#end of relationships

[desultory-suggestions]

Sending love to those who are struggling with their long-term relationships and considering breaking up/breaking them off. Long-term relationships are a different type of experience, and ending them can be filled with unknowns and a sense of grief. It is okay to feel these things. It is okay to be angry, sad, or guilty when you realize you do not want to be with this person anymore. Whether they changed, you did, or you both did— these things happen. You deserve a relationship where you feel fully accepted, loved, and loving in return.

[etlu-yume]

just seeing someone else's post about something their therapist said and for some reason it jogged my memory but ;

If you're recovering from a friendship that came to an end, plz be kind to yourself!

I was having that discussion with my therapist (it's been a friendship that's been questionably deteriorating for years if it even was a friendship to begin with; long story, dreadful details, have been vaguely threatened with legal action for speaking up about it because the other party is literally That Scared about people speaking up about what they did to them.)

Therapist pointed out that friendships are often harder to move on from the breakup of than romantic relationships, in part because we go into romantic relationships with the expectation or recognition that there is a very real possibility this will not work out. Buuuuut we don't necessarily go into friendships with the same mental processes. We don't go into friendships thinking "hey, this could fizzle out" it's just suddenly someone is our friend, and depending on how things pan out they may just fade to the sidelines or things may go terribly and blow up in our faces.

But yeah, just. If you're coming out of a friendship, regardless of how long or short it is, how intense or low effort it is/was, plz be kind to yourself. These are hard times, and people rare seem to give friendship breakdowns the credit they deserve. Because they fucking hurt!

[bean-spring]

Hot take and not to be a killjoy or the shipping police but people treating Viktor or Jinx's aroace headcanons as if they were canon is not the revolutionary take people think it is.

Headcanons are always all right but we have to acknowledge that they are somehow damaging when they apply to stereotypes. It might not be the case for everyone but most of the time people unconsciously assume that disability/mental illness=asexuality. These headcanons erase the freedom of attraction from people who are already seen as unable to have sexual/romantic experiences/desires, when it's completely untrue and harmful.

You can headcanon Viktor and Jinx as aroace, but I have seen people changing their minds once Viktor is no longer disabled (s2 with all of his other forms) and Jinx is no longer as mentally ill (alternate universe Powder). And it speaks wonders of how people see these characters.

"I never thought about Jinx being able to feel romantic/sexual attraction until s2!" To believe she's actually only capable of that when she's not "damaged" is incredibly disturbing. Especially since Jinx has always had a bit of a flirty personality too.

"I've always seen Viktor as asexual, I don't know why!" That's fine. You can headcanon him as ace. But I believe there is a reason behind it, most of the time, if for some inexplicable reason the "vibes" of the disabled character are making you think he's ace.

I say all of this being aroaspec myself, by the way. Headcanon all you want but going to people's posts commenting how "it's weird for you that they have romantic/sexual plots when they're clearly aroace" is not a win at all. It's a headcanon, after all, and it should be treated as such, and that's fine. But it also is damaging to spread stereotypes like these.

Of course the disabled character is asexual. Of course the mentally ill character is aromantic. It's not as revolutionary as you might think, tbh.

Fandom is not activism and it's all right to have any headcanons you want BUT some of them are filled with damaging stuff and perhaps we should look into ourselves more before treating these assumptions as something canon.

[ash-and-starlight]

humble contribution

[theoldkyokodied]

The Allegiance of the Ascended Vampire and the New God of Magic

[charlott2n]

if i was an evil wizard i would make a website where you could ask questions and people who live in a whole different dimension where everything is stupid and different and wrong could answer them and id call it reddit

[frogayyyy]

they went from "when i feel friendship for you, i feel ashamed" to their souls reuniting in death holding hands watching the sunset

[jjkyaoi]

by the way. people are allowed to complain about this season feeling rushed. i don’t know when it became a thing in this fandom to completely jump people who have valid complaints like YES arcane is a fantastically produced and beautifully animated show and nobody will be able to top it but they did start things with some characters only for it to never go anywhere so it can all be wrapped up in three episodes 😭

[itseghost]

very straightforward redraw because this quest and this whole scene have been ON my mind.

[thesoftboiledegg]

[sashthesloth]

My original playthrough girls

[juicedaloe]

original by @ crawfishcomic below cut

[cheeseandcake-from-ao3]

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

sometimes i stalk fancy bakery instagram and

[quesocheeso]

Both Macaque and Xiaotian (MK) live in FFM full time unless there’s a special event happening in the celestial realm that requires the royal family being there.

since FFM is a laid back type of kingdom, both Macaque and Xiaotian wear normal clothes, nothing fancy especially not the type of outfits they wear back in the celestial realm

Bonus:

Wukong misses his husband and child L

[lazylittledragon]

mombin pt 9!! it's been too long i'm sorry

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