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my love language is curiosity, and i'm not even fluent in it lol
#self-discovery#looking back on your life and laughing at how obvious the answer is#and how obvious it is now#i'm yelling into a void that is not listening lol#i'm a kid posting a list of questions hoping someone will ask me one#and no one ever does#but i kept posting them#hoping#fuck you#i don't need anyone to know me#“I” know me#and if someone actually asked me the questions i wouldn't know how to answer anyway#because no one ever has#i have no practice at it#i'm watching movies with my parents and they pick up their phones#i'm watching a friend play a game to see what choices they make#i'm asking people about info on their profiles and expanding on them#and no one#no one hardly /ever/ asks me back what i think#even as a courtesy question#as an echo back#and i'm really seeing it now#how many people don't even listen to my answers when i give them anyway#i'm gonna go cry now
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desperately need people to understand that alicent is a victim but she’s also an abuser and a perpetrator
that she actively makes choices to harm other women because of jealousy and envy and the greed deep in her bones because submitting to suffering didn’t get her what those women fight to grasp for themselves.
she is absolutely a victim, in show.
that doesn’t change that she abused rhaenyra and her children, her own son, most likely helaena given how she flinches every time her mother touches her, and is actively weaponizing the patriarchy of westeros against other women- rhaenyra primarily, but also mysaria and dyana.
she isn’t the moral, righteous force of good that even she thinks she is, she’s a wounded woman directing all of the rot, pain, and fury inside her at the wrong people and forces.
#anti team green stans#anti team green#anti alicent hightower stans#i don’t wanna say it’s anti alicent bc honestly it’s more ‘accept her for who she is bc she’s so much more complex and interesting when you#but i made this bc someone genuinely tried to say that the reason people hate her is that they don’t see her as a victim#most rational people know show!alicent is a victim#it’s the point that’s she’s an abuser as well#that makes them dislike her#that she’s a hypocrite and a traitor#i don’t even like young alicent bc i don’t at all think she was a good friend to rhaenyra#‘it’s not your place to question the plots of lords and men’ to the named heir#dismisses rhaenyra’s hopes and idealism entirely out of hand#is baffled that rhaenyra is more worried for her fathers happiness and mother’s wellbeing than her position#she knew as early as ep 3 that otto was conspiring against rhaenyra and never told anyone#condemns ‘targaryen customs’ only to wed her daughter to her son even younger than she was when otto dangled her before viserys#acts entitled to rhaenyras secrets whilst condemning and judgemental even though she did not give rhaenyra that same courtesy#made no attempt at apology for the insensitive comment of aegon’s birth#though rhaenyra DID try to apologize for the ‘imprisoned in a castle’ line and tried to comfort her#uses her power as queen to push past the space rhaenyra is trying to create because she feels heartbroken and betrayed#rhaenyra took part in alicent’s culture with prayer at alicent’s urging because she cared about alicent and alicent was trying to help her#alicent is never once shown to return that favor instead condemning it for ‘queerness’ and growing to later#erase and remove all targaryen and valyrian heraldry from the red keep to replace with her own#like alicent is a victim and i DO have empathy for her. but i don’t like her and never will#especially not after the way her stans behave#she deserved better than otto’s machinations and viserys’…. viserysness#but that can also be true whilst i condemn her actions and behaviors
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I know need to know what the fuck was the honda three rider team about. Bc that sounds made up as fuck
historical silly season: 2010 edition!
in early 2010, casey had very much had enough of ducati
rumours are that he'd already been looking to break his contract for the 2010 season after how ducati had handled the whole mystery illness 2009 saga... releasing inaccurate statements about his condition to the press without his consent, implying his diet was to blame - as well as offering jorge a shit ton of money to come ride for them. crucially more than they were paying casey
this was from mid 2009 and the vibes were already BAD back then... it's hard to know how seriously to take retirement rumours from the time given casey just wasn't. really... talking to the press, so a lot of the times the media was relying on other sources from inside his camp or just wildly speculating
anyway, casey did see out the 2010 season with ducati, but at the start of the year he essentially gave them an ultimatum - he wanted them to rip up his proposed contract and have them show him how much he was worth to them. they did not do so
according to casey, he already signed a contract at the second round of the season in jerez, which gives you a sense of how done he was with all things ducati - but it was only announced after the seventh round in july. the move was made smoother by casey's existing close relationship with livio suppo, who had himself recently made the switch from ducati to honda
very much the right time to make the move for sure. at the time, there was speculation that casey's poor results in the first half of the season was due to decreased motivation, which of course he strongly denied. really, it was the fault of the bike and team - and casey would show as much the following year at honda
one little problem. honda already had two factory contracted riders for 2011: dani and dovi. now, dani had been honda's wunderkind since forever, and after their last world champ nicky hayden - who was not on particularly warm terms with dani's camp, it has to be said - departed the team, dovi had been the chosen replacement. dovi was a long time honda loyalist, even when he was riding their underpowered bikes to championship runner up positions against jorge in 250cc, and he'd also had a highly impressive rookie season
2009 had not been a particularly great year for either factory honda rider, partly due to bike performance partly due to injuries partly due to... rider performance. it was a rough year for dovi in particular, despite his win in tricky conditions at donington (all four aliens deliver quite funny performances at that race in different ways. not exactly the finest of hours for any of them)
when casey's signing was announced, honda initially went 'okay three factory blokes but maybe we'll have two in the real team and then one in a fake team'
the problem, right, is that it costs a lot of money to field a three man team - this is why honda was so keen on the red bull option, because then they could pay for the seat
honda confirmed its intention to have four factory honda riders in 2011, those three and sic, in mid-september. but they still needed to figure out where to put them. they didn't manage to get the funds to put casey in a separate team, and then they tried to put dovi on the satellite squad:
now, dovi was on a 2+1 contract, with 2009-10 guaranteed and an option to extend for another year. the contract included a performance clause - and dovi was having a more successful 2010 season, so hrc was having some trouble forcing dovi to accept the move:
so yeah, obviously not exactly great behaviour to sign a third rider when your team is already essentially full... and then immediately spend the next few months trying to get rid of one of your existing riders who is still entitled to that seat
some more details:
for a while, dovi looked like he might be leaning towards accepting it, and was certainly keen to stress that he wasn't rejecting gresini due to his interpersonal issues with some of the team's personnel. this from september:
eventually, repsol agreed to fund the whole thing so that honda could honour their commitments to all three riders:
so, one team for all of them, if still a wee bit of healthy internal separation
and by november the whole thing was sorted
honda did have some internal precedent for this! in 1997, they fielded three factory riders: doohan, criville and okada
also back in the day they did just create shell teams organised around one rider, which is of course where valentino spent his first two years in the premier class
and here's the updated version from 2011!
anyway, it was only something honda was willing to do for one year, and in the end dovi decided to jump ship to yamaha rather than accept internal demotion. the fight for p3 in the championship went right down to the final race in valencia - and it must have been incredibly satisfying for dovi to snatch it from dani there
after this... look, basically they changed the rules to make it two entries at most per team, then they changed it back for like? two years? so that four riders were technically allowed. and then they changed their mind again. now it's just two - obviously teams are allowed wildcards, but they couldn't do this three man team thing anymore nowadays
teams generally wouldn't even want to do this because it's a lot of hassle and, most importantly, money. so yeah, unlikely to make a comeback. very much a quirky curio that won't be replicated... could be funny though. if they want to change the rules again
#i mean it did kinda briefly reenter the discourse last year courtesy of ktm being ktm#if i keep working my way back through historical silly season editions at this rate i'll be talking about 1988 lawson to honda pretty soon#motogp#//#brr brr#batsplat responds#heretic tag#alien tag#morale tag#my problem with this team - not to sound like too much of an arsehole here - is that they all got on basically fine#like I hate so say it but there's really not much else interesting to say about this situation. it happened! that's it#casey doesn't even mention dovi was his teammate in the autobiography. barely registered apparently#very much the stale years of the alien era unfortunately. not much going on in either the racing or intrigue department#I just don't think they really work as a combination... they all have potential in the teammate squabbling department we know this#but you kind of need someone in there to like. just kick things off. the jorges the valentinos the marcs of this world#incidentally unequivocally the worst three guys you could do this with#here's my suggestion: honda signs jorge rather than casey for 2011. casey to yamaha dealer's choice whether valentino still goes to ducati#jorge was on a one year contract for 2010 he wasn't THAT committed. I think if that volcano doesn't erupt it could've happened#(also teammate chemistry is a bit of a timing question. 2007!casey/dani would've been more prickly than their 2011-12 versions)
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sometimes i really don't think we've fully absorbed the realization that humans are animals. we keep trying to find new and spectacular ways to delineate between us and them, even as we try to deconstruct the beliefs of past western science
first we were put above other animals, who in the name of science were declared nothing more than organic automatons devoid of personality. today we know this isn't true, that every animal is the culmination of billions of years of chance and choices, and then a lifetime of experience to fine tune the rest.
so the discussion moved to the question: why are we different? breaking ourselves down to try to separate out the True Human Experience. we have tools--but so do other animals. we build homes and cities--likes termites and coral. we are intelligent--but then, what even is intelligence? we have culture--and yet again, so do other animals.
so we venture in vain to other traits. humans must be uniquely violent, destructive, upheaving the ecosystems of the world in a way no other creature has
but hundreds of millions of years ago, photosynthesis evolved and spurred one of the worst extinctions earth has ever seen. a species can encounter a new habitat and spread like wildfire, sometimes as destructive as one as well.
so surely our systems and our hierarchies set us apart in their depth and complexity. but it's myopic, naive even to think that other creatures don't form their own complexities outside our purview. we see our complexity because we are born and raised in it, but it's hardly what makes us different.
and in this journey to find out what makes us so different, instead we've found out the many ways that we are similar. the way our brains are similar to those of other mammals, how our bodies are all stretched out from the same general base tweaked and formed over an inconceivable number of generations. how the further we trace ourselves back, the more and more animals we share ancestors with.
i don't know where I'm going with all this. i think im frustrated with our medicine, how so much of it is grounded not in biology but in our own culture.
when we see a human not performing well, we call them lazy. when it's an animal, then something must be wrong. we understand the physiology of other animals and treat them within those bounds, yet despite what we know about the human body the way we discuss it seems frustrstingly disconnected.
maybe it's because we can talk to each other and so we assume that we can verbalize the problems we're experiencing, but language is a dismal thing to base healthcare on when most of us don't even use the same words to describe things. it's a subjective, moving target, and it assumes that the patient themself knows what's wrong. we rely too much on the ability of a patient to describe what they are experiencing, and not enough on observations of their behaviour.
my dad's shoulder hurts. he dislocated it a while ago, and it never stopped bothering him. but when i watch him he holds both shoulders forward and tense. slouching has for a long time been deemed lazy and improper, but it doesn't line up--the way my father strives for a healthy, active body but can never seem to make it work. the way he loves to be active, the way he wants to exercise, to walk and run, but it seems no matter how hard he tries he can't.
he told me his shoulder hurts, but the more i watched the more i saw that he doesn't move with the relaxed, easy movements that a man who's as active as he is should be. a human is an animal that loves to walk, and in many ways we've developed anatomy to this end, from the balanced efficiency of our bipedal forms to the way we utilize momentum as the driving force of our movement. we have science that says all this, so why does this not seem to hold true for some people? and why are we looking at them and calling them lazy? why aren't we looking for something gone awry, like the way we would a dog with a limp? we wouldn't blame the dog for not standing up the way a dog should, so why does this not hold true for humans?
#my first doctor never once examined me. maybe she never even looked at me#the first chiropractor i saw told me that i pronate my feet and it affects the rest of me#but maybe he assumed that i was just a silly kid who stood wrong#who simply needed to put a little more effort into standing right#my more recent chiropractor told me that my left side was compensating for my right side. she never helped me figure out why.#even my best physiotherapists only ever deemed to tell me what i was doing wrong.#no one ever took into account the things that i knew and didn't know. no one ever thought to ask why someone would walk this way#if it causes so much pain down the road#my current doctor is patient. he has the courtesy to believe me. he gives me room to do my own research#he puts effort into helping solve the mystery. even if he didn't know the answer he helped me search for the source#he asks questions and helps me dig into the things my own research has found#i think maybe he'd even do more research himself if he had the time. but doctors are short in this city
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“Are you sure it wasn’t intentional?” / “Do you think she might be working for the bad guys?”
#critical role#imogen x fearne#the way they tread with the other is so fascinating to me I know it's only to me so that must mean I'm crazy but like#fearne has this delicacy in her boundless courtesies she really just asks questions others would shy away from but like#the way she asks them the way she words them this reckless fey really is weighing her words and feeling enough to ask even if she’s alone#and there's like this bridge that keeps flickering between imogen and fearne between their moralities and relationship with fate*#that fearne says Well Bad Can Be Good and imogen No I Didn't Choose That If It's Bad and they both have a lot of friction with that it's So#fearne whispers to imogen in the language she Believes imogen Knows but imogen Committed to her goodness pretends she Doesn't and it's Like#the way imogen words that it's like what is She looking for in that answer in fearne but she's Looking with a subtle recognition in that#The Faintest Faintest Nod fearne gives imogen when she says It Just Happened like that's a distinction without difference my dear#but fearne so gently ebbs from further questioning imogen's relationship with Those powers it gets me man#and then you have imogen's Concept of Bad n Good that it's really clearly messing with fearne's own perception Questioning morri#if the ep screenshot isn't ashley and laura quietly side eyeing eachother then thats fine that doesn’t bother me at all#ygifs
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tengu doodles (the inspo for the first picture should be above)
Nana: Torino...
Sorahiko: Yeah?
Nana: Did you remember to teach Kotarou how to change back?
#bnha#shimura kotarou#gran torino#shimura nana#torino sorahiko#shih's art#my neighbor torino au#actually all three (nana toshinori and kotarou) get to have tengu forms courtesy of being connected#to the daitengu (think king tengu; progenitor tengu even) yoichi#the difference between them and torino though is that they are still locked into a mortal lifespan#so i guess really the question of my neighbor torino au is#immortality (for fear of death; afo) vs immortality (for stewardship reasons; torino) vs mortality (which is incidentally also#the buddhist reincarnation cycle)
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Cannot believe my girl Asa heard Denji say “don’t open the fridge or any of the neighboring apartments” and didn’t IMMEDIATELY go “Wait but what are you hiding in there”
Denji and Asa share one brain cell and Yoshida has it
#Chainsaw man#csm#csm spoilers#chainsaw man spoilers#asa mitaka#baby girl you are so dumb#you’re absolutely right that it’s common courtesy to not open someone’s fridge#SO WHY WOULD IT BE A RULE#SHE DOESNT EVEN QUESTION IT#I love her so much
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ok so like. is it too much too ask for a heads up when entire areas of the living space you pay rent for is rearranged by your roommates or am i just a freak weirdo with control issues.
#j.txt#genuine question. especialy when i have Brought This Up Before that it massively stresses me out#to have my things moved without my consent or foreknowledge#woke up to half the kitchen cabinets in completely new arrangements and never even a courtesy just letting u know we moved things#and when I said hey can yall maybe tell me when you move stuff i get an oh well we didnt know we were gonna rearrange until we did. ok?#is it wildly outside the range of possibility to send even a 'hey kitchen got rearranged' text ???? considering its My Place of Living Also#like. Im just so frustrated and resentful that the scant times i manage to bring up a boundary or request#all i get is a well its not a big deal. It Fucking Is. To ME .
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So, here's my plan:
I am going write down everything I'm doing around the house for the next few months, making sure that I do everyhing PERFECTLY, following EVERY SINGLE RULE my roomate made up, and even signing all the dates where I am not in the house (like when I am in my hometown, or even when it's a full day in university if I go out early morning and come back late evening) just to make sure that the times I got nothing done I got a valid reason (I fucking wasn't there).
I am going to do all of this, writing everything down as backup because my memory is shit, and the next time my roomate acts like a bitch and complains about whatever the drama of the day is I am going ballistic. I will have my backup and I will be ready to defend myself with concrete proof because I AM DONE.
And if she's still acting all cold and resentful, all because last time I dared to defend myself and talk back, then she's the problem. And I will tell her to her fucking face: if you're not able to see a genuine attempt at making things right and the good will to want make up for past mistakes (even if she fucking exagerated them, but I will cut this part out for the sake of peace), and everything is always bad and wrong, then you are the problem.
It's not my fault if you're never happy, and it's not my job to make you feel better.
#she's fucking insane#an evil part of me really wants to rattle her out to our landlord for some of her... legally questionable habits#and yell at her things that I know will hurt#I am not doing any of this though#not that she fucking apreciate or notice it#even less she shared the courtesy#she talks big about and empath and caring about others#but it's easy when the others aren't the people close that you see on a daily basis#i didn't see her try to understand me when things are bad#meanwhile i let slide many things i find annoying just because i know they are good for her#because i know she's not in a good place#figures that someone else fucking acts like this towards me#no one ever shares my courtesy or notice me trying hard#i am always the evil one#sooner or later i will actully be mad lose control and act bad#then you'll see#there's a reason i fight so hard to always keep myself under control#elo stuff#rant
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suddenly realizing that one of ur friends is quite self centered is WILD. i know some people talk about themselves as a way to relate to something you said but to do it every single time someone tells you something....
#once i started noticing this i couldnt stop its crazy#like not even once to ask a follow up question or anything just completely shift to talking abt urself#eg if someone tells me smth ill usually ask follow up questions#idk its just common courtesy#not to constantly be like ME ME ME ME#literally a family member of mine died and she didn't find out until a month later#cuz she never asks abt how im doing and stuff#AND WE TEXT DAILY!!!!!#then when i do want to discuss smth that happened to me she just completely shuts me down or changes the subject#idk i get that she doesn't have many (single) friends so ig im the friend she can vent to#but man.....im tired of being so accomodating and just listening constantly#a convo is a 2 way street#mine
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Just remembered the time in high school 2 completely random girls (I think they were fishies, but they might’ve been sardines) walked up to me in the hallway and just. Deadass, straight to my face, asked me if I was racist
Like Miss Bitch (‘cause only one of them actually spoke to me, iirc)
one: would a racist actually admit to being racist? I don’t think so
two: why the fuck are you talking to me (I did not, and still do not, like random people coming up to me. Especially when I’m trying to get somewhere and forget I exist) and why are you asking me that?
Anyway, apparently because I stayed out of everyone’s business and was super fucking quiet all the goddamn time, people started coming up with rumors about me
Issue was, I was pretty fucking open about shit happening in my life at the time
Apparently claiming that I was racist was easier than just calling me a tranny or fag or whatever (probably because i had, multiple times, openly called myself those words and made it clear that it didn’t bother me)
#fish = freshman#sardines = sophomores#idk how or why those nicknames came to be but I’m realizing that these might not be universal terms for those specific groups in high school#and for anyone curious#jellies = juniors#sharks = seniors#my reaction to this random question you might be asking#stare at the girls and silently question if I am in fact a racist#I came to the conclusion that yknow im white. I’m at the very least benefiting from a racist system#I did not say this tho#I can’t even remember what I said#I don’t even know why I just remembered this#fucking memory unlocked ig??#have some free high school memories courtesy of mars
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I don't know why but this has been bouncing round my head for a few hours and I need answers. Does Rafael exist in the Children of the dust universe??? And if so, does he ever meet the step children his father loves more than him? Please and thank you!
Excellent question. Here is a little bit of history. While I was writing Children, and the first season of season 5 was released, I decided to be democratic and ask readers whether they'd prefer Rafael to exist in that universe or not. Not surprisingly, the unanimous vote was Andrés-core (they didn't want him), so I didn't mention or allude to him in the main verse.
But between us, I always was fond more of the idea that he exists in that universe, mainly just because it makes everything funnier.
There is an old snippet I have somewhere in a forgotten document where Rafael does meet the twins and it's killing him because Rafael's entire worldview is that his father doesn't love him not because of any personal reason but because he's just not a father material, so he sees the twins and all of that tumbles down and his misery is very funny to me.
The bottomline answer is he exists and he doesn't depending on what we want!
(Except that if I do write the sequel and the sequel's sequel I'll have to bring Rafael into existence because I wouldn't want to make any major changes to the heist trajectory itself. Tatiana is Gabriel's piano tutor in that verse btw.)
#he was SO dramatic in that snippet as far as I remember#he's ??? and Andrés is like: what's weird?? they are better than you in every way??? you're inferior. you don't even have Martín’s blood#also said kids with Martín's blood have all Martín’s viciousness and Andrés' desire to humilate people wherever they go#so they are 11 and they bully Rafael into crying#needless to say. he's not a big fan of his step siblings#Children of the Dust#Max -number one voter- I respect your choice to not see Rafael but you have to admit that his existence makes the entire family funnier#also you didn’t ask the question but here is the answer anyway: no. Martin does NOT return the courtesy and treat Andrés' child like his own#he's equally terrible wuwjwk
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mutuals should ask for our simply plural or ask about the system. i love u
#for friends who dont know simply plural is an app for tracking system information and who is fronting and you can share it with other people#add them on the app and they can see that stuff i mean#and maybe we should make an ask game or something that could be fun#either way you can always always always send asks off or on#off or on anon or even dm us. we love answering questions abt system stuff. let us share it#courtesy of mike
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NAUR coz I just heard that Sainz said he could've WON the race if he'd pitted during the SC? 💀💀
What a stupid thing to say really, after the race he had and a time penalty on top of it. Mans wasn't even going to get on the podium with the pace of that car.
and ESPECIALLY when Norris is finally having his moment??
#it's not even about “carlando” or norris it's just basic fucking courtesy??#so many question marks because I am BAFFLED#miami gp 2024
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Oh, I should probably be specifying who I am when I send people asks, shouldn't I
#I may or may not have forgotten that this isn't my primary blog#courtesy of the icons for this blog and my primary blog being almost (though not 100%!) the same#I'll add a note to the post I made i think. just so i don't surprise anyone too much by randomly appearing in their inbox?#i'm going to be honest - i was *not* expecting that post to have gained as much traction as it has. especially this rapidly#but I really hope that people have found it useful! it's certainly achieved its purpose of being a good list of people participating#i've been making a start on going through the notes to send people asks but.. i sort of forgot that you can only send so many asks per hour#and also it *is* admittedly tricky to think of questions to ask people when I am not familiar with them or their F/Os in any way#since I do like coming up with questions of my own accord#and if i did try to filter through ask games then I *will* be here all evening to even more of an extent than i currently will be#heart of the void
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O|-< my mother it telling me about this man she wants to set me up with who sounds genuinely very nice and respectful and all that jazz but idk man. honestly i want to work on myself (honestly how i present myself irt fashion/clothes most of all) and i simply dont want for a relationship and it’s a conversation that rly causes a lot of anxiety for me
#and she’s super respectful about it like it’s fine. my moms not at fault here#she even said like ‘i mean if u had ur heart set on a woman i ofc wouldn’t push u’ and all that#rumbles#it’s just the problem is more idk what i want to do. i don’t rly Want for a lot rn#maybe that will change when i move away from my friends lmao#but it’s a topic that consistently gives me overwhelming anxiety whenever it comes up. like why don’t u have a partner#my roommate was being an ass last night (it’s fine now)#but she said like ‘i would never question anybody’s relationship status or question their sexuality based on their relationship status#because of how vulnerable anything regarding Not being in a relationship feels#CAUSE U KNO. EVEN IF U WANT THAT UR DEFENDING URSELF FROM A LOT OF TAKES FROM OTHER PPL#anyways it was a good thing to say. basic courtesy but insightful anyways
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