#everyone in my friend group is queer

[sciderman]

I swear I have read your big post regarding Peter Parker's neurodivergence and why it is best to avoid labelling him, but he definitely has a weird brain

Can't find it and feel kinda sad about it cuz I deeply related to it

i know exactly which post you're talking about and i can't find it either! i've raked through my archive, and it's just - nowhere to be seen. i think tumblr eated it (it happens.)

really, tumblr's search functionality is so so useless, i don't know what to tell you. there are plenty of keywords i can search to find it that post, but the search functionality actually just does not work!

undiagnosed audhd-addled peter parker, my darling, my light, my life, my everything.

i think peter parker's such an interesting creature to write, because a lot of people will point to a certain behaviour about him and say "this is an autistic thing, right?" but a lot of those behaviours are actually, in my head, tied to certain traumas in peter's life too.

people say "oh, the food thing, peter's a picky eater because he's autistic" and yes, absolutely. but also it's tied to his trauma with his parents.

peter gets overstimulated, and yes, it's an autism thing, but also he was bitten by a radioactive spider and his senses are dialled to 11.

it's a similar case i've found for myself, too – where a lot of friends i have kind of diagnose me because i have autistic traits, but actually - i'm hesitant to claim the label or pursue diagnosis because, actually, i know where these certain behaviours come from, and they come from certain traumas. there are events i can pinpoint in my life and say "yep. that's where this behaviour comes from."

so - i think there's a lot of overlap between trauma and autistic traits. the brain is very complex! i think the reason for that overlap is maybe as simple as the fact that people with autism and people with trauma are both doing the same thing - developing behaviours to protect themselves or soothe themselves. so - i think it's nice to be able to see a character like peter parker, who may or may not be autistic, but recognise behaviours in him and see yourself in him.

people who go undiagnosed for whatever reason - people who are really good at masking - so good, in fact, that they have no idea they might be on the spectrum - everyone and anyone at all can look at peter parker and recognise themselves. because i think we discredit the thought that every single brain does the same thing! develops certain behaviours in order to survive. every brain has that same software - we've just all been faced with different hardships that we need to overcome, and that's were all the differences come in.

autism is a spectrum, i guess - everyone falls into it to some degree. and i think events in your life probably push you along on it. but i don't know, i didn't study brain science. probably what i'm saying is very stupid and uninformed. of course there's brain chemistry involved. but i know people in my life living with autism and certain events in their life have exacerbated certain behaviours or made coping with it a lot more difficult. so maybe trauma is a catalyst.

[chokedqwerty]

bonding

[iyote]

I like to headcanon Kakyoin as some form of queer because I think his backstory works really well as a metaphor for growing up closeted

[finniestoncrane]

said to my counsellor that i wasnt built for friendship because everyone always eventually just. stops speaking to me and she went “ok why do you think that is?” and then when i finished my dumb sad list she went “ok so maybe you aren’t good at friendship” and i. have never regretted spending £50 more in my life lol

[yardsards]

s1 luz was at least a little bit gay for willow i will not be told otherwise

idk if it was a full on crush but it was at least one of those types of nebulous not-quite-romantic not-quite-platonic "hahaha, unless..." type friendships that a lot of queer teens have, u know the ones

[unproduciblesmackdown]

omgg lol [guy who won't stop going "more like scapeGOATED" voice] now hold! on!! lmao [same guy just saw encanto voice] Hold on!!!

[ganondorf]

those posts that are like "girls in the locker room at school be crying and doing group therapy and uplifting each other" like....what school did u guys go to. i got bullied and physically assaulted in my schools locker room wtf

[transmechanicus]

A-!

[spaghett-onaplate]

sixth day at my new school and i didn't sit alone at lunch today 🥳🥳

[nothing-nothing454545]

no, i dont think im obligated to still small talk an hour into my meet up with a friend group ive been a part of for 2 years, and i dont think im overreacting or showing a lack of loyalty when im unsatisfied with such a conversation. As someone who hates small talk, that friend group isn't for me, and i get nothing from it, and i will choose not to feel like a weirdo (derogatory) or a traitor (..because we didn't promise each other we'd be together forever afaik), for being unsatisfied and leaving. ive shown them affection (that i didnt fully feel) for as long as i could

[magicalgirlartist]

[ID: digital drawing of two young women, Jen and Lucy. Jen, on the left, has long brown hair in a braid, a long grey cardigan, purple shirt, and jeans, Lucy, on the right, has pink hair in a high pony, a black cowl-neck dress, and pink leggings. Both are holding coffee cups. Jen, looking at Lucy and gesturing towards her, asks "I've always wondered, why did you pick 'Lucy' when you changed your name?" Lucy, holding a hand out and looking away from Jen while blushing, says "Look, Jen, not every trans person's name has to have some deeper meaning, okay?" while a helpful textbox arrow pointing to her says "(named herself after Wyldstyle from the Lego Movie.)" The background is a stock photo of a mall. End ID.]

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OC-tober day 5: Show some pride

This dumb joke has existed in my head about my magical girl OC Lucy for basically as long as she's been trans (so about 6-7 years now). Local dumbass named herself after a cartoon character and immediately got embarrassed about it

[Commissions open!]

[skid-the-mighty-poet]

[gender-euphowrya]

damn the ''queer kids can sniff each other out'' thing is so true fr my entire middle school friend group is gay

[midnight-in-eden]

I told my family I want to build myself a social life again (covid & other things have pretty much killed what little social life I had) and they suggested I start attending YSA social activities with my sibling.

It’s not the first time they’ve suggested it. I tried very politely explaining that yeah, maybe I’d consider it once or twice, but I don’t want that to be my main friend group. I want friends who share my values, especially friends who don’t believe gay marriage is wrong.

They were just…baffled. After all, they argued, all of my sibling’s friends are so nice. Nobody will be rude to me about it, my mom insisted.

Honestly? I don’t care. I don’t care how nice they are. It’s like being friends with a nice racist. I don’t even want to maintain friendships with most of my old Mormon friends, let alone make new ones.

Idk, it felt so ironic, coming from the parents who taught me to “choose friends with similar values and standards” growing up. My values and standards have changed. I don’t want friends who are homophobes, no matter how nice they are about it. Why is this such a baffling concept? Is it because I manage to be civil to my family about them being in the church, so they think I’m amicable about homophobia in general? It’s hard to believe I haven’t made my feelings clear at this point. Maybe they just don’t want to believe that their bigoted beliefs are a turn-off to other people looking for friends, no matter how nice they are. After all, Mormons take so much pride in being nice and friendly. They do not seem to understand that smiling at someone while you bear a bigoted testimony is still bigotry. As long as you don’t do it in an angry way, it’s not hate speech to them, it’s just “standing up for your beliefs.”

Anyway. I am going to look for LGBTQ social groups in my area. Because I’d like a friend group where, for once, I’m not the token queer in a room full of smiling bigots.

[youjustwaitsunshine]

im. so gross and sweaty and theres glitter EVERYWHERE but im also very happy

[thebeautifulfantastic]

so sick and twisted that in order to have a cool and fun friend group i have to actually go out of my way to talk to people and build relationships