: “This is all propaganda, fake news and fiction.” While I didn’t necessarily believe the truth of Lavrov’s words, I doubted the regime could afford to tell a lie so big. Vladimir Putin’s approval rating was near its lowest point since he gained power. On the eve of the attack on Ukraine, only 3 percent of my fellow citizens thought the war was “inevitable.”
After the invasion, I spent three days in silence. I couldn’t sleep, and I had no appetite. My hands trembled so badly that I couldn’t hold a glass of water still. When I visited friends, we’d sit in different corners of the room scrolling through the news, occasionally breaking the silence with “This is fucked up.”
In Moscow, armed police patrolled the streets to deter protesters. Soon, the press reported that a man was arrested in a shopping mall for an “unsanctioned rally” because he was wearing blue and yellow sneakers, the colors of the Ukrainian flag. News media websites were blocked in accordance with the new law on “fake news” about Ukraine. People stood in line to empty the ATMs. “War” and “peace”—two words that form the title of Russia’s most celebrated novel—were now forbidden to be pronounced in public. Instagram was filled with black squares, uncaptioned, seemingly the only form of protest that remained possible. The price of a plane ticket out of Russia soared from $100 to $3,000, in a country where the minimum wage was about $170 a month.
If I waited another day, it seemed, the Iron Curtain would descend and I would become a hostage of my own country. So on the morning of March 1, my boyfriend and I locked the door to our Moscow apartment for the last time and made for the airport. In my backpack were warm clothes, $500 in cash, and a computer. We were leaving for nowhere, not knowing which country we would wake up in the next day.
At the international airport in Yerevan, Armenia, flights arrived every hour from Russia and the United Arab Emirates, another route along which people fled. Once we were there, we boarded a minivan to Georgia, the only country in the South Caucasus with which Russia no longer maintained diplomatic ties. The van was packed with families and their pets. From one of the back seats, a girl asked her mother: “Mama, are we far away from the war now?” A night road through mountain passes and volcanic lakes took us to the border. I asked a guard there to share a mobile hot spot with me so I could get online and retrieve coronavirus test results in my email. “Of course,” he replied, “though you don’t deserve it.”
In Tbilisi, the alleys were lit up at night with blue and yellow. On the city’s main hotel hung a poster that read “Russian warship, go fuck yourself.” Fresh graffiti on walls around the city read: “Putin is a war criminal and murderer.”
At an acquaintance’s apartment, we shared a room with two other men who had fled. “The most important thing is that we’re safe,” we reassured each other if one of us began to cry. “I’m not a criminal,” said one of the guys. “Why should I have to run from my own country?” None of us had an answer.
In Russia I was now labeled a “traitor and fugitive.” The Committee for the Protection of National Interests, an organization associated with Putin’s United Russia party, had stolen a database containing the names of journalists who had left the country and distributed it on Telegram. Liberal journalists in Moscow had begun to find the words “Here lives a traitor to the Motherland” scrawled on their doors. One critic was sent a severed pig’s head.
My fellow fugitives and I started looking for somewhere more permanent to live, but most rental ads in Tbilisi stipulated “Russians not accepted.” We tried to open bank accounts, but when the bank employees saw our red passports they rejected our applications. Like so many other companies, Condé Nast—which publishes GQ and WIRED, among other magazines—pulled out of Russia. I was without a job. The YouTube show I edited closed down soon after, its founder declared a foreign agent and later added to the Register of Extremists and Terrorists. Foreign publications told me that all work with Russian journalists was temporarily suspended.
Soon signs began to appear outside bars and restaurants in Tbilisi saying that Russians were not welcome inside. I decided to sign in to Tinder to try to meet people in this new city, but most men I chatted with suggested that I go home and take Molotov cocktails to Red Square. I placed a Ukrainian flag sticker on my breast pocket and wandered the city in silence, ashamed of my language.
My boyfriend and I finally found a room in a former warehouse with no windows, the furniture covered in construction dust. The owner was an artist who was in urgent need of money. To pay the rent, I sold online all my belongings from the Moscow apartment: a vintage armchair from Czechoslovakia, an antique Moroccan rug, books dotted with notes, a record player given to me by the love of my life. Ikea had closed its stores in Russia, and customers wrote to me: “Your stuff is like a belated Christmas miracle.”
One day in mid-spring, I left the warehouse for an anti-war rally that was being held outside the Russian Federation Interests Section based in the Swiss Embassy. The motley throngs of people chanted “No to war!” In the crowd I glimpsed the familiar faces of journalists who had left Russia like me. “Why did you come here?” a stranger asked me in English. “To us, to Georgia. Do you really think your cries will change anything? You shouldn’t be protesting here. You should be outside the Kremlin.”
I wanted to tell him that I grew up in a country where a dictator came to power when I was 6 years old, a man who has his enemies killed. I wanted to say: One time, when I was an editor at Esquire, my boss denounced an author I worked with to Putin’s security service, the FSB, and the FSB sent agents to interrogate me, and when I warned the author, the FSB came for me again, threatening to arrest me and listing aloud the names of all my family members. I wanted to tell the stranger on that street in Tbilisi that I’d had to disappear for a while, and that when I felt brave enough, I had gone to protests and donated money to human rights organizations. That I had fought but, it seemed, had lost. That I just wanted to live the one life I’ve got a little bit longer. But at the time I couldn’t find the words.
A month later, the world saw images of mass graves in the Kyiv suburb of Bucha, dead limbs sticking out of the sand. Outside our building one morning, on an old brick wall that was previously empty, was a fresh message, the paint still wet: “Russians, go home.” My boyfriend went back to Russia so he could obtain a European visa, promising he would be back in a month, but he never returned.
I spent the rest of the year on the move: Cyprus, Estonia, Norway, France, Austria, Hungary, Sweden. I went where I had friends. The independent Russian media that I’d always consumed went into exile too, setting up operations where they could. TV Rain began broadcasting out of Amsterdam. Meduza moved its Russian branch to Europe. The newspaper Novaya Gazeta, cofounded by the Nobel Peace Prize laureate Dmitry Muratov, reopened in Latvia. Farida Rustamova, a former BBC Russia correspondent, fled and launched a Substack called Faridaily, where she began publishing information from Kremlin insiders. Journalists working for the independent news website Important Stories, which published names and photos of Russian soldiers involved in the murder of civilians in a Ukrainian village, went to Czechia. These, along with 247,000 other websites, were blocked at the behest of the Prosecutor General’s Office but remained accessible in Russia through VPNs.
“During the first days of the war, everything was in a fog,” says Ilya Krasilshchik, the former publisher of Meduza, who went on to found Help Desk, which combines news media and a help hotline for those impacted by war. “We felt it our duty to inform people of what the Russian army was doing in Ukraine, to document the hell that despair and powerlessness leave in their wake. But we also wanted to empathize with all of the people caught up in this meat grinder.” Taisiya Bekbulatova, a former special correspondent for Meduza and the founder of the news outlet Holod, tells me, “In nature you find parasites that can force their host to act in the parasite’s own interest, and propaganda, I believe, works in much the same way. That’s why we felt it was our duty to provide people with more information.”
I wanted to continue my work in journalism, but the publications that had fled Russia weren’t hiring. My application for a Latvian humanitarian visa as an independent journalist was rejected, and I didn’t have the means to pay the fees for US or UK talent visas.
The panic attacks began in the fall, during my first stay in Stockholm. Red spots, first appearing around my groin, started to take over my body, creeping up to my throat. I’d get sick, recover, and then wake up with a sore throat. In October, I learned that my boyfriend had married someone else. The next day, my mother called to tell me that a summons from the military enlistment office had arrived.
I was in Cyprus when, at 3 am one February morning, I woke to the sound of walls cracking and the metal legs of my bed knocking on marble. Fruit fell to the floor and turned to mush. The tremors of a magnitude-7.8 earthquake in Gaziantep, Turkey, had passed through the Mediterranean Sea and reached the island. I didn’t scramble out of bed. I hoped instead that I would be buried under the rubble—a choice made for me by fate. Later that month, my friends in Stockholm insisted that I come stay with them again. I wandered the streets on a clear winter day, buying up expired food in the stores. The blue and yellow flags of Sweden shone bright in the sun, but I saw in them the flag of another country. Back in the apartment, I slept all the time, and when I did wake I lulled myself with Valium. One day I felt the urge to swallow the whole bottle.
Frightened by my own thoughts, I felt how much I wanted to be back in Russia. In my mother country, all the tools of propaganda would keep painful truths at bay. “The news in Russia is only ever good news,” Zhanna Agalakova, a former anchor on state TV’s main news show, later told me. Agalakova quit after the invasion began and returned the awards she had received to Putin. “Even if people understand that they’re being brainwashed, in the end they give up, and propaganda calms them down. Because they simply have nowhere to run.”
Masha Borzunova, a journalist who fled Russia and runs her own YouTube channel, walked me through a typical day of Russian TV: “A person wakes up to a news broadcast that shows how the Russian military is making gains. Then Anti-Fake begins, where the presenters dismantle the fake news of Western propaganda and propagate their own fake news. Then there’s the talk show Time Will Tell that runs for four, sometimes five hours, where we’ll see Russian soldiers bravely advancing. Then comes Male and Female—before the war it was a program about social issues, and now they discuss things like how to divide the state compensation for funeral expenses between the mother of a dead soldier and his father who left the family several years ago. Then more news and a few more talk shows, in which a KGB combat psychic predicts Russia’s future and what will happen on the front. This is followed by the game show Field of Miracles, with prizes from the United Russia party or the Wagner Private Military Company. And then, of course, the evening news.”
I had gone from being infuriated by this kind of hypnosis to envying it. The free flow of information had become for me what a jug of water is to a severely dehydrated person: The right amount can save you, but too much can kill.
“Welcome to Russia,” the bus driver said as we crossed the border from Estonia. I was nearly home. There was no particular reason for me to return to Moscow, so I made for St. Petersburg, where some friends had an apartment that was empty. I used to look after it before the war, coming over to unwind and water the flowers. It was a place of peace.
All my friends had left Russia too, so I was the first person to set foot in the apartment in a year. Black specks covered every surface-—midges that had flown in before the war and died. I scrubbed the place through the first night, starting to cry like a child when I came across ordinary objects I remembered from peacetime: shower gel, a blender, a rabbit mask made out of cardboard. Over the next few weeks, I tried to return to the past as I remembered it. I went to the bakery in the morning. I exercised, read, wrote. At first glance, the city seemed unchanged. There were the same boatloads of tourists on the canals, tour groups on Palace Square, overcrowded bars in Dumskaya Street. But more and more, St. Petersburg began to feel to me like the backdrop of a period film: impeccably executed, the gap between the past and the present visible only in the details.
One day I heard loud noises outside my window, as if all the TVs in town had suddenly started emitting the sound of static. The next day the headline read: “Terrorist Suspected of Bombing St. Petersburg Café Detained and Giving Testimony.” The café had hosted an event honoring the pro-war military blogger Vladlen Tatarsky, and a bust of his likeness had blown up, killing him and injuring more than 30 people. But life went on as if nothing had happened. St. Petersburg was plastered with posters for an upcoming concert by Shaman, a singer who had become popular since the invasion thanks to his song “I’m Russian.” (He would later release “My Fight,” a song that seemingly alludes to Hitler’s Mein Kampf.) In a candy store I noticed a chocolate truffle with a portrait of Putin on the wrapper. “It’s filled with rum,” the clerk said.
Sometimes in checkout lines at the supermarket I glimpsed mercenaries in balaclavas, newly returned from or preparing to go to the front. On the escalator down to the subway, where classical music usually floated from the speakers, Rachmaninov’s Second Piano Concerto was interrupted by an announcement: “Attention! Male citizens, we invite you to sign a contract with the military!” In the train car, I saw a poster that read: “Serving Russia is a real job! Sign a military service contract and get a salary starting at 204,000 rubles per month”—about $2,000. One afternoon, as I stood on the platform next to a train bound for a city near the Georgian border, I overheard two men talking:
“I earned 50,000 in a month.”
“You’re kidding.”
“No, bro. But I won’t go back to Ukraine again. It’s fucking terrifying.”
This was a rare admission. The horror of the war’s casualties—zinc coffins, once prosperous cities turned to ruins—were otherwise hidden behind the celebrations for City Day, the opening of the St. Petersburg International Economic Forum, and marathons held on downtown streets.
After a week or so in Russia, feeling very alone, I went on Tinder. One evening I invited a man I hadn’t met over to the apartment. I placed two cups of tea on a table, but when the man arrived he didn’t touch his. He threw me to the floor, unbuttoned his pants, and inserted his dry penis inside me. “I know you want it,” he whispered, covering my mouth. “I can tell from your asshole.”
I bit him and squirmed, trying to get him off me. After he left, my legs kicked frantically and I couldn’t breathe. I knew that the police wouldn’t help me. I contacted Tinder to tell them that I had been raped and sent them a screenshot of the man’s profile, but no one answered. That evening I bought a ticket for a night train to Moscow. More than ever, I wanted to see my mother.
“You must have frozen over there,” My mother said as she met me at the door to her apartment outside Moscow. Putin had said that, without Russian-supplied gas, “Europeans are stocking up on firewood for the winter like it’s the Middle Ages.” People were supposedly cutting down trees in parks for fuel and burning antique furniture. Some of the only warm places in European cities were so-called Russian houses, government-funded cultural exchanges where people could go escape the cold as part of a “From Russia with Warmth” campaign. When I told my mother that Sweden recycles waste and uses it to heat houses, she grimaced in disgust.
Thirteen months earlier, when I had left the country, my mother called to ask me why. I told her that I didn’t want to be sent to fight, that I couldn’t work in Russia anymore. “You’re panicking for no reason,” she said. “Why would the army need you? We’ll take Kyiv in a few days.” After the horrors in Bucha, I had sent her an interview with a Russian soldier who admitted to killing defenseless people. “It’s fake,” she responded. “Son, turn on the TV for once. Don’t you see that all those bodies are moving?” She was referring to optical distortions in a certain video, which Russian propagandists used to their advantage.
After that, we had agreed not to discuss my decision or views so that we could remain a family. Instead, we talked about my sister’s upcoming wedding, my aunt’s promotion at a Chinese cosmetics company whose products were replacing the brands that had quit the country. My uncle, a mechanic, had finally found a job that would get him out of debt—repairing military equipment in Russian-occupied territories. My mother was planning to take advantage of falling real estate prices to buy land and build a house. In their reality, the war was not a tragedy but an elevator.
I had arrived on Easter Sunday, and the whole family gathered at my mother’s house for the celebration. My aunt told me she was worried that I might be forced to change my gender in the West; she had heard that the Canadian government was paying people $75,000 to undergo gender-affirming surgery and hormonal therapy. My stepfather was interested in the availability of meat in Swedish stores. Someone asked whether it was dangerous to speak Russian abroad, whether Ukrainians had assaulted me. I kept quiet about the fact that the only person who had attacked me since the invasion was a Russian man, that the real threat was much closer than my family thought. The TVs in each of the three rooms of the apartment were all switched on: They played a church service, then a film called Century of the USSR. There were news broadcasts every two hours and the program Moscow. The Kremlin. Putin—a kind of reality show about the president.
“Do you know what this is?” my mother said as she placed a dusty bottle of wine without any labels in the middle of the festive table. “Your uncle gave it to us,” my stepfather chimed in. “He brought it from Ukraine.” A trophy from a bombed-out Ukrainian mansion near Melitopol, stolen by my uncle while Russian soldiers helped themselves to electronics and jewelry. “Let’s drink to God,” said my stepfather, raising his glass. “You can’t raise a glass to God,” my mother answered. “That’s not done.” “Let’s drink to our big family,” he said. The clinking of crystal filled the room; to my ears it sounded like cicadas.
Suddenly I felt sick and locked myself in the bathroom. I tried to vomit, but my stomach was empty, bringing up only a retch. “What’s wrong?” my mother asked, standing outside the door. “Drink some water, rest, sleep.” I tried to lie down. My skin began to itch. My friend Ilya Kolmanovsky, a science journalist, once told me: “Did you know that a person cannot tickle himself? Likewise you cannot deceive a mind that already knows the truth.” Self-deception is dangerous, he said: “Just as your immune system can attack your own body, your mind can also engage in destroying you day by day.”
That evening I left my mother’s apartment for St. Petersburg and made an appointment with a psychiatrist. I told the doctor that I felt like the past had been lost and I couldn’t find a place for myself in the present. She asked when my problems began. “During the war,” I answered, careful to keep my face expressionless. The psychiatrist noted my response in the medical history. “You’re not the only one,” she said. She diagnosed me with prolonged depression and severe anxiety and prescribed tranquilizers, an antipsychotic, and an anti-depressant. “There are problems with drugs from the West,” she said. Better to take the Russian-made ones. If the Western pills were like Fiat cars, then these would be the Russian analog, Zhigulis: “Both will bring you closer to calm, but the quality of the trip will differ.”
Though the drugs seemed to help, I began to realize over the next several weeks that no amount of pills could change this fact: The home I was looking for in Russia existed only in my memories. In June, I decided to emigrate once again. At the border in Ivangorod, spikes of barbed wire pierced the azure sky and smoke from burning fuel oil rose from the chimneys of the customs building. This time, as I left, I felt that I had no reason to return. My home was nowhere, but I would continue searching for one.
With financial help from a friend, I moved to Paris and signed a contract with a book agent. I made an effort not to read the news. Still, from time to time, I came across stories about Putin’s increasing popularity at home, how foreign nationals could obtain Russian citizenship for fighting in Ukraine, how the regime passed a law that would allow it to confiscate property from people who spread “falsehoods about the Russian army.” One day, when air defense systems shot down a combat drone less than 8 miles from my mother’s home, she called me and asked: “Why did you leave? Who else will protect me when the war comes to us? Who if not my son?” I didn’t have an answer. “I love you, Mama”—that was the only truth I could tell her.
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the voice actor for artemy in p1 works with children. ough that makes so much sense
#he's also 😳😳😳#he's british 😔😔#but he fits so well oughhhhh#pathologic#pathologic 2#artemy burakh#мор утопия
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Honestly, everytime I see a new photo of Till during Rammstein downtime, he's always in a different place - Dubai, Mexico, Costa Rica, Russia. He's really living his life ro the fullest. Most musicians stay at home after touring because they travel a lot, but you really see nothing and never fully relax whilst on tour, even though you can be in wonderful new cities every night.
Love that for him and no doubt he brings (grand)kids along with him.
On a side note -- myself being from the Eastern block, I've noticed that we have that extra push to travel and see things as much as possible. It really doesn't go away.
Interesting idea, maybe his east-german upbringing indeed factors in with his travel-enthusiasm, but i also think Till is very interested in people, especially in people who are a bit different than others, in whichever way. He must have so many friends and acquaintances by now 🌺
From what i gather from posts during the 2022 tour, he often meets up with the east-european circles (maybe expats from russia?) in various places.
I checked that new pic's original source, but it's in cyrillic and i'm can't read that; not sure if that pic was taken in Russia (which would be.. well..unexpected, given the current situation in the world) or if it's somewhere else..
No idea if family comes along on his travels, he is very private about his family i think, and more power to him, in that way they can at least travel with some sort of normality 🍀
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Goncharov (dir. Martin Scorsese) is a cinematic masterpiece rivaled by few. Its beautifully crafted narrative of duty, family and becoming in the face of cultural Othering is steeped in an overwhelming feeling of loneliness as we follow the titular character, the Russian expat turned mafia boss Goncharov, throughout his slow descent into disgrace. Scorsese makes a powerful statement with the character of Goncharov and the way he fits into the narrative, or rather, doesn't. We as the viewers never find out what made Goncharov flee Russia, nor do we see his slow ascend within the ranks of the Italian mafia. The story starts with his decline, sparked by his struggle with identity that is set in motion when he meets Andrey, another Russian trying to make it in the business of organised crime. Andrey makes him question, and it changes Goncharov fundamentally, opening his eyes to the reality of his non-belonging. This journey is paralleled delightfully by the subplot given to Goncharov's wife Katya, who meets the orphan-turned-rich Sofia and starts craving a life with her, away from Goncharov's increasingly worrisome status as a misfit. Against the beautiful scenery of Naples, Scorsese masterfully contrasts the shining phantasmagoria of socialite Sofia's dolce far niente lifestyle, Katya's struggle with poverty and violence, and Goncharov's increasing insecurity regarding his own identity. [...] The final show down might be one of the most finely crafted scenes in all of cinematic history.
(from the initial 1973 review of Goncharov by K. T. Barker, published in the New York Times on April 22nd)
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my dad's brother (the one who used to live in russia and whose son is a neonazi who maybe tried to kill him kinda (a story i never got around to telling on here)) who was apparently living in costa rica which i didn't know, met a woman who was on vaca there and then moved back with her to some place in germany, and is currently working in her cafe that she otherwise runs totally solo and they're soon going to go on some long vacation themselves
there's a ton to unpack here, the first item being: if she was a tourist, how long did he even know her before he moved across the fucking globe ? a week? a month? does that mean her cafe that she runs solo was just closed the whole time? and now will be again? how can she afford to do that??
also idk how healthcare works for expats in either costa rica or germany but i assume that hiv medication isn't magically free there, so... how has he been getting money to pay for those meds on top of his life and now this new vacation? or is she bankrolling him, in which case just how profitable is this little cafe that's run by one person and seems to potentially just close for weeks at a time?
as usual his life continues to be fascinating. my dad already thought he'd been in with some soviet black market shit but daniel and i think it's not all super past tense bc none of his life makes sense otherwise. not even just in terms of having squirreled away money before, i mean right fucking now bc otherwise why was he stealing ~50k from my dad's mom?
...i feel like there are some new people here since i last posted about him. so yk. welcome to the party, ask away
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The Complete Guide to Social Media Marketing for Limassol Businesses
Social media presents immense potential for businesses in Limassol to engage customers, drive growth, and build their brand. But where do you start? After consulting small businesses in Limassol for over a decade, I've seen firsthand how a thoughtful social strategy tailored to this city can fuel tangible results. In this comprehensive guide, you’ll learn insider tips to succeed on every major platform and take your marketing to the next level. Let's dive in! Knowing Your Audience in Limassol Limassol has a diverse, multicultural population. Get to know your customers first before crafting any social strategy: Locals - Mostly Greek Cypriots who are proud of their city and seek tight-knit communities. - Appreciate tradition but also attracted to latest trends. - Responsive to posts highlighting local culture, food, history. 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To expand on the latter three as I did the former two: Claire Clairmont of course was a key player on that stormy 1816 night in Lake Geneva. She was the step-sister of Mary Shelley, lived with Mary and Percy, was briefly coupled with Byron, introduced him to Mary and Percy, and had a child with him. Thus, she is not only a primary part of the Shelley-Byron circle, but its main facilitator (arguably along with Mary, who wished to meet Byron before Percy did, and Percy, whose funds sustained the three of them and made it all happen).
Claire and Byron's child Allegra died young of an illness that ravaged Europe at the time (I don't remember which one, as there were several). Claire never had children but she was a pretty proud aunt and kept correspondence, especially later in life, with her brother's family. This is where her nephew Wilhelm comes in. For more information on Claire and Wilhelm: The Clairemont Correspondence by Marion Kingston Stocking, probably the greatest Clairemont biographer (also edited Claire's journals and wrote a biography of her). Claire did a bit of creative writing too but everyone praised her more for her personality-filled letters, and she didn't want to publish anything (with the exception of a short story The Pole when desperate for money & encouraged by Mary, who may have edited or written some of it as well) because she didn't want to compete with Percy, her step-sister Mary Shelley, and Mary's celebrity author parents.
Wilhelm (1831-1895) is pictured with his wife Ottilie Clairmont (1843-1913) in 1866, making them about 35 and 23 respectively. She was Austrian, he was born and raised in Austria where Claire briefly moved after the Shelley-Byron circle totally disbanded and mostly everyone left Italy after the deaths of Percy Shelley and Edwad Ellecker Williams, which was also importantly shortly preceded by the death of one of Mary and Percy's children and the death of Claire and Byron's child, and succeeded by mutual dramas of all sorts — in short, everyone in the circle had good cause to want to leave their Italian expat community and start life afresh somewhere else after the events of 1822.
Claire briefly lived with her young nephew Wilhelm in England in 1849. He moved to Australia in 1852 and then traveled various places. Claire moved back to Italy in 1859 after also living in a million places her whole life and trying to retain her independence at all costs ever since she stopped living with Mary and Percy, first living independently in England briefly in 18 when she started her affair with Byron, then moving back in with Mary and Percy, then living independently again in Italy after she had her child with Byron and they lived with the Williams.
It was not usual for women, especially young women, to live alone, to not marry, and to earn their own livings. At first she was sustained by Percy who respected her wish for independent living and vowed to be her patron when she damaged her reputation by leaving with him and Mary at 16. Shelley left a large sum for her in his will, but unfortunately for her and everyone else in the will, the funds could not be handed out until after he postumously inherited them after the death of his father, who lived a very long time (as Claire and Mary lamented in their letters). So after Percy's death, Claire moved abroad again to Austria, Germany, and Russia, where she worked as a tutor and governess to sustain a very meagre and hard living. Her brother Charles, father of William, ran a school in Austria.
Thomas Medwin lived with Jane and Edward at one point and also lived with Mary and Percy Shelley at another time. He was a writer himself, and he wrote poems with Shelley and translated works for Byron. As I said, he was a main player in the Italian circle, and could often be seen accompanying then on their daily adventures in pistol shooting, boating, writing, riding, reading, writing, editing, drinking (with Byron), discussing love affairs (with Byron), what have you.
Thomas Medwin is sometimes considered a controversial figure in the Byron-Shelley circle because many, like Mary Shelley, found some of his biographical writings to be distasteful and/or had personal grudges against him, and like they do with Trelawny, many claim to have caught him in exaggerations and even outright lies.
Mary wrote to Mrs. Hunt of Medwin’s Byron biography: “Have you heard of Medwin’s book? Notes of conversations which he had with Lord Byron (when tipsy); every one is to be in it; every one will be angry. He wanted me to have a hand in it, but I declined. Years ago, when a man died, the worms ate him; now a new set of worms feed on the carcase of the scandal he leaves behind him, and grow fat upon the world’s love of tittle-tattle. I will not be numbered among them.”
However, Mary contributed to Thomas Moore's biography of Byron, a work which some including Lady Byron criticized for being inaccurate (source: Remarks occasioned by Mr. Moore’s Life of Lord Byron. Literary Gazette No. 687 20 March 1830) 185-86). Moore's work wasn't inaccurate, but simply biased, like all biographies are in my experience. Like with Moore and Trelawny, people exaggerate Medwin's exaggerations.
Even a lot of his critics, like Lady Caroline Lamb, still admitted that much of what he said was truly accurate. For the most part, from the research I've done, much of his biographical writing is mostly true and the "lies" are often his memory failing him, nothing malicious. If anyone is remotely interested in assessing the accuracy or inaccuracy of historical biographies & memoirs, or interested in researching Shelley/Byron/related figures, see Lovell Jr.'s editor's note from the 1966 copy of Medwin's Conversations of Byron (here). Lovell Jr. is a great Romantic scholar.
Also, his Wiki page is memeable & when taken out of context kind of makes it seem like he and Byron murdered Shelley together lmao
Part 3 of PHOTOGRAPHS OF THE ROMANTICS, A TUMBLR HISTORY EXHIBIT: photos i've collected of people related to the english writers of the romantic period and/or who were part of the byron-shelley circle.
Edward John Trelawny (above: a photo of him as an elder compared to a portrait of him as a young man). A key member of the circle, celebrity/adventurer/writer, friend and biographer of Byron and Shelley. Outlived everyone. Proposed to both Mary Shelley and Claire Clairmont and remained in touch with them their whole lives. Really interesting person but also a chronic liar, making it difficult to tell which parts of his life stories are fact or fiction. He is buried next to Shelley (who is buried next to Keats); Trelawny bought the cemetery plot when Shelley died decades prior and later offered it to Mary Shelley who declined it. The last two portraits below were done by Joseph Severn, the artist who was friends with Keats, did most of his portraits, & took care of him as he was dying in Rome. I don't think Trelawny ever met Keats.
Jane Williams Hogg (née Cleveland). She was married to an abusive man named John Edward Johnson who she left for Edward Ellecker Williams, who was the father of her first two children and a friend of Percy Bysshe Shelley's cousin Thomas Medwin. The family then lived in the same household with the Shelley family (Mary, Percy, and their children) in Italy. Percy dedicated some of his last poems to Jane. After Percy and Edward died together in a boating accident she lived with Mary before partnering with Shelley's best friend from college Thomas Jefferson Hogg who she had two children with.
I think the similarity between her younger portrait (1822, age 24) & her photograph (date unknown, but she died in 1884 & seems like she could be in her 80s in the photo) are very striking; you can clearly see the nose, eyes, hair, and mouth are exactly the same, only older.
She also knew George Eliot and William Michael Rossetti; I mentioned the Rossetti's in my last post. I wonder if she ever discussed Shelley's connection to John Polidori with them; I don't believe she ever met John Polidori, but maybe the Shelleys would have mentioned him to her.
Thomas Medwin, another key player of the Shelley-Byron circle in Italy. Cousin of Percy Bysshe Shelley and friend/biographer of Shelley and Byron.
Wilhelm Charles Gaulis Clairmont, the nephew of Clara Mary Jane Clairmont aka Claire Clairmont. Wilhelm was the son of her half-brother Charles Gaulis Clairmont.
#romanticism#thomas medwin#claire clairmont#the romantics#english romanticism#english romantics#romantics#romantic poets#biography#memoirs
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Do you miss your friends back home?
We were driving a long distance, when my husband broke a long silence in the car and asked me if I missed my friends back home. I don’t know if it was the eerie silence of the deep night, or the completely dark road, but it made me think of how many people I’ve lost through my life, how many friends left, how many young lives were lost.
“Back home” his words kept ringing in my ears. As I thought about that place, anxiety started crippling my chest, making it hard to breathe. Do I still think of it as ���home”? Was it ever my home? The answer is, I don’t know. I came here back in 2008, when I was a 20 year old scared girl, who had never seen or never been out of the parental house before. I came on the student visa, didn’t have a penny in my pocket, didn’t speak English at all and didn’t know anyone, but still I was so happy. I didn’t have any fears that I had back home, I felt free, felt like I would make it, and finally everything would be ok. Of course, it wasn’t as easy as I thought, but that’s a different story.
I’m 35 now and have spent almost half of my life here, got married, and had wonderful kids. So no, Brooklyn is my home now, and I don’t feel like Dushanbe is my home anymore.
I do have fond memories of it, and of course I have a lot of love for it, for its people who are suffering from the hands of the corrupted government, police, and any other establishments. My heart breaks everytime I think of the little girls who would spend their lives as slaves to their families, often physically abused, uneducated and vulnerable. For little boys that would grow up to be cruel because otherwise they wouldn’t survive, and would spend most of their lives away from their family, working for pennies as expats in Russia, oftentimes illegally. Yes, I love my roots and where I came from, I will never forget the country that birthed me, made me stronger, but I don’t feel like it’s my “home” anymore. Even though I rent my house here, I still feel like it’s my home.
“So?” my husband asks again, trying to keep the conversation going and stay awake. I open the window a little bit, and inhale a lungful of fresh, cold air. The smell of earth after the rain and pine trees filled out the car.
“I have no friends there left” I answer curtly and look outside. The sky is so dark, not a single star is visible, and thick woods on both sides of the road cast weird shadows of trees.
My memories get as dark as the night. The first two friends I lost when I was 7-8 years old.
“We’re moving away” my friend had told me through her tears. “I want to stay here forever, but mom says we have to flee.”
I remember thinking how lucky she was to have an opportunity to leave all this behind. Her mom called a few days later. After walking home from school we said our goodbyes, and she decided to jump on the back of a large track (kids used to do that all the time, and ride a little. The way we had fun.) Her skirt got stuck as she was jumping down, unfortunately, the track was backing up and she fell under the tire.
At the funeral, I couldn’t cry. Not a single tear escaped my eyes. I was hollow. The words her mom said are the ones I’d never be able to forget; “she wanted to stay here forever, and now she will…”
Not even a year later another tragedy struck: My neighbor and classmate had died as she was walking to school in the morning, killed by a stray bullet. By that time I was already desensitized, I couldn’t feel anything but numbness.
Second grade: my best friend moves away because his dad was killed. Third grade, most of my classmates of Russian ethnicity left the country. I feel lonely.
Fourth grade, my favorite teacher, who was our second mother, leaves the country and school becomes unbearable. Many new neighbors and kids start to move in. The school has only one Russian speaking class left, and the next year they would close it too.
By the fifth grade most of my classmates left the country, the ones that left had a very tragic life. One of the twins has been bitten up by the street gang to death, the only other girl who was left in class was (probably) raped and lost her ability to speak. She would sit in the classroom, her eyes looking empty, never talking.
In the sixth grade I had to find a new school, because all the Russian classes in our school were closed due to lack of teachers. That’s when it got worse. The war had ended, but there were still gunshots reverberating through the air. There was a lot of heroin coming through the border from Afghanistan. I had never noticed it before, but now that I was older I could see teenagers either holding weapons, or doing drugs in the entrances of the building, on the roof, on the streets. Everywhere. That’s when we found our classmate. Sweet boy with large, warm brown eyes, like the color of milk chocolate. He had been missing for days, his mom would come looking for him everyday. We were thinking of hanging out on the roof, because someone saw the janitor leaving the door open. As we tried to climb the window sized door, between the floor t and the roof there was an attic small as crawlspace. We saw something in the crawlspace, and the bravest boy started to crawl towards it to check it out. A minute later we heard a blood curdling scream and he came out of there all pale.
“Tahir is there dead” was all he said, his lips paler than the white wall. Tahir overdosed there days ago, and stayed in that crawl space for days, his body contoured in a shape of the ball. When they got him out of there, my gaze fell into his eyes. They were unnaturally large, black pupils dilated, covering the warm brown completely. I quickly look away from the disfigured body. That’s not my friend… those eyes had no light in them. His eyes were warm and full of light, brown like a cup of hot chocolate…
I lost too many friends. Stupid drugs, stupid weapons, taking thousands of lives of youth...
Seventh grade… Misha is missing. Blue eyed, skinny boy. With the hair so blond, it looked almost white. He was always bullied in school for his looks. With many Russians leaving, and thousands of others coming from villages and mountains, he looked different in his eyes. We got close when my teacher asked me to tutor him in modern classic Russian literature. I was cautious at first, but then as I got to know him better, how gentle he was, my heart began to open up. He was as fragile as the flower, the only child and I loved him dearly as my friend. It was a big mistake. I shouldn’t make close friends anymore. Misha went missing and the feeling of dread filled my chest. I knew he wasn’t coming back. I knew it, but I was still hoping. They found his body two weeks later, in a sewer. In a freaking sewer, drowned in people's feces. His back was stabbed with a screwdriver “faggot” written in its handle. I thought I couldn’t cry anymore, but turns out I still had tears left in my eyes. I couldn’t go see him at the funeral, I didn’t go to say goodbye to his mother, as she was leaving the country. I didn’t have strength left.
9th grade. My close friend Artur who moved to Siberia with his mom and my maternal uncle (because he married his mom) called us and gave us the bad news. Artur passed away. As they left the country, he couldn’t bear it and became an alcoholic at 16. Stole money from a passerby and died of tuberculosis in prison.
I didn’t make friends anymore. I had acquaintances, but not close ones. I promised myself I wouldn’t get my heart broken again. High school was lonely without close friends, I was bullied too, but I didn’t care. I was tired of losing people.
November, 11th grade just started. I’m going home under the heavy rain when suddenly an umbrella covers my head. I turn my head and see a scrawny boy smiling at me. “Let’s walk together, it's raining.” Later I found out he lived the opposite way, but felt sorry for me, drench in the rain. That’s how I made another friend. Whenever he smiled, his eyes would disappear into two straight lines. He had a little sister, his family was well off, he went to an expensive private school, so I always wondered why he spent so much time hanging out on our street, or my cold, empty house that never had any food. We graduated 11th grade, he had plans to go to college.
Kamol stopped coming, and I grew worried. His classmate comes to see me. Kamol hanged himself in their house. His little sister and mom found him. I was so angry, how could he leave us like that? Why? We’re not making anymore friends, the voice in my head tells me, and I silently nod.
Another funeral next block. Is it ever gonna stop? He was only 19, drowned in a lake. I cry and cry, we weren’t friends, but we grew up together. Why is this happening?
A cute girl moved into our building a few years ago. We are not friends, she is a few years older than me, but as I graduated the school we became really close. She made me smile a lot. She introduced me to new friends. We were inseparable, she slept over at my place, I slept in hers. We became friends with a group of youth in the next building. Long walks everyday, laughs, ice-cream, life is good.
“M!” She came in screaming in excitement, “you want to go to the US with me? Let me talk to your mom.” It took a few tries, but Fara convinced my parents and we’re waiting in the US consulate for a visa interview. “We are going to the US, we are going to have a great life M!” she smiles. I go in first, and come out happy. Fara didn’t make the cut. She spent so much time and money, went for an interview three times, but was rejected each time.
“Goodbye” get together. Everybody is on the street, eating, dancing. But I am sad. I have to leave in two weeks. A week later Fara comes with puffy eyes. “Firdaus was stabbed in the street fight last night, he passed away this morning in the hospital.” Firdaus was one of the guys from our group, Fara and him fell in love and were in a serious relationship. Another funeral just before I leave, I can’t grieve anymore. How many more of my friends are going to die?! I can’t bear it.
She hugs me tight in the airport. “Be safe my love… I lost my boyfriend, I’m losing you too.”
“You’re not losing me Far,” I reply as something scratches at my throat. “I will email you every day.”
“Go now, go!” She pushes me away as she wipes her tears. “Don’t forget me, I love you!” She turns her head and walks away really fast, so I wouldn’t see her tears. I’m too sad to reply. I should’ve said I loved her too. It still eats away at me that I didn’t say those three words.
Two years passed, we email each other regularly, just not everyday anymore. I want to surprise her and tell her that I’m pregnant, but I keep it to myself. I want to find out the sex of the baby, and tell her on her birthday that she is going to be an aunt.
My phone rings loud in the middle of the night. My husband curses, I take a phone, and try to see who is calling. My sister. “Hello? What’s going on?”
“M…” It’s not my sister, It’s Fara’s sister.
“Yeah, what’s up? You know what time is it here? Why are you calling so late?”
“Fara passed away from brain aneurysm” the phone falls from my hand as I clutch to my stomach. She passed away 2 weeks before her 25th birthday. My dearest friend who loved life. Who helped me get away and build a better life. The regret is still deep in my heart. I should’ve told her I’m having a son. I shouldn’t have waited until her birthday. Now she will never know. My Fara, my first crush, my first puppy love. The grief is suffocating me, but I try to move on. She wanted me to be happy. It’s been 12 years. I dream of her from time to time. In my dreams, she says she misses me, but it’s me who misses her.
“I have no friends left there”... I answer my husband. “Have you ever lost a friend?”
“No” he cuts off, and keeps driving silently into the darkest night, the night as dark as my memories…
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Four years in Russia!
Four years in Russia!
To be honest, each year gets more surreal thinking I’ve survived for one more of Earth’s trips around the sun in everybody’s favorite capital, Moscow. Despite saying this every time, I still cannot believe that things have, on the whole, gone pretty well. This anniversary happens to coincide with the 871st birthday of the city I’ve since called home, which is a happy coincidence; the fireworks…
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