#easier said than done these days

[seyaryminamoto]

I didn't realize you had a patreon or did commission until I finally checked it. I always assumed the arts you release were personal projects. So some were commissions? If I ever have enough spare cash I'll think about commissioning an art. I'd do it now if I could afford it but things are pretty tight atm, economy's going to crap in loads of countries it seems, inflation in mine's case.

Oh, boy, do I know a thing or two about inflation, anon. Hyperinflation, in my country's case. Life's just fun that way :/

Anyway, yep! I do have my Patreon, and certain tiers do entitle the patrons to request specific commissions, it's not all Fic-to-Art voting system. I do take commissions on the side occasionally too, but that's a bit on hold atm because I'm up to the big project I hopefully will be able to finish on time this month. After that, commissions can come back to my life in full once more :D

Anyway, feel free to join in if inflation allows it, and if you do, hope you enjoy all the content in it, as well as the content to come! :D

[louferrignojrofficial]

Gotta admit, it is getting harder to root for Buddie. I know the ship itself isn’t at fault here, but IDK. Part of me no longer want them to be endgame because I really do not want the stans to get that win. Is that weird?

i totally get it.

i think i’ve come to appreciate the actual ship more now tbh. i’m not looking for clues that they’ll go canon i’m simply enjoying them and what the show gives us. nowadays, i can see buddie going canon and i’m happy if it happens, but i won’t be sad if it doesn’t.

i want him to end up with tommy but i also don’t care if he doesn’t, somehow? and you know how much i love them. i simply don’t think much about canon buddie, or what buck or eddie’s endgame relationships will be anymore.

i think i’m just really happy buck is bi, that’s my biggest win.

[thespineoftherighteous]

part of what makes Kevin so fuckin funny is that he's so shameless in front of the foxes. he goes from physically fighting with them, no grace no dignity, to a brilliant, blinding smile with perfect manners and a demeanor that might even be charming, back to cussing them out and insulting everything about them, making sure they know they're a disgrace to have on his court. but like he does all that IN FRONT of them. and then and then Mr Jeremy Knox pulls up and Kevin is once again doing All That but this time it's REAL. like he's just genuinely being a decent person, being friend material for the first time ever. and the foxes are still right there?? reactions ranging from amused to irritated while he's screaming y'all ain't worth SHIT from me.

[angelnumber27]

violently forcing myself to have better days

[saaraahka]

You post a lot of things wondering when you're going to be loved by someone so let me ask: What active steps are you taking to be what you deem loveable and desirable? How are you preparing yourself for that future domme? You can always make that your own to-do list until that special someone is around to write one for you. Best of luck in finding them!

Hii anon and what a lovely ask and set of good and important questions to think of!

So I think a short answer to both questions is i actively try to do and learn to be better at, to at least in my mind to become more loveable and desirable is,

being kinder to myself when trying but not achieving what id like and see it as a learning oportunity not only a failure from my part.

Being more talkative and creating strategies for myself on how to interact with women even when it is just something like saying hi which for me is harder than i can describe and verbal communication is extremely hard for me. With texting it's easier but still mostly involve staring at my keyboard anxiously spending days not getting anywhere.

I try use the skills I have to be useful and helpful in other women's everyday life although still trying to learn how to comunicate this and understand how and when to offer and if it is somethingthat would be appreciated. Although for me this mostly limited to cooking and baking for others and helping with practical things in the limited way I can.

And I try do and experience as much as I can on my own to get at least a sense of what it feels like for me and if it is something I'd like to explore with someone else.

More than anything (i believe) submission is not about actions more than leaving control to someone else and trust them with my needs being met while also meeting theirs. Maybe it makes it hard to prepare myself for a unknown potential future domme but I feel it's the honest way to approach it myself.

And ofc being as shy and insecure and hesitant as I am to social situations and i teraction with women dommes even more so, I still have a lot to work on just to feel like I have something to offer. Since well I feel like a good level of trust can only from in a close relationship (platonic or other). And this obviously doesn't mean trying to become someone I'm not but also I need to be able to show someone how much they mean to me and have to be able to have conversations were I'm considered an active part. Will all of this help me find that special someone I have no idea but I can only try.

Ugh was going to be a short answer. But also have no idea what I'm doing or what steps would be best to focus on in what order or what traits a domme would appreciate in me... so yeah any help and thoughts welcome.

Um anyway ty for the ask and hope this makes sense ❤️

[baravaggio]

I think one of the best things you can keep in mind as you age is that the strong desires you have to drastically change your life in impractical and destabilizing ways don’t speak to mental weakness or lack of self control but routine neglect of the day to day needs of certain parts of yourself…I think a lot of people are scared to let those parts of themselves take the reins even if just for a little while because they’re afraid that untamed part of them will completely abandon rationality and veer them irreparably off track. When the reality is that when left unattended in smaller more day to day ways, those parts of you will take charge whether you like it or not in more risky and disruptive ways lol. And there’s no way to create perfect balance between all these selves, really the best you can do is be nice to yourself and make small accommodations and trust that teaching those parts of you that they WILL have their needs met and that their desires (even the childish and impractical ones) aren’t stupid is the only way to really live without going nuts 😮‍💨

[kkujo]

the thing abt mental illness that sucks is. the stuff that people tell you makes it better doesn't actually always make it better in the moment. and it's hard when ur low energy but i think a lot of people get this idea of "it doesn't help so i'm not going to do it" but sometimes you gotta reframe it and see it as like. okay this doesn't make it better but it's also not going to make it worse. like washing your face might not make you feel better but it also won't make it worse. gentle exercise won't necessarily make you feel but it won't make you feel worse. going outside isn't going to fix anything but it also won't make it worse. trying to see them as neutral things rather than a magic cure. and the thing is over time when these things build up and it becomes routine, it DOES make it better. but it takes time and consistency. in the meantime though it won't make it worse.

[thevirgodoll]

Hi doll!

Could you give some advice on how to stop being so self critical, and feel like you’re never doing good.

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Like for instance, although I get good grades I’m always like I could have done better, and never praise myself for it.

Overcoming Self-Criticism

You're in luck, I am a Virgo and one of the most critical people I know. This will be a short, detailed answer.

I find I am the most critical of myself when I don't live in the moment. If every single thing is about what I need to do in the future, then I don't give myself proper credit for now. It's really important to realize that you already have what you need within you.

Just because you feel you could do "better", doesn't mean you aren't trying hard enough. While it's important to take initiative with your goals, it's also important to ask yourself "what am I currently grateful for?" and "what is something that I would love to hear rn from someone else?" Tell yourself affirmations and praise you would want to hear from someone else who loves you!!!

A useful method I use is a quotes widget on my lock screen to remind me throughout the day. Another method I use to reinforce that is sticky notes!!! It really helps to have sticky notes all over my room so that when I feel discouraged, I can look at my sticky note and be like, "okay I AM The Virgo Doll. I am one of one." and in your case, "I am already doing the best I can. I am the smartest girl I know."

Think Beyoncé's Crazy In Love video...as self critical and as Virgo as she is to this day...she still knew she was THAT girl.

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[kuwdora]

mmmmm, I tend to forget that tumblr could be a place where I actually, you know, write blog posts and whatnot. like i used to back on dreamwidth. about fannish and nonfannish things. or even hiccup out more of my short-form whimsy like I used to on twitter. I mean I'm still generally blogging about nonfannish things at my dreamwidth and talking occasionally about my vid projects there since that's where I've always chattered about those wips. I don't bother really talking about my witcher wips over there. but tumblr has taken up this space in my head as space where I glom onto all the pretty posts like beloved scrapbooking material and stuff my queue for a whole year. and just rolling around in the ask games and wip posts from everyone else. not writing more posts of my own. me writing posts here...a thing I want to do and yet I don't. I have a giant list of half-written recs posts and other fannish and nonfannish things waiting for me to finish. but my brain keeps stalling out because of a lot of reasons (stress life stuff fucking with my focus). but this has been on my mind.

this has been your musing kuwdora. or: musingdora.

[crystallizsch]

I FORGOT TO SAY IN MY LAST ASK IM SORRY but I think your ocs are very cool 🤸‍♀️ I was scared to send that last one tho omgjskfnsnmd I haven't interected with anything on here at all yet but you were so nice???? I have now gained the courage to Start Doing Things, I thank you kindly 💃💃💃

AAAH YES YES I'M CHEERING FOR YOU JUST

✨✨Start Doing Things ✨✨

whatever you start doing I hope you find joy in it!! 😤✨ It makes me happy to hear that i gave you that little push 😭

ALSO thank you so much I'm so glad you like my little sillies as well 😭💕😭💕

[jingerpi]

some of y'all go out of your way to imagine yourself as Sisyphus. you didn't have to do that, you don't need to frame your life as a perpetual unchanging cycle. nobody is making you. imagine all the lovely new things you experience each day, and all the new places life will take you. be free

[ari-kari]

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i am not going to attempt to detail the numerous obstacles that stand between poor people and their own self-actualization on this post - mainly because I’d be preaching to the choir, and because they are numerous enough that attempting to summarize them would probably retraumatize me. but I am experiencing a deep sense of sorrow for my friends and loved ones today. and I’m not sure I’ll ever truly be able to rest until I’ve done something of note to help the people I left behind - even if I’m not sure what that looks like yet.

[sleepy-stitches]

cleaning my room is so much effort but oh well its not like anything could have been done to reduce that <- FOOL WHO HASNT CLEANED IN OVER A YEAR

[angelnumber27]

Last night I made a list of all the ways drinking has been negatively effecting me, my relationships, those around me, my body and mind, and my life as a whole recently.

There are 45 separate things listed on there so far

[hella1975]

im being so serious besties i am not cut out for academia

[anartificialsatellite]

Everything is either demanding time or money (and so therefore time in the form or work) from me right now, and so I'm really glad that shabbat allows me to kind of mentally give myself permission to not do work.